Why Nobody Can Find Love Today

[@Sprouht]

Drop your best dating advice. Let's start a discussion! and join our FREE community to meet likeminded people who want to live a more fulfilling life (link in description)

[@hamsass3818]

One who have all qualities comes together and even after physical, the same quality persist then they are the husband or wife material…

[@somenuttysquirrel]

6:55 ..."Dude don't wanna play another dude's saved game."

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

I have heard many women tell me to marry your best friend. The problem is many women do not have close friendships with men. They leave that role to other women. I would say from experience the wife does not have to be your bff, but should be a friend. There should be respect before love. And do not wait for a "Miss Perfect" as a wife. Choose a "Just Good Enough" you can grow old with and raise a family.

[@Vincent67337]

If a woman says she is trans then she is not into you. Most likely not really trans. Women do that to f with you.

[@TMMAAK]

Do you want the best dating advice? Don't Date, in fact, never Date at all, search for a wife instead of searching for a girlfriend. Girlfriends are blocking the road to find a wife. They're just temporary pleasure. The same goes for women or girls. Boyfriends are blocking the road to find a husband. Search for a husband from the very beginning, not a chad boyfriend who'll only pump and dump. Hookup isn't an option either. Only those with animal's brain 🧠 enjoy hooking left and right and think they'll find the person they want. Don't hate me, I'm just stating facts💯 %

[@rustydusty3646]

People are to focused on what they want from someone rather than thinking if they are being a partner that someone would want

[@whitneyc.3257]

That’s a very important thought. I agree with you. It would be nice if he did a video asking people about that

[@llIlIlllII]

They were asked what they want. They're answering that question.

[@rustydusty3646]

@@llIlIlllII that's right I was just saying that in general that's what people focus on

[@LemonGreenism]

It goes both ways but honestly nothing beat being fulfilled by one’s life as then the person coming in your life doesn’t have to bring anything honestly. Just be themselves. That’s true love. The rest, it’s transactional

[@tuka24a]

I wish everyone to find true love. Life is to short to waste time with wrong people. I regret date few people and thank God to help me be ready to find my current partner. Women look for men who will be your best friend and those who will be there for you no matter your circumstances. 😉🥰❤️🙏

[@ST-rj8iu]

Many people don't want a relationship. A lot of people want validation. Relationships are not about being validated. It is about someone to spend time with on a daily basis.

[@Billy-bc8pk]

You hit the nail on the head here.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Dating is practice for a marriage in my opinion (and I think a lot would agree with me). You can also get validated from a relationship because it can mean that someone wants you or they are deriving their happiness from being with you and spending time with you. I do get what you're saying though but I think it's WAY more than just having someone to spend time with everyday.

[@josephang9927]

True. I still want that validation, tho

[@simbz194]

​@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984No it's practice for divorce now

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

@@josephang9927you cannot get validation from external sources.

[@BrentWigginsWords]

Stay offline. Don't be influenced by others, be inspired by others. Know yourself and be yourself. Speak and lead with honesty and respect. Don't date until you're ready. Are you in a position to give and receive time, energy, and support for a relationship consistently? Waiting is the hardest part, but it makes dating and courtship easier in the long run. Above all, don't feel pressured to date or get married.

[@mchu7371]

so good.

[@irene4633]

Best advice

[@surlespasdondine]

I met my husband on a (serious) dating website 15 years ago. We both were skepticai but we both aren't very outgoing and not party people. This way we connected intellectually first. I do have to say dating appe seem horrible.

[@ktowniecity7269]

Agreed. the people that struggle are mostly serial daters that always need company. Many people just need to buy a pet if they are so lonely all the time. Relationships require a ton of work and aint that great after multiple serious long ter relationships. i am relishing my freedom rn.

[@brunosco]

@@ktowniecity7269Pets are living creatures, not objects, just saying…

[@selinov]

This channel can be summarized in one sentence: "People are often shocked to realize that life is not the way the internet told them it is." 😧

[@creatancremanova7097]

or maybe people just wanna look good in front of the camera and come across as good whereas privately they would tell you sth. else? (not everyone of course)

[@PolishBehemoth]

facts.

[@PolishBehemoth]

​@@creatancremanova7097 or maybe not

[@steelreserve9050]

​@@PolishBehemothpeople talk sht all the time none of us no them

[@somenuttysquirrel]

...or a Disney flick.

[@wendypanozzo9133]

I don't envy young single people today. I've been married for 30 years and it was so much easier back then to date. Seems way too many hoops to jump through to find an honest person.

[@Billy-bc8pk]

Yup, an honest person who doesn't have an LAX-sized baggage claim.

[@JaydonJohnson-ig3qt]

Much harder now days

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Not just honest but someone willing to stick by you through thick and thin good and bad. That's one element that's missing. My dad (who's been happily married to my mom since the 70's) said that to me. These days, people will only be with you when it's good, but not when things get bad.. (now I'm not talking about abuse bad, but just the normal type of bad).

[@thomasdevos4732]

Why would a permanent partner be the pinnacle? Wasn't your parents marriage traumatizing enough? Truth is we're not monogamous, and some of us now got the opportunity to life up to that. And find it great to life like a bachelor in my thirties, and can't see that ever changing.

