Why You Need People Who Won't Coddle You | Chris Colfer on Impact Theory

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Best known for his role in the smash hit television show Glee, but most devoted to his career as a writer of 15 books, Chris Colfer had a bucket list of goals at age 5. And unbelievably, he achieved everything on that bucket list as a writer and singer.
On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Chris Colfer talks about drive and ambition, the influence of a grandmother who always believed in him and yet was his harshest critic, and how he overcame bullying from his peers and doubt from an industry that told him he would never succeed.
SHOW NOTES:
Chris explains why he likes fantasy, comics and graphic novels so much [3:36]
Chris describes his childhood history of being bullied [4:35]
Chris talks about how his voice was what he was made fun of growing up [6:17]
Chris describes his drive and ambition [8:15]
Chris talks about how much he loved Harry Potter despite being dyslexic [11:06]
Chris explains that he does not identify as a victim of bullying any more [12:55]
Chris advocates that adolescence is the toughest time of life [15:53]
Chris describes how he dealt with people telling him he couldn’t succeed [17:39]
Chris and Tom discuss the parable of the ant and the grasshopper [20:55]
Chris talks about having a bucket list since the age of five [23:43]
Chris explains how his grandmother being his toughest critic helped him [25:56]
Tom and Chris discuss the difficulty of being a harsh critic [27:18]
Chris describes his battle for creative control of his movie [29:08]
Tom and Chris discuss being antifragile, and why we need negative experiences [32:16]
Chris talks about the pure joy of escapist fantasy, and stimulating imagination [35:28]
Chris advocates imagination and magic as creating something out of nothing [37:42]
Chris says he prefers writing to singing because he has terrible stage fright [39:21]
Chris and Tom discuss their struggles with singing and drawing [41:00]
Chris shares the impact he wants to have on the world [44:17]
QUOTES:
“I am so not a victim any more...that I get tired of being associated with someone who is bullied, because I don’t allow that to happen any more at all.” [14:54]
“I was very lucky because I had a grandmother who just believed in me to a fault...I think that is the greatest gift you can give a child, even if you don’t think that it is possible. And many years later my grandmother told me, ‘I can’t believe you got it all done!” [24:57]
“I want to make the real world, reality, just a little bit more bearable for people. I want to bring magic to peoples’ lives.” [44:31]
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[@Liz-tb3nd]

i really hope chris colfer writes an autobiography, because seeing the world from his perspective is so inspiring and he's achieved so much that i just want to be able to read how he was able to get through his life and push through the hopelessness

[@potmki6601]

I just wish for a big detailed chapter on blackmailing people into the Shirley Todd.

[@alainaminchew1426]

Most of The story of Kurt on Glee actually happened to him because that character wasnt an original character in tge show they wanted him and he made his character so Kurt had a lot of stuff that actually happened to Chris

[@bydezine1]

@@alainaminchew1426 op

[@palsygaming1790]

I would read the heck out of this.

[@billguill1859]

Same here.

[@Producerukoh]

It's interesting that (his voice) the thing he was mocked mercilessly for was also the thing that propelled him to stardom.

[@lilyamaris6236]

I really loved when Chris Colfer started talking about adolescence and how people expect you to make adult decisions without the benefits with being an adult, I never thought of it that way and I think that the way Chris Colfer described it was really eye opening and very perfect.

[@vishnuk1840]

Yea true!! That's actually when you are so confused about whether you are actually an adult or a kid!! A transition phase which most parents and adults around do not care about even though they have gone through the same!! It's because they don't take the time to think about things like that! When you act like a kid they want you to be an adult and when you want to act an adult they just want you to be a kid!!

[@gloriselbelliard269]

He is so genuine and honest, and Tom is such a talented, skilled interviewer... This is pure gold. They need to do this again.

[@elinehegrand5487]

for sure! we need another interview.

[@faith6833]

"I wasn't good looking". . .In what world is he not good looking??

[@ajkanemori6374]

Chris has matured from a cute kid to a handsome adult. He was a short, freckle faced teenager who, when 17 looked like he was 12. He was also a bit over-weight in high school, until he went on a diet and exercise regimen summer before 12th grade. And, then there was the 4" growth spurt when Chris was 19.... So, he has changed quite a bit.

