Why You Have Emotional Triggers and Emotional Wounds | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

[@raiderlove5923]

Thank you for speaking about emotional wounds, Stephanie. It's a big help for me in that my mother was not there for me emotionally as I was growing up.

[@irenesoriano9843]

Thanks so much 😊

[@ChristianaSenibo]

I love the explanation of going beneath the emotion you’re feeling. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and process them instead of denying or shutting them down. And then respond with kindness.

[@emoore7476]

When I'm dealing with trauma during the night, I find your videos so good.

[@calmcrinkles]

Becoming emotionally intelligent and in control of my thoughts and reactions has been a game changer for me. This video is so helpful and I hope it reaches many people so we can all understand and not react to others when it’s our own wounds/trigger that need attending.

[@flosotall3041]

My triggers are when I feel ignored or neglect by anyone. Even if someone gets chosen over me in a situation. I find myself feeling so reactive and then I reject myself. Thank you for this video

[@bottomlessinkwell]

Very articulate thanks Steph! Neglect and unmet needs matter! They leave marks and wounds that last far into adulthood.

[@lifetimeactor6789]

The feeling of not being heard or understood used to set off lots of anger & frustration way disproportionate to the situation, and then a need to over-explain myself. Yup, it all goes back to childhood.

[@Sheywh12]

When I’m screamed at cussed at and talked down to all at the same time! It was how I was treated as a child I wanted out of the house when I was a child!! I remember always wanting to leave call 911 I was always going to get tout some how some way.. Now when it is repeated in the same manner by someone towards me on a constant basis It is my child living through those wounds all over again.. This is why I would never down someone or scream at them to get my point across It’s not how humans are supposed to react to one another. It goes so deep in me to treat one another the way you yourself would want to be treated…

[@georgemcnamara5582]

I am a Real Estate salesperson. C prospecting, specifically for sale by owners triggers my codependency of people pleasing. My mind keeps me away from not wanting to make people upset. This is from childhood trauma being raised as a child of an alcoholic father and codependent mother. Thank you Lyn for this and all your videos. I value and appreciate you.

[@Mustangnikki100]

thank you. you are the only one that actually explains it clearly and goes through each nuance and situation or difference. you make it make it complete sense.

[@womenwhodate7643]

I especially like it when you explain everything so nicely 😇 Great and honest advice is always the best. I wish you a lot of success with the channel and happy life ❤️

[@getrudemwaura946]

It took me time to know how to deal with the triggers and the wounds. As I became conscious ,and not agreeing with what my mind was telling me about when triggered. I got relieved alot. It feels Good to be Alive .🙏 Thank You 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕

[@deborahkennedy6660]

Thank you Stephanie, I have been in counseling for decades, and the examples you shared of trauma and wounds brings such clarity, and healing and understanding how these areas affect our self development.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

👏🏾👏🏾

[@authenticelli416]

Thanks for bringing awareness and insight into emotional wounds so that we can take actions around it to heal! We CAN heal!

[@ashleylovele3858]

I am crying because I really needed this! ❤ thank you all the way from CA!

[@hopedealer5738]

I started watching you about a year ago. I want to write so much, I just have a CRAZY story. I thank you soooo much. You ROCK 🙏🏽🙏🏽💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🌟🌟🌟🌟

[@ashleylovele3858]

It definitely made me realize I still have some self work to do.

[@MsToyaMonique]

This was sooo good. Thank you! I struggle with differentiating whether what I’m experiencing is true, or am I creating a story. Unfortunately, it’s the latter. 😩 But I’m learning to question my triggers and/or thoughts, and taking control of my emotions. 🌱🙏🏾

[@metalliequus3343]

I like every single title for your videos !!!! Extremely important topics to learn about and you’re really good at it !!!!!

[@danielonthekeys]

hi Stephanie, i just wanted to say thank u so very much for this video.. i can’t put into words how grateful i am because i spent so much time looking up videos for dealing with narcissistic people and emotional intelligence and i pretty much summed up all the things i’ve been struggling with in a way that was easy for me to digest. i’ll definitely be rewatching this video a couple more times to get it down packed in my head lol. thank you again, i hope u have a great 2022 🔥

[@michaelj4351]

I feel trigered when I explain my point of view to my ex wife. I feel guilty , trapped , gaslight but there is NO NEED to speak about it any more. It's like pandora's box. The moment I realized that I become more happy . Thank You for content. We all need it :)

[@jas1034]

This was great I just had an outburst with someone last night and this video helped so much it had everything to do with my wound of abandonment wow!

[@arniehanson8629]

Thanks Stephanie Hit on some great topics and gave insight to understanding I came from broken family co defendant mother and abusive step father At 3 was put in foster care system and landed up in a Christian home However I recognize the wounds that were created from original family Thank you for explaining the action and trigger responses WithJesus,s help I’ll be whole

[@ChristianaSenibo]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@superdumbvideo]

Back at the game and terrific as ever. Bravo, miss. Bravo.