[@atlfun08]

Okay like your perfect. Sure. The best persons on the planet. And your not full of yourself at all. Everybody young should envy you cause your so perfect with your perfect life. Sure.

[@Wistz90]

People are too focused on the idea, fantasy and narrative, "Who I'd like you to be," vs. "Who they actually are." We project all sorts of unrealistic expectations onto others and then act all shocked when we realize they're as flawed as the rest of us.

[@ggdatboi]

Everyone is focused on finding someone PERFECT now. Zero flaws. The internet has caused people to forget people are nuanced. Missing the forest for the trees

[@thewindupsweetheart]

exactly. I don’t think it’s bad to have high standards, but a lot of people’s “standards” these days are superficial. much less focus on having high standards in areas that are actually valuable to a long term relationship/marriage: shared values/worldview, communication, work ethic, dealing with stress, etc.

[@mchu7371]

endless choices: maybe the next one will be perfect and you never end up making the decision

[@rustydusty3646]

That's the problem

[@i.ghoost]

and people keep playing games trying to dominate and set control or what some people call as flirting but I see it as manipulation. If only people know what they want, know where they’re going, and are more intentional as to whom they’ve been dealing with I think it will be easier.

[@JessicaC-ke5cj]

This is proving to be a problem in our day and age too. Sometimes you know you and the other person aren’t meant to be together. Other times people think the grass is greener on the other side.

[@aikighost]

yes, ban all dating apps and maybe we can get to some semblance of reality.

[@ATRTAP]

I’m always looking for kindness when searching for a partner, not to take advantage of but to facilitate and enjoy the relationship.

[@liabw05]

Kindness is very sexy 😊

[@abie_irabor]

“Dark times are the building times…” Love this!

[@adamweston4152]

I'm nearly 54 and the modern dating thing is so complicated and weighted down with over the top expectations and I wish it could go back to the old way to meet people, people used to walk down the street and catch someone's eye and smile at each other and that alone was a clear sign of interest in you so you would talk to eachother and maybe walk and talk with eachother and then if you felt confident enough then you would ask them out for a date.. so simple and crystal clear unlike today where people don't look at eachother and are afraid to speak with another person incase you get labelled a creep, where did it all go wrong??!!.

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

Social media

[@rji5377]

People don't want to put in the work anymore.

[@skillsphere9245]

women dont do this no more, they dont have to smile in real life they will do that on insta lol. i remember those time u mention i had a small glimpse of it this was till 2010 ish after that it all vaporised

[@AnthonyManzio]

Never get married all lies.

[@hahahahaha7824]

@@skillsphere9245 The offline dating we know sorta died like 10 years ago. so I agree with the time frame. It's just huge unending one-night stands and one side is upset over the one that got away.

[@michaelpowell9164]

Listen to what they say, but watch what they do. Big difference.

[@MiaTheDreamer]

I've learned a lot from my past two relationships, investing over 16 years in them.. Despite the challenges, I'm happy to have finally found the one.. Our relationship is built on communication, mutual respect, and trust, with no backstabbing or cheating. My life is now filled with love and gratitude. I have a stable life, a good job, and now I feel like a complete woman.. ❤❤❤ I love you Tim..

[@jemenri795]

Please KNOW yourself BEFORE trying to get to know someone else. What you like? What you can tolerate/not tolerate? What annoys you? What are your deal breakers ? What are you willing to give without receiving back ? What offends you? What opens your heart and mind ? What excites you in life? What is the most important thing to you that you cannot compromise ? Important questions to ASK YOURSELF. If you don’t know who you are… whenever you meet someone, you will try to mold yourself into what they like and meet their expectations…. But that’s not really you… and you realize it, sometimes too late. In short, be honest.

[@Assassin274]

Very often people find themselves out more after dating or having God awful experiences. I agree with you however as life goes on many people change and times have changed drastically so that's another factor. I know what I'm absolutely not tolerating after dating and it's helped me find out what I really want in life and a partner. The bigger problem is there's to much people serial dating and often these people have no empathy(or lose their heart along yhe way) for the other person because they are always looking at dating as a personal gain/ achievement or simply just to experience and waste others times. You also have to be willing to compromise with a partner and be somewhat willing to communicate and be open. Nothing is worse then dealing with a close minded person who only wants their way and their needs comes first. So you absolutely at times have to take the L or try to like something your partner is interested in. At least try. Hard pass on a non compromising partner.

[@JessicaC-ke5cj]

Yes! I couldn’t agree more with your comment.

[@christopherpekel6096]

You sound like a woman with options. Us less genetically gifted men unfortunately don't have such luxuries

[@josiestubbs4468]

I really wish I could tell my younger self everything that you’ve just said.

[@TropicalRedFlower]

It took the guy 40 years and many children to learn you shouldn't sleep around because it has consequences... 🤦‍♀️

[@matttate920]

As well as the butt stare girl too. She seems more disillusioned, I'd say. At 45 he's peaking.. .

[@Avogadros_number]

@@matttate920thinking the same thing. “Guys don’t want to dedicate themselves to my children” is a wild thing to say. She expects men who aren’t the father to treat her kids like they’re his own. Where is the father? She’s only 25 with multiple kids? I’d steer clear regardless of how nice her butt is, especially with that mentality. The guy with multiple children is in a similar boat, but his tone, and at least his attempt to take responsibility for his mistakes made him a little more mature than the butt woman.

