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@pedrobento03 Жыл бұрын
You know it's gonna be a masterpiece when hamza's video has "guide" in the title
@farhansidds Жыл бұрын
Nahh frrr
@lapusso3587 Жыл бұрын
no cap
@Bob08. Жыл бұрын
Fr
@CodTopShotGaming Жыл бұрын
Fax 📠
@vincentjoseph6885 Жыл бұрын
Cmon
@benmountfort Жыл бұрын
The worst feeling you can have is when you know they’re lying but they won’t admit it. It’s a tearing of your own soul. Your intuition vs anxious attachment vs their lie, Horrible. Especially when they’re so good at lying. Once you let go and make it through the darkness it only then becomes clear. Its all been a lesson to heal you.
@daquaviousbingleton9763 Жыл бұрын
Just don’t get in a relationship there ya go solved
@suras8984 Жыл бұрын
@@daquaviousbingleton9763 telling that to an anxiously attached person is like speaking to them in another language. Being anxiously attached is apart of their nervous system. It's rooted in the infancy's/childrens' need to attach for survival and utilizing activating strategies to bridge the gap of their needs not being met.
@dominique7269 Жыл бұрын
Horrible. Betrayal is one of the worst feelings in life.
@benmountfort Жыл бұрын
@@dominique7269 but also a very good teacher and lesson. Your next partner, like mine is appreciated more than they ever would have been.
@iCamzie92 Жыл бұрын
Yes exactly! You’ve put it very well how I feel about this. It’s purpose is to heal you, and healing doesn’t only happen once.
@leehalloway8787 Жыл бұрын
I dated an anxious woman and it was exhausting. I would get accused of cheating constantly despite the fact that I've never cheated in my life. No amount of love, reassurance, time, or talking helped. She ended up breaking up with me and dating someone else immediately. I can't get over how she replaced me so easily despite being so afraid to lose me. I hope that people will work on themselves and not rely 100% on their partner to calm their anxious thoughts. It's not fair to put that all on them.
@nightmime6314 Жыл бұрын
Yes, I essentially think you should never date an Anxious person unless they make effort to be a secure attachment. I am an anxious person and I used to immediately communicate to my ex whenever I had problems because I thought being confrontational is key but it actually drove them away. To be fair my ex was an avoidant attachment, so they already don’t want challenges, and they need a lot of time to themselves. So now, I am no longer super fast with my confrontations and takes a day when I come across issues. Then I calmly discuss it with my partner and he’s a secure person so he never really gets defensive and we have a conversation instead of an argument. You should never date someone anxious or avoidant unless you are SURE you can provide for them. Self love and self discovery is the best for these co dependent people.
@suras8984 Жыл бұрын
@@nightmime6314 Any insecure attachment style is not a good idea unless they are working on themselves. I am an FA but Ive been working on my attachment style for a few years not consistently because I was busy with school. I dated an FA after knowing about attachment styles and I thought because I know the attachment style inside and out that I would be able to handle it. Even though I knew him better than he knew himself because of this knowledge it was still a mindf*ck. It was mentally exhausting. I will only date secure going forward, and with work hopefully I can become secure.
@coachzaynab355 Жыл бұрын
Same thing happened to me. But he took 5 months instead. Even then it was a lot to process because he was so anxious to lose me 24/7. I broke up with him because I couldn’t bear that constant reassurance cross anymore.
@srishtiiiiiii95 Жыл бұрын
so maturely put out, i hope you heal from the wounds which were never yours to begin with, i hope you never take it personally and with the fellow troubled mind some healing and move on with your life in peace knowing your higher self saved you from such toxicity, i hope you know the fact how unstable head can only fear being alone and ignore to work on themselves and shift from person to person just to curb out their loneliness and not facing their demons, not recognising they have any in the first plcae, i hope you find a healthy and a stable relationship, love xoxo
@EarCandyAsmr Жыл бұрын
she moved on quickly (I’m assuming) #1 to make you jealous and #2 because she isn’t capable of being alone - speaking from my own experience I would relationship hop to fill a void but was never truly happy because a relationship will never make you happy unless you are already happy with yourself
@jazzodeon3006 Жыл бұрын
The talk about jealousy with your first girlfriend definitely hit me. I suffer from anxiety and enter into these loops of thought where I can't stop making up scenarios in my head and sometimes it's so relentless that I just have no energy and fall into depression. Definitely one of my biggest triggers is if I'm truly in love and I find out anything about the girl's past with other men. I try to keep myself in check not to let the resentment be channeled into that other person who I love and did nothing wrong to me but sometimes it's hard and I become quite cold. I am not such a monster to ever do anything violent or too aggressive but still it's not right for me to be mean and cold to people who love me due to my own messed up head. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it's good to know I'm not a complete freak and other people have felt similar emotions. I hope I can grow and become a better person and find peace because I can't give others the love they deserve if I'm stuck in this anxious state and mentally unstable.
@misterchesks233 Жыл бұрын
Same thing happened to me, I was furious that my girlfriend kissed two guys before me and DANCED, just DANCED not even intimate like salsa or anything like that on a double date her bestfriend invited her to. She was a virgin and I'm her first sexual partner. The thing is to stop obsessing about it or you will develop this severe case like me. Have a deal breakers before entering relationship(mine is no hookup history - sex related). Started going to the gym, BJJ, running, reading a lot of books and focusing on myself. Developed self confidence and realized I m with the best girl ever. I will be the man that she deserves by her side!
@biggusdikuss613423 күн бұрын
@@misterchesks233thank you bro this gave me some clarity
@deepaliarora3587 Жыл бұрын
Hamza , i am mother of a 14 year old boy who is so inspired by you and taken a U turn in his life to turn into a disciplinarian towards his positive goals. Thanks much for that . But in the process, he has taken unknowingly a selfish and arrogant side that he can’t talk straight to me , infact takes me for granted for everything. I urge you to please counsel these young minds that being human to your core relationships is as important as taking care of your individual needs. Feeding to the needs of relationship is worthy .
@Abdaaru Жыл бұрын
agreed
@tristandriant4539 Жыл бұрын
Wow, congrats to both of you
@ThePhantomCoder Жыл бұрын
Get him to gratitude journal. I highly doubt it'll take more than a month for him to not take you for granted
@moneymakinmitch8130 Жыл бұрын
with all due respect, does your son not have a father in the picture ?
@deepaliarora3587 Жыл бұрын
@@moneymakinmitch8130 he has
@dingle2078 Жыл бұрын
I love you hamza
@franek9820 Жыл бұрын
+1
@vonthedon3 Жыл бұрын
+2
@lhyls9432 Жыл бұрын
+3
@GodisGreat2024-d7c Жыл бұрын
+4
@stanislav_iam Жыл бұрын
I can’t say I love Hamza, but he certainly deserves respect
@jumanaa Жыл бұрын
Dealing with anxious attachment myself and going thru similar experiences, I can relate so much. It’s time to let go and stop holding onto emotionally unavailable people who leave hurtfully and willingly and time to heal from within. Only people who have gone thru such circumstances will understand the insecurity that comes with it. There’s so much to learn and heal to be a better version of myself for the next person I attract/fall in love with and wish to spend the rest of my life and have a healthy relationship with. This was much needed at this phase of my life. Thank you.