[@---bk2hj]

Excellent Experience Ms Thanks Take Care Love You

[@franb9400]

Loved this video. Such a good explanation for these issues. Thanks Stephanie 💕🙌🏻

[@kalahlovesyou]

I just opened up to my dr about starting therapy from my past trauma

[@authenticelli416]

Go you for taking action!

[@samirasher1206]

To self mastery and self awareness is to ask : Do I want to believe that? Do I choose to believe that ?

[@veronicakennedy5269]

I never knew what evil was about until it walked in to my marriage. Something else took my husband, my best friend, my children father place..... I'm so lost so alone in all this, I'm truly thankful for all the good people out there like the beautiful person who made this video. An all the wonderful support groups an people what amazing support ill find. I don't know,....... I just try to self up positive talk to my self and. Just thought i would share many healthy safe loving blessings from above to all 🤗💞🙏

[@TruthSeekress2012]

What do you mean by "something else"?

[@veronicakennedy5269]

@@TruthSeekress2012 something evil took my X-husband place,.....an my beautiful children there father and I lost my love..... Bless us all 🤗💞🙏

[@TruthSeekress2012]

@@veronicakennedy5269 I suspect that about a friend. Really changed.

[@robertcarmack7586]

So true. Life is so complicated… being cheated on has really changed me. Thx for the points to think through as I consider moving on with my life

[@sunshineangeles7914]

thank you for sharing what you are doing is your helping people how to coup with all emotional wounds and triggers i experience those emotional trauma and i’m dealing them and you have given me guidance and awareness on how i will handle what you sow you will reap your sharing help to the people and for sure you will be bless more

[@tezaluyele1852]

This was amazing!!!👏🏾👏🏾

[@c.h.355]

My most recent major trigger was the TV series “Inventing Anna”. I was watching it and it was as if I was watching my narc-ex on screen. That Anna looked so much alike her. And her story.. while my ex wasn’t involved in any financial machinations (at least none that I know of), the rest - changing names, constantly moving from city to city, those outfits, the level of drama & inadequacy, attitude to people.. all that arose so much anger in me. Although it’s been 3 years now since we broke up, that movie has definitely hit home. But on the other hand, it served me as one more proof that my ex was not ok, while I was.

[@jonstevens9205]

Thanks for this video Stephanie. I'm a single dad from the UK, I have a 10 year old son and 2 year old daughter from separate relationships. I see my children frequently yet still find myself struggling with guilt towards them whenever I'm not with them, or with one and not the other at any given time. I never wanted to bring a child into the world to allow them to grow without their parents together but sometimes you just can't stay in relationships if the partner isn't right for you 😖 JS

[@sivananthinatarajan1254]

Ur videos r very helpful to me.. I don't understand what was happened in my college days. Now I realised that what those feelings are. U r telling the exact same feelings and situation what I was experienced..U r good guide.. Tnku so much for getting out off me from those feelings..

[@northgirl77]

Stephanie could you please create a video about enmeshed families and the toxicity about it. How to get rid of the resentment and build a better relationship with your spouse if he/she is enmeshed with his parents. And when is the time to leave the relationship.

[@alejandraroto9084]

I second this

[@michelleellis2258]

Enlightening video! All the triggers you talked about Im experiencing now. Im trying new methods to get better.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

👏🏾👏🏾 you will get there

[@michaelharris7157]

Had to save this vod. I’ll definitely be going back to this to remind myself later!

[@ruby-qv5bd]

I love this video, it is so helpful. Thank you so much! This is hugely helpful for sure.

[@roccafille]

What a positive insightful message. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with us!!

[@Wishpool]

GREAT video! Thank you, Stephanie!

[@patricelawrence6812]

Thank you Stephanie for this ....

[@brittanyb9292]

Her video always help me to learn something she explains it so well

[@deborakrasteva9797]

Very interesting and deep theme. Could u please make another video with tips how to cope with these triggers? :) Thank you

[@CarlosTorres-sp1mk]

Thank you!!🙏🏼

[@Navigatingmotherhood]

very helpful! thank you!

[@flatlineoptimism2600]

This is almost like kismet that I'm just now seeing this video. I try to not think of my ex too much anymore but can't seem to help it a lot of the time but just a little bit ago picked up an order of Chinese takeout which, her & used to do on the weekend. And coming back I had seething anger of all the damage she caused in my life thinking about her intensely. I learned that she's unquestionably a person with NPD through your videos. On top of which, she was a ridiculously abusive alcoholic. It's going to be difficult to get her more outta my mind but I read that reading books, even fiction, will help out with emotional intelligence. So maybe I can start with reading a couple of fictional books and also Journaling.

[@KarmicKundali]

Hi Stephanie Thank you for talking about such a sensitive issue. I would like to know do you do one to one coaching?

[@veronicakennedy5269]

Just fresh out of a twenty one years of my marriage there's. So much I can't say really expect I'm frightened all the time anymore going to start a batter support group this week. Everything hurts that's all I know at this moment.

