Ever think about the best friends you've had? All the good times? They too were once strangers you took a chance and talked to. Good talk.
@tarico44368 жыл бұрын
Yesssssssssssssss.
@JD2jr.8 жыл бұрын
Not really. Usually they're Coworkers or classmates or mutual friends who have already become familiar well before speaking to them. You're probably just a lot more extroverted than us.
@arianylima68148 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@arianylima68148 жыл бұрын
But they were strangers, anyway.
@panhiavwm8 жыл бұрын
Apollosk123
@eivilcow338 жыл бұрын
My favorite interaction with a stranger was in a hot spring that was supposed to be quiet and there was this really old guy at the edge of the pool and he had an oxygen tank sitting on the side of the pool. He was trying to use his hands like a squirt gun and was laughing every time it worked. I sat near him and he accidentally squirted me in the face, I looked at him and started laughing and squirted him back. We ended up talking for a half an hour and talked about all kinds of stuff. He made my whole year
@-shaquille-91568 жыл бұрын
cool
@Nestoras_Zogopoulos7 жыл бұрын
that time when this guy has 69 likes talking about squirting.... :P
@minyoongisgummysmile98467 жыл бұрын
that's so cute
@bribbri36977 жыл бұрын
that actually warmed my heart, thanks for sharing :-)
@GoogleAccount-po1gl6 жыл бұрын
Nestoras Zogopoulos. ...squirting on his face.
@ParadigmFluxEmporium8 жыл бұрын
I am an introvert in the true sense of the word. I'm introspective, I'm a reader, I love to write, and create. always trying to find the deeper meaning of things. I was taught as a child that I was shy and believed that. and grew to have social anxiety as an adult. but I broke out of my fear of people and talk to strangers nearly everyday. introvert doesn't mean shy.
@ashdraws90768 жыл бұрын
So true! Not all introverts are shy and antisocial. Just means that we find more energy spending time alone than with others.
@pauldotdll32768 жыл бұрын
People have to read this..
@dragonswordmountain29086 жыл бұрын
+Paradigm Flux Emporium I think being an introvert is the same thing tag as being shy, a label we believe. We can learn how to recharge even with people around, ambivert skills and a way of life. Everything is a skill, we are not in jail introvert.
@user-mv7ob7sq7p5 жыл бұрын
@Kalina zdr kp
@flannsixtyseven74895 жыл бұрын
@@dragonswordmountain2908 there are proves that it is genetic, you might try that but are fighting your nature and it will cost you a lot of energy, i try but i dont feel comfortable, not even with practicing a lot.
@zawkoto968 жыл бұрын
This talk reminds me of a wonderful quote by William Butler : "Strangers are just friends I haven't met yet."
@nzinga7588 жыл бұрын
This is the first time in my adult life that I am riding public transportation to work. And my day is brightened when a stranger gives me a compliment. I will be giving out more compliments myself.
@titusorelius94588 жыл бұрын
Sorry but feminists tell us it is wrong to give women you don't know compliments. It's *"sexual harassment"*. Why do you hate women?
@notsquirrel81418 жыл бұрын
It brightens my day when someone talks to me on the bus :)
@chegadesuade7 жыл бұрын
+Titus Orelius go away, that's totally inappropriate here.
@ibrahimswapon99687 жыл бұрын
Adaku Dew
@BabyAbood1234 жыл бұрын
Good for you
@dunnowy1238 жыл бұрын
I completely agree. This irrational fear of strangers is the perfect recipe for social awkwardness and anxiety. Being comfortable around people, especially strangers, makes you a calmer, more perceptive, confident and overall better person. Love and stop being afraid of other people.
@EvaGreenFanPennyDreadful8 жыл бұрын
It really is. People will anxiety, are always worried about what others think of them. When in reality, everyone else is thinking about themselves lmao
@SWOgottaGO8 жыл бұрын
Now I'm facing jail time because some feminist thought I was raping them when I made eye contact. Thanks a lot.
@dunnowy1238 жыл бұрын
SWOgottaGO Dude, you gotta get out more. I approach women all the time, most of the time, they're flattered and if not, they're polite. Just don't be a creep who can't read social cues and you'll be fine.
@SWOgottaGO8 жыл бұрын
Wow, I'm speechless! Are you actually acknowledging that women on the regular are shallow bitches that'll judge men character based on looks!
@SWOgottaGO8 жыл бұрын
Technocracy Those are no your regular men tho
@jorgee23208 жыл бұрын
As an introvert and shy person, people might think that I'm not friendly or that I don't like people, but it's just that I'm not good at social interactions and I don't find them fundamentally necessary, but that doesn't mean that I lack empathy or that I'm an antisocial. I find it surprising how easy it comes to some people to talk to strangers and make friends, here where I live people tend to be very open and friendly, when I'm new to a class and I don't know anybody they are hesitant in the beginning but they quickly socialize and before I know it they're all already friends, and it's not that easy for me.