@ruchipragyaparida9370 Жыл бұрын
Sending healing for you 💗
@Mann207611 ай бұрын
@jumanna its okay you are not the only one we are here for you and us
@gregorystewart2936 Жыл бұрын
The amount of pressure this put off me is huge. Trying to be perfect or "Giga Chad" is so tiring. Being yourself is so relieving and accepting and encouraging yourself like you would others is amazing. When, not if you find that woman that loves *you*, you will be truly happy. Be calm, you have time, figure yourself out. Practice being yourself, forgive yourself, be ok with making mistakes and learn and REMEMBER your achievements. Focus more on the positive than your mistakes. Don't let people take advantage of you though, learn how manipulation works. Know what needs you can gain through the love (not money) you can give. Good luck guys, and most importantly have fun. Life is a journey, you got this bro.
@ajonis99 Жыл бұрын
Somehow some way this was posted for me at just when I needed it in my journey. 23 year old construction worker, been on my own since 17, kicked a drinking/smoking addiction and learned about mental health and self improvement. This video put together the words to how I’ve felt for years. Better believe I’m putting mad notes in the journal lol. Just started talking to an amazing woman a couple days ago too ,and it’s going really well; first time in awhile. Man, what I’d do to have a conversation with the man himself, Hamza.
@ajonis99 Жыл бұрын
@Dylan G amen brother, we have to go through what we go through to come out the strongest version of ourselves on the other side. Or stay the same, or even worse, sink deeper.
@finbeats Жыл бұрын
Nice dude! Goodluck out there, sending love.
@Babybearshar Жыл бұрын
Proud of u!!
@plendafuture7451 Жыл бұрын
Bro live your life , and be yourself .
@monke1742 Жыл бұрын
Bro this video is straight from god, its almost scary. I broke up with my girlfriend three days ago, just because of my anxious attachement style and me not knowing how to handle it or even knowing such a thing exists. Right now, I am so motivated to learn more about this and heal because I am realising more and more that this is the root of a lot of my problems and the root of every single argument I had with my ex. I cant thank you enough Hamza (you saved my ass a lot of times but this video is literally the holy grail). I think I might talk with my ex about this, not specifically with the intention to get back together, but I at least want to apologize for being such a toxis ass mf.
@germanboi3339 Жыл бұрын
watch develop attracion or corey wayne on yt and read there books, trust me
@ColemanOrWhatever Жыл бұрын
Bro I shit you not I did the same thing months ago. It’s crazy how alone one can feel with these problems, yet so many of us have them. Glad to see you’ve gained some clarity and mean to make it better. Respect 💪
@flemin9k Жыл бұрын
Thinking about doing this too but I'm going through no contact atm for another few weeks atleast. Please let me know guys how you got with that. Some feedback would be appreciated
@work0000 Жыл бұрын
THIS IS EXACTLY what I said, this video is STRAIGHT from god bro
@lukejs3182 Жыл бұрын
I just got broken up with by a girl who asked me out. Makes me feel like the longer someone knows me, the less they like me.
@reverie8586 Жыл бұрын
bro this was the most real unfiltered talk about girls and love i’ve ever seen. he hit the nail on the head on every point.
@hahaha-pl7ev Жыл бұрын
I watched a lot of your videos and honestly this one is probably your most valuable. A while ago I was invested in this whole idea of invulnerability and becoming cold hearted so that if anybody leaves me I won’t be hurt. This was honestly just me lying to myself about how vulnerable I really am. I’ll admit that if my friends leave me or betray me I would be really hurt. Or if the girl that I’m talking to right now were to end things with me I would be devastated. I’ve come to see that true strength comes from allowing the people in your life to see exactly how weak and needy you are, then continuing to open up despite the possibility that they might hurt you is true strength. I stopped watching self improvement videos a while ago but this one caught my eye and I’m glad I watched the whole thing. Thx Hamza
@budgetlifter Жыл бұрын
I have been pondering a lot recently, thinking and considering and I have come to the conclusion that there is nothing more stoic and masculine than actually word how you feel and what your emotions are like. Not being emotional as in emotional, but recognizing what you feel, not getting caught up in it but being able to clearly observe what is going on inside of you and use that to connect with people close to you. And being kind, truthful, generous, respectful and supportive of people around you. Not because you want some kind of "reward" or some exterior motive, but because that's simply how you are and the principles by which you stand. As someone who was always anxious as a kid and to some extent still is anxious today (even though meditation definitely reduced that a lot, been meditating daily for almost a year now, 1 hour every day), has the tendency to overthink a lot and really seems to be caught up in mind stuff quite easily depending on what is going on in my life, I think this is the right way to go about it.
@weaponizedtrombone1793 Жыл бұрын
Edit: Love to see people sharing ideas, we need productivity! I can tell you that I've come to the same conclusion on my own, and yes, that is infact the key to masculinity imo. The funny thing about crime statistics, and single mother home statistics, is they actually affect how masculine a man can be. Without the father, and to a lesser extent with a shitty one, a boy will develop in a way where he doesn't know how to respond to his emotions due to lack of guidance, which breeds within him a feminine nature of reacting to emotions instead of acknowledging them, and using your brain anyways. Otherwise known as being a pussy. I wish you the best my friend, we're on the same path, and we will succeed, I can see it well.
@flxs Жыл бұрын
Those two comments really resonated with me, like deeply. Thank you both for sharing those insights with the rest of us. Made me feel a lot more secure in myself. All the best bros!
