How Gaslighting Manipulates Your Mind

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Has anyone ever made you question your reality? How gaslighting manipulates your mind.
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Humans are complicated: a tangled web of amazing biology and bad behaviours. This illustrated field guide will equip you with the necessary tools to navigate the lying, jealous and judgmental tendencies of your fellow humans. This week we explore gaslighting, a form of emotional abuse and thought manipulation.
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Gaslighting in politics: www.nytimes.com/1995/11/26/op...
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[@5avan10]

My ex-wife is a master at gaslighting. My oldest child is so messed up by it that they don't even know which thoughts are theirs, and which came from their mother. I am glad I escaped this abuse, but I wish I had done so sooner, in order to spare my child. She has my child so mixed up that they are emotionally stunted to the level of someone five years younger. They run away from everything that challenges their mother's narrative. They won't even see me anymore because they are convinced that, by wanting them to discuss their problems and face their fears, I am the one who is being abusive. Gaslighting is abuse, pure and simple.

[@Timothan]

my prayers go out to you brother

[@amynikolyan2104]

I think I am in the same situation. I don’t know how to get out of it. I am the one that run after him. We have been dating for three years and I feel dependent on me not financially but more mentally and making decisions. I am in love with him can’t believe I might be one of the victims. It’s seems impossible to get out of it. Sometimes I think it’s better to keep going with it. He blames for things that I didn’t do exactly as we discussed or planned so then he punishes me saying he is not punishing me he just things that I am incapable of doing and it’s not my fault that I can not meet his expectations. Makes me feel really low of myself and thinking I mess up his life. He is extremely manipulative by saying “oh I hold myself back because I choose to be with you.” I get more upset because the way he manipulated. He is the master of manipulation and mental abuse. I know what I am suppose to do but my emotions and memories does not let me. Please help.

[@nyar2352]

My mother is like that too. I am now in my mid-30s and need more years of therapy to get my mind back.

[@mirmo1727]

i know i am a little late, but i am truly sorry to hear it. i am glad you got out of the situation, i just hope you can manage to help your children as well

[@effortlessschool]

That's how mindfuck I've become.. Like your children. Your have my prayers

[@leftie75]

My favorite part is when people manipulate you everyday then call you crazy when you get angry.

[@MattMussett]

Its caused purposely trigger you , if your have something they like and they can't obtain it

[@saltymemesmith]

Calm down 😂

[@bradmarchand8646]

Recognizing that someone has been gaslighting you regardless of how long it's been going on is a major positive step to recovery.

[@WPS691]

The media and brand names have been gaslighting me - they think I don't know what I want!

[@Cae_the_Kitsune]

I've definitely heard the whole "you're just being too sensitive" line too many times to count. It gets really boring after a while.

[@mikicerise6250]

I don't quite see the point of identifying "unintentional gaslighting". Gaslighting as abuse makes sense because it's intentional. The gaslighter intentionally misrepresents reality to make you question yourself and gain dominance. If the person who misrepresents reality actually believes in the misrepresentation themselves, they aren't gaslighting, they're just delusional.

[@kanaler5924]

Can be a mix as well, everyone doesn't just fit a term perfectly or not at all.

[@saulfernandez8876]

but how could a delusional person apply techniques

[@vanessawinkelmann7288]

For some people there is not a conscious Thought of : "I'm going to manipulate this person so they don't believe in their reality anymore!". It's more like they can't handle their narrative beeing challenged maybe because they can't take responsibility, without hurting their fragile ego(p.e. Narcissists). So they engage in the same tactics they deflect, project and blame you for things they are responsible for. Even if it's not conscious it's just as hurtful, so I think it should still be called gaslighting...

[@kusumlata1390]

@@vanessawinkelmann7288 Nicely put. 👌

[@jamesemerson7445]

Sometimes one's motivation is hidden even from themself.