[@faith6833]

@@ajkanemori6374 he has literally always been good looking. None of the things you just said takes away from that fact.

[@ryanthomas49]

@@faith6833 although I kind of agree with AJ, I also love your positive comment! ❤

[@springheartedtiger]

AJ KANEMORI he had freckles?

[@Arthur-by4jh]

@@ajkanemori6374 good lord how do you know so much about him 😂😂

[@barbaragierc8499]

I'm a fan of Chris Colfer from the moment I first saw him on Glee. Love his books what a creative person. Could have listed for hours very interesting

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

Men with the name "Chris" is so hot

[@AimsWorld17]

I was surprised and a bit sad that his singing voice seems to be his stumbling block. I can understand stage fright. Many of the best singers out there admit to that themselves, but his feelings about his vocals and singing is something I hope he explores more in his future. His voice is extraordinary. My favorite in Glee actually and he's a showman on stage as well. He can produce is own music w/o needing a major studio. it would probably benefit him better that way. His voice is a gift. I hope he can explore that more in the future. Even if he is still struggling to perform live, to put out music would be a gift to fans and newcomers alike. Fantastic interview!

[@keikustar]

i wish this lasted for another like five hours. He's such an interesting, kind, imaginative soul, and I love learning more about him. And also just like listening to him speak is magical.

[@adahkaplan8494]

Keiku I’ve seen your comments on almost every video with Chris/Darren/Kurt/Blaine...just wanted to let you know I’m in the same boat as you 😂

[@keikustar]

@@adahkaplan8494 lmao yeah I love those guys a lot

[@octosus2325]

lmao you really get people telling you they see you everywhere . so tell me are you a bigger darren or chris fan . i feel like we could really fangirl/boy klaine lol

[@keikustar]

@@octosus2325 in all of my life i have never been asked a more offensive question. darren or chris????? you expect me to CHOOSE??????? between these two wonderful, lovely human beings?????????? it's physically impossible. my brain would sooner rip itself in half than choose one over the other. how dare you. i love them both so much (i am joking and you are very sweet. just needed to say that because sarcasm does not come across well over text lol)

[@octosus2325]

@@keikustar nah i'm a good sport . i think we would get along pretty well . im 14 and i live in the middle east .wby

[@capricon9178]

Such a good interview. Also couldn’t stop staring at his perfect hair

[@censored2129]

1:58 “Unbelievably beautiful voice” No truer words have ever been spoken. Every time Kurt sung, it was like a angel was singing. All I want is for him to sing again. 💕

[@wamyola]

Stephen Colbert once told him that he sang like an angel.

[@Pepperoni-pg9oh]

Such an old soul. Here is someone who gives me hope for the future, for tomorrow, the next week, the next year and the next decade.

[@alaynatherealpotato1673]

my brain: it's 2 am and you still have to read an hour of fanfiction also my brain: he's so intelligent tho

[@muhammeddabo7703]

3:11am Bruv

[@lemongrass1197]

My god same, I have a fic that's half complete which I want to finish tonight and now I'm here watching this🤦‍♀️

[@NanztheFan]

THIS WAS LITERALLY ME - read an hour of fanfiction at 3am then watched this video from 4 am to 5

[@elinehegrand5487]

its 5:55am here and the interview just ended.

[@wolveshowling26]

My german graduation exam is in 2 days and I should be learning as if my life depended upon that XD brain decided 46minutes of interview is more important to listen to

[@trophywife6253]

His stutters are adorable

[@vishnuk1840]

He is completely adorable!! Even though I am around the same age as him

[@annatimberlake7]

It got better than before

[@ChrisBello]

That’s crazy, never thought about how you are kind of “trapped” in your high school environment. After you graduate, you get to control everything in your environment. You can hang out with people you want to hang out with and go to places where those kinds of people spend time.

[@paige5841]

I’m so impressed by the interview. Toms ability to get so deep and make it seem so effortless and comfortable is impeccable. Chris is equally impressive with his mindset for many things. Loved this

[@SoCalJellybean]

Chris is, and always will be, the most beautiful and perfect human on this planet, but there’s a part of me that will always miss that angelic little baby-face he had, circa 2010-2011!! 😭♥️

[@palsygaming1790]

I’ve met Chris several times and he’s the nicest, most down to earth celebrity I’ve had the pleasure of interacting with. That is to say I loved him before this interview, and now I appreciate him even more. He’s a really great guy and I’m so glad he’s been able to make his dreams come true, especially considering all his struggles in life.