@neltins5308 Жыл бұрын
The truth that he talks about at 1:06 with the youtube dating advice is really important, 99% of the time all those men that think "well I really just want sex" don't want that all, they've been brainwashed by society and the idea they need to have sex with many women to be men, what they really truly want is intimacy & deep meaningful emotional connections/bonds with women, but getting into the hookup culture can actually kill that for men and make it far further out of reach, literally turning them depressed or suicidal or feeling all the hedonism & time they wasted with women to women did nothing at all for them but drained their energy, split their soul. Either this or they're just trying to resolve all of the past trauma/resentment/anger they have of women due to their ignorance about female nature & human nature, or they are just trying to make their ego thrive, combat all the insecurities or lack of inner masculinity & confidence in themselves. Nourishing the ego is why a lot of women seek out attention or validation or casual sex as well. A lot of the geniuses in charge of western society back in America's glory days already KNEW this, which is why men were also expected to be virgins as well as very eligible bachelors that the women were the ones hunting to lock down & attract, competing with each other for a man. How valuable and powerful can a man's monogamous love to only one special women to him be if everyone in society subconsciously knew the importance of it & women were extremely eager to try to do everything possible, be as beauty, feminine, and chaste as possible to try to win a man's love? Its endless power, just look at everything inside your house, from all the makes the house to all the items inside of it, everything was made from man's love for a women. Its how capitalism thrived so much, men build for women, men invent & innovate for women if they're nerdy & neurotic, can't get any access to women or have kids early on in life from 13 - 29 so might as well spend all that time & energy to themselves innovating. And they're the ones laughing in the end with access to pair bond with the highest quality women on the planet while other guys knocked up girls in high school that look like land whales now, can't even go on a vacation to Hawaii twice a year let alone anywhere on the planet whenever they feel like it. Yeah, all the naturals or more simple minded men who don't overthink anything & just act, and who have no childhood trauma heavily succeed with women immediately in life but there are trade offs & benefits to everything. The other ironic thing is we can see everything the bible has ever said... MEN are all the ones who created all the degenerate women, and then other men complain that a man they've never met traumatized or used or made the girl think poorly of men, every single man that becomes the best version of themselves & settles down with a high quality women instead of using or breaking random women. We NEVER see complaining online period at all, maybe that's the point of it all though, since we don't see them complaining online guys on the internet perpetually have no idea this exist out there. While its possible to feel a lot of pain from bad or low quality people, its also possible to feel a lot joy, pleasure, and feel the true love of god bonding with a great high quality women.
@realmusaeus Жыл бұрын
Great description.
@nova2560 Жыл бұрын
i feel like you don't have to figure out every emotion what you're feeling every time. feeling emotions is a big part of human experience. if you do what you do, will you ever feel your emotions fully or will everything in your life be some observer of emotions kinda thing? just putting in my thoughts and would want to see your views
@awaisaurelius6745 Жыл бұрын
Perfect timing mate. My girl just left me because she started talking to this new guy. She would urge wanting to be close to him and that didn’t make sense to me. That anxiousness was coming up. And she kept defending him. Didn’t make sense to me. Still suffering the aftermath of how I treated the entire scenario and completely broken right now. Cheers for this mate
@Umi23 Жыл бұрын
You only did what you thought was right in the moment, you have nothing to regret, you’ve only learnt and become better, keep pushing regardless of these temporary feelings you’ll come out levels ahead of a girl of that sort, you’ll be fine bro
@Johan-yy9pk Жыл бұрын
bro u are a G keep going
@chickenfilmsd113 Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear this bro! I really hope you get through it, and try to talk to people if you feel shit about it
@JJ-hu4cm Жыл бұрын
Anxious attachment and the behaviour is really unattractive to women/
@ES-os7ko Жыл бұрын
she belongs to the streets. Good luck bro
@ZachariahGioio Жыл бұрын
“He’s literally talking about my relationship.” It’s the best feeling in life to have a bond with someone who you can be yourself around and who supports you to achieve your goals especially when there’s line up with yours.
@ChintanKapadia Жыл бұрын
Got broken up just last week, lasted almost 6 years. Was told told yesterday was b/c I was emotionally abusive. Watching this video showed me the actions I took in that relationship and why, obv never meant to act toxic like that, but it ended up somehow that way. Glad I stumbled across this video and finally learned the underlying reason why. Honestly sucks to have lost that secure girl that I had
@itsyourboiskinny1992 Жыл бұрын
best of luck bro, focus on healing and growth now you'll come back stronger
@biggusdikuss61342 ай бұрын
Where’s your self improvement vids
@BrentonBwoydem Жыл бұрын
Most relatable story yet. You’re right the gut feeling is never wrong. It’s like this energy, this radar that goes off when you smell cap
@yusairad Жыл бұрын
@Dylan G lol what
@kk-cr4db Жыл бұрын
Yeah but also sometimes if you have strong anxiety/insecurity about something you might confuse it with gut feeling
@therealmen9906 Жыл бұрын
Fr bro, that gut feeling is never wrong. It's always the truth. Just focus on yourself kings, become rich and improve yourself
@sybel4029 Жыл бұрын
Having an anxious attachment style, I have had several relationships that went down hill. I did however, grew from anxious to almost secure even in those relationships. Trusting was the hardest part but it is a skill you practice. You catch yourself when your thoughts become more irrational.
@jorgenafagervik Жыл бұрын
I feel the same way. Broke up 3 months ago due to AAS, which severly hurt me, but at least I gained awareness to improve myself for future encounters
@notmelivinn8 ай бұрын
what i've learned from this video: -if you want a serious relationship with someone, be yourself -to prove that she loves you when you're anxious, tell her what you're anxious about, and if she changes so you can feel more secure and she realizes that what she was doing was wrong, then she actually loves you -arguing is not to make one win the point, it is for both of us to win it and both get something good from it
@unclecondog9807 Жыл бұрын
Respect to hamza for dropping a 2hr no bs video
@silenttrooper Жыл бұрын
how the hell did you see a 2 hour video when it was released 3 minutes ago💀
@unclecondog9807 Жыл бұрын
@@silenttrooper a magician never reveals his secrets
@silenttrooper Жыл бұрын
@@unclecondog9807 😰😰
@ericjunior8900 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@Spy.derzzz Жыл бұрын
@@silenttrooper he never said he finished it
@Topcross.1 Жыл бұрын
Your description of the saddest way to live (Having no friends, eating lunch alone, then coming home to grind away on work) recapitulates my daily weekday routine for the past several months until today. The problem is that I CAN make friends. I CAN network with other people. I HAVE the ability to befriend anybody. But this worrisome fact of being badly influenced and swayed away from my path haunts me. I am always terribly worried that if I network with the wrong people, they'll drag me down to the bottom of the bucket without me noticing it. Anyway, great video Hamza.
@hankjahovs8937 Жыл бұрын
Currently a senior in college and my roommates (my only friends) all drink, smoke, go to the bars to pick up women etc. I have been dragged down to their level so many times, until I realized I have to avoid them completely and entirely. I used to feel so bad for literally locking myself in my room all day, but it sure is better then going to get drunk and have sex with random chicks. As a college student, I am literally surrounded by degenerates every way i look. The way I see it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a lone wolf, as it is the only way I can stay on the right track.
@Dominic-ey2ox Жыл бұрын
@@hankjahovs8937 i am going through a similar thing. I think the best thing we can do is to make our beautiful online community of wholesome young men into a real life thing: I think we need to have networking events where men and women who are into holistic , spiritual self improvement like Hamza advocates , can all meet up . Can you help me think of ways we can set this up?
@348tacos7 Жыл бұрын
You must believe that you are smart enough to recognize any negative people who may bring you down. I believe you are smart enough to recognize them as I know I am as well. Just keep trying and being genuine until you find your family
@literalpoop6038 Жыл бұрын
have strong morals if your morals are strong you won’t change as a person they can’t bring you down
@Riceeegod Жыл бұрын
Same bro!
