Why You Lie To Yourself More Than Others

[@TheStoryscapeShow]

That is an impressive drawing of Mark Hamill. I see no lies in calling you an awesome illustrator. ✏️

[@sethdavis4382]

After watching the videos on Bad behavior, I'd love to see something on Parenting, discipline and Obedience.

[@ryan-kun]

"the best lie is an honest lie" what a great quote!

[@jasondashney]

I have the exact opposite problem. I'm absolutely brutally honest with myself constantly (I'm naturally like this) and it makes communicating with others problematic because I can often spot when people are hiding behind self deception so I know they aren't coming at me from a place of genuine honest truth so I feel like I'm always having apples/oranges interactions. It's so frustrating to deal with people who can't separate emotion from objectivity and it's awful. I can get really heated about something, yet be 100% willing to change my view completely when given a more logical counterargument and in fact I love having my mind changed. My anger/elation/whatever emotion has little effect on how I treat incoming information. I know I think differently than everyone around me which makes it feel very isolating because I'm not prone to group think or getting caught up in too terribly much. My brain plays devils advocate with myself and everything around me literally constantly so I never get the "comfort" that can come with having a firm opinion on anything. That means I hold on to almost nothing as an "absolute truth" type deal and people can often actually get irritated if they feel strongly about a subject whereas I might argue both sides in succession in the same conversation and they don't know how to deal with someone who doesn't really have a stance. I really wish I knew other people who think like me. I'll see them on KZbin or hear them in a podcast and it's really reaffirming, but I have none around me and that sucks.

[@farouq7107]

Am I lying to myself? Yes, I said I will have one slice of pizza and I ate a large pizza instead :)

[@ThomasNimmesgern]

Farouq You simply ate one very large slice of pizza. ;-)

[@Tscott99]

If I tell myself I'm lying, how do I know I'm telling the truth?

[@MB-tb6jy]

Thegreatscott9 i want to explain this but I really don't know how lol

[@warriorgeneral2735]

Notice your emotions, How you are feeling, Usually for me, When I say something is fine or is not fine I usually observe my emotions, Am I angry? If yes then why? does that reason matters that much? for how long? is it my fault or the other person's fault? You have to look at the gray picture remove bias.

[@mrfreddorenton]

Being honest is hard, that's why its worth doing.

[@SirHenryMaximo]

Oh, those smooth pen/pencil transitions... Vanessa, you're gracefully outdoing yourself in every aspect!

[@AlinaLynn]

Yeah but my problem has always been lying to myself by saying that I'm a failure, while ignoring all my good qualities.

[@JonathanTash]

The deception of my heart is a force that I have to continually strive against.

[@SuviTuuliAllan]

I tried deceiving myself but I can see the truth that I'm ugly.

[@cavv0667]

We are All ugly in some ways... but you +Suvi-Tuuli Allan.... You... ... Are no worse off or significantly different than the rest of us. ;)

[@curiosfiligree8479]

I wonder if the videos revealed that Mark was neither a very good or bad person, but instead just unremarkable.

Hey Vanessa, thank you so much for this series. I'm learning a lot. I'm finding quite interesting the ability to identify this behaviours in and around me. You are really helping me to improve and to realise that one's attitude always shows more about themselves. 🙃😘

[@anti_MATT_er]

Yeah, I'm always trying to justify things, which can basically be lies.

[@braincraft]

What bad behaviours do you want to see episodes on? Tell me!

[@Watch-0w1]

BrainCraft depression and self douth

[@galaxyglider3829]

All of the options from the poll seem really interesting. It actually took me a good couple of minutes to vote!

[@hectt11able]

What about the behavior of not wanting to accept another's view such as life and stuff like that I think that is bad

[@donnie9886]

Exclusion!