[@ryanthomas49]

He is SO well spoken.

[@keikustar]

did he ACTUALLY blackmail his peers to be in Shirley Todd????? Like, Struck By Lightning blackmail?????????? Christopher. A Legend™.

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

I love your Darren criss profile photo

[@abigailforsmark6226]

I like just discovered that movie and then watched this interview and I have never admired him more!!!!

[@hamandburr1307]

Dude is a total Slytherin

[@laviniajacontei7120]

@@hamandburr1307 Shit, you and your comment / No offense he is perfect my love❤️Meuuuuuu kurt and meuuuu blaine❤️E Nossoooooo, klaine that one day will return❤️ complain at mommy Zoana's house And stop criticizing my love, the movie was very good eh who, and who doesn't like to do anything, no. WHY, as if I couldn't do anything but complain and criticize bad comments saying bad things about (Meuuu) porcelain and (meuuuu blaine), bad comments to screw with! bro let my love work as he wants and my love Darren criss, i don't want to have to discuss any bad comments no, GOOD PEOPLE MANIFEST AND LOOK FOR OUR KLAINE HAPPENING AGAIN DARREN CRISS + CHRIS COLFER = CRISS COLFER❤️

[@laviniajacontei7120]

@@briloveskurthummelbriones2621 I love you two darren criss + chris Colfer

[@anubisunchained]

You know, everytime he has a new book coming out, im not just excited dor the books, im excited to see him do stuff like this, to talk about life and stuff because you can never get enough of it

[@austinjrb]

26:26 a brief moment displaying Tom's talent and skill as an interviewer. Weaving through insights and experiences to the point to where even the speaker connects dots and comes to realizations they never had before. My guy 💪🏾🔥

[@Rad_Duke]

We can achieve great things if we have atleast one person who believes in us. Most of the time that one person can be us.

[@ayoubgasmi9574]

Clean. I feel this comes from living your true, true self. Not apologyzing

[@victoriaf1308]

👏👏👏

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

Chris colfer I will always love you!!!! ;)

[@abbykendall2487]

What a great interview! The most in depth interview I've ever seen for Chris Colfer. Thank you.

[@ajkanemori6374]

Totally agree!

[@theresadouglas7898]

I love his voice..... I don't see who wouldn't...….. plus he is so handsome....

[@lilbes2581]

This is interview is SO GREAT! Propably the best one with Chris I've ever seen and I believe I've seen them all.

[@kc8639]

These interviews I'm failing to find the words that describe what they do to me. The feeling of "someone else" out there having experienced what I have" is having a 1000lb weight lifted from my soul. I, for the longest time, have felt alone. All I do is have to look around and listen to those willing to speak and realize we all have intense struggles in life that shape and mold us. I love this channel!! Thank You, Tom. I can only assume you find people like this because a part inside of you needs healing and you're empathetic enough to know many of us also need that same healing. These eyes are welling up with tears!!

[@generationx9294]

+Bull Falls Brilliant comment. And so true 💜🙌🏽

[@rahul7270]

@Bull Falls True indeed! Realising that you aren't alone in facing the problems that you are facing even if they seem insurmountable gives so much relief and hope. Glad that you've benefited from the videos. All the best! :)

[@c0llapsingst4rs]

this broke my heart when he was talking about being bullied 😔

[@beccalinnea]

He is such a beautiful soul (and his stutters are so adorable). Also I discovered Glee recently and Kurt is my favourite character because he is so strong and stands up for himself

[@anxietina_]

Tom: "There have been times in my business career where I have been involved with people that I would just call straight up abusive" Chris: "Oh yeah, me too" Screw you Ryan Murphy

[@Producerukoh]

Yo. I'm going to be straight up. That guy is like stunningly good looking. I'm not even into men, and I can appreciate that he is sold your soul beautiful. Good for him!

[@marywilson6266]

Yes, that face! He presents himself well. Interesting and impressive interview. I could be his mom~he's a cool kid.