[@chelsea7755]

I honestly feel beyond grateful after watching this. I met my husband in highschool (13), started to date at 15, married at 32. I wish everyone a partner that is just as loyal, hardworking and considerate as my husband. We all deserve love and I hope you guys focus on being the best partner, whilst also focusing on finding one.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

You got lucky at 13. Many and I mean many will not get lucky even at 32 years of age. July 2024. USA

[@michaelhard9765]

Have the courage to be who you are and be honest with others. Let them go if they don’t reciprocate. And remember that weak men are abusive and spiteful. Strong men are loving and kind.

[@timtravels116]

This may be novel, but find someone you want to be with more than anything. More than your “friends,” more than the TV, your phone, or a video game, more than drugs, alcohol, or other vices, more than work, or the gym, or shopping. Then do things you don’t necessarily like, and they’ll reciprocate. I don’t like shopping for home decor, craft stuff, or plants. My wife doesn’t like going to baseball, football, and hockey games. Turns out in 33 years together she’s gone to dozens of sporting events, and I’ve loaded hundreds of plants in the car.

[@pdjtw]

Really...? I don't go to the gym but I asked him to take me to the gym and he said no 😂cuz he wants to be at the gym himself, but we're still friends now so I guess... it takes time maybe hahahahaa

[@timtravels116]

@@pdjtw I didn’t say don’t go to gym with her. I said to want to be with her more than going to the gym. Couples will naturally get “alone” time in the normal course of life so making an effort to be together is a big deal.

[@Haruzak1]

​@WhoWellOkit's exist. But a lot of people don't want put efforts to love someone. They rather love their somethings.

[@kerryfoster1]

Always a level of compromise but not so you have to change your interests. Common interests are bonding. I like fishing, never been prevented from fishing. It makes me who I am.

[@BraveOne7]

Don’t look! Stop the meaningless life of partying and hook up culture! Have the mindset of to marry and sex is a sacred act! Focus on yourself, dreams, and God until you find them! Your true love will come to you naturally! That’s how I found my true love, 3 years ago and now we have two beautiful children!❤

[@MettaForest]

Yeah right try living in California

[@GT03Music]

@@MettaForest I mean I do. but God is still the priority I used to hook up do lots of drugs and then God found me. and found out it’s all meaningless if there’s no love behind it. Lust and looks can be deceiving what truly matters is someone who has respect for their own body and has self control and has good morals and character. If you want to keep looking your going to keep finding the wrong one or just end up in a toxic relationship which isn’t healthy; years will pass and the love for each other will grow cold. most marriages succeed when the woman and man come together and wait to have sex before they’re married and actually get to know each other becoming best friends. Also everytime you have sex that’s a soul tie and you transfer energy with each other whether that be good energy or bad energy.

[@Commentator488]

Not everyone believes in God, you just described your priorities but priorities and standards are individual

[@Billy-bc8pk]

@@Commentator488 True, but it all comes back to God if you want a centered and fruitful life that isn't themed around materialism and selfishness.

[@bereniceg777]

Congratulations 👏🏻

[@ABC-tt7qe]

I really enjoyed this. Everyone was well spoken, communicated their thoughts very well and had an air of resolution to conflict, more so that simply complaining. I love how you edited this piece, too. Very well done, I’ll most certainly be subscribing, merci!

[@Sprouht]

Merci a toi!

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@Sprouht Many people will be single and are single because they lack good chemistry. It will be very hard for a man to find love if he does not have great chemistry (regardless of looks, and age). Looking like Ron Moss can be a plus but if he does not have any chemistry then he will not move forward with women. July 6, 2024. USA

[@Mspollypocket]

The stylish gentleman at 1:47 knows what's what 🙌🏽♥️ Incredible advice

[@wchunt8988]

I'm an older man, so far too often I think about the harm that social media brings to our culture in this day and age. That being said I wish I could have seen this video 30 or even 35 years ago, then perhaps my life would have turned out differently. Thank you for sharing.

[@stephaniezeng2373]

"You don't need anyone to complete you. You should be able to complete yourself." Yes, I will remember this.

[@fatenaljmmal2746]

I think the huge wrong thing in dating today is that ppl don't know about their life trauma and treat each other from trauma glasses

[@venicec3310]

Can yall shut the fuck up about trauma damnjust throwin that word around for the sake of it

[@snaakie]

Yeah my ex had this as well. She had trust issues and couldn't commit to me, she was so freaking scared for the simplest commitment things. At some point she wanted a relationship with me, I told her: "I don't think you are ready yet". The next day she came crying to me that she was scared and wasn't ready yet. But when I told her about my perspective on her actions she just didn't want believe me or give the thought a try. It was just a NO

[@fatenaljmmal2746]

@@snaakie it's harder than it looks to face our issues, sorry for you

[@jmo4521]

The more you have in common the better. Agree on issues of faith, character and life goals. Don't sleep with a person before marriage. Watch what they do when you say the word "No." Reflect on their family because they will become a big part of your life together.

[@mmmjh1]

People are too desperate to find love because in my opinion they're incapable to love someone or still seeking the love of parents in other people. People deny their programming.