[@sebastianelytron8450]

I prefer the old BrainCraft, the one who would go out, interview, explore and discover. Remember mutant menu? Or the AI episode? What happened to such golden content?😭

[@albertolaurella9168]

I'm really loving this series, I've wanted to better myself for a long time now, to be more confident, more able to take my responsibilites and to be wiser, last episode made me think a lot about myself and the others and this too is highly connected to my thoughts about myself. Keep up the good work Vanessa (I'm a big fan of your work and I just hope you get to see this)

[@albertolaurella9168]

Well it seems senpai didn't notice me this time either. Oh well

[@emdadahmed5592]

This self deception doesn't come naturally to some people. That's why they have low self confidence and self esteem and suffer from depression

[@sufiyanadam]

_The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception_ - Friedrich Nietzsche

[@slipperyslope6184]

Not true, just look around this world is made up of hypocrisy

[@PoseidonXIII]

I lie to myself all the time, but they are usually self-deprecating lies and not ones that would make me seem better to others. But that may just be me. XD

[@franciscoluissantos3457]

Would be nice to have something on procrastination. Thanks for the great videos.

[@lafcadiothelion]

You can't wake someone up who's pretending to be asleep.

[@gardenhead92]

There's no character trait I despise more than arrogance

[@ulisesbelmonte8354]

Do one on *procrastination*

[@serbanandrei7532]

ulises belmonte she will do it someday...

[@Fassislau]

she did already... kzbin.info/www/bejne/g3qcnZRrlruhptE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKmuma2dlsdloNk

[@IsomerMashups]

Okay, now what if you have anxiety and low self-esteem even though you know logically that you're doing fine?

[@dmrc43]

I lie down every night!😃 But I've been recently trying to tell the truth, or at least don't lie.

[@alexixeno4223]

.. I work in an answering service. I lie all the time. and I do mean ALLLL the time. Never to harm the callers of course. But some times it's easier to say things like "of course you're speaking with the company ma'am, this isn't an answering service."

[@lockwie9176]

Honestly I could use some of this self-deception thing. I have very low self-esteem and it makes it hard to convince anyone that I can do stuff because I don't truly believe it myself. That's why no one wants to hire me :/

[@clementpayre5984]

I really like the quality of your videos and of your drawings. Thank you

[@Cluless02]

This is an excellent and courageous investigation into a personal subject.

[@devoutzombe]

I genuinely enjoy all your videos thanks for the great content

[@R.Instro]

TL;DR -- Most people don't _actually_ "lie" to themselves; mostly, we just decide to act on imperfect information, per current bias(es). Having acted, we then have trouble reconsidering our position in light of new information, particularly if we were "successful" in so doing. In short, "deceiving" or "not deceiving" oneself is not quite so simple a proposition as this

[@monsterlanister9875]

Yeah I'll just sum this video up in two words: Cognitive Dissonance.

[@linkon_]

Thank you Braincraft team. This series is very helpful

[@Ikiratuki]

Self deception is only a problem when it causes discomfort.

[@Thelonious2Monk]

In spite of what you and others are preaching all the time, self deception is an amazing mechanism allowing us to cope with the hardships of the world and society. It brings much more good than bad results. If we did not deceive ourselves, we would not achieve goals. Of course there are drawbacks also, but overall it is better to deceive oneself than to continuously ask yourself, am I right, am I wrong?

[@TheyCallMeNewb]

Inaccurate perceptual schemas and a faulty associative network, perforce, give rise to a limiting perceptual set and, hereupon, certain anchors and their selective availability are seen to impact upon what opinions we can have access to.

[@JoseFCouto]

been loving this series

[@Tinker001]

Over confidence is bad... But what about the other side of the coin? If you don't think you're good at something despite people repeatedly thinking you're the expert on the subject.

[@ruskreeder2434]

This was really excellent. I really like your artwork too. You put this together very well.

[@Lolalogo]

I feel like I'm just one lump of bad behavior lol

[@falconfira]

Trying to disprove a positive about yourself is very easy when you have depression.

[@drulli6]

I'm glad I'm not the type of person that lies to themselves or others :^)

[@KashifSoopy]

Is it bad I trust this video more because every fiber of my being wanted to reject the video?

[@GeoffShouldWin]

Yes i am lying. I can't sleep standing or sitting

[@gauravpandey775]

Finally good audio quality....🤘🤘🤘

[@dyzzydjm]

Now, I do not suggest we let ourselves be completely deluded about our skill at any level, but I want to give one possibility to illustrate where research can go wrong by forgetting to think in a wholistic method. That possibility is this, that such self delusions are a social development game that developed to reinforce bonds by reading each other beyond the posturing, seeing through the tricks in a friendly helpful manner and testing honesty about each others flaws which is important to real group development. I would suggest that it is simplified ‘religion’ based morality that suggests it is black and white dishonesty and that the picture, in this a well as many other things, is much more complex and wholistic thinking might teach us to see all sorts of levels...

