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0:00 The Techlead's wife left him and took his son
0:40 All my girlfriends left me
3:31 Communication woman vs. man
5:25 Men are not aware of their feelings
6:10 Girls/women need emotional stability
8:46 Make sure that you feel good and the girl will never leave you
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[@missMagbeth]

As a woman i completely agree. Thank you for putting an effort in trying to figure that out. I always feel what my partner feels. I thought that men just like to hide their feelings from everyone and pretend. But from your video i understand that they may not be aware of their feelings themselves. Wow

[@Moons_mooniverse]

Thanks for sharing Venus!! When I learned this my life changed a lot. And today I'm living a life in love & peace with my girl :)

[@Heydad956]

@Just Chill I'mma call it for what it is. Men aren't raised well nowadays. They're taught to repress their emotions and soon they forget they even have them

[@ReplayEcho]

As a man I’m aware of my own feelings. I can’t always decipher them correctly though. But one thing to take into account is if your husband/boyfriend is working a lot and trying to level up life for both of y’all you gotta realize your not always gonna be first on his mind. Men deal with multiple stressors on a day to day basis im still learning to control stress im only 22 years old. I’m not siding one way or the other I believe alot of these topics are circumstantial. For instance if your man is trying to get you a house so y’all can raise a family and he’s doing what he’s supposed to and busting his butt he’s gonna be focusing on how to get out of that situation. Now that doesn’t excuse him if you sit down with him and let him know you feel unloved/ uncared for in a emotional capacity. And he doesn’t respond appropriately that is completely on him. I’m against bad communication. If you have an issue with something of your partner you should be able to bring it up to him instead of lashing out or bottling emotions until the point you lose interest and look for someone new.

[@dante19890]

men also arent as emotional as women at default. Meaning we rather go off reason and logic than emotion.

[@dante19890]

men dont feel they way a women are feeling. Neither should we

[@MostInterestingManInTheWrld]

This aged badly

[@movement2contact]

Why, what happened...? 🤔

[@amadiohastruck4331]

Yeah, why?

[@morallybankrupt1461]

You remind me of a Bond villain.

[@philliam111]

That's probably why he thinks tech lead is a nice guy

[@TommyGunzzz]

​@@philliam111😂

[@HackersSun]

great, now its SCARRED into my head

[@chiminhtran7534]

You should make more videos bout this topic. Great to see somebody come from both side of the spectrum

[@deepstatecia]

This is the most scary creepy guy I have ever seen.

[@criptik5208]

Who came here after his new video on japan visit

[@Fibonacci4ever]

Excellent synopsis my friend. Great style. Much clarity. Big respect.

[@landoc05]

Patrick just has a very masculine sense of humor: dripping sarcasm, rational, mocking emotions. For us as his fans it's funny, but that sort of humor must be tough as hell for anyone who has him as a friend, and impossible for a wife. I'm not even sure Patrick has any friends.

[@nartmaxxing]

LOL if u think this. Its all looks.

[@milesbennet4572]

@@nartmaxxingYeah true, jeremy meaks has the brain of a potatoe and yet he dates billionaire model

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

@@nartmaxxingi hope you can forgive your mother someday

[@covalentbond7933]

@@ediblelipscrubs9466 underrated highly wise response

[@harunskywalker4942]

What the hell are you talking about???

[@amadiohastruck4331]

Dude is hollow!

[@marionwallsten7507]

Well spoken ! 😊

[@coolhead8686]

Depending on the level of maturity in the woman. If she needs to be entertained all the time then she is not right for marriage. Marriage involved a lot of day to day responsibilities. Not only the man in the marriage needs to grow up, but the womn also. The reason men are attracted to immature women is because they are fun to be with. These girls are willing to go anywhere and do anything with you. But they are not fit for marriage. After marriage either they will leave the boring marriage life or you will divorce them because you have enough.

[@messageinthebottle1673]

Wow you essentially describe my Ex.

[@testaccounttest2511]

