I Feel Completely Betrayed by My Husband (What Do I Do?)

[@Crybaby-cz8et]

" If you want to test a man's character, give him power" Abraham Lincoln

[@poppycalliope6793]

Thanks, I love quotes and this one is brilliant. I think they are great teachers.

[@rod1147]

Kind of sounds like the father is afraid when he passes. The wife will remarry and get swindled out of his legacy money.

[@whatliesbeneaththeweave3518]

@@rod1147So you’re telling us that a 70yr old widow is more likely to married over her young, beautiful, 20 something daughter???😂😂😂😂 Thanks for this laugh! He’s leaving it to his DAUGHTER. She’s being courted by more men than her elderly mother. 😅

[@FreeSpirit47]

@@whatliesbeneaththeweave3518 The comment you wrote smacks of ignorance & a negative ageist attitude. Just assuming her daughter is beautiful just because she's young when you don't know what she looks like. Young doesn't always equate to beautiful & a person doesn't have to be young to be beautiful. Also, in ignorance your comment shows that you assume she is being courted when you don't really know. People in their 60s, 70s, 80s, meet, enjoy each other's company a lot with no money involved.

[@0num4]

@Crybaby-cz8et the irony of Lincoln saying that would be top-tier. Though the quote is misattributed; it was actually spoken by Robert Ingersoll in 1883. Lincoln abused power as readily as any President before or since. Historical accounts, even by his own letters both private and public, demonstrate him to be petty and corruptible.

[@samarrua364]

I see comments saying she’s choosing money over her family… which is not the case! Her husband betrayed her… he’s the one who is choosing money over her!

[@Alex-Mex]

Totally agree with you! To me it wouldn’t be the money…it’s just the principle of it all. To me I would think this was his plan from the beginning because she never was on there.

[@tObito687]

from the sound of it she isnt doing that by any means since her other kids are seemingly on her side in this since they arent talking to their dad. shes choosing her self respect and dignity over being with a deceitful husband and a spoiled brat of a daughter.

[@thenativist7625]

She’s a money hungry heifer

[@Ella-Bella2024]

He's choosing to control her from the grave. Evil.

[@Michadoo]

The husband chose money over family 💯

[@sillylilkoala]

Her daughter is betraying her, too. Double betrayal by your husband and daughter, I can't imagine the feelings she's going through. 😢

[@rhondar828]

I know this made me cry for her. Blood is not thicker than water. I feel horrible for her

[@kowalchukm]

I don’t understand the daughter’s game here. She will get the money eventually. The entitlement is crazy. I told my parents to spend all their money before they die. They worked for it. It’s theirs, not mine.

[@SharonWilson-e1p]

I agree 😪😪😪

[@LaCantressa]

She doesn't need to fight. She needs a solid attorney to do her fighting for her.

[@delretadonaldson]

The fight will be at home....yes the attorney will do the fighting but the fallout will be when she gets home

[@patriciaalbertson5183]

​@@delretadonaldsonit's already been at home,for ALL these years.... She just refused to Look at It! This behavior of his is a result! The problem was always there

[@donnabaker3969]

The marriage was over as soon as her husband so brutally betrayed and disrespected her!🤬🤬🤬

[@tristeangelo]

As an elder Millennial, my generation has seen our mothers and grandmothers sacrifice & invest their everything into a family/business only to have their husband's treat them like an indentured servant. This business wouldn't exist if she hadn't invested her retirement & inheritance. It's marital theft & abuse. Such a common situation. This is exactly why younger generations don't want to get married and if they do, want to keep their finances separate.

[@broetchenahoi6524]

exactly THIS!

[@savannahbrewer6161]

Not all of us. Some of us younger gens do get married and combine finances just fine.

[@MS-sr6mj]

Men see us as servants, not people.

[@braskevful5760]

Yes you are 100% correct, all the abuse including financial makes me not get married EVER also not having children. Its a fulltime job without any paycheck, recognition or respect from family or society.

[@wsh415]

@@savannahbrewer6161Put a pin in this and circle back in about 20 to 30 years and let us know how it went!

[@jessiejoseph1093]

The fact that her daughter is ok with this makes me sick.

[@kensmith2796]

It doesn't surprise me though. I knew a guy whose father passed and left his business evenly divided between the 4 kids who were in their 40s. Not sure if he had legal papers drawn up or not but one of the siblings just took over the entire business for himself. The siblings didn't sue but they broke all communication with him. Then he paid their elderly mother very little, only when the accountant said he had too much money and it would be a tax benefit for him to pay his mother something.

[@tObito687]

shes her fathers daughter thats for sure

[@tObito687]

@@kensmith2796 i can never understand siblings screwing each other over like that. my sister and I have had some BIG ups and downs over the years but i couldnt imagine doing something like that to her.

[@poppycalliope6793]

People have to do things legally and be covered, irrespective of who they are dealing with even if they believe the person is trustworthy and above reproach. I have seen too many people fighting things out in court because someone is behaving like a moron and trying to get more than their share.

[@MaxJones-dj5ub]

you make me sick

[@kellywerner5976]

I just left my husband of 35 years for financial betrayal. It's almost worse than if he had an affair. I trusted him and now I am starting over @ 62. It's the first time I am feeling peace. You can do it and it will be all worth it. ❤

[@ryankelly8077]

Congrats 🎉👏🏻💕

[@sandycallery3660]

👍🏻💕

[@CandySoulAndSoil]

Believe me affairs nearly always come with financial betrayal too. It’s the nature of the man who would do it. Ask me how I know! Well done for getting out! ❤

[@michelleparks4582]

That's what I say too. Divorce him if it's the only way to get your half! May find that life is more peaceful with just yourself, your friends and your animals (if you have them). I mean comma congrats on fifty years and all, but if they aren't happy (ish) who cares?❤

[@kellycotton7668]

From one Kelly to another, I was born in 1962. She can do it. I'm driving a concrete mixer. It is hard work, but I have peace of mind and a peaceful home. ✌️

[@janice9368]

If you've been married for 50 years, the business is STILL HALF YOURS

[@MrC9Oh3]

It's definitely his business

[@Shannonmari]

I agree with you-- I would think that if the business was built after they were married, then yes, it would be considered a marital asset and half hers. She definitely needs to get a good attorney and find out asap.

