Why Regret What Could Not Be?

[@ylva2021]

*We really need that kind of pen but with a hopeful sign instead*

[@UberGooose]

Ylva M Omg that's genius

[@matildaallan9379]

SOMEBODY MAKE THIS HAPPEN

[@phantomatthedisco6248]

YES PLEASE

[@jeskyaalee5363]

Omg yes!!! That would be so cool. Maybe profits to be halved to suicide prevention or something?

[@ylva2021]

Ylva M and we can shine it in the faces of the doubtful :)

[@garyc]

I agree, no point in sticking with someone just because the future isn't what you thought it would be! x

[@LucyGraves1]

love the les mis reference in the title!

[@Carrie]

LucyLikesCakeLots Thank you! It's my favourite line that I get to sing! :) xxx

[@LucyGraves1]

***** the line absolutely breaks my heart, along with the majority of the rest of Eponine's lines xxx

[@adriannachouliotis6357]

i was gonna say the same thing!!!

[@josien2212]

It's the main reason I clicked on the video. And the fact that it's Carrie's video...

[@CescaMay]

Carries hair is *gorgeous* 🙊🌏💕🎥📷 X

[@CescaMay]

❤️

[@k_a_r_]

I couldn't take my eyes off it ♡

[@serenroutledge230]

I love your channel :-)

[@selling.petr0l]

In an actual puddle of tears. My friend linked me this, as I have recently gone through a break up after a long term relationship. I ended it but I thought it was ridiculous of me to feel upset because it was in my control, but this video is perfect in putting what I've been going through into words and no one else has managed that including myself. Thank you so much Carrie.

[@cerysm3568]

Stay smiling! Don't worry, things will get better soon ☺️

[@smashnumberonefan]

It's always a really hard thing to do, you've done the right thing! I hope you find happiness and every goes well for you in the future :*

[@selling.petr0l]

Thank you both so much :') x

[@KerriEngland]

Charlea Morris thinking of you. Going through EXACTLY the same thing so i understand! it will all be clearer and easier soon xxx

[@selling.petr0l]

Kerri E Thinking of you also, I hope so. It truly sucks right now but Carrie but it in a way and gave me perspective I've never quite seen before for which I am so grateful xx

[@libsterrrrr99]

Adorable that this links to Eponine so much xx

[@Carrie]

Libby H I think about her a lot! :) xxx

[@fetinsmiles7803]

I agree, but I keep getting distracted by how amazing your hair looks in this video

[@SamarkandChan]

I sort of say something similar to this when people bring up my dad passing away. He passed away a year ago (I'm 22) and people keep asking how I feel and how I'm doing, and honestly what I feel the saddest about is not having the moments I wished we'd have, him potentially becoming a grandparent and hopefully building a better relationship between us. That was almost sadder than anything else, knowing that there was no more chance of things getting better

[@heathers8826]

I would agree prior to deciding to marry that person. Afterwards love can't really be treated as something you fall in and out of. Love is a choice. It is not always going to be great. You might even have periods of time when you don't like him, but you choose to stay because you made the promise to love no matter what. I have been married to my best friend for almost 15 years now. I couldn't imagine life without him. At the same time we have had periods when there was little to no romance; when we felt more like roommates than a couple. We have also had periods when we were those two goofy kids who couldn't get enough of each other. If I left because I didn't "feel it" I would have missed so much versus staying because love is a choice.

[@fleetingpetunias]

Oh my god. I felt like someone described my issue as perfectly as I would have. After being with a guy for over 2 years, it really was difficult for me to admit that I wasn't in love with him anymore, and even after I realised that, it took me a while to let go of this beautiful little future we had planned out together about owning a cozy house and getting a dog and doing what not. Sadly, I'm not on good terms with him due to various reasons he gave me and it felt very sudden to him so he probably hates me for it, but I can't complain because I was the one who broke his heart. But at the end of the day, I do believe that it wouldn't be fair on him at all if I was in that relationship knowing I wasn't in love with him anymore. This video makes that decision a little less painful to think about and hearing all this from Carrie is really comforting because it feels like she is talking directly to me and saying "its okay that you took that decision".

