Why Nothing Makes You Happy

[@jaredquaglieri3731]

>Literally one bad thing happens during childhood >Brain for the rest of eternity: Eh I'm out

[@Elfyja]

This made me wheeze

[@Piergrulli_Sfracelletti]

Very convenient huh?

[@jacobholm47]

Social media (reels specifically)is the absolute worst thing to happen to society in a LONG time.

[@pricklycatsss]

Idk how people watch shorts and reels. I specifically avoid anything that’s shorter than 15-20 minutes. I mostly watch/listen to videos as background noise while doing other things. If I watched shorts unironically I would never get anything done because you have to swipe/tap every 30 seconds.

[@pricklycatsss]

Anything less than 10 minutes isn’t even an option in my mind to click on

[@KML-XX]

No, that was tiktok, absolutely no question

[@sadeddinmus]

Why do you think like this. Please explain more.

[@neysk2]

I saw the title and thumbnail and immediately thought how small things like birthday parties, going to somebody's wedding to basically just eat, casual dates are what i look forward to nowadays and feel especially happy about cause my life has been so mundane and filled with the same routine as I am relentlessly pursuing my education. Moreover, i really feel privileged to feel like this and try my best to enjoy them.

[@k9s2music65]

Dr K’s ability to make high quality research and insight accessable to the public is beautiful ❤️

[@Hot.dorito]

This was actually an eye opener for me. Now i really understand small goals. Find pleasure in checking off small boxes.

[@jackdeniston6150]

´Find´ Just lift bro

[@tutata]

Hit my head with my mouse, no dopamine found.

[@SkyVoid]

Im not sad or depressed. My life is moving in a generally positive direction, but now, I've reached a point where i don't feel depressed, but nothing gives me pleasure or happiness or contentment. Others can tell. Especially at jobs. I try to put on this mask, but it isn't working anymore. I want to be me and enjoy myself. But i can't. Family is too busy trying to break whoever i am because i must be holding them back somehow. I'm trying to be forthcoming, im trying to be truthful and loyal, but no. I can't do anything right according to...anyone but me. There's basically no real way to fix all of this unless i want to be even more lonely later in life. I want to believe in this research and science but this doesn't help others understand that im feeling uncomfortable.

[@raghavadoregowda2191]

Woahh, that's deep....

[@missylks1239]

What part of you is your family “trying to break”?

[@NiSE_Rafter]

I'm in a similar spot. Tried talking to a few therapists but they just didn't get it. It's a very isolating feeling.

[@jasonscalzo9597]

Working on trying to consistently go to the gym at least 3 times a week for a month in an effort to rewire my brain

[@papakael8247]

The brain is like water flowing down a mountain. It'll take the path of least resistance, which are our existing habits. By choosing something new, you basically put a stone in the river. Eventually the stones build and your brain goes down the new path of least resistance. Big ups.

[@zeruszephuros5419]

I tried that for 8 months and then relapsed immediately lol

[@randomviewer144]

man dr k is awesome. helped me so much

[@HealthyGamerGG]

It’s an honor and a privilege to

[@chillwithcharles]

This is literally the physiological equivalent of *To those who have everything all shall be given, to those who have nothing all shall be taken.*

[@4SM93]

This makes a lot of sense why I feel better going to college than just working a random job to pay the bills. This is a sign for me to go back to school. Thank you Dr. K

[@karinmitschang9734]

thank you so much for sharing ❤

[@heymanajemenakugakbisa]

Thank you very much for the video!

[@Elfyja]

The edits keep getting better lol love it

[@ConservativeSatanist666]

I often get the most dopamine while painting.. by the time I'm finished I'm just glad it's done. Something about being in the moment makes a difference

[@Empyreanis]

Thanks for the vid doc! You always upload at the right time in my life.

[@teal.9710]

just came up on my feed after a 2 hour insta reel session

[@JeTrevi25]

Just unninstall it mate

[@ninjalel7041]

real and true

[@Regnum0nline]

@@teal.9710 if u have android there are nice apps that block usage of doom scrolling while still allowing it to use the apps to view the content of your friends

[@teal.9710]

@ will once playboi carti drops the album

[@BarackObamaJedi]

I just want to eat, have energy, do stuff, before being hungry again. It's just eat full tired hungry The longer I'm awake, the more I'm awake. Sleeping makes me tired, so i hate going to sleep because it nullifies any momentum you gained during the day

[@RUsureUR]

C-ptsd is not popular because it reeks of child abuse. Awareness is needed. Parenting is the root cause. It's a pattern that society has preferred to sweep under the carpet and blame the children.

