Why Should You Date Someone? | Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke

[@kevingibson5894]

She looks at him with such amazement, you can tell that she really loves him. I want a love like that.

[@standin4life]

So true. So beautiful.

[@BINGOFRESH09]

Trust me best feeling world. When you look at the person you know you have such unconditional love ❤️ for them

[@cookiessanapanya5347]

I want a love like that as well

[@thewilliam131]

+cookies sanapanya Guys guys, no person can have unconditional love unless it's God's love through them, and we are all loved by God, so we are all loved unconditionally but mos of us dont see it or feel it because we feel the need to have intamacy with a physical human being. We should seek God in relationships peeps! awesomeness

[@jakuteng]

#relationshipgoals

[@PennyTovar]

All relationships end up either in marriage or heartbreak (break ups, divorce). Date with the intention to have an eternal marriage!

[@PureDating]

Amen. So true.

[@EddieBsTakeout]

Sooooooo true. Thank you for this!

[@HeartOGlobe]

Amen!!! Though God is able to bring a peaceful end to relationships that aren't His plan for us. That was a prayer of mine towards the end of a relationship, which he answered. We just have to be careful to actually let things go when God says so. And I'm marriage case, pray His will and seek it! For longevity and Biblical success!!!

[@HeartOGlobe]

in* marriage case

[@Not_Mii_Uus]

CurlyPenny just had to say this..... death is another ending.... but i guess that counts as heartbreak. wasnt sure who else thought of that

[@Balthazar2242]

For men, I think it is extremely important for them to put all the cards on the table for the potential girlfriend to see so she can have that security. So when you ask someone to date you, you can show them that you are not just trying to get with them for fun and that you'll ditch them when it stops being fun because that's the goal. You need to basically show them "I like you a lot, and I want to have an intimate relationship with you. If all goes well, the end product would be a _permanent_ relationship. I'm committed to that if things go well with us, I'm not just messing around with you." I'm not a woman, but I think women like to know what's on the table and where the boundaries are upfront so they secure about it. No tricks.

[@johnnycha-rach1112]

Steven Bowser I think at the same time that women should as well put all the cards on the table so to speak. Both men and women need to be honest and transparent

[@Dr.Nellah]

I love the way Alyssa just looks at you when you're speaking and not the camera idk I find that endearing lol but yeah thanks for the vid!!

[@alejandroortiz9151]

❤️

[@JeffersonBethkepage]

NEW VIDEO! Hope it's a blessing to you all!

[@samushunter0048]

Extremely knowledgeable and very helpful. Thanks Jeff!

[@jonathanerridge442]

Enjoyed it as usual. Thanks for sharing and for offering insight into your grace filled life :)

[@CHONGHOON]

Nice shirt!! :D

[@mmr0875]

i can't wait for the next video, right now we are planning to finally make a home! and I'm so excited but as well nervous of wanting everything to be perfect and not just beautiful life!!!

[@loribellz]

Amazing! I am so excited for all the great things coming this year! I already have your book and can't wait for Alyssa's!!

[@KateLately]

I grew up in a home where my parents would always tell us "if you don't see him as your husband, don't date him". It has helped me so much during my teenage, early adult years. Thank you for the encouragement! I am starting to date again after being in a very long term, almost engaged relationship and I am truly trying to focus on doing it God's way.

[@nataliesoutlet]

My sister is hooked on your channel. She loves your work and you have really inspired her. She is currently in France on a really fun missionary trip and im here in her room looking through her bible journal and found some of your work. Im happy I came across it :)

[@andreeanasca8216]

what about getting to know them as friends, and if they end up being your best friend, start dating? don`t just date from the beginning, build a real friendship first!

[@Murph_gaming]

How often does that actually happen though? There has to be a romantic vibe otherwise you'll end up just being friends. Of course there is a friendship dynamic to a relationship but there has to be more to it.

