Why you don’t like the sound of your own voice | Rébecca Kleinberger

Your voice is indistinguishable from how other people see you, but your relationship with it is far from obvious. Rébecca Kleinberger studies how we use and understand our voices and the voices of others. She explains why you may not like the sound of your own voice on recordings, the differences between your outward, inward and inner voices -- and the extraordinary things you communicate without being aware of it.
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[@Sameer-tm4ne]

Every time I hear my voice recording, I want to apologize to every human I've ever spoken to.

[@acek2016]

Same...

[@davidcottrell1308]

@@acek2016 yup..

[@crackflush]

I’m in the same boat

[@Bluehearte07]

😂

[@alexikeda1]

if i were to do that then i'd be speaking to people and saying that i'm sorry for speaking to them

[@kimberlykenyon9440]

When I hear my voice it sounds like I am mentally challenged, I don’t completely know why yet I do

[@meltingdoggo8066]

Kimberly Kenyon your thumbnail exaggerates the words "mentally challenged"...

[@GarlicGoat]

Kimberly Kenyon honestly sameee

[@Snaffer01]

You made me lol. Thanks

[@Boiledblood]

can relate 3/10 would like a new voice

[@DoomerZ666]

Same

[@khaliah7754]

When Rébecca said that we don't listen to our own voices, that made so much sense to me. I notice when I read aloud that I usually have to reread without speaking because I don't remember what I was reading.

[@kevinpeter1079]

Khaliah Deya true that

[@avocateure]

that is so true! it happens to me allll the time

[@snaps4kappu]

I read this entire conversation aloud, and i understood it without having to reread. Perhaps its associated with the attention we're paying at any pt. I can be reading paragraphs without paying any attention, thus not understanding too. 🤷‍♂️

[@Redwan777]

And... Teachers l, parents, seniors all always advised me that reading aloud helps to memorize study better. Thank God I never listened to them.

[@Redwan777]

@@snaps4kappu To be true it happens to me. Whenever I am bored reading the boring part of my textbook I keep reading without understanding. And I feel I lost the power of understanding.

[@mascotwithadinosaur9353]

I hate that my inner voice is just "deep girl voice" , while my outside voice is "suffocating clown".

[@milo_7294]

I share your trauma.

[@sayyedzarrar]

😂

[@moncherryhead7530]

saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaameeeeee

[@carotlover69]

i relate xd my little sister said my voice sounds "squeaky" and "high-pitched" ;((

[@vindhya8498]

Sameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@TechBrenda]

Would be awesome to have a program that could translate your recorded voice to sound like your inward voice.

[@sohainhere]

Amazing idea! Just have to figure out the change in voice frequency through bone conductance

[@gorgegarcia4471]

why don't we start researching how to do it I am in

[@TheMerseySound1]

I was just thinking this

[@cliffordbenenati7373]

To be honest, I'm 13, voice is changing, I have started to hate my inward voice just as much as my outward one, lol

[@siiickgravity5090]

Clifford Benenati I can relate lol

[@jothishprabu8]

Imagine what Actors might be feeling when watching their own movie 😅

[@user-jh7sh9ow6r]

😂😂😂

[@aajkibat4412]

They'd love that

[@ashish.pradhan]

They use autotune 😅😅

[@swegmyg-8189]

Omg😂

[@MiDnYTe25]

Probably nothing, you get used to it with exposure

[@Nachtwasser23]

Who else has been traumatized hearing their own voice echoing during all these online meetings the past months?

[@earthmoo9326]

Haha - My goodness. Me.

[@OMKhin-lm3ky]

Typos to know I’m not alone

[@Sole_Artist]

Playing back recorded meetings with me speaking is brutal!

[@resident_alien595]

@@Sole_Artist Happened to me today.

[@sumitrana2420]

I hade gone that for months with bad cell tower connection causing that echo/ feedback or whatever fancy name you want to give.

[@Sameer-tm4ne]

When I hear my voice recording, I wonder why I have friends

[@juiceman9922]

Your mums paying them

[@vindhya8498]

Exactly!

[@ra8929]

Feels

[@minhtupham4999]

Best comment

[@lovelyyasmin7201]

@@juiceman9922 🤣😂

[@catascopic9542]

"Why you don’t like the sound of your own voice" by someone with an amazing French accent

[@alexas.7634]

I hate that accent because I have the same one... So it makes me hate my voice through her 😂

[@RomanowRomanow1]

and she is called Kleinberger - makes a lot of sense

[@Supernidyastar78]

@@RomanowRomanow1 i thought she was German just by the name.

[@wemiky]

as a bilingual her accent annoys me

[@thewinter_]

I found it hard to understand and had to put on subtitles

[@kaitlyntran7554]

I wonder if people like Morgan Freeman, Bill Nye, or Neil Degrasse Tyson dislike their own voice.

[@josehenriquefs888]

People who often hears their outward voices usually learn to like their own voices. Actually, it is a way to we stoping of dislike our external voices: listen to your own voice recorded everyday, till it sounds normal, till it sounds you, till you really perceive that it's your voice. Cause what makes we dislike our own voices is that it sounds strange to us, don't seems how we think it should sound

[@HaidebugCreates]

Morgan Freeman can’t dislike his voice it’s the voice of God

[@retroanim]

@@josehenriquefs888 Yeah, also if you want to sound more like a native speaker, it's useful to really hear how you sound. That gets you to learn how it should sound inside so that it sounds good outside.