[@myfanwymorgan8830]

Yeah. I had to do that last month. I was with a guy for nearly a month. He made me feel happy & seen as how I'm a larger girl who has zero self confidence, I said yes in the first place mainly through the elation of someone looking past the fat. Not because I felt an immediate psychical, emotional or both connection. I didn't let myself drag it out over a week after I realised my true feelings, but it was so hard to do. At least the two nights before were spent crying from anxiety of hurting him. He was smitten & I was in a little bubble for a long time. When the bubble was burst I knew I had to say goodbye & wait for the bubble that wouldn't burst. I still miss the snuggling & a good few aspects of the relationship. But the fact I don't miss the person, shows I was right about my feelings. Moral of this story: Carrie is nearly never wrong & is an amazing advice giver. I didn't have this video back then & that's not her fault. But I bet if I had, her wise words would have hit home my initial feelings. Thanks Carrie! x

[@Claudia15123]

Before I continue to watch this wonderful video I need to tell you how beautiful that hairstyle is. You look like a gorgeous medieval princess... And I love you. Okay, let's carrie on! (yes that's a pun haha) Xx

[@jazzyrobot]

That line of Les Mis breaks my heart a little bit along with 'Why regret what could not be?' And 'every word that he says is a dagger in me'. I've never been in a relationship before, and I'm perfectly content with that! I know I want to wait- I'm only a teenager. And if people my age want a relationship that's perfectly fine too! But for some reason I feel I can connect so much with this topic and it really makes me think about everything in the future that might suddenly have to be let go. I apologise for that ramble... Just needed to set my head straight.

[@ZaraFranciszka]

i needed to hear this so much, you don't understand how much it meant to me thankyou Carrie, for being an idol for younger girls, tweens, teenagers, young adults and even older women! and even dudes!!

[@MelanieAnneAhern]

"HE WAS NEVER MINE TO LOSE"

[@chriscory2049]

***** THESE ARE WORDS HE'LL NEVER SAY.... NOT TO ME....

[@Jess1D4ever]

you hair looks so nice in this im jealous

[@ironflowers977]

After watching this I'm thinking, it doesn't just apply to terminated relationships romantic or otherwise, but also to people who've died, in a way... I mean, when people we love/admire die, especially if they die young, we all talk about how it's such a shame because they had their whole life ahead of them, if it's someone you loved dearly it's because you've imagined this entire future with them, and all of a sudden all that goes up in smoke and you have to deal with the idea of spending the rest of your life without them, or in the case of celebrities/artists dying young we mourn their loss and, (here I think I'm mostly thinking of some of the comments I've read about Jonathan Larson in particular) rather than just celebrating all the joy they've already brought us, we talk about how much more they could have achieved or created had they not been taken so soon, etc, in other words, we're really mourning a mere idea that really only ever existed in our heads!! So really, if that preconceived expectation was taken away from us completely, and we learned not to regret something that hasn't even happened and might never have done, and only appreciated all the amazing things that had already happened in actual life rather than our imagination, death might not be as sad an occasion as they are considered now :) Basically I guess imagination can be a dangerous thing at times as much as it is wonderful, on the one hand it's what keeps us going and wanting to create new things and futures, but it can also hold us back so much if we get too attached to it... (And yes, I know that strayed pretty far from the actual message of the video, but it's a thing I've been thinking about for a while now and this video only helped develop my thoughts further and helped me put them into words!)

[@EmilyDimes]

mandahearsthepeoplesing I found this comment really interesting. Thank you for posting it! It's so true that we mourn things that had never actually happened, yet I'd never thought of it like that. I think that although the imagination can be wonderful, we shouldn't live through our fantasies and we should remember that things won't always turn out the way we expect them to and that's okay. :)

[@rg6940]

This video has come at a time where I needed it the most. When I needed someone to tell me something that I already kind of knew. Thank you so much

[@BeccaEmilee]

This video was that moment, when you hear someone else say something that you've been trying to tell yourself for ages. It' so true, you fall in love with an image rather than the person. Thank you Carrie, for such a lovely video!