[@DisneySinger12]

This really helped me right now. A week ago, my ex broke up with me, and it's been hard. We had decided that we wanted marriage WAS going to be the destination, and then he changed his mind at some point. Never once did he talk to me about it and how his feelings had changed. So that really hurts. Still, your video really encouraged me to find myself in the Lord, and gave me ideas on how to date the right way when I'm ready to get back into that. Thank you so much. You two are incredible.

[@rugareta]

Honestly Alyssa and Jeff I LOVE you both. I read a lot, I've dated before and I have listened to various messages and podcasts, but you guys are TOPS! It's so refreshing to have honest, frank advice from people my age and not some old foggie who is super disconnected and idealistic, or just plain religious. THANK YOU! Don't stop being real and repping Abba in the amazing way you both do.

[@lovelylaura2802]

i love that at 2:35 Alyssa just smiles knowing he is on a roll.

[@IluvHKong]

As a undergrad college student, marriage is the first thought I have when I think of dating :/

[@BeautyFromAshes91]

I definitely needed to hear this. I have been struggling lately with dating. I'm one of those girls that's in her early 20's that has NEVER dated out of fear of getting it wrong and out of wanting the first guy I date to be "the one." Dating is a scary world in my eyes, but I know God is calling me to step out on the waters here soon. This video helped me tremendously.

[@victorialopez8101]

I really appreciate the fact that you and your wife aren't afraid to , "to go there" most people wouldn't and don't want to bring up issues and questions that are important like this one most people are dating at the age of 10, 11,or 12 when they really don't know what they want. Thanks for this video!

[@ktloveland]

Hey Jeff, I just wanted to say, I am a youth pastor just outside of Charlotte NC and I've just started a series with my youth group on the topic of dating. I find that a lot of them are so focused on it that its all they talk about (typical teenager stuff). However, I say that to say you really touched on a good bit of stuff i'm going to be talking about. My wife and I (married june 1st 2013 so almost 8 months) also run the college and career ministry so I really appreciate all your videos. Also of course...reading your book right now and i'm almost done...two words....LOVE. IT! God Bless!

[@WildaMarieRivera]

"No relationship is in vain"... That is GREAT news and I felt such huge relief in my heart.

[@motogp2375]

I needed this today! Just recently broken up with my girl and its hard to move on but i was told to look at it in a positive way. Like u both said, people come into your life to teach you a lesson/grow and vice versa to them. Im just hoping that the next person i meet we'll be able to build a lifetime together. Thanks for the video!

[@kisakye92]

Weird comment-->I get a peaceful feeling as I watch her watching him talk! She looks like she's in total adoration. Does she look at everyone like that or just him?

[@MrDaMaster2]

I think it's really close minded to not allow yourself to date without the intention of marriage. You learn from your mistakes and you grow as a person from your experiences, and if limit your experiences on purpose, you're only hurting yourself. This is not to say the people who only have one relationship that ends up being successful are bad people, but they never experienced a lot of what goes on in a relationship that doesn't work. You date to find out what you like and who you are as a person. I'm in a relationship right now that I could see going to marriage, and I hope that it does, but I didn't limit myself hoping that I would find the 'one,' she just happened to appear in my life and I don't plan on letting her go.

[@adinadenisa4142]

I don't agree with you. A lover is someone that is there for you, supports you, loves you and cares about you. If you date with the mindset that "It's just an experience for now.", that means you don't see a future with them. Experiences are alright, but I want to experience things in other domains, and when things go wrong, at least I know someone will always be by my side, and they're not an "experience" too. It's a little bit offensive for the ones that never had a lover and are trying to find the right person. That's just my opinion though, and it's important to date someone with a similar view of life as you.

[@james-yn8gl]

Like mr Loveland I am a youth pastor in nj. My wife works with me as well. This helped break down a huge question that almost all teens Christian or not have. Thank you both for your effort and ministry. Praying for you guys to continue.

[@Jkila25]

God needs to be the center of it all!

[@PureDating]

No doubt about it. If He's at the center of both lives, He'll be at the center of their dating.

[@ashkatXO]

PureDating Amen!