[@karlenedavies6655]

Thank you. Very interesting watch

[@EJTechandDIY]

My brain is always thinking about the next thing and it’s so hard to stop.

[@aadarshmusic]

Same brother 🥲

[@Paxicara]

That's when you have to try and take a step back and watch your thoughts come and go. You're brain will never run out of thoughts, you don't have to listen to all of them haha

[@francymurphy2887]

Thank you 🙏

[@blossomnosleep]

It feels like being eaten away

[@maestro3887]

yeah but bot being eaten in the good way sadly 😔

[@joey-zy7gq]

You’re my favorite youtuber you one handedly changed my view of life I just wanted to put that out there

[@HealthyGamerGG]

I wonder if anyone's going to catch the double meaning of the title... 👀

[@yousifalaswad51]

🤷‍♂️ is it because doing nothing makes u unhappy.

[@gregasarka4124]

But what about the third meaning of the title? You see, the "nothing" that makes you happy is not just the absence of something, but the very presence of absence itself. To notice the double meaning is to already live in its shadow. But the third meaning? That's when "nothing" becomes a being-a small, slightly disgruntled creature that tries its best to make you happy but fails because it cannot juggle or bake soufflés. So really, the title is less a question and more a critique of "nothing's" lack of talent. Poor "nothing." It does its best.

[@hanamccarthy710]

I think it’s about being present, if nothing is in your mind it’s easier to be happy

[@RockelLin]

So if I'm understanding this, the brain is better at rewarding small, attainable goals than it is at rewarding progress towards a big goal. So it's actually easier to build habits if we keep a narrower focus, and good habits will carry us way farther than chasing a big dream. I guess my next question is how do we put the bigger goals out of our minds while we're focusing on the next rung on the ladder? Is that just a self-talk thing, and you have to train yourself to not think about big goals outside of when you're planning what your next small goal should be?

[@AJBats]

I love this video. I’ve been stalling in my hobbies and I think I know why now. At the very least I have some ideas to try. Thanks Dr. K as always, what a champ.

[@cattobread.1111]

I legit tried to follow him the first 10 seconds and start testing if I can get dopamine from my mouse

[@kia-yj3vp]

I've been watching Dr k. for a couple years now and still every video I watch I learn a new eye opening concept

[@xCCflierx]

I'm playing through fallout 4 again. I imagine starting with 1 in each special stat would make the game significantly more difficult. Reinforces the idea that some people are stuck on hard mode without knowing how to modify difficulty. The more points I have in Strength, the faster I kill enemies, the faster I level up. The more points I have in perception, the more shots I hit, the faster I kill enemies, the faster I level up. The more endurance I have, the less damage I take, the less time is spent reloading saves, more time spent leveling up The higher my charisma, the more dialogue options I succeed on, which rewards exp, which help me level up The higher my intelligence, the more exp I get, the faster I level up. The higher my agility, the more stamina I have , the faster I get to new quests, the faster I level up The higher my luck, the higher my crit chance, the higher my damage, the faster I kill enemies, which rewards exp, the faster I level up.

[@LstBrth]

I can't believe that what I've been trying to do day on and on, has turned into the opposite. Setting bigger expectations everyday. Taking breaks as something I need to keep my performance, instead of something I want to do. I'm adding this video into a single video playlist with the name "Watch this when you feel lost" and keep it for the rest of my life.

[@thatguybon]

I always loved doing nothing

[@strawberry_punch_art]

So build a life where the things we want to do become cravings? For example: crave cleaning for 15 mins so I end up with a nicer space and have less to do later. Crave to work on my art projects. Then have only some things to do everyday, maybe do nothing to have some feelings of "I have to do something ".

[@hex1371]

Greate video man really change my perspective on lifective of life

[@ShambalaBB]

thanks for the content

[@PROFESSIONALCRASHOUT]

I also enjoy so much when I’m not constantly numb from weed, but, yeah.

[@lois87]

But what happens when you dont really want anything from life anymore? When the only thing proping the denominator up is counting the days until the ride comes to an end?

[@user-hc6nu3tw6o]

Dr. K looking fineeee on this one! ☝️

[@AisenYtub]

Thanks for the vids doc

[@JSFGuy]

Exactly what I've been experiencing for some time, nothing trips my trigger, skydiving, aerobatics motorcycles nothing

[@AmeyVikram16]

You are searching for thrill and pleasure, when the real sadness is sitting inside of you. Thinking that doing or consuming something will ease your sorrow makes you cling to things. Buddha said this clinging itself leads to sorrow.