[@jacobstaten2366]

Only Morgan Freeman in your list has a particularly pleasant voice. Bill Nye's is actually slightly annoying.

[@nowonmetube]

Of course

[@Sameer-tm4ne]

Me: records voice Play it back Me: No wonder why no one wants to talk to me, and why my dad ALWAYS told me to shut up

[@prajwalkumar9199]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@rawgrave_]

Prajwal Kumar why are you laughing 😧

[@prajwalkumar9199]

@@rawgrave_ arrey...it was a joke na.. Obviously nice one..

[@shahidKhan-ye1nw]

Acha tum log bhi suntay ho

[@Doors_of_janua]

😖😂 he was only trying to protect you brother!

[@ianw.7897]

I love how she is studying how we use our voices. It’s a rare thing we don’t notice. I’m glad someone is studying that

[@Rashy225]

I love my voice too much then I hear it recorded back and die inside. In my head: nice bassy assertive voice. Actual voice: 10 year old

[@name-eo1lv]

yes

[@sontodosnarcos]

Rae T So true!

[@kerbo2383]

mines the opposite actually

[@champnahun1909]

nIcE bAsSy asErtIve VoIcE 😂 but fr ur vocabulary

[@Dev-rs4vh]

@@kerbo2383 lol same, i tried to sing a very gentle song since my voice inside my head is very light and smooth...but its actually the opposite

[@pyrotheevilplatypus]

The few people I've met who DID like the sound of their voice are the very people most didn't EVER want to hear.

[@folumb]

truuuuuuu

[@waltergrimminger6191]

pyrotheevilplatypus - When I was in high school, everyone had to learn a foreign language. We recorded ourselves speaking the foreign language, and played it back to check our pronunciation. The first time I heard my own voice, I was astonished because it was sexy. Even speaking German, not a musical language, I sounded sexy. And that explained a lot.

[@WyvernApalis]

pyrotheevilplatypus so true lmao

[@gillenzfluff8380]

pyrotheevilplatypus You must have met my dad lol.

[@bimal1974]

pyrotheevilplatypus very true dear.

[@augustusstark]

Me hating my voice is stopping me from starting my own KZbin channel...

[@Anne-ix3dp]

No, I started a Twitch and people say my voice is good, even though I hate it. Dont let anything stop u. U make that KZbin channel random person.

[@ntrizzle2003]

You'll never know until someone else gives you their opinion. I hate to self plug, but in my earlier videos my audio was horrible. But, it didn't bother anyone watching.

[@SuperDiamond009]

Wow. This is interesting. Well it's just your voice if it's good content that wont matter too much. You should definitely start your KZbin channel!

[@snkrhead215]

Everyone hates their own voice because it sounds different in your own head than what it really is so you might think you sound like a clown on recording but you sound normal

[@saracole7623]

SAME. People always say I have a nice voice but I hate it so much.

[@Sameer-tm4ne]

After Listening to my recorded voice Me: I am going to communicate in sign language instead

[@MadMarco]

lmao

[@kimkale9631]

You are commenting a lot Sameer

[@thejat5194]

Now it's time to record ur sign language video 😉😅

[@kirtu9035]

@@kimkale9631 ikr hahaha

[@magsy97]

I like how my voice sounds in my head...and that's good enough for me.

[@sarahhobbes7832]

same

[@BillFromTheHill100]

Which voice?

[@f8freak607]

I sound like geralt in my own head ahhhahahahaha

[@rapskaujama5178]

I only hate my voice when it's on audio or a recording, it really sounds weird and not so me.

[@Kyubi888Naruto]

Raps Kaujama same

[@regularfries3147]

Well, on a cheap microphone you will sound terrible. It is not your actual voice and there are no filters so you can't expect much from it.

[@DirtyPoul]

Haven't watched the video, but wasn't this what it was about? The reason behind the phenomenon of the strange recorded voice is that when you speak in real time, you hear the voice coming from your lips which get recorded, but you also hear vibrations inside your head. These are much deeper and adds flavour to your voice, which most find pleasant. Your recorded voice will then sound uncanny. It sounds like your voice, but not quite, so you dislike it as if by reflex.

[@natendo1987]

Same. I can hear the echo of my voice in a phone call, and I sound so different. It’s weird!

[@zebbleganubi723]

i agree, i hate your voice too (but only recordings of it :)

[@carlos66965]

"Hi alexa" "You 're pregnant" "Alexa, I'm a dude"

[@lovelyyasmin7201]

😂

[@phentromix3366]

" I'm not mistaken, *you are* "

[@swegmyg-8189]

😂

[@richardjenkins2321]

"You don't sound like one."

[@breakthewall.mp3126]

When she started talking about the voice you hear when you read silently, I realized that I don't hear a particular voice, if it makes sense? I hear the words and intonations, but not a distinct voice. And the songs in my head are always in someone else's (the singer's) voice

[@abhilasha07]

Same here

[@Andreseme23]

I’m quite sure that’s exactly how the inner voice works. It’s like the idea of the sound more that a sound in itself.