[@Ashley-cw5ou]

I love how you both work together to try to tell things the way they should be told.

[@juliadavis2277]

How do you tell someone, when you date, that hey I am dating with the intent to marry not just for recreation? When would be a good time to say that? On the first date or later on in the relationship?

[@paigelewis2270]

Thank you Alyssa for your comment about no relationship being in vain or a failure. It was very encouraging to hear since I just came out of a rough 2 year relationship. I was feeling like I just wasted so much time and energy, but this video has encouraged me to see the growth that came out of that time and not just the hurt. I thank you guys so much, you are a beautiful couple(:

[@SxVaNm345]

I literally could not agree with this video any more than I already do. But I'm paraphrasing here... Very logical and sound.

[@jskride6786]

Hahaha! Just a little encouragement, and affirmation! When I watch your videos Jefferson, whether it's your relationship videos with Alyssa, or your spoken word, or just even your videos about Kinsley.. I prosper! You base your life on the truth, and it is sooo good! GOD is so evident and real in your life, and it encourages me. When I watch your videos, I am humbled! And just something else to share! I'm here watching your videos on a school night at 1:30 am in the morning, and I'm thinking "Man, I should really go to sleep.." Haha! But at the same time, I'm at peace! The same peace I receive from QT when I read His word, and just spend time with Him! At the same time, I was just laying there watching your video on "Darkness being defeated" and I was thinking, this is SO worth it... Hahaha! GOD bless, Bethke family!

[@janellesaloga6938]

Alyssa's voice is so cute and adorable. Love it!!

[@pdoll96]

I'm an older woman and a single mom and I must say, I admire your walk with The Lord and what you are allowing Him to do with you. I think this is a topic that will not only be helpful to my teen, but myself as well ;) Thanks for being a blessing!

[@PureDating]

Thanks guys! I really appreciate your vision to help young people in the area of dating. You're doing a great job. May The Lord bless you and use you

[@SheenaHartman]

I've always found myself asking The Lord why it didn't work with him or another, watching this video it just makes so much since. I needed those relationships to grow and realize who I want in life and didn't want. (Such as qualities) you two are fantastic. Thank you for the words from The Lord

[@Angela-Renae]

Boy did this come right on time!!!....This is why I've had to reevaluate my purpose in dating. Thanks for this!

[@No1Trinity]

"Relationships are messy and not perfect at all" Thanks Alyssa for acknowledging that. I'm a believer who is so scared of marriage. I know marriage is ordained by God yet I find myself freaked out by the thought of total commitment. I'm looking forward to this series, thanks guys for being such a blessing.

[@risk2193]

The idea of relationships or relationships in general seem so twisted in this generation. Glad to see some light in the darkness ✌

[@alyssaperry00]

Thank you so much for this video, I am a teenage girl I love The Lord so much but many high schoolers don't wanna hear it and dating is one of the problems they think I'm dumb for not dating just to have someone to talk too. Once again I can't thank you enough.

[@marmallorca4868]

dating is for courting... dating is way more serious than people make it. ppl really aren't dating... just fooling around. knowing that, it's been hard to even take dating seriously for me.

[@AreYouSpoken4]

Thank you both very much. Over the years I also have had the mentality of having as little to do with dating as possible. I wanted indulge in as little as possible and never wanted it to be in vain. This video has changed the way I view dating a good bit. Thanks again, both of you. God bless

[@amayaraymond4486]

Hey I want to know how u keep god in your relationship. How do u still lean on god and not on your partner. How do u not get distracted by each other. While trying to maintaining the relationship?

[@itsaaronleetv]

Was going through the most painful break up in my life . But this video , gave me encouragement to be better . A better Christian . I dated this one girl whom i love with all my heart but in the end she decides to leave.. and she changed into someone different . Shes a very strong believer in christ , but sometimes i dont understand why certain things happen and why it couldnt be saved . Since if we are Christians , arent we suppose to be forgiving and also helping one another to grow . A lot went through my mind but thankful , like both of you said . The lord knows what is best for you .