[@nonamephoenix503]

Here is a list of what Abusers/Narcissists usually do to their targets : Insults their target very often. Then lie when confronted about it, or say it was a joke. When confronted with their behavior, they pretend to be innocent and play the victim. Everything is always your fault, even when it's obviously not. They always have a justification for every bad thing they do. They think they're always right. Very controlling, they tell you how to live, but they can live anyway they want. Very hypocritical. They accuse you of what they're doing to you (RED FLAG!), it's called Projection. Portraying themselves as angels outside, when they are actually demons with their family and especially their target. They want you to fail, while pretending to want you to succeed (they're very convincing). They never say they are sorry for hurting you (RED FLAG!). Poison your favorite activities, they don't want you to be happy or to get pleasure. They also poison other useful activities like important skills which will help you in the future. They DO NOT want you to have skills, they want you to be as weak as possible. They don't teach you anything. Subtly lead a smear campaign against their target, so they isolate it and make sure they don't get help. When you want to leave the relationship with a narcissist, they beg you to stay with them and cry crocodile tears. They are the best actors. Sometimes nice, sometimes cruel. You never know where you stand with them. They pretend to be "victims", and they blame the target for their own behavior. They are incredibly arrogant and sadistic. They see the target as weak, and deserving to suffer. They think they are models to be followed. They are spiritually dead although they might loudly profess some kind of Spiritual Belief.

[@MsCoconutconjurer]

Noname Phoenix yes indeed

[@themoribundapathetic4530]

I fucking hate how they follow me every time i get into a relationship it's with a narc. I already have enough with my narc mom and neglecting dad.

[@iiw0v3y00DIZMUCH]

That last one though......hits hard

[@angelalandes8146]

Ah man :(

[@gyalsnextman4725]

Noname Phoenix well I must be a dangerous individual

[@JanCarol11]

narcissism drives the behaviour. It is the ability to control another.

[@AA-th5vi]

I am glad that you touched the workplace in your list. I think the workplace is the most corrosive/toxic place in our lives and it's basically executed by sociopaths. This technique is more commonplace than people might think. This is how the bullies discredit their victims.

[@Ignasimp]

Gergely Nagy Not all workplaces are the same lol. Workplaces can be very healthy places.

[@themoribundapathetic4530]

This is the kind that really really breaks me down. The school amd workplace.constant abuse by everyone.

[@ricksmith7034]

If you work in such a toxic environment, run away as soon as you can. There is always somewhere better. Lots of job sites these days have x- employee posted reviews and rate the company on this metric. Either that or become a social ninja and get the truly toxic ones fired.

[@fardinhakimi]

true words

[@l.b.5187]

I just had to quit a job because of this. Moved on and never regretted my decision.

[@michelleroberts3171]

One good way I’ve found at figuring out if you’re being gaslighted is ask for specific examples. If they can’t think of any or bring up things you know didn’t happen or couldn’t have happened, they are lying.

[@NeonGeminis]

You usually put into words what I'm thinking and can't really explain... it's like having my own field expert on the subject...

[@TommoCarroll]

Haha that's such a good way to put it

[@phillyfan-182]

That’s the thing about mental health. We’re not as communicative, articulate and aware of our mental health the same way we are about our physical health. If you break your leg for instance people can see your problem it’s obvious. But if you’ve been gas lighted or emotionally abused then nobody can see your problem

[@peytom2100]

@@phillyfan-182 terrible analogy Philly

[@adinanicolescu9174]

You should've mentioned that Gaslighting is used by abusers and people with Personality Disorders, especially those in the Cluster B of Personality Disorders. These include: Narcissism, Borderline, Histrionic and Anti-Social Personality Disorders (which is also broken in two parts: Psychopaths and Sociopaths). These are VERY DANGEROUS people to be around! If you're in a relationship with someone who does this... LEAVE ASAP!!! This is NOT a joke! Your very life may be endangered!

[@taraarrington2285]

What about family?

[@RitaG4404]

You need to leave, for your own safety and sanity

[@RitaG4404]

Your descriptions are exactly right on

[@robinmoore4189]

Dont you think that there are some socio- and psychopaths that are actually decent personalities? It depends on moral code, if they logically understand how to be a decent human being, I can see that work. Its really rare though and takes a lot of work. Coming from a mild sociopath on a way to recovery. Still be careful and take your time to get to know people, there is no rush!

[@Moonbeam143]

I had a "friend" who did this to me. I haven't seen him in years, but I'm glad I haven't.

[@TommoCarroll]

Its good to figure out when someone is just poison to you and that just because they're a so-called 'friend' you've sometimes just got to think about numero uno!

[@chiaraventura8950]

I think my friends do this to me but I like spending with them but they also make me miserable and I think that I’m being dramatic. Should I be friends with them anymore?

[@guptahaha]

@@chiaraventura8950 SAMEE

[@crezychameau]

Some time ago someone pointed out to me a very detestable trait of personality that I have, I felt terrible for being like that, and most of it for not realizing it by myself. Now each time you describe a new bad behaviour, I dread to recognize myself in it.