@ksouthall8889 Жыл бұрын
I'm only 27 minutes into this video but I just wanted to express how much i appreciate the time and effort you've put into explaining and healing anxious attachments, I let it ruin my life last year by hurting my ex girlfriend, cheating because I believed she was doing it to me first, and i couldn't tell myself any differently i over analysed and ruined myself. A year later I can't bring myself to get into a relationship or try deeply connect with a women again because i know how i need to work on myself first, and this is a perfect start to that so thankyou.
@donabdi4098 Жыл бұрын
Incredible, I can’t believe I sat through two hours of therapy for free. Better than anything before. I could relate, tie the situations I’ve went through as a child to my behavior now, and pretty much can understand why I am the way I am. This is golden.
@richyk.99 Жыл бұрын
I'm that guy who is "alone" in his room...i've been traumatized. I'm hyper stimulated and those micro-expressions show which makes it difficult to connect. I'm 24 now and you're right Hamza. It is a life long "curse". I'm so grateful and blessed for this video. I'm not sure if it will help change me but even the smallest percent counts. Thank you so much man ♥
@Johan-yy9pk Жыл бұрын
yeah man same bruh, we should work on ourselves
@nanojimenez7079 Жыл бұрын
You’re on the right path bro, the first step is to acknowledge the problem.
@coleheffel Жыл бұрын
Trust me put work to it and you WILL change💪
@clussyella Жыл бұрын
Youre awesome for even acknowledging the problem For me it took so long to acknowledge i had a self destructive and self conscious mindset because of past I knew about my anxieties and fears but never wanted to face them, id much rather shut down. Honestly I still do it, to be realistic I think ive improved but I'm often very self critical of myself and have the need to be a perfectionist which drives me crazy Thank you for this comment it hit home ❤
@Johan-yy9pk Жыл бұрын
@@clussyella but how do u face them? what u do?
@robo5209 Жыл бұрын
You uploaded this at the most perfect time, just ended a year long relationship that was like that for 6 months. I've disrespected myself and im honestly ashamed of my decisions for staying so long. Thanks for uploading this bro. Must takes a lot of courage to open up like this online
@modernbassheads5051 Жыл бұрын
What did she do bro
@adamyasharma6894 Жыл бұрын
Bro you won't believe in how much similar situation I am in.
@uncleyamz4984 Жыл бұрын
I hear you, I just broke off a 10 month relo because of something similar to this
@robo5209 Жыл бұрын
@@modernbassheads5051 While she didnt go around fucking other guys (prob would if she had friends) she basically had online relationships with men. Denying that she had a boyfriend and just saying fucked up stuff behind my back.
@robo5209 Жыл бұрын
@@adamyasharma6894 I don't know your situation but if it's really that similiar then the best advice i could give you is to leave. I know its hard because you're attached but they bring nothing but stress and anxiety into your life. I promise break up and you'll feel relief like someone unshackled.
@fitdiscovery4574 Жыл бұрын
This made me cry as a grown ass man, it's insane how much i can relate to this man, anxious attachment sucks...especially if u in life don't find that person who provides u closure and calms u down. Thank you hamza my bro
@TMichelle555 Жыл бұрын
I went through this exact same thing, and my ex would make it worse by feeding into my insecurities and making jokes about it. I can say that constant need for reassurance, and asking the same questions over and over questions you don’t even want to know the answers to but feel compelled to ask - comes from a deep deep rooted sense of insecurity that no one can fill or heal but only you. There is hope and you can heal it key word, YOU. It’s called self esteem not others esteem. Knowing this is incredibly powerful, because at the end of the day you can’t control anyone but yourself. If anyone’s going through this you can through it, i think it’s a trauma thing, and an age thing. I will admit getting older/past your 20s you do care a lot less about what people think, it’s like a back door to confidence no one talks about.
@justanotherviewer00 Жыл бұрын
😭😭
@justanotherviewer00 Жыл бұрын
@@TMichelle555 much needed! Almost as if what you said I could absolutely relate 100%
@TMichelle555 Жыл бұрын
@@justanotherviewer00 damn homie :/ yeah it’s a lot of us that went through it huh but f it what doesn’t kill us better run lol
@jrAkaza Жыл бұрын
She was my everything I was her 20 percent
@heatherflynn Жыл бұрын
Hamza this is for sure one of your best videos on dating. This is such valuable knowledge you're spreading to the younger generation. I have been reflecting a lot on emotional immaturity, which is basically just the inability to handle your own emotions... and so it's so clear to see in this modern dating scene of "acting cool" and "being cold" it's all just an immature game because people are just reacting of their insecurities and seeking validation instead of actually coming from a place of true intentions. I also have an anxious attachment style and I have been very lucky to meet my best friend who has healed me in so many ways I never could describe. I still have a very dysregulated nervous system and it's something I am working on too and I wish you the best on your healing journey too. However one thing I will say is that I don't always agree that just because we feel something...means that our partner should respond to us in the way that we would like. For example we feel anxious about them going to a party so we express we are anxious and then they don't end up going to the party. I don't think this is totally healthy method on the flip side.I think it's important to also challenge our own emotions, and not take every feeling as totally valid. Yes I agree that we always want to be able to express these things and be met with compassion and understanding, no matter what the circumstances. But it shouldn't always result in them having to change their behaviour. Sometimes these fears are our own projections, and so instead of actively challenging these fears (you are anxious about the party so your partner stays home from the party) well now you have just completely avoided these difficult emotions (when they are actually illogical in this current scenario and something possibly triggered from the past) and so now your partner has missed out on a good experience and we have also missed an opportunity to trust in them even more despite how the anxiousness we feel. I hope that makes sense. But I think it's just important to also actively challenge these things if they do arise, and realise that to actually TRULY heal , it's not about having someone do everything that makes us feel Safe. it's about challenging those negative emotions when they do arise, and slowly realising over time... you can trust your partner and they are not going to do anything. Avoiding negative emotions, can be just as harmful in its own way.
@burrito156 Жыл бұрын
i just wanted to say your channel is so underrated, you got a new sub :)
@heatherflynn Жыл бұрын
@@burrito156 Hey thank you so much! I appreciate that a lot :)
@rishi.agarwal8 Жыл бұрын
You spoke a 1000% truth Heather. The other secure person shouldn't compromise because of us. Any tips on how can we avoid those completely illogical negative thoughts without it hampering the relationship? ALso, I just stalked your channel and so sorry for all bad happened with you. You are a fighter, Heather. I wish you all the best in your life. 😇
@FS-yj3qo Жыл бұрын
Missed on a good experience to get D down 😂
@heatherflynn Жыл бұрын
@@rishi.agarwal8 Thanks so much Rishi I appreciate your kindness. Wish you the ultimate best too ❤
@nailsatyerplace Жыл бұрын
This is so helpful to me as a female going through this anxious attachment. Such a different perspective!!! ❤
@natleigh04 Жыл бұрын
Same!