[@apophisxo4480]

I have NEVER EVER lied to myself!!!!

[@jenohogan9254]

This is a great series. :-D

[@kevind814]

Where is the line between confidence and overconfidence, and can one really recognize which is which in themselves?

[@TheAlmightiest]

Self-deception is the most common human trait.

[@KevAlberta]

So is it by default the most human trait?

[@TheAlmightiest]

@@KevAlberta Default?

[@TheAlmightiest]

In what way are using the word human here? Is it most human if most human do it? If you think so, the answer is yes.

[@KevAlberta]

@@TheAlmightiest I’m asking your opinion, what do you believe?

[@TheAlmightiest]

@@KevAlberta You're not making any sense m8.

[@pugapino]

There are those who optimistically deceive themselves and then there are Existential nihilists.

[@youkai888]

I'm loving this series. Keep up the good work! Will be expecting more. (Easy to say :P )

[@taihaileizoe]

It's not that I'm lying I'm just too lazy to go excerise or go outside to get "healthy foods"

[@CaioValeFly]

I still keep lying to myself telling me that I'll quit smoking the day I chose to stop. It's a bitch cuz I know it's not true but it's very hard to change the way of thinking.

[@regozs]

Great video!

[@Supreme_Lobster]

Isn't lying necesary for empathy, at least partly?

[@donnie9886]

You’re so artistic is amazing!!

[@hsavietto]

I never lie to myself!

[@Ender586]

I never lie to myself or anyone else. Especially not in the comment section, sigh. Snow leopard.

[@prasadpatil1]

Please do one episode on procrastination

[@braincraft]

I've done two episodes on procrastination in the past couple of years! Search for procrastination on my channel page :)

[@gunar.kroeger]

Everyone is an above average driver

[@kyu4404]

Hi vanessa.very good video!!👍👍👍 This new serie is very intersting and i love the draws. But can you speak a little bit slow...as a frenchy i need to see your videos couple of time to get it right(i hope😂😂)and i can put only 1 blue👍 Cheers

[@adeimantus4224]

What if you lie to thyself that your are happy when you are not, to keep on going and geting use to it a mind set, just like the new normal these days and smile into the deep dept of overworking

[@adeimantus4224]

What if thyself can lie to you back?

[@matpikachu]

Is there really a snow leapord in your projection?

[@emman100]

Narcissism, drug abuse, and the Dunning Kruger effect

[@mattchew420]

I think I lie to myself quite often.

[@HoD999x]

actually i think there are people who *don't* lie to themselves (or others, except in self defense). how do i know? because i am one of them (or so i think)

[@hauntedwafflecake]

The reason why it's so hard to stop lying to oneself is because we're generally pretty bad at realizing we're even doing it. Like the video said, we convince ourselves of what we made up, and it becomes true in our heads, even if it started out as a lie. Try it: make up a story, based on something that actually happened. Tell that story to different people in different days as if it were true. It won't take long at all until your memory of the real event starts to mix up with the lie and you're no longer sure what part of it really happened and how much did you make up. Our brains don't like lies and contradictions, so when we make something up, it starts to change our perception and our memories to fit that "new reality" so it all makes sense. For example: If you truly believe you're ugly or pretty, you'll start to see yourself more as such, even if your looks didn't change.

[@TheChamp1971]

I always tell the truth..... even when I lie.

[@MogoFromHell]

l try not to, l lie so bad people don't believe me even when l tell the truth...

[@wernt0]

I lie to myself all the time by saying everything will be ok.

[@stardust4001]

wernt0 I have exams in 1 month so yeah agree

[@Chewbaccawheel]

My mind is a pathological liar.

[@jommydavi2197]

I lie to myself about how terrible I am...

[@arnaldo8681]

i dont think i lie to myself. at least not intentionaly

[@whiterabit09]

Your gaslighting me! Lol

[@audiofile8311]

Am I lying to myself? No I'm not

[@Kaneanite]

My mind is a dark and terrifying place, I would rather not go there.

[@MB-tb6jy]

Kaneanite i have tried to go there. I ended up confused. And got darker. Then went down their again and that's how the cycle went. It's best to just ignore every useless shit until it dies out. I hope it's working for me

[@BenHeintz]

Very nice video, as usual! But please, give some water to this poor plant!!

[@braincraft]

Man, you should see it since I filmed 💀

[@puddingball]

the layers of self-deception are not just true on the human level, but also on the level of society. 'good' and 'bad' behavior is purely based on what society has instilled in us to be good and bad behavior. Everyone is indoctrinated in some sort by ideologies that we believe to be true and objective. Not even all things that are good lie in line with each other. For example: avocados are a very healthy choice and therefore good to eat, but unfortunately they are very costly to grow, making them bad for the environment; it is good to be in touch with your emotions, but it is bad to be enraged at someone. Go vegan to save the animals and the environment? too bad, you're alienating yourself from your closest relatives. The systems of good and bad are inconsistent and are contradictory, so logic will always be faulty. Self-deception is in my opnion necessary to live a normal life.

[@melcomepay6668]

TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE. But we are not. ( More comment later) .....Sign seen on a local church door....." Low self esteem support group meeting, please use the door at the rear of the building" 🌝LOL. ( Think about that for a moment ..can you see the funny side?)

[@poorplayer9249]

Those grapes aren't sour. They're victims of irradiation inequality. I've entered into negotiations with my cognitive dissonance, but it's not going well. We don't seem to agree on anything.

[@カバルナハンナミツチ]

Hi!

[@galaxyglider3829]

Hello from the notification squad!

[@galaxyglider3829]

Omg I was the 4th comment

[@xWood4000]

What if you are lying this whole video?

[@xWood4000]

(obv it's facts and I can search for them for example on the internet)

[@sghost128]

What are you talking about I never lie...

[@greensteve9307]

"Just one more episode..."

[@sundaze7925]

The reason I live a pathetic life is because I can’t lie to myself I know what I did last summer

[@jaysun4069]

I never lie

[@averyhaywood8257]

I Already Know Who I Am

[@barrykent9877]

Almost funny... Tell me, am I a freak? I never lied in my life - I lied IN?MY WHOLE LIFE only two or three times. Why? Because lie could help someone, it was big deal... Everything depended on me or... it was trivial - my lie was just a play. I never lied in my life in important things. Yes - I paid much for it. Telling thruth is a hard way path of life. Am I really freak of some kind??

[@AkankshaSingh-hx4db]

If I lie... I wouldn't be honest...like why is she even asking? I think writing a better intro is easy... Oops I lied again :-P

[@Robstar0]

A Snow leopard? Eh..?

[@brynwhitehead1731]

Tell Rob I said what's good.

[@billnewton3511]

Next video... how to make better use of the comments section.

[@stilcrazychris]

Hi I really like all your videos & this is NOT A LYE. Bc I don't, & it goes against my believes. Ok now that's been cleared up, let's move on. Next time you use colored pens ~ pencils, could we PLEASE USE SOMETHING BESIDES YELLOW. ITS HARD TO SEE ON WHITE PAPER. That's it, thank you for long you do. Chris

[@wyllomygreene7700]

stilcrazychris double triple yes please I couldnt read anything on my phone :/

[@Hi-Im-RubX]

I think Trump needs to see this video. Anywho thank you for a great video

[@ImagineMedia]

I love your videos but I think this fad (You're amazing at drawing btw) of drawing pictures and writing it out on paper is over. I used to dig it. Now I just find it distracts me from what you are saying. I'd rather just see you talk.

[@SaucerJess]

💙

[@farouq7107]

Notification squid

[@braincraft]

🦑

[@albertolaurella9168]

Squids are cuteeee

[@jimlaguardia8185]

Why should we trust you? By generalizing, you insult virtuous persons.

[@jaybea365]

why do you keep re-posting this? This is either the 3rd or 4th re-post...get yourself together.

[@braincraft]

It's a different (new) video!