[@alihu3]

This is why self confident is exceedingly important; the more you believe in your own experience, thoughts and perception of reality, the harder you are too get manipulated (gaslighted).

[@too-hot-to-handle01]

I was called a gas-lighter...by a gas-lighter. That messed me up for a few months

[@gringo3002]

This is a common gaslighting tactic.

[@HighPowerOptionsTrades]

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@tommyparkerparker]

They are telling you what they really are.

[@badluck5647]

"Gaslighting isn't a thing. There you go making up words."

[@braincraft]

Thanks for watching everyone - I know this topic is more serious than my normal videos, but I felt it was important to cover. I see these behaviours play out a lot in stories in the media lately... let me know your thoughts below.

[@sebastianelytron8450]

A lot of KZbinrs hesitate to take political sides to avoid angering groups of people in their fanbase and losing subs. I applaud your bravery!👏

[@linusyootasteisking]

@sebastian are you talking about the politically correct political stance of attacking trump (which surely is very justified)? there are probably an overwhelming majority or lefties (oversimplified) here, so your comment probably delusional, sad to say. the truly brave thing would be to be morally clear-headed and point out things like: 1) Compulsive Lying Who is it that is denying biological sex and its correlation to gender and sexuality? radical left intellectuals and students. 2) Introlerance For Opposition Who are the ones that are shutting down public college discourses WITH VIOLENCE? radical left students and their teachers. I'm left leaning so it is possible to not be a nazi (or on the right) and still have clarity of mind to see these delusions for what they are. this is supposed to be a science channel. Edit: and yes im sorry for being a douche. i hate when people need to justify what they say by saying "im left so..". but sometimes you have to go against your principles.

[@peacewillow]

thank you for the video, and the excellent way you presented it. yes, you described most crazy leaders in the world today, but i don't see this as political... it's just a factual description of the behavior exhibited by some people. and i hope some other people start to see it for what it is.... "emperor with no clothes on" types of situations.

[@girletherial]

Honorable Catsmeat - Why is this troll (you) so off topic?

[@girletherial]

One other strategy is to demand respect and hold your ground. Call out the perp when they are playing games and tell them to get real or get out. The whole point (most if the time) is that they don't want to lose you, so make sure they know they're acting against their own self interest if they continue. Granted, it takes a lot of knowledge about how games work to actively call them out, but 99% of the time, if it feels like it might be a game, then it is. The sooner the games stop, the sooner the relationship becomes happier and healthier. I'm a big fan of zero tolerance for this kind of BS. It works especially well with emotionally immature people who lack self awareness to even understand the extent to which they play games. You can see the awareness lightbulbs turning on in their heads as you help set them straight. If they are not too damaged a person, they might just get it. And change.

[@richardrose7382]

it's also been used in court. A lot of trials depend on destroying the credibility of witnesses

[@colliric]

Richard Rose yes, especially in the Family Court of cause. And this is the full version of Gaslighting where a Psychologist will be dragged into the scheme of cause. Usually to label the Man mentally ill on an accusation put forward by a lawyer or lying woman with the agenda of having the person declared dangerous to Children.

[@Rithene]

Great video! One thing that wasn't touched on though, most likely due to it being fairly specific, is medical gaslighting. You CAN be gaslit by doctors and loved ones with regards to your health, and basically everyone who has an invisible disability has experienced it to some extent. It can lead to people not being able to recognize the severity of their symptoms because they've been told that they're faking/exaggerating/being lazy. It's something that's incredibly hard to overcome, and I still struggle with it even though I know exactly how it happened.

[@Bonzi_Buddy]

Odds are someone who has Munchausen's is more likely to gaslight than medical professionals.

[@davidsousa7334]

Just experienced gaslighting first hand and they just about destroyed every friendship I had. Gaslighting is what evil people do.

[@badluck5647]

Does it make me evil that gaslight my friends to think they are misremembering the super embarrassing things I do drunk? I need perspective.

[@madhanraju9605]

As you said in the clinical case, even i went through this with set of people from a cult ( spritual organization based in bangalore) made a plot to question my reality and make me unstable so that i will join their cult. they did extreme actions of gas lighting and played with career and everything to make me join their cult. and i survived. i didnt even had a single person to seek support. infact, people scolded me that its my fault. i went through out with a lot of pain that no one would even think of. but i learned alot. i often think that i dont deserve what had been done to me.

