Why Setting Boundaries Makes You ATTRACTIVE AF

[@MJ-rk7kv]

My mantra this past week has been “I’m not responsible for other people’s emotions”

[@TinaBUTCHER-ph1ph]

People don't have to like me and I don't have to care

[@MikkoMurmeli]

Well if you punch someone in the groin and call them a dirty weak poontang or something, then yeah you are responsible. But you are only responsible for their initial emotion, if even that. It's so much up to them how to process and handle their own emotional life, not your responsibility unless you're a professional and they pay you for it.

[@etherealloft]

To all my people pleasers out there including myself, you’ll be amazed at how powerful you become when you set boundaries and say “no”. We often think people will laugh at our attempt to set boundaries, but you’ll be surprised how much respect you gain from those same people. Sending good vibes to everyone on their journey to healing! 🤍

[@sonyvalencia]

I gotten there and I don't care that they respect me now.

[@Borboleta1212]

Thank you 🤍 in the midst of this healing journey right now 💜

[@Notsocool23]

❤

[@richar568]

Thank you so much

[@richar568]

​@@sonyvalenciayes ❤

[@Rainandsun-88]

I remember my cousin set "boundaries" with me once and told me how she felt about how i treated her sometimes and intitially we stopped talking, but in the long run our relationship got better. Tbh i loved the fact that she stood up for herself and became som1 who stopped taking shit from ppl.

[@louisegriffin8032]

Wow this is really awesome and I love your attitude about speaking this highly of her for her standing up for herself and you being a proud cousin I love this energy you guys have keep it up... We are rooting for you and your family❤

[@berlinis1]

Your a good person ❤

[@joymelaniecloke6222]

You are real ! 🙏

[@godzillamanstreb524]

That’s so great!

[@pamelaferree2318]

I pray this happens with my 37 year old daughter. I FINALLY set boundaries with her. I can no longer be her therapist, ATM, venting "friend" or savior. She feels abandoned, and I have slept sooo much more peaceful. Though my heart is broken.

[@Pdrock2001]

It's simple . Saying NO and telling people very calmly but sternly that you have boundaries and you need them to be respected shows that you have a strong sense of integrity .

[@christynfowler815]

Beautifully said. Such a poignant speaker. I remember that’s “their shit, not mine…even if I hurt your feelings.” If you love me, we will get over it

[@RichardLaFrance-s7h]

I have but I still love you and miss you so much I want to come see you ❤❤❤❤

[@Potencyfunction]

You have problems in understanding love and hate? Why someone will set boundaries and not want to be around you, weik up and go. Boundaries means go out from my life becuze I cant stand you. There is no forgivness when the boundary is done. You must be delayed to hope for a conciliation in relation. Stay real!

[@jenniferbloh-michael8662]

Am I the only one whose mother taught them problem identification at A VERY young age ? Whose problem is it ? I wish everyone had my mom's mothering , at least for a little while. She expected me to feel responsible for MY actions . And others to be responsible for theirs. That's why my husband's narcissism became his problem , while I released myself from that torture. Go back to kindergarten , and actually learn. And stop manipulating people to fill your roles , you make up. Like your mommy did. Did you not notice how much you hated it ? Enough to take it out on me covertly for 20 years ! Never got your way ? Never got good gifts ? Never got to 'do anything' ? DON'T TAKE IT OUT ON ME !

[@c.h.5389]

This is so good. Women, especially - were raised to "be nice, and not upset people." This self-sacrificing martyrdom denied their own needs, silenced their voices, and didn't give them a place in the world, except for under the direction of a male figure - father, husband, clergy member. When we examine this historically - and generationally - it's sad but fascinating. ❤

[@gjinkalla23]

❤

[@wendyriches8515]

🥰

[@Mushroom321-]

😑😲🙄

[@normanheurtematte]

Man too sometimes, its not a question of gender there

[@dawnallison3070]

I think the most true statement in the world is that we teach people how to treat us. Setting boundaries is a very important aspect of training people how you want to be treated.

[@mschlund1]

One of the many words of wisdom my mom told me growing up, she knew I was an empath too, and needed to hear this

[@joymelaniecloke6222]

@@mschlund1you are one of the few lucky 🍀 ones ! 🙏

[@r.p.1949]

it is actually kind to set boundaries it gives a person an opportunity to grow..