[@adavanja5682]

Brilliant.

[@per_growth]

A woman wants someone who can give them physical and financial security - but once they get used to that security - most will fall into the trap of forgetting what it was like without it, and start to wonder (not act on it) if her life has become boring and mundane. A man wants someone who is physically attractive (sex) - but once they get used to that - most will fall into the trap of wondering what it's like to be with other women and that his life has become boring and mundane. What we don't realize is that "boring and mundane" is what makes us content (and yes, happy). Going home every night to your wife's cooking - can be boring - until she doesn't cook for you anymore. Going thru the same routine over the weekends - can be boring - until you have no one to spend the weekends with. Having the same Monday date night for years - can be boring - until you find yourself sitting alone at home on Monday nights.

[@rpaafourever7908]

But on the other hand, if they married just for security or looks initially without any thought of evolving and growing, then they are right to wonder that (The truth of the soul is only heard in boring safety). Because either then their relationship deepens (both people work hard for it, not just one or none) or it falls apart.

[@per_growth]

@@rpaafourever7908 I believe it would be fair to say that men expect (or would appreciate) if the wife maintains her looks and keeps the intimacy alive. And the husband must be consistent in providing for the family. If not, the marriage does stand a good chance of failing - which is why more than half of marriages do.

[@per_growth]

@@Alex-tu1zy For sure. I agree with you 100% in this regard. I do believe that just because one is married and have children, they should let themselves go. I may be old fashioned in this regard, but I believe a woman should try as much as they can to stay attractive for their husbands (and vice versa) - eventually, it will be near impossible, but at that age - the husban may not even be interested in sex anymore. The same holds true for the husband.

[@per_growth]

@@Alex-tu1zy Very good point. Personally, I wouldn't leave. I'm old school. But it won't help matters if either of us lets go of ourselves or either of us stops trying to be the partner we want for our spouse. Specially if the other spouse is trying so hard. The point is, a marriage is never about getting married - it's about working everyday to build that relationship. Never neglecting the needs of your spouse. I see a lot of it around me, once they have kids, the wife forgets the husband and focuses solely on the kids. They get married and the husband lets himself go and there goes the intimacy. Once you do, that is a very slippery slope.

[@Commentator488]

@@per_growth Wife is focused on kids because she’s probably the only parent that is focused on kids, lol Besides, most women work, in this economy is nearly impossible for a man to provide enough for the whole family. However, many men work only on their job and think that making lunch, cleaning and taking care of the children is not their responsibility so they watch tv when they get back from work while their wives clean and cook after work and then they expect her to be intimate when she’s exhausted from all that work. That’s why there are so many divorces.

[@TheDailyRevelation]

Team mentality. I love that. That is one attribute that every person should look for in a partner. Its US against all others. Not us vs each other.

[@kinzelurban]

As a teenager and in my twenties we just had fun,with friends,we went out all the time,we met so many guys at clubs,bars,hung out with groups of people..very sociable and you naturally met and gravitated towards someone you liked! Easy to meet someone in the 90s. Just get out there and do something you enjoy and you could meet someone who likes the dame thing

[@OkayAlright1]

I have been with my husband for 15 years. 2 kids. We met at 19. He always says what he values most about our relationship is how we can talk for endless hours about big and little things alike. It is what I treasure most about him as well. I'd say to find someone you can't stop talking to. We are still growing and changing today, and as we do, we forgive one another for mistakes we make and continue talking because the goal is not competitive, it's a, "if and when we eventually rise, we rise together" mentality. I think a lot of couples leave their mate behind when times get tough, but a good relationship is all about how you weather the storms that will indefinitely come.

[@sportysas85]

Really enjoyed this video and it was good to hear people's opinions. I think modern dating is tough everywhere in the world no matter where you live and I live in the UK. Sadly, I think dating apps and social media do cause issues in terms of people getting distracted, have unrealistic expectations and think they can find someone better and not focus on really getting to know somebody properly. Social connections in real life don't seem to happen as much now compared to 20 years ago which is a shame. I recommend going to social groups and real life events or volunteering with a charity and making connections that way be it a friendship or a romantic relationship.

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

Go monk mode and get out of this circus.

[@brunosco]

That’s too easy. You can go monk to learn how to live with yourself and improve, but after a period, I think it’s more of an excuse for not being daring and adventurous enough. I still respect your choice, but it seems to me you are fooling yourself.

[@Assassin274]

1000% best thing to do. I did it and was extremely hard at first but so worth it, just like all things. Don't be afraid to be alone but that doesn't mean you have to be awful and judgmental and critical to others. Control what you can control and achieve greatness

[@53Strat]

@@brunosco nope, bet you have not tried it. Too easy lmfao.

[@brunosco]

@@53Strat I get it. In my case, though, monk mode is the default mode, so I have more than just tried it. But it’s not really by choice, it’s just harder for me to find myself in a relationship, sustain it, make it work… When I say it’s too easy, I know it can be tough, but still too easy as a choice because it’s dismissing the beauty and potential of relationships and the efforts required for it to work well. That’s how I see it.