[@authenticelli416]

HUgs! What kind of support group? I participate in a 12 Step support group for spouses (current or ex). It is AMAZINGLY helpful. If you start one or find another...would love the resource!

[@veronicakennedy5269]

@@authenticelli416 Good happy healthy beautiful morning an thank you so much, yes my support groups are same as yours. Honestly It's not easy going through it all, all over it again in the group...... I don't want it but. I literally wether i want or not i relive it every second. When they say a mind has a mind of it's own..... Boy oh boy that is so true. I just started the support group, this week will be my second time going. I just feel so overwhelmed with the grief of it all. I literally have lost everyone, I love an care about. I'm all alone do to my X-husband an his evil abusive ways. Again thank for your caring comment it means a lot to me especially the hug part. I don't even know what it's like to be hugged anymore. I've barred my hole family including four children of my own. Again thank you an Many healthy safe loving blessings from above to you and your family. You warmed my heart 🤗💞🙏

[@valeriegala]

A weak mind often finds crisis. Learn to take hold of it and don't let anyone bring your joy and happiness down.

[@shannondonahue1133]

This is so helpful, thank you 🙏🙏

[@lindasharpe7039]

Experienced this in real time.

[@davidarango5592]

really enjoyed this message, also very vital for me an rest I bet. Greatly appreciated Ms Lyn. Soon I got more days at work, God willing next 2 weeks or so I will register for coaching . Looking forward to it an excited 🙏✊💯❤️🌹

[@mistywilliams2707]

Its been almost a year since I divorced my narcissist. By far the worst thing I've experienced so far. The emotional and mental aspect of it. Lost myself and developed anxiety. I question everything. Going to therapy and watching your videos and others has helped so much. Im in a great healthy relationship now. I do have triggers from time to time. Learning how to control the stories my mind creates is what gets me. You're the best ❤❤❤❤

[@pattihuke2992]

Thx for great video. This really helps

[@valentinavadillo]

Such a great topic!

[@NekoYuki]

I do see certain topics of discussion as a bit triggering. I don't let them dictate my life but... Anything that minimizes the kinds of traumas I went through, which were caused by harm at the hands of others, kind of sets off an inner alarm. I either will politely tell them to leave the topic alone or, if what they said was bad enough, break down why it's not a laughing matter or one to minimize. I'm fortunately strong enough to confront my triggers head-on and be ok. But they do still bring up that wound that, even though it's mostly healed, still acts like a scar. A sensitive point upon my being.

[@Missy-h9l]

I would love to take a course of yours but I can't afford a complete package. Which would suit a break-up from a toxic relationship and finding yourself again?

[@Lisa-sg6lp]

Thank you ❤

[@lenaleong4894]

Thank u

[@hollylorn131]

Thank you for this video. It is very helpful to me. Do you have any information on the success of EMDR as a treatment for trauma? Have you ever tried EMDR?

[@sanjeevbains690]

If you work with a certified EMDR specialist or even a consultant then I highly recommend this. Works great!

[@vanessarenae5169]

Do you have anything about infadelity and betrayal trauma

[@zainabahmed5396]

How do i book a session with you, please!

[@shanti888]

Great content. Suggestion : get a microphone that gives you a richer sound. So you don’t sound like you’re in an empty room. Thanks.

[@vanessarenae5169]

Do you have a video or info on romantic betrayal? Anything romantic is a trigger for me.

[@kristinesutton846]

l am curious have you read the book .. 2nd edition by ..Lillian Bridges , Face Reading in Chinese Medicine? Once I read this and still reading this book , " I took the red pill, like in ' The Matrix ' and have never seen people in the world the same again. "

[@ayeshasyed9158]

my in laws house in houston makes me feel enraged and scared even though im pretty old now and one of them is dead.

[@traceyioramo4227]

Very confronting 😭

[@samirasher1206]

7:00

[@thomascoulston1431]

I used to ask, is that my mom, now I say that’s not her, thank you

[@j0g0b0nit0]

the problem with everyone here in this chat is that.. WUT THE AF r u not in tune with reality and how people should act normally??! it blows my mid how ignorant people r yo whats going on around them and how people act/manipulate

[@saranagh7097]

Would U stick ur finger in da fire on the stove?? Who want to end up doing Jail-time? Unless absolutely necessary, anyone in day Right mind will do anything they can to AVOID, getting caught in da storm, to begin with.

[@merlinwizard1000]

5th

[@authenticelli416]

Go you for showing up for your healing consistently!

[@Jenniferlynn8]

I’m triggered by arguing around me 😕

[@julieb6624]

Your room needs greenery

[@jameschambers3171]

God,only knows,what I been tho it's honestly, with this ongoing narisssstst abuse and flying monkeys, I don't want to watch no videos anymore ,just crawl in a hole 🕳️

[@ravenraven966]

James, I absolutely empathize with your feelings. I very rarely watch these videos anymore... I've learned so much in the last eight years of studying character disorders and at this point I have had enough. Way too many people in this world are high on the spectrum. They are everywhere.

[@aresedgar]

Thank you!