[@buzzwarrior]

So, I saw this today after watching the 1940 movie, 'Gaslight'. The movie truly fascinated me after studying 'Narcissism' and was an extraodinary piece of artistic work for it's time. This video came up and I was intantly engaged in Vanessa's style and delivery. I'm a hooked subscriber now and think Vanessa's service to understanding problematic psychological concepts via simple and vivid explanations is commendable. On a personal note, I learned 2 things; that gaslighting is almost a 'natural' reaction in it's subtle application by many and that I myself, unwittingly fell into gaslighting-type behaviour to address the effects that a covert narcissist was having on me. So, the video serves not only as a very valuable purpose in understanding other's behaviours that impact on us negatively, but also as a self-relection tool in developing a balanced and healthy level of emotional intellect.

[@TommoCarroll]

Ah this is really interesting! Have heard this term be thrown around so much in past year or so, but kept forgetting to actually look up what it was. You covered it for us! Thanks a lot! Great video as always :)

[@braincraft]

Same - thanks for watching 👩🏻‍🔬

[@elainasmith1700]

My stepfather has done this for 10 years. I’m glad I learned what it is so I can learn to heal.

[@Thesilentdemise]

My father did this to me and caused a complete psychotic break from reality in me when I was 14. By the time I was 10 I was certain he was doing something but no matter what I did he would never admit it. I viewed (and still do) our entire relationship to be one big game. I likened it to chess in my mind. I was born with hallucinations and paranoia and for so long I thought I was insane. He was constantly winning and it drove me to extreme measures (which only made things worse) I tried to tell people, but everyone trusted him. He was president of the PTA (parent teacher association) at my schools and was friends with all my doctors and counselors. If I tried to say anything he would find out and make my life hell. All while looking completely perfect from the outside. He was and still is a master manipulator. Even after almost 6 years of trying, I've only gotten him to break character once. And he still almost successfully explained that away. I don't live with him anymore and I'm safe at my mums house. But I still feel like I'll never escape from his influence

[@Project_2501]

*I've been gaslighted ALL MY LIFE!* My stepfather manipulated me into believing I was a disturbance factor in his relationship to my mother for years, when it was in fact HIM who joined the family and caused disturbance by his alcohol abuse and his violent nature. He always tried to make me believe I was worth nothing and that I will turn out to be a failure in life (while ironically he spent over half of his life in prison and never got a real job). And for a long time he was successful with that until I grew older and realized that adults do not necessarily have a better understanding of things by default, because of life experience or always act like adults, but can have deep deep issues and be abusive AF! My teacher in high school tried to constantly degrade me as well. In elementary I was a very good student, but when I transitioned we got this hag of borderline person as out teacher and she mocked and bullied me where ever she could. I believed it was my fault, because I thought "teachers are adults and adults are always right, so it has to be me". She did that for 2 years and all of a sudden got suspended for doing similar things to other students who had more confidence than me and the back of their parents who would actually try to fight this horrible psycho. After that, my grades skyrocketed and I realized, it wasn't my fault. Later, my bosses gaslighted me into believing that I was the one responsible for not being able to fulfill their unrealistic requirements of having to get more and more work done by each month and keep up the quality at the same time. It was my first two jobs and they were low wage ones and the pressure was enormous. I got depression, because I couldn't figure out in my young and naive mind why I couldn't possibly work any harder, because I was already giving 110% but it wasn't enough. It took me about 5 years of psychological pressure, frustration and financial sorrow to some how get by with a couple of hundred Dollars a month. Then something happened that made me realize that it is not me who is incompetent, but it is their common strategy to avoid raises. By hiring young and unexperienced people for a minimum wage, then exploit them for two years and then make their life to hell so they would quit on their own - this way they can avoid raises and keep labor costs low by constantly hiring new dumb sheep. It was devastating, but then I finally got an offer at a better place and since I've been working there I realized how much better and humane a work place can be, by simultaneously doing something of value for a much better wage. Life is full of wolves, it takes experience and confidence to detect them and speak out. I learned a lot through that, but it shouldn't be that way in the first place.

[@itslove7904]

Wow...... Word count plz? Lol impressive

[@mattdonlan7745]

Another great tip for dealing with gaslighting. Run.