@SWOgottaGO8 жыл бұрын
Having friends is necessary. You can have an easier time with something because of a friend. On the same note you can make life easier to someone and make a new friend that potentially can do the same for you later. It doesn't always have to be about functionality either.
@notsquirrel81418 жыл бұрын
I have felt exactly what you feel. It just takes practice and time and getting out of your comfort zone.
@cherokee17818 жыл бұрын
you should join activities that have very small groups filled with people who'd mostly be strangers. That's how I'm trying to change myself.
@Joel-js2gk8 жыл бұрын
I understand you perfectly, but I'm slightly different in that I see how much fun others have with their friends and I want to experience that myself. So even though I'm genuinely an introvert and shy person, I really put forth a great deal of effort to put myself out there and to make friends. Oftentimes I find myself alone in a crowd of people with nothing to say, but it's all part of the learning process. The most important thing is to put yourself out there and to put forth a real effort. And don't beat yourself up too much if you say something awkward or dumb; we are all socially awkward to an extent.
@Jalapatron7 жыл бұрын
Jorge E I'm the same way. People usually think of me as an angry person when I'm just very quiet
@stupidrainbo7 жыл бұрын
Man, this audience is not laughing at her subtle jokes. Way to make her totally uncomfortable! I always try to laugh at jokes during a speech, just because I would want others to do the same for me in their shoes.
@denimlether58124 жыл бұрын
They're not really jokes. Her standing on the street in NYC was a real way of life.
@luuky183 жыл бұрын
If a joke isn’t funny why would you laugh
@KaraokeNig3 жыл бұрын
Good points , good questions, i have one too. How much are you required to laugh at jokes socially..asking for a friend. :)
@neodark4148 жыл бұрын
What's up strangers?
@tarico44368 жыл бұрын
Hehe. Good one.
@SWOgottaGO8 жыл бұрын
RAPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
@arianylima68148 жыл бұрын
What's up?
@curtherring77328 жыл бұрын
Don't stand in front of that tank, you might disappear.
@dawnqwerty8 жыл бұрын
Benjamin Wood how are you all this week?
@lmychocolate7 жыл бұрын
A woman once asked me for directions on the street and we ended up taking the train together. She was very friendly and we talked a lot! It was my first time having an actual conversation with a stranger and at the beginning I was really unsure what to share and what not to share, what to ask, and what not to ask. But as we talked more, I didn't really have to worry too much about it, everything just came naturally. It was then when I realize how great it feels to connect with a stranger. It's really nice to be able to learn something about someone, hearing glimpses of their story. Sometimes it just feels good to talk to someone you don't know and probably won't see afterwards, to talk to someone outside your social circle.
@TheMrJaybones8 жыл бұрын
Talking to strangers helps you develop people skills and it makes me feel happy
@jaredanders78207 жыл бұрын
I talk to everyone & it's wonderful. my friends always try to stop me but I want more people to do it :)
@CristanMeijer8 жыл бұрын
I always feel that because it's not really the norm, when you actually end up having a nice conversation with a stranger, it is extremely satisfying. And when I don't know a subject to talk about, I usually stick to my golden rule: people usually love talking about themselves :). Therefore, I quickly follow up any conversation with a few questions about them and this usually works.
@davidmatengu57265 жыл бұрын
Cristan Meijer so what do you ask them about themselves??
@katscandance2 жыл бұрын
I love asking questions
@lydias22327 жыл бұрын
I tried this today. I tried to get noticed and it worked! An old man walking past me told me to cheer up. I wasn't actually sad, it was my thinking face. But it worked! He responded.
@christinec.27427 жыл бұрын
This talk opened my mind. I have been taught to be wary of strangers all my life... but statistically, being friendly does make more sense. Why are we... over 90% of the population act like everyone could have been a criminal waiting to harm us when only a really small group of people are that disruptive? We should remain cautious, but not to the point of making enemy out of everyone we have never even talked to. After breaking out of that bubble, the human world indeed can have a lot more friendliness than previously imagined, which unfortunately got missed out on. Thank you for this talk.
@NellieKAdaba7 жыл бұрын
I have also been taught that, but I talk to a few strangers, and I made connections through that. Yes, because of the high crime rate in the US, in some states, that's why we don't trust strangers. Even in Europe and in the Caribbean I don't talk to strangers, unless it's a family's friend or a member of my relative's family.
@katydidwhat61205 жыл бұрын
Some areas do have a higher crime rate than others, so it makes sense to be wary. And all the horror stories portrayed in the media/news makes things worse.
@englerwhi8 жыл бұрын
I'm from the Midwest and we talk to everyone. It's weird to read the comments and see how people think this is abnormal or unsafe. Being kind is a way for a "normal" person to change the world.
@HussainAlHubail8 жыл бұрын
That's true. But also you cannot blame them if they live in a neighbor where the thievery,murder, or any bad acts are high. That's why (in my believe), the first step is to accept those people/strangers in comment. NOT THE trollers of course!
