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If you are tired of hearing from gurus about how to change, I must tell you that you are wasting your time. It is almost impossible to change. This sounds pessimistic from a doctor who deals with lifestyle medicine, namely nutrition, exercise, quitting smoking and all those useful and necessary things that we should do to be healthy and not burden those around us with our illnesses. But the reality is that it is almost impossible to change. All we do by trying to change ourselves is to constantly get disappointed and our self-confidence decreases even more. I am sure that it has happened to you dozens, maybe hundreds of times. You start a diet and usually the same day or a few days or even a few weeks later you have stopped it. The only thing that saves you from despair is the fact that you know almost everyone around you has tried to change and failed. manage
also another has difficulty quitting smoking another has difficulty doing
some form of activity or exercise systematically another who started something and
after a while gave up like all of us for 25 years I have been trying to help
people change their lifestyle and I have come to one thing
it is impossible or almost impossible to change the only thing we can
do is to change our environment changing our environment
is completely different from changing ourselves we start initially
with the assumption that it is impossible to change and the only thing we can
do or to help our health is to change our surroundings
this is a big part of the cognitive behavioral therapy program that I apply in my office for people who have realized that
they cannot change is for him and her who tell me
doctor I know what I should do but I can't apply it in these
cases not we try to change the person but we try to change their environment to make it understandable i will give you an example let's say that maria is having a hard time losing weight and one of the reasons that this happens is because she gets carried away and eats the cookies in the meeting room in the office where she works maria knows that she shouldn't eat the cookies and she knows that each cookie has 60 to 100 calories so by eating just three she loses most of the negative calorie balance that we are trying to achieve that day which is 500 calories giving the advice to maria not to eat them does not do justice to the degree that i have in medicine in medical nutrition but also in psychology maria didn't come to me to tell her what i would tell her and her mother came to me to help her apply the latest conclusions of behavioral science together we will try to find why maria eats the cookies in the meeting room is the problem boredom the boredom that leads her to eat them is anxiety where this automatic and uncontrolled behavior comes from we will try to find the real cause when we find the real cause that this is happening we will look for possible solutions to deal with it if the cause is boredom we will discuss as possible solutions the possibility of her entering the meeting room just before the start of the meeting and not earlier so as to reduce the time of boredom in the meeting room we can discuss as a solution to move the cookies to a point as far away from her as possible in this way we will explore many possible solutions and find which is the most likely to bring the results that maria can apply in the next meeting we will see if this brought the results we wanted or if we should try something else solution in a nutshell we are not trying to change Maria Maria is who she is and when she is bored if she has cookies in front of her she eats them I will not ask her to grit her teeth and not eat them I will ask her to change the environment so that she does not come face to face with this human characteristic that most of us share that when we are bored we eat no one will offend Maria because she is like all of us this is one of the dozens of tools that we use in cognitive behavioral therapy to help people who know what they should eat to lose weight but do not know the correct way to implement it if you also know the diet that helps you lose weight but are unable to implement it then call your doctor to tell you more about cognitive behavioral therapy and how it can help you implement the right diet that you know is ideal for you I will explain to you how we work, what are the benefits and what are the real results. I will be very happy to discuss them in person at my office or online for those who choose to They do their sessions online if you are interested call 210 2628
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