Why You Can’t Have Your Old Life Back

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[@bellamichelle6248]

If Scott cannot get over something TEN YEARS AGO-why should his wife be over his affair in 2 1/2 years. 😑

[@peterlee584]

Exactly. Scott wants thingsto heal magically heal without haviing to do any reL work. That won't help. He has to be wiilling to be vulnerable and open with his wife. He also has to stop using divorce as a way to threaten his wife. He aĺso has to be willing to be patient and build up the trust, little by little.

[@bellamichelle6248]

@@SarahConnor562 exactly- he’s going to be a crying cheater the rest of his life. Don’t make any faces bc he’s like a delicate fake flower- but he has real thorns -prick

[@themacandcheese2240]

Yes! He’s extremely selfish

[@mr.skullma7100]

Wow, this guy seems like a Beta A-hole. Always trying to make what happens about him, always playing the victim. Although I’m no advocate of divorce, I definitely would not blame Scott’s wife if that’s the route she wants to take.

[@CJ-ft9yo]

The counsellor sounds lazy

[@robinirons8140]

Scott's attitude seems to be so typical of cheaters-" hey, I'm back! Everything is fine now so you should be too. Why can't you believe me? I said I would never do that again. I'm a trustworthy honest person."

[@gwendolynstanfield2653]

And then to threaten divorce again after saying he was all in... actions speak louder than words, bro

[@butreally289]

And don’t mention what I did to anyone? Just suffer in silence!

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

I HATE Cheaters. He attended Couples therapy, still attending Individual therapy. She QUIT, but 2.5 years later, she’s still sharing about his cheating. Look, in the first 3-6 months, his wife should have easily been able to share that news with her nearest & dearest after the fact. Who else needs to know? NO ONE, she’s purposely shaming & punishing him. That is NOT forgiveness or acceptance, she CHOSE to take him back. So, either forgive, accept, STOP sharing his mistake, commit to reunion & rebuild- OR Get The H*LL OUT.

[@miltoncat]

“I need her to come to me confidently.” BRUH. You cheated on her. She has no confidence in you at all.

[@TheKristinals]

And she’s likely afraid of saying the wrong things and him wanting another woman again. This woman is living in constant fear, and then being told that she’s not doing a good enough job, forgiving him and letting go of how he hurt her.

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

I HATE Cheaters. Constant fear is NOT continuing to “out” his infidelity 2.5 years later. She took him back, Couples therapy, individual therapy (She QUIT) he’s still attending. Either forgive & accept, reunite & rebuild, or get out. She can continue to tell the world he cheated- IF she separates & divorces.

[@shala604]

It's an ambiguous battle of emotions when your cheated on by your best friend and lover and in my case 10 years together ...and he didn't just abuse my trust by physically violating the contract...he got her pregnant and now has a new born. It can always be worse just saying for those tryna get past the infidelity...try and get past it when you have a baby and the affair partner now permanently in my face making it literally impossible to forget. These two people destroyed my life together ....and I can't demand he never speak to her again or anything like it because they made a human being. Neither one should be parenting they can't take care of themselves and certainly shouldn't be the example.

[@beckykazeks6827]

THANK you.

[@joanlovelace7338]

​@@jangrosemartindale8740 Have you been in this situation ⁉️

[@Annie-ex3ge]

Scott is a piece of work. If I was her, I would leave ...

[@michellebreedlove2711]

Scott, dude, trust is lost in buckets and gained in drops. You destroyed your wife. You entered the body of another human being with NO regard for the risk you put your wife in. If it was bad, you could have left, but you chose to violate her body and the marriage bed. You are asking her to re-engage with the same person that violated her and you're frustrated because it's not easy. In no other crime do we as a society ask the victim to re-engage with their attacker. Imagine if your wife stepped out every time YOU didn't meet one of her needs. You need a dose of perspective. It will come up in arguments because YOU changed the lens she sees the world through. Own what you did and accept the consequences.

[@salonsavy6476]

Well said 👍

[@marnarenteria5542]

Exactly. I'm surprised Dr. Deloney didn't address this angle.

[@gwendolynstanfield2653]

I can understand him being frustrated with past things being brought up, but then he turns around and brings up a time she hurt him 10 years ago! The he says she doesn't open up to him, but he put divorce on the table after assuring her if she took him back he would be all in. She doesn't feel safe with you dude. Because you keep proving that you are NOT all in. You will threaten to leave, threaten divorce. You are not safe for her. Until you make yourself safe, she will not give you any of that.