[@krisg71]

@@MrC9Oh3 cool. And when he sells it, it becomes a mutual asset.

[@MrC9Oh3]

@Shannonmari not true

[@sherryweems8579]

This will cost the wife a mint!! Make no mistake!!!! SERIOUSLY

[@christineosullivan5061]

Solution... get the best lawyer you can get...marriage is over anyway . fight for whats yours! dont be afraid.. stand your ground. get after it. xx

[@Marilyn236]

Agreed, but if she hasn't done it in 50 years she's hardly going to do it now, in her 70ies.

[@broetchenahoi6524]

agreed!

[@LC-pk4zz]

So sad. Yup... 50 year marriage - over in 10 minutes. Poor lady.

[@krisg71]

Yep. And she needs to walk away from that daughter if the daughter cares more for the money than fairness to her mom.

[@krisg71]

Honestly, if she came at them with a lawyer and a set of well organized asks, they'd likely see her differently. This may be a case of them thinking she's truly not capable of self-direction and misguidedly trying to protect her by treating her like a child. If she wants the respect owed an adult business partner, she needs to act like one. Starting NOW.

[@kellietrudel8222]

Lady needs to see a lawyer. Doesn’t matter what her “husband” says. Call his bluff.

[@lav7161]

She did and look where it got her. I think she got set up and is screwed now. What can a lawyer do here if she doesn't have her name anywhere in the business?​@DabsLawyerLLC

[@alluringbliss4165]

@@DabsLawyerLLCand the Bible says who does not take care of his family is worse than an unbeliever.

[@toniscott1029]

​@@DabsLawyerLLC go away, troll!

[@bobrange4773]

I don't think it's a bluff. I think he has gotten his own way his entire life and is arrogant enough to believe this is all locked in. When the dust settles, I hope he's stunned completely silly trying to figure out how this woman he's been bulldozing for half a century became the fox and he the rabbit. I have nothing but contempt for the daughter as well.

[@izzywox8246]

@@DabsLawyerLLClawyer and carpenter you’ve claimed now as an occupation here. You’re a poser 😂😂😂😂 I imagine you are ridiculed irl, that’s why your persona is so big here 😂 keep dabbing those tears

[@hkburrows]

I feel so angry for her, as a daughter, I would never do this to my mother, not for all of the money in the world. I hope that she does get an attorney, and puts them both in their place.

[@jordananthony6432]

at face value i feel for her and if there isnt more to the story she got screwed and should fight. without knowing more details i cant pick sides. For all I know her inheritance wasn't much, for all i know she might not actually do good work in the business. I would like to know how much the "Allowance" is. regardless the husband is a loser for not being upfront about this

[@emilyk.5664]

I agree...there is no amount of money that would make me leave either of my parents feeling this way. I would want them to be taken care of.

[@elanafelberg1733]

Agree 100%!!

[@FreeSpirit47]

Sadly, two of my daughters & my son did the same thing to me. The one daughter who stood up to her dad was completely cut off by him. No contact, no money, nothing. He had promised to help her with college, he backed out of that. She called me one day, in tears as her tuition was due by the close of the business day in 6 hours, had not been paid. I told her, WE can do this. WE don't need him. It was expensive, she's my baby & I worked hard to help her live her dream of a BA in Engineering with no student loan debt. Her father is missing out on so much just so he can satisfy his ways of controlling everyone who will allow him to control them. He didn't go to her wedding or her graduation from college. He didn't accept her invitation as her father, to witness the launch of Artemis. The most recent space vehicle. She was on the design team who created Artemis. He has never seen or held her baby girl or her baby boy. His alienation of her has made she and I form a stronger bond. I would hope that her father comes around because she still loves him as her father. Though I'm glad that she and I are closer because he's out of the picture, so I don't have to deal with him, I would still want him to be in her life because it's what she wants.

[@victoriaryanlpcpc8075]

He is not worth being married to you! You deserve better!❤

[@djer05010401]

I'm an attorney in the Detroit area, and I would encourage this caller to ask for referrals from trusted friends and business associates, and set up meetings with a few different firms. Find someone you feel comfortable with to advise you honestly about all your options. With a business that size, you should be able to find a reputable firm that handles business litigation, divorce litigation, probate litigation, and tax and estate planning, and you'll want a firm that can advise you in all of those areas. Best of luck to you, I'm hoping for the best!

[@MaletinaClarke-rq9ds]

If she seeks a divorce, will she be entitled to take half the business ?

[@mariewhiting2380]

That's what I thought straight away,she's going to have to file for divorce.​@@MaletinaClarke-rq9ds

[@annmcdonald7713]

Great advice

[@annamarietaljaard1193]

Good advice❤

[@mariac2472]

She sounds like she doesn’t want to get into it with him because he’s going to make her life miserable and things at home will get worse than they already are. Just because it’s been 50 years of marriage doesn’t mean it’s been good, or pleasant. When John says something about what she should do she gets very quiet and she said she’s too old to go to battle. It sounds like she already feels defeated. I hope she realizes you’re not too old till you’re dead. And if she doesn’t do anything, she’s going to regret it. I hope she fights this and then gets out of the marriage. I hope she finds the fortitude and strength to do what she has to do. Lady, I don’t know who you are but you can do this!

[@TinaSpencer-mr1cp]

I can’t imagine wanting to stay in a “marriage” with someone who thinks so little of me that he would betray me so thoroughly.

[@tc_is_me]

It sounds like he was a handful being married to. I bet he has disrespected and dishonored her in other ways over the years. He didn’t just become a jerk at this point. And I assume she learned to play nice with him just to keep the peace. I Can see him being the type to have a tantrum when he doesn’t get his way.

[@hkburrows]

I can't either, but then I've never been married to someone for half a century. Stockholm Syndrome maybe?

[@snowmiaow]

With someone for 30 years. I grew up with the idea you preserve the union literally matter what. It is not about what you want, it is what you do.

[@rebekahwilson7703]

THIS!!!!!

[@AA-pz9on]

Because slowly, over time, you become brain washed and your soul erodes away. You have barely a conscious knowing that you don't deserve this, yet in your trying to get out, crawling through mud, you're getting drug down into the pits of hell. You are standing there screaming, but no one is there to hear you. You begin to wonder what is real. So you go to just survive another day. A better life isn't even on your radar anymore.

