Why we feel compelled to solve people's problems and fix things - Terri Cole

[@sybilizzard4926]

if someone can do something, let them. Otherwise it can cause that person feelings of disempowerment OR they take you for granted and can say- well you did it last time. You got your own stuff to deal with. Life can throw all kinds stuff at you. It's not good for either of you. We all here to learn and try and make mistakes and learn and try some more.

[@marylindsey3774]

It's been a real struggle for me to refrain from trying to help and fix others. This has occurred all my life. I am still working on it.

[@terri_cole]

I feel you 💕

[@donnadalessandro1320]

Love this message ❤

[@terri_cole]

💕

[@Daliayessi]

It's a real struggle to refrain from auto-fixing and auto advise giving.

[@terri_cole]

I see you 💕

[@melissamonson9792]

I feel this so deeply!!! I am so sensitive. Like I can something about a person's pet passing away and my heart literally aches and I start crying. I feel all the feels, even when I don't want to. I have noticed that I codify my compulsive auto-advice as "helping" and wanting to rescue or fix, when no one even asked for that!!!

[@terri_cole]

Yep- you hit the nail on the head with "no one even asked for that!" I see you 💕 I've been talking all about this dynamic, which I call high-functioning codependency, on my channel for the last few weeks if you're curious to learn more. This could be a good starting point: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pJ2Yeq2rn9mBi8U

[@vv-cv6ud]

i myself as life long HFC, I tried to fix my in laws housing issuing while working on our own relationship, end up in disrespected, discard, now Divorce . now i become numb on people's problem.

[@terri_cole]

I am witnessing you with compassion 💕

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you Teri. 🩵 Learning to not engage with all the feelings around. Noticing and sending compassion. Still struggling with other issues.