[@gleefullystruckbyccandtlos]

I just hve to say, props to you on your comment, really. I love a man whose comfortable enough to admit another man is attractive. A lot of men wouldn't do that. It's true tho chris is stunningly gorgeous and on top of that an incredibly amazing person with such a big heart who doesn't even view himself as that level of attractive. He's an incredibly down to earth, humble guy. Again big high 🖐️ to you for your comment!

[@emh8861]

Oh Brother

[@Producerukoh]

@@gleefullystruckbyccandtlos To be secure in one's self is one of life's greatest ambitions.

[@redflag4255]

wow what a compliment

[@WhatTheHyuk]

Wow...I am so speechless. This past month I have just watched glee and feel that I am a huge fan of the characters of Kurt and Blaine and am a proud Klaine shipper. But I wanted to get deeper into the characters and the actors behind the characters so I've stayed up all night watching interviews and came across this one. I have NEVER seen such an interview such as this in my life. I am an aspiring therapist. And I almost got this sense that Tom is like a therapist and this interview was like a therapy session. Tom, as an interviewer, is so emotionally intelligent and asks such deep and intriguing questions that I have NEVER seen an interviewer ask their interviewee. Such deep, detailed, intriguing, provoking questions that gave me such a bigger glimpse into Chris's life: into his thought process, feelings, and behaviors. Chris is so self-aware and was able to answer Tom's questions with such rawness and with such honesty and self-awareness that watching the two of them together made it something so special and unique to watch. I am in awe of this interview and will watch again for sure!

[@Newera9919]

29 yrs old with that face 👀 the first look I thought he was a teenage

[@harmeetsokhi]

And that voice

[@gleefullystruckbyccandtlos]

He's been blessed with excellent genes in both ageing and looks. When he started glee he was 18 but looked 12 and was utterly adorable! Now he's nearly 30 looks 18 at most and is stunningly gorgeous(and honestly he's still adorable lol)!

[@gleefullystruckbyccandtlos]

@Norbert Szabó Zsolt true humans are largely judgmental pricks and often needlessly assholes. Tho thankfully in the case of Chris' voice most people actually love his voice, both speaking and singing. Tho I have seen some be dicks about it simply because he doesn't sound like a typical guy which is honestly rediculous and dumb. The uniqueness of his voice is exactly why I love it and those people who feel the need to say he can't sing simply because he doesn't sound manly enough are idiots. He can do things with his voice most people, man or woman, could only dream about. (Hehe sorry I tend to tangent about his voice😆)

[@elleimonoyama152]

@Norbert Szabó Zsolt you're right. Sadly we're all judgmental to a certain degree. I'm learning not to be & when I do have some judgmental thoughts, I just keep them to myself to avoid hurting people unnecessarily.

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

He ages pretty good, I love you Chris colfer!💋

[@MM-pw4ft]

Chris colfer : does literally anything Interviewer : “hmmm interesting.....🤔”

[@annatimberlake7]

Can you deny it?

[@SilverFlame819]

I have never seen a single thing this dude is in, nor have I read a single book he's written. Yet I'm still watching this interview. What a great person. Totally digging his energy and attitude.

[@loverforeverhorse2674]

I just have to say, I LOVE this comment.

[@annatimberlake7]

And I recommend you to do so. If you are interested

[@ruadhanmccorquodale1120]

I'm so happy that Chris is able to push away the hate now. It's awful that he had to go through what he did, and the fact that it still happens and has happens is just disgusting. It's good that he can now say look where I'm at now, I'm inspiring people and I was a relatable character. I love Chris so much.

[@jannecapelle_art]

wow. it wouldnt have even crossed my mind to think hed be bullied for his voice....people really just latch onto ANYTHING they can single you out for, dont they? its so shocking to me because ever since first seeing glee at like, age...13? ive loved his voice the most. i recently gotten back into listening to the soundtrack and watching glee (well, really only watching the interesting bits aka the kurt scenes) and songs like rose's turn and him singing defying gravity just immediately give me the biggest shot of positive nostalgia and i can now even more appreciate how absolutely beautiful his voice is than back then, even just his speaking voice.