[@samtrahan8321]

I got divorced after a 48 year miserable marriage. Best thing that ever happened to me! I am happier than I have ever been and living my best life. Heather, you can do this. God bless.

[@cherylgordon6436]

That is now the thought in my head. After 35 years Of marriage And somehow my feed brought this man on like it was, God sent 😢

[@taytayqueen7024]

This is 100% a kind of financial abuse. My dad added me on as an owner within 5 years of me joining the family business when I started talking on 80% of the leadership responsibilities. My mom is also an owner, all of us equal even though she’s never worked in it however as her daughter I am 100% okay with that because she is the one who emotionally supported him for all those years. Shame on the daughter. Give mom her portion, she deserves it.

[@taytayqueen7024]

My mom never worked even a day in the family business but she is an EQUAL owner because she birthed and supported the people who take care of it for years. WTF this mom’s daughter should be ashamed.

[@amandam.7520]

Exactly! The daughter is wild for this! Honestly, I think I'd feel more betrayed by my daughter 😓

[@taytayqueen7024]

@@amandam.7520 yeah wth but the dad allowing it too makes the whole thing sus. If I asked my dad to cut my mom out of the business he would fr kick me out and I’d deserve it lmao.

[@thenativist7625]

Your mum is a freeloader, send that wench to the homeless shelter.

[@MCP168]

And it looks like it is covered under the Michigan coercive law.

[@shannalee80]

This woman needs to hire an attorney ASAP. This is one of many nightmares that most women have about marriage.

[@Mmmmkaaay]

Yep. Everyone hates lawyers until they need one. 😉

[@EricFant]

@@Mmmmkaaay You can hate them and still need them, it's called a necessary evil.

[@DannyFlay]

Over her own daughter too. This is so sad.

[@Muzzy0085]

Yeah well she had 30 years to sort paperwork out.

[@Stein99]

This is exactly why women arent getting married

[@daisy9910]

I really want an update on this. Poor lady, she needs to get the best lawyer she can find and teach the husband and daughter a lesson.

[@alaketu1012]

I want an update, too!

[@xSunshinex4206]

me too

[@sibyllolson3237]

Worth 25 million and they can’t take care of the mom! What the heck? My hearts breaks for her.

[@Michadoo]

Greedy and selfish.

[@ssing7113]

Dude I know multi billionaires who would let relatives and family stave. As I’ve seen it first hand 😂 Remember actually statistics show the more wealth the more in giving them become statistically

[@barryc9115]

No one said she wasn’t going to be taken care of. She’s just butt hurt because he told her how it was going to be. She obviously isn’t capable of running the business as she agreed the daughter was the right person to take it over. She had, at best, a secondary role in the business, she KNEW her name wasn’t on it, and it’s only now that’s she’s upset. She has no reason to feel ‘betrayed’, she, like most women is just upset she may not get what she considers her full cut…..

[@strawberryme08]

I never caught they said it’s worth 25 million 😬 makes me wonder if he got the means by being dishonest

[@TheFergo911]

@@fayezzles, yes, that is important to consider, but even then, it isn't like she is not getting any money from this business. She isn't able to run the business because she knows her daughter is more capable of doing that. She will get paid once her husband passes away. I think she needs probably get more than just a stipend from the business but that is something she needs to establish in the will. But to say she should be completely dishonoured by this action is a bit to much. I think the issue is probably the lack of care the husband has given when thinking about how she will have to deal with her bills if the money isnt enough or if the process of getting through the red tape is more arduous. I also believe the mom doesn't trust her daughter to ensure that she is taken care of years after the husband has passed away. I can sense she has more conflict between everyone in the family that is why there is this much fear and sadness.

[@katiemvp6536]

What a daughter!!!!! There you have it!GET A LAWYER and teach your daughter a hard lesson. Let that marriage go and enjoy your millions. HE IS A horrible person to do that to you and your kids

[@TerriBennett-nf4vb]

he died about 8 and 1/2 years ago from stage 4 lung cancer and it's a good thing I demanded it because I ended up with the house and to sell it even in the bad shape it was in .but thank God I did that or I would have really been a s***** Creek

[@lauren4078]

My husband's sister is the same way... actively screwing their mother out of her rightful part of the family farm. She only has the gall to do so because their daddy is dead. She is reprehensible. My husband and I have zero respect for her. I can't imagine doing that to my own mother!

[@agf1700]

⁠DabsLawyer👈🏻 1 week old account. Troll. Ignore.

[@carlettasharp5821]

This has probably been planned for quite awhile. The daughter, along with her greed, has probably been convinced that her mother doesn't have the intelligence to run the business. To be handed a "document" is a kick in the gut! To land on her feet financially, she will probably be facing a divorce and will have to look at him and her daughter in legal meetings and/or court proceedings for the business. Basically the marriage and trust of the daughter is over. I hope the other children can hold her close because things like this can affect your health.

[@lak1294]

A competent lawyer doesn't rely on prayer as a strategy. They work their butt off to determine the best strategy and case for their client.

[@thornyrose1235]

This is what happens when you're a doormat in your own marriage for 50 years. Ladies - learn to stand up for yourselves!! If you can't advocate for yourself, don't expect your husband to do it for you.

[@kensmith2796]

True. My sister has been married for 30 years to an unemployed alcoholic that controls her money. They recently had wills drawn up so that when they pass everything will be left to his brother whom she doesn't even like.

[@weekendnomad5038]

I guess I’m the same way I don’t put my husbands name on stuff I have that I had before the marriage. It’s a safety net Also if someone sues her husbands business and her name is on it she will be attacked financially as well. As long as the houses are in her name they’ll have something to fall back on Just playing devils advocate here

[@thornyrose1235]

@@weekendnomad5038 The difference is that they built the business together. He didn't start it before marriage. She said that she liquidated her savings and retirement money and put it towards the business. That's not at all what you described in your scenario. She will lose money on the business if it gets ugly and they get tied up in legal fees but she most definitely will lose money if this man dies and her daughter decides not to give her the 'allowance'.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

She needs to contest that because she's married to him for 30 years!!!​@kensmith2796

[@thenubianspeaks4329]

sad but true

[@melissashelton1447]

When she said the business was worth 25 million, I yelled out loud.