[@AnthonyMcNeil]

All of that is true, but many couples have come back from cheating. If his wife doesn't want to trust him then they should get a divorce. John said it best. If they both can't be adults and say to each other what they truly want then what can be done?

[@gwendolynstanfield2653]

@AnthonyMcNeil the couples that come back after an affair do so because trust is re-established. Trust can only be re-established when the cheating spouse makes themselves trustworthy by creating a safe place for healing. This can't happen when the betrayed spouse feels as if the cheating spouse still has one foot out the door. Until she can believe he is all in, until he can be her safe place again, that will not happen. That is on him, not her.

[@HollyTheTwisterSister]

You can’t “direct talk” to a man who is easily offended and takes everything personally. Guarantee she’s tried it and no longer has the energy for the inevitable fight.

[@tahsinarahman168]

First caller wants a pity party. He fucked up, broke her trust and now wants to sound like he's the victim. Its really difficult to move through infidelity, Period.

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

I HATE Cheaters. BUT, she made the choice to take him back. They did Couples therapy, he’s still in Individual therapy. She QUIT, & continues to “out” him for cheating 2.5 years later. Either forgive & accept, or GET OUT. Her outing his infidelity 2.5 years later is just as wrong, it is a betrayal, too. She is continuing to shame & punish him, the behavior is a language, “I no longer love OR respect you.”

[@dahliacheung6020]

I think their marriage is over. I think both he and her have some serious incompatibility in terms of how they've come to approach eachother. Then with him cheating and her being unable to move past it due to being so hurt and him putting divorce back on the table and her giving up on even helping him know what to do. Sometimes coming back from infidelity just isn't someone the other partner can do and I feel like maybe she thought she can do it. But they are both finding that she's either not willing or not able.

[@killercurvez]

Lmao!! That opening story cracked me up… No keys, the dead Tesla and the lame purple Kia that came through and kicked ass! 😂🤘🎸

[@salonsavy6476]

Gotta love them KIA ❤

[@gwendolynstanfield2653]

I just purchased a kia soul. I never would have considered it until I saw them in consumer reports as the #3 best sub-compact. Because of this I took one for a test drive and fell in love. Thank you @consumerreports once again for making a tough decision easier

[@MoonFoxSassy]

Wow.... Telling her she can't bring up the affair because it's "in the past". I hope she leaves.... that relationship is dead.

[@ambernelli7791]

I hope when she leaves she gives him the same look that he is harboring issues about from 10 freaking years ago. 😄😄😄

[@MoonFoxSassy]

@@ambernelli7791 😂

[@kmb5678]

My husband has said this to me. Its been 9months and he said he cant continue to be beaten over the head with it. I get it. At some point you have to move forward but that is hard

[@MoonFoxSassy]

@@kmb5678 "At some point"... yes, but that point is not HIS to decide. He doesn't get to destroy her and then put a timeline on her healing and trust because her bringing it up hurts his feelings.... how hypocritical.

[@kmb5678]

@@MoonFoxSassy never thought about it like that tbh. I get it. Im in it now. He does sound remorseful to me. 2.5years is a long time.....im at that exact point....2.5years, and its a long time to beat someone about their shame. People make bad decisions. Some worse than others. No black and white here, its sad.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Wow this dude is beyond help. Poor woman got stuck with a whining baby who also cheats and blames her for his failure. What a pos.

[@susanboucher2525]

Last caller, My daughter was being bullied in high school. She told her counselor and i had to guess what what was happening. I finally asked her if we should pull her out of school. This changed her life. We took her out and went to the local community college. She dressed in black too. She connected to the gay community where she grew. Today she's a councilor and is not gay. She had to find herself. Best wishes and prayers.❤

[@kw3113]

Couldn’t make his marriage work, then he couldn’t make it work with the affair. Sounds like he’s not relationship material at this point. Personally if this guy used the words and spoke to me like he did Dr D I say the wife would be smart to go. Something really strange here. He works people with his emotion and his words.

[@alic9353]

Manipulation and control..

[@belindavandyke8363]

He says what he did was so bad….but then seems to try and justify it over and over. No wonder she can’t reconnect with this dude.