@MrSivansuresh7 жыл бұрын
Because you are an American. Americans are friendly and talkative in general. Europeans in general freak out when stranger look at them, smile at them or tried to small talk to them.
@veridiosmaximos62907 жыл бұрын
Hello, my name is Carlos, I started to study your language in a short time. I wonder if you could help me and be my friend. Whatsapp or any other social network where we can is tracing information. I'm from Brazil.
@juliantreidiii5 жыл бұрын
I am from the south and we talk to everyone. When I went to New York it terrified them. LOL
@Gretaici7 жыл бұрын
Talking to strangers are beautiful. Even though sometimes u have to hide a part of truth, it's good to have Someone to talk to, or listen to.
@toysintheattic26648 жыл бұрын
Where I come from it's not uncommon to talk to people we don't know.
@Wauly8 жыл бұрын
The moon
@cherokee17818 жыл бұрын
Uranus
@RacoYes8 жыл бұрын
Belgrade, Serbia is one of such places.
@Nestoras_Zogopoulos7 жыл бұрын
mainly from what ive seen all the countries in the mediterranian sea u know like spain italy greece etc ive actually concluded although not being a rule that generally older nations have quite friendly people idk it may be like that cz in older times in places like small villages and encampements everyone knew each other eg countries like egypt greece italy spain india china also people that were at some point nomads and poor people seem to be more friendly africans and middle eastearns too but cz of the unstable enviroments war and stuff its harder to open up
@keltait7 жыл бұрын
RacoYes I've met and had awesome conversations with so many Serbian people public transport when I'm moving around Europe for work.
@katscandance2 жыл бұрын
I used to be so shy and anxious and hated talking to strangers. I especially felt awkward trying to talk to customers. I thought I was just naturally bad at conversation. Now that it’s part of my job responsibility to get to know my customers and have good service, I LOVE talking to strangers. I love hearing their stories, learning about how other peoples lives are, and also talking about myself to them. It makes me feel happier and fulfilled at the end of a work day. Now my coworkers are amazed when I have a 10 minute conversation with a customer and always say “I’m so good at talking to customers” and I always tell them that I wasn’t always good, but practice makes you get better. It’s overall helped me with my anxiety as well as made me more confident!
@polaris9118 жыл бұрын
It is so true what she said about passing somebody. You look at each other from a distance, then look away as you pass.
@nguyenthihien89567 жыл бұрын
I say hello while walking pass by each other.
@helloworldliberationforall7 ай бұрын
few days ago ive started to talk with strangers, it is changing my whole life, every interaction is a new world, i love it, its great whey you appreciate and get appreciated as a person, it dissolves so many prejudices and assumptions you have, its eye opening and beautiful, people are social creatures and its in our nature to cooperate and communicate
@MS-gv6jd8 жыл бұрын
To me, starting a conversation is easy but to maintain the conversation is hard and can be awkward
@KylaAquinoIrving7 жыл бұрын
As a Californian, I'm like, "Duh!" Were much friendlier out here. When I travel to New York, I notice people could live next door to one another for years, but never even acknowledge each other. I'm glad this New Yorker is spreading the message. 😁
@NellieKAdaba7 жыл бұрын
That is how I feel in New York, I do not know most of my neighbours, it was not like that in Maryland, it was quite the opposite, I knew a few of my neighbours. Maybe because of the high crime rate, people don't trust each other that much in NY.
@124madcow6 жыл бұрын
I knew this guy that would always talk to people. One new person a day is what he said. The crazy thing is he could go anywhere in the city and people would know him.
@rajeevSreenivasan8 жыл бұрын
I always greet the strangers even though they didn't return on! Love this!
@TariqKhan-xt5qs7 жыл бұрын
You know some of the best conversations i've had were from times when I was wasted and talking to random people who were also drunk, or when I was just taking a stroll downtown and ended up talking to some homeless person
@moatazanwar65647 жыл бұрын
Really, awesome, I was obsessed by the idea of talking to strangers, one day, a stranger was next to me in the bus, and I started to ask him about his college, and I found that he is one of my colleagues that I've never noticed, I introduced myself to him and he did so too, and for 3 years, we have been friends, and we worked together in a lot of projects, the graduation project was one of them, since then I loved the idea of hitting a conversation with strangers, that one of them may turn out to be a future friend.
