Why You Should Stop Asking Your Friends 'How Are You?'

[@evaskindaras852]

You know, I really really loved this. I have struggled with depression and anxiety for the past 6 months, and it's been so though, but to hear someone talk, casually, it was really great. Great video!! And to anyone reading this - I hope you have a really lovely day, and anything you are going through will pass, I promise. Keep your head high and remember to smile even on the though days!

[@joeykidney]

thank you! that is my goal here is to just make this a casual conversation without being so dramatic so i am really glad you enjoyed

[@JuanAppleseed-ge6tb]

I've been chronically depressed since my deployment to Afghanistan in 2012. I have happy days, and I have dark days. I can't even describe what specifically helps, but it's mainly spending time around people who just want to spend time with me, like my parents. When people go out of their way to address how unhappy I am, it just puts a microscope on how bad I'm doing. My dad and I spar for boxing training and we do carpentry work to fix things around their house. My mom and I garden and walk their dogs. I don't want anybody to make me feel better. I just want to spend time feeling like a normal human being.

[@joeykidney]

I love that last line - that really is what it is all about eh, just feeling normal

[@BZEDiddy]

I let them tell me if they want to … other than that I pick up where we left off

[@Suburban_Fishing]

Hey man thanks for everything. I’m a freshman and love you vids. My gf just broke up with me and i cried on my floor for 30 min after watching you how to get over you ex video. It’s something i would have never heard because i’m not very close with my parents and you saved my life. I’m slowly recovering and thank you for doing what you do.❤

[@JennyAuer]

I absolutely love this style, where we can just tag along and chat while you cook! Great advice as well - and being someone who struggles with depression, I think sometimes this is the way we ask for help as well. Just asking someone to hang out without the commitment of unpacking our struggles is all that we need in the moment!

[@gt9-w8y]

I love to ask that it shows that you care. But lots of people ask that just to make fun of others. If you're unwelcome saying that and really mean it, that tells you a lot about the other person

[@gabrielruzon2052]

I wish I had a friend who treated me like this.

[@EdenSLucf]

When I'm with my first younger brother who has always felt like my younger twin. Sometimes, it looks like from the outside; he's being silly in shallow waters in a lake. Yet, I know lakes and pools don't play by the same rules. In most pool, you can the bottom of it with clear water. Lakes can be difficult to move about in because you can't always adjust to what's around you. One step could be super and the next step could be unimaginably deep. It's so deep you can't see anything. He might not try to end what he has, but his choices make it possible that I understand he doesn't mean much to himself. Its like knowing how to swim, but never learning to flowing on your back to take a break; not just you don't want to, but can't even think about a break because someone's pulling you down below, as you persist to keep your head above the water. I don't often cry for either of my brothers, in front of them. He's honest sometimes, but at what cost?

[@gracieeeeeee05]

I saw this, and I knew I needed it because I’m trying to not care so much about other people and I know that sounds rude but I’ve spent years caring more about others than I do about myself and that’s lead me into depression and I need to feel like I finally can care about myself more than anyone else and not be guilty about it.

[@moonsliced]

I love this style of video so much your point about just being casual with people to make them feel better works perfectly with the causal tone of the video itself ❤

[@dacreedmotivation5597]

Hey Joey thank you for your advice I'm a 21 year old who struggle in life and your advice and motivation helps me a lot. I appreciate you

[@joeykidney]

You got this!

[@BonbonEmpress]

Thank as a 15 year old in high school your videos have been helping me very much and I realized a lot of things I turned a blind eye to till you talked about it. Also I like this video style you're trying, would like to see you do more videos like these in the future.

[@laurasorrells1242]

Bravo. Good for you. As someone with long covid who recently parted ways with a close friend, I really feel this. Her daily inquiries about my symptoms and life wore me out and then she got resentful because I didn't ask her for enough help. I tried to discuss it with her but we just kept looping back to the same dynamic. My attempts to gently establish boundaries didn't work. I don't have enough energy to deal. I miss her sometimes but honestly I feel lighter.