[@53Strat]

@@brunosco its my default mode too but to say its easy is a wrong statement in my opinion. Its all subjective, you prob had some of your hardships or experiences that you learned of and made you able to go into that mode. Many people have FOMO. I think MONK mode and working on yourself to come back in a evolved way is simply good. I also think its a more masculine way of approaching things. I do not deny the beauty of relationships but being in monk mode and comming back really made me more confident in regards to the wrong type of women.

[@LadyGreyBlack]

I think the one thing that really angered me growing up was being called "ugly, fat, stupid" by guys, and then deciding that if that is the way they want it, they can have it. I have been waiting for something better.

[@Count.D.Blessings]

7 years ago cutting yourself from being on social media like Facebook was the best decision and it feels good to see others walking all around with their phones when you know you're free from all of this.People became very addicted to it and controlled by Internet.Answering your phone when you're in the middle of something what's service more purpose that's shows alone how much people gotten blinded by all of this.And with in all honesty you're not meant to search for love.When is the right time love will find you when you're least expected.

[@EnoI539]

Been single for 6+ years. Haven’t look back and still happy.

[@kompila]

You are not. Find the right one and be truly happy!

[@Qianty]

​@@kompila Who are you to tell to someone if he's happy or not ?

[@brunosco]

@@kompilaNo, first learn to be happy by yourself, *then* find someone to share your happiness with. If you’re expecting from your partner to make you happy, that’s a recipe for misery. In a way, yes, you should be happier, but not if you can’t stand on your own feet.

[@steelreserve9050]

​@@Qiantyno kidding can't freaking stand people like that

[@Cormac-jd2kx]

@@kompilatrue! And If you have no money, just find it and be happy 😂L

[@emmanuelbuenviaje6564]

Those are some articulate and well spoken people 👍

[@levvaus]

This is some of the best life advice I’ve heard in a while. Thank you!

[@KT-eb6wv]

Dark times are the building times..love that❤︎

[@Assassin274]

This was entertaining. These answers all seemed genuine/wise and from the heart and not just people mad at the world. Good questions and good interviewees.

[@dip5635]

People don't bother on putting effort into one person when you can just go back to your app and swipe for the next person. The illusion of options.

[@ThaiTalkwithPaddy]

Great video Will. Thoroughly enjoyed hearing from a diverse range of interviewees

[@vnel96]

The woman in black jacket with grey hoodie has some golden advice❤

[@hahahahaha7824]

you can tell that she has been through some tough times

[@jimsullivanyoutube]

Be careful what you wish for. Go your own way. Follow your heart. Enjoy your life. Have a relationship with yourself. Other people can really f- up your life.

[@bimsarafernando8027]

You always find the best & quality people for your videos it's amazing

[@djmj1000]

The woman at 5:06 is very mature and figured it out and thats attractive. Most people are not searching a partner but searching someone to fill their void and needs. They are searching a daddy, momy, therapist, financial freedom or someone for entertainment purpose. Seldom people are searching someone to build a future. Another woman said they should be more upfront and lead. When you do this many woman are too afraid to follow cause they never had good male role models in their life or weak man in their relationships before and so dont trust your lead, even they tell you constantly how thankful they are for your support and also praise you all day how you manage life and even become envy. Ironically they search a strong male and if they find one they constantly attack him with envy and i realized you cant help them so search for a future wife without those problems.

[@abdulhannan0107]

Love isn't a feeling it's a responsibility. Cause responsibility never goes away but feelings does.

[@christianfiguroa7147]

People need to drop the whole date thing and just hang out and have fun. Yea like a date but things cost money and nobody wants that pressure or they might as well just be by themselves. Try having fun and making things easy and seeing how the persons mind is and you never know how eachother can boost each others lives and cherish and respect that.

[@samyukthabalapadmini7242]

Hi Mr.. Sprouts .. Wat u r doing is really a good job and appreciated.. 😍😍

[@zb2747]

People love the idea of someone or a relationship without really THINKING what it takes for a relationship to work or THINKING do they even want or prepared to be in a relationship

[@maldo72]

This was shot in Washington Square Park in NYC... in my teens, this was a mixing place of musicians and drug dealers (mid-80s) .. where 8th Street was the place to be... Rocky Horror Show ... this pace has been GENTRIFIED... It drives me crazy how the village has been turned into a 5 guy cheeseburger corp place

[@carmenlux1775]

Advice for men: lead with intention and integrity (be who you are from the start) - do not try to fluff yourself up, because sooner or later masks fall and there is no bigger disappointment than realising you're not dating a person whom you met. Advice for women: when you realise someone if not your partner potential, let them know and move on - do not waste your own time and especially do not waste anyone else's time.

[@maloneaqua]

I’ve been married seven years and the biggest difference I see between dating and a legal, monogamous commitment is the just lack of focus on GIVING, selflessly giving to someone else. Knowing what you want in a partner is NOT enough to make a good relationship, you need to know what your shortcomings are in being able to show up as a strong partner for someone else - where are you impatient, stingy, close-minded, controlling, passive or short-tempered? All these issues stunt your ability to meet someone ELSE’s needs - knowing those will be very different than yours. Bringing to a relationship only the things that YOU also want out of a relationship, means the only person you are capable of being with, is yourself

[@nomad1517]

I remember the guitarist from Rammstein was asked how their lineup hasnt changed in 20 years. And his answer was: therapy. There are always problems in any relationship and its up to you on if you are ready to deal with all that shit for years.