[@galilee18]

Alyssa and Jeff. How do you deal with the possibility that God might not have marriage in his will for you, when it is something that you greatly desire?

[@RebeccaSong]

I was the same position as you were...and I recommend you reading "Just Do Something: A Liberating Approach to Finding God's Will" It's was such a eye opener and it answers questions like yours! Best wishes. x

[@TerrellHarris]

so do you believe God won't meet your desires?

[@galilee18]

Terrell Harris It is not that I do not believe that God will not or cannot meet my desires. It is a question of how to accept and deal with what you desire not being in God's will for your life. We all have desires and wants, that does not mean that they fit into what God wants for us.

[@maggeeelwell3761]

In Romans I believe, Paul touches on this subject. (Or Peter or something...I will find the exact reference and repost if I remember) This guy (paul or peter again, not sure) states that it is very hard to remain single and that if you can do it props to you. He says that it is good to remain celibate (spelling?) and that if you do keep in mind that you will be tempted your entire life. Again I am just paraphrasing but I will do my best re-post what the Bible says on this topic.

[@galilee18]

Ok, thank you. I'll research myself as well

[@ForTheL0veofMusic]

You two have blessed me during a very difficult time for me with your positivity, wisdom, and experience. Keep rocking on ya'll.

[@jellyfishpancakes5]

I agree with your definition of dating!

[@julias1367]

Every time I watch a video from you, it always brings me to tears. So honest and true.

[@RythemNTheRain]

Alyssa just loves him! I want to know if Alyssa ever had trouble telling guys she was celibate. I've had many people tell me it's not possible anymore

[@Look2TheSky101]

You heard it's not possible for what? People no longer celibate?

[@dogloverxz]

Alyssa just melts my heart! She is so sweet and I love having her as a role model.

[@ydnicydni]

this video is what I've been trying to explain to my friends! wow. thank you.

[@Savedbygrace015]

Alyssa, I am so excited for your book.Robin Jones Gunn is one of my favorite Christian authors and have been anticipating this book since I read about it in her newsletter. I think your collaboration will be an amazing book and cannot wait to read it

[@johnlane6235]

I just discovered you guys and i just want to Thank you for what you are doing in the name of Jesus. Whats cool is that I now live in the Pacific northwest which strangely was said in one of the first videos I watched. Im not on any social media and this is pretty much as far as I want to go when it comes to the internet. I would definitely like to share my testimony a little more but before that I hope that God and He will Bless you both in all ways as possible because theres not many that are doing what you're doing. And also that your marriage and future generations prosper in the name of Jesus.. Since i could remember I just knew this calling to be a servant my whole life was much more than what was already put in my way to keep me from seeing my divine purpose, unfortunately it had to happen when I lost my mother but I truly believe that as a true believer, we live for others just how Jesus did. In about a month now ima be going off to a Bible school and I have to say that it was not part of the plan to be where im at today in my life(at least in my own mind). You guys are inspiring and are inspiring others like myself to looking forward into Glorifying God even more in my walk Him. All Praise and Honor be to God.

[@dannyokezie7656]

I completely and totally agree with you guys. I'm a 16year old girl and I discovered all this for myself last year. I have "dated" some guys before, but those relationships were simply pointless, I was too young to even date. I didn't even know what i was doing, all I knew was that I enjoyed being the centre of someone's attention. Many, MANY teens now do the same and they don't realize it. I decided last year that I'm still growing, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally. I'm still discovering who I am, and I think it is ABSOLUTELY important that an individual gets to know and understand him/herself before dating. So I've decided to not date anyone till I know who I am and I'm comfortable and confident with the person I am, before I date anyone again. Because really, it makes no sense dating now. I'm definitely not planning on getting married soon, so it's just going to be break up after break up, and heart ache after heart ache. Ain't nobody got time for that!