[@lilyamaris6236]

6:30 “oh thanks” this made me laugh lmfao

[@mariselaochoa9012]

Tom's intro are amazing, every time i listen the guest Say thank you for that intro is so heartful, i love it

[@Chefin243]

Thank you so much for this incredible interview! I've heard hundreds of interviews with Chris, but none of them was as well prepared regarding the depth of the questions, encouraging him to lift some layers and show us more of this very smart and beautiful mindset of his. 👍

[@kurtsiecolferites2160]

Chris Colfer is truly one of the most extraordinary, inspiring, genuine, kind, creative, intelligent and hard working people on the planet. He inspires me every day to never give up on myself and always work hard on my goals. And I relate so much to the section of the interview about escapism because I am going through an incredibly painful personal loss and am constantly trying to escape the pain of my reality. Chris is the kind of person whose impact on the world is legendary. We need more people in the world like him.

[@annatimberlake7]

I hope you are fine now

[@potmki6601]

I really want to hear the full detailed story about blackmailing people into the Shirley Todd

[@elenapelayo2101]

SAME honestly he should’ve just wrote that story instead of struck by lightning (not saying it’s a bad book, just saying that it would’ve been just as interesting 😌)

[@darciebradley8712]

It’s 2020 and I have no idea why I am going through old glee stuff but to those 43 people who disliked the video ... I really don’t like you

[@chiloveisintheair]

I have always been a huge fan of Chris Colfer. I truly feel as though if I could pick a creative person to have breakfast with it would be him. I feel as though we are kindred spirits especially when it comes to grit and despair. This interview is fantastic.

[@hamandburr1307]

I'd be too intimidated by how smart he is 😅

[@lynboxer2920]

Dear Tom, I find Chris Colfer incredibly amazing!!! He started so young, but is so wise and talented in so many ways. This was the best interview I have ever seen him do. You seem to bring out the real person, THANK YOU FOR THAT!!! I'm going to follow you, that sounds like a threat. But you listened, and didn't seem to be thinking about what to say next. That is a gift!!! You were interested in him. You both are great souls! ❤️💚💙💜❤️💚💙💜❤️💚💙💜❤️💚💙💜❤️💚💙💜❤️💚💙💜😊

[@agathacccc2710]

What a great interview. Finally an interviewer with relevant questions to uncover Chris’career and outlook on life. Thank you!

[@davidlouiswall7211]

I had no idea who he was in the small opening at the start of the video, only until you introduced him did I recognize him.. Nice to hear his real story, I identify because I also was self-conscience about the sound of my voice, so much that I isolated to cope. Mr. Colfer is a superhero in my eyes.

[@chelli5567]

32:09-32:13 *his laugh is so adorable 😍*

[@niamhbradley7919]

'the incredibly talented chris colfer' KZbin: 'im gonna make you wait' GIVES ME AN AD!

[@romyhiggins6173]

What a fantastic interview. I always loved Chris (and Kurt) on Glee but haven't followed him much since it ended, but it's so lovely to see how he's grown and matured as an individual, separate from the show. I think he could have so easily gone off the rails as other actors do, with all the pressure and attention and being thrust into fame so young, but he seems so grounded and articulate and secure in himself and it's lovely to see.

[@ErikaK]

When we face challenges in life on our own we get stronger and stronger, we learn and evolve, we grow and become always a better version of ourselves ♡

[@LindaPow]

I suppose it aldepends .on the challenge

[@ErikaK]

@@LindaPow I think we all face challenges and adversities, some more extreme than others, but in the end they all make us grow and evolve... we are constantly learning in this journey

[@ErikaK]

@@jonathanshane6274 yes :) live and let others live

[@potmki6601]

Or become cruel and defensive. Or brake mentally. Or kill ourselves.

[@jellyrcw12]

How the heck did I never know until now that Chris Colfer was on here!?

[@hannahmorris7264]

I wanna meet him really bad.

[@justicenxox5535]

Can't believe he said he wasn't good looking 😭😭😭 are u kidding he's beautiful!!!!!!!🥰🥰🥰

[@rukasu-se]

Loved this interview. Can we all appreciate how thought provokingly awesome interviewer Tom has become ???

[@InnerVisionStudios]

Love the diversity with your guests Tom! Great conversation.