[@BaconMountainMan]

Right? I would have spoken with a lawyer yesterday. 😬

[@kensmith2796]

Yeah grandma wasn't joking when she said the business was doing well!

[@AlrightParty]

SO. DID. I.

[@kyaramonique420]

Me too.

[@nd7289]

​@@DabsLawyerLLC what kind of lawyer are you? His assets can be split if she decided to divorce him

[@lynnebucher6537]

He's gotten away with calling the shots for 50 years. He won't willingly allow a change. She'll have to push hard. Her daughter is hoping to get the entire pie. Caller needs an attorney to run interference and stand up for her rights.

[@macpduff2119]

Yes, the daughter is maneuvering to cut her siblings out of the inheritance.

[@thabsmkhize2481]

@@macpduff2119yes! 💯💯

[@ouwebrood497]

She has been sleeping all that time though.

[@miriamespinoza3766]

This is so sad 😞 similar to what happened to my mom.

[@JenniferKlumpp]

There is no saving that poor woman's marriage. It's already over. There is only saving her dignity and her hard work.

[@howdidienduphere]

As a boomer woman married to a boomer man, I recognize this behavior. That's why my house, which I brought into the marriage, remains in my name. It's a generation thing for sure. Some men never get over chauvinism.

[@julieannweinert4206]

You’re never to old to fight. You deserve 50%. Get a really good lawyer. Fight girl fight.

[@RoseVanilla-k8u]

@@sueflemingShe used up all of her inheritance and all of took out all of her pension for the business, are you deaf, didn’t you hear that??

[@suefleming]

@@RoseVanilla-k8u We are only hearing her side of it. It makes me wonder why he dislikes her so much and has so much animosity towards her. Perhaps she cheated on him ? Perhaps she made very foolish business decisions or was very wasteful with the money... We are only hearing her side of it. He didn't put her name on the business because for some reason he didn't trust her.

[@ashleygaerke3371]

@@suefleming Although yes there are always too sides to every story this is not uncommon for women in her generation. To be the homemaker. Stand by her husband and although many are wonderful men like my grandfather who who have moved heaven and earth and given everything he had for my grandmother of all are like that. Many were very controlling especially with the money. It is only as someone else said in the comments section the younger generations have watched this happen to many times and that is why today so many women want there “own” money. And even if she did make a mistake decades ago that does not change that it is half hers so I say she should fight. You are never to old. Prayers and best of luck to her.

[@suefleming]

@@ashleygaerke3371 I believe she deserves some of it but not half.

[@teresarollins116]

This is a partnership of equals. Please collect all pertinent documentation and make copies of everything. Please refrain from disclosing your strategy at this time. Hopefully, your attorney can file an injunction to prevent further business decisions. He assumed complete control and excluded you from the decision-making process. This is not a marriage; it is a regime.

[@erzabetf9544]

This is what happens when you teach women to rely on a man. And when you expect women to work for a business and not take a paycheck. She ends up in old age with nothing. She contributed to the business, and her husband is trying to hurt her. Because he can. He’s going to leave her destitute. THIS is why so many women would rather have cats than a husband.

[@Trackpad12]

She has 12 million if she chooses to divorce. Not sure what cat is going to give you that?! Morons

[@Foxie770]

When you work for a business you should always receive a paycheck. Regardless of sex. The man’s job is to provide for the family. This woman allowed abuse and lies from the husband for decades. That’s not a marriage issue, that’s a character flaw on the man and on her for being passive.

[@lynnebucher6537]

Exactly, my ex kept total control of his business but expected me to provide free labor and financial assistance. Backed out of that.

[@erzabetf9544]

@@Foxie770 Wow. Anything to blame a woman and differentiate yourself from her. I encourage you to do even just a little bit of research into abuse. It’s not a character flaw for her to have internalized the unrealistic - and dangerous - notion that a man has a specific role and that he can be relied on to play that role. She trusted her husband. This is something so deeply ingrained in people that it clouds their judgment. And, in some cases, it makes them blame people who’ve acted in good faith (like the caller) with people who have not acted in good faith (like the caller’s husband). And, yes, I mean you, here, @Foxie770. Your judgment is off.

[@Love.America]

​@@Foxie770stop victim blaming, it's embarrassing to show such lack of empathy for a good person. People like you are the problem with humanity

[@LisaLisa-in4vw]

He's a control freak. Financial abuse at its finest. What a mess. See a lawyer FAST!!! lady

[@MrC9Oh3]

How do you know this?

[@LisaLisa-in4vw]

@@MrC9Oh3 have you listened to it?!

[@MrC9Oh3]

@@LisaLisa-in4vw yes

[@LisaLisa-in4vw]

@@MrC9Oh3 so there's your answer

[@lauraray611]

💯!!

[@texasrodeogirl3814]

She’s from a generation where the woman is considered a second class citizen and defers to her husband’s demands. I feel sorry for her that she saw this coming and lived under his control for 50 years but was too scared or apathetic to change things. She’s obviously a doormat and it will be hard for her to stand up. I hope she finds the guts to do what’s needed here. Prayers for her that it easily resolves.

[@katiejon17]

Nah - that depends on the person. My family, and so many others that I know - have never had this mindset where the husband considers their wife as a “second class citizen”.

[@Stein99]

Women have wised up because we saw this happen to our mother's generation

[@katiejon17]

@@Stein99 Nope. Our “mother’s generation” stopped prioritizing being wives and mothers, yet demanded they continue to be treated as such. They chose to live more like men: being career-driven. This wasn’t something that just “happened” to these women, this was a choice they made. When you stop behaving like a wife and mother, it is only reasonable to anticipate men to stop treating you as such.

[@SharonAvery-yj5pg]

She's been a doormat in that marriage for 50 years. That's why her husband feels so comfortable disrespecting her. That marriage has been over.

[@ashassassin]

How sad. You reach your golden anniversary and find out your husband has been stealing from you and lying to you.

[@Marilyn236]

How was he lying? She knew all along her name wasn't on the business. He certainly doesn't respect her, but this wasn't news.