[@poorplayer9249]

Thank you Vanessa. Thank you to you and others who create videos like this to help young people understand, and be prepared to deal with this type of behavior. It seems to me there has been an uptick in their frequency lately, at least among the channels I sub to. Of course, that could simply be me falling victim to frequency illusion ;). Not overlooking the double-edged nature of the digital media world today, and acknowledging that they might lack a relevant base reference, I still sincerely hope they fully appreciate the significance of these learning opportunities. I could have used them back in the day.

[@IceMetalPunk]

"Not paying taxes makes me smart. [Thirty minutes later] I never bragged about dodging taxes."

[@sebastianelytron8450]

To be fair to the man, it did win him a lot of votes and make him leader of the free world🤔

[@slydog42069]

not only that, but who wants to pay taxes to the ever bloated, terribly corrupt us government?

[@petermiller5573]

Sebastian Elytron No one ever said gaslighting isn't effective. To the contrary, it's a very effective way to manipulate people.

[@ArawnOfAnnwn]

That's not an example of gaslighting in the first place, just plain old lying.

[@michaelg7904]

There are people who actually don't have to pay taxes -- look it up. So, if they don't have to pay taxes, they haven't dodged anything.

[@ruskreeder2434]

That was really good and well-done. Your research was excellent too.

[@JosiahDavid]

Thank you for also offering the solution or ways to work on it. Quite too often KZbin videos just spotlight the issue.. which can lead to anxiety if you just tell someone in more detail why they’re wrong

[@Samillennium]

I love how this is presented! such pretty artwork! and this is done so well it's very easy to consume the message.

[@RBuckminsterFuller]

What's the phenomenon where two people remember events completely differently, with no ill will involved? It's lead to many arguments for me personally. Progression going along the lines of "I don't remember doing that" > "why would I do that" > "why are you lying".

[@HeyLetsDoAThing]

Unintentional abuse is still abuse. Gaslighting is an abusive behavior whether you mean to do it or not. So the answer is that it's unintentional gaslighting on the part of whichever person is remembering it wrong, or both of you are attempting to gaslight each other into believing your version of events when both of you are wrong.

[@RBuckminsterFuller]

That makes very little sense to me. What you're saying is that people are unintentionally abusing each other every time they misremember an event and have an argument about it. It doesn't help that human memory is notoriously unreliable. In this case I think the term gaslighting is just not applicable.

[@HeyLetsDoAThing]

It isn't about having an argument, it's about using tactics within that argument to convince the other person that they are crazy and wrong for thinking what they think. If you are both working together to figure out what the truth is, that's not gaslighting, and is different than trying to convince someone else that they are wrong, which is abusive if it turns out they were right and you were just being a dick to them about it and trying to make them second-guess the truth.

[@RBuckminsterFuller]

One party's story is likely closer to the truth, but trying to figure out which one is often impossible. This often leads to both people suspecting that the other person knows they're wrong and is lying about it, instead of wanting to admit their mistake. Are both parties gaslighting each other then? Is the solution to always say you're wrong? Or should you just say "oh we'll never figure it out, let's just drop it"?

[@HeyLetsDoAThing]

"but trying to figure out which one is often impossible" Convincing people that this is actually true is the republican strategy. Obfuscate the truth so completely that it seems impossible to parse. But this is merely a strategy, and an ineffectual one if you care enough to question yourself on your own, study, gain evidence, and investigate things on their own merits with third party input so that when you speak with confidence, it isn't blind confidence, and so that you can tell when someone is telling you the truth or merely gaslighting you. Saying "oh, we'll never figure it out, let's just drop it" is itself gaslighting. Also, don't be confident until your confidence is informed. that way you can't be gaslit into thinking you're wrong, because you already operate from a default where you could potentially be wrong and not have all the information. Then you can use that attempt at gaslighting to either investigate their argument and why they're gaslighting you, or investigate to find out that, in fact, they were telling the truth, and weren't gaslighting you at all. This is the honest, intellectually consistent method, but it also takes a lot of effort and humility, and most people are looking for the path of least effort, and don't enjoy admitting to possibly being wrong.

[@rrcczz]

Your intelligence and desire to inform us about different subjects is beautiful.

[@VibesChill7991]

Its so fucked up honestly and traumatizing. My heart goes out to all those who have experienced this…

[@DeadUnicornClub]

Normal People: Here's an example of gaslighting in politics. Gaslighters: No it's not, you're the one being gaslight! Normal People: There you go again, trying to gaslight everyone. Gaslit people: Maybe both sides are the same???