@bimy2090 Жыл бұрын
You want to get rid of your anxious attachement style one solution work activity on your self esteem and I mean inside not the outside one. Kill your ego, do shadow work, know your identity all that is included in a healthy selfesteem. It is a mental emotional work with a physical calming work like breathing, meditation. Be present in the moment for yourself.
@RainyLodge. Жыл бұрын
Guys, i have recently found the one, and let me tell you it wasn't without any effort, i started out with all the symptoms Hamza described at the begining, but after years of learning things and working on myself as a man i found a super feminine woman who wasn't afraid to let me take charge of the relationship to provide and protect her, and all of my doubts and fears went away when she joined my life, she makes my masculinity stronger and cares and loves me and follows what i have to say with genuine love and admiration for me, when she's the one, you'll feel it, you'll know it.
@AbdelftahZowail Жыл бұрын
2 years ago I was that anxious guy I met a girl we became friends she loved me unconditionally and she changed me. I've always said yea she changed me I didn't know that she literally changed me and fixed me till now. It's the greatest gift anyone can give really
@samanthaperez7859 Жыл бұрын
I was literally having a nervous breakdown and close to a panic attack because of my “intuitive thoughts” that my long distance bf is cheating. And I made a little prayer in my head to help me find a good video that will help me clear my head and collect my thoughts and I stumbled across you. Thank you! I’m def anxiously attached - and hopefully I can start working on it
@ambrinachohan9726 Жыл бұрын
Same, I’ve been praying a lot
@babyz5491 Жыл бұрын
The perfect video for me. This is exactly what I’m going through and I’ve been going through it in every relationship I’ve had. I’ve been going crazy over him literally every single day. I’ve combed through his phone, even looking at his bank account to see what he’s been spending his money on. We will be having a good day and then, all my unhappy thoughts about the relationship will come up and I will lash out. I will threaten him and cry and fuss. I realize that it’s just not the way to make this work. It’s not like he’s completely innocent though. But I need to change myself because I’ve lost myself completely in this man. All I ever do is think about him and what he’s doing.
@user-ok2xn1fy5i Жыл бұрын
Don’t stop on your self development girl, regardless on what happens with this man. You owe it to yourself to work on this aspect of yourself for you and your future.
@mehdineverquits Жыл бұрын
Recently had a breakup and had to take the time to learn about anxious & avoidance attachment styles. This is an incredible video! You inspire me to continue my self-improvement youtube journey, and I hope I can articulate these ideas as well as you do one day, Hamza
@askredditstudios8055 Жыл бұрын
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
@acrez3260 Жыл бұрын
Be very careful, Hamza isn’t a mental health professional and I would question the validity of this video. He isn’t qualified to be giving advice like this. Big grifter vibes
@lak3n Жыл бұрын
@@acrez3260 wouldnt call him a grifter, but take everything he says with a grain of salt
@FunnyDolphin782 Жыл бұрын
Broke up with my girl a week ago cuz I told her who I really was (after months of putting on a macho red pill persona) and she got turned off. Been feeling kinda down lately and wondering if it was the right thing to do. This put a lot of things into perspective, she would always tell me she had an anxious attachment style (her dad was emotionally distant cuz he was a closeted homosexual) and I never knew what the fuck she was talking about. Obviously this video made a lot of sense to me
@Alex-SelfImprovement Жыл бұрын
@@acrez3260 He technically does have a bachelor's in psych, but from a personal anecdote this advice is the main reason I've had the relationship success that I've had so far
@Karthik-xv8sy Жыл бұрын
20 minutes in, and i could already relate to everything you said Hamza. Thank you for supporting us as always
@fedzw Жыл бұрын
absolutely
@killezio3killezio342 Жыл бұрын
Same unfortunately
@jessicamonikaa Жыл бұрын
I‘ve had many close friends, many people I‘ve talked to. But I have never felt this close to someone while listening to you. This is by far the best video I‘ve ever watched on KZbin. Thank you for speaking your thoughts. This was so therapeutic. much love
@joshuajamesweiss Жыл бұрын
This is the first time I've cried to one of Hamza's videos. Nobody has ever described exactly what happened to me on such a personal and in depth level before. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has experienced this.
@therealmen9906 Жыл бұрын
Hamza my brother, you've changed my life. I love you bro. The postive impact you've had on my life is tremendous. I've become more masculine and ambitious. I'm finally able to standup for myself. Thank you. May Allah bless us all 💛
@imhungreee7645 Жыл бұрын
Just be yourself. Not your addictions, not your faults, not your natural desires. Be you... And only you have to find out who that person is.
@L4DYKILL3RАй бұрын
This video is so relatable right now. The sickening feeling of thinking something is going on behind the scenes is brutal.
@kornelcsabatorok4165Ай бұрын
I am so grateful for you for this video! Rn I'm going through a break up and my Mom passed away 2 months ago, so both the parental and relationship attachment styles are very prevent in my mind. Honestly, whenever I feel like nobody gets my struggles, I just think of you Hamza and don't feel alone anymore. Even though we never talked, even though this is just a parasocial relationship, I still find reassurance in your stories. It is very powerful, thank you!
@Jordan-rt7qu Жыл бұрын
Man this has literally been me the last few days. All this anxious attachment feelings towards my ex. Felt like I was having an existential crisis the last 72 hrs. Still am. But I needed this bad rn. The timing is insane. Thanks for real man.
@stsmile4901 Жыл бұрын
Bruv i know exactly in what kind of situationship you are in right now, been there myself. I know this sounds cheesy but time heals all wounds and it will be gone soon. Just channel these emotions in the right direction, start going to some kind of martial arts or try starting a business, thats what helped me. Stay strong brother you‘re not alone 💪🏽
@Jordan-rt7qu Жыл бұрын
@@stsmile4901 Been pouring heavy into both lately. Basically all my time now. Thanks fr
@rishi.agarwal8 Жыл бұрын
The same fucking situation. Insane timing! does the video help btw?
@nephastgweiz1022 Жыл бұрын
Same. My GF blindsided me and broke up with me last December. Since then it's been hell. I don't want her anymore, because I know I deserve better, but I still love her, and imagining her having sex with other men is still destroying me. This is so weird. She was my first love.