[@peterlee584]

I think he has Narcissistic tendancies. He certainly seems to be a manipulative gaslighter.

[@annah3359]

This. You are 100% right. I was there and it’s the same story, same book. I am very happy now. Run, baby, run. Never look back.

[@ambersickles1589]

Scott is showing classic signs of control and manipulation. He called for sympathy and to talk down his wife while down playing his own actions. If he knew 10 years ago that his wife was not going to be there for him then it was wrong to string her along. He’s justifying his affair. He’s threatening divorce while telling her he wants emotional intimacy. The wife is probably confused and his hypocritical words only make the confusion worse. There doesn’t appear to be much understanding on his part about the pain and confusion he has brought into her life. There appears to be a long pattern of this man shutting himself off from his wife and not comprehending how his actions degrade trust over time. The affair may have been the final nail in the coffin. If these two can’t function as a united pair they need to walk away with dignity and respect.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Uh its way too late for walking away with either dignity or respect, that flew out the window when he decided to be unfaithful. The decision he made to even be attracted to another woman was the end of the marriage.

[@karmelasoprano13]

Cheater ruins marriage, wife tolerates him and stays, he threatens divorce because his head isn't being pat to his liking. Fails to protect his family then turns it into her not being there for him. The absolute audacity

[@sackettfamily4685]

My husband lost his grandmother and then shortly after, almost died. He had a thyroid condition that almost killed him, and then he tried to commit suicide. Im So thankful he came through that dark time! He still struggles but I've watched him get better.

[@ambernelli7791]

I have a teen. I've been through the rough patch with him. When he was going through it I had many heart to hearts with him. Offered therapy if he needed it....one day he came to me on that offer. That Mom needs to slow down a listen to her daughter. When my son's appearance started changing I didnt berate him for it. I dug in and gave him a safe space to talk if something was wrong.

[@ninijellybeanie6853]

Sharon, the scrolling millennial, is so precious!! I hope she is successful and reads lots of books and creates some beautiful ceramics!! ❤😊

[@rebeccaprewett5014]

First caller: he thinks it’s wrong for his wife to bring up the past, but he’s still upset about her facial expression from 10 years ago. He claims he wants his wife to be vulnerable and feel safe, but he’s threatening divorce. He is NOT a safe person, at least not for her. He proved it by cheating on her, and he’s continuing to prove it. If I was her, it would be really hard for me not to run.

[@Westernkoala]

I think she said she forgives him but she's still struggling and he feels like they should be over it by now. She needs to tell him how she really feels and struggles and that this is not just a thing in the past. But it's probably hard to be vulnerable when he's threatened divorce. She's probably shut down and feels stuck because she doesn't want a divorce but she can't move on.

[@France149]

Hey now ! ! !!! ? ? ???😊♻️♾️💯🥰 Lolove

[@France149]

​@@Westernkoala🙌💝🙏🥀🕊️

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

@@Westernkoala I HATE Cheaters. 2.5 years later she should not still be sharing how he cheated. In the first 3-6 months she had plenty of time to share it with her nearest & dearest. 2.5 years later, it is NOBODY’S business, but their own.

[@dahliacheung6020]

@@Westernkoalai feel like you're absolutely right here. All of it seems like exactly what's going on. He definitely holds grudges for things and uses them as excuses for why he should be allowed to do a certain behavior. That look she gave him ten years back was an excuse for the affair. The fact that she's not immediately showing how grateful she is that he didn't leave, that she's still hurt, is an excuse to put divorce on the table even when he'd said he was essentially re-dedicating to the marriage. Not that she's perfect. Like everyone, she'll certainly have her flaws and problems but we didn't get to listen to her so we mostly have her lack of emotional intimacy with him to work with and, for me at least, that's understandable considering what he did. Hopefully having that on one conversation will allow them to get on the same page even if that's choosing to end things.

[@freespiritwithnature4384]

I've had a lot of clients with severe trauma and specializing in treatment with teens. I'm wondering what kind of relationship she has with her uncle. What John said is powerful. If she can't verbalize it,she's still experiencing it. It could be anything, but be mindful of " ANYTHING." TIP: LIMITS, RULES,AND BOUNDARIES MAKE CHILDREN FEEL SAFE. WHY ? BECAUSE WHEN THE SSSS DOES HIT THE FAN ,THEY KNOW MOM & DAD HAVE EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL.