[@sacred-chan157]

**Confused screaming**

[@aanchalsharma526]

Absolutely. Researchers have found that there are 2 ways one perceives words while reading silently, either we hear our own voices, or we see words being displayed in our minds. I was baffled to know that people "see" letters in their brains instead of hearing the inner voice , because I thought everyone heard that, like I did. Lol

[@P.M.P.181]

I hear what i think the person or characters voice might sound like. If it's a man whose described as a tough guy or as someone w a deep voice i hear that. Even in comments sections i tend to assign certain types of voices based on how i read the comment. I'll read a comment thinking it's a female voice then i might find the name is male and then I'll read the comment again w a male voice in my mind. If i know the person is British then in my head i hear a British accent.

[@noahvo6673]

The better question after the knowledge is: does people like my own voice as they hear it more than i do?

[@-hailey-549]

yes, because you rarely hear your actual voice (recordings) but to other people the “recorded version” is the norm for them to hear from you. it would be strange for them to hear your voice the way you hear it.

[@Blue_Ark]

I hate my voice when I hear it from recordings and I also wouldn't say it is a good voice if my voice belonged to a stranger, yet, my friends keep insisting that my voice is beatiful. I don't know if my friends really love me and are lying about me having a good voice or it's just my brain that can't accept my own voice as something nice to hear. Another weird thing is: people usually mistake my voice with my brother's voice, even my mother have a hard time identifying who she is talking to if she is not seeing us. She often fights over the phone acusing us of pretending to be the other (can't really blame her since we don't lose an oportunity to prank her if she starts a conversation thinking she is talking to the wrong one haha) For me, neither my spoken voice or the recorded voice are similiar to my brother's voice and he agrees with that, but for other people we have very similar voice lmao

[@Spidey2345]

My mom says: *YES*

[@Blue_Ark]

@lazarus921 I don't have an answer for that @_@ It is just the way things are

[@eeeminem9747]

@lazarus921 It is because the difference in how you hear your brother's recorded or direct voice is only by mic quality. The difference between your voice when you are speaking and your recording is also the vibrations within your bones and tissues. The result of this difference and the fact that you always hear yourself with the vibrations, results in your brain interpreting your recorded voice as not only different but also "bad" in some ways(subjectively). A better way to compare, would be to ask your brother to compare his recorded and speech voice himself, if he finds his recorded voice is worse or not then it can be used to relate to yours. For me, my recorded voice sounds lifeless for some reason lol, but in my head it never is like that -_-

[@Dusk-MTG]

My inward voice: I'm gonna put up a band and become a famous singer My outward voice: I'd rather be mute

[@lovelyyasmin7201]

😂🤣🤣🤣

[@yashbrar1831]

Lol sorry I shouldn’t laugh but 🤣🤣🤣😭😭

[@Dusk-MTG]

I was actually wondering why no one ever told me my voice sucked so hard.

[@demonetization6596]

What I thought my voice was like: Deep, smart, intimidating and raspy What my voice is actually like: A kid going through puberty, nerdy, nasally and scratchy

[@discocat9431]

So that explains why my voice is croaky for no reason

[@zin82e98]

Yes me too!

[@JennyDancs-pu7tz]

100 % how I feel!!!

[@jMcWill781]

The most unexpected thing I learned here is that recap is short for recapitulate

[@str8updangerous100]

Lmao I thought I was the only one

[@mailleweaver]

You can learn a lot about your language from people speaking it as a second language, and even from thinking about trying to explain all of its rules, exceptions, similar sounds, and multiple meanings to someone trying to learn it. In those odd moments here and there when you have a chance for idle thought, spend some of them explaining your language to yourself and you'll begin to understand how complex it really is. Here's a really tough one to start you off: Why does the order of adjectives matter when describing something? "Big, red, bouncy ball" versus "red, bouncy, big ball." What are the rules for "correct" order? It's amazing how much our brains accomplish on the fly without our conscious minds even realizing it.

[@TeKeyaKrystal]

oh wow , I never really thought about that . ... now that you point it out , learning French , I do recall there being rules for the order of adjectives , but I never consciously recognized the same for English

[@chanteltamara9273]

Oh that's what she was saying.

[@shahrazade26]

The first time I heard the word recap was in 1988 or 89.

[@EclipticVistaYT]

Your voice sounds deeper to you because you hear the sound-vibration through bone, rather than though the air like everyone else.

[@Moh23Moh]

It looks also weird when I hear it through speakers

[@bobdoney2963]

Yes, that is one of the reasons Rebecca gave in her talk, but there were others.

[@adfaklsdjf]

better answer than the video

[@vanisharma5076]

Thank you... now I do not need to waste 12 mins of my life

[@kanarieV3]

My voice sounds regular and other people say its deep so its the opposite for me

[@archermadsen2028]

When I first hear a recording of my voice, I felt like my life was a lie.

[@cliffordhodge1449]

"My voice seems to have a nasal sound when I hear it," seems to be a common impression that people get.

[@djgulston]

"Nasally voices" are very common among American accents. Are you American?

[@drabberfrog]

@@djgulston I'm Merican

[@tacowolf9623]

@@djgulston dammit I wish I wasn’t born in America

[@Kunabee]

Our voice sounds deeper to us, and so when we hear a recording of our outer voice it sounds foreign. She answers this in the video guys.

[@fortusvictus8297]

she actually doesn't say it just sounds deeper. She says we don't hear our mechanical voice much AT ALL, but rather hear a psychological representation of our voice as we speak...Corollary Discharge and all that. The simple fact there are people who think their voice is higher pitched than it explicitly disproves the 'our voice sounds deeper to us' fallacy.

