Why Your Ex Might Trick You To Break No Contact

[@ElJacobo1000]

From someone who knows what you guys are all experiencing, just live your life and look at the positives in everything that happens. Don’t worry about things you can’t control and trust that everything happens for the right reasons. It will work out as it should, don’t beat yourself up over it

[@angelaportman1325]

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[@TRESHONCURRY]

Exactly

[@Reza-es7gd]

Thank you so much I needed to hear this today 🙏

[@sirius1373]

''You shouldn't look at them with soft, loving, sympathetic warm eyes because really in a lot of ways they are thinking of you less; They're putting you in a place where they are not being considered of you. They are not thinking well i broke it off with this person i should reach out... No they're wanting you to do it.'' You made my day!

[@ddy4evr]

Yes this!!!

[@OnderHassan]

Yep, its a Narcissist tactic known as “Hoovering”. I would strongly recommend reading a book on Narcissism to educate yourself on it. This type of behaviour isn’t normal or healthy.

[@theaveragejoe6854]

@@OnderHassan over used term

[@ah2552]

I'm too old to be playing these games.

[@thomasfoley7906]

The most relatable thing I've read all day

[@CorndancerHawkeyes91254]

Exactly what I told my ex and let him go the same day, moved on, NO CONTACT!

[@bowilliam3865]

Thaaank you

[@wildanS]

Well, if you don't respond then you're not playing it. If you think "oh I'm not playing games" and do whatever you feel like, and respond to the bait... congratulations, you got played.

[@papishow]

Amen.

[@AirForce1Collector]

I guess it was Divine intervention ...I almost texted him but I came here...this is where I'll stay Thank you Sir for your good advice.

[@ginorossi8745]

7777777oo

[@victorherreraguzman5014]

Did it work?

[@AirForce1Collector]

He came back to hurt me more...he's gone again 😪

[@victorherreraguzman5014]

@@AirForce1Collector hopefully for good. Cheer up and keep the good work.

[@nanbanjinchannel5716]

@@AirForce1Collector same thing here, back to hurt me

[@sonicfoxxmusic4281]

The single life is under-rated.

[@sonicfoxxmusic4281]

Let me justify my point above by adding another sentence into the mix. "THE SINGLE LIFE IS COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY UNDERRATED IF YOU DON'T SPEND ENOUGH TIME THINKING ABOUT WHO YOU ARE MARRYING AND WHETHER OR NOT THEY HAVE THE THOUGHT PATTERN, INTENTION, EXCESS TIME AND PURE THOUGHTS OF EVIL WHICH THEY MAY LAY HELLFIRE IN YOUR PATH...on your walk to being successful in whatever life throws at you along the way". If you get any bad vibes in those early days....trust your intuition and learn to pack a bag with everything you need to survive six months alone on a desert island..because THAT will be where you need to go to think properly and intelligently. Swap the word intelligently around and you will find two important words....INTELLECT and GENTLY. Think and gently, use your intellect....but you need to find thinking space.

[@sonicfoxxmusic4281]

....or they are a Narc...then you really are in trouble.

[@DigitalFire5000]

I only learned this after finding the one that no one could compare to... then still losing them.

[@charlierobles316]

It is

[@isaachayes21]

Correct

[@yk8301]

DO NOT CHASE, DO NOT CHASE...Coach Lee I am reminded of your warning every time my ex tries to manipulate me into breaking no contact by just stalking me on social media platforms...I will not stroke my ex's ego!! Thank you!!!

[@christiannilsen2835]

Agree. Even as I failed NC many times and all those mistakes it still works after that. They have huge ego and fill it up every single time we break our own rules and forget that out dignity is number one, and what is attractive in ANY person.

[@annemarie7203]

How about when they unfollowed you but left you on their followers list?