[@wessicajalford]

You've hit the nail on the head. My boyfriend and I have broken up after 8 years together, we bought a house, got a cat and we really felt like a proper family. I've always envisioned in my head our future (marriage and kids) and just expected that's how my life would be. It's so hard to accept that it's going to be different now. It's just a bit harder because he's the one who fell out of love with me :(

[@claireaustin5495]

Imagine if us Hopefuls had a pen like this but with the Hopeful sign projected rather than the batman sign?!

[@englishcowgirl27]

Oh Carrie, this is so relevant to me right now but it was him that didn't want me. Thank you for giving amazing advice as always ❤️

[@mollyjade9483]

I'm in complete love with this and honestly it moved me to tears, partly because i've recently been in a situation like this and partly because what you said was so true. I think letting go is always the hardest part of any break up and this video sums up perfectly what everyone thinks but is to afraid to say. xxx

[@LittleMissLou22]

Carrie I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years for basically this reason yesterday and this explained my feelings so well and took away any doubts and regrets Ive been having today. Thank you so so much xxxx

[@Sean-jl6dc]

Dude I actually love you

[@Carrie]

Aoife135 Haha thank you! :) xxx

[@ZandBEB4E93]

I agree so much with you Carrie. Once you decide you don't want to/can't be with that's the end, free that you're just wasting time for both of you because you're not happy and you can't move on. Once that thought is in your head it never leaves

[@Someone-id7wp]

Wow, thank you Carrie for putting this into words. My boyfriend of 2 years also just broke up with me last week. I'm not sure if he's still "in love" with me but he said he does love me and will always love me. He said I was the best thing that happened to him, but he is not happy. All I want from him is to seek out what he needs and find happiness or at least contentment once more. He is, or was, my best friend and when I asked if there was something I could do to help him achieve happiness he just wants to be best friends. The problem came for me when we saw each other a couple days later and everything just felt like we were in a relationship again. I could feign happiness because I could pretend, whether it be subconsciously or consciously, that everything was what it used to be. When I saw him, when he touched me or kissed me, I felt in love with him and I think he felt it too. He kept saying it wasn't goodbye. And it breaks my heart, but I think I do have to say goodbye...maybe not to him completely but certainly the relationship we had and the once seemingly concrete future we had together. I have to say goodbye to the past, change the present, and accept that the future we planned together may not (or is likely not to) happen. It's so confusing because we both want to grow and move on and become happy individuals before happy partners. But for me it feels like there are these invisible strings tied to our hearts, connecting us together in a way I can't entirely fathom. I'm not angry at him, but I must admit I'm more than a little angry at fate for fraying these heart strings. Anyway, I know I'm rambling, but I haven't shared this with anyone and I felt like shouting into the void of the comment section. Thanks for putting this into words and helping me understand and accept my situation a little bit more.

[@JustChloeX]

I went through this kind of situation, except my ex wasn't quite so understanding and became angry and thought we should stay together purely for this idealistic future that we had created. So thank you for reassuring me that I made the right decision! You seem so wise, and it's lovely to listen to somebody else who understands, you really are a gem for everything you do for people. xx

[@atlrocks08]

I was literally just laying in bed miserable because I'm in this exact position at the moment. Funny how this just happened to be the first video I saw when I opened up youtube! This actually really helped me realize that the longer I wait to break up with my boyfriend, the more unhappy I will be and the more unfair it will become for the both of us. Thank you Carrie, your words of wisdom always seem to come just when I need them.

[@LunaLoveheart]

What you talk about in this video is the real reason why I hate breakups so much and why they hurt me so much. When I'm in a relationship with someone I can't help but fantasise our future together, so when we break up for whatever reason I don't just have the loss of that person who was a huge part of my life but also the loss of my entire future I had planned. I think one of the hardest parts of growing up is realising that life isn't a fairytale and although one day you can have everything you've ever wanted and be happy, it will never be the way it is in your head because as humans our desires and feelings evolve constantly.

