Why narcissists LOVE fighting with you

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Danielle Radin

Күн бұрын

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@sagesnakechalmer2294 Жыл бұрын

The nicer you are the more you get punishment

@hcury1960 Жыл бұрын

Very true been there!

@IzabelaWaniek-i1x Жыл бұрын

True. As long as you stay with the narcisist you will be forced to stay on that emotional drama, trauma and chaos cycle which is truly vicious!

@sds6303 Жыл бұрын

It’s literally just to establish dominance

@AlanBoldt Жыл бұрын

Dominence/ Control / power over everyone... Especially men...We used to call such woman ( a tease ) or Whore...but in the end it's just the need or desire to DOMINATE

@racebannon96 Жыл бұрын

Yes. She wanted to fight every minute she was awake. Most of the time I did not know what the argument was about. If I didn’t fight with her, she would storm out and disappear for the night. It would take me a year to get her out of my home. I went No Contact. Her Smear Campaign against me included going to my job and she tried to get me fired. Nothing is off limits to a narcissist.

@mikejohn0088 Жыл бұрын

It's not your imagination pal---- I lived it to = sleeping with the enemy without a clue! ADVICE: NO pay back needed for it will be completed in another dimension. Let it go and move one and find peace alone (get a cat or dog).

@jaymiller8059 Жыл бұрын

💯

@conn9545 4 ай бұрын

What is so frustrating is a narcissist is in complete denial of their behavior and will always try to blame you for their drama. Trying to hope they will change or see the error of their ways is often futile. A narcissist will use and play the victim card when it's needed to get what they want. Once they get it you are no longer needed until the next time they are in need. They will place you in the forever friendzone or brother/sister zone because to a narcissist, you are not good enough to suit their emotional or physical needs or desires. They are incapable of loving themselves, let alone others. Often, they will tell you what you want to hear but, they don't believe in any of their bullshit themselves. Yet, at what expense must people pay be it emotionally spiritually mentally and financially to end such relationships? When and how do we say enough is enough. How does one break up or walk away from someone like this?

@racebannon96 4 ай бұрын

@@conn9545 They know what they are doing. When you realize that you are dealing with a toxic creature, walk away quietly, and go No Contact. I am still being harassed by a malignant narcissist for 16 years after ending the relationship. Some will not leave you alone and will make it their mission in life to torment and harass you.

@Itsmeandadd 2 ай бұрын

@@conn9545 best wishes. I keep going back but just for the night. Because I'm lonely. Hope you have youth on your side and can beat this trauma bond.

@sagesnakechalmer2294 Жыл бұрын

That is so accurate they get energy from making us go nuts . Not like us who get exhausted trying to defend the reality

@clintmiller2908 Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what Ive been living through! OMG, thank you for that gem of clarity.

@calgreg2569 Жыл бұрын

There is no bottom to the depths of evil they will sink to.. I say they are insane, but it is called a disorder..what’s the difference?

@mikejohn0088 Жыл бұрын

Now what? You know now so plan your way out pal --- don't be a victim!

@carparthero Жыл бұрын

narcissists aren’t motivated to solve problems. they don’t want to compromise or collaborate. it's counterintuitive to a healthy mindset…because a healthy person thinks, “why wouldn’t you want things to be better? who LIKES chaos?” well… narcissists do. why narcissists DON’T want to solve problems can be most easily understood by looking at what it would take TO solve problems. solving problems requires: 1. taking accountability narcissists do NOT want to take personal responsibility. instead, they blame you, deny what they did, and take the “victim” or “hero” position. 2. acknowledging someone else’s viewpoint narcissists’ entitlement means they see things from THEIR perspective. they can’t acknowledge that your viewpoint is just as valid because then they could be wrong. 3. having a collaborative mindset narcissists want power and control. they want to feel superior and “better than.” it means they can’t collaborate with you, because then you would both be “equals.” in my experience, when no-contact is not possible, i cut off talking as much as possible, and tell them to text or e-mail their concerns. i did this with an idiot neighbor and called him out over him and his visitors illegally parking in the alleyway behind our houses. mysteriously, he avoids me as much as possible. his silent treatment has been a blessing for my mental health lol 🤣 cheers from southern ontario, canada

@Den-pf5wz Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing and putting the video points made in context. As usual you crystallize Danielle’s invaluable information to everyday interactions with these demon narcs. Thanks again.

@carparthero Жыл бұрын

@Den-pf5wz thanks for your kind words. good to see you on the comment sections. 💙 glad to be a bit of help. if i can make even one person do a positive 2mm shift in their thinking/perspective, regarding dealing with toxic people, then it's time well spent. -all the best, steven

@yang7436 Жыл бұрын

@@carpartheroHow beautiful.