[@LilNickyy]

@@Marilyn236by not telling the truth.. you’re still lying. To look your wife in the face and call it “our business” and accept money from her to keep the business afloat while calling it “our business” the entire time she isn’t a part of the business… is lying.

[@CorinnaD]

@@LilNickyyit’s deceitful also.

[@Marilyn236]

I don't think he hid who he was at all, I think she was just unwilling to see.

[@weekendnomad5038]

OR protecting her from financial ruin of the business gets sued or fails

[@Emuiticious]

Wow…how do you treat your wife, your confidant, your best friend, your soulmate like that? Fifty years! How? I don’t understand…I’m at a loss for words.

[@PinkSpice19]

When you don't value your partner and you think of them as only wife and an extension of yourself instead of an individual person who has desires and wants and needs

[@christinamckinney2370]

Cause she was none of those!!! These type of men don’t INTEGRATE in their marriages. It’s acceptable to their wives because that’s the pattern they learned as children.

[@yambagnelson9987]

He probably doesn't like her. the fact that the daughter on his side suggests this lady is more of a problem than she is letting on.

[@thornyrose1235]

He treats her how she lets him treat her. She needs to stand up for herself. I hope she does it sooner than later.

[@annmcevoy9299]

She's not.

[@Tammy.822]

She said more than once "that's not what he says" and she sounds so defeated, like she won't even fight this. I really hope she does, with the support of her other children. What a horrible man.

[@eliseformatriceanglais]

And this, ladies, is why we KEEP OUR OWN JOBS and have OUR OWN LIVES when we get in a relationship or get married. DO NOT get lost into someone else's life.

[@katiejon17]

This is absolutely insane advice. Many of us have amazing husbands. But you have to address issues right away, not 50 years later when things have gotten as bad as they can get. Also remember - this isn’t a “man” thing..l her DAUGHTER is no better.

[@DAce-vu5ct]

Hes gonna make sure theyre fine . It isnt loke she isnt living good wtf You act like she is homeless or something

[@SetApart7Generation]

Facts

[@amberwawa7185]

Its no longer two lives. When you marry you have one life. You are emotionally and legally joined. You just need to choose wisely on who you marry.

[@xSunshinex4206]

@@DAce-vu5ct did you fail to understand? He screwed her over.

[@TheEquiss]

That’s why I will NEVER again ever have a joint account or even bother ever getting married again. Not even interested in a boyfriend. Nope. Easier and better being alone. Rely on yourself first. No one else ever has your best interest first. People use you for what they can get. Learned that after being married 30+ years. Rely on yourself

[@mrs.h7971]

When your name is on everything you own it EQUALLY. That is the point. Then a man can’t take it.

[@belindavandyke8363]

Not all men are Skanks. There are many good ones out there….I’ve got one! ❤️

[@SemekiIzuio]

Well it depends, I mean you have to be smart before you marry like a prenup, make sure you get a life insurance out of him, and make sure as wife he has an account for you to put money in, also I forgot what the other one was a Roth IRA I dint remember. Anyway point being, you should have build you own wealth first without needing the partner even if they left but making sure they take nothing from it. Its when you build together that is shared

[@jeandrummond9167]

Amen sister.

[@Rebecca-m3s]

We all look back and see what should have been. However, we are in it now. Shoulda, coulda...what now? I'm heartbroken for her...hope she does well. I'd take the money and run.

[@juliehernandez80]

That’s the problem. “What he says” - she’s always made her husband think and feel like he is gospel. Lady, get that money - he finna die soon anyways. That daughter makes me mad - spoiled brat.

[@tammylain7754]

Brat- well said! . when that daughter is in some crisis she will need her mother and siblings- money cannot buy her help in a bad situation or serious life or health issues. . You cannot eat money or get a hug from money or get money to comfort you when you lose someone.

[@agf1700]

The daughter is a grasping self serving entitled brat. To do that to her mother! She wasn’t worth raising. It’s telling that the other children are not talking to the Dad because of this.

[@ronhall5395]

They are both brats. She is entitled to a fair share, not tied up in a trust. He obviously thinks she will go blow it all on crap. He has zero confidence in her ability to handle money. Get a lawyer and start the process. He can back down and do the right thing, or spend a ton. Of money on lawyers and lose everything. His choice. He has to at least 70. Probably closer to 80. Time for him to grow up. The fair thing would be to split the business 1/3, 1/3, 1/3. Then he can leave his 1/3 to anyone he wants.

[@monkeybearmax]

I would have np saying no! mom gets half as the daughter.

[@SmileySaidIt]

A lot of women feel that way about their husbands and partners smh.

[@elanafelberg1733]

I am so disgusted by this woman's husband and their daughter. Just absolutely no words! And Dr. Delony is absolutely right she needs to get an attorney immediately and not sign any papers that her husband gives her. They absolutely have no character. I am praying for this lovely woman.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

She comes across as very kind and sweet. Just the type of person that sharks take advantage of.

[@danimocha6598]

What an awful thing to do to your spouse of 50 years. I also hate that he is playing favortism with one child and caused division between the siblings. When the parents are gone the siblings will need each other. What a way to mess up your legacy.

[@casspower]

Facts! Humans can be so ugly😢

[@dianabrown2258]

My husband did this EXACT SAME THING, we’ve been getting divorced for the last 2.5 years

[@sarikagoode1505]

Appears like the husband finally came into some money, for the first time in his life, and he intends to keep it. He was probably planning it since the beginning. This lady must be in her 70’s, if they’re been married for 50 years. He will try to cut her off on her golden years. She needs to fight. Otherwise she will have nothing to retire with. She also needs to be cautious as he may try to assault her when she confronts him. Definitely do not do that alone.

[@erikrohr4396]

Isn't it about time for the daughter to run the business anyway? The lady is probably in her 70s.

[@sarikagoode1505]

@@erikrohr4396 It’s about ownership, not running the day to day. They’re thinking of selling the business worth $25M. The husband & daughter are trying to convince the lady to not have any part of the proceeds, although it was her investment that started the company.

[@prisfiles]

@@erikrohr4396 if it weren’t for the wife investing all her money the business wouldn’t exist. The daughter wouldn’t have a stake in a non-existent business. It was clear in the video.