[@1dawg243]

@@annemarie7203They wanted you to react. Believe they’re still watching your every move

[@DMuvvy]

How do you know they are stalking you or looking at your social media. Is there a way to tell? Or do they have to “like” something first you to tell? I have Facebook only

[@tankthearc9875]

the bitch told me she wants a serious talk , faked me out all she said was it was hard to pull away from me., i feel stupid for breaking no contact when i thought it was serious

[@tytaylor8525]

UPDATE!!!! GOT HER BACK!!!! YOU'RE A GODDAMN GENIUSES!!!! LISTEN TO THIS MAN!!!! THANK YOU!!!

[@mochamonie8726]

Ty Taylor how long were you in no contact ?

[@tytaylor8525]

simone duty 45 days...

[@tytaylor8525]

The key for me was/is to have TOTAL EMOTIONAL CONTROL. AT ALL TIMES... Don't just fake it. Work on it. Every single day. Focus on the absolute best in you. Your greatest qualities. Your beliefs. Your goals. And (here's the thing) BE OK WITH THE BREAK UP... Knowing you are not just valuable but PRICELESS... It means TAKING ON THE VERY NATURE OF ONE WHO IS POISED, RESPONSIBLE, RESPECTED, GOOD LOOKING, and MOST OF ALL HAS AS MANY OPTIONS AS YOU WANT... It will be HARD... Real hard... But as for me, I was so tired of not having what I deserved, I began to watch this man's videos over and over until it got into my spirit. I mean I had the single minded focus of a MONK... And then, it didn't matter if she came back or not... And that's when they realize that YOU ARE THE PRIZE... And-you-KNOW-it...

[@SwaggyVilla]

So happy for you ❤️ I’m on 3 months

[@Haitiancowboyhtx]

Me so Sorry update

[@DayaTom]

Yup, I fell into that trap, after a whole month and more of no contact, I saw he posted a bunch of sad songs so well fitted to our situation.. Don't make my mistake. It's not worth it. I wish I had seen this beforehand.

[@eulywade9745]

Daya Tom what’s the update on u and him?

[@taichiwisdom1209]

Daya Tom I think your awesome I’m sorry that he’s not coming around, the best thing you can do, is hit the gym, take yourself out to eat with friends take photos of it and post it on social media, the quickest way to get a guys attention that loves you, is show yourself having fun as if he never existed. It drives us nuts!!!

[@plusultra5735]

@@taichiwisdom1209 and if it's opposite, a woman.. what can I do?

[@OPPSATO1]

Did this myself after 29 days of NC, because she unfollowed me from instagram

[@cindyhenderson9777]

Mine put a I'm at the movies with my gems means her 2 younger boys. This was during no communication, 3 weeks before that when we did communicate she never posted going movies with the boys. So I sense it's an attempt to get me to reach out. Oh trust me it's so hard and hurts so much not to just talk like bloody adults

[@seanj11421]

Imagine adults having to decipher is the other adult playing mind games? Who wants to deal with that? That is Narcissistic behavior. And who in their right minds would want to deal with that? We owe ourselves so much more! Coach Lee is spot on… They should be the ones reaching out to you. If they don’t, then you know they aren’t as healthy as you are. There is a lot said in unspoken conversations!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Naes, people who play "mind games" do have narcissistic traits, but that doesn't make them a narcissist. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent! It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@seanj11421]

@@jannlewandowski5540 What you say is true and I agree with you 100%. I made my comment under the pretense of the covert narcissist doing so with ulterior motives behind the act. I have Coach Lee’s package and it is great.

[@OxinerProductions12]

Stop overanalyzing the Situation and live in the present. If they reach out that's great! If they don't then it's not the end of the world, you will find another one.

[@jellegiesen4889]

You literally shifted my mindset in a second. Thank you!

[@frankl7370]

@Nxbxxha_17 I know it seems like they’re the only one who can make you happy and all other pale in comparison. But that’s simply not true. The relationship was special because it took two people. Without your love and input it wouldn’t have been the way it was. Take that special love you have and start a whirlwind romance with someone else. Someone who wants you, someone who actually deserve you. Just a thought.