[@FlowWestProductions]

Dude I've only watched the start so far, but I just wanna point out you are hilarious, and your intentions are good. Ite cool cause you get to get a good lesson for your future self, but also just enjoy the moment. This is something I truly find admiring about you lol

[@TomsOnUK]

Really good advice Joe

[@joeykidney]

thank you Tom!

[@Bill-cipher44]

My Freind asked me how I was doing. I said I’m fine I wasn’t fine I was emotional embarrassed and depressed. He was always nice but I was a ball of sadness. The reason I was always sad bc my parents split at a young age so my childhood got ripped away from me In a harsh way Bc of that I was I was always hurting I never show it bc I’m a boy but I would like to cry all day long. Those words how are you doing it hurts hurts enough to make someone wanna cry. I’m scared of being happy don’t know why I just am but I’m always sad I grew up in a corner I was less innocent then a 20year old dude. Why do people cry you think bc they’re sad or hurt but sometimes it bc they don’t think they have a purpose and should swan dive off the roof Don’t bully I got bullied i caused depression and trauma my anger sky rocketed when I was 8. Sadness is hard to admit I had a therapist bc my mom thought I needed one but I was to scared to say any thing bc I had to much on my chest. Teachers do you job us kids need you to help us some off us don’t learn on a iPad verbal learning is what we need. Why are we like this a world we’re we hate one another Inner thoughts are horrible you think about to much and cry while you do it Goodbye hope this help and know you’re not alone

[@ghj13fj]

Can I be Ur friend

[@div_haniaxs]

omg. i love this idea of you cook and talk to us. ❤️❤️

[@travisrolando8205]

Thank You Joey! Love You Brother!

[@rimpidas11]

Thank you Joey, it was refreshing to hear you talk while you made your favourite pasta.. I am having a hard time and I could use some help and just a conversation really

[@Hollymodz]

another great video Joey, thank you

[@mirandaalexis]

this was needed at the right time

[@YASARAHMED-ck1sb]

Thank You Joey!

[@joeykidney]

My pleasure!

[@Jeremyxiee]

Actually I was completely focused on the process of you cooking in the video,gotta say, it looks good and delicious!! ❤😉😆

[@joeykidney]

Wow thank you! It tastes pretty good I must say

[@Jeremyxiee]

@@joeykidney😀👍

[@themilkyfx]

This was way too short I need a 25 minute version of this 😭

[@joeykidney]

Wow that’s really nice to hear ! Thank you :) this recipe was just so short haha

[@themilkyfx]

@@joeykidney haha no worries dude, but seriously feel free to make these painfully long, I could listen to your stuff for hours

[@blackoluv]

Why I feel I’m disagreeing with you , Cuz when my friend went through a hard time I would love to ask him if he’s okay or not like checking him 😅

[@Jeremy-tk2fr]

I struggle with depression because I'm 27 and I'm struggling with my sexual identity. I have no one to turn to for help.

[@cheyennestewart4620]

This is it 🙌🏻

[@joeykidney]

Thank you!

[@Drageypoo]

Joeyyy 🩵 I love you

[@whiteyofficialmusic]

thank you

[@joeykidney]

thanks for watching!

[@JsYrAvgBoy]

Am I able to ask “all is well”?

[@Drageypoo]

mmmmmmmmm 😫🥺😭

[@Drageypoo]

4:57 that wasn’t loud 😭🩵

[@Drageypoo]

okie maybe it was from where you were ☺️

[@YASARAHMED-ck1sb]

1st

[@joeykidney]

thank you for being so early

[@Wheatishbee-tanya]

The only thing makes me sad is having No true friends 🥲

[@joeykidney]

A great way to meet friends is to join clubs and go every week, at the same time and you will be meeting the same people who have the same interests. It is a really wonderful thing