[@erikrohr4396]

@@prisfiles I'm assuming the caller was a 50/50 partner in the business with her husband. I'm just saying she's probably in her 70s now, and that's around the time when people start passing things to the children. Is she planning to build a $10M mansion or something similar?

[@noone-dv1jo]

@@erikrohr4396exactly lol, like what is she expecting to happen here

[@Art_by_Nicole]

Dear Heather, Rationally you already know what to do, but emotionally…It is so painful what you’re going through. Yes, you could get a divorce, but it’s easier said than done. You are the one who’s gonna be alone and go through all the pain, anger, heartbreak. I so hope you have got friends who are going to be there for you during that process. And please, talk to a professional too! You’re never too old to make yourself happy again. You have chosen for your husband for 50 years. Now, choose Heather for the remaining years! Stay strong ❤

[@donnasearch1]

You’re never too old to defend yourself.

[@matthewpauselius4767]

I saw it in my own family for MUCH less money. People you loved and trusted your whole life will cut your heart out for money. In any marriage BOTH names have to be on everything.

[@rachelcoad6585]

Yup, they absolutely will. It’s shocking to see. My grandpa passed away last year, he built a company in 1955 and today it’s a 20 mil corporation. When he passed, he knew all his children were too greedy to run his company, he knew they wouldn’t keep his charity foundation running, except for my mom. so he made her the CEO, gave her ownership of the entire company, and gave them nothing. All his money went to charity and the ownership of the company was given to my mom alone. At his funeral, my uncle started yelling and throwing stuff when he learned he wasn’t getting anything. All three of her siblings tried to take my mom to court to contest the will and get some money, but the will was ironclad. My mom felt so guilty because all her siblings hated her. I had to keep reminding her she’s doing the right thing running the company and keeping money flowing to the charities. Continuing his legacy. But it’s sure hard to learn people you think you know are willing to throw it all away for money

[@cate9540]

​@@rachelcoad6585My Mom had an aunt that left her everything when she passed away because my Mom made the effort to visit her on a regular basis. My Mom's two brothers stopped talking to her after the inheritance. They felt slighted even though they never took the time to visit their aunt. Money really can bring out the worst in some people.

[@patpfeiffer3517]

GET A LAWYER AND STAY STRONG

[@przesliczna_wiolonczelistka]

It seems a typical toxic family system where he is highly narcisstic, wife is the enalbler, daughter the golden child and the other kids the scapegoats. The enabler only wakes up when she herself is thrown under the bus.

[@mewgiah8057]

The husband clearly doesn’t love his wife if this is how he treats her 50 years into their marriage. The fact that the company wouldn’t exist without her sacrificing her own money/retirement just highlights the contempt this man has for her. This dude has already taken 50 years from her, don’t let him take the remaining 20. Lawyer up asap and reclaim the 50% you are owed. It sucks that this will end in divorce. But he’s already divorced you by putting your daughter above you and stealing your business. After all this you will have 12 million to live your life however you want. You can travel the world with friends. You can literally live your best life. Just remember it wasn’t you that was unfaithful to the marriage. It wasn’t you that wanted to end it. And if there is any damage to your family this is 100% his doing and not yours. Marriage should be a partnership where everything you do is for each other. There have been times in my marriage where I made far less than my wife. She never once resented me or saw her money as “hers”. Now I’m making more money than her and again I don’t view that as “my money”. Everything we do is for each other. The fact that you’ve dedicated your entire life to this man and he hasn’t done the same back to you - is everything you need to know. Lawyer up and get free from this sad excuse of a husband.

[@StormyMonday0896]

No, it should be 25 million and then she Wills money to the daughter. Daughter should be on salary

[@snowmiaow]

She is concerned about the other children getting nothing.

[@purpurina5663]

I think she's been afraid and submissive all her life, which feeds her husband's and daughter's disregard for her. Everyone: this is what running away from our fears causes. When something makes you uncomfortable, sweeping it under the rug will only worsen it. Life wants to show us certain things, and it *will* do so at an increasingly greater cost if we refuse to see.

[@georgiacollett2235]

You say it may cost her her marriage...but obviously there is no marriage to lose

[@isay207]

Or her safety she better be telling lots of people what she is going to do😢

[@bovinebeautymoo2884]

Always listen to your friends and family when they point out red flags

[@danieljohnson4418]

She's not a co-owner of the business, but she does have a legal interest in it to the extent a community property interest exists. She needs to consult an attorney ASAP.

[@madc8645]

Her savings saved it from bankruptcy twice, according to what she said, so by that measure she's a primary investor. And she has a community property interest too...

[@Renrens-LionessofJudah]

We are living in terrible times. Praying for justice for her.

[@sharonhutchinson1574]

This is so disgusting. What husband could do this to his wife of over 50 years it’s a double betrayal with the daughter.

[@JANsEffectHouse]

I just saw a video on here where the husband has been drugging his wife for 50 years and letting over 75 people sleep with her off of the dark web for free

[@MissCatherine1100]

"The daughter" this is how this woman refers to her child who is ready to betray her. Distancing language.

[@bnb0510]

Trust NO ONE! Not even your spouse! This is terrible! My husband and I own several companies. He is the only one on the businesses. It means nothing! She needs to see an attorney asap! We recently sold one of our companies for a significant amount. There are many layers involved! MANY! It took a year of valuations, negotiations, etc! Lawyer up and leave this man!!! He is a disgrace of a husband, father, human!

[@kimberlygorgoglione9237]

Ma'am, get your name on your businesses.

[@gossipandgrigio7200]

ohhh in 50 years you will be her. this is your future you better put your name on everything like YESTERDAY

[@bnb0510]

Nope. We already sold one and opened trust/wills/accounts on BOTH of our names and our children are the beneficiaries. Not sure what state ya’ll live in but in PA when you acquire or start businesses in a marriage it is equally BOTH spouses. Unless there is a prenup. We already went down this road 15 years ago with attorneys. I just said trust no one! Lol

[@elainenilsson5472]

This happens Allllllll the time. She thinks this is a unique situation but it is NOT. Get an experienced lawyer. He will have a hay day with it. And he is right, you wont remember everything, so wear a wire. Do this for yourself so that you can go back and listen to the conversatations again.

[@timschmidt3784]

Wear a wire? The husband has a reasonable expectation of privacy. No recording without his permission.