[@forensicnursingally2015]

I wondered about the relationship with the uncle, too

[@deamon506]

The last caller doesn’t seem to want to listen. Has to interject and have her voice heard but is not actually listening.

[@dahliacheung6020]

Yeah I'm really concerned about the daughter.

[@DavidPavlovich2]

She lied, she doesn’t want to get right matter of fact she wants to remind you and be a victim the rest of her life keep it moving Scott

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

I agree, & I would NEvER take a Cheater back. But, she made that choice, went to Couples therapy with him. If she can’t stop informing people 2.5 years later of his cheating- she WANTS to punish him.

[@tinam761]

Scott … you are holding her accountable still for a look she had on her face 10 YEARS AGO… you are STILL BLAMING her and PUNISHING her for not knowing what to do for you at that moment or not fully understanding… she’s acknowledged it now … why do you think you can still hold her to the flames for that???? You on the other than did not just have a moment of not responding a certain way … you discarded your entire family and an affair. Blowing up EVERY ONES world! And for that … which happened a couple years ago… you want her to forgive… forget and move on. Are you serious??? How on earth do your therapist NOT call you out on this. You need another therapist. Don’t you see what’s wrong with this double standard you have??? One look she gave or didn’t give etc does NOT equal in any way shape or form the utter destruction you brought. Your behavior is STILL selfish. You manipulate and control. You put divorce on the table and then get mad at her for not being vulnerable and close to you. I’m mean WTF … Do you not know that throwing out divorce is the exact opposite of bringing closeness and intimacy? Listen carefully to what you said on this call with a critical mind … pretend it’s not you and think about what you’re saying… and how that would make you feel. Yeah … the affair ended. My guess is “she wasn’t meeting your needs” … or she dumped you.

[@peterlee584]

Well said!!

[@robinirons8140]

Her blank face was probably her being struck dumb by him stating the obvious that everyone else had figured out long ago.

[@aelh123]

Yeah and John didn’t call him out either, that call left me 🤨🤨

[@beastshawnee]

oh 100 she dumped him…

[@belinda6533]

10 years ago he f$&@ed up and it impacted the family. He still feels shame about it. In his mind he interpreted the look to communicate what he thought of himself. He hasn't forgiven himself therefore he hasn't forgiven the look. 😵‍💫sigh.😳🙄.

[@SB_McCollum]

How do you know when it's time to call it quits? When I call Dr John to give me public permission to leave.

[@user-ec3rm9wr1n]

I want my life back take me back to , 2019

[@AnthonyMcNeil]

Deleting Twitter was the best thing ive ever done. I only use Reddit on my computer since they got rid of 3rd party apps. I only have Facebook for family/work friends. Social media/phone addiction is too real.

[@freespiritwithnature4384]

I can relate. There was so much stress, and I needed to practice what I preached. I needed to restart everything after my husband left ,I had been diagnosed with autoimmune disorder after 60 neighbors sprayed their lawns with insecticides and pesticides. I was canning vegetables and popped a snap pea into my mouth, and burned my tongue. I was paralyzed for 8 days and left as fast as it came on. I've been single 15 years now. I knew I had to get rid of toxic people, toxic information, TV, and Facebook. had to go,but I kept messenger. I was on antidepressants for 5 months, and after detoxification of all negativity, I began to feel the old Michele coming back. Now I just have to find someone to go camping with, painting, but truthfully, trusting someone again is possible but just scary. I think it's because I lost everything all at once. Phone addictions are real, and so I actually got an iPad and a phone number on an app. But your old self will start craving life experiences again. It feels wonderful! ❤ Good for you .❤🇨🇦

[@Plooky1969]

Maria, caller 3 needs to be quiet and listen. I’ll bet her daughter can’t get a word in edge wise.

[@bahena735]

Right? She sounds super critical.

[@mignonmykel3571]

Yes. She kept talking over too. She's not listening. It sounds like she has a "I'm right, I'm always right, and this is why I'm right," about her.

[@azteca6695]

Sounds like the marriage was over, before the affair

[@mightymouse9001]

Screw it. When I have kids the whole family is going to flip phones. Smart phones were more a detriment than progress. Will have a family computer in a dedicated school/study/library room.