[@diamondruby25]

My parents were starting the process of adopting two kids this week. They are even living with us. We named them and started making plans for their future, but it has fallen through very quickly, and it's not going to happen. It is not exactly the same but this video has actually really helped to realize that at least part of my falling apart is that I am crushed about losing the idea of them. Thank you so much. You are amazing Carrie.

[@x0xBlackxRosex0x]

Oh my God. This had made me come to a sudden realisation. I've been struggling with a relationship for so long but this has helped me so much. Why could I never see this before? Thank you Carrie!

[@maximage16]

Word. Speaking from experience, it truly is best to let go if the feeling is no longer there. Saves both of you the trouble of severing the good relationship that you have had with the person; minus the heartache from the break-up, of course. Ever since this happened to me, I changed my approach to any relationship to "Be mature about it. You're both adults".

[@R3vvv]

[@DumbDuck0]

Wow, This video is actually just what I needed and what I've been thinking about lately, but I've been so in love with the idea of "our" future and of things changing for the better that I didn't realize how much I've been falling out of love with him... It's so hard to end an almost 5 year relationship though, but I'll get there. Thank you, Carrie.

[@Boocwurm31]

Carrie, I related to everything you said in this video so much! My ex and I recently broke up because I fell out of love with him, but he had given me a promise ring and we had tons of plans for the future. Hearing you say the words made me 100% realize that this is what happened in my situation--I stayed with him for so much longer than I should have because I was too attached to the idea (and also the security I felt with it). Thank you for being such a relatable, amazing human being! You are truly an inspiration! xoxo

[@chocolateteacakes8025]

You've no idea how much i needed this right now. I've just been forced to come to terms with the fact that things aren't going to work out with the guy i've had my heart set on for nearly two years. Part of me knew it would end up like this all along but i was too scared to let go of what i thought we could have. I can't keep holding on to a false reality, i know that now and i remembered this video thinking it might help. It really did, thank you Carrie. ❤️

[@mitchharris1000]

Wow you're so wise. I'm coming straight to you next time I'm in a crisis

[@sammymckee9287]

Mitch Harris I was thinking the same thing

[@tomfish545]

Mitch Harris ^^ You're literally a wizard

[@serenroutledge230]

You're a wizard Harris

[@mitchharris1000]

Seren Routledge Hahahahaha omg you're my new favourite person

[@jennyatanasova3901]

Wow, you've put all my feelings into words Carrie, thank you so much! xx

[@herewithrose6393]

You look really beautiful in this video! I say that expectations change experiences. Whether for the better or worse, the way you think about something, the way you plan it, will shape the way you interpret what really happens.

[@whimsical2tree]

This video was amazing, I can relate to it with a past relationship but also with my family. My family is not -and I now realise- have never been what I wanted or imagined they were, this has been a revelation for me and means I can go live a new life.

[@ellonylynn]

Watching you is just like talking to a friend. I am not on KZbin often anymore, but each time I come- I back watch all your videos.

[@jacquelinedan]

this video is so relevant to my life right now - seeing everyone's comments saying they're also in this situation helps me so much as I felt so alone before! You need to write a book on this Carrie, it would be amazing!! X

[@daisielore]

You are the best big sister Carrie, every video you upload genuinely helps me in some way an puts a smile on my face! Thank you x

[@emilymccormack6660]

Carrie!! You are my inspiration in life completely. You inspire me to follow my dream to be performing in a west end show one day and to be as talented as you, you also inspire my life in general, I'm halfway through your book and it helps me get through the day just knowing that I'm not the only one that goes through these experiences and that I can refer back to your book and find a way to help deal with it. Thank you for being an awesome human being (and my favourite Eponine) xx

[@connieholmes4701]