@nandafprado8 жыл бұрын
I used to talk friendly to everyone I saw on my daily basis, until I started growing up and those same old men that where my "nice neighbors" started sexualizing me. How does a teenager doing the exact same thing as when she was a kid, just because I was growing some hips, became flirting?why doenst she explains that? ps: I literally just say hi or smile as I used to do as a child, to the same people, and the coments grew from "she is growing up to become a beutiful lady"(compliment) to "you are stealing a lot of hearts"(little creepy) to "oooh mama", "oohh la em casa (ohh if you were in my house)"(unapropriate) to "what I would do to see you naked","why so rude? come chat with me"... That is why I only talk to woman strangers and is usually to warn them of a creep trying to see under their blouse or steal from her purse (sometimes compliment her clothes /make-up/tatoo)
@RyuThe3rd2 жыл бұрын
Kkkkk que merda
@ParthibanTR7 жыл бұрын
5:20 - People often feel more comfortable being honest and open about their inner selves with strangers than they do with their friends and families and that they often feel more understood by strangers. Thank You Kio Stark for pointing this out. I have often felt and experienced it. You know, why we want to feel comfortable and more comfortable? Because it's our nature that we always want to and we always want to throw away the pain from deep inside us, which we are not able to do with our friends and relatives. And I think everyone has some or other pain which they yearn to share. But I meet a lot of strangers who don't wanna interact while I am always in the "inviting" mode. Sometimes I have tried keeping the first step and it has worked out well. But surely, it requires a bit of mental preparation, a warm attitude with a bit of gut and enthusiasm.
@Soulenergy31 Жыл бұрын
True!
@melisarose39228 жыл бұрын
I think it's kind of fun to have conversations with people in the bus or train on the way to school/work... Because there is indeed a chance that you will meet them again... And seeing a stranger one more time who also recognizes you is probably the coolest thing ever 😂
@Wren18 жыл бұрын
Depending on where you live (any big city in the US), talking to strangers on the street could end with you being jumped or shot.
@TheHappybunny6716 жыл бұрын
Lol what are you saying to these people? You must live in a different United States
@YueSutcliff8 жыл бұрын
I think it's kinda difficult to an introvert like me, but I may be will try it sometime. Thanks TED
@anee71638 жыл бұрын
You have delivered your points excellently. Your enunciation , the way you have spoken, given pauses are all perfect. I have heard you first time. So far, You are my most favourite speaker. ☺
@Havvse8 жыл бұрын
i asked a stranger what his name was once, he said he's Hugh Mongous
@codn00b948 жыл бұрын
Lol
@NXDL258 жыл бұрын
You've just sexually harassed the comment section
@samueltavares12187 жыл бұрын
i met mt best friend 5 years ago and it all started in a classroom when i said:"can u borrow me ur rubber?" amazing
@danielf10513 ай бұрын
For a long time, I’ve been taught to not talk to strangers unless they are my friends that I know. Even though I have listened to them over the years, they are times that so end up lonely when my friends start to get busy with college/work. So I believe when it comes to meeting someone new in school or in public parks, I should keep in mind that strangers are just normal people. Of course I should keep my boundaries and start small because it could help me feel more comfortable with talking to anyone.
@firepants208 жыл бұрын
Hi guys, im a stranger.
@eivilcow338 жыл бұрын
GOOD AFTERNOON SIR OR MADAM OR APACHE ATTACK HELICOPTER, DO YOU HAVE A MOMENT TO TALK ABOUT OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST??
@firepants208 жыл бұрын
eivilcow Oh, is that that one black guy?
@eivilcow338 жыл бұрын
I have no idea. I just wanted you to notice me....
@vincentblack71668 жыл бұрын
strange.
@ahtim19008 жыл бұрын
hey.. Life is complicated...I've killed people,smuggled people,sold people...perhaps here,things will be ... different
@DeoMachina8 жыл бұрын
Weirdly enough the only time talking to a stranger has ever worked was when I visited Sweden, and the locals there were just so excited to use English on somebody. Swedes tell me how standoffish and unfriendly they can be, but being a foreigner turned it all around! So if you think the speaker is wrong (and I'm pretty sure she is for most of the anglosphere), try doing it on holiday!
@hana77jp7 жыл бұрын
I like this story. I know I have forgotten how to know strangers. Thank you.
@Diaamohy7 жыл бұрын
I am actually from Egypt and wat she stated is true except the part of inviting a stranger to ur home, but ppl here r friendly!
@safaagougili13307 жыл бұрын
it's something very normal in Morocco , on train i always make new friends , old people always carry their traditional homemade food and give it to anyone , that's why i can't leave my country i can't imagine people not having that small talk about football or the last episode of a serie even if they don't know each others ,smiling and playing with children ...
@Ryan--Official8 жыл бұрын
so does this mean there is candy in the van?
@-shaquille-91568 жыл бұрын
yes always is
@abhinavkrishnan91098 жыл бұрын
Some people don't have candy. But I assure you, my van does :P
@_Cerb_5 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@consp1rcy5315 жыл бұрын
There may be a "Candy" edition of Vans
@aquastudio20014 жыл бұрын
Ryan Sweeney not always, they can see you as "candy" though.
@alejandroramirezmartinez3676 Жыл бұрын
i do all the time as salesman while prospecting, i sell spaces for out of home advertising, try to approach business owners, CEOs and managers and genuinely say to them "we are to serve you" and "i´m sure the advertising will help your sales to grow, because you have a very good or important product or service", it has help me a lot to get sales, and more important lot of friends, as i´m a newcomer to the city i live now... great speech for meditation!