[@Youtuber-le9xx]

I have struggled with this time and time again, I am an empath and I care way too much what people think. But I have been working on myself and so wish me luck as I set boundaries from now on! Good luck to you all!

[@5MARYANNA5]

Good luck to you too !! I feel you! Big empath..and im in that exact same page as you are right now. God its hard 🙈

[@kimberlyshanks1914]

From watching Aaron I stopped people pleasing so much, and I discovered that I don't even know who I am If I am not people pleasing!

[@angelinasamson6996]

I’ve noticed has my self worth elevates my boundaries are naturally setting into place . ❤

[@dashamarkovich7447]

Can you explain more…give examples? I’m at the point of my life where I wish to have this haha

[@miguelrobledogardendesign]

I thought that was a mustache filter! 😂looks good man! Bless up!

[@belle42]

I was like.. Is that a real mustache? So much darker than his normal one. I couldn't even hear what he was saying because the moustache distracted me!😅

[@Bluebell117]

Lol 😅 … I think it’s just more grown out, so looks darker

[@ReleasingResistance]

Same😂 @belle42

[@highvibe_earth]

YAS! I struggled to say “no” for the majority of my 38yrs on this earth, and when I finally decided to start setting healthy boundaries my relationships strengthened or dissipated, and now my life is so much more enjoyable 💜

[@LearnGrowwithAnn]

Setting boundaries is life changing! 🌞🎉

[@Natethegreat-hb3qz]

Absolutely correct. Setting boundaries gains the person that set them love and respect. ❤

[@tigerpaws111]

I was just talking to my best friend yesterday about setting some boundaries in my current realtionship and you described me in a nutshell about me finding it hard to because I feel responsible for how they feel once I do. Crazy synchronicity, thank you! In the past I have set certain boundaires and he wasn't happy but it did actually change our relationship for the better because he respected me more and was more attracted to me, (once the initial emotion of annoyance was out of his mind). Time to put myself first more!

[@louisegriffin8032]

So proud of you! This is an awesome idea and I wish you kids the best, God bless your union 💕

[@emilybutton9693]

I just did that yesterday, and I struggled so much internally because they are a client of mine, and I have to see them every week, but I am SO glad I did it now! He responded with kindness and understanding, and I feel more empowered. I have struggled with boundaries my whole life, so this is a big deal to me! I wish I had seen your video last night, but it was still a great confirmation for me this morning. Thank you!! 😊🙌

[@hazelmora6318]

I love this!… I was talking about it with my life coach yesterday! I don’t like making people feel bad or disappointed so I been learning about boundaries ❤

[@jacobcamerson430]

My mom doesn’t know what’s boundaries and she taught me that I had to abandon myself at her expense. Not anymore! I moved far away from her. Now I’m kind of a ppl pleaser and I’m working on it to remove it.

[@winniewinkles]

Sing it Aaron! Us empaths go round protecting others feelings (about their own behaviour and how we may feel about it) at expense of our own needs, wants. When I set boundaries, all hell broke loose in my (up til then unforeseen narc filled or just selfish person filled) life.. Doh.

[@astridmoons847]

First step in loving yourself and living the life YOU want 💪💫☯️💖

[@warrenisaac5634]

Exactly Right! This is what I am currently working on and it comes down to caring and loving yourself!

[@kristinaburroughs2024]

I literally just finished a conversation setting a boundary and was feeling a bit bad then stumbled across your video. Thank you. 🙌

[@melina4559]

Your video came right at the perfect time, love these synchronicities! Thank you for sharing this message ❤

[@BeMean-n6r]

Your explanation was clear and thorough. Keep up the excellent work!

[@OriginalPiscesTv]

You tell um!

[@seekingspiritualtruth2393]

Perfect message at the perfect time. Thank you!

[@Latoree33]

Yes, sometimes we have to be reminded... Thank you!

[@Kristinewildnfree]

Thank you, I appreciate your wisdom and knowledge! Have a great day!

[@bethanyjo1338]

You’ve made it in your boundary when it’s about the message and the person to the audience and the superficial aspects are no longer sought to be approached.

[@allisonblaustein7898]

Don’t abandon yourself. So true.

[@thebullwhisperer916]

Stach game on point! Now you need to be in an old western!!