[@us5freaak]

oh be quiet you're not being realistic

[@ketobodybuilder2482]

Easier said then done with a person you were married to for many years. It takes time.

[@Happyheart146]

I replied and wished him well. He turned sour pretty quickly, guess he was hoping I'd beg. Its too much bs. He doesn't realise how much easier he just made it. I'm over him.

[@msstarjames6668]

U go girl

[@Amonix]

Did you broke up ? Or he did ? Why did you wish him well ? Did he answered after that ? Thank you

[@Happyheart146]

@@Amonix In retrospect, I was mostly the problem (I'm an alcoholic) it had been a turbulent few years. He would dump me regularly. Then I started doing the 'no contact' route (making sure I wished him well and thus leaving a route back to him in future as there was less chance I'd be blocked) Everyone's situation is different but I can say that 'no contact' works. It's a 'shot to nothing' as they say. We are still together and I've sobered up now. I hope things work out well for you x

[@Amonix]

Alice InChristchurch thank you for the answer Alice, for me it is different she dumped me because she were thinking I cheated on her and she was insecure, I tried to prove her everytime that I could that I was clean, after she dumped me it was a rollercoaster of emotions from her, from insults to feeling sorry, then she block me on Instagram and WhatsApp , she unblock on WhatsApp 2 times (still block on Instagram) and she felt bad to block me, after 1 week I called her and told her I missed her and I realized that we did a lot of mistakes etc, she said it was over for her and that she wants to vomit if she see me again, the day after this she blocked me again after I changed my profile pic on WhatsApp, telling me that I don't have to prove her anything while changing my profile pic. 5 days later after she party with alcohol guys and fake people she unblock me tried to call me and sended me messages where she said let's stay friends good vibes etc etc, I told her that I'll bring her stuff back she agreed we met up the next day for 1h30 and I told her I was okay with the breakup I feel good and blablabla ... when we got back to my car I gave her stuff and then she suddenly hug me and start crying hard, I kissed her neck and head and it was an intense moment... she then left in tears, I went out of my car to go back to her and she just told me "I'm sure you come back, leave me alone you want to manipulate me you don't respect the fact I wanna be alone now etc..." I left, same night I told her that It was good to see her and we can stay in peace she can unblock me on Instagram we are fine, she said she felt good to see me but she could not unblock me on Instagram now we need more distance but after a while she will, I said okay and told her I like her and I want her to be happy, she said ok bye. After 10 days where I could see her friends checking on my Instagram stories etc... I decided to send my ultimate message, I don't wanted to play mind game and I told her that I'm working on myself, that I lover her and I will give her the space she need and I will work on to give her the security she needs to be with me, if she give us a chance. I even offered to pay for therapy if she wanted to work on herself aswell, I told also that I don't except anything from her and sent my love... she just answered that it was good to know that I work on myself and she wished me all the best. After this I'm feeling free because I played my last card while being real and telling her my real feelings. I'm still blocked on Instagram but not WhatsApp I didn't answered, but sometimes her friends check my Instagram and I don't think it's a coincidence, anyway I'm having new friends I'm going at the gym I'm feeling good, I'm just sad that she didn't gave another chance because I really loved her and never cheated on her.

[@Happyheart146]

@@Amonix I really feel for what you've been through. You sound like a really good person. You have taken the mature route and you're definitely doing the right thing by looking after yourself. If you don't mind me saying, it sounds like there could be something much deeper going on with your ex. If not BPD then at least deep insecurity/immaturity. The fact you returned her things, offered to pay for her therapy and such, is a testament to what a kind, loving person you are. You deserve someone special and I really hope you find them. Life can be a bittersweet journey but I truly believe there is a plan for us and there is true love. As for social media, it can slow down the healing. Only you can decide if you would take her back, should she try, but by checking the Instagram/what's app, it's like poking at a wound with a stick. I have been guilty of this too. Should you be the one to block, she may try to reach out - we want what we can't have, hence only you can decide. If she truly loved you, she'd find a way back. Though I feel like you are on your way to a sweeter path and happiness belongs to a beautiful soul like you. Love and light around you always x

[@Raquelzinhaamorosa]

You are so intelligent person. I appreciate your advice. During no contact I decided that I don't want to get back with my ex even he trying to reach me out. First, I declined politely as you mentioned and in the second attempt he tried to lash me out I just ignored him, so I don't want him anymore. Thank you so much. Sometimes all we need is time and space to see things clearly.