[@HeyLetsDoAThing]

They aren't though. Republicans build their entire strategy around gaslighting, while Democrats gaslight more selectively and nefariously, and usually for the same reasons Republicans do, to divert attention away from a behavior or policy they don't want to change, but the public at large wants them to change. The fact the Republicans are worse about it and gaslight more consistently as a matter of platform actually works to their advantage because they're able to lie in a way that is constant and consistent, while Democrats are partly in line with the truth, and have more smart, aware people on their own side trying to hold them accountable, so they get called on their lies far, far more often, which makes them look worse in the eyes of the public overall, since a devoted and passionate liar is more palatable than a part-time liar who has ruined their reputation and called the consistency of their integrity into question.

[@danielkivett-v2963]

Hey! Let's Do A Thing! - sounds to me like you e been has log into thinking one side is “better” Democrats are partly in line with the truth? Do you also believe their Russian conspiracy theories? 😂 They’ve been gaslighting the entire United States since November 2016

[@TheMindofRa]

pretty much course things took under my comment thread on here.

[@ryanliberty]

This was such a good and comprehensive overview! Thank you for doing the research.

[@bernadettefuson1678]

This was so interesting and well done. I liked that you talked about this at both the "conspiracy" level and the "just trying to win an argument" level.

[@dandearman2871]

I feel like I've been gaslighted a lot of times after reading some of the posts on Facebook and KZbin.

[@denisethuman1307]

I totally think its to manipulate the other person so that they can get what they want. Its so evil.

[@AliHSyed]

Your videos are some of the best-composed on KZbin. Really appreciate the effort.

[@mich8050]

Had it from my boss today, it sucks being gaslighted or maybe its gaslit

[@garymarquett7989]

I'm glad we have a Saviour that is recording every thought and action for judgement that everyone does.

[@notsurewhatisgoingon]

This is an important video, especially at this current moment. Gaslight is insidious and can be SO difficult to break free from.

[@docb1844]

It’s very important to ID what gaslighting actually is. In the past 5-10 years, ‘gaslighting’ has been used incorrectly to describe anyone who argues or otherwise disagrees with others’ perspectives (as opposed to the intentional use of false information to manipulate others into feeling or acting in undesired ways by accusing them of creating their own false realities / trying to make them feel crazy for disagreeing)

[@emman100]

Great episode!

[@Dudleymiddleton]

3:16 How did you draw that circle so perfectly without a compass or something round to draw round? :)

[@braincraft]

Dudley, I can’t reveal all my stop-motion secrets!!

[@jenohogan9254]

This stage best definition I've come across without completely complicating it. I'm totally sharing this.

[@sebastianelytron8450]

Nice Vsauce shout-out at the end, the channel that led me to BrainCraft many moons ago😎

[@TommoCarroll]

Agreed! Vsauce is always a win

[@hubtubby]

Thank you for this video, I see this behaviour often from my parents.

[@lindauselman9054]

This is amazing content on Gaslighting. The content on the ‘so-called masses’ was extremely relevant as most ‘N’s abusive behavior We are seeing currently had stemmed from all types of global ‘so-called religiosity’. We do not recommend any ‘so-called third party confidant’ including those of ‘so-called therapy’ until they have received their entire / complete Inner Health from We Reple’ as in our own Inner Child Healing Ability. You obviously have an amazing team to gather and put this all together! Glad this was published timely. Great job all!🙌🙌❤️

[@DC13999]

Great artistry!

[@AA-cb7dz]

Narcissists hate your truth, honesty, and justice.

[@niccalee]

I love this new mini series.

[@Jackson37737]

I don’t intend to be rude - perhaps it’s just me... But every girl I’ve ever dated has been a “gaslighter”. Is it me or do women often fall into this narcissistic category?

[@kjtamf]

Thankyou for these life saving videos for victims to heal ❤️🙏🏻👍🏻

[@Anita-op5to]

I just got out of an almost 2 year relationship like this where we lived with each other. It's still fresh but I'm looking forward to recovery

[@CarxV_one]

Wow, I didn't even had idea that this exist, though I experience and watch it in my daily basis. Thanks for spreading awareness :)

[@braincraft]

Hey, thanks for watching!

[@maxximumb]

Kellogs, that's why people believe breakfast is important. They starved some school kids to make it seem like science.

[@raf42]

Great video, and very aptly timed! Great meeting you in Florida.