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

Such a good point, if the Cheater has taken the steps to apologize, attended personal therapy, attended couples therapy, & she took him back- sooner or later, she has to stop punishing him for his mistake. This is actually why I am unable to take a Cheater back- I would be DONE. But, she did take him back, & she has dropped therapy. I don’t think she wants the marriage to work, I think she wants to maintain the status quo of their economic situation, what looks like a marriage to those outside. Plus, she’s frequently outing him for his infidelity! Only a core group like parents or best friends should be aware, period. If it’s 2.5 years later, & she’s still occasionally sharing his infidelity- her shaming him, punishing him over & over is a dealbreaker.

[@sallyhumphrey6977]

Scott, couples I know that have come back from an affair besides everything else to work through have had a least a weekly date....with no obvious issues and tried to find something to do that is fun. Privacy is necessary for both of you - it is your situation and not everyone else's.

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

Right, & 2.5 years later she’s still telling people he cheated. I hate Cheaters, but she took him back, so either get with the program, work on forgiveness & acceptance, or get out.

[@JennieC21]

⁠That’s just what he said. We only heard his side of the story. She may not keep telling people, maybe he’s paranoid or saying she is to make himself feel better and make it her fault 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@FaithAndRepentance]

So happy to be home all the time, I spent my first 30 years running around like crazy, Friends of the world everybody's best friend, I finally got great the day I stayed home for the last 3 years 😊 and finally worked on myself. Tis a season

[@annah3359]

Like Scott said, it’s all about Scott. Scott will be old, alone and lonely because no woman will meet his expectations. His wife will move on with the kids and happy as a lark, not immediately, but later.

[@angied1178]

It sounds like the first caller detests his wife... Dude she doesn't deserve to be with someone who detests her. The kinder thing to do is end this so you can both be with people who don't detest one another

[@megalopolis2015]

I have such a bad feeling about the daughter. She could be emotionally isolating and blindsiding her parents and the professionals all over again. While I think stuff happened to her in that facility, I also suspect her uncle or someone from school contributing to her trauma. I hope I'm wrong, and that she and her parents can just go to family counseling, get to the heart of the matter, and deal with her recent past experiences and go up from there, but the caller needs to be prepared to hear things she might not expect. I'm still praying for Scott's marriage. They have a very difficult road ahead of them, whether together or apart. As for the bubbly caller, she could apply her upbeat personality to customer service, voiceover acting and/or comedy, or another field that requires lighthearted encouragement.

[@Jelly._.cat._.1]

I know a 13 year old girl that attempted suicide . I know the parents and they are good hard working people. They are now very heavily involved with their daughter and sounds like she’s doing a lot better now . Although they don’t know why she attempted, I have this feeling that they rarely paid attention to her age 0 to 12. Now it’s oh lets make sure she doesn’t commit suicide, which I know that’s the last thing they want. So my point is to all parents and future parents is - stop being so lazy when your child is 0-12.

[@vincentrath59]

The last lady already seems to have all the answers. Not sure why she called in.

[@thedifferenceincolour7341]

Waste of time

[@pejisan]

i wouldn't want to be her only child

[@simplygina7703]

“I’ve got Taylor swift in my headphones, I’m on a journey” you’re calling me out Dr. John!! 😂😅❤

[@Trackpad12]

Caller 1: I can understand why your wife shuts down on you. I shut down in 5 mins listening to you whining. Caller 2: You seem like a nice lady. I am rooting for you. Caller 3: What type of question is that? Yes you should prioritize your daughter over having debt.

[@CJ-ft9yo]

He calls her out for mentioning the affair 3 years ago, when he brings up something from 10 years ago?

[@vl-c7079]

I'm 30, single and infertile. I relate on this so such...God knows the desires of my heart❤

[@faysmith9215]

OMG I haven't even finished listening to the story of last night yet and I am dying! I am on my floor rolling. OMG you guys, you John, and you George. Dying!

[@megalopolis2015]

It's pretty much a perfect story, especially because they were headed to a punk concert. 😊

[@megalopolis2015]

It's pretty much a perfect story, especially because they were headed to a punk concert. 😊

[@Mel-qz4xj]

Amazing book! Gave me the confidence to continue to raise my daughter the way I felt was right in spite of criticism.