[@tacobelle69]

Ughh 248’s comment... why all women should just stay single and use vibrators

[@SAMEntalhealth]

@@MeCorbeau stfu

[@garyhanson638]

Good for you! That's my current situation.

[@princhipessa1969]

This was seriously the best information I’ve heard. Thank you!

[@shrikantborde8143]

What happened

[@blackbeauty2166]

I don't have time for the b.s. either have something important to talk about or leave me the hell alone... No friendship either. Childish

[@lindasimyu6414]

Exactly

[@wilnieves3544]

Coach Lee is the James Bond of relationship advice

[@jameshowlett7366]

Happened to me, total truth bomb. And now shes trying it again and its way less subtle, NEVER falling for it again. Listen to this guy bros

[@kizzikimani6879]

I wish I watched this 3 days ago...reverse psychology is real

[@nexsusblue9728]

Oof

[@MohaKingmoha]

absolutely coach your right i have seen many time is happen to me its trus people must trust you word your the man on hes word lee thnk you so much

[@MohaKingmoha]

@@kizzikimani6879 its real ad its depends how strong your

[@MohaKingmoha]

@@kizzikimani6879 still there is hope

[@growth2509]

I'm greatful for this video. I have experienced this so I know it's true. Your ex has to see you as an equal in order to contact you. Once you fall for the trick you re-establish their perception that they are superior. Don't let anyone treat you this way. Thank you coach!

[@sheenachante]

Omg I am so grateful to you Lee. I ALMOST send my ex a bullshit text literally this morning because these two months have been hell. Instead I watched your videos and tried to have faith and he called me! It’s barely even a start and I think he’s testing me. I was nice because I got bad advice before to be mean to him, and I was cold before but this time I was nice and short. I think this is a solid start and you have helped me so much with these videos.

[@JorDel_1111]

Update?

[@sheenachante]

@@JorDel_1111 things are actually a LOT better. I have some resentment over last year, but we communicate better. I don’t view this as a game like some people do, I really did work on myself and realized I needed to get back to my hobbies and loving myself and things fell into place.

[@JorDel_1111]

@@sheenachante Thanx for the reply dear V happy n hopeful listening to ur positive results 😄😃😁 Btw can I ask something? My ex ignored my text sent on Jan 30 He seenzoned it on April 1st Does it mean he misses me n urges to break NC of 2 months ?

[@sheenachante]

@@JorDel_1111 that could mean that I think. I would wait for a reply and go from there. Its easier said then done believe me I know.

[@JorDel_1111]

@@sheenachante ik 🤧 Thanx for understanding dear 🤗 Pray for me plz 🥺❤️ U know I doubted on his character n said things which I shouldn't have He was almost abt to cry He's v emotional I cut him deep unintentionally ! 😫😣😖😩😭😭😭😭

[@gracesemple2966]

I really needed to hear this right now! Coach Lee always has a way of stopping me in my tracks just as I’m about to do something stupid. I was about to reach out to my guy who is sending out signals that he misses me. However, I need to remember that he was the one that broke contact with me and I am worthy of a proper reunion. I am not a pigeon pecking for crumbs. Many thanks Coach.

[@jackl8915]

Agreed.

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

Update please.

[@tyetr9853]

Update us

[@flaco0526]

She's a narcissistic, sending me text like "I never realized just how toxic you were until being around someone normal. Wow, what a difference." almost tricked me to texting her back negatively

[@ToddSmithRealEstate]

Right... stay strong. Don't take the bait! She's just trying to get a reaction out of you. It's a control thing, a power play. After a few weeks or months of no contact, all of that anger will cool down. If she really thought you were that toxic, she wouldn't be texting you.