@daquaviousbingleton9763 Жыл бұрын
@@nephastgweiz1022 genuine question why do you care so much like all I see our dudes crying about girlfriends etc it’s not that deep invest your time into something else to take your mind of it
@felo5182 Жыл бұрын
I needed this video, this video also reassured me that me and my current gf are indeed compatible. I've been telling her about the things that make me anxious and she will give me reassurance and validate my feelings. Before I felt needy and weak opening up my vulnerabilities to her like that but now I know this is how healthy relationships work. I always tell her how thankful I am for the little things she does that make me feel secure and she stays consistent in doing them because she wants us to feel secure together. And likewise, all the little things I do to give her reassurance that she told me she likes I will always make sure to do for her. After many dating many women I wasn't truly compatible with, I feel like I finally found someone who's right for me. I hope that our relationship only continues to grow stronger and we become the best version of ourselves together
@ymoonysun9130 Жыл бұрын
That’s so cute :)
@felo5182 Жыл бұрын
@@ymoonysun9130 thank you 🙏
@felo5182 Жыл бұрын
@Dante S thank you, I wish this type of love upon everyone
@bogdantrains7 ай бұрын
brothers. if you are dating her, even if it’s just first date. tell her about this during or after the date. Some girls understand, and when they do it’s so incredibly satisfying and relieving. It’s like a stone has gotten removed from your soul. Delay gratification and tell this to every girl you date, some will think it’s cringe, some will ghost, and it will feel bad, but it’s worth it for the one that understands. It’s going to be scary, but you have no other choice. You got this💪🏻
@andreicocor43837 ай бұрын
Yes, I love this mindset!
@bigruss8103 Жыл бұрын
These longer types of videos are so much better… genuinely feels like I’m listening to an older brother and getting advice from someone I look up to
@darkseagull1939 Жыл бұрын
"Live with an open heart, even if it hurts" - David Deida, The Way of The Superior Man
@masonics2927 Жыл бұрын
Recently experienced heartbreak with cheating involved. I was seeking a video that would cover this topic and I'm glad you provided an in depth video going over attachment. I truly want to learn how to detach from this individual so I can focus 100% of my energy into growth. I'm only 20 and have so much potential, wouldn't want to hinder myself so early in my development. I do think I needed this experience to convert from a boy into a man. Appreciate all that you do Hamza.
@germanboi3339 Жыл бұрын
bro watch develop attraction and corey wayne on yt, trust me
@jayden7951 Жыл бұрын
Use that pain to go hard and build something bro
@jillmariaplatteaux6083 Жыл бұрын
I am 43 and have a pattern of having situationships with narcisistic/avoided people. I am still healing and I know my worth. Hopefully I can one day experience what real love is. For anyone reading this: follow your gut! If something is off it is. Run and do not go back and give people 3rd chances. And remember what happens twice happend trice. If people show how they are believe them the first time! Anxious attached and avoided will never work! You need to pick out good people and be more selective. All the best! You all deserve to be loved! Work on your self concept and self confidence! Blessings from Belgium
@Adamchappelll7 ай бұрын
this is this in my humble opinion the best and realist video ever.
@andreicocor43837 ай бұрын
Yes, I agree
@abdus1902 Жыл бұрын
There's a concept called Gheera, Protective Jealousy in Islam. There are times when we young men confuse that jealousy with being anxious. Make sure you actually are confident that the reason you feel this weird feeling is about genuine anxiety and not you having genuine concerns regarding your woman.
@MrNimbleBear Жыл бұрын
26:42 very relatable. I didn't really have friends ever since I was a kid and I still don't have any. Somehow I didn't get enough of this social interaction to really understand how to behave around people and how to be less awkward. I'm also an autist, which might be a part of my problem (although I still don't know IF autism affects anything in the first place). It is very hard seeing all the people around you, that you're familiar with, have fun, go hangout, socialize... without you. While you just... can't really do that. It's hard to explain. It's like they ignore you without noticing that they do. It is very painful going through your routine without any changes in your social life. And I can say with 100% certainty that it IS the one of the most painful feelings you can get in your life.
@randomdude5804 Жыл бұрын
Bro I have the same experience, although I don't have autism, so maybe it doesn't affect it much. It's really painful and tiring to overthink everything and at the same time hoping that you can someday have normal social interactions with others
@EpicPhazee Жыл бұрын
I am happy with the evolution of your content. I can see that you have matured over time since I started watching you 2 years ago. I used to disagree with you a lot since you taught the stereotypical "red pill" content back then, but I kind of understood it since you are young. Now 2 years later, it makes me proud how far you have come in terms of your mindset and content that you share out.
@YoSoyBidiАй бұрын
I'll try to see every single add since this moment, thanks hamza
@i_isig6883 Жыл бұрын
im 17 and had a gf when I was 16. she was my first gf. first person that i got closed to loving. a year later i found out she cheated on me. it hurt like never before. i thought no one in this world was dumb enough to feel what i was feeling. that no one could understand my pain. but watching this video made me a lil glad that I'm not the only one. and things get better. just like it did for you hamza. and ig i needed this to grow in life.
@user-ue4fh5mv9s Жыл бұрын
Dont you feel that most women cheat ? why ? why do they have to be like this ?! The more i learn about female the more i start to depise them and i realize that a women can destroy your life in seconds
@Jabeeps Жыл бұрын
My guy you're gonna be okay, just hurt properly and give yourself time, you'll come out on top!
@felonious_unite Жыл бұрын
you will be ok i think first relationships are always important to help you set your standards but never let that one experience jade you remember that you are teens and she is also a teen. your pre frontal cortex has years to develop before you truly understand the emotional immaturity that you both have experienced so dont let that shape how you view relationships but be honest with your emotions and focus on your mission and you will be ok
@i_isig6883 Жыл бұрын
@@felonious_unite thank you guys. i really appreciate it.
@i_isig6883 Жыл бұрын
@@Jabeeps thank you
@kyshim1247 Жыл бұрын
I've never argued with my partner and its been almost a year now, but whenever something is wrong we always communicate or express our feelings about the relationship, and find ways how we can make it better
@cocoalpes7 ай бұрын
How'd it go?
@kyshim12477 ай бұрын
@@cocoalpes how'd it go? We're still together and the relationship has only gotten stronger. Im really really grateful.
@mahiii913 Жыл бұрын
Well done! Amazing... I'm only half an hour in but I'm so glad to see someone finally speaking the truth... I learned about the attachment theory 3 years ago and I have been trying to change my attachment style to secure but everywhere I looked research and asked for advice, it was all look within yourself, repeat affirmations, meditation, breathing exercises and learn to love your time alone ... Even if I learn to love my time alone it still didn't help me trust anyone when it comes to love and I've been saying it over and over that you must need someone like a foundation or a base to rely upon when you build a new you and someone who doesn't have it, won't be able to change their attachment style but everyone just lectured me that that's not true, be more self sufficient, you're all you need bullshit and gave me their back story but they all had like at least one parent or a sibling + circle of friends being there for them unconditionally while I never did. I feel like this is something most people don't understand how important it is to have at least that one person... In form of a parent or a sibling or relative or friends or partner... I'll continue with the video now hehe Edit : I finished this video...😢😢 This video feels so good. He's so genuine and super honest. He validated everything I've been feeling for a really long time which most people have just dismissed as lack of independence, like I've always felt being part of a good community and feeling positive connections is really important for us but people just dismiss it saying that you shouldn't conform to the society's rules etc... I never understood it... People always lecturing about being authentic and when I am being authentic and saying that I'd love to follow my culture and traditions and have traditional values to be part of my community or I'd like to have a strong, loving and understanding partner, then they say I'm dependent and confirming to the society etc and I need to be alone to learn more about myself... I was like huh... What do I need to learn I already know what I want but everyone called me close minded and I'm kinda young and gullible as I never have anyone guiding me my entire life so I did believed all those people but I feel like this all created more anxiety and pain in my body... Watching this video made me feel more secure and emotional because he understands and validated what I knew instinctively. Watching this video made me realise that when people are telling you something or giving you advice, they're actually giving themselves that advice, like it's the things that they wish they could do. Also if being alone is the most important and you're all you ever need were true, then wouldn't people be more happier in an apocalyptical environment? I guess I need to trust myself more and be more honest to myself first.