@Chadong4 жыл бұрын
When you said it's rude to ignore a stranger in Egypt i remember Ammar from Yes Theory. He's very jolly and outgoing person and it's very natural for him to talk to a stranger without any hesitation.
@96SniperSnake8 жыл бұрын
"else, you're missing all of that." works for me.
@stevesong83882 жыл бұрын
The part when she talk about the old man is so attractive. She’s a very good talker.
@geminiwoe7 жыл бұрын
I have always spoken to strangers and mind you , I am from New York city where this is a big no no. I've always been ridiculed or spoken to about how it can come off as inappropriate. I never understood why it was so. This is good incite.
@mrmagic294310 ай бұрын
I know its like 7 years to late but just this weekend I visited a Concert in Austria (I live in middle eastern Germany) and I went there all alone just by myself. With all the Regio trains you can take with our Germanyticket and I've met alot interesting people on this journey. I was waiting 3 hours with some refugee guys in some Bavarian shithole, I sat next to a 72 year old Homeless guy telling me his lifestory in the beautiful richpeoples City of Passau, I got to know some greek guys and the austrian people that listen to the same Music as me and I had a really cool way back home with some ppl from the concert that had happen to have the same destonation as I did and it was AWESOME!! when I rethink it it is especially so cool because of all the random strangers I've got to know that little bit. It was so wonderful to win against the inner pig dog (laughs in german) and to have that experience and joy that it brings you to overcome your Compfortzone
@EmanMohamed-he8uc7 жыл бұрын
My mam told me that I shouldn't talk to strangers cause they might hurt me. Then I get hurt by people who close to me
@theuserintheroom44505 жыл бұрын
Irony.
@lilnotoriginal78506 жыл бұрын
i once had a ounce of weed and no friends that wanted to buy so i had to met strangers to sell it and i got it sold and got more and sold that and more and sold and now i have more then 40 people buying from me and a dude working for me. dream big and u can also make it never let the police or anyone bring you down. i make good money i have a rolex and live good
@sta_rlight55645 жыл бұрын
I met this random retired elderly teacher who I didn’t know and was at my school for something. She asked me how my exam was because she was just sitting there when I came out at the end. So, I said it was good and felt like talking with her even more. She looked like she was 60 at least but she told me her age was 70. I was surprised and told her she looked younger than her age. From then on, we talked about genetics which also led talking about race, ethnicity and culture. I was surprised as to how our conversations felt so real and flowed so easily. I don’t know why I connect with elders more easily than teens my age. Usually, when I talk to my friends, they are always so disrespectful because they are using their phones in front my face when I’m talking to them in person! Also, I’ve noticed that whenever I try having a real conversation with my friends, they don’t use their facial expressions and are always replying to me as robots. Does anyone feel the same??????????
@katlo7 жыл бұрын
Where I'm from it's actually quite common to say hi to a stranger, especially if they are an elder.
@primet28307 жыл бұрын
I can absolutely relate. it's effortless and you never know where the connection can go we only have our stories and connections in life
@toddharry72388 жыл бұрын
I wish for more people to see this video. I've noticed (and perhaps this is through the eyes of a man) even a passing smile is met with an awkward stare, as if the other person is saying to themselves "what is this person looking at?" or "oh god I don't want to interact with this person." It becomes hard to continue trying this with others when you get that kind of reaction.
@ImanAliHussein8 жыл бұрын
Especially in the big cities. Easier in the smaller cities.
@tarico44368 жыл бұрын
She really hit the nail on the head with her final few sentences. In fact she got something so correct, there at the end, that the snarky stuff I had planned to unleash on her in this comment will now not be mentioned. Instead I'll pay her a humongous compliment. Usually the way it goes is like this: economy gets worse and worse. The women of the tribe encourage their men to get out there and be more successful in the hunt. This "encouragement" starts out slow, but if the economy doesn't pick up with nudges and winks, well, then the legs slam together closed. What happens then? War. Soon enough either the successful warriors bring home huge amounts of bacon, or they die on the battlefield, and other successful warriors take their place (around the campfire with their new wives). Things go back to peaceful status quo. But she is saying that we say to "Hi!" to all those around us, no matter how little or how much money they have. The economy goes down, so what? she is saying. We can all just tighten our belts a little bit; there's no need to go to war just because more and more men around her seem to have fewer and fewer dollars. Smile at these strangers and say "Hi!"
@theseigemeister8 жыл бұрын
Great talk, thank you for sharing. Such an important message.
@grubbsgrady967 жыл бұрын
she has a beautiful voice
@Imanelhag7 жыл бұрын
i literally feel like i want to go out and talk to everyone i meat on the street! thank you! that was awesome!
This talk is bristling with intelligence! Best one I've heard lately.
@BD6386 жыл бұрын
Starting today, I’m doing a “Talk to strangers” challenge where I will talk to 10 strangers everyday for 60 days. I wanna see what I can learn from this. Will update
@Hanessy5 жыл бұрын
Stars & Smokes please update
@noahkelly36604 жыл бұрын
So...?