[@kidwave8898]

Been single since birth, despite wanting a healthy relationship, dying alone just seems inevitable at this point

[@almominoon2364]

don't lose hope

[@irene4633]

Your time will come

[@therealzeon]

So what if u die alone i most likely will not a big deal bro stop simpin an stressing

[@brunosco]

How old are you?

[@therealzeon]

@@brunosco 67 👍🏻

[@HaleyMary]

The guy who talked about going on a first date and then not hearing from the person and the person not being able to make a plan for weeks, I could relate to that. There was a guy I liked who I went out for coffee with and he asked me to see a movie with him, which I said yes to and looked forward to that, but then he never followed through. even though I tried following up with him and asking when would be a good day to make a plan. Also, I find that it's difficult to meet anyone today because so many people are glued to their smartphones. You can't make a connection with anyone if you are looking at a screen all the time.

[@georgelopez4193]

I’m from up there I put in work. I hope these videos never make me upset. Good so far, bro bro

[@alexanderbonardi4514]

The lady in the black pearlecent jacket and the white hoodie, has all the right answers, she clearly has figured out some tough s#@t. If I lived there I would have no issues to walking up to her and just say "Hello" 😊 like a normal and well rounded human being. Maybe ask her out also 😉

[@Nonameforyoudangit]

Oh honey, if your 'BF' has a wife, he's not your 'BF.'

[@AnthonyManzio]

She's that dump all women are on dating apps.

[@juleungewitter7513]

I think most people only look at what the world can give them, what other people can give them, and not what they themselves can contribute. It can't be that it's always just the others who are crazy.

[@adatshhc]

The reality is that most ppl have no idea who they are and therefore no idea who they are looking for.

[@EcomCarl]

Insightful discussion on the critical role of honesty and communication in dating! It’s refreshing to see the highlight on emotional intelligence and respect as foundational for building meaningful relationships. 👏

[@ekoller]

That guy had the lg tone headphones!!!! That brings me back. Good times.

[@Anonymous-rj2lk]

a system in which each part of it wants to stand out, is a system that can not stick together and will eventually break down.

[@Constellasian]

The guy that almost got catfished by a trans! That happened to one of my friends. The filters and other programs available now is making it easy for people to hide many things. He immediately noticed when they met in person on their first date. He said everything about "her" was off. The voice was the biggest sign.

[@zamzamashifa2449]

Can you please bring this kind of topic more dearrr, omg. Thank you!!!

[@ranasaleh7655]

People are so much interesting and to listen to there point of view is amazing this message came all the way from Egypt!

[@burtbakerack1110]

Cracks me up how women feel they should get to just be passive participants in the dating process. Like the chicks complaining about men not planning memorable dates. What’s wrong with you, sweet cheeks? You get want you give in this life. Want a man who puts in effort, try doing the same.

[@smiechu47]

She specifically mentioned the FIRST date. What she meant by "putting in effort" was taking her to an expensive dinner.

[@Orb-w3aver]

Never put in a lot of effort in men they just take you for granted and still won’t see your value over other women

[@EgleA-u8e]

The problem here is that both women and men are exhausted by previously putting efforts in the people things did not work out with lol So women like, I don`t chase, I attract - you are not going to attract anyone by simply not doing anything at all, men like I did so much for this person and got played/ghosted, etc. not doing that again - the same situation. So by the time 2 people who could be so great together meet, they already exhausted lol I find it very ironic and almost amusing as no one wants to put any efforts in.

[@Digger-Nick]

​@@Orb-w3averStop lying

[@Digger-Nick]

​@@EgleA-u8eWomen don't have to put in effort, that's the entire point...

[@borgullet3376]

Know what stage of life you're in. Stay in that lane Until you change, then act accordingly. And never forget Karma is real. You never " get away " with anything. We ALL have to live with the things that we do. Good or bad. You get punished BY it. Not FOR it.

[@borgullet3376]

Also. You will only ever attract the type of person You Are. Not the type of person you may Think you want

[@ShaniRajak-iy6jn]

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[@ShaniRajak-iy6jn]

You'll surely reach her

[@ShaniRajak-iy6jn]

she's active on What's app

[@ShaniRajak-iy6jn]

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[@ShaniRajak-iy6jn]

Tell her that I referred you🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@ShaniRajak-iy6jn]

I had to type it that way because of community guidelines.

[@limitlesszenproductions865]

If you are not happy and content with yourself and who you are as a person, you may not be able to be happy with another person. Someone else cannot MAKE YOU happy.

[@MorineBarnes]

Congratulations on your video "Why Nobody Can Find Love Today" inspirational thanks for sharing. Money/Desertion 💖

[@young5395]

Im tired of people lying about wanting to be in a relationship when they want to be either entertained, want to be worshiped, or they want to take everything from you. Here's the real question. When it feels like the world has fallen apart (lets say a death in the family) can you, as a woman support me back into my role as a man? Do you see yourself as above me? Can we have disagreements where you don't try and win by emotionally destroying me (women been getting away with this ish for too long. You even crash out your female friends and then they go on recovery arcs too.) just to win? Do you care about how you feel or do you genuinely care about how we feel together? I am ready to sit at the table and discuss what our future looks like together. What are you looking for when you sit down?