@eve_exotic Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you popped up on my FYP 😢 I started breaking down because I related to everything you said. I suffer with mental health so I struggle with friendship and family relationships. I'm always alone cause people have let me down too many times so i don't trust anyone. I get overwhelmed quick and emotional I just wish there's someone that I can get comfort from all this to make me feel like im not alone.😢 thanks for this btw new subbie here ❤ x
@poeticjustice6785 Жыл бұрын
I can totally relate!
@eve_exotic Жыл бұрын
@@tracycarr3749 it's so nice to know I'm not the only one going through this because sometimes I feel like giving up, I've been to every therapy and take medication I just feel like something missing and I can't put my hand on it. He did say u need somebody special that comes your way to make you feel less alone. Maybe that's what I'm missing,that somebody, who's ready to support me on for real when I'm stuck in my pool full of thoughts. But totally agree with you babe xxx
@m00nwalker32 Жыл бұрын
Same Also I feel like seeing my mother go from relationships to relationship like she can’t even stay out of a relationship for two minutes Makes me feel like a distrust in love and commitment like it all could end so quickly and what was it worth so I’m scared to commit or to get into a relationship. Maybe love isn’t real.
@marioit2859 Жыл бұрын
Straight to the point, I really felt some parts like my history with the relationships were like the Hamza's one. This man is like a personal therapist.
@ninzembo908 Жыл бұрын
It's scary how relatable this is
@fg64000 Жыл бұрын
Hamza pls explan this more, you just a few weeks ago used to say: don't fully open up to your girl, only open up to your best male friend.
@tatert0tter347 Жыл бұрын
I remember studying this video over 2 times when going through turmoil with my ex last week. I just dumped her. She wanted to cheat on me with my brother and my brother called her out. My gut was right again about a girl. I now watch it again and the perspective is completely different. These guides are an art.
@jtnguyen8105 Жыл бұрын
Your gut feeling never lies
@chandamusonda4624 Жыл бұрын
Hamza, you didn't have to go this hard. Literally no words to describe the depth and vulnerability in this video.
@awdibisdaw Жыл бұрын
Fire advice. I’ve been going down to casual sex tunnel for a while now and I’ve realised that I don’t even like these girls and I’m doing this for ego. This is exactly what I needed to hear and I resonate with it so much. Thanks Hamza
@AnonAtry Жыл бұрын
My first few relationships I definitely related to this attachment style, however I waited 5+ years being single and eventually found my now fiance who was a virgin when we met and I'm first and only partner, this has allowed me to be so much more relaxed in our relationship, I trust her wholeheartedly and feel so happy to have found someone that is traditional and loving and devoted to me.
@wrk130 Жыл бұрын
no she isn't
@CLIPZC3NTRAL Жыл бұрын
thats what they all say…
@Riceeegod Жыл бұрын
I’ve never in my life watched anyone men or women explain anything like this to me. This is literally sent from God. The explanations are so clear. And I’ve also never watched any video this long that isn’t a movie for entertainment. Thank you hamza. Fr bro Thank you.
@iyamuaudu2388 Жыл бұрын
Text him on Whatsap for help"*👆👆✨👆
@PinkHypatia Жыл бұрын
As a mature woman, having watched this entire video, I can say you are 100% correct. This advice is for men (not children) who want real love for life. With such a large following, it’s good to see that you’re evolving.
@kylecajowski850 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this and putting this out for free. I feel so attacked, all I want to do is text my ex and tell her how sorry i am. However i think the best thing for her is for me to just leave her alone. I used to make her chase me in her car just so i felt her love. I tried running away constantly and she fought so hard to keep me. I have to move on, its better for both her and I. Thank you for giving me this knowledge bro.
@dryremark17Ай бұрын
I broke up with my girlfriend a while ago. Was just getting to be too much for me and there were several aspects of the relationship that had left me feeling dissatisfied and overwhelmed. I’ve been doing fairly well since and still feel good about the decision I made and how my life has been going, but what’s interesting is that since checking out the research on these attachment styles I’ve gained alot of new insights into myself. I think I may actually be fearful avoidant, and now, along with the desire to build a physique and become more disciplined and fix my scars from the shit I had to deal with as a kid, I have identified another thing I can start to address and heal - thanks for the video
@Itzreallyv Жыл бұрын
I’ve had such a hard day today. I feel that exact feeling you spoke about with your first gf. Maybe my intuition is detecting something, but I’m suffering because of it. I feel so relieved to understand more about what’s going on with me. Thank you for the video.
@jjthirty4248 Жыл бұрын
I’ve watched around a quarter of this video and it feels like I am being directly spoken to. It is safe to say that I cannot wait to have time later and sit down to watch this. I have a strong feeling that this video may actually be the one that I can use to change my life. I cannot express my gratitude hamza. Thank You
@channingttv Жыл бұрын
this video changed the whole entire perspective I have on my situation with my girl. her and I have been dating for a few months and all the sudden she decides to back off and break up. me telling her that i am scared to lose her and am anxious may be the scariest thing I will tell her, but it’s the genuine truth. i’m not running from it, in fact getting one step closer to finding that woman that nurtures those deep woven thoughts of mine, with ease
@TalkingCheeseBurgerr Жыл бұрын
I agree that the anxious attachment style along with actual Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Social Anxiety is a lifelong battle. With ups and downs. It's exhausting absolutely exhausting because you just want to feel safe and stable. From experience, you're only going to find it in yourself and you're only going to get better by being self-aware of your behavior (but not too self-aware to the point where you over analyze, find balance) and exposure therapy. Sounds old but it is true. I used to have severe social anxiety. I couldn't even order my own food. Barely could make eye contact. Was always self conscious to the point I'd feel physically ill being in a room of people. All because of my childhood which was filled with violence and emotional neglect. You have to do the internal work because a lot of it is low self-esteem and fear to the point where it is irrational. These behaviors will leave you as a very disconnected person. Highly recommend behavioral therapy and reading up on it as much as possible. The biggest thing is feeling your fear and doing what makes you afraid over and *over again* until the fear becomes small. Play out your worst fears in your head till you feel nothing. Write them all down to get them off your chest.