[@Lewlew97]

@markjvp Same whenever anyone impersonates me or I hear a recording of myself my voice is much deeper than I hear.

[@eyemagistus]

Evolution did not prepare us for hearing our own voice coming from anywhere else but inside of us. Our recorded voice can only be perceived as an impostor and can never sound familiar.

[@ohbabycat]

this is the absolute reason.

[@ohwhen7775]

Interesting that you used the word "impostor", definitely feels that way. It's as if my whole world has been torn apart by this discovery, I know that sounds sort of dramatic but it's really like all of my attitude, dynamics, phrasing and tone, manipulated and deceived by the realization that what I think is getting across is something that SOUNDS and therefore FEELS so different, it's like all those features of my personality don't even count! Also it's what makes online communication such an interesting phenomenon where you CAN get some of these traits in your personality/character across without having to worry about someone else's judgment of your voice.

[@roxannavaldovinos1945]

eyemagistus thank you!

[@HaloInverse]

I wonder if, in addition to the weirdness of your own voice coming from "outside" of you in a recording, the difference between hearing your own voice resonating inside your skull and hearing what your voice sounds like recorded externally could trigger an "uncanny valley"-like effect - the _slight_ "wrongness" makes your voice sound/feel worse than a _completely_ different voice.

[@wowlover16]

What of echoes?

[@Osbern]

This woman with a German name speaks English with a French accent.

[@retroanim]

Not a Jewish name?

[@mikerodrigues9822]

Rebecca isn't French, it comes straight from the Bible.

[@rightsaidralf9018]

@@mikerodrigues9822 LolCmwa said the name sounded German, not French, and most likely meant the last name Kleinberger, not the first name Rebecca.

[@thevillageyid]

@@retroanim Some German names sound Jewish and some Jewish names sound German.

[@HamzaBaqoushi]

People from northern districts of France, especially the region called _l'Alsace_ , usually have german names.

[@iokneafsey8039]

I could listen to this woman's voice all day. So soothing. Xx

[@Legominder]

Why you don't like your own voice is mainly because you hear your voice differently than others: You hear a lot more bass as your hearing organs are connected with the vocal chords through a solid connection allowing you to hear low frequencies that are not coupled into air that much. Others hear the (high-pass) filtered version through air.

[@justahuman9273]

pin this!! we don't have to watch the video 😂

[@foreveronmywaytofuckyourbi5567]

Yes I sound like a 5 year old.

[@nekomuffin8918]

The reason I hate my voice is because it sounds weird, my friends also said I have a "unique" voice. Which sounds like I have a really bad voice

[@fortusvictus8297]

Way to demonstrate not listening to the speaker. The mechanical process is not very important at all because we have to TRY and hear that low-tone of our own speech, because our audio-cortex shuts down abit when we are talking...so we don't actually 'hear' ourselves speak, what we are 'hearing' is our internal dialogue (corollary discharge) which is a psychological one, not physical. Mabe listen to the speaker sometime before just blabbing out a belief you have.

[@exolkpoptrashandsmstan2888]

After 19 years I just accepted m voice.. I don’t have any other choice

[@mariano9220]

Exol, Kpop trash and SM STAN Ye, you can stop talking Edit: I mean to talk as less as possible, not to completly stop talking

[@exolkpoptrashandsmstan2888]

Fascist Pillow i said I accpted voice i can talk as much as i can

[@iamsquidzy]

Exol, Kpop trash and SM STAN Exo-L ^_^

[@juusosaarinen2801]

Decent rhyme. maybe try rapping? :)

[@BillFromTheHill100]

Well I have not accepted it....so shut up!

[@linguisticsnerd433]

Initially I felt as if the research she was on wasn't very important (very presumptuous of me) but then she explained all the various applications and just the depth of her research got me hooked. It's good to know that there are people in this world who are truly ingenious, thinking about researching obscure but important fields like these

[@meesalikeu]

absolutely fascinating. something we have always thought about but not really in depth and not understood. most people might say we have two voices, outer and inner, but really three makes much more sense in understanding our thoughts and speech. thanks again and keep up the research!

[@reinerzufall6875]

As a recording artist it felt strange in the beginning. But over the years my voice sounds the same as the recorded version to me.

[@mechagorilla518]

Reiner Zufall no one cares

[@fran-wk3nq]

Mudakon Pops what do you know? Maybe I am

[@lizardissimo]

Reiner Zufall - that’s interesting! As a singing teacher, I’ve gone through the same development. At first I didn’t like or recognize my voice and it sounded very different to the voice inside my head, but now I hardly notice the difference! I think it has to do with recognition.

