Why you stayed with a narcissist for so long

[@smokingcrab2290]

I stayed because I truly gave it my all and truly honored my covenant and took my love for her seriously. Then I learned that the only reason she was special was because of my love for her.

[@Ravi-Akiba-Ben-David]

I feel that...😔🙌🙏

[@davidemm829]

Those words you share are very good Danielle Radin. Ty

[@careycrews1]

14 years of that Hamster wheel...I escaped late 23'. WHEW!!!!!

[@C.A.MARSUPIAL-ys6tl]

Well said.

[@cynicalafflictional1725]

Been sobering up and detoxing for this last week.. he doesn't have anything I want. I must remember this truth.

[@dinab7852]

100% accurate just like all your videos. My narcissistic ex-husband vanished for the final time in April of this year after 12 years of abuse of every kind. Thank God I'm free! 🙏🏻

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

*Danielle Radin said ... "You didn't even know you were participating in a marathon."* *Dr. James Martin said ... "I didn't know this was a fight."* *Nefariomous said ... "That's why you are losing."* *The "Nefarious" Movie circa era 2023*

[@johnmaurer2035]

"Good people are rarely suspicious: they cannot imagine others doing things they themselves are incapable of doing; usually, they accept the undramatic solution as the correct one, and let matters rest there. Then too, the normal are inclined to visualize the [psychopath] as one who's as monstrous in appearance as he is in mind, which is about as far from the truth as one could well get...These monsters of real life usually looked and behaved in a more normal manner than their actually normal brothers and sisters; they presented a more convincing picture of virtue than virtue presented of itself--just as the wax rosebud or the plsatic peachseemd more perfect to the eye, more what the mind thought a rosebud or a peach should be, than the imperfect original from which it had been modelled." Robert D. Hare,

[@johnmaurer2035]

Pretty sure we all knew that something wasn't right at the time. But we blamed ourselves as being soft, gullable, naive, etc.

[@ginkgo2021]

Thank you. 33 years in the relationship. I didn’t know about narcissism until after he discarded me. Such a master manipulator. The nicest guy in the world to anyone outside the relationship. A lousy therapist I reached out to 0:15 after the discard did not, or refused, to label his behavior as narcissistic. That was a waste of time and did unnecessary further damage. Beware of the therapists out there who are not knowledgeable about the disorder. If you suspect narcissistic abuse, ask potential therapists about their knowledge of the disorder before you hire them.

[@johnmaurer2035]

There's Book Smart, and there's Street Smart.

[@greghayes7933]

Ty really needed to hear this …20 years I can never get back…for me it was when I finally put down a boundary as to why she hadn’t touched me literally in 7 years …then thrown away like trash …been 6-7 years now and it’s still mind bending people can think like these freaks do

[@fishtripb7363]

So RIGHT!

[@RobertBrown-f8t]

Exactly correct. It has been a difficult journey for me after 45 years of living with this person but I am still recovering and doing well at this stage of my life. Doing it one day at a time.

[@waleedbhatti7254]

I've spent just 7 months with a covert narc and i completely lost myself in order to make it work and make her happy. After reading the comments i've realized that the pain i went through was nothing as compared to others. Hats off to the people who have spent years and decades with narcicisst and they are still strong and fighting this againts the trauma they suffered. Stay strong everyone, chase your dreams and live the life you have always wanted, you'll find true love one day

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

As a self aware, diagnosed narcissist I believe that most people hang on because of one word: Hope.

[@johnleeson6946]

After four years, I finally bailed on my (out of state) narc in 2023; MY CALL! Looking back, there were signs that I missed. "I just got home (9:20pm)" "And where were YOU?!" "Trivia Night." "Oh, I thought it was Tuesday..." "I LET you watch two football games!!!" "Oh, now I have to submit my TV watching requests to you?!" She hated it when I'd mention my late wife. She wanted to be the attention of everything. I asked the first woman I dated after my wife passed if she had a problem with me talking about her. Her response was, "I don't have a problem with you talking about her at all, but if you ask me that question again, you'll never see me after this!" MESSAGE RECEIVED AND UNDERSTOOD!!!! She retired to Florida with her daughter, but we still keep in touch. Wonderful woman who helped me through a bad time in my life. 💌🤟

[@ValerieAzar-d3y]

I stayed 40 years. Finally free from the evil treatment.