[@solbee350]

Thank you Jeff and Alyssa :-)

[@SashaTheConqueror]

I think it is such a big deal to have the woman's perspective on issues like this. I hope that Alyssa will continue to appear in future videos, I think she's very insightful and some of the things Jeff was describing that didn't really stick with me, she kind of translated into terms I could understand (that's HUGE). God bless the daylights out of you two!! :)

[@patrickneal1061]

Best dating advice from Christians I have ever heard keep up the Good work Jeff and Alyssa

[@ashkatXO]

I love the quote Jeff used at the beginning. :)

[@patrickneal1061]

yes most def and I like how the point was made to know that when dating you should always have in mind if you want to go with the next level with this person which is marriage.

[@ashkatXO]

Patrick Neal Exactly. If you cannot see yourself spending the rest of your life with that person, there's no reason to waste your time or theirs. I have never been a fan of just dating just to date (also known as serial dating).

[@patrickneal1061]

you know whats funny ive heard that term serial dating and when I heard of it I thought about actual box cereal that ppl eat everyday and when they done with it or don't like it they move to another brand and that can go with most ppl out dating now lol don't ask how this stuff comes to mind lol

[@wildflower789]

This was really good. I really wish I would've realized this stuff MANY years before I finally did. In my pre-Christian days, I did all the wrong things, and it has taken years for me to be restored from all the crap I went through in the past. So I can relate to what you said, J. Thanks and God bless you guys!

[@cesarburgos5403]

I don't know why but I cried

[@trishgee3945]

I really appreciate your videos. They are really helping me put Christianity and our relationship with God into perspective. I was lost and very confused for a long time especially in my dating relationships about what God expects of me as a Christian woman and I was constantly anxious about Gods will being a DOT that I am possibly missing. I did not feel free in my relationship with God and your videos have helped me see things in a different light. Thank you.

[@isaachiorns5519]

Amazing is an understatement...

[@ashleycampbell4973]

Really appreciate this video. I just got out of a five and a half year relationship with my boyfriend, and we grew so much in the Lord together, we are both 22 and he has been in bible college and Im also in school. Recently he feels as though the Lord is leading him to a life in missions oversees and not really sure if he wants a family. I on the other hand want to be married and a family, and we were planning on marrying each other and headed in that direction. It is pretty crazy how much his heart has changed and how hard this break up has been. I know the Lord is working through this for our good, but its incredibly hard to see and accept and try to maintain joy. I loved how Alyssa was talking about it not being wasted or in vain. It was a good break up, and I am so excited for him and what God is calling him to do, but so much time and love went into our relationship as well as future planning. We both have a passion for Gods kingdom so its really hard to understand. Any advice on how to deal with a break up with a great person??

[@Callai101]

This video blessed me

[@boriuachris]

This is AWESOME! I've been blessed to be in a situation currently which embodies everything you touched on in this video. I'm on a journey with a wonderful, God-fearing woman who I definitely have a future vision of. Just really refreshing and great to hear your sound perspective approach on how to actually go about dating! God bless you both! Can't wait for the next video!

[@nabihussaini3745]

I really enjoy your work in Christ. Keep it up the both of you.

[@CRazz2234]

Good video and good advice. That quote at the beginning was great! While attending a Christian college we were assigned to read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris. I was very frustrated while reading it. I felt like it was extremely detrimental for Christians, especially girls, to read. During high school I dated a guy and it definitely wasn't serious and we didn't have any intent to get married. I had brought all of my struggles and brokenness to God regarding my past relationships and knew that I had 100% been forgiven. Then while reading this book in college Joshua Harris talks about your wedding night and how if you date someone and breakup that person will have a portion of your heart forever and you won't be able to give your full heart to your husband. Each person you date takes a part of you with them. That's not how forgiveness works. If it was that way we would all be screwed. Thank goodness for Jesus! I knew while reading the book that I didn't agree with a lot of what was written. But it made me feel scared and worried for my Christian friends that hadn't been in relationships and one day, if the Lord wills, they would be. I know that guarding your heart is important but that doesn't mean running the opposite direction of someone of the opposite sex or anyone you have an attraction to. After dating (not courting) my my husband before we were married I can say we were able to both grow, in our relationship and together in Christ, just fine and were able to forgive ourselves and each other for past failures. After I heard the words "Joshua Harris" I felt the need to share my view on his book. Anyway. I really did love your video and I thought you gave great advice.