I know it's slightly different but I think the same principal could be used for situations where people aren't necessarily in relationships but have to give up dreams or the possibility of things they thought they'd always do due to unforeseen circumstances (such as health problems, finances, family situations etc). I have had treatment for cancer on and off over the last 4 years of my life and have recently found out it now isn't curable so have had to give up on the idea of lots of the things I thought I would always do since being a child such as go to uni, get married, have children etc. Obviously that's been extremely difficult but, like you said, why regret what could not be? Those things clearly weren't meant to be for me and I'm slowly coming to realise that you don't have to do all the cultural norms or live until you're 80 to live a full and worthwhile life.

[@phantomatthedisco6248]

My brother recently broke up with his girlfriend whom he'd been with for 4 years. I don't know details, but I know they had planned a future together, in which he was very invested. I was trying to find a way to help him through it, and I'd like to thank you, Carrie, for reminding me of this chapter in your book, and for, well, writing it. It's helped me in so many ways, and now I'm glad I get a chance to share it with others. Thank you Carrie😊

[@MaiaTrinder]

***** Your hair is looking lovely in this video Carrie! xxxx

[@alicethompson8082]

Sat here crying my eyes out at this video because of recent events, I've watched it before but I've come back to it, and thank you so much Carrie because even though I didn't think it was possible for me to feel okay again, I did for a little but during this xx

[@sarahtagart4231]

I know this is an old video but this video inspired me to finally stop thinking about other people's happiness and think of myself. I too had fallen out of love with the person but didn't want to hurt them by leaving so spent months getting down about it until 2 weeks ago where I did it and am now 100 times happier ☺ and am finally allowing myself to do what I want. thanks Carrie 😃

[@babybeazle3144]

It sounds so cliched but when one door closes, another door opens and it will always bring SO MANY opportunities with it! This happened for me last year in a different scenario when I didn't get into drama school that time round - I was completely devastated but if I got into drama school that time and were training now, I'd have never had the amazing opportunities of this year - a chance to go to New York and audition for a different school (which I got into!) and the offer of a dream job for DISNEY! If i'd have gotten in back then, I'd never be moving to my dream city in the future and I'd never have the chance to work for my dream company. It's a slightly different scenario than the one you've mentioned but back then, I really found myself dreaming of this future living in Baron's Court and being a student at LAMDA - but when I got close with no cigar, I found it amazing how your dreams can change, and when they do, you end up as a happier overall person for it! Also, that Bat-Pen is EPIC.

[@benan8462]

Good luck at drama school in New York!♡

[@maryeliandy]

I really needed to hear this right now, since I was just on the receiving end of these feelings. It's helping me come to terms with how they felt when they chose to end things. Thanks Carrie!

[@theamazingkates]

I think I needed to hear this. Thank you, Carrie.

[@jsmith813]

I love the fact the title of the video is a quote from Les mis!

[@jessicahill6443]

This exact thing happened to me recently with my boyfriend, and your book helped me realise that, we broke up. But we are still good friends and I feel peaceful about the whole thing, so thank you so much. Can't wait to see you in Les Mis on Saturday! X

[@Daisy-xq7ys]

I think this is such a good point that so many people don't really think about. I'm so glad that you do videos like this where you talk about the sort of things that all teenage girls should hear, know and remember. Loved this video and love you so much +ItsWayPastMyBedtime 💕 xxx

[@MissFiono]

Another great advice video, Carrie - as always! I've never been fortunate enough to have such a conversation with someone else but I am very bad at doing it in my head with people I'm not even in a relationship with. Even after using my words and not getting the response I was hoping for. It's just the same. As you say you just have to suck it up and let it go. There's not point in making fantasies about the "things he'll never say".

[@MCJuneybug]

As soon as I saw the title I sang it and got emotional ! It was my favorite line when I played her :) and you're a breathtaking Eponine!you're such an inspiration to me, so Thank you.