[@Mushroom321-]

😄😁😁👏👏

[@n.d.g.naturaldiamondgoddes59]

My boundaries are clear. I express kindness and generosity in unexpected ways. My power lies in detachment...I love knowing that people are always the kindest , always. As they realize I am detached and express my truths and I am clear well it is enchanting, refreshing, mistical and ebdearing...as I see someone behaving as people have been taught , possesive, jelous, fearfull, selfpittying...that is not my responsability to receive and that is the most clear way to distant me from them for I am no longer responding to fix, accept toxic behaviours from anyone..I dont nneed people but they think they need me...I absolutely feel compassionate but when it does not serve me I let go of those energies, situation with ease and choose me.

[@doranvee5944]

As a codependent, I was never used to setting boundaries. I always gave everyone free access to say whatever they want, or do whatever they want.

[@danielagodoy10]

Thank you for sharing . I really needed to hear this today. Its a weird feeling setting boundaries but ultimately I know its a way of respecting myself.

[@louisegriffin8032]

Perfectly said ❤❤❤❤This is Why Aaron is my new favorite relationship Coach 🎉OMG this resonated with me so much especially the part where he said it's their problem for them not to respecting your boundaries, NOT YOURS, So that being said I'm going to Stop giving a Fuck about what these men needs and wants are and focus on mines most of the time until I see genuine reciprocation❤

[@JenniferGramm]

Thank you for helping me with this 🙏

[@s-smith6577]

This message is perfect timing, I set boundaries today and the person did not like it and they tried to make me feel bad. In the past I would have apologized even though I didn't do anything wrong, but I now know that's a trauma response of mine. I've done a lot of difficult healing work and am finally coming into my power. I finally let go of this person and am dealing with shedding this guilt. It's scary to let go, but also feels liberating when I can drop the guilt and realize I'm not responsible for how someone feels when I set a boundary.

[@teacupgoodness]

This was a fun synchronicity! I spoke up about my concerns around your CBA program and got kicked out of the FB group. Thank you for showing me who you are 🙏🏻

[@Bluebell117]

What is CBA program?

[@niloukashfi6096]

Yes I am learning the value of setting boundaries now.Thank you

[@chadking8973]

Needed to hear this thank you

[@WIFAcademy615]

Brother preaching! I’m glad this short is getting attention. It came right on time!

[@mamabeartrue420]

Thanks i needed to see this today ❤

[@Inspiringbeing]

Spanks brother😂and Stay blessed 🙌 😇 🙏 ☺️

[@Finm26]

On the money, exactly when I needed it!

[@imawake11]

This is huge!! I’d never set a boundary in my life and boy did that not work out well for my life. I’m 55 and here to tell you this is extremely important. Set them and hold them tight and firmly in place. Always be kind but know people will push and push but that’s ok when you’ve done this correctly.

[@HappyMindHealthyYou]

Agreed! And a good reminder is setting boundaries means we take the action if boundaries crossed. I think a lot of peeps think they are setting boundaries when they actually expect the other person to change. That’s not boundaries that’s control. That was an aha for me at least…

[@mariannasantorinaiou3535]

Be always powerful and yourself Thank you ❤❤❤❤

[@Ksinthehouse]

Exactly this! 💯💯💯💯🙏🙏🙏

[@mekylieme]

Well, hell to the yes! Right on. I have been feeling guilty for setting boundaries and am considering strengthening them. This makes me feel so much betttta! Thank you so much, Aaron!

[@yhanminimalist972]

This is so true. The people I let go are so concerned about me but when I was around them they did not really care much.

[@samanthawhite8501]

Thank you Aaron, your teaching is very helpful

[@mariareay3831]

I grew up not knowing how to set boundaries whatsoever. Several years ago, I took a course at my local behavioral health agency & when I needed to set a boundary with one of my sisters in law, it was easy to do … only because of the training I had gotten. Thanks for posting this info, Aaron; you’re sharing for others what took me months to learn in the course. Love & blessings to us all as we BE come more of who we already are!! (human BEings, not human havings or human doings … human BEings!). ❤❤

[@soulfate2]

Yea exactly because I don’t want to ruin the fun or mood ..it’s easy to forget this boundary setting (and realise it healthy to set boundaries) and be stronger

[@katjamlinar9500]

One of my top 5 lessons for me in this life. Still mastering it. So true!