[@justasquirrel298]

Damn, I was in a really bad mood today, I found this, clicked on it and I listened to it. I swear it helped me so much today, both of their voices are so amazingly calming. Thank you so much

[@skrattardu20]

Always love his interviews and stories. Chris has always been hardworking, perservere and believes in himself. Such an inspiration. (and his books are awesome!💛)

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

I love all his movies💙

[@luisaarayaarancibia]

Chris is sooo much like me. Outcast, we both love acting singing and musicals AND Harry Potter both inspired us to be authors (working on my second book right now. First one needs to go the publisher yet)

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

I love both Cheerleading and singing, so Chris colfer is my favorite

[@vishnuk1840]

It was such a beautiful and insightful Interview!!🔥 Chris has gone through so much and he has used acting and writing for escaping his reality which is actually great because many kids would turn to many many bad things nowadays.. Such an absolutely delightful human being!! My heart tugs when he speaks of his past even when he is okay and moved on.. He has built a beautiful path in his life which is so inspiring!! I absolutely adored him in Glee!! I cried with him, I smiled with him, I sung along with him!! His portrayal of emotions were so magnificent!! His acting was so real!! The world is currently missing out on such a wonderful actor!! 👏👏 This interviewer has so much insight in every question he threw!! And my mind is so blown with his questions, with the way he was so attentive of Chris's answers, and build up questions on those Answers.. and those questions were so deep!!👏

[@annatimberlake7]

Same thing,one thing that always astonishes is that he literally got into Hollywood as an innocent, baby like 18yr old boy(Kevin was 19,but atleast he was in a band). That particular range of age is so vulnerable that u can fall in any bad pit. But he managed to handle his overnight fame ,his anxiety,scared factor and managed to turn himself into what he is now- a very good looking,witty,interesting, hardworking,priceless gentleman. I have a huge respect for him

[@carlotagarcia1734]

Happy 30th birthday Christopher Paul Colfer❤

[@fruitysoupy]

Great interview! What really hit me was when he said "sometimes what doesn't kill you makes you suicidal" I actually had to pause because that unlocked some sort of hidden memory It's so true, and it helped me realize what everything that happened really did to me and how I can choose to change that How I can change my path Thank you

[@immaculatedream8906]

Great interview, thank you for this. Chris Colfer is such a beautiful person.

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

He's sexy!❤

[@stacyroth8836]

Listening to the way he talked about Harry Potter made me realize how much his YA book Land of Stories has done for me. Luckily I never had any kinds of reading or vision problems, but I give his book series credit for making me fall in love with fantasy. At the time I read his book (5th grade) I already enjoyed reading, if thought it was a little boring, but once I read land of stories I realized that it wasn’t the reading that I found boring, but the kinds of books I was reading. After land of stories I immediately switched to reading fantasy books and found so much joy in reading. He might have been inspired by Harry Potter, but I still don’t think he realizes how much his book series has inspired others, including me.

[@shelbylynn7762]

Ugh I just love him so much. He is an incredible being ❤️

[@saf1999]

SO HAPPY HE’S ON HERE! I’m so ready to watch this 💯💯🧠 Love Chris 👏🏾👏🏾

[@holisticachievers]

Very unexpected interview choice. Would've never thought I'd see Chris around here :) Awesome!

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

If I ever met Chris colfer in person I would make love to him! ;]❤💋

[@fixfireleo]

The grasshopper and the ant is the perfect parable for saving for your retirement. When we are young, we think we have forever but we dont realize that those are the absolute MOST CRITICAL years to be saving because it doesnt matter how MUCH you save as how LONG you save for. (Due to compound interest.)

[@lavernablack1950]

One of thee best interviews I've ever seen. Such great questions and discussions. An autobiography, another Land of Stories book, a movie, a charity album, whatever his next step, I'm so here for it. ❤️

[@cleokarma1876]

Thank you Impact Theory and Tom for going off the beaten part and bringing on a wonderful talent like Chris who is a shining example of talent , courage and dignity that many of us can look upto - I would consider myself very privileged to have a friend like him in my life. Bold , brave, sensitive and supportive. Chris truly is an amazing role model - I love how unapologetically confident he is in his life . Respect to IT for bringing him on - look forward to more such interesting people and stories .

[@jotorres9964]

This is honestly my favorite interview like... ever. Thank you so much for this.

[@cleokarma1876]

Incredible and the most important question- How does anyone stay hungry- specially when someone has experienced such levels of success so young . Great question, forces so many of us to introspect and really listen.

