Why We Ignore Bad Behavior

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When someone continually disappoints us or hurts us, it can be hard to accept that their behaviour may be out of our control. We cling to the hope that if we try a little harder, they will change for the better.
Sometimes this can be a way of protecting ourselves from experiencing the sense of grief, loss, anxiety and abandonment that we would face if we accepted the relationship is as it is and that the person we are looking to cannot or will not be what we need or want them to be.
Radical acceptance is not about condoning a situation. It is about recognising reality is as it is. When we truly accept the relationship for what it is, we can finally see our path forward with clarity and purpose. We can be free from repeating the same cycles of heartache and find freedom by being committed to ourselves.

[@digishah]

Thank you for the insight I do find myself giving so many second chances to avoid dealing with a harsh reality that invokes a strong feeling of anxiety within me at the thought of losing this person. I end up minimizing the abuse as a result of it. I’ve also came across the work of Dr. Tara Brach and her book Radical Acceptance, so it seems like a happy little coincidence that you mentioned it as well.

[@drruthannharpur]

I love Tara Brach! She has a big influence on my work and is a really wonderful person and teacher. Wishing you courage and thank you for commenting 🙏

[@jonstersmall2716]

*'Sunk costs' theory,* isn't it?

[@isobelle.London]

I have never given a second chance they only use it to do worse .

[@chilloften]

Face reality folks.

[@Stopnormalizingviolence]

Learning radical acceptance, self compassion, assertiveness skills, and learning what 'healthy relationships' really look like are so important. I wish there would've been videos like yours decades ago. Thank you, Dr. Ruth. ❤

[@drruthannharpur]

Thank you 🙏 Never too late ❤️

[@pm8401]

Thank you so much, this is exactly my situation.

[@drruthannharpur]

You're welcome, hope it was helpful to you 🙏

[@Cleo2345]

Looking good!

[@drruthannharpur]

Nice to see you again!