This is a pretty naive view and doesn't understand Techlead's mindset. As a male immigrant software developer from a developing country I think its important to understand the background to which many of us belong. I believe the techlead also does so. Men in Asian countries are generally expected to withstand all emotional shocks. This is like annealing where you shock them and cool them really quick without giving them time to settle (check the academic structure of all asian countries especially for STEM). This causes men(as they are still majority in stem) to either become really hard and emotionally brittle (ask them when they last cried and most won't even remember. Honestly years pass!!) or completely deteriorate and go in severe depression (check out depression and suicide statistics in these countries). Maybe you won't even get older depression stats as most people don't even bother to collect them, leave the social stigma of reporting. The second part is the tech industry. No tech person likes to be called a "geek" or a "nerd". It is a cost you have to pay in your social moulding when you develop 1000s of lines of complex software. We have put 100s of hours in this to get it working and have no simple words to describe what we do to our spouse/child/non tech manager as well at times. You don't need any therapy for this, just more socializing after attaining a stable career. Techlead was an early game creator and a founder, most people might not even realise how much dedication that needs and how much risk and patience is involved in the initial phase. The third reason I suspect and am not sure about is financial and family background. My friends from India have taken huge loans to come to US, more than twice their initial home country salary. This makes many people to live on the bare minimum and fear the nightmare of going back jobless. Try living with Indian MS CS students in comparatively less expensive university accomodation and you will know what I mean. With this experience, any luxury over and above appears huge and every peny is accounted for (maybe that's why we aren't known for tipping well.) Now let's come to the perspective of such a person's spouse coming from a completely different background especially if it was more risk free or stable. Most psychological pressures and stresses perceived as really strong might be considered as non-existent as we (techies) have gone through much worse (and not unharmed to clarify). The downside being many techies not giving much importance to health, looks, hobbies, etc and failing to give their best to possible spouse or actual spouse. (Maybe that's why they have a spouse from the same country in an "arranged" marriage). Now consider the Techlead's videos and his success. All factors that make his behaviour as it is are the same as what made him successful techlead. The same factors gave him the emotional stability and also the emotional blindness. The same factors allow him to give the best expensive gifts and also make him less available emotionally. You can't feel the pain equally and also be able to bear much more of it. Most of us techies are still men so many women don't know these things. I do agree with the conclusion that conversations help a lot but these need a lot of patience as the social and emotional background is very different. In case you are a spouse of a techie please give him/her more time and try to make him/her open up much more. That's why I dislike this video.

[@Fibonacci4ever]

blah blah blahhhhhhh

[@user-mg8yy8cb6j]

you are translate idealistic thoughts "you should not have mental sickness or instability, otherwise your women will not love you and leave you". But hey! We are all humans and can't predict and control all our emotions, feelings, etc. You are make too much value to women and remove any responsibility from them.

[@someguy6075]

What he's saying is far, far worse than that. "Never so much as feel a negative emotion, regardless of circumstance, because even if you recognize and handle it in a mature way, it causes women to be unable to regulate themselves. Take control of every situation and never give an inch. If you fail these, women are justified not only in leaving you, but in extrajudicial denial of custody." Not only is it batshit crazy, it's useless advice. The only way for a man to behave like his ideal is to be a sociopath.

[@djurgens76]

In the beginning they all loved me and then they all left. That hit so close to home for me that I had to stop watching this video. I think I was about to find out why this happens to me.

[@wotanmituns33]

Did you ever watched it through?

[@G0ld3nhand]

On point!!!

[@movierecaps_]

wtf am I watching?!

[@shahqu5dohcoh9ri88]

this.

[@zimzam9166]

You are watching the ultimate self cope

[@kirito3082]

this guy is pure delusion

[@lfabio.n]

He actually is onto something. We're guided through logic, reason. Women are not tamed by logic in the current world, this freedom made them hard to deal with. I rather not even try.

[@lukealadeen7836]

​@@lfabio.n nah he is a plant from feminist to make us thing we are wrong about them

[@KohenChia]

Does anyone here actually know any facts surrounding the incident?

[@Ezinma88]

Did anyone else find the super close up view in this video a bit much? Or, maybe it's the slight pixelated quality to the video?

[@mzealtb]

Tech lead isn't a good husband, emotionally distant; puts the drama on youtube. Complains about child support like he's the victim and innocent.

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

Exactly like why are we even hearing about this wtf

[@shivamvaid601]

This aged soo well. 😂😂

[@marspark6351]

Quite a title bait video. It's not a video about techlead but about all man-woman relationships

[@Xiao-qj9ez]

It will be great if there is a summary. In the end it’s 12 minutes about somebody’s gossip

[@nikitaw1982]

U really drag it out what a mess. Whats the synopsis of this video?

[@HauteBabe]

It is a terrible idea to live with a person's family. It is bad for the individuation process for a young couple. Problem is that techies think only about savings and not about emotions. The wife must have felt not the warmest feelings to the in laws, that she expressed trepidations. If the wife expressed so much trepidation, they should have rented a home alone.

[@mongoliannomad4908]

Exactly. She needed to go to Japan before he finally got his head out of his ass and rented an apartment and then it was already too late, because he doesn't take any response. But yeah, everyone makes mistakes. The main thing is to learn the lesson.

[@mongoliannomad4908]

@@HauteBabe Well said. Programming is good for creating things and make things happen, but one can't create / sustain true love via that system. :) Using logic is not forbidden in relationships though: if your wife literally avoids spending time at home the obvious and logic conclusion would be, that she's probably not very happy at home. If you care about your wife's happiness, you probably would move out from your parents (as a millionare) at that point.

[@Nemesis_T_Type]

Yeah and it is not just in-laws. Living with relatives nearby is also a bad environment for a young couple. It happened to my aunt. She was living next door to my older aunt and older aunt can't stop herself from controlling the life of younger aunt. They had fights and after a few years my younger aunt moved to another place and had a peaceful life. This happens all the time in asian families because it is tradition to follow what older members of the family say even if it is wrong.