[@genxis6097]

I wonder if Sharon got the "Ghost" reference. That movie is older than she is. Maybe it's one of those movies the younger set knows and appreciates.

[@MoonFoxSassy]

Third caller needs to refill her Xanax.... so uptight, no wonder the daughter is stressed..... thank god the therapist told them to back off, hope they listen.... "We found out our daughter is cutting herself.... we were MORTIFIED".... WHAT???? YOU were mortified???? How about actually CARING about your kid and not how you look???? JUST, WOW. Then blaming the suicide attempt on the therapist? What are you looking for, lady? You just want Dr. John to say you're right and perfect and control more? Sad.

[@ambernelli7791]

Your first reaction to finding out a kid is cutting should be hugs....not mortification.

[@jenniferbassett3001]

I don't know who reads these comments from KZbin there at Ramsey Solutions, but I have called in twice and nobody has returned my phone call 😢😢 it's probably been 3 months since I called you guys.

[@stephanieshifrin4285]

This guy is whiny

[@janetr5929]

And very selfish

[@gloriack7976]

Very little worse than a whiny selfish man. I guess vindictive would be the perfect dark triad. Ugh. I’m going to text my hubby now and thank him again for actually behaving like an emotionally mentally mature person.

[@joanlangley1682]

He damaged her... forgive and forget are two different things...

[@vickyCA1643]

Emotional detachment. When married to a person who has emotional detachment, for what ever reasons. Could you address that Dr. Delony?

[@peterlee584]

Gabor Maté isn't a Child Psychiatrist. He's a General Practitioner with a Specialty in child development.

[@Susan.Pritchard]

This man sounds like my ex husband. Charming and like he puts in the work and yet a narcissist. He left on his terms eventually. But I finally got to read that “narcissistic personality disorder” diagnosis in black and white during a trial…. a trial where he was facing 20 years to life for breaking into my home with a gun. He’s in prison now… putting in work… with his charming personality.

[@France149]

New habits without toxicity that it really 💯 lives on without you wishfully and respect your self luv urself for you

[@freespiritwithnature4384]

I have the picture of you pushing the prius, I mean, TESLA than ELON didn't even 😜 send a sympathy card. Lol I'm laughing so hard. 😂

[@afterthestorm9355]

People here are really piling on to Scott. Yes, he stepped out and had an affair and all trust was/is lost. Yet if he shared his vulnerability with her-and she essentially had no empathy-she may be very distant. Who’s the narcissist here? Who knows?!?

[@lorriedarbyshire8146]

Scott's wife gave him a "look" 10 yrs. ago and he can't get over it, yet she's had 2 1/2 yrs. since he hopped in bed with another woman and he expects her to be "over it" by now. He blew up their marriage! He committed adultery on her---that's a heck of a lot worse that a "look" over a problem at work. Scott, if you really want to save your marriage, smarten up and be a man. Beg your wife for forgiveness over and over again. Change your ways and stop being a cry baby. Make your wife's happiness your priority, not your own. Full disclosure from now on and commit to winning her love back. She has been living with this pain 24/7 for 2 1/2 yr. now. Get over it Scott, she owes you nothing, you owe her everything. Get to work and stop whining.

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

I personally despise cheating, BUT- she made the choice to take him back, & attend Couples therapy with him. I heard him explain “the look”, & I think the sub-layer is he FELT her disinterest, her detachment from that point on. I truly think she had already checked out, especially as he is remaining in therapy, but she QUIT.

[@zacariasnelson5753]

Lotta Scott haters when they’d think twice if the rolls were reversed

[@jvogt4643]

Best thing he could do if give her the option to do her for a little and come back and see if it works

[@flipphone4755]

Not defending what Scott did, but I know a lot of men who have cheated because they aren’t heard or appreciated by their wife. It’s almost never about sex. Ending the affair and going back to the same old marriage solves nothing.

[@katielindsey5758]

Ok something seems so off with this guy

[@gloriack7976]

It’s because he’s manipulative and controlling. I would bet big money he acts completely different with his wife than he does in this phone call. What a pathetic human.

[@blueseptember2174]

The cadence in his voice sounds like he is watching a movie of himself.