[@RebelliousBookworm]

"WINTER IS COMING." GOT REFRENCE

[@reeselong4271]

this man is so wise

[@NVzz-lz9rz]

He’s such a sweetheart 🥺❤️

[@lilbes2581]

It's in the middle of the night and I thought this was only a few minutes long so I could watch it before I sleep. But this interview being so long is even better. I don't care about sleep now. :-)

[@briloveskurthummelbriones2621]

Funny because I'm watching this right now before I sleep!😊

[@tahmeedmazumder6877]

Impact theory for life! thanks for all the videos that you guys give out. Its both helpful and for circumstances sometimes frustrating because cant act on it sometimes. Social construction is a pain to deal with from the place you are in. But thanks for the videos anyway, just to see that someone somewhere made it. A glimpse of hope, which keeps the engine running, lol.

[@joannecrowson9303]

I cried while I watched this

[@djenae2852]

Loved that interview, great questions! The fluidity of the interview was really good, it's often something interview lack, but the questions truly were always a continuity of Chris' response, it never felt like the interviewer was like "okay, now that I'm done being interested in that, let's change subjects!" It was really good 🙏🏼

[@meekainc]

What a powerful opening!

[@sashamotovylets1753]

When we’re faced with hardships (I.e. we’re always criticized growing up), we either become desensitized to it and it doesn’t affect us anymore, or we becomes too sensitive too it and becomes a constant trigger. What I am still not clear about is what determines whether an experience makes you tougher or makes you more sensitive? I think a lot of it has to do with how you internalized these messages growing up, and natural personality tendencies play into it. Another question is how do you reverse the effect meaning when you are old enough to make a conscious choice, how do you turn the hardships into strength? The story you repeatedly tell yourself has a lot to do with it.

[@generationx9294]

Excellent comment .. and question 💜

[@berniecasey7592]

I Love Chris he is so Talented.

[@Timeless_4_u]

The interview is so interesting I wished it was longer ❤❤ chris is so inspiring

[@lemongrass1197]

What a great host, this is the first time that I've come across him and he's a really good.

[@wolveshowling26]

"this is very DEEP, we have scratched the SURFACE of something here" hahahaha amazing, what an Oxymoron

[@lisodo1]

The best interview that Chria has ever done!!!

[@kurtjensen5798]

Exactly the opposite of what kids are taught at school.

[@SirAlfarus]

Singing-songwriting would be a logical (and really magical!) step from here for Chris, it seems. Cover songs are fun but for a person who can write as well as sing, these might not feel quite right. Let's hope Chris's incredible musicality finds new ways to manifest itself!

[@kateryna_kate]

Chris is just amazing person! 💛

[@siddhantsingh9071]

If you wanna run fast go alone,but if you wanna go far go together!!

[@thecrazychick2000]

What an incredible interview!

[@nomsayolisa1804]

Tom you are amazing, thank you for bringing light to all aspects of humanity ☺

[@RayBat26]

Fantastic one of the best interviews Chris has ever done

[@fernandasarmento432]

Tom, I loved your metaphor and would like to contribute to it Disease do not attack you immune system. They attack your body and you immune system defends it. The disease that attacks the immune system is aids and it really takes it down In a similar way, hard times that do not attack you psique in a way you keep your growth mindset will allow that skill to empower you to overcome Example: someone telling you Being a bad writer x never being able to overcome that is a bad writer Amazing interview

[@Hi-xi4xb]

This interview is incredible!

[@aLr_boosh]

Great episode! Delusion. The power of self belief in one's own goals didn't realize there was a path where they don't come true.

[@cristinareynolds667]

Thanks. Very good interview

[@karimccutchen7095]

He is good and an inspirational person

[@aleisha1922]

i remember first watching glee seeing chris colfer name in the credits i knew the name but i didn’t know who it was so i googled it and i was like oh Kurt but where is his name from and then i realised that it was the guy who wrote all my favourite books 😌

[@lovepanic2738]

His first few book tours many people went because they wanted to see Chris from Glee and only knew him because of that show. Those people still love him and read his books but now there are tons of his fans who know him from his books first before his acting. Have you seen Struck by Lightning?

[@s.t.9453]

I'm starting to realise that the movie struck by lightning that Chris wrote had a lot of similarities from his high school life.

[@sayenalartifar7087]

Loved this interview