[@joelercoaster]

In another video she said he was her first BF and now she said she went through two hard breakups?

[@tarannaramore750]

+joelercoaster I could be wrong, but I think I saw in another video that they broke up themselves while they were dating and then got back together.

[@andreakyle7788]

+joelercoaster In Alyssa's book Spoken for she talks about how she felt led to break-up with him, and they did.

[@alexandracordero5880]

The way that they look at each other. Precious!

[@gabrielsantana3105]

Hey Jefferson, i would ask you to speak a little bit slowly. I'll make my comprehension be better because I'm Brazilian and I love your videos. Thanks in advance.

[@FabianaLuchini]

Now that I'm a mom of a teenage.. I can tell your videos are great.. we talked a lot with our son but it is good to have someone talking about this subject too.. thanks!!!

[@brodmitkase]

Her voice.

[@meryg825]

Hey guys! Thanks for sharing this, it was very refreshing! I would love to listen to your opinions and advices for couples who are getting prepared for marriage. Thanks a lot and blessing! Greetings from Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic

[@DavidLoveJanet]

I feel Christians should enter courtship not dating

[@Dpiiiius]

same thing

[@Kelsie5]

I fully agree.

[@tidalwave71]

what is the difference! can explain??

[@DavidLoveJanet]

Hey tidalwave71 when you look at all the love stories in the bible that mention marriage, not when one cheats or one sleeps with prostitute, there were no dating phase. There was no need to break up and then say ok we will not be together . They all saw Gods will for each other,pursued each other and married. What is Dating? Dating is engaging with the opposite or same sex(homosexuality=sin) without an expected end. You don't know if you'll marry but you are just hanging out with emotional and many other benefits, as far as one chooses to go. Spends a ton of time alone which presents a ton of temptations Family most times isn't as involved Foreplay, not going all the way, going all the way, "test driving each other" No clear purpose-- just a lot of conditional dating & confusion on "where is this relationship going??!) Plays house. Calls each other wifey & hubby & does husband & wife like things but has no commitment There's still a option to date others, ya'll aren't totally sold & still "trying each other out" So what is courting? How can it be explained and done in the 21st century? Takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage. Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times. Courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner. Courtship allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. More on my blog: janetasongonuga.blogspot.com/2013/08/lukewarm-christians-yes-i-love-him-but.html Hope this helps

[@tidalwave71]

Janet Songonuga ahhh! that was useful, thanks! ^_^ might have needed to hear some of that :)

[@whit3999]

Alyssa mentioned that there is wisdom for who you should and shouldn't date. Could you guys do a video focused on that? Thank you :D your videos have been such a blessing to me!

[@JmPie74]

On a serious note (ignore my face) I went through the comments and see only older people. Teens and Kids these days are drifting from the lord, It's sad. It's also hard from people like me to find girls. I have one now, but earlier I never found one. I finally did and soon, soon I will marry her lol. Maybe.

[@TokinMystic12]

face ignored.

[@africanqueen552]

@ Jmop74, lol...you made my day....hahahaha...talking about "ignore my face" lol you are hilarious. You have a blessed day. I wish you and your girl the best. Peace :)

[@JmPie74]

***** :) thats what its all about making peoples day!!!!!

[@africanqueen552]

***** Amen and Amen! I hear you. You certainly did made my day yesterday and I thank you for it. May you be blessed always.

[@mildarbs]

When you're young I think dating is very important for life lessons; discovering what you want, how to treat people, growing up. It is an important part of life, so that you can discover what you want for your future, ie. If you want to marry

[@piti524]

I am scared to date :/

[@Ooshlii]

+Priscila Palma Hey, girl! If you are looking for more Christian advice/beauty/lifestyle youtubers, check out my brand new channel! Let me know what you think! And if you are scared to date, maybe you aren't ready, and that is totally ok!