[@NOT_A_TOP_FAN]

Lol. She left him because he’s awkward as hell and a complete brag fest. He can’t do a single video without boasting constantly. He was at Google and FB for very short times…there’s a reason for that - his personality wore on people.

[@rickarmbruster8788]

@@HauteBabe everything and everyone can be programmed to fit.

[@emarekica]

Women both try to guess your emotions AND communicate rationally with words. At least emotionally mature do. And the reason why women are geared towards emotions, and men towards ratio are society's guidelines and stereotypes. Both gender have work to do because a mature human being has capacity to fully feel all feelings AND be able to think and decide how to react.

[@dante19890]

There is a reason to why those society guidelines exist tho and its cuz it adhere to the nature and the biology of men and women. We arent the same so we shouldnt be. Women needs to stop thinking men should feel overwhelming emotion as they do.

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

@@dante19890 “women need to start thinking men aren’t as emotional as them” yeahhhhhh the sex that commits 95+% of all violent crime is definitely not emotional at all. Women definitely shouldn’t dare try to navigate an emotional relationship with them. Not!

[@dante19890]

@@ediblelipscrubs9466 ye that's cuz of testosterone and aggression. Men have ten times higher testosterone than a woman Proves my point even more that men need to control their emotions

[@giannitedesco6153]

His uncontrolled narcissistic personality disorder?

[@oniondesu9633]

the fact that your children can be taken away from you forever when you have done nothing bad but just didnt understand how a womans complex emotions work, is pure evil. not to mention there is zero recourse.

[@yugiohfanatic1964]

MGTOW is the solution

[@realdomdom]

Very true.

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

Tell yo mama

[@marioibarra8130]

Bro looks so creepy I’m sorry

[@ticktock9119]

Nice guy does not mean a good guy.

[@mryoutube4399]

I mean it SHOULD but you are right, it doesn't. Most 'nice' guys are just cowards.

[@transkryption]

it is insane thw number of native English speakers I have to explain the difference between nice & good.

[@gatoloco3949]

Good guys still finish last.

[@transkryption]

@@gatoloco3949 Why? What does good mean?

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

@@gatoloco3949l,fai

[@bunbohue369]

He is a narcissist.

[@samanthony2950]

God help anyone taking advice from you. This has to be the craziest clueless understanding of what is going on . This is the sort of advice you would get from a young teenager.

[@kimbonice]

Lol agreed. It's an awkward guy that clearly is chronically single & doesn't understand women trying to explain women as well as relationship dynamics to what is quite possibly his incel audience from the comments I've read.

[@atlasatlantis8447]

Correct, everyone is dumber than ever when it comes to these things. The problem is people have all jumped on board an anti-spiritual cult. Where the soul does not exist, and hence soul mates don't exist. The reason partners leave, is because they were never their soul mate.

[@dante19890]

You need to have better arguments than this if you are gonna make a valid critique.

[@ASURAN24]

An interesting video

[@yordanpopov7691]

Genius guy!

[@fordskool]

Oh shii... He was saying 'couples' not cupboards...

[@besllu8116]

Wow, this is something.

[@hyberkonawa272]

Reading my emotions??? What if I don't have emotions and feelings when I'm talking to a girl? I asked a girl with confidence to hangout and then next day she doesn't shows up. I do not understand women. I may do have some insecurities while I speak but... I been honest to let her know based on my insecurities. but... I never get good response in return, only Ghosting (Basically, no answers from her).

[@jeremybyington]

Do a video on why the nice guy TechLead is Pro-Russia next.

[@bilbosoze7341]

Because the Russia issue.....is between Ukraine and Russia.....and you won't take the time to research what is actually going on.....or why Russia is there-- agree or disagree....Russia cannot let the U.S. continue to use Ukraine (proxy war) as a weapon against Russia. This is actually not difficult to understand.

[@kulturalkontrariankomedy]

Because he doesn't care about people. He only cares about money. That is the downside of listening and idolozing someone so "high up". In this stucture men made, he feels he is better than everyone for fitting in the success picture and to fit in there, one needs to be cruel and kiss the right people's asses.

[@bilbosoze7341]

First...Tech Lead is not a "nice guy"....."nice guys" are weak and get cannibalized....Tech Lead is a strong guy with an ironic and self aggrandizing seriously funny sense of humor; mixed in with a healthy dose of reality, intellect.....and current events. You could only hope to be this funny and still make legitimate and vald point after point in a self-produced wildly popular KZbin channel..... The guy is one in a few million (as a millionaire ex-google tech lead) Raise your game ladies and gents or subscribe to another channel....this guy is on another level.