[@michellem4597]

If you have nothing to hide, then why worry about checking phones? It’s cause you do have things to hide.

[@omppu65]

Everyone has a right to privacy

[@tsmith9373]

1 give friendliness to everyone. 2 let the universe make the decisions. 3 put sex on the shelf and don’t take it down until the universe gives you the go-ahead.

[@montrose252]

All these people you spoke to are awesome!

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

Dating was so much easier before dating apps and the internet. You could date one person at a time and felt like you had a shot at possible marriage. Today it often happens where the woman is looking to see what's out there. You have to assume she is seeing multiple men at the same time. The Instagram world of dating has total red flags.

[@LadyMarigoldWithers]

I’ve only ever dated one man at a time as emotionally I couldn’t deal with more than that but as women we have a narrow timeframe for fertility so I can understand why a woman might date multiple men (this doesn’t mean sleeps with necessarily); if children are a priority for her she’ll want to find the most suitable mate sooner and multiple dating in early stages will give her a better chance of that. Ultimately when you meet someone great and it’s reciprocated you will both show up.

[@m.ol.9848]

What's the problem is your other half will take a look in your phone? You have nothing to hide, shouldn't be a problem, right? You are in relationship with someone, share a bed with that person, but you won't show the phone? Strange.

[@donaldmutofwe]

❤❤i can assure you this is the best channel i have ever seen on KZbin

[@robb8773]

Most women demand so much yet provide so little!

[@eashwar22]

Choose a life partner who has same interests like you. For eg. compatibility in choice of food(veg/Non Veg), Spirutuality, Fitness... So that, both will have lot of things to discuss about and lot of time to enjoy together. Also, don't be in a hurry. Take at least 1 year time to decide if he/she is the right one. And in that time period you both should've spent lots of time together which would expose the true nature of the other person...

[@cayennepepah]

Somehow you’re interviewing A LOT of people my age 😂😂😂 and I found this video by the magic of algorithm

[@sorooshd7895]

Talking about average working professionals here, women want attention and serious efforts by men to feel right and men want easy going and pleasant women, and both sides are already exhausted with their everyday lives, there is a conflict of interest there to begin with, now add multiple layers of shallow social and show off apps like Instagram and dating apps and the result is not surprising at all, rarely you can be comfortably yourself and find the right partner, just my thoughts.

[@hahahahaha7824]

I find it interesting that not many people are noticing how demanding the woman is in the video lol... I kinda could tell why she ended up with a guy that was already married.

[@serjserj9319]

i love this one but damn those 4:20 requirements killing me. we are on market now?

[@brunosco]

I guess she needs some reality check.

[@RichadGilgamesh]

She's toxic. All ever demanding and for what in return? Guess it yourself. Probably very demanding, annoying and all she could offer is her look. Majority of them are like this. Nothing to offer but her kitty cat.She thinks she's the prize.

[@trqster]

My advice as an older guy: never listen to women about dating advice. You're welcome!

[@Stevo-klo45453]

They say one thing and do the other.

[@santostv.]

😂😂

[@eds7343]

I heard a man say don't go looking for love for the loveless never find it and the loving don't have to search for it, they attract it.

[@JessicaC-ke5cj]

My dating advice is simple. Be honest about what you want. Be authentic while dating. Don’t try to emulate what you suspect the person wants. Be who you are. Be committed. There are many temptations out there. Love isn’t completely based on emotions. It’s a logical decision that comes with beautiful emotions. Lastly, find someone with the same values.

[@KanineMinor94]

Would go a long way for both men and women to educate themselves on each others' nature

[@HasturTheKingInYellow]

This idea that when you go on a date you get to know them better is somewhat false. You only know the biased good sides of a person when you are on a date with them because you are just an option to them at that point. So, instead go on a group tour where you only see each other as a person and not only as an option.

[@butterflydreams5950]

What is the bearded guy with the curly hair’s @? He seems so genuine and down to earth, would love to connect with him!

[@W.T.F599]

People are too busy, too afraid, to selfish, too closed off, and the list goes on.

[@AKASHROY-i9f]

Dating apps have relationship like online shopping just swipe left and right people are not objects girls have unrealistic high expectations unfortunately😢😢😢😢

[@TruestLovely]

Interesting...the 40 year old who did a run down on how reckless, selfish and irresponsible he was in his 20s, stating all of the bad decisions he made, when asked what he wants in a relationship immediately focusing on young women in their 20s and saying they are competitive. 🤔 Then he states he wants to know what a woman who has no kids with him can offer his kids 🤔 Very interesting... Also, the young woman who wants a tall man but will be insecure if he sees a tall woman 🤔 As a 40 year old Tall Woman 😄 I find people in My age group more attractive than those younger than Me. 10 to20 years younger is definitely going to be problematic because I have that much more life experience and understanding than someone a decade or more younger than Me. That guy made his "mistakes" but is focusing on what women, 20 years his junior are doing. Is it competitive he's worried about or independent? 🤔 Plus at 6 ft Im going to need you short women to not feel entitled to tall men 😄 Everybody is taller than you, let us tall women enjoy having someone our height or at least taller than us. 😄 I think if people really examined and were honest about why they want what they want, that may make an impact on the dating scene. A lot of the other situations sound like they were dealing with predators & narcissist 😕 Best wishes to everyone on their journey to find life fullfillment!