[@CaptJuckSparrow]

I remember when you posted this, and couldnt really relate. Now I've just broken up with my boyfriend of three years because I wasnt in love anymore and I'm crushed. I remembered this video and came back.. Thanks for making it, it eased my pain a bit.

[@lisapeters7466]

so true!! I was in a very similar situation 6 weeks ago after being in a relationship for two and a half years. Eventually I plucked up the courage to let go. Not easy but definitely the right thing to do!

[@koellekind]

You make things sound so easy and clear, and mainly, that's a good thing. But I still think that sometimes it is more complicated than that. For example if the other person is mentally ill and you have a hard time being in love with them because they are so far from what they would be like without that illness. Or it's just that you have slipped a little into taking each other for granted. I do think you can fall back in love. It's not impossible. It depends on the circumstances.

[@TimeLadyClaire]

Ahhh yes! I relate to this so strongly. Letting go is hard but you always realise later that you should've done it sooner.

[@ClaireF_]

Can you please just guide me through my life? You're so good at advice and knowing what to say/do. I love that I have so many videos of you that I could watch if I was ever going through a certain situation and didn't know what to do. I love my honorary big sister! :) Thank you for everything you do for us!

[@BananaBananaCheese]

Thank you for this Carrie! I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday... It was extremely hard for me as I'm very deeply in love with him but he told me that he was still in love with his ex... This video is really helping, we had so many plans for this summer and watching this is helping me to not fixate on this summer that we planned and start planning a new summer for me... I just know its gonna take some time to feel okay again... xxx

[@AM-eg6wh]

Love your pen!!!!

[@Victoriomantic]

Oh man, great advice. Could have done with this three years ago but at that point I was so wrapped up in that situation I may not have listened anyway! To anyone struggling with this--please do listen!

[@alicemarsden8342]

This is so me right now. Thank you so much for addressing this Carrie!

[@yolworld]

awesome video, it helped me a lot, cant wait to buy your book and read the chapter talking about it, you are such an inpirational person. Thanks for everything

[@Ofir1D]

Dear Carrie,thank you so much for this video! It is so wonderful that you uploaded this video when I needed it the most. Lots of love xx

[@NimdelGirl]

So much about this video I love, bit can I just say, how wonderful does Carrie's hair look today?! And I don't know exactly why ..

[@BornyRokz]

Carrie, this video explains so many things that I thought I only worried about. You explained it so well and it gives me hope for the future. It think it's good to remind our self of this message after a break up. I cannot put into words how happy and bright this video has made me! (P.s - I bought your book but haven't had the chance to read it yet! Extrmeemly looking forward to it though, from what I've heard it's going to be a good read!) Much love xxx

[@Feliciawithoutfins]

Awesome, Carrie, thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@sarahmoore8936]

this was so beautiful said! I really needed to hear it. thank you for sharing

[@ashactingup3330]

Your lovely smiley face always cheers up my day! Am really ill today, so it was very needed! My partner and I are definitely guilty of the whole dreaming thing, it's just so lovely to do!

[@AbbieWillett]

There are no words to describe how true this is.

[@mermaidismyname]

Wow. Carrie once again talking sense into me. This is incredibly applicable to me. I had a crush on a person for over a year but never acted on it due to the fact we live in different cities for most of the year. But now that we are in the same city I realize on no longer have a crush on this person. But it is incredibly hard to let the idea of having a relationship with this person go.

[@OnlyNeonAngel]

love the message, and the title makes it ten times better!!

[@Taywanee]

Carrie, I wish you had made this video a couple of months ago, but I am so glad you made it. 3 months ago my ex boyfriend and I broke up. We were together for almost 2 years and he was about to give me a promise ring and everything. Unlike your situation, he was the one who fell out of love with me, but your video helped me understand things better and accept things more. Thank you for making videos and being the amazing, positive, inspiring person you are

[@procrastinatewithjade6359]

Carrie, I would just like to say a big thank you. I don't have any siblings and your videos have helped me throughout my life journey. (And continuing to) Thanks for being someone I can look up to like an older sister ❤️✌️

[@mareen1221]

i'm so happy that I bumped on this video because I'm just in the same situation. I agreed to be in a relationship with a boy who I don't even love and now I know it's the best for both of us to break up with him. Thank you for this video it helped out a lot

[@erinfromdevon]

Everything you said was on point, everything you are wearing is on point, your eye makeup is on point, golly gosh Carrie you're just generally on point!;)

[@theperksofgee]

Everything you create helps so many people, thank you Carrie! ❤️

[@AbbieElizabeth13]

Very true! And something needs to be said! Thank you!