@BurtonBrewster4 жыл бұрын
Please update.
@amyc91554 жыл бұрын
Star Smoke This is extremely unsettling to me right now that you never returned!!
@mjq64384 жыл бұрын
Bruh
@bobaldo23398 жыл бұрын
I have noticed a very great difference between regions of the USA in this regard. Although there is truth in the notion that people are friendlier in smaller towns, there is also a more general east/west difference regardless of the size of the respective communities. As we move from west to east, people become increasingly more likely to talk to strangers - more friendly, less paranoid. I'm sure there is a north/south difference as well, but I don't have as much direct knowledge of that, so I won't comment on it.
@rmm80833 ай бұрын
Good point about 'are strangers dangerous': Indeed, why not smile and respond to someone obviously having a hard life because begging at the traffic light? I always smile and look into their eyes if I have no money to spare, and they smile back, intuitively, (because we see them) responding kindly too. We are all human beings, let's treat everyone as an individual, not as an annoying xth beggar.
@BlaqqCherry0778 жыл бұрын
Thank You Kio, Cities can be anonymous, unfriendly places. .I completely believe in your philosophy to reach out to others, we're all just people.. I have social phobia and trying to appear casual and relaxed ,yet friendly is highly difficult!
@stinkylooloo37048 жыл бұрын
I'm typing this in a serial killer's basement, in chains. I can taste blood. Thanks TED!
@towhatdegree8 жыл бұрын
It's nice that the serial killer still gave you the opportunity to make a comment though.
@stinkylooloo37048 жыл бұрын
Ikr. Best serial killer I've ever been with. Such a softy
@Illlium8 жыл бұрын
If this is not your first serial killer excursion then you're obviously doing something right.
@serhataydin26505 жыл бұрын
For gods sake somebody should call 9-1-1
@SeanTheDon175 жыл бұрын
Lmaoooo KZbin comments are pure comedy 😂
@MaiSent8 жыл бұрын
I shouldn't talk with stranger because the internet has told me that if that stranger is a woman she doesn't want to talk to me and if it's a man I'm just assuming his gender and he probably is going to assault me :(
@arshsekhon18218 жыл бұрын
did you just assume her gender?
@atlasmassamuel10168 жыл бұрын
+Arsh Sekhon Did you just assume xirs gender?
@oriannafembot99638 жыл бұрын
Stop it doesn't matter she's just talking about strangers
@MaiSent8 жыл бұрын
Sailor V strangers are people too !
@DjJooze8 жыл бұрын
Get of dthe internet then idiot
@Imjoseguzman6 жыл бұрын
Best ted talk ive watched 100% truth she speaks
@tacticalnewfie29228 жыл бұрын
Some of the nicest people I've met were strangers, no stranger then usual.
@tacticalnewfie29228 жыл бұрын
This is the first TED video I actually liked in about a friggin' year.
@kinsmed8 жыл бұрын
I love when videos like this rile up the seven-year-old internet boys. I guess those would be 'beautiful interruptions'.
@ELLIS17374 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I love to talk to strangers while I'm on vacation. I love to hear about other people's lives. On the other hand, I do not like talking about myself, yet. You have verbalized my similar thoughts about strangers. So your video will do the talking for me from now on when I want to tell someone the benefits of talking to strangers. To me, this is an important video that all children over 18 should watch.
@Don197628 жыл бұрын
I'm from Finland and here people get uncomfortable when strangers talk to us (at least outside of Helsinki city). Also we don't want to bother other people. It's considered bad manners.
@Don197628 жыл бұрын
It's quite normal here. When strange people do start to talk to us we feel very uncomfortable and get suspicious. Also when there is need for communication it should strictly be business, but talking for the sake of talking is just annoying :D Alcohol is what makes us social. What country you live?
@Don197628 жыл бұрын
:)
@Ublueduck00 Жыл бұрын
I suggest, that belief in humanity is based on such people. People who believe that strangers are not dangerous. People who open to conversations with strangers.
@meghmalaverma84677 жыл бұрын
Agreed and frankly speaking i felt it too to talk to strangers is far more good.
@emmakleiner84707 жыл бұрын
i am from Algeria (north africa) here it is so easy to speak to strangers , i mean that problem here does not existe at all , and for people that don't speak to us are 1% and we see them as unsociable or unormal people , i think that the fact that people don't speak to each other , is due to using technology , maybe because we are an undeveloped country we use ourselves to guide each other more than depending on google xD the thing is , take things easy i mean people don't bite :p
@chouchouhan41027 жыл бұрын
mira mirrage If someone read your comment he will thinks that in Algeria there are no telephones no internet .. Nothing at all !
@shoopoopie18 жыл бұрын
wow this video really reached to me because I have very poor social skill and I'm very anti social next time i see a stranger I'll try my best to start a conversation
@JimGriffOne8 жыл бұрын
I'm drunk.