[@sabadaga1]

Hey, I am a 5 foot 10 and I know women who are like 4'11 and want to date a man who is 6'8. But guess what, a lot of tall men love dating short women because they feel like real men. I know it's weird and stupid but so are many men.

[@kreativeforce532]

his kids as in the kids he will have with her 🤦🏿‍♂️. smh. so many people purposely do not comprehend english. children, all children belong to the father. that's why wives and children take the father's last name. the point of dating ultimately is reproduction. so the man intends to reproduce more with whomever he marries after dating her. that does not make him a bad human. that makes him sane. if a woman like yourself is dating not to become a wife then its either theft, or just casual sex. the latter of which the man said he is done with doing and the former is what would make you a bad human.

[@TruestLovely]

​@kreativeforce532 🫤. He already has kids...or at least a child. Comprehensive is listening to all the bad decisions HE said he made, one of which he stated having a child before he got married, to which I'm assuming he is no longer married, because he is giving a rundown on what he wants now. Be Blessed now 🙂

[@rpaafourever7908]

@@kreativeforce532 The point of dating is to find someone with whom you have a connection, chemistry and compatibility in a healthy, spiritual, securely attached way. The point of marriage is legality. The point of kids is to spread the love you already have for yourself and your partner in nuturing another human created or adopted by both of you. The three things naturally complement each other but it's not an automatic association. Which is why for example, sometimes you find an infertile couple who deeply love each other and happy with life overall. If you think the point of dating is reproduction, then you're missing the woods for the trees. Good luck with that someone who also thinks at the same frequency as you. By the way, we are always of our mother be it any culture around the world it's the same, it's the fathers who need identification due to human insecurity so in an effort to make them feel invested, their last names are taken 😃

[@Digger-Nick]

So you're blasting other women for wanting someone tall, yet you are claiming you deserve someone tall... Women are delusional

[@ArumWaharatri]

So awful 😟 this somehow making me feel better 😌 I was really in an awful condition too Nowadays don't forget to check if he/she is single or not false gender

[@EgleA-u8e]

I am single for 2,5 years now first time since I was 19. I had 5 years and 11 years relationships. The way people date now shocks me! Before if somebody asks you out and you keep seeing each other regularly - you are girlfriend and boyfriend. Now, you supposed to have a conversation few months later if you are exclusive??? How this is considered normal, is way beyond me. People do not value kindness, loyalty, honesty. If you are unproblematic, you will be considered too nice and therefore boring but kept around as they love what they are getting from you. No more, I focus on myself, my life, career, friendships, my personal health and well being. It is better to be alone than lonely with somebody. So my advice is stay out of the circus, stop entertaining the clowns and focus on yourself. Don`t let anybody waste your time.

[@Stevo-klo45453]

I was born in the late 80’s and grew up like you with dating in Aus. Similar vibes as you experienced. Used to meet someone, like one another and few weeks to a month in/ gf/bf a couple. I have met heaps of women since turning 30 on apps and none wanted to get to know me on a personal level. They all got out of serious relationships but didn’t want to get to know me. I never had this problem meet people in my 20’s up to 29. It became an issue when I turned 30. I just personally think I was attractive enough for sex and a quick jam and nothing more while they sifted through their options for something better on apps. I waisted 6 -7 years on them and had an amazing sex life with nothing to show for it today. Been single 6 1/2 years and had one relationship out of online dating. I haven’t tried online dating properly in 1.5 years. It doesn’t even work anymore for dates even.

[@Stevo-klo45453]

I had a hand full of 3 year relationships in my 20’s with a few women and in between went to bars and clubs with mates and ran a muck. Life was good in the 2000’s to 2013

[@Stevo-klo45453]

I enjoyed the apps up to 2019 and then i got over the casual sex and wanted to get to know someone. Women would get angry I didn’t sleep with them the first date and ghost me when I actually tried to form a connection and take it slow and steady. The first 3 years of being single I really enjoyed. The past 3 have been hell as I been looking and looking for a connection since about 31-32 years old. 4 years I been looking and suffering

[@Stevo-klo45453]

I finally gave up. I don’t look, I don’t ask, I don’t date. I don’t nothing. I have given up completely

[@Stevo-klo45453]

I don’t want to be used anymore so I don’t bother with apps even that I know someone will sleep with me.

[@foodchainer2722]

"he must be...,..., tall. But not too tall because if he sees a tall woman he might like them more than me" 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@colingoldthorpe5918]

All of them missed the main point "Be willing to be Open and step outside the box" Your perception of th eperfect person is never correct. From a 30 year Married old guy 54 !!!! My wife is my best friend and the best road tripper i have ever met. But there are times that we need our alone time, and we both know when that is. I get sent off on my motorbike and she goes off shopping. The last thing she needs is me whining in the truck how long she's going to be... Best 30 years of my life, hope i get another 30 more with her !!!!

[@TigerTsunami404]

High Value Men just want a confident woman who can bring happiness & peace

[@niladrimallik3172]

Who are these people, so wise and amazing.

[@digit4455]

I notice several people discussing what their expectations are of others but they do not discuss what they think people should expect of them.