[@harshjones1688]

All you can do is use that hurt as motivation to grow yourself.

[@ketobodybuilder2482]

Trying to make you jealous but they dont get if they are with someone else its a turnoff.

[@SuperVincegg]

I fell for it. My ex contacted me during no contact then I realized she was just getting her power stroke. I then told her not to contact me anymore unless she wanted to work things out. I hope I did the right thing...

[@josephhein9497]

You did, man.

[@GermanicHispanic]

Update?? Howd it go??

[@2Tall_Powerlifting]

Update?

[@GermanicHispanic]

@@2Tall_Powerlifting well idk bout his story. But i dumped my X. And ended up regretting it. Tried to get her back and No luck. Im at a loss. How bout you?? Whats your story??

[@taichiwisdom1209]

Hey bro stay strong, I know it’s hard my love of 3 years just broke my heart today is day 3 no contact. Always remain grounded and focus on the goal of what we are trying to achieve because you are an amazing guy and you do offer that person something that no one else does. But she has to be the one to realize this. You already know you love her she has to learn if she truly feels the way she has been telling she has. Love you bro I’m here for you. Stay strong 💪!!!

[@andrechanghim8793]

I needed this video so badly today, i was so close to break no contact, you are truly a gift of God, thank you

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

Update.

[@andrechanghim8793]

@@cyrusvanbeethoven4626 well it did work i got back with her for a while but then i started to see that i was better without her, so i broke it up and im all the better for it

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

@@andrechanghim8793 how long were you in no contact? Tell me a bit about the experience once she broke no contact. Her approach, and your response if you don't mind please?

[@andrechanghim8793]

@@cyrusvanbeethoven4626 yeah i dont mind, well i stayed in no contact for 2 months like he sugested but she never broke no contact, i did and she was very welcoming you could almost feel the excitement when i said hi, but she tried to play it cool and we just talked like friends, and of course i never mentioned the relationship or even the idea of me getting back with her in fact i tried to stay busy, i would talk with her for a while and then say that i had to go somewhere and that i would talk to her later, and 3 or 4 hours later would tell her something that happend to me, it was about a week until we started talking about the relationship, she apologized for a lot of things and so did i, it was great and we got back together but when i started feeling like she didnt put any effort i broke it up again and focused on my self, if your in the same situation as i was i suggest you give it a shot, even if it didnt work out im glad i did it because ill never wonder what could have been

[@marcvslicinivscrassvs7536]

This guy is on point.

[@jacobanswine760]

This page is so soothing, to everyone out there dealing with something just know it gets better. Always trust that everything happens for the better and watch it unfold, it’s really all about your mindset

[@BAn-mu4qe]

Thank you SO much for talking to us about the dumper's ego & desire for power. And, thank you for talking about being polite and about vagueness. You are GOOD at what you do.🌺

[@charlottecarter2760]

The best thing you said on this vid :look, they think they’re the higher being, the better person, they have all the power in their eyes , so they have to come back to you & want you” They made their bed and you have to accept it and let them lie there

[@chrisbryant2283]

thank you coach lee 5 months ago ex tried trick me like liking all social media posts. i no fall for it. thank you for letting me know I did good job

[@ewddewffew]

Guys please take his advice cuz I ignored it though I’ve watched this video I thought “Nah it wont happen to me, look at what she just posted she definitely wants me back but she’s afraid of me rejecting her” I swear to you guys the moment I reached out tho she was online she responded with a cold ass text an hour and half later. Here I am heartbroken again. Im on radio silence for a month then proceeding with NC till she reaches out. Stay strong guys

[@tacobelle69]

SoldierT what did she post?

[@ewddewffew]

@@tacobelle69 she posted on twitter some sad posts about how she was lonely n shit and guess what she did after I reached out? she deleted her tweets! now she throws me breadcrumbs from time to time but Im gone!