[@gregasarka4124]

maybe try to start doing pranks on people.

[@johnsouders8965]

Dr. K this is the kind of brain deep dive I needed

[@Stolens87]

1:30 holy shieeet, where did you found my diary? I really hope that is just like with horoscopes. This "oh, it is surprisingly accurate"-feeling surely just fits somehow to everybody.

[@JohnMwangi-jv3pp]

Its a tough world , no pleasure no happiness

[@tammamayourmum4897]

i never comment but this video is so simple and inspiring

[@Ran_Do]

That thumbnail is devious work

[@vitoriaabreu19]

Seeing that Dr K posted this an hour ago while I am going through something that is so relevant, it makes me think he is watching me all times… Hi Dr K!

[@HealthyGamerGG]

👋

[@filmowczynia]

Dr. K, I'm sorry, but you cannot deal with the anhedonia if you live in a city that is designed to isolate you. Where all your friends live an hour away from you. Where you have your family in a different part of a country (not talking about parents who always work, but grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins). Where there is no safety. Or when you're an immigrant and can't fully communicate. Or if you're too poor to take part into activities available for you close to you. There is a real reason why people are using the technology or drugs. And as long as people have no agency to change it, they will go deeper into their anhedonia, and for some there will be no way back. I know what I'm talking about, because I was addicted to technology when teenager and then to hard drugs through my 20s. When I was 26 I went to rehab and moved to a smaller city (coming from a big metropoly). It was life-changing. Now I'm 30 and for the last 3 months I was in another big metropoly due to the University task. Ugh. It's extremely hard keeping my sanity, and I've been trained how to take care of myself! We need to go back and think about our surroundings not just our personal responsibility.

[@reverendsteveii]

Hearing him describe the happy fulfilled person from when he was in school sounds like me but I'm still unhappy too

[@yashpatil4679]

the GOAT!!

[@IswearIamtrying]

So how do I want less? It's not like the list of things i need to do gets smaller

[@MyNewPassion]

Thank you for this video, I am now journaling on how to decrease my wants into a sizable portion. My brain (more specifically my nucleus accumbens) can handle

[@foxandthemoon]

I personally dont feel happy when doing things till about halfway through when i realize its okay to feel excited about it. After years of being let down when i let myself be excited for something has changed my brain to wait till I know I have it to celebrate. no social media for about 4-5 years. This is just the effects when you invest time with people that dont see you human too.

[@Ballin-97]

Watching Dr. K talking about why nothing makes me makes me happy

[@X-cn7uz]

Thank you for that

[@rutvikrs]

What is really cool about this vid? It kinda explains why radical self acceptance works. I reduce my need to looksmax, the more confident i get. I reduce my need for a relationship, the more friends i make.

[@RedFoxMage]

Theory: Say you are 'maxed out' in a category. Couldn't that ALSO have a negative effect on feeling happy? the example I'm thinking of is 'it's lonely at the top, for to be the best means no one is there to compete with you, and no one of equal skill. You are the best at the thing, and no one can top you currently' this I've seen and experienced, actually has the effect of reducing the happiness of individuals simply because something that was once there is no longer a factor and thus, the solution to that is to what? Dumb yourself down and lose so you're more on level with everyone else? try to find joy in the things you do again despite the removal of rivalry and competition? Doesn't this also mean that 'op players' can also become anhedonic simply because they've become accustom to such high levels or 'rewards' that what they once felt simply isn't there anymore? 'lick the silver spoon enough and you'll forget that it's not made of wood.' I think the word is conditioning. Curiouser and curiouser.

[@zropxela99999]

everytime i watch a healthy gamer video, my depression gets worse

[@basmatalaat]

how perfectly timed. my birthday was literaaly 5 days ago and i feel nothing but emptiness

[@itzsdenji]

living in the present moment also connects to reducing overall denominator in some weird way thats why its another piece of popular advice

[@suchapolivka8707]

Basically, want less and be present. Simple, yet hard

[@mothman8300]

Anhedonia, Dysthymia, Alexithymia.Does anyone know of a good resource to compare/contrast these and similar such issues? I resonate with all of them in some ways and I'm curious to know more.

[@shanescott1207]

O-Hi-O here. Dr. K. Do you believe C-PTSD will be in the next version of the DSM? I fall into its parameters and suffer greatly with little relief from the VA. I think some of it is ignorance.

[@zeruszephuros5419]

Yeah...I used to enjoy games alot, now 95% of them bored me.... I really need this vid...