[@elainenilsson5472]

@@timschmidt3784 Nope.

[@timschmidt3784]

Sure, wear a wire and see how it turns out when the other person finds out they were recorded without consent. LOL!

[@elainenilsson5472]

@@timschmidt3784 You best learn the laws of recording where you live. Where I live you can record anyone providing you are part of the conversation. Why would anyone object? Frankly, some of the best were when he was saying how stupid my lawyer was. Oh, you know I sent that one to him, lol.

[@Love.America]

​​@@timschmidt3784stop protecting the control freak. He has fucked her life up, royally. Screw him n his privacy he use to destroy his family. Open your eyes and stop trying to give evil people rights to do more harm. Wake up

[@semvlasveld8799]

She might not wanna be alone with him when she tells him she is gonna take her power back (partly at least), he seems to thrive on this power trip. Every step of the way, be a smart lady, and get a great lawyer.

[@kathydurow6814]

Might be wise to not be alone with husband or daughter until this is sorted out. Just in case things turn really ugly.

[@NewGuy2024]

As a husband who's wife has ZERO interest in the family finances no matter how much I try to get her involved -- do yourself a favor and get involved and have regular discussions so both partners are on the same page and aware of everything! Trust will only go so far in life.... As they say, you never know when the trust fund or partner will run out.....

[@akinyiomer4589]

I always struggle with people who have the avoidant mindset when it comes to shared financial responsibility. I mean it's way better than someone being selfish or with the family finances, but still ... I don't know about yourself but I think it puts wayyy too much pressure on the responsible partner. And it's just recklessness by another name. Now I don't know whether your wife feels she has a lack of confidence or interest in her own financial affairs or what ... but I do hope one day she realises her mistake in putting all the financial control pressure on you. And how vulnerable she's leaving herself in case anything were to ever happen to you (God forbid). Just sucks, really.

[@Gotoworkkk]

Please women protect yourselves, look out for the future! Stop being a doormat & walked all over!

[@rickardotorres]

Thank you Dr. John Delony for your wisdom and knowledge for this caller. You are a gem 💎

[@IMOO1896]

If she gets a divorce, wouldn’t she be offered half the business by the courts?

[@Foxie770]

Technically but that requires a court battle. And lawyers cost money.

[@lynnebucher6537]

She should be entitled to half, especially since she put money into it. Husband will probably try to switch ownership to daughter, which is why it's wise to collect information now.

[@og666]

divorce might even be easier considering her name isn't on the paperwork. she can definitely make a stink and hold up a sale, but i'm doubtful that she has standing

[@RayBurkett-x4s]

Probably but then she can spend her 70s and 80s alone and the lawyers will take a large cut of the resourceless. Instead of allowing the person best able to manage the business she can weaken it and put 24,000,000 at risk. Or she can accept that they were naive when the business was created but are blessed beyond measure by her husband's and her efforts live the rest of their lives in comfort, leaving a solid nest egg to each of their children.

[@DebWalther]

Yeh thats what I thought. Half of everything attained during marriage.! Do it now before he croaks and the scheme kicks in!!!

[@lovemyscotsman]

Why do some women not know anything about their finances? I was asking a friend of mine about her house and mortgage and she knew nothing. I asked her what would she do if her husband died? Always be aware of your financial situation.

[@lav7161]

It seems like she knew exactly what she was getting herself into. Look at how she talks like a servant, "That's not what he's saying." It's going to be really difficult for her, at this age, to change herself into a dominant person to try to control things. I hope the best for her.

[@daisy9910]

Don't victim blame. She's from another generation where you believed your husband would do the right thing by you. Her husband sounds like an abusive arsehole.

[@mamabear2222]

I pray this beautiful woman knows her worth and listens to Dr John and goes and talks to an attorney and protects herself. I have a feeling this man has much more malicious intentions and this isn’t about his wife not being able to “handle the business.” What kind of BS is that anyway? She needs to get away from him and get her half. That daughter siding with him is just as bad as her husband is. Disgusting. This is a betrayal in the worst way. 😞

[@debbiey9452]

I love both my parents, but I would go scorched earth if either of them acted this way towards the other.

[@donnajones8954]

As it should be

[@curtissmith8568]

It’s crazy how many families get destroyed over greed.

[@charlenereith4003]

My father started a business with my mother right before he was diagnosed with cancer. Every single bit of legal forms for the company had my father and mother's name on it. Totally wrong for this 'husband' of 50 years to keep his wife off the paperwork, entirely outrageous. As a daughter who's part of a family business I take what this caller said to heart. The caller's daughter, by my standards, is not one at all.

[@Naijella86]

I know someone whose husband did just this - and because the husband‘s wife had always been very good to his lawyer or whoever he was doing business with, who knew what the deeds and everything said, he called her and said ‘I’m saying this to you in confidence - Your husband has left you completely out of everything, so your name is not anywhere’. Even though she was helping her husband set everything up. I’m going to send this video to this family friend of mine. They’re not in the US or England where I am but maybe it will be helpful.

[@rfpnc]

FIGHT. It doesn't matter your age. YOU were integral in saving and building that business. You have been used, ignored, and thrown away. As long as you have a breath, fight for what you deserve! Don't let your awful husband take away your dignity and your livelihood. Get mad, get up, and FIGHT. YOU ARE WORTH IT❤

[@prisfiles]

I’m going a couple steps further. Have that meeting at a lawyer’s office OR even a restaurant WITH the lawyer(s) present. Also have some bags packed and stay in a hotel. Keep any pets safe. This could go south real quick. Don’t want to hear about this on any of my true crime podcasts!

[@superazmed3246]

Bruh for real 😮

[@tarynmacdonald1387]

This should have been a call with Dr. Delony and Dave Ramsey. Dr. Delony is great on the emotions and psychological, but I feel like age would have benefitted from Dave’s advice on the financial and legal technicalities of the situation.

[@Historys-Wild-Facts]

She's not to old to go to war with her husband, she's just blindsided. She feels defeated. I felt like that when I first learned my husband cheated on me. I even told my therapist (at the time) I was willing to give up our house to him in the divorce just to be rid of him. Now, that I've healed a bit and had a bit a clarity, I realize how stupid of me to just give up everything (financially) to him when he was the one who was unfaithful and he wasn't remorseful at all. Like this woman, I felt too old and tired to fight. Now, I don't. I am ready and willing to fight for what I deserve. I just hope she gets to that point too.