@kvint3610 Жыл бұрын
Behavioral therapy is the base. I highly recommend the book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns. And be sure to do the exercises that are in the book, it helps a lot
@user.01107 Жыл бұрын
Bro, I can understand how you feel with my experiences, but I can't even imagine the extremity of pain you experienced with the cheating and finding out through your loved one, who lied to you on top of this! I am glad you are helping people with your experiences and knowledge to help men grow and get through things like this. Much love brother.
@CapoCongo Жыл бұрын
towards the end you talked about being accepted in your hometown, I know this feeling, a place where you've grown up, then going away for your reasons, but when you come back everyone remembers you like if you went away just for one day. I used to live in a beautiful place, where mostly elder people walked in and they give the 80s chilling vibe. Such a beautiful place to be in where there are no teenagers acting like gangsters or trying to be a degenerate rapper. We gotta protect places like those, I'm literally writing this comment with a smile on my face remembering when I was a youg kid playing there with other kids while grandmas were smiling while watching the new generation play together. Man i have this gut feeling, but in the sense of nostalgia.
@sakshamk4009 Жыл бұрын
last breakup was because of this very reason . everything pushed me towards her , she was loyal but treated me shit , this is the most perfect time for me for this video, cuz i disrespected myself a lot even after the " breakup " , but slowly im healing and realising my worth again , that too by following ur advice and then introspecting nd contemplating my own behaviour , been 2 months since we ended all contact but it still hurts
@user-en3zk6sy2j9 ай бұрын
I’m rewatching this video after I’ve gotten into a relationship, this relates so much more now
@beast33G Жыл бұрын
An advice I once heard from a couple that has been married for 60 or 70 years that this video has reminded me of, is: When asked what is the key to such a positive and healthy relationship, they said it's to talk everything over, to not ignore any disagreement.
@ProactiveNinja Жыл бұрын
It’s scary just how much I relate to Hamza in this video, I’m like 4 months into my breakup and it still ain’t easy, especially knowing she done so much bad stuff behind my back like get with 2 so called mates of mine at the time. It’s just mad even after everything like that my mind is still trying to forgive her and love her, when in actual fact you need to come to terms with the reality of the situation (which is the hardest part I think) because otherwise your just chasing a toxic relationship that ain’t good for either ppl. And it’s nuts too how this vid is uploaded today, 3 years ago today we met up for the first time and I’m still holding onto those memories thinking it’s the same person now, but again, the reality is, it isn’t. It’s unspeakable pain, but to anyone who’s going through stuff like this too, you just gotta find some way to self love yourself and go out there and become the best version possible of yourself. Have faith because even though our own negative mindset likes to bring us down sometimes we really gotta strive for the future and what it hold for all of us!
@kimaniian433 Жыл бұрын
The content is maturing. I love it.
@byteblox1006 ай бұрын
beautiful video, feels almost like you sharing a piece of your deepest consciousness with us. the concept of anxious attachment is so damn scary (as someone who has it) because you don't even know when it's happening until it's too late, since your brain focuses a lot more on the thoughts of her potentially cheating rather than the possibility of you just being anxious lol
@allaboardthegravytrain5987 Жыл бұрын
This is a very kind and generous advice for everyone. It is refreshing to see someone give good advice to their fellow men by being in tune with what they really want and how they feel so both parties don’t feel defensive to each other and more open and accepting. It will happen with the right person just don’t give up.
@swaggystegosaurus7303 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Hamza, You are a life changer, had a really similar experience to this about a month ago and it absolutely destroyed me, the month after are breakup I was in constant tears evrey day, I felt like I lost evreything. The part of myself I truly loved and she did, I was constantly mentally abused by her and would always come back. I've started my self improvement journey all thanks to you hamza. You've changed my life ❤
@MixterPhysique Жыл бұрын
Hamza's dating philosophy is almost like a dating pill. High value people developing passionate relationships with the best from all other pills 📢💬
@amandam2181 Жыл бұрын
As a woman, the type of man who would apply this information is the kind of guy I'm looking for.
@harsimrankaur7149 Жыл бұрын
when humza said we need someone who is trustable, secure, accepting and warm, it reminds me of my dad. The only catch is, I lost him a month ago
@fringbabyross4718 Жыл бұрын
I know exactly what this is. It’s very real. Anxious preoccupied male here that just walked away from a fearfully avoidant attached woman. It was a toxic relationship and the grief was devastating when it was over. Best thing I ever did was to walk away. This guy nails it though. My attachment was lit up like a Christmas tree
@kocds Жыл бұрын
Hamza really the most genuine person I’ve ever encountered on a online platform
@lyric3199 Жыл бұрын
Hamza, i’ve only seen a few of your vids but you inspired me to get back into touch with my therapist. I’ve learned many techniques to overcoming this style but as a single person who has moved to a new city that primal edge feeling of not having a tribe has consumed me at home. that safety sensation with our nervous system you have described is unfamiliar to me. Several months ago someone left me while i was intoxicated and i lost my friend group that night as well. I thought i got over after a few weeks. You made me realize i love of work to do. thanks my friend
@GwapoKills8 ай бұрын
Bro I feel safer after watching your videos
@fastmushroom9028 ай бұрын
so real
@rob1505 Жыл бұрын
Hamza I literally had to stop this video in the half and had to text my girlfriend how much I love her. This totally changed my view on relationships.
@mattecscc Жыл бұрын
There are interesting parts in the video, but I’m not sure if I like the core idea of it all. At the end I didn’t get the “healing” idea, just you saying that the person that’s with me should adapt to keep all my anxieties from coming up. Although it’s definitely important to be with the right person in this aspect, someone that won’t drive you crazy anxious, it’s also extremely important to also be aware of yourself and not demand that your partner should basically remove everyone/everything that’s around them that make u feel anxious. At the end I didn’t get how I’d heal my anxiety, you’re just pushing a lot of this job towards your partner 🤷🏽♂️
@dmoney2608 Жыл бұрын
It’s not someone else’s job even with a secure attachment style to make you feel secure or give you fulfillment. You should be taking those steps before you get into a relationship.
@YoSoyBidiАй бұрын
This guide is so necesary to every one, Thanks hamza
@rustieskitchen6523 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Hamza. I was broken up with about a week ago and I realize it was because I started off unauthentic. I needed this video. I had an abusive mother and she just walked out of my life about a month and a half ago and so I’ve been desperately looking for someone to fill that hole in my heart. Now that I have this knowledge, my approach will be different forever. Thank you
@sebastianomura Жыл бұрын
Hamza, I haven't watched the video yet, but it's INCREDIBLE that you just came out with this video right when I need some advices because today I was rejected by a girl I liked and I was quite sad. God bless you Hamza🙏🏻
@germanboi3339 Жыл бұрын
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@soumtihassan3200 Жыл бұрын
When i reached the part where you said we’ll get through this together and take deep breaths i cried so much
@isabellethamm9772 Жыл бұрын
I’ve never related to every sentence in a 2 hour video before . This explains to much, thank you