@JimGriffOne8 жыл бұрын
KVMI NØ KVZE I once suffered from it until I discovered C2H5OH.
@Dakaychess7 жыл бұрын
Beautiful message. I agree.
@ka0r1mxecx044 ай бұрын
im an egyption and wt she said abut egypts hospitality is absolutely true
@bitchette7 жыл бұрын
Wonderful !!! and an amazing guide to travel, a "how-to" on making connections with the people in a country you're travelling. Thank you very much ! (and sorry for bad english... cheers from France !)
@luthfi41642 жыл бұрын
I wanna talk to strangers but don't know what topic to talk to haha, i amaze with people that could give a "hi" to stranger then have a "flow" conversation.
@matheuscardoso18 жыл бұрын
She's a great speecher, I didnt understand that silence from the audience.
@philracks Жыл бұрын
1. Sätze wie "Wie gehts es dir was machst du" Sind Sätze die keinen semantischen Gehalt (Sinn). Aber einen sozialen. (Sinn=Ich habe dich da gesehen). Ich spreche dich an weil es sich so angefühlt hat, als wären wir zusammen hier. Klingt weird. Wir haben etwas gemeinsam. Wir finden dich beide scharf. Steh da nicht einfach so rum, du verschwindest vielleicht. 2. Große Gewinnmöglichkeiten unsere Sinne zu benutzen und nicht unsere Ängste: 2.1. Es befreit uns. Wahrnehmung anstatt in Kategorien zu denken klingt leichter als es ist. Du tendierst dazu weniger voreingenommen zu sein und bessere Entscheidungen zu treffen. 2.2. Flüchtige Intimität. kurze, vergängliche Momente emotionaler oder körperlicher Nähe zwischen z.B. fremden Personen. Es birgt Risiken und Belohnungen (..vergänglichen Natur. Wenn der Wunsch nach tieferer, dauerhafter Verbindung unerfüllt bleibt) , da sich Menschen anderen öffnen und sich gleichzeitig potenziellen emotionalen Schäden aussetzen. Aber es ist durch diese Momente, dass Menschen oft Momente echter Verbindung, Selbsterkenntnis und persönliches Wachstum finden. Bei Fremden sind wir durch diese Momente offener als gegenüber unserer Familie und unseren Freunden. 3. Civil Inattention (Balance Privacy und Civility) zB zwei Leute auf einer Straße. Sie blicken sich von einer Entfernung. Schauen aber dann weg wenn sie sich näher kommen um sich mehr Raum zu geben. Dänen neigen ab. Ägypter empfinden das ignorieren als unhöflich. 4. -> Wenn man manchmal die ungeschriebenen Regeln ein bisschen bricht -> Da entsteht die Aktion. 5. Regeln ein bisschen brechen durch: Augenkontakt-> Lächeln-> 6. Triangulation (Drei Dinge miteinander verknüpfen) -> Du, Sie und eine dritte Sache (Was beide sehen und kommentieren können). Hau einen Kommentar raus und schau ob sich daraus ein Gespräch ergibt. 7. Komplimente. Leute wollen einem immer von den Dingen die sie geil finden etwas erzählen. Also komplimentiere das. Du kannst dich immer mit dem Baby oder mit dem Hund von jemanden unterhalten aber nicht mit der Person selbst? Die Person steht unter dem Einfluss des "Leiters" Baby/ Hund. Objektpermanenz: Baby´s / Hunde checken nicht das etwas existiert, wenn sie es nicht mehr wahrnehmen können. Was das mit der Thematik zu tun hat? Anderes Thema... 8. Offenlegung. Fühlst du dich gut? Erzähle der Person etwas über dich. Etwas sehr persönliches. Leute teilen ihre eigene Erfahrung mit bestimmten Emotionen z.B. Verlust. Auf Offenlegung folgt Offenlegung. Fazit: Wenn du mit Fremden sprichst machst du wunderschöne Unterbrechungen in das tägliche Narrativ deines alltäglichen Lebens und deren Alltägliches Leben.
@lmlexi218 жыл бұрын
I always talk to strangers. Most of the time, I make their day better
@jimmy200978 жыл бұрын
some people just want to mind their own business and wish not to be bothered by strangers
@n7quantum4722 жыл бұрын
I see your comment is quite old and I'm just wondering; do you still feel this way?
@Avinashmantu7 жыл бұрын
Why you should not engage a lot with strangers is cuz they all have different opinions about everything and when they tell you this is wrong you might end up changing your perceptions about something which is not correct , you might lose your focus.
@mississippisteeler957 жыл бұрын
I find this deeply interesting. I do think many people are unsure about strangers and prefer to avoid them but most of that comes from very deep beliefs that most of society is bad. No doubt there are bad people out there but I think its good to try things like this and talk to strangers. On some occasions you might be surprised how willing they are to have a conversation with you.