[@jeremybyington]

@@bilbosoze7341 I read your comment with TechLead narrating it in my head and it is exactly what he would say. I’m now convinced you are him under another pseudonym. I clicked on your avatar and saw your last comment was also defending TechLead and his pro-Russia stance and now I am doubly-sure it is you. 🤡

[@bilbosoze7341]

@@jeremybyington TY...omg..I have never received a nicer compliment EVER as a "former ex-Google, ex-facebook, ex-millionaire, ex-tech lead programmer"..... MY LIFE IS COMPLETE. The Putin problem is this, the populace of the West doesn't understand that from Putin's perspective the West is the evil overlord...(ie.. world's reserve currency, control of the oil markets, largest military by [a million😁😁] miles, largest economy, etc..) the West just calls him crazy or war monger.....Not much of an intellectual debate, and @Techlead, if anything, is intellectual ..... go figure.

[@flametress7299]

wtf is this guy talking about... I'm so lost

[@isaacvongurtberg7341]

Me too 😂

[@annama2680]

same

[@lukealadeen7836]

Good video but women are incredibly insecure, there's no way you can emotionally satisfy them. I subed though keep up the good work

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

Tell yo mama

[@lukealadeen7836]

@@ediblelipscrubs9466 did I trigger you, snowflake? 🤣

[@user-oz4nn3jw8p]

Lesson No.1: Set up an offshore trust before marriage.🤭 It makes sure you feel better when your ex wife gets almost nothing.😏

[@tancossine6733]

I guess most men just don't see the need to verbalize everything they feel, or pay attention to everything they feel, because then it would make life so much more unpleasant and be conscious about all your feelings and suffer some kind of emotional overload. Like for what??? It's a blessing to be naturally ignorant and oblivious about certain things, especially those that you know yet can't do anything about it. What's the whole point of talking about it over and over again when we should just do something about the problem and get rid of it once and for all? Sometimes verbalizing or pondering over what you feel is a waste of time...that time could be better spent taking some sort of productive action to get rid of that situation or get you out of that situation.

[@dante19890]

ye thats true. Men dont really benefit at all from feeling emotions like women do.

[@oniondesu9633]

i guess that means theyre children should be taken away from them forever with zero room for recourse then

[@dante19890]

@@oniondesu9633 as long as they can withdraw their financial support

[@oniondesu9633]

@@dante19890 the money is completely secondary keeping someone's child from them is evil and inhuman. even murderers are still allowed to see their children

[@dante19890]

@@oniondesu9633 sometimes it is an unwanted child on the man's part that the women decides to keep.

[@markjackshit4607]

oh please. i am happy on my own.

[@gamingandotherstuffchannel]

underrated video

[@Peem_pom]

This is a mostly good video, but as a woman I'll correct you on some points. Men are VERY emotional, but usually the only emotion we get from them is sulking/anger. This is because anger is not considered a sign of weakness and we raise men to be strong and other emotions are unacceptable. Women however are allowed to feel the whole gamut of emotions because we don't mind or expect women to be strong, though society often puts them in situations where they have to bear a lot, and bury it, but we rarely like an angry woman. So the emotions that men and women are allowed to express do not overlap. Men are largely unaware of their feelings so that they can be strong, and can show anger, and women are attuned to pick up on the emotional cues of others to nurture and care. I've seen that if parents encourage otherwise these expressions can change. We are widening the gap of what men and women are by encouraging gender roles rather than just encouraging people to find the commonalities more between men and women therefore relationships are doomed to fail.

[@josiekoch7589]

i hear your first point often, but i don’t know if it’s actually true. i know plenty of guys who are holistically emotional- expressing anger, joy, sadness, etc. not hating and i agree that almost any anger in woman is not seen as socially acceptable. people should just be encouraged to love everyone. also, of course, i think we should note than women don’t all think the same or even similarly. in his first example, notably, one girl thought the guy seemed very calm while the other thought he seemed very anxious.

[@Peem_pom]

@@josiekoch7589 it’s not meant to be absolute. But broadly this is a general norm. You certainly can’t scream or wail or cry as a man not without people commenting on it as being off….it’s about what is socially acceptable and how much of the emotion is expressed.

[@immunetowesternlies8697]

LOL Women are the EMOTIONAL living species on planet earth.

[@Saint-hamudi]

@@Peem_pom i dont know in what way you mean, men cant show weakness. is there a demon pegging my brain saying no you cant be weak!!!, besides weakness is on the rise

[@birdtj82]

This guy n d tech lead both have Aspergers. They talk d same way in hallow n none constructive way. They will be alone forever . kzbin.info/www/bejne/g3ywopSPaJ2Na7c In face he is really not well spoken becuse he is generalizing ppl in a hallow way. He has to feel some type of Way toward women he actually Project what ppl r Vs trying to see 1 Vs another n adapt .His odd makeup n hair is telling :)

[@jeannevessard3510]

Tech Lead had his wife living with his parents and she wanted her own place and told him. She finally left. Many women would have left. I am sure there were many reasons.

[@allanluis3696]

I mean, did she even know the guy before she decided to marry him? They both sound pretty bad. She kidnaps her son and wont allow him to be raised by his father? I mean, if the guy is so bad, why have a baby with him (I'm sure people will rush in to tell me, "the guy changed') Bullshit. The Tech has very little finesse in him.