[@beastshawnee]

First Caller is gonna tell his wife that THIS call was his Last Major Final effort to save his Marriage! He even called Dr John Deloney!!! And then he is gonna change nothing else. He’s gonna continue to blame everything on that one “horrific” facial expression. HE’S GONNA MAKE HER BREAK UP WITH HIM. He’ll keep pushing her and she’ll stay resistant from self protection.

[@charlenegullotta5823]

Seems like a man who writes the book on anxiety cures that something simple as keeping family keys on a hook at home might save some grief .an easy organizational fix. Seems also I heard this kid has keys story again .

[@butreally289]

I’ll never understand why electric cars don’t have a small back up battery for emergencies maybe to keep you going for another hour or so? Can anyone tell me, are they too expensive or take up too much space? 🤔

[@pamkramerkohut3616]

You got bought!!

[@pejisan]

Maria needs to chill and be a kind and loving Mom.

[@SaystheTruth3]

Did she really call in about her cell phone usage? Skip........ 😂

[@rositahuff4858]

…for me…a lot is language….if I hear “I am stuck”….that is to far gone already….

[@gemintherough555]

I know men are allowed feelings, but this guy is too much. If he needed connection, what did he do to grow that connection other than complain and feel sorry for himself? He says he wants to be together with his wife but he’s picking everything apart still.

[@ConnieFoster1]

This guy is just creepy. I feel bad for the wife

[@joanlangley1682]

Right but was he listening to her?

[@bellamichelle6248]

Scott does stupid s-wins the prizes for doing so then cries bc he cannot get his way

[@peterlee584]

Unfortunately, I think you're right.

[@bellamichelle6248]

@@peterlee584 Scott needs to be single with multiple women to hook up with- the less one person sees of his narcissistic personality the less they will catch on. “I need emotional connection bc my wife made a face I didn’t like 10 years ago.” 😑 is this Scott Peterson possibly ?

[@katelos]

How can I pre-order the book from outside the US and get the free downloads? Only the US is listed in the shipping.....thank you

[@lisak7380]

Try and see if Amazon will ship it to you internationally.

[@katelos]

@lisak7380 thanks yes they will, but I won't get the nice add ons that are being offered if I buy via the website. Was wondering if I sent proof to someone, I could get them sent?

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@katelosyes Ramsey care team will honor the preorder additions.

[@patgorham4796]

Whine whine whine, you are at fault for killing your marriage!

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

She took him back, they each attended individual therapy & couples therapy. HE is still going, SHE quit. Either she forgives & accepts, or they separate. She doesn’t now have a license to keep sharing 2.5 years later, “He cheated on me!”, unless she separates from him- then, what she says & does is on her.

[@joninature]

i think that you need to make key copies

[@sarahp8937]

The young lady who attempted is calling out for attention 😢

[@ShanaeBeautiful]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 that was want every non! Ev person wanted to see👀 😏😏😏

[@butreally289]

Don’t agree with John. He has an affair and thinks she will ever forgive him? Is he crazy?

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

Then, don’t take him back! If you agree to restart the marriage, he’s done personal individual & couples therapy. She has quit therapy. He cannot be punished for the rest of his life, unless she wants to end it, & forever be able to share her husband cheated on her.

[@priusa8113]

Is this live

[@flashthecorgi2053]

No, it’s prerecorded from July 17th!

[@fromtabithawithlove]

The way Maria talks about her and to her is not loving at all…

[@TMichelle555]

George Kimmel?! THEE George Kimmel? Pink D? Of tigerbelly?? The crossover i never saw coming lol

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Sorry to burst your bubble but it’s George Kamel (another Ramsey personality John works with)

[@emilylabo7053]

I’m not a fan of Dr. Jon this guy on the phone is looking for a Mom not a wife.

[@thelastminmom5251]

EV’s are a joke. 1000% I would have been laughing if I saw you guys pushing a Tesla. 😂

[@RespekfulFungus]

I’d be seeing a lawyer about that therapist. Her minor clients are in danger.

[@pejisan]

I revere Gabor Maté

[@kristinaolson77]

Does Sharon make you feel alive, John? 😂

[@velvetfaerie]

I have an ex named Scott who has a history of this stuff..... What's in a name.........

[@margo3367]

She doesn’t/can’t trust you anymore, dude.

[@jangrosemartindale8740]

Then, separate! Stop telling people 2.5 years later he cheated. She can do that if she wants to separate & end the marriage, but she cannot shame & punish him for the rest of his life- IN THE MARRIAGE.