[@OPPSATO1]

@@ewddewffew Happend to me too. But suddenly she unfollowed me on instagram. So i panicked and reached out. She went cold and said she had moved on. Broke my heart agian. Been suffering so much since then.

[@alexanderstevens145]

Now you know to unfollow on social media or remove (but dont block) and to never contact her ever again unless she basically begs for your d again even then ghost that beech. They laugh at you with their girlfriends and show the new guy your soppy texts.

[@asands123]

@@ronmexico8383 that is so not true.

[@Jez768]

I think it's also important to consider if you even want a gf/bf who does this to you, if they do come back.

[@sandrasorci5527]

The gospel once more as preached by Coach Lee! Thank you, Coach!

[@rakisuccess0813]

Yes that's what my ex said, let's just be friends as that's all they can offer me. I'm in limbo with this.

[@Armonia-ts9lg]

I am so grateful I found your videos! Thank you, thank you, thank you! I broke up with my boyfriend more than one month ago and immediately went into no contact. I really didn't think he was the kind of guy who could play these "tricks" or have second thoughts... but after 3 weeks of no contact he started posting soooo much on social media (and... before NOT AT ALL. Like NOTHING. Never did), especially with stuff we used to do together or stuff we were talking about! I'm shocked! But if he's really acting like coach Lee says, even if I thought there was no way, maybe he'll get through the other stages too and finally reaches out! In the meanwhile, I'm working on myself and realizing all the things I did wrong, and how to stand up for myself... with him or the next person! Thank you! And y'all... stay strong!

[@PumpkinKingXXIII]

Yep, great advise, never take a low ball offer. My ex offered that and I walked away!

[@dustinwb84]

Relationships and marriages were way more loyal and faithful before we got all this social media. There is more evil in the world than people think. I bet that all soul mates are in different peoples lives.

[@SP-vw3pg]

wise words, stay strong and regain power! Be the man.

[@heemapandya6141]

Honestly been nice & showing humanity isn’t the thing now a days… it’s real life not a Disney movie where people can see your good heart & decide to get back to you … just don’t respond to insignificant msgs during NO CONTACT cause ex just keep engaging with you there is no need to be nice cause once you respond they will know that you are still their for them that’s how the whole cycle will continue without him/her getting serious … they gives you breadcrumbs every few days .. feeds their Ego until they find someone new and boom 💥 they are gone ..

[@xcoachkim]

I completely understand the difficulty you're facing since I've personally been through the same. I want to recommend Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." I hate to use this word….but it's really transformative! The workshop is for saving your relationship after a breakup or separation (or if it looks like one is coming). You’ll also have a coaching call every month for 6 months so you won’t be left alone to handle this yourself. Anyway, I suggest getting more information about it. You can schedule an appointment to discuss at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I genuinely believe this experience will be enlightening and immensely valuable for you.

[@megangraham9947]

Thank you so much for these informative videos. Understanding the psychology behind the behaviours of people in the midst of a break-up has slowly helped me to move forward and look towards finding a higher-value relationship. Every time I find myself in a whirlwind of emotions, I remember your videos and logic prevails!

[@therangagunasekera6627]

True I do the same . Thank you coach

[@kaycan-y5b]

3 years after and this is still GOLD!!!

[@sabajanjua9323]

Got tricked last night after 7 weeks of no-contact but not falling for it however shows that they feel the space which is all that I need

[@MarshallSmith27]

I would be struck dead if a girl ever sent me flowers. especially after we broke up. I've never had any girl really do anything out of their way for me

[@maelysmagrini]

Not ever?? I almost flew to another country for a guy.

[@Don-pk2uy]

@@maelysmagrini lucky guy most women don't give 2 fucks

[@TecchyTutorials]

if they are in love with you, they will try and make it as obvious as they can that they love you. These girls probably didnt love as you much as you thought.