[@imurpapa8120]

Not deep of an issue to destroy a family

[@tushartilwani9540]

In Asian countries living with parents is really not a big deal but is actually encouraged. It's mostly a western construct that you have to live alone. Which is so stupid. I'd love to have my son around when I turn 50 or something. So I expect the same would go for my father.

[@callit3580]

@@tushartilwani9540 western construct? Dude what you mean bro. We Asian live with our parents because we don’t have money.

[@MortonT1958]

@@allanluis3696 “little finesse” … more like zero finesse, subtlety or nuance.

[@stupidguy97]

TechLead is a bawss, but often misunderstood. Do not underestimate the ex-Google, ex-Meta Tech LEAD.

[@Frankmaui67]

Don’t be a stupid guy

[@miroslavblagojevic2402]

This guy looks lik one of Sacha Baron Cohen's alter egos.

[@0bserver50]

She got pregnant, and took him for all she could get. She was probably still pining over some Chad in Japan that couldn't or never wanted to get her pregnant.

[@shadmansudipto7287]

Techlead has done multiple scams and illegal acquisition and distribution of private information. He is not a nice guy.

[@deepstatecia]

Asian guys are really small and it is difficult in the long run when you can not be satisfied

[@ediblelipscrubs9466]

This is why Techlead is selfish to boot, he uploaded these unnecessary, one-sided videos knowing incels would flock and assume the absolute worst of a woman trying to get away from her scamming, braggart of a husband.

[@0bserver50]

@@ediblelipscrubs9466 There's nothing more evil than running off into the sunset with a man's child.

[@cookieman4578]

How to ruin your family (as a millionaire)

[@raccoonious4038]

mehh - if this is true, then we have to admit to the fact that men and women are fundamentally different. But that's a huge generalisation. I've seen some women not very emotional, whereas I've seen very emotional men (cry-babies if you will) and I'm not a big fan of putting people into 'buckets' - especially if the bucket is as large as male vs female (which literally splits the population in half) This is quite a beefy claim and I'd love to see some scientific evidences - to which I've seen none. The model we should be looking at are the Scandinavian countries, who essentially "nailed it". They usually treat both boys and girls equally and they actually end up having very similar traits. Empathy is an acquired skill, so the traits that describe a typical woman are possessed by boys. Also, if you actually listen to why TechLead left his wife, he barely mentions their arguments (which is why I'm kind of wondering how this guy knows anything about his attitude / interaction with his wife) it's mostly to do with the fact that she's a narcissistic psychopath. Whether that part is true or not is not clear to me, but as someone who dated someone similar, it just struck all the chords. This just seems like another guy trying to piggy-back off of TechLead's success (like Tren Black) by criticising him.

[@georgebatshon4417]

Wtf are you saying

[@matlenaghan7488]

Lol men and women are fundamentally different, you don't have to admit it, you can even deny it, but it'll remain a fact regardless of what you think.

[@raccoonious4038]

​@@matlenaghan7488 I do agree that we have different bodies, different hormones, etc. However, what I am saying is that most of the traits we gain that we think of as "feminine" and "masculine" are latent attributes we gain as we are socially conditioned. As someone who studied STEM and in the field of tech, I know plenty of women who would be described as men in this video. As someone who had to collaborate with Art colleges (RCA, UAL etc) I am aware of men who would be labelled "feminine" according to this video. But don't take it from my personal experience, as it is a very small sample of a very large population. Scandinavian countries' example is perhaps the only one that is actually representative or done at a scale we can safely say it's reliable. You saying "Lol men and women are fundamentally different" is not evidence nor logical argument. However, if you could please enlighten me with social studies done by professionals, I would be happy to listen.

[@someguy6075]

I don't have an opinion on this gender essentialism vs socialization thing, but I think the red flag in this video is that he is admitting to just repeating something he got in an online course. So maybe some PUA type stuff. Also not clear if he even tried it or if it fixed anything for him. I think it is fair to rephrase the video as women are emotionally immature and like sociopathic men. If a man gives an inch on anything, it's lack of confidence. If a man feels - not even intentionally displays - any negative emotion, regardless of circumstance, a woman has "no choice" but to leave and is even not culpable for fleeing a country to deny custody rights. Women can't be that evil and successful relationships can't be that devoid of communication and negotiation.

[@thedualtransition6070]

@@someguy6075 You are confusing gender a cultural term, with sex a biological term. You mean sex essentialism, as in "human males and human females are different". Given that gender (man, woman) is now used in a way completely divorced from sex (e.g. trans women) "gender essentialism" makes no logical sense. Its really "nature vs. nurture" an age-old debate which should have been tossed the minute that epigenetics was understood, as that points to nature creating a set of possible outcomes that the lived experience "selects" from and develops. For example, "tomboys", "girlie girls", there are multiple possible paths. The videographer is using utterly simplistic and stereotypical conceptualizations the one would expect from a geek who is looking for black/white answers in a complex and inter-subjective world.

[@neberboi]

Lol what nonsense. Can you share what drugs you are using?

[@gregbendermaexpatajarn80k38]

His wife probably left him because he worked all the time and had no time for her. Yet, my guess is he went to Japan and brought her to the US and promised her riches. She got riches as he now pays her and their child not to be his family anymore; plus she's back in her own country enjoying a better life. Most high level IT workers I know are divorced or on the verge. Working 50 to 90 hours a week (includes studying and new learning) kills relationships. It killed my relationships, except I never got married. For me as a senior level developer/architect, I now focus on my 2 side hustles, rather than my chosen career. TechLead is correct that coding is a grunt job. Sure the money is good, but continually learning throughout your career is such a waste of time.

[@lark3414]

No, she actually refused to receive ANY money from him. Unfortunately the reason she left may be a little bit darker than simply being an absent partner. She REALLY wanted to just have nothing to do with him and get away from him, including not accepting any money.

[@themodfather9382]

So you don't know

[@user-wp3dg5wf8n]

I think this video is right. BUT if a man's instability causes a woman to become unstable, that is the woman's problem! In that case women need to learn to take responsibility for their own emotions. Not taking responsibility for your own emotions is emotionally IMMATURE i.e. it makes women no better than children...

[@icutoo2699]

Interesting video. Tech Lead has some useful advice but his communication is very abrasive. Unless you have the hide of an elephant your skin will start to get raw and painful and you will need to flee in order to recuperate. Kind of like being licked by a loving cat. Alternate point of view. No one is perfect. What I think is most important is how to successfully work through and solve conflict, being able to look at the long term up and downs of the relationship and not just the immediate short term gains. Dating can be like momentum investing, you look for a bargain deal with a lot of upside potential, but once the quarterly results are lacking you remember not to catch a falling knife. And if he made a mistake and says he sorry, don't fall for that dead cat bounce.

[@wrstz7831]

well you don’t know if he communicates with his family the same way

[@williamjohnston580]

Bro we don't pay attention to our feelings because they don't help put food on the table and provide for those we care for. If a woman leaves based on feelings good, she ain't worth it. She should notice your bad feelings then and pray and protect you instead of bailing.

[@StochasticGreen]

Bro, sort out your own feelings and don't expect a woman to put up with your shit, we have enough on our table. If you're single then I'm not surprised.

[@williamjohnston580]

@@StochasticGreenI meant to fleeting feelings or emotions in the moment. Obviously we consider the more rational feelings that have true impacts on ourselves and those around us long-term. Yes I am single, a structural engineer and own/operate a large 450 acre farm at age 26. When work needs to be done I don't care about how I feel, I make sure food is grown and structures are designed right even if I feel burnt out. If a woman can't understand the sacrifices required to have valuable things, then she isn't the one for me.

[@davidvancouver2748]

Techlead is the man, don’t need you making videos and living off his content

[@stevej9740]

There is something cruel about the very concept of men and women. Look at Adam and Eve. It's brutal. Thank God this is temporary. (Am I A man or woman?)

[@nathanventry4693]

Wrong!!! What you are describing is fault-finding person period..looking for greener pastures,can’t see the forest for the trees or emotional instability,pick one,pick them all. You need to stop 🛑 blaming the victim.

[@crunchybobaasmr2130]

But he gave her 1000000 just so she can spend

[@humanspiritlifecoaching196]

Listening to this showed me exactly why women leave him. He has a lot to learn. 🤷🏾‍♀

[@goruby2]

Ok , well sort of.

[@moahammad1mohammad]

Western European, opinion instantly discarded

[@tushartilwani9540]

The guy is wandering alone in Japan trying to find his Son. Here is a simple explanation for you man his wife is not a nice person.

[@MrArielK]

He did it for 2 weeks only, never again

[@kitastro]

this has to be a joke

[@Harnosimre]

this is hilarious

[@No1-Theorist]

@ 3:34 you just nailed it. Problem here is logic and that women don't have only the rights in their minds.

[@bruceconstuble4603]

If a woman does not respect her man, she will leave. She must constantly push to find her limits with him. Women are never ok with stagnation. The relationship is moving forward, as they define it, or it's over. The moment she nags you into doing what she wants, just to shut her up, you have just lost your wife. She must never be allowed to direct the relationship. I've watched women push for months just to see how far they can push and try to break him. Oddly when he has had enough and gives her a slap or punch, she displays dismay, but in fact has more respect for him than ever before. Best advice is to never take any manipulation from her. The moment she starts you must end it immediately and with enough force that she knows to stop right then. Relationships are a battle for dominance never have they ever been a partnership. Women want a strong, dominant male and they will push to get that from their companion. Don't waste time talking or negotiating with her. She will see you as weak and thats the end of the companionship.

[@Ella-ks7jp]

FINALLY some truth!

[@l.vanhielf6174]

¿Ah? She's a japan woman, so this doesn't count. She just couldn't handle America in general . Edt: but, apart from that, very nice video. Good content.

[@vornamenachname594]

tl;dr: All Women Are Queen tm

[@kulturalkontrariankomedy]

There are always two sides to a story, he lets us know about him what is most beneficial for him. OF COURSE he will not talk sh about himself.

[@RxRedpill]

Ah - So only women’s feelings matter, and men’s feelings don’t. Got it. What a fucked up society we live in. Men - DONT GET MARRIED.

[@coleycole5344]

Gossip girlz. Get a life.

[@Septumsempra8818]

This is mostly wrong. The root cause is peeps have no secksual/emotional tension with their girl. The seduction stops once shes yours rather than the day you die. She must never know how you deeply and truly feel about her. Once she knows, the flame is gone. The rest of the problems are just symptoms of the main issue.

[@georgepanicker61916]

Sounds like you've been burnt

[@ahdlkasdjfhalsdkj]

I see you could be a Narc

[@EaselCat]

Ok von braun

[@warclan5429]

I disagree, women are social persons and they trust what their friends tell them. she usually will do it. if you have problems with her friends or family it is over. confidence is an asset yet but not the reason women use to switch. nowadays it is worst as many women are over entitled and they expect someone who is not real

[@Frankmaui67]

Very European attitude. Eastern Europe

[@HauteBabe]

Your End conclusion is wrong sir! If a woman asks you if you're sure, she indicates you're idea is a bad idea!!! Listen to your women's concerns. They may be totally valid!!!! Don't bully her into a decision that is just good for you but not necessarily her too.

[@owensofcode]

NEVER BE NICE GUY

[@stephaniezinone8238]

10000% agree. Be nice to a point where there is reciprocasy. My brother ex took full advantage of his nicest and there was no going back. he was a doormat and she never respected him ever again. She allegedly had an affair but when my brother got even, she never once even though about what she had done. always one sided.

[@owensofcode]

@@stephaniezinone8238 Man that's bad. But experience is good and us learning from him is also better.

[@JeremyTheEntrepreneur]

I agreee never reason with crazy woman “here’s the 🚪 don’t like it”

[@avgrim7729]

Because they ALWAYS will leave!!!

[@RichardBaran]

Uh

[@stevenwistort9903]

Poor Techlead as a broken millionaire😰

[@agamemnonra7938]

Danke für den Tipp, bin ab nun allen Frauen gegenüber kompromisslos =)

[@matthiasb4749]

Sorry, but I have to disagree. First of all, I think your premise is utterly wrong. The TechLead is not a nice guy. He is a right-wing libertarian with strong misogynistic tendencies. I have watched a lot of his videos, and I (as a cis male) can totally understand that his wife left him. You don't go into detail about him, so I have to assume that you are just using him for clickbait. Second, this whole talk of "men are like so, women are like so" is total nonsense. There is a wide spectrum of men, there is a wide spectrum of women, and there is a very big overlap. Your only evidence is an "experiment" with four people that was staged by a dating guru of all people. Dating gurus are not trustworthy, and many of them are misogynistic as well. I guess it's a valid assumption that you were at fault for all the breakups that you had experienced. It may even be true that your communication skills needed improvement. But it could as well be the case that you had a tendency of choosing the wrong women. Or something else entirely, I don't want to speculate here. I do have my doubts that the rate of surprises and gifts plays a crucial role in the success of a relationship. This kind of view is too simplistic and utilitarian. I mean, being nice and tender is not wrong. I think what helps most is to know your values and life goals and to match them with the potential partner's values and life goals. Maybe also split the household and childcare duties evenly.

[@YashMezzala]

Congrats you got the sarcasm

[@Gr95dc]

@@YashMezzala was this video trying to be sarcastic?

[@udyfrost6380]

LMAO, you sound like a dick. He is simply giving his point of view. No one care if you are a (cis) male or not. Do u really think men and women are the same emotional and mentally. They are differences between men and women in many ways. Ignoring these differences is harmful for both parties. He is simply giving a fair point

[@youtubeuser206]

People who unironically refer to themselves as “cis” are as bad as putting pronouns in a twitter bio and nearly as delusional as the people who refer to themselves as “trans”

[@l.vanhielf6174]

Right-wing libertarian? Misogynistic? Cis male? Bro make yourself respect please, no serious person can take you into account.

[@AmericanEmperor]

What a useless advice!!

[@melol1484]

Mai qui mon amie...exactly... women are emotional creatures.. and some are also very smart too. Communication is not just via logic but by depth of feelings and body language! Ce sa?! Kk.. Moi francais je parle peur...its been a long while since je suis parler le francais...lol. Carry on..your spot on! Btw.. emotions and body language help a woman connect and understand the needs of her child/children and even hubby..its encoded in a woman's DNA infact! Woman is made from the rib of Adam to be a companion and helpmate.. different in essence but equal. We the one is weak the other is strong..so overall as a team aka becoming one..they balance each other out. G_d made them that way for a reason and well ...only G_d knows what He's doing, it's a Bible thingy and I don't think that techie nerd ever read the judaeo Christian Bible!!!...lol In a humble way that techie guy is being self righteous which is also ego driven aka little god of Self...and he puts himself on the pedestal while judging and condemning her! Ya.. both are human.. both make mistakes but looking down on his ex wife and the condemnation does not help at all. One must learn to walk in the others shoes to gain understanding. Of topic but still applicable... well... being poor and in lack is not fun either.. this techie need being a millionaire.. this man has not viewed the other side of the coin/equation at all! Money is a means to an end for survival and gives stability to the family unit. Also my scriptures teach that it is good to be a blessing to others and show hospitality and generosity to the ones who have nothing aka the poor. Stingyness is also a type of hidden greed aka covetness btw! G_d Yahweh loves a cheerful giver aka having a giving spirit/essence which is a form of loving others ... as genuine love is an action and a outflow from Self and is selfless. After all jesus/yehoshuah said it best.. now do likewise!...lol shalom.

[@kimbonice]

I disagree with a lot in this video. You started to kind of get it in some parts, but fell flat. It's called emotional intelligence, soft & social skills which is what you "logical" guys refuse to work on & lack severly. You can't maintain a relationship if you're a boring robot. Add on being cheap & it's a recipe for disaster. If all women wanted were walking ATM machines then they'd literally marry ATMs. TechLead is lucky his wife didn't outright cheat on him. There is no excuse for not knowing how women think if you're going to be dealing with them everyday. There is also no excuse for not working on your social & soft skills. I've seen plenty of stereotypical nerds whose wives were doing stuff with more charismatic guys behind their backs even if the other guy was broke & the nerd a millionaire. There is also a difference between a nice guy & a good guy. TechLead is not a good guy. He's pretty emotionless, brags a lot & his personality is grating along with many other flaws he has. It's no surprise he keeps getting fired from jobs. Edit: Apparently in another video he says his wife was texting some other guy a lot on Facebook so she DID display signs of cheating if she didn't outright go & hook up with the guy on one of those many outings where she was "just driving around with the kid" in-order to not stay in the house with his parents.

[@allanluis3696]

sounds like terrible wives. If they want the charismatic guy why not just be with him??? lol

[@kimbonice]

@@allanluis3696 For one, there is a finite amount of charismatic guys & an ocean of drones like TechLead. Nowadays those charismatic guys don't necessarily want to be tied down, especially during their prime years. Women also prioritize resources because they are looking out for their own survival so the guy with resources can "get" the girl, but he can't keep her around. That doesn't make them "terrible wives" if anything the husband is the one that failed because he has a kingdom & doesn't invest in it's defenses. Your charisma, emotional intelligence, soft skills AND resources is how you maintain a relationship.

[@allanluis3696]

@@kimbonice lmaooooo cheating wives are not terrible wives??? What warped reality do you live in???? Ma'am, just stop it. It's 2022, women DO NOT need to lie and deceive men for resources. You have more opportunities for scholarships and grant than men. You can get an education and get a damn job or be creative and make money. But, you're just exposing yourself. You probably don't see it like that...again, exposing yourself.

[@kimbonice]

@@allanluis3696 What you're failing to understand is that cheating & how well someone performs in a relationship are *TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS.* Someone can be loving, supportive, take care of their children, not combative, etc. yet still go out & find what the relationship is severely lacking in someone else.

[@allanluis3696]

@@kimbonice ma'am....wtf are you talking about???? Taking care of children is what a PARENT does. That has nothing to do with how a wife takes care and RESPECTS her husband. You need to re-think what you're saying...again, exposing YOURSELF. I dont give a damn if you wipe my ass with gold-infused tissue everyday. If you cheat as my wife, you are a terrible wife. THE END.

[@unclemartinandthegiants3227]

_I don`t think a real male human being is able to push himself into that extent of emotionalism. that`s far_really too far. This woman simply wants more money than Patrick does and this is probably the main reason of taking over his son. In about 10 years she will be on the edge performing seppuku preparation because she took someones kid away but the good thing will be that kid at that time be standing above her head with the sword. How do they call it ? katana ?

[@bagofrandom]

I don't even think it is this complex. TechLead is a sociopathic narcissist, plain and simple. It takes about 10 seconds of him talking to realize that. I'd put money on him having literally 0 friends or family who want to be anywhere near him if he's like that in person.

[@oniondesu9633]

murderers still get to see their children. this is a cruel and unusual punishment for simply having an uncommon personality type and nothing else. and all you petty people that think it's deserved make me feel sick.

[@BackToSquare1]

If he was a sociopath he wouldn’t miss his child so much he has dreams about seeing him. If he was a sociopath he would probably be happy he has one less responsibility. Not everyone acts like you expect them too, but they are still humans

[@bagofrandom]

@@BackToSquare1 everyone deserves forgiveness.

[@jamescache1768]

the only issue with this video is the accent. otherwise it's pretty good, maybe using AI voice would be great

[@jasonb.3874]

lol wtf