@carparthero Жыл бұрын

@yang7436 thanks for your compliment. enjoy the rest of the weekend. -cheers, steven

@67skullcandy Жыл бұрын

sounds like the people who run government and big industry.

@tad1111 Жыл бұрын

Thats just what it feels like, a wrestling match that you're stuck in.

@kauikawikohika40 Жыл бұрын

I'm a Guy & I feel like crying for a year and a half today for every second I've missed of wondering why I feel like shit from my former work friend's, boss & Industry infecting my personal time, space, environment & life.

@davidemm829 Жыл бұрын

In the end, we are the one that has to change and this change will get us to leave and realize the change is best for us.

@lindsay3793 Жыл бұрын

The first time I talked to his stepdad on the phone 🚩 his stepdad asked him (intentionally loud enough so I could hear), "Is it all drama like your last relationship?" 🚩

@JacobCarlson-uq1my Жыл бұрын

Danielle, You are a major rescuer . I don't know how I would have handled this life without discovering people like you on the internet sharing this extremely important knowledge . It's way too much of coincidence to not be true. All of the things you talk of ring bells/ seemingly line up in various ways.

@luciderr Жыл бұрын

That explains all the situations in which I was certain that this time everything really seemed to be fine, and surely we would not be having any fights for a longer while, only to find myself screaming a few hours later, dazed and confused what were we even fighting about 😶.

@70Ford302 8 ай бұрын

Lived it. Constantly thinking "I didn't do anything to you and i have no angle?!?!"

@Itsmeandadd 2 ай бұрын

Nicely put"have no angle".

@70Ford302 2 ай бұрын

Yeah I was at the store and thought those flowers were pretty. That's it? Best of my knowledge, girls like it when you bring home flowers?

@Itsmeandadd Ай бұрын

@@70Ford302 and they do! Or at least I do. Don't stop. Of course with not a narc.

@lexivonhelsen Жыл бұрын

Everything said sounds like him but I swear my brain just doesn’t want to accept it all to be true… 😢

@dragongamerboi13 Жыл бұрын

Me neither, me neither. I wanted to believe they weren't one side of the same coin, my mom and my ex. It's all so heartbreaking.

@Itsmeandadd Ай бұрын

@@lexivonhelsen it's so very hard! But as time goes on and the more you know, the more you'll see, the less you'll "love" them.

@billsix Жыл бұрын

Toxicity is underrated. I think it was system of a down's best album

@lifetimeactor6789 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant, well-explained insights. Thank you for making so much sense of crazy-town!

@marciooliveira6668 6 ай бұрын

You are helping me so much. Thank you for your great help and kindness!!

@johnwilliams-si8hj 2 ай бұрын

True I e ded kicking off at her & getting drunk & sent texts as she wouldn't take responsibility for her own actions towards me..nor would she standby me why I needed her too😢

@cruzdominguez8261 Жыл бұрын

Proverbs 25:21-22❤❤❤

@Zaun999Getsu Жыл бұрын

Nicely done muchacha.

@aprilcobianchi2815 11 ай бұрын

Yes yes ❤

@basicbase749 10 ай бұрын

No wonder he can’t believe how i can be loyal to him. He has asked me multiple times why am i with him. Like he can’t believe how can he be loved. No amount of goodness worked with him so far

@naowright9308 Жыл бұрын

Yes, she is doing it and pitting my husband against me. She turns everything around, but she will not succeed. Her parents had bad marriage drama, and I feel like she is trying to put it on me since her dad passed and his drama is no longer in her life.

@JacobCarlson-uq1my Жыл бұрын

Im very curious how you are so well informed. Im a little sad also that some people are like this because it just feels unessasary. I do understand and have compassion for how many of them ended up like this, nevertheless if i come across an individual like this its usually pretty devastating on this heart.

@sagesnakechalmer2294 Жыл бұрын

The most well informed are the ones who've had to fight back the hardest to become whole again after being annihilated

@lindsay3793 Жыл бұрын

ME: Wanted a peaceful night, to cuddle on the couch, and watch Netflix after cooking us a nice dinner. HIM: Wanted to start a fight for no reason whatsoever, escelate to a full on rampage, storm around the house in a full on rage out, refuse to calm down, refuse repair attempts, blame-shift, dismiss me with eyerolling, go into silent treatment, and sleep on the couch to punish me and ensure that I know that somehow I am "the problem."

@mikejohn0088 Жыл бұрын

He wants an apology for your loving and caring kindness. It's OK he will find it when he is faced with ONE who will remind him of that he is.

@hurricaneaquatics Жыл бұрын

Let me tell you from decades if experience, leave now. Stop making excuses and leave. It gets worse with age, not better.