[@LLmoney23]

You need a talkshow or podcast! Not sure if you have one as I'm new to your vids but you're very precise and take the patience to explain to others these types of things and it's really refreshing and genuine. Hope you're well and looking forward to more advice and healing. Thanks a bunch💫💫💯💯

[@bellastone-le9eb]

The problem is know how you feel. Knowing what you feel and why you feel that way. If a person doesn't know or cannot identity their feelings or someone else's, it's I Possible to know how to set and respect boundaries. Just a realization I came to watching this. Great video. Thank you

[@brynnwendland3323]

I have just now, after decades of being a doormat, am setting firm boundaries…And am only now learning how small me “family” really is.

[@arlenemccormick]

I always abandoned myself....no more wooooooo! I feel like super woman 😆😆😆🥰🥰🥰 Thank you 😊 🙏

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Same. I would speak up but end up apologizing afterwards bc someone would try to blame shift amd make me feel bad for expressing myself. I would try to fix it tp protect the connection but now I learned that only good hearted people will be kind in response and talk it over. The ones who attack me verbally for communicating my boundary / concern will leave anyway, sooner or later.

[@beyondthecocun8638]

I'm only learning this now. Using I statements and expressing myself and my needs, making requests and declining offers or impositions

[@warlocksuperman8632]

Beautifully explained...I could not have said it better MYSELF...😮😊😇

[@olund88]

Not your responsibility to please everyone , not your responsibility to abandon yourself while elevating others at your expense

[@phoenixrising2231]

We see your growth/ maturation! Keep on on your upward bound trajectory. We're here for it, and appreciative of it! 🙏 Plus, proud of you ❣️🎁

[@yaniechamberland2285]

So smart and clever regarding feelings and relationships. And it works 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

[@Skylightwolkers]

Establishing healthy boundaries is also a nice test against narcissists and sociopaths. they don't like it and either try to cross it in various ways to get what they want from you, or they react aggressively or break off contact so that we chase them so that they can manipulate us. so I like to test people that way too. because a healthy response should be to accept the other person's boundaries and respect them. so that when I set boundaries and the reaction is "why not?", but after explaining the person accepts it, I know that I am dealing with a person with no disorders.😊

[@shaziael-ali7477]

Amazing 👏 Needed to hear this love the shorts sending love and light have a blessed day everybody 🤗🙏🙌🙏🙌

[@goodstufflife]

Working on this. Aaron def speaking my language these days

[@Omscorpius]

And this message is valid.. so true. Ty Aaron 🌹

[@deborahmann961]

Thanks for sharing this ❤️

[@monkeyloven]

Please keep doing videos like this, I need this knowledge and support.

[@CreceTuAlmaTarot]

Absolutely 🙌🏻 thank you Aaron ❤

[@loraliecataldi1975]

Exactly! And I pay such a high price now when I don’t honor my own boundaries, instead of sticking to my boundary last Friday about not wanting to do something because I needed sleep instead I felt guilty as if I was in the wrong when the other responded with sulking and feeling insecure. I ended up only sleeping for 3 1/2 hours and I’ve been sick ever since. All my responsibilities got pushed into next week when I was really needing it to be a light week because of a medical procedure I’m having done and now I’m screwed because all those demands that I needed to do in the last few days has to be done right before my procedure. It’s my fault though, I didn’t stick to my guns and now I’m feeling resentful. Next time I’ll choose to deal with the discomfort of displeasing someone and they have to deal with their insecurities and find a way to find that strength within myself because this has been my pattern my entire life and once that resentment sets in it’s not much longer before I don’t want to be in the relationship anymore.

[@christiethom6386]

Wow he hit that right on I'm so done being a people pleaser and living my life around what others think

[@hungariantankman4607]

Your videos help me getting true some heavy shit that I have been dealing with lately.