[@chiaraventura8950]

I think my friends do this to me but I like spending with them but sometimes they also make me miserable and I think that I’m being dramatic. Should I be friends with them anymore?

[@HUMILIATRIX]

Alessia ,Simona & Mirella 💖 If you have to question whether your friendships are genuine, start finding new friends.

[@natashafranko4951]

Thank you that was very informative 😊

[@whatthefunction9140]

So how do I know you're not Gaslighting me right now?

[@JJohnston4Life]

Wow! This has literally been my entire life and I didn't even notice until this video.

[@halifaxx55]

My roommate has been trying to gas light me for two years and then I had enough and exposed them. They had a rough life and I think they have just been trying to catch up to wha they thought they could have been. So they go out and tell other people to be easy on them.

[@daveeastcott9323]

This is a thorough video thanks

[@alhaeri1]

great video thank you

[@hewwokitty]

First heard this term from the Steely Dan song "Gaslighting Abbie," so that's the only reason I knew what it meant. However, I didn't know how it could be used in politics, so thanks! This was such an interesting video.

[@Rikiwizard]

how do you know if the other person is correct or they're just gaslighting you? i've had multiple "friends" gaslight me to the point where i don't have/want friends anymore but idk if i'm the problem

[@shmesaalrawahi3492]

If they were good friends they wouldnt invalidate your feelings even if you were wrong. Your intial feelings and thoughts are often instinctive and so you were probably right even when they were telling you otherwise, if they tried understanding your perspective then they wouldnt of told you that you were wrong

[@HeyLetsDoAThing]

It's only gaslighting if what they're saying isn't true. That depends on you. You can also be gaslit about more concrete things that you can check in on later to see who was right. If you find you or someone else is unwilling to admit they could be wrong, there's a good chance they gaslight in their day to day life even if they aren't gaslighting you in that very moment. If you correct someone and they say "I don't think that's right. I'll have to look it up later" or something to that effect, there's a good chance they're gaslighting you, unless they were actually right and you were the one who was wrong. In order to know for sure, you have to 1. Figure out the answer. and 2. Have a third party who can verify it for you.

[@jeremyjimenez7858]

Hey! Let's Do A Thing! What if that person says "I need to go check that later because they were sure they were right but because of what you say they doubt themselves. In that case even if the other person is right they are gaslighting the person who is wrong.

[@peacewillow]

love this thread!!! i think the best way to tell if it's accidental or on purpose is to look for what the other person (or yourself) would gain from changing your (or their) opinion or belief. just check the facts and stand confident in the truth.... but, if there aren't "facts", or there are "good facts" on both sides, you just have to agree to disagree and look for some compromise everyone can live with.

[@aurorawright2319]

Highly empathic, or overly empathic people attract gaslighters like a moth to a flame, the sense or are drawn to someone they think will buy their crap, then when you start to catch on, they turn on you and act as if you are the dirty lying scumbag then continue to smear you to whomever will listen to them. I have read this in many different psychology sources, and experienced it so much in my life I am really ready to give up ever having a friend that won’t try to destroy me when we drift apart.

[@sparkofinterest81]

What causes it? jealousy and envy! in my opinion.

[@AliHSyed]

When I was pot-smoking teen, my stoner friends and I would on occasion place one member of the group in "the box". This would proceed as follows: the group would lower an invisible box over the head of the victim. The group would then continue with seemingly normal conversations, all without making an actual sound. The victim would intially find the prank amusing. As the silent conversations progressed, the inebriated target would get increasingly uncomfortable with their perceived inability to hear. Eventually, when the victim protested the prank, the instigators would silently and aggressively talk at the boxed-in person to snap them out of their delirium, furthering the anxiety of the unfortunate mark. This prank seems like a form of gaslighting.

[@GreatWhite7]

All politicians are taught how to gas-light on day 1.

[@ricoa9820]

My partner did it for nine years and cheated on me with my best friend of 27 years and said I was sleeping with my own best friend who hasn't spoke to me for the past 7 years , I now got away from them and he still begs me to come back to him and I'm across the country now, it's sick I went back to him 4 times and he had me arrested and in hospitals , I had enough thank you for this video and ones alike we need to be aware physical abuse is there but so is mental abuse(gaslighting)

[@ricoa9820]

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[@andyshinskate]

This video helped me a lot

[@user-ww3ik7ob5l]

Your handwriting is beautiful.