@pianystrom81377 жыл бұрын
This is true. I had a conversation with a Jehovas witness the other day that was fantastic. I felt antagonistic at first, but we ended up having a very warm and positive talk. Our opinions and beliefs were very far apart, but it didn't matter. We listened to each other. Nobody got converted to any religion, and it felt good to blurt out some honesty.
@ahtim19008 жыл бұрын
hugh mungus
@ahtim19008 жыл бұрын
hugh mungus wot!? are you just sexual harassed me? how are you!? disgusting!
@ajanaya80558 жыл бұрын
why are you typing to yourself
@Dexduzdiz8 жыл бұрын
yeah, this guys absolutely lost it.
@DJBananaCrazy8 жыл бұрын
hugh mungus wot?!
@HigherPlanes8 жыл бұрын
Hi Hugh Mungus, I'm Hugh Jainus
@Greedo967 жыл бұрын
every time I make eye contact with a stranger I always smile. If I standing next to someone in an isle or something I'll ask them how their doing. idk why but I just do.
@radorimo67677 жыл бұрын
Not everyone is dealing with their feelings as an open book that others can read it. On the other hand, the isolation can lead away from friends or new people and new experiences may lead to disabling your development Personality. Learn to open up so you can improve your health mental, social and able to live life multiply, richer and deeper.
@shantelpereira32078 жыл бұрын
Now, this may be true in some cases but in some cases, it could mean possible danger, after all, the moment you walk up to a person you have no idea what they could do, but I do agree at some level.
@umsafiyah32297 жыл бұрын
where I come from, talking to strangers is just normal. Thus, people talk to people about their kids, education, life... about everything. We don't consider people we don't know as " strangers" but as familiar ...
@annan92165 жыл бұрын
You can learn a lot from the people you meet.
@whatlauralikes.8 жыл бұрын
I'm not a Dane but I can relate to what you said about them. It's my daily life. It actually hurts, it's so difficult to live when you're like that.
@MrSivansuresh7 жыл бұрын
I am an Indian. I am low in confidence. My low self confidence started hurting my career growth. I read self help books and watched lot of KZbin videos on social interaction. As an low confidence person with social awkwardness, talking to an European is very bad idea. After interacting with Europeans, I have to see myself in mirror to check if i am that scary-looking person :)
@YadiAnyankah7 жыл бұрын
i just love the way she talks.
@LordDragox4128 жыл бұрын
No. No you shouldn't. Stay away! >:( Sincerely, an introvert.
@crimsoncorsair92508 жыл бұрын
👍 I agree
@QuixoticDucky7 жыл бұрын
Tell us more. Can you substantiate your claim with statistically significant data, or is it circumstantial?
@LordDragox4127 жыл бұрын
Please, Codepants, at least try to construct your question in a proper manner if you expect to get an answer from an introvert, otherwise you leave them scared and confused and unable to respond in a manner you expect them. Also, "Tell us more."? Dear sir, I am an introvert. Either you do the talking, or listen to the peaceful and quiet ambient sounds that surround me and leave me be, as I am existing in a plane far beyond the material one, that lies in my head, between my mind and my thoughts. Do not burst into my introvert bubble and respect my personal space.
@rorrt8 жыл бұрын
The feeling, or perhaps the phenomenon of being able to tell strangers your secrets is called Rime of the Ancient Mariner, or something like that. I've told stranger that i've self harmed, that I turned into a semi-alcoholic, and that was the real reason why i've stopped drinking now. Suppose its what i'm doing now.. Its strange, but also very important. Although the last part, about engaging in conversation has nothing much to do with the overall video. In my experience, and i'm pretty good at this because i keep up with loads of fashion and lifestyle magazines, and i worked in a photo studio. Everyone loves a hair, shoes or handbag complement. I've never met a girl who hasn't appreciated that.
@arturpirozkov96268 жыл бұрын
It is one of the most clear and useful speech
@stinknus8 жыл бұрын
Yeah that guy driving around with free candy painted on the side seemed nice
@jojojorisjhjosef8 жыл бұрын
Talking to strangers in Sweden is rude. My point, your philosophy is just that. Yours.
@georgecataloni47208 жыл бұрын
She mentioned that with Danes.
@Wauly8 жыл бұрын
How do you make friends?
@jojojorisjhjosef8 жыл бұрын
***** no
@ProAssassin638 жыл бұрын
Wow, must be sad living in Sweden. Don't you guys feel isolated or lonely?
@retcon19918 жыл бұрын
I can't imagine anything worse than constantly greeting / being greeted by other people on the street. It's like a road, a transportation route - people have places to get to. If an asinine comment like the example given validates you in any way, I'd suggest your other social links are under-nourishing.
@tarico44368 жыл бұрын
Social links where you think you're chatting with a hot babe, but instead you're chatting with an eleven year old boy with pimples. And what if you're just sitting there on your bus/train? It's not like a convo with a stranger is going to make you late for work. Get a grip, ben.
@tarico44368 жыл бұрын
There are limits either way, ben. Never talk to strangers? You'll never have friends. Talk to every stranger every time? You'll often be late for work!! bassben04