[@phxjoshfan]

I ended a 2 1/2 year toxic relationship about 4 months ago. Then just a couple of weeks ago I told someone, that I’ve known for a long time, that only wanted to have a NSA relationship how I felt. His response was “wow that’s a lot”. I kept my promise to myself to never be in that kind of situation or anything that compromises my mental health ever again. I don’t think I’ll hear from him ever again, which is ok. His loss…😊

[@jennifernovelli214]

Epic truth set your higher self free with self-love 💚 Namaste, Beautiful Beings of light 🎉

[@djicebreaker80]

Yes absolutely right , share what does resonate with you and her at the same time & make sure we are on the same page, setting boundaries is important as least I work on myself to improve and actually have a conversation which makes the relationship better

[@iloveyellow7214]

So thank you. I love you(dont worry its not the romantic kind but as a friend or something 😆 Im not trying to make this awkward but you get the idea. I love you as a person and for pointing out to me whats really obvious 😘 I just saw this short while having lunch (hello from tropical Manila🙋🏻‍♀) And you just made things so crystal clear for me. Thank you and have a great day

[@waterlily938]

That's exactly me... not setting boundaries cause I need to please everyone and feel like their emotions come far before mine. I feel happy in someone else's life, I am just not living mine. But, I discovered you at the right time in my life and you're helping me reshaping my mind, body and soul... with much gratitude ❤

[@kejmanik9917]

That's what I finally learned and applied...still hard for me to pull it thru, but I know I can't afford anymore to let me down

[@heathermatthews7422]

This was divine timing! 🌠 Thank you for making this❣️

[@SneakersDanceLife]

You are so gifted. Thank you for your channel!

[@sparkely1122]

I literally lost my entire family because I set boundaries, my boundaries weren’t much other than don’t talk to me like I am garbage don’t ghost me if we set plans that’s rude and don’t talk down to me like I’m a child. Pretty basic stuff really, boy did they not like that it was within an hour we became estranged for years later I still have not talk to these people and I’ll tell you right now. My life has never been better. I should have done this a long time ago I am completely free I was able to grow to realize how much I love myself and how much of an amazing person. I actually am such a beautiful journey with those people out of my life. It doesn’t matter if their family , family is just a thought come from a belief then you mix in some memories and emotions and boom you feel guilty. If somebody mystery two and devalues you, it’s time to go.

[@Bluebell117]

Totally here you, same happened to me after our mum passed away - finally stood up for myself and they all blocked me! 😅 … best thing that ever happened to me 🕊️✨

[@sparkely1122]

@@Bluebell117 ahhhhhh congrats pal! Takes SO MUCH courage to do what we have done! Even years later I’ll feel lonely but if you find that, just allow it to be! Much love!! Rock on to getting rid of horrible humans from treating us with anything other than respect!!! ✊

[@fibromyalgiame2135]

I had to watch this a few times. I couldn't quite concentrate properly....you are a beautiful human being ❤

[@godspark6558]

I'm learning to set better boundries.

[@DropsofJupiter1212]

I talk alot sometimes but actually communicating, feelings? Trickier than i thought is would be.

[@leslieferwerda1493]

Thank you❤ I struggle with this all the time..

[@user-ik8wd9vm7r]

I agree with this but not completely. Taking responsibility for their feelings is also important, if they are close to you or are in something with you so even more. sharing how you feel is important too.

[@ceciliamac4283]

Exactly 🎯

[@gardenlover9663]

I finally said how I felt to my niece. She kicked me out of her home. Totally worth it.

[@BURLESQFITACADEMY]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

[@michaelg.5650]

Well, if you do choose to express how you feel to someone else, then you should also give them the respect to express how they feel in return, whether or not they do that respectfully. It’s best to try to understand where they’re coming from and if their actions, behavior or intentions are toxic and don’t align, then consent, and establish strict boundaries or just decide to cut that person off completely, but you should definitely be upfront, honest and direct about that as best you can.

[@misstango1001]

Oh wow. U explained it so now what I’m going through makes sense. Saving this one to reread as necessary. Than you

[@gtiszavari8429]

Well said, set your boundary and if the other person doesn't honor it, allow it to fall away naturally, coz essentially you've done your bit. No beating yourself up because you spoke your truth, make peace with that 🤍 Also haven't watched your videos for awhile until now, that stache' you got going on is quite amazing..well done Aaron!

[@nicolemcdavitt23]

Love the stach Aaron!

[@barbicooley8277]

I am definitely working on this one. Thank you for the perspective

[@_InsertName_]

THANK YOU. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS.

[@MyssKyssable]

Yesss!!! I definitely needed this!! 💖

[@yvonnestar5555]

I appreciate your clear message. It's so powerful. Btw I love your new look . You look awesome 😎, thank you for sharing 🙂. I appreciate it so much .

[@Sorg22]

Absolutely wonderful advice! Regardless of the stash.😅