[@HeyYou80855]

Sounds like dad and daughter have been plotting and scheming. This is why you do not get blinded by love when you’re young. Make sure your name is on EVERYTHING.

[@a_noelle8595]

Dad did the plotting long before the daughter was involved.

[@puffchickpam1]

I can only imagine the family dynamics all these years

[@kathyharmon2093]

Every time I hear a story like this it reminds me why I won’t marry again

[@gossipandgrigio7200]

LADIES put your name on EVERYTHING. PERIOD

[@idahomountainlover754]

Get an attorney , get your money, and leave your toxic, abusive, family members.

[@rickardotorres]

Go to court 💯 He didn’t think twice about honoring and respecting his life partner and mother of his children.

[@abby-fq2kt]

I audibly gasped when she said 25 million... good god woman go get YOUR money

[@christinamckinney2370]

Money changes folks.

[@Diana734]

It reveals who they are.

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

@@Diana734 exactly

[@DAgayton9558]

I’m So sorry for Ms Heather. I 1000% understand what it feels like to be dishonored and for someone that I love to think little of me. I’m Sorry. 😞

[@CandySoulAndSoil]

Literally my heart broke when she said I’m a little too old for that. I’ve lived something similar…… I suggest going to war as the wars already at your front door you just aren’t fighting yet ❤

[@nyapayton7087]

People's true colors come out when money is involved, so sad 😔

[@chinwenduchinwe586]

Pray this is legally corrected for this wife in Jesus name, amen.

[@deedemerson3126]

In Jesus name Amen 🙏 !

[@DericAnslum]

...this is reality...superstition has no power or influence here...

[@Kimball042]

Pray if it makes you feel better but action is what works.

[@MNW0705]

​@@DericAnslumChrist is not superstition. Pray, get clarity, and then take his butt to court.a

[@chatman4998]

Amen

[@Nat0003]

Call his bluff. It will change his thought process quickly.

[@Everyoneisanartist776]

She should proceed very careful. I see this turning into a case that we’re be following on Court TV; based on his character… and the daughter too!

[@franziskani]

From the second half on it gets worse. She shows how successful he was in beating her down. "Honestly I am too old to go to war" (after Delony tells her: you can go to war, or not. No other choices. " "Your marriage is over either way"). And then several times: "That is not what he is saying." She KNOWS intellectually that he is not right and might also have no legal standing. BUT it matters what HE says. She used that phrase also in the first half of the call - but not as often and the tone was not as defeated. As Delony confirms how bad this is (it is different to think it yourself or to hear it from a professional) the self messages of DEFEAT become more frequent. In the beginning she sounded more matter of fact and incensed, if calm. I thought she would be heartened by Delony telling her that she needs a good lawyer asap.

[@vivianivey6663]

It’s not a dilemma. She doesn’t have a husband now. Force them to sell the property and split it between the spouses. The daughter doesn’t have a voice at the moment in my opinion.

[@theresamc4578]

He could turn the business over to the daughter, and then what would happen? She is in a bad spot.

[@vivianivey6663]

She’s got the law on her side. She could tie that business up in court for years.

[@MayaRose-Isaac]

This is SOO sad 😢😢😢. I am so sorry for her. I hope she finds the strength to go to war and others with her. This man needs to be confronted.

[@LorindaFlores]

This enrages me. Two of my friends are poor widows dependent on their children because their husbands cut them out. It’s not good.

[@SetApart7Generation]

Hmmmmm you know I'm 34 years old. Some parts are relatable to me.

[@janice9368]

That marriage is ALREADY OVER.

[@Homelifelearning]

I don't care how much someone would give me I would not do this to my mother.

[@SetApart7Generation]

1000% facts

[@leeselma9564]

Do some of the paperwork retrieval in Steatlth Mode first so you can give it to your attorney.

[@NEWWYSDOM]

I rejected and he wadged war. It was ugly and hard but worth it. I'm happy now..

[@cpeacenlove]

Man oh man, smh...this is why I will always advocate for women to look after self 1st. Always.

[@Trackpad12]

Men should only look for themselves first always! You see how stupid you sound

[@javireyes7333]

@@DabsLawyerLLCm’en should protect women and kids

[@izzywox8246]

My mother told me this. Most mothers I know are telling their girls this now. The knowledge only did me favors.

[@izzywox8246]

@@DabsLawyerLLC that is not what you advocate for lol you advocate for woman to submit, and for men to be lonely

[@izzywox8246]

@@Trackpad12 it is not men that need this rhetoric. Most men don’t expect anyone to take care of them. Most women I know expect someone else to take care of them. They need to hear from older women that they can’t expect someone else to take care of them 100%

[@colleenmonfross4283]

Wow! What a wakeup call that you can't trust your husband OR your daughter. Just so sad. I hope this lady takes good care of herself in this situation. Ladies, let this be a lesson to you, make sure YOU take care of yourself, you cannot capitulate on that responsibility.

[@ginnyd240]

He never intended to do the right from the beginning or he would have put her name on it from the start. Sad when you can’t trust your husband.

[@MaryBethMcCoy]

This is true, and it sucks that she is being so disrespected, but the caller is also at fault for not having her name on the business from the beginning. And…she was warned early on and didn’t follow through.

[@vanessarenae5169]

He's been lieng about other things too

[@tammylain7754]

she does not have a marriage.. and by the way- the lady sounds so much like my grandmother who is also from Michigan. I am so sorry for you. Finding out your husband and your daughter are so deceitful like this must hurt like heck. I sooo hope you get what is right for you. He did not honor your marriage, you do not have to honor his bullying.

[@baribach8701]

Lady needs her own attorney, surreptitiously and have a Financial audit done of the company

[@toniscott1029]

Get a lawyer, divorce him and leave that daughter out of your will. You have no husband or daughter in reality. Sad and maddening!

[@RRthee1]

Absolutely.

[@karenreiter533]

You are never too old to fight. Sometimes our greatest lessons come later in life but you have other children so do the right thing for them. God bless you and go ahead and get your money. 💕💕💕