[@carrotjexx]

Your videos always come at the right time in my life, I'm very thankful for that

[@abigailgrace4525]

Thank you, I really needed this as I'm going through a break up with my boyfriend who I care dearly for, but I just don't think we're as in love as we first were.. I think it's fizzled and although we tried and I do love him, I'm holding onto the things that we planned. I do know that right now we're too young to be thinking of all this (we're both 19) but I know we'll end up together again but right now it isn't the right time for us. This is just what I needed right now to accept it/make a decision on what's going to happen

[@sophieballinger6434]

Where is your cardigan from? It's so pretty! Burgundy really suits you; obviously you were destined to be a Gryffindor!! :) xx

[@Carrie]

Sophie Ballinger It's from H&M! £8! I do love a cardy! :P xxx

[@KTDesperateHousewife]

LOVE this, my hardest part of my divorce wasn't the divorce itself it was coping with the idea that the future I had in mind wouldn't happen.

[@justincaseyoudcall]

Thank you for this, Carrie.

[@caitlinskevington7335]

This is so true Carrie! Your videos are so helpful for people of all ages and I think so many people relate to you and really do love you 💗 amazing as always- love ️xx

[@cathyc926]

You literally give the best life advice ever. Thank you

[@TheFantubers]

The amount of times I come back to this video is heartbreaking

[@annalinerasmussen7775]

It can be really difficult to let go of someone you love.. Even though you know you're not IN love with them anymore. Especially if you have been together for years! X

[@maryiskat8207]

Annaline Rasmussen The moments you two shared together and the future you have two have planned are like two ghosts haunting and following you from the moment you wake up to the moment you fall asleep.

[@ChloeWonders]

Thank you so much for talking about this, I've actually struggled with the same thing.

[@tma7x95]

Carrie, I wish you would have done this video a few years ago, when I was in that exact situation! Lasted 2 and a half years, only should have lasted max. 2 years because my feelings were dying, but I insisted on the idea of a future with him :/ But well, now I'm in a new relationship, and it's being glorious ^.^ Thanks for making me feel understood, Carrie ♥

[@Emzamozeby]

I was staring at the title of the video for ages, thinking 'ooh that looks familiar...but why?!'. Just realised it's one of Eponine's lines - brilliant.

[@kathrynxjanex]

Yes to everything. I broke up with my bf on 7 years a couple of months ago. The hardest thing about it is losing the future i thought we would have. Having to suddenly change my future is scary. Thinking you are going to spend your life with someone and then to suddenly lose an entire future just like that. Thank you for making me realise this. That i was scared of losing him i was scared of losing the future i had planned 😘 x

[@123123lollero]

I was (or still am) in a situation where I spent some time this guy who seemed absolutely perfect for me but because of reasons it would be extremely unlikely that we could ever really be together. However, I clung tightly to that tiny possibility that I'd get him someday. I realised a few days ago that I had become too obsessed with that fantasy, so I sent him a message telling him to crush my dreams once and for all. And he said what I had known but didn't want to admit to myself: we'll probably never meet again and he isn't in a place in his life where he can even think about a relationship. This feels like a break up even though I've only ever had my own fantasies.

[@Memmyrabilia]

I'm so glad to have my big sister giving me tips 💜💛

[@karolunding]

Carrie you somehow always manage to say the right things at the right times xx

[@beccacamz]

This really resonates with me Carrie, I haven't quite read that far in your book yet but I'm excited to get there xx