[@reinerzufall6875]

lizardissimo That is a very interesting phenomena as I thought when it is my own voice I should be used to it, but in the video she said we actually kind of mute our own voice. Which shows how amazing the human body and mind is. Have a good day and thank you for teaching other individuals! :)

[@felixbillington6151]

I do a lot of producing as a hobby and most people go “oh my god it sounds so weird” if they haven’t heard it before

[@MyBiPolarBearMax]

This was so amazing and excellent. It's an incredibly fascinating subject and it was so cool to hear these ideas presented in this clear, coherent, easy-to-understand manner with a metaphor that helped convey the idea very well. I especially liked the disconnect from when the auditory processes shut down when we speak. As a formerly somewhat tone-deaf professional musician (drummer) that taught himself to better ascertain tones, one of the things I teach people that are poor at maintaining pitch is the necessity of actually *listening* to the pitch you are singing. I now realize its effectively getting a person to hear with their actual auditory processes rather than "inner voice" and this video is an excellent way of communicating that idea. Anyone that wants to become a singer, take that advice. everyone has the capability of singing a certain range (may not be as broad as a practiced musician), so it is *never* an inability to sing. It's just pitch-matching and that comes from listening with your actual hearing processes vs. your "inner-voice." I really enjoyed this presentation and would love to hear more about some of the research you mentioned. This was really cool =].

[@kmstirpitz4285]

I don't know. People say I sing well, and to an some extent, I do agree. Though when I hear myself singing through a phone or a mic, I can't help but feel a bit of cringe. Like, for real? I think I sound like a drunk pervert.

[@mfrmll3786]

commented earlier....concur..........I stopped singing entirely......let the canary die ..........

[@kumbi8368]

Gamer Guitarist lol a drunk pervert. Literally how I feel.

[@vaughnrob4548]

Same here, like people keep saying I have a really nice voice yet when I hear myself sing when we karaoke it sounds sooo terrible that I'll just decide to not sing ever again. But I still do. XD

[@ashishramteke5174]

Ah... I underestimated myself for about 2 decades until I lost all the hopes n opportunities of becoming a singer... Only for this same reason...

[@maggielima2557]

Same! My friends tell me I have an amazing voice but when I hear it, I just cringe.

[@vedantbhatnagarmathur4488]

"Why you don't like the sound of your own voice" - my KZbin Recommendation Genie Me: *gasps like I found the answer to the meaning of life*

[@RaukyShiny]

"Why you don’t like the sound of your own voice" Because i hate myself.

[@kayinb90]

So simple, so true 😂

[@theoffor647]

Yeah

[@dreamypurrz]

ikr

[@marilenat.1271]

It's sad, but I can relate.

[@justinpaul3110]

I love the sound of her voice!

[@collincutler4992]

She is a fascinating speaker..between her accent, the way she explains and presents the topic, and how she talks with her hands, she could probably make most anything interesting. Some people are just born for public speaking...and no this isn't just a comment about how she looks...

[@morganmittelbrun1584]

I love this TED Talk I just wish there was a slide show presentation that goes along and helps visually explain all the great points she is making.

[@DNotzz]

I have such a soft voice, I’m always trying to make it sound like I’m happier than I am. I have a hard time yelling loudly too. I feel like I’m still literally searching for my voice.

[@bbghoul_x]

Dan N same.

[@stelladavis1798]

I'm physically unable to be loud

[@name-eo1lv]

lucky my voice is just.. bLAHAhAHahaHWjahdkjehfks

[@djgulston]

It annoyed me so much when someone would tell me to talk louder, especially when I used to do presentations in school. I mean, I understood why I had to, but when I did, it always felt like I was shouting. And that makes it hard for me to distinguish whether I am actually shouting or talking at a normal volume.

[@thecoolestgingerkid]

Whaaat, that’s WILD listening to a voice can tell you so much about disease, pregnancy, who you’re talking to. Wow

[@amisfitpuivk]

There's not many people that project the same personality no matter who they're talking to. I know two; they are always the same person whether they're talking to a stranger or their best friend. But the rest of us get nervous and act different around different people lol

[@lachdenan9875]

What's even more amazing is how much ethnicity can tell you. :P

[@jadoabad]

I become embarrassed when I hear my voice and I love listening to you: your accent is amazing!

[@borisbrian6082]

I'm no singer or voice artist, but I like the sound of my voice

[@spyrootur2013]

i’m joking- but i have to know, what does it feel to be gods favorite?

[@V3RTIGO222]

I think it's interesting to discuss the psychology and physiology behind the voice. Speech is one of our most developed and complex abilities which translated to writing and I find it fascinating the ramifications of our own perception on our speech and it kind of explains why I for one barely recognize my own voice in recordings if I don't see myself.

[@vcheekv]

I watched this twice. Massively fascinating and I enjoy the sound of her voice.

[@missangelica90]

Ba ba I also love her accent!

[@jasontheconner6120]

I had Never thought of it that way!! Thank you for these series.

[@technowey]

I like my voice when I hear a recording of it played back. I do sound very different than I sound when I listen to myself speak. This talk was so fascinating, that it wasn't until the end of this video that I realized why I like hearing my voice. I sound like a relative who I like.

[@aleyahmalone5012]

5:30 I've always noticed that but I thought maybe it was wrong that I had more than one voice. I thought it made me fake and incomplete. But the whole time I listened to this whole thing, I've kept thinking of actors

[@fortusvictus8297]

This is a much more complex issue than you'd think. Truth is most people DO have multiple internal dialogues, we just tend to 'think' with a main one but ask anyone who has been in a very traumatic experience and they can often vouch there are 'other' voices 'not my own' talking or warning. It is a key part of what psychologists who study schizophrenia think maybe the reason for it, a breakdown in the barriers that normally keep these 'internal voices' obscured not doing its job.

[@zainalabdulla781]

Educative, I've always liked my inner voice but I've always disliked my actual voice

[@clairesalisbury4680]

11:44 that is one of the most amazing and beautiful things..... I am so uplifted by human ingenuity, thoughtfulness and capability. (Creating devices to help people with schizophrenia distinguish between outer and inner voices)

[@argandzero0]

Her voice is beautiful, and so is she. One of thee best TedTalks. Thank you.

[@sharon5965]

this is one of the most intriguing videos I've ever watched. Thank you for sharing your knowledge in such an understandable way.

[@gabimaza780]

What she said about Alexa is creepy

[@RosyKittea]

Alexa has horrible listening skills; it'll be quite some time before "she's" capable of picking up on such subtleties.

[@justiziabelle]

But they'll only use it to advertise baby diapers to you ahead of time. Nothing to worry about, capitalism is fine.

[@prokokex1365]

Gonna be trouble for teens in presence of their parents....😂

[@nicholasc.5944]

i deleted my fb, i thought i woiuld regret it after a while, but actually it ended up being a pretty good idea, i want to go back to social media later maybe next year, but i dont know which one to use, love yt tho

[@nowonmetube]

Nobody should have the data stealing piece of stasi trash!

[@jorin2146]

I wonder how professional singers hear their own voice

[@ichliebebaeumeweilbaum]

Because 7 years ago a kid in a class under mine said that my voice sounded weird. :(

[@breakthewall.mp3126]

Kids can be so rude :( one of the boys from my class said that I sound like I smoke, and when I spoke in a softer voice (unintentionally), this exact boy told me to not "make this voice" because I "sound funny". Well, thanks for the 7 years of insecurities

[@djgulston]

Kids can be real A-holes sometimes. My little cousin pointed out how "skew" my face looks because of my jaw. I mean, I always knew that, but the comment caught me off guard and it made me so self conscious that day.

[@rhidianeldridge7720]

Wonderful speech! Lovely done thank you very much. Inspiring thoughts.

[@EugeneKhutoryansky]

Interesting presentation, but it doesn't actually answer the question in the title of the video.

[@Eanakba]

Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky The answer is implicit. The differences between the inward and outward voice make the outward voice sound "wrong" to our ears

[@Tom5555]

DasXamer Nicely put. I too was left feeling frustrated at the video for lack of an answer to the question in the title. Okay 12 minutes of very interesting explanation about why the voice we hear is different from what we expect, and why this might weird you out. But why does this not just amuse us rather than give such a strong feeling of unease, embarrasment and dislike. Why is hearing something merely 'different' or misrepresentative as you say so postively offensive to us. This is the real question which I still feel is unanswered unless I am just not understanding it properly.

[@stefanpeterwolf7458]

Apart from the fact that the talk was very interesting (I was amazed by the information that can be gathered from analyzing subtle changes in a known voice, up to detecting diseases), I also don't think the talk answered the title question. I was expecting an explanation about how your own external voice triggers some alarm in your brain or something. The fact that the outward voice is different from how we actually perceive our own voice (inward voice) should be a known fact since our early childhood days with a microphone and it does not explain well why we don't like the sound that everybody else hears when we speak (if that dislike is always true at all). What happens if we hear a recording of our own voice while we are not remembering/recognizing that this is us? Do we still dislike the sound of that voice? Or is it familiar and we always like it in that setting? Are we actually not disliking the sound, but the confusion? Does this change if we are used to listen to our outward voice (recordings) daily, like a professional speaker or singer would? Of course we are surprised or puzzled if we hear such a recording (especially if we do it rarely) but I'm not sure everybody dislikes that "new" voice. There must be people who would prefer a higher pitch in their voice and they might even hate their inward voice and prefer the higher pitched outward version. The implicit explanation sounds a bit lame and is no surprise -- we are always emotional, confused, and over-critical if we look at ourselves from a distance -- no matter if it's a sound recording, photos or videos showing us, or something we wrote or created otherwise. We always analyze and criticize and think it could be better -- something we just don't do to this extent if we don't really know it is material from us or if it really is material from someone else, we are much less interested and alert and critical then. So the fact that hearing our voice in an unusual way (from the outside) is surprising and triggers our self-critisism is, well, pretty trivial. The real treasure of this talk is a completely different topic: "What hidden information can others (including learning audio systems like Alexa) deduct from your voice?".

[@Tom5555]

Stefan Peter Wolf Hit the nail on the head there sir. Utterly terrifying if you ask me. General AI and the idea of robot consciousness in itself doesnt worry me all that much. In fact I am very optimistic and intrigued when it comes to that. But tools using deep learning to analyse voices in the hands of oppressive governments or multibillion dollar coorporations for instance, knowing what she has hinted at here... well that is scary.

[@Tom5555]

DasXamer Bingo there we go. I think for me and maybe most men it is being confronted by the cold hard facts that your voice doesn’t sound more like the Hollywood lead male superstar you thought it did is why it is really jarring. It’s a dent to the ego when deeper voices are perceived in this particular culture to be valued higher. Maybe different reasons for different people but there is one answer to the title.

[@ihsanmodak3916]

OMG Rebecca, I found your talk very informative...Like most people I too do not like the sound of my recorded voice, except on a Telkom landline and my mobile answering facility message. I think it may be that Telkom and my mobile network amplifies the recording, This would effectively enhance the end product, which did not sound bad at all. All other recording devices, internet etc. makes my voice sound really terrible. I love a really good unforced seductive female voice, which is of course based on my personal perception, formed by conditioning over time and aesthetic development. I would love to have an in-depth conversation with Ms Rebecca Kleinberger on her and my interest in this linguistic topic...

[@freidenkercb2516]

This really shows that You always can learn new things and that knowledge is power. Always keep updating and optimizing yourself.

[@rogerstone3068]

She mentions the inner voice as the one we use when dreaming. Often, just drifting towards sleep, thinking whatever I'm thinking, I'll find there's a phrase - just a couple of words, but you can tell it was part of a meaningful longer expression - which is there in your mind from somewhere. It's unrelated to what your conscious mind was thinking. It's a bit of sleep-dialogue that's wandered into the clearing where your conscious mind is still awake. Does anyone get that?

[@Nophreetime]

Oh yeah. I read about this in a hypnosis book and on studies about different brain waves. That's our purest, deepest thought, unpolluted by any outside influence. I like it when that happens. For me sometimes it comes as a warning, sometimes a reminder, sometimes a recall, or bring up a long forgotten memory... Quite interesting and useful.

[@MarkKaranjaM4K]

I was actually disappointed when this talk ended. I wanted it to continue. I want to KNOW MORE!

[@romanicholas5762]

Beautiful work and very thought provoking. This has been so interesting to learn and am definitely going to look into you more. Thank you!

[@sherrybyrd9419]

Wow! Working on technology to help people with schizophrenia determine if the voices they are hearing are internal or external! That is fantastic!

[@noidph]

Love this talk. Learned a lot. Thank you, Rebecca! :)

[@ameenahsanmuliyathil5987]

Amazing talk about the “world of voice”

[@randomrangoon5476]

Extremely interesting and you left me wanting to hear your voice explain all this in more depth.

[@monikaweld5567]

This is beyond fascinating. Really well done!

[@gilgamesh6135]

When I hear my voice in a recording I feel like I am about to be robbed. 😂😂😂

[@blisterybrush86yomomma22]

I sound like a badass in my head, but when I hear myself I just don’t sound right.

[@majkelmajkel5119]

Thank you. This answered my 40year old question. Great explanation.

[@EsmereldaPea]

Absolutely fascinating! I want to learn more about your field of study.

[@AJGladys]

How coincidental that someone talking on this subject has such a beautiful voice

[@rebeccaluis1223]

Whe hear my voice it sounds so weird and im like well voice you have failed me miserably

[@britishcig5462]

I could listen to her voice for years on end, uninterrupted

[@alwaysbored47]

....I have always felt like my voice sounds amazing in both recorded form and when I hear it directly....

[@alexzubanov8278]

I remember other people saying that they don't like how they sound when recorded, but can't recall any of my friends saying that they did not like their own voice. As far as I understand when recorded all voices sound quite different. In fact, I asked my colleagues about this today, and they confirmed that my natural voice is good, and the recorded one is weird, haha. Also the speaker asked people specifically the audience about the recorded voice, not the natural one... So even though she and her team are most likely doing a good job studying voices to help cure some illnesses, the talk is confusing and I have to say did not teach me anything. The only thing that interested me was: I would really like to have my "different voices for different people" analized!!! Anyone has any idea how to do that?

[@PugLifeJM]

Great, great talk. I would have liked to have some insight on how singers develop this ability of listening to their own voice, and how it works for them. But regardless, this is one of the best and most interesting ted talks I've seen.

[@SkythontheBrony]

Singers just get used to hearing it, and eventually can't really tell much of a difference between the voice in their head and their voice in recordings, it's mostly the same. I guess the process is a bit like when you hear a singer and at first you don't really like it, but their voice grows on you after awhile.

[@justinw1765]

You just eventually get use to it the more you hear the recorded version. The initial discomfort is not because they are so vastly different, but rather because they are pretty similar, and yet just different enough to be noticeable. That kind of throws/confuses you. Uncertainty tends to be disconcerting to humans. Basically your inner voice is a bit deeper and more rich/complex than your outer voice as a trend. You can compensate for the deepness part some if you keep that in mind, but not the richer/more complex aspect. You're just going to sound more flat in a recording than you do to yourself. As far as practice goes, corners and cupped forward ears help a bit to hear your voice closer to how it sounds to others when recording is not an option, though the latter is more accurate. Generally speaking, some of it is just intuitive, and involves the right brain and parallel processing/holistic perception that is more connected to one's feelings than to the left brains linear logical, step by step processes of understanding and perceiving. After all, part of the draw/attraction of music is that it helps many of us get out of that critical, analytical, and "gray" state and helps us phase switch more to the "no mind", more pleasurable, rich, and feeling oriented state. The trick for a good singer or musician, is combing the two simultaneously, which, all who don't have brain damage, already do to some extent already, but can become much more improved with practice.

[@TeKeyaKrystal]

thank you for bringing this up & thanks for the responses . even more interesting

[@Riku3c]

Extremely interesting video. I got to learn a lot of things I didn't know about my voice, however, I feel like it didn't really touch the subject too accurately compared to my own expectations. "Why you don't like the sound of your own voice" in this video, we learn that there are a number of factors that makes it so that our inside voice doesn't sound the same as our outside voice. But, I'd like to get an explanation how (like I read in some of the comments) we like some peoples voices better than our own and if that's the case, would those people like their own voice? Would that also mean that their inner voices would be sounding even better? Another topic I discovered is that some like their speaking voice and is fine with it, but hate their singing voice. Another fascinating thought. Any ways, great clip, and I'll defiantly recommend it to my friends!

[@lakshmisupriya6323]

Very simple but superb explanation

[@SkillipEvolver]

I think it's amazing what they seem to be doing working on tech to help schizophrenic people deal with the unwanted. Really great. I've known someone who was once a very good friend of mine develop this condition and it is incredibly cruel on that person.

[@tamarasmith9060]

SkillipEvolver Yes! I have relatives suffering from this, 1 aunt & 1 uncle, as it is usually genetically based but triggered by a combination of physical processes, stress & environmental factors. (Frying your brain with drugs or excessive alcohol can cause it also, but that's more rare.) It is possible that I & my cousins are "carriers". It greatly encourages me that if one of our descendants develops it there are new promising treatments & early diagnosis being discovered.

[@SkillipEvolver]

Miss She I mean I think it all depends how this device is issued. I think what I'm learning from this video is that there is a difference between what a person thinks based upon internal and external sounds/voice... So..l I mean I might be way off... But if this device is somehow installed inside the person (like heart monitors sometimes are)? that might be a different situation. But also, as you very rightly point out, convincing the poor person to go through with it could be a lot of the battle.

[@lezzard]

Miss She Interesting. Maybe the person would be more inclined to trust a device because it is known to be unbiased.

[@whuzzzup]

The voice of a woman changes upon pregnancy and menopause? Interesting, did not know that.

[@kingkong8974]

whuzzzup hormonal changes affect your voice

[@gloop7458]

whuzzzup One small question What’s menopause?

[@whuzzzup]

I'm well aware what menopause is, just not that it or pregnancy can change the voice.

[@spock7945]

*+Nature Kit* it is the nature's kit given to women to tell: o-Men pause now,

[@joumero7493]

Nature Kit The pausing or cessation of the menstral cycle.

[@bro748]

I can sometimes hear my voice when I speak, but only if I'm making a conscious effort to, and it's definitely a learned skill. It still sounds different than what my voice actually sounds like, but it's nice that you can teach your brain to at least notice it.

[@allan67]

Thank you. Very well put. Simply explained. Enjoyable and educational, allows me to accept my presentation voice.

[@lotijuay]

Very interesting! But I have to admit, I got really distracted by the odd background Anyone?

[@lovediyana47]

trueeee, that background ruined my day

[@mikesolarz1561]

Tomás Herrerasenjo close your eyes and listen to it like a podcast

[@iplaysdrums]

I wonder if the odd placement of the boards has some acoustic purpose.

[@LindaMcification]

Don't watch this on acid

[@christianschweda2530]

@ ian connel: same here

[@crystaleyeofwoof5537]

Me: I don’t like how I sound School and family: *make me do a video with my stupid voice* Me: alrighty mighty, can I go to the store to buy new ears? Mines just exploded because of cringe OH and by the way I’ll need a new memory, this one has cringed enough

[@aquajasper]

Are you me? Seriously-

[@aryanshukla2170]

Seriously me. Are you me?

[@prozaccc]

me you seriously? are

[@piotrgorecki9817]

Are seriously. You me?

[@Keplerc-ir7fu]

You seriously me. Are?

[@HellSolo]

I love her voice!

[@podaly]

Unexpectedly fascinating!

[@simplySwag7567]

The only person who likes their own voice is James Earl Jones.

[@ben251]

Morgan Freeman

[@mill2326]

Anakin Skywalker, I was expecting someone of your reputation to be a little.. older.

[@simplySwag7567]

@@mill2326 General Grievous, you're shorter than I expected...

[@generalkenobi375]

@@simplySwag7567 We have a job to do Anakin, try not to upset him.

[@iainmackie1606]

What is this power u got KZbin on your lightsaber or something

[@jihadayish7698]

Thanks a lot , that's awesome information 👌

[@christfriedrosemann2882]

This video is super cool; I'm thinking of 2 important things here. First is, when I was young I had an extremely awesome violin teacher (unlike his student, oops :/) who tried to teach me to actually listen to myself while I played... as a musician, or singer, that's a real skill to learn, to listen to yourself 'from the outside' - that's the only way to know if you're on tune. Actually, in music, or public speaking, outside recordings can help you dramatically to get better, because you're getting a more objective look. But secondly, and this is big I think, is that you never ACTUALLY hear your voice on a recording... in learning more about sound recording it was fascinating to hear from a Hollywood sound artist that every Mic picks up things different, no matter their objective quality, and some mics flatter your own voice more than others, and that's true. When I listen to myself on a phone recording, yikes - but there's one Mic that does better at picking up the base in my tones - and I actually am okay with my voice (that's the FIRST time in my life I don't totally hate it); so technology has a huge part to play there. You listen to a more or less okay rendition of your voice, and maybe that's what triggers your brain to say 'something ain't right' because you know something is missing.

[@lafo1639]

This is an amazing lecture, thank you so much:)

[@os.a.m.a]

Honestly I just came to hear her voice

[@nimehg5734]

Nice voice, nice explaination.

[@MagentaFaux]

I thought I was going to be like yeah but why do I hate your voice? But, I love her voice touching me!

[@stephenrochester6309]

As a Japanese language learner I’m really happy these Japanese subtitles exist. Great practice!