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

*_It's even way worse. Back in the day when I was making the jump from Classical Catgut Guitar to 6-String Dreadnought. Then onto the 12-String, finishing out with Electric. So 1 of the 1st songs I learned that had all 4 was "Find Your Way Back" by Jefferson Starship. For me, it had it ALL. I loved it so much I just couldn't get enough of it. It was made for me. I still get bumps playing it. It was the 1st lead I ever learned. Chaquico sure shed his grace on that 1. Then 1 day wondering why I kept going back I listened to the lyrics._** Jefferson Starship "Find Your Way Back" Official Music Video KZbin **4:25*

[@lannybackes1053]

My story 💯 But I have full custody of our 3 kids and I'll take that as win, they make life fun and more than worth what she put me through. Granted, she made the end of it as painful as possible, the lying, cheating, future faking, love me one day but not the next, playing the victim to reactive abuse...it sucked for sure! But now it's all in the rear view mirror and the kids and I aren't walking on eggshells anymore and truly enjoying life!

[@carolniemann8966]

I really needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@CatherineYoungbauer-gw5lx]

i stayed because i had a hero complex and wanted him to change and be better. only got worse.

[@randycoolbaugh1408]

I'm just getting tired... Tired of up-rooting and loosing things and all the time I invested in relationships. Tired of the BS drama and gaslighting. Tired of a lifetime thinking that I have finally "found the one" just to have them turn on me like a dog. Tired of defending myself. Now I'm old and even less would be even remotely Interested in me. So, it's time to just accept fate and settle. I just let my narc gf just have her way. Just for the peace I can get. I'm tired...

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Amen 🙏

[@passionaterawvegan]

I'm 19 years in

[@natashaflowers4456]

*****AMEN, AMEN, AMEN AND AMEN FOR THIS FOR, DANIELLE*****!! 😦😦😦😦😦🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 *****AMEN*****!! 😦😦😦😦😦🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 *****THANK YOU, DANIELLE*****!! 😦😦😦😦😦🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 *****THANK YOU*****!! 😦😦😦😦😦🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 *****AND WITH LOVE, AS ALWAYS*****!! 😦😦😦😦😦❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏 - MOMMY NATASHA

[@FynchsTip]

Mine was involved in my being gang stalked & nearly had me killed. I wonder if that’s also sociopathy or psychopathy ?

[@davidemm829]

You Are left with incomprehensible demoralizing...meaning your shame assisted them...get ride of shame first, shame - I am bad guilt-i did something bad...

[@shadowcapital]

Danielle… Narcissist is a human with high / big Ego… Maybe you are wrong too for boosting his Ego, putting him on pedestal. Don’t hate him. As a result, with ‘Victim Mentality’, you can turn into one as well… Dark. One with CPTSD can show attitudes like the person who causes the trauma, and end up inflicting the same injury to others who care (Empaths). Meditate. Forgive. I love (care about) you.

[@willshredd]

love sucks then

[@willshredd]

you move on to a better life, wiser. just know you will get there.. go thru it, cant control that process, let it happen. dont hurt yourself to much and turn that corner . feel that. focus love in out tomorrow is a dream coming to meet you.

[@FoxSleeping]

I want to share this video with Danielle and the community. The Godfather of Narcissism says it the best: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y3bSaIeigL2ohdksi=icYHBC6XWp3_fDBT

[@johnmaurer2035]

Cheating is a choice, not a mistake.

[@johnmaurer2035]

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[@Arcturus549]

Did they have a medical diagnosis confirming NPD?