[@KongSunWu]

Using the terms: gaslighting, debunked, conspiracy theory, racisms, racist, equity, and hate crime are also examples of gaslighting

[@krutikag8656]

My husband's entire family conspired gaslighting just to dig money and gold from my dad...when it didn't workout they proved that I'm insane and gained custody of my kid...it's a traumatic experience....

[@aishasidiyaro6276]

I was married to a narcissist for eight years. His gaslighting almost made me insane.i realized I was in trouble when I started crying and screaming for help. I am glad I finally had the strength to leave. I am healing well now and I am beginning to enjoy the true meaning of life with my three daughters.

[@TheThagenesis]

right from the start when Vanessa asked if anyone has made me question reality one name came to my mind: David Lynch! but he does it for entertaiment and not in the line with the actual dark topic of this video

[@jaapcramer]

I really like this channel and this subject. I had hoped however that you made subtle changes in the background (moving the object around) to display gaslighting behaviour in real life :)

[@DF-dd5nf]

Thank you for this amazing and educational video. It is very helpful for me in my situation. Thanks a lot !!!

[@Iskandarthepanda]

Gaslighting is going to be the next big issue to be taken seriously in the news just like how the “Rape” wasn’t much of a “big” story of when it happened but was taken seriously after a few years.

[@ughicanteven5896]

Except gaslighting isn't illegal and probably won't be.

[@ThatShyGuyMatt]

One issue I have with the term gaslighting and with other terms such as with various fallacies is people will often use the terms on someone who they are arguing with if they feel their argument is holding up. For example when people talk about God, people often throw various terms at them. Its as if people are incapable of letting someone believe what they want and must have a word or phrase to use against someone. For example saying someone is using a strawman argument doesn't actually mean anything at all. Its just a tactic to try and avoid the discussion. Its like saying "Oh yeah, well your mom!"

[@hopemaybe7897]

Careful everyone, cops etc..do this as well. Always record your interactions with everyone outside of your home. In your home, record also.

[@KowBoySpace]

The biggest driver of gaslighting is a person caught out who can and will never accept they did wrong. So, they try to distort the person's reality to one where they in fact did nothing wrong at all

[@alemartinez4917]

I have dealt with this in two past relationships.

[@jenniferbeveridge131]

What's the term for repeatedly asking someone a question after they've answered it, because you "just don't believe it"? Whether intentional or not, it's a really effective way to influence the person being asked into agreeing with you.

[@sandybeebe9149]

also used to push people off their property ..harassment almost impossible to prove .. this is where the cameras come in handy...

[@DavidBigandt]

my family and Las Vegas hotels, police, and religious people have been doing that kind of stuff to me for 20 years

[@Ender586]

Thank you for this video, not sure why were my notifications off. Or were they?

[@niwe3631]

Im tired of being lied to

[@1MNUTZ]

I always thought gaslighting was like when someone keeps lying to you over and over and you believe them until you snap out of it and realize the whole thing was a huge lie like when you turn the gas on and it fills up the room with gas and then a spark ignites the whole room with fire.

[@Robstar0]

I always thought that what I now know is gaslighting, was actually what politics was about. Now I wonder if there are politicians who don't do this!

[@Delleenna]

I never knew the term gaslighting until One of my problematic relatives accused me of gaslighting. She’s the problematic individual who has mountainous problems and went to seek refuge from my family.

[@user-ub6tm1bt3z]

References to assult across counties of varied digital similarities whilst alluding to lookalike illicit substances to samples that flipped em off waiting at the post office

[@lynn-fo6qq]

Wow!! How 😔 sad!

[@mattlocascio4949]

im a dude, im being gaslighted, they will ignore my asking for help and when they ask for help, i ask just a bit, and they sobbed to management. now im on the fence, there are plenty of jobs. Should i leave the job or fight back?

[@candiceblack86]

Finally, one bad behavior I’m not guilty of.

[@fairylilytarot5960]

I was gaslighted constantly by my brother yesterday I ended up spilling to him that I was suicidal thinking I’d get some understanding and sympathy but no now I’m kicking myself for not realizing what it was. He seems sensitive and innocent and caring but he’s not!

[@step7814]

Jehovah's Witnesses have perfected gaslighting and brought it to the next level.

[@greeksalad4783]

What's really sick and twisted is that the people who engage in this sort of behavior, THINK it's oh-so hilarious. To the people who have done this to me: I hope you get what's coming to you. I hope you suffer as much as you've made me suffer.