[@belinda6533]

Scott is not a grown up.

[@pamkramerkohut3616]

You lost your credibility card. As a counselor

[@cg741graf5]

I will NEVER buy an electric vehicle. From negative 30 temps to Mtn rds: not taking those chances ever. As for the caller: you threw a Molotov cocktail in your life and you expect it to just be okay and memories wiped after a short time. Here’s how she’s feeling: hurt, sad, madd, unsafe, disrespected, fooled: anyone else want to add some? If his behavior has not changed and he starts to do the same things that caused the affair and secrecy then the person is allowed to bring up the broken boundaries and History repeating itself. History is not gone it is a lesson.

[@clericstorm2009]

It's been shown that Tesla lies about its range. They program the software so that it looks like you have a lot of range on a full change, then it drops to reality at half charge. Lesson is don't buy into the hype and from a car company run by a charlatan. EVs are great, just not Teslas. Owner of Chevy and Nissan EVs, super happy and am never going back.

[@SummaGirl1347]

I’ve had a fully electric car, with a third the range of a Tesla, for 8 years. I’ve never run out of range. Electric cars run out of charge just like gas cars run out of gas. For a Tesla to run out of range, you have to not charge it for a LONG time. Don’t blame the car, blame the driver who didn’t charge it.

[@BC13nls]

True that! Same -- I've had a Tesla for 3 years and have never ran out of battery. Like you said -- it's nothing to do with the car and plenty of gas cars on the side of the road, either out of gas or dead.

[@toprekoms4442]

I think the great doc. Has cheated on his wife in the past :/ I get it. Nobody's perfect & he too must learn from bad decisions but its almost like he overly -sympathetic to the cheater in general. It's almost like he ain't got the balls to stand up to them. Life experiences 8s one thing but dam doctor, BEING CHEATED ON HURTS. 2 years later it's easy to throw it in the cheaters face !! It fucking hurts John. Maybe you could sympathize w the betrayed a little more. Talk about trigger gurrr IM betrayed 4 years ago and its the docs exact demeanor that keeps me from moving on w reconciliation .

[@flashthecorgi2053]

John has def never cheated on his wife! One because he has flat out said “I’ve never cheated on my wife” but also the way he talks about Sheila she wouldn’t stay with someone who did that. Also they have been married 21 years it’s not like he has had many past relationships being he’s only in his mid 40’s!

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Another thing is he is extremely sympathetic to people who’ve been cheated on. Go watch some calls on that side!

[@toprekoms4442]

Your not wrong I have heard him say that. But they were on again off again for years in college . Somthing could have happened there...

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@toprekoms4442 they were on or off only because of career changes and also they broke up officially so if he did date in that time that’s not cheating! I 100% trust that Delony has never cheated he seems like an amazing man of character and integrity! I have even met him and he couldn’t be more kind or down to earth. He really is an amazing guy and what you see on camera is really his personality!

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@flashthecorgi2053yeah 20 years is right when all those “good guys” cheat and run out on their families.

[@a.d.b535]

No men weighing in on the cheating?

[@DorothyM45]

That's why electric cars suck lol to funny

[@robinw360]

Electric cars are far worse for the environment. That's before you consider the child slave's who dig out the rare precious material for your toxic battery

[@coxrocks25]

The therapist is trying to trans that kid. Revoke their license

[@amiramahgoub]

Freedom ✌

[@ivnehaas]

The comments do not disappoint 🔥💪🏻

[@France149]

The guys who make apps are good i.t. department am a cyber geek 🤓 tooooooooooooo🎉 😂 aiullyuaj 🙏🙏🙏🙏🤣

[@diggernash1]

Drop her like a bad habit and find a new woman. They are more of them than us.

[@peterlee584]

Why?? If he doesn't learn and grow from this situation, he'll just repeat the same pattern.

[@MoonFoxSassy]

LOL none of us want you anymore, champ

[@diggernash1]

@peterlee584 He has and she sounds disagreeable. No reason to waste time on a disagreeable woman; even if you caused part of it.

[@peterlee584]

@@diggernash1 In other words, "treat her like crap and run like a rat"?? Is that your motto??

[@diggernash1]

@@peterlee584 3 years is enough punishment. Both people need a chance at something better.

[@cellis5111]

dont like this new set decor