[@koshinwarsame8430]

This is gonna be a gd one

[@murranz]

Excellent Thanks

[@woodennickel7330]

3 seconds in and I'm liking this new Pen-Pinapple cover.

[@warriortakemikazuchi3222]

Nothing makes me happy *(no literally like what the title says)*

[@ariefhazim1715]

"I understand it now"

[@pipeliner8969]

where did dr. K put the mouse into to get the dopamine?

[@KirsGM]

Brain: Whatever you do, is never gonna be enough Brain: I know, lets play some League then Brain:That's my boy, save energy

[@zeruszephuros5419]

Next thing is Dr.K's going to tell exactly what I eat in the next meal without me even realizing it.....

[@neveragain733]

Excellent video

[@MisterToki]

In other words, we're trying to cultivate a Positive Feedback Loop by starting small.

[@Blos_irl5258]

Any tips for anhedonia specifically related to derealization? I think because I feel so disconnected, it’s almost like there’s a physical barrier stopping my emotions from ‘getting through’. It’s like they’re trying to penetrate but can’t get past the surface level. Anyone else?

[@nuckels188]

Derealization or depersonalization? Big difference

[@Nicolas-n6i]

science behind atomic habits aha aha

[@bennoreuter4393]

1:01 What's a better place to start reading a paper than in the university of reading. Finally a place, a whole university, dedicated to a single purpose. PS: I know, that's the joke.

[@whitehawk6437]

Yeah well, shrinking your wants is a lot easier said than done, especially when you are predominantly surrounded by people for whom all your "wants" are "already haves"...

[@GuillermoSmyser]

“At the age of 35” shows pic of super old guy! Lol how could you!

[@bennoreuter4393]

He's on his favourite topic again...

[@PP-lt6vp]

Omg the title 😢😢😢

[@bonaaq86]

This is the biggest "get good" psychology has dropped

[@marko112kg]

4 oit of 4! Plus, I don’t experience orgasms, or rarely, like 8 total and I’m 44. My psychiatrist is looking into my symptoms and sexual anhedonia is one possibility.

[@christopherp.8868]

What about anhedonia from PSSD? Post SSRI(general antidepressant) sexual dysfunction

[@rafaelos6118]

11:05 starts explaining

[@GuillermoSmyser]

Is the set of memberships advertised different than the YT memberships?

[@GuillermoSmyser]

I got one of those brain stimulators. They put in a computer than senses my seizures coming and zaps them as they start. Hopefully we are reprogramming the brain to not start seizures in the first place.

[@redirectto]

Next video, how to shrink the box

[@Reaper31292]

People who think you need to make $280k a year to be happy either don't have jobs or really need to address what a normal decent life looks like. You definitely don't need anywhere near that.

[@joshuaworman4022]

Anyone else worried by his relationship with work?

[@seedrank_a]

10:51 GIMME SALT, GIMME FIRE, GIMME THAT WHICH I DESIRE! OHH

[@Badbigboy123]

very presumptive title dr k

[@handleler]

cured ⭐ !!!

[@Dave-um7mw]

So I need to either increase my income, or lower my rent/mortgage?

[@lacy1311]

Dr. K, I wish you could help me. I want so badly to do and be better, but I feel like im constantly battling unfortunate events and I dont know if its me or am I really this unlucky? Im so exhausted fighting through all the bad things to barely survive that im losing hope... And thats scary.

[@0jinx]

Tldr: choose Nihilistic optimism 🧘‍♂️ Not great advice but don't worry about it. It pays off in the end. I know this because it worked for me. "But how can I be sure it'll work for me" I hear you ask, well the truth is that you don't. You can never be sure and may just end up dead one day. But you know what? That's okay. Stop crushing yourself with imaginary expectations. And just do your best. Everyone dies one day. It's alright. ☝️ Thinking this way has made it easier to keep on grinding and enjoying little things. And suddenly my life turned around. It's pretty awesome now and I'm mostly healthy.

[@austinc8176]

Help I’m trying to subtract from my denominator but I don’t even know how to rationalize it

[@BarackObamaJedi]

What's the reason or mechanism for schizophrenic anhedonia though? You just mentioned it's a symptom

[@consuelonavarrohidalgo5334]

Can we have a video talking about karma so that we can live accepting the experience of living with anhedonia while others live so easily? It would be very helpful, 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. P.S: ASD woman with nuccleus accumbens vias disfunction here.

[@kirby17]

I might have Anhedonia.

[@subodhpareek18]

can you do a collab with the green brothers?

[@alurainspires1432]

Well what the heck- what are we supposed to do if job, relationships are shitty - then it doesn’t matter what our brain is doing???