Why most public speaking advice is wrong-and how to finally overcome anxiety | Tristan de Montebello

[@StephSmithio]

Two years ago I started getting paid to speak (my FT job is now a podcast host) and went in search of several programs to help me feel more comfortable -- even a 1:1 coach. All of them ended up getting me more stuck in my head, except Ultraspeaking. Tristan and Michael are absolute magicians. Very cool to see them getting the attention they deserve!

[@aj2291]

Lenny, THIS is by far my absolute favorite episode of your podcast. Ever. And I watch all of your episodes multiple times, geek out, break it apart and take notes. Thank you so much for this wonderful episode. As an introvert this was a very emotional episode for me, since speaking with conviction has been hard.

[@tdemontebello]

Wow AJ, this made my day! I hope I get to meet you in the Ultra ecosystem. Please say hi.

[@aj2291]

@@tdemontebellosure will say hi 👋🏾 , I tried joining cohort 27 which seems to be sold out. Am in 28’s wait list.

[@tdemontebello]

@@aj2291hope you get in! Everything has been selling out quickly

[@MariePoulin]

I took Ultraspeaking last year with Tristan and Michael and honestly they've created something EXCEPTIONAL and unique. I've learned so much from them, and still continue to. Great episode!

[@tdemontebello]

THANK YOU Marie!

[@Thomas-Maximus]

If you watch Lenny's podcast episodes, you will come to the conclusion that all of his BEST ones are NOT about PMs and Product Management. They're about design, leadership, business, VC stuff and this. THIS is a great one.

[@tdemontebello]

Thanks Thomas! Jonny Miller (who's also on the pod) calls these episode the "trojan horse episodes" ;)

[@paulvigg]

I've been a teacher of college Public Speaking for 30 years and it's really great seeing the younger generations seeing the value this important skill has for everyone. Thanks!

[@tdemontebello]

thanks Paul! 🙏🏼

[@andreab04]

9:12 speaking should be fun, if you dislike it, you are doing it wrong, 10:35 overthinking what you’re about to say becomes counter productive 16:23 instead of looking down for your thoughts, 16:56 look up instead to gain more certainty in your body language 20:16 summarize as an ending point of your speech, say 20:23 “so just remember that…” or “to wrap up…” 21:35 insecurities 21:01 like rambling, 22:47 no one sees this but you, 24:10 stay in/don’t break character 1:23:47 accordion method for prepared speech, 1:26:04 organize by speech not by writing, 1:27:22 1:27:37 have a timer then take the timer shorter to simply everything you say (1:26:20 furniture example) 1:37:35 focus on what your audience should remember rather than what you are trying to say, 1:39:22 arrow: sentence that people will remember from what you have said then add weight with 1:39:48 a bow with a notion, story, evidence, etc 1:46:12 ember mug

[@NeptuneDesign]

Tristan improved my on camera game so much!! Learn as much as you can from him!

[@tdemontebello]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼!

[@mayanka3773]

Energy leads.. Emotions follow.. and Words fill in the gap... just Wowwwww

[@tdemontebello]

🙌🏼

[@nikoskipper7459]

Lenny, I super appreciate you putting yourself out there and playing those games live! You are awesome man! Thanks Tristan, I'm gonna start playing these games with my friends!

[@tdemontebello]

Thanks Niko! Really shows what kind of person Lenny is that he'd play the games live

[@divyads6555]

Hey Lenny, thanks so much for bringing him and making this unique episode ❤ I will definitely save this for lifetime and embark my speaking skills journey

[@hcubill]

What an awesome podcast! You keep upping your game Lenny!

[@IDIOTEQTube]

Halfway through listening, I can totally see the potential these games have. If they added some sweet, addictive gamification elements, you could really get hooked on those exercises.

[@aytan.gadiyeva]

I loved the episode! Thanks Lenny and Tristan!!

[@mhauzeur]

This episode is amazing, jumping from theorical to tactical is much easer to understand.

[@tdemontebello]

Happy you value out of it!

[@Ultraspeaking]

51:10 loved seeing Lenny + Tristan play Triple Step!

[@Zagen93]

Great episode! Thanks for doing the games live 🔥

[@RyanHowardPlus]

Excellent insights! Great episode. :)

[@user-qy6qc6sz3j]

Lenny!! Very good that you didn’t leak!

[@tdemontebello]

🥳💪🏽

[@MichaelMonte-k1l]

Very insightful. Thank you

[@pavelhere]

Amazing episode and guest!

[@livelovelaugh567]

Amazing 👏👏

[@aprajita106]

Ohh I super enjoyed this one. 😊 You did great Lenny 😊

[@carlosluque4753]

I loved this one so much!

[@AbdulWahab-pk4jx]

Are these games online free for everyone?

[@keithrice9281]

The pilot in the cockpit part was hilarious 😂

[@tdemontebello]

😂

[@FareeKerubo]

Loved this session

[@csbasso]

I was thinking about the power that a "positive" leaking may have. I mean, instead of leak a negative thought or feeling, revert that into something positive to say. Any thoughts about that?

[@tdemontebello]

If you're sharing your inner world from a place of generosity & confidence (vs fear or self-consciousness) then it' can be very powerful indeed. Leaking only counts as a negative when you're doing it out of fear, bad habit, or lack of confidence. Great question!

[@NidhiDuggal-t6q]

It was a great session. Please can you explain how to find these games online

[@tdemontebello]

you'll find all the links in the description (I tried adding them in a comment but it got flagged)

[@hillaryomitogun7537]

@@tdemontebello I wonder if it’s better to play these games alone or with someone/people who can give feedback or make it more realistic ?

[@tdemontebello]

​@@hillaryomitogun7537 You'll get the most out of your practice if you pair solo work with group work. BUT, if you only choose one, go with training with other people. The closer your practice looks to the real thing, the more transfer you'll get. So if you want to improve speaking to other people you should practice that way. We have free live classes you can access on Ultraspeaking if you want to give it a try with others