[@Kaitlyn10967]

I needed to hear this, such an inspiration and so much truth in it. Thank you!

[@JeffersonBethkepage]

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[@steveowings6459]

I watched your video about not wearing tattoo's. I don't eat meat or have tattoos and my name is GRACE

[@MyShepherdLeadsMe]

You two are very cute together, what a breath of fresh air. You bring tears to my eyes. Bless you both.

[@4evaLovinJesus]

My Question: Will you show us your baby when she is born, Pretty please? (Everyone like this comment so they will see it please? :)))

[@stevend15]

keep this up. it is so encouraging and so appreciated by so many. this is the exact stage that I am at in life right now and exactly what I need. thank you so much and God bless.

[@everettlogan2433]

Because you can't date when you both want to just have fun because that would be "selfish"

[@everettlogan2433]

***** That last part is really all that needs to be said, I just don't feel like marriage is the greatest thing I'll accomplish in life. So putting it in such high regards seems absurd to me. Similar to if I were to say "If you eat meat without the intention to workout after words, you're just wasting the protein that someone else could've used."

[@betylaguerrera]

Marriage is a calling not everyone is called to. But dating is pointless if not intending to get married. Just be friends and have fun.

[@morelikeHim7]

I have recently discovered your channel and subscribed. Awesome quote in beginning, although I saw it as "dating" for years even after I got saved, later I referred to my wife and I as "courting" each other in the beginning, even before marriage was on the table. Perhaps this seems really "old school" or as an argument of semantics but, for me it helped to take getting involved with a girl more seriously and distinguish between my selfish intentions, and God's will for my life. I hope this is helpful and helps others, as well. God bless you, bro!

[@In3inity]

man i used to be a big fan of this guy but hes seldom videos and never answering questions people want to know put me off him.. still a good guy but not exactly the person he tries to portray

[@ydnicydni]

what questions are you looking to have answered?

[@cyberxspeed]

Why not just ask your pastor? Jeff isn't the only knowledgeable christian in this world. He's just one guy with hundreds of thousands of viewers/subscribers. With that many people following him, his email is most likely flooded daily by the hundreds. I'd probably be overwhelmed by the amount of questions coming in if I were in his position.

[@In3inity]

ydnicydni ***** i dont actually have questions i have done my own research and my relationship with jesus is wonderful but instead of him uploading videos regarding his book or miscellaneous things it would be much more beneficial for people who actually do have questions to answer common problems.. hes initial videos and the reason he has a big following was due to him answering the common issues with christians, he has a great platform with so many viewers and i just dont think he realizes the position and power he has

[@dkd5063]

Let's stop judging the work of others and think about doing some work ourselves. You found the questions weren't answered, DID YOU UPLOAD ANY VIDEO TO ANSWER THE UNANSWERED QUESTIONS? I am pretty sure NO! because if you did, then you wouldn't have so much spare time as to criticise. God bless

[@In3inity]

Love God you clearly missed the point

[@rmlehman15]

Thank you so much for your videos. I just discovered your channel a few days ago, and you have already offered me so much encouragement. God is really speaking in and through you both.

[@karolinefagervikgregersen]

I felt like I was sitting in your living room. You guys are so wise and I love listening to your thoughts and experiences! God bless!

[@chriszhao1992]

You guys are definitely an inspiration! Keep inspiring young people who are still searching! Thanks and God Bless! Much loves! xo

[@laurenpeterson1756]

SO encouraging! Can't wait for of the other videos in this series! they are going to be awesome no doubt (: so incredibly relevant in my life right now. thanks guys!!!!

[@laurahoey7345]

Thank you so much Jeff! Your insight & the way God uses you is wonderful. Thank you May God continue to bless you & your marriage & continue to use the both of you for His glory

[@JamesTsividis]

No relationship is in vain. That's a great quote!