[@eatanotherzio6811]

@@TecchyTutorials *"if they are in love with your wallet" There we go all fixed

[@robabicicletas]

My ex sent me concert tickets. I bought him a plane ticket for him to see the band with me, as we were supposed to got together. He told me he was shocked but couldn’t go, that he sent them because I deserve the experience and it was my favorite band, he also said for me to invite whoever I want haha. I told him I only wanted to go with him and sell the other ticket. He cheated and I broke the relationship, I’m the one that was pursuing us getting back together- we met and kissed before in another concert but I told him we needed to talk before getting back together. I guess he sent the tickets out of guilt probably? I still don’t understand if it was a massive breadcrumb or what.

[@robertswift6101]

my ex did that,,like a cat and mouse game,,,very very toxic

[@lauradurham1913]

My ex was telling my cousin lies about me!! That was his way of trying to make me break no contact! Screw him!!!

[@h3arty]

Sometimes I don't know if you're trying to be funny, but you make me laugh so much lol. You have this passion that can get fiery lol

[@AyeshaSajjad-uq2ci]

Is someone here in 2024

[@cocochannel8932]

@coachlee you literally saved me from killing my self today. My ex is telling some girl in Syria how much he loves her . Calling her my pet name. Thank you for the clarity! And literally stopping me from swallowing a hand full of pills 💔🙏

[@razer627]

Hope you are doing great

[@tammyshaw9995]

LOL! It’s pretty blunt but I love your directness. It makes me laugh at myself a bit, but also helps fortify my determination. Thank you for these videos.

[@michaelvargas82]

My ex has been posting hurt and emotional pins on her Pintrest for weeks. Still in NC. She knows I still follow her and I am sticking to NC as the dumpee. Fell for the bait early after the break up and Coach Lee was spot on. Acted cold and reconfirmed her decision.

[@hellooholly]

Coach Lee you are an excellent speaker. You dissect the issues so well. Clear and right to the point with considering the human side of us. Thank you for your time and caring advices. Best

[@kennethmcnair2740]

I came across this video by surprise and have to say man your info is on point and makes a whole lot of sense....keep providing great content.

[@tytaylor8525]

THE ABSOLUTE BEST!!! (even though this shit hurts like hell) Thank you, coach!!!!!! Getting back to realizing my value...

[@user-ch1ck1dx2y]

I did this no contact. 1 week after we broke up. She return to her ex. After she return to her ex, she blocked me in social media and in her phone. I message her using other number and said to her that she return to her ex. She reply saying she cannot let go of her ex, and she also said that she try to love me but she's more in to her ex, she also said that i can find the girl which really loves me. I reply to her a goodluck in there relationship. After that i did no contact, move on with myself, focus on improving my well being, and after two months, she called me offering friendship. I talked to her as if nothing happened to us but didn't answer the friendship she was offering. And by the way she calls me which her boyfriend didnt know. Right now i am still focusing on my self improvement. As time goes by, there are many girls which grew interest in me. But still i need to do more improvement in myself.

[@IvanGeorgiev---]

Your chances with her are close to 0 :)

[@xrphodor3369]

I was on vacation last month and went kayaking. I updated my whatsapp profile picture. I'm 30 days NC and I'm fine. thanks Lee your videos continue to educate. my ex change whatsapp profile picture shortly after i changed mine. I guess it's not a coincidence, never mind.. she needs to fix it and I'll leave her with that... Be strong ❤

[@igorbalanovski182]

When my girl broke up with me, when I said ''take care of yourself'', she said: ''if you want to talk just call'' LOL

[@RealCoachLee]

LOL, of course she did. Watch this video all the way through: m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3nYq3SqgLyVmdE

[@RM-ju9ny]

My girl broke up with me and she said the same thing: "You can call me whenever you want to."

[@christopherwilliams4936]

😂😂😂🤣🤣those were her last words to me

[@ernitahap2718]

Same as my Ex Bf. And with a kiss emoticon. What do they actually mean?

[@hagarmoