Why you don’t listen to your body as a FA | HealingFa.com

In this video, I would like to talk about why you might not listen to your physical body. You might have certain associations about how your body must function, or how it should not function. These associations can make you tighten up, feel stressed, or cause other physical discomfort. Instead of ignoring these physical discomforts, listen to what your body needs without any judgment. Learning to allow and listen to the needs of your body will help you heal it. Take care of yourself and your body, because it matters!
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00:00 Intro
00:44 Having needs
03.58 Chronic fatigue
05:36 High Pulse (heart)
07:05 Negative associations
08:37 Anxiousness
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Video Title: Why you don’t listen to your body as a fearful avoidant.
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[@rayna599]

Yes! I completely relate to so much of what you shared, especially around, feeling that you have to be calm all of the time. When I was a new mom, that was even more intense around my family, beyond my younger years of being a soothing person for everyone. I have been in recovery from alcohol use this last year. I’ve learned so much about the causes of my behavior since then, but this one video offers such healing! Thank you so much! Blessings to you! 💗

[@P___999]

Definitely relatable. Every time a child yawns in front of my parents, they make a HUGE deal over it. "OHHHHH, SOMEONE'S TIRED!" Like it's some weak or weird or terrible thing. And my dad uses any child's tiredness as an excuse to lock the kid in another room for 'nap time' so he doesn't have to do his job as a caretaker. Thank you for your empathy and your work, Paulien. I've been resting more lately thanks to your channel. It's exhausting to process this stuff. I feel like I'm catching up on years of rest.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I am so glad to hear this. Happy to have you here, and soo good that you are finally catching up on years of rest. You have always deserved rest ❤

[@RusticRose3117]

Exactly what I needed to hear.❤

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Thank you for being here❤

[@JK-ek5jv]

Thank you, very helpful. I was called lazy as a teen when I slept in on the weekends. Weekends were a reprieve from stressful high school but not in my house because there was constant fighting and tension. Carried that pattern with me to my marriage where even after almost dying and being very sick for years, I was not allowed to sleep in on weekends when my husband was home and could get up with our son... Hearing you, it makes sense why I ended up with chronic fatigue for many years and had severe fatigue as my lingering issue. My body literally started forcing me to rest and sleep and wouldn't allow me to do anything else. I still have shame come up when I sleep a lot or nap during the day....but I do it anyway....

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

I am sorry you had to go through this. It's very good of you that you have started to listen to your body. Its so important!❤

[@emisterr]

Wow, unbelievable how many layers to it there is 😮 thank you so much Pauline for giving us hope, it's really heart-warming to see others deal with feelings and thoughts I believed only I go through. I started your program months ago, but got stuck, it feels like something stops me from wanting to heal 😕 but this video makes me wanna push further

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Please contact us whenever you feel stuck or feel resistance! You can just use the chat function, and I'd love to guide you through it, because it totally makes sense that there is something that stops you from wanting to heal. There are so many ways we can make it more safe for your fearbrain. We're here for you, you don't have to do this alone!

[@readingnarcissism]

It's an interesting link between body and the trauma experienced. Gabor Mate was the first base for me in understanding what you are talking about and perhaps this is an under looked at area. Its interesting that we just ignore so many things because of psychological processes, great video 😊

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Thank you! It's super interesting, isn't it? Happy you are here, and learning all this. You deserve to look at and heal this link :)

[@joshliam1967]

Here I am taking a midday powernap while listening because I went to bed too late last night...this was validating thank you.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Thank you for being here❤

[@gema1266]

Love your videos :) If possible, can you make a video about not trusting one's intuition?

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

That's a good one! Any specific questions you have around that?

[@gema1266]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 Maybe how to tell if its anxiety or intuition during the talking stage.

[@gema1266]

@@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 and also how to deal with guilt for acting so hot and cold (due to anxiety) and facing the consequence of being seen as manipulative :(

[@petermilne1203]

I think maybe it’s better not to “trust” your intuition, but to listen to it instead of rejecting it. It’s just one more source of information. It doesn’t necessarily mean you should “trust” it.

[@allawa0peaples]

Your videos are so insightful! Could you do a video about how a FA behaves or what a FA encounters in a work environment? In my relationship i'm, at the moment, quit relaxed but in my work life i'm struggling. And I feel like the underlying issues are very similar.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

That is very interesting. I will definitely look into this!❤

[@vaishaligupta880]

Hey could you please please please post more eft videos bcs they genuinely help :)) Also can't thank god enough for the fact that you exist. Thank youu

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Will write that down! Which topics would you like to see an EFT video on the most?

[@evadebruijn]

8.45 That scary feeling of being in trouble and bracing for impact (scolding, shaming, punishment in general) How did you get your body calm 99% of the time?? What is the secret? I work my a off in healing my nervous system but boy is it deeply ingrained/like reflexes are. ✌️

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Really finding the triggers that would set my nervous system off, and healing those. But also, accepting that your nervous system is flexible, so not labelling anything as bad or not good. It really helped me to be able to get my body back to feeling safe faster.

[@samwellington2330]

I didn't listen to my body and injured my shoulder by overtraining

[@silvyaju574]

Hey Paulien, Thx a lot for your videos. I would be nice if you could make a video with your husband to get his perspectiv :) I have secure attachment style and I am dating also a lovely FA and it would be nice know how was it for your partner at the beginning. Again thx a lot ofr your informations, this is so helpful :)

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

What a nice idea! Will definitely look into this!❤

[@Mississippian]

Growing up, any expression of need was met with either my mother rolling her eyes, scoffing, a look of disbelief, her questioning my audacity, asking me to put off being demanding (dramatic in her words), mocking me, making a face of disgust, anger and violence, keeping score, bringing up how entitled i was being and on her best days she might ask "what have I done to earn (insert need)". Overall, if I wasn't miserable, she took it tomean I wasn't learning the hard realities of life.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

That's really hard to receive as a young child. You deserved loving looks, concerned looks, and you mother asking: how can I help you? I'm sorry this was your reality, as you have always deserved better.

[@Mississippian]

Thank you for your compassion and your content.

[@aamacphisto]

I would like to hear what do FA do during the breakup. Numb, a lot of dates/sex, social media, movies, shut down…

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

That's a good one! I will definitely look into this!❤

[@gema1266]

I feel like this would depend on the person’s values.

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Values, experiences, specific fears, character. So many things play into this :)

[@yorhaunit21o32]

I want to get your course. But I need a payment plan

[@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870]

Thats great to hear. Please visit the website. There is more information on payment options!❤