[@jibberz11]

Thanks Jeff! Your videos have been a constant encouragement to me! Praising God for your ministry!

[@NLandes]

Hey you guys those precious pieces of advice brings me a good wisdom and make me understand what is the core of dating. Bless you guys !

[@jamesongiamo4932]

At ENC its "Ring before Spring". lol. pressure for marriage is quick. you guys are great. thanks for what you do

[@kimberlyjeffries3960]

Thank you for sharing this. I just got out of relationship and it did not last long but definitely brought some pain. You guys are awesome!

[@CameronPak]

Haven't really watched too many of your videos, but stuff like this is very relatable. Thank you for your thoughts on this topic! They're very encouraging.

[@xflashinLITESx]

Very good to hear you sharing the ups nd downs of dating and how it can also benefit... Looking forward to learning more

[@gears2burn]

I never looked at it that way. So true

[@fireinmyhair]

Hey guys! It's awesome how you two stand up for Godly values in 2014! It's so needed and encouraging for the rest of us. Getting more love out there is one of the most important things we can do. But, I hope you don't mind a little constructive criticism (Jeff specifically). I don't think the word "normal" quite does the job you want it to, as that word has different meanings for different parts of the world and different cultures. Who decides what is normal? I would have sticked with "hang out like firends"/"get to know each other" etc. You do say that too, which of course makes it clear what you mean, but then again, it says "this is what is normal in this context and nothing else". Just a few thoughts. Thanks again for the video!

[@jaojr16]

Thanks so much for this video guys. I can tell you guys are genuine. Dating for me isn't the easiest thing to do so this really encouraged me. A question I have for you guys is: How do you deal with someone in your life who doesn't appreciate what you do for them? I have been praying so much for my friend and God keeps telling me to be patient with her and to keep showing her love, but it's so hard to do that for someone who isn't appreciate of it. Thanks again! God bless!

[@matthewwrotensings]

This was a really refreshing topic to listen to, while being in a relationship. Thank you both and may God continue to bless your relationship together! God is ABLE!

[@NitroAnon]

I've been saying this for years. I'm glad this video got made, and by someone who means it.

[@mariocosorioj1671]

I have thought like this about dating since I was a young child not knowing why, I just thought maybe it was my dream to marry young. Some of my good friends back in high school told me I fall for someone I date to easy. Then I fell from grace and began dating for selfish reasons after reaching my adolescent years, now I know the reason why and can't take it back but I hope my future has a different path then my past. Thank you to the both of you, opening my eyes slowly but surly.

[@abigailm013]

It's interesting how this video just came up. Yesterday my friend actually asked me if I was planning on marrying my boyfriend and I told her yes. My intention throughout my whole relationship is (like you guys said) the intention of getting married. I'm glad I'm not the only one who believes that that is true.

[@edg2293]

Your videos are such a great blessing and encouragement. Looking forward to the next part!

[@amandapitre5828]

Thank you so much! This video has been a great encouragement to me, as I broke up with my boyfriend & great friend last month. We're both Christians and he was so kind about it, but as you all know, breakups aren't easy. Alyssa, completely agree with you when you said (good) relationships aren't in vain, and Jefferson when you mentioned growing closer to God as a result. Both were true in my case. And thanks for the encouragement about not being afraid to get in another relationship. It will be a bit, as I see there as things I need to do/learn first, but that was very encouraging and I needed that. Thanks guys! :)

[@mandz10]

Stay strong!! I know EXACTLY how you feel :) HE loves you so much, and we don't know why sometimes it hurts but keep believing x

[@amandapitre5828]

mandsalive There's a song called "Blessings" by Laura Story, and the chorus says: "What if your blessings come through raindrops, What if your healing comes through tears, What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near, What if my greatest disappointments, Or the aching's of this life, Is the revealing for a greater thirst This world can't satisfy, What if trials of this life Are Your mercies in disguise." I know God's in control and has something and someone better in store for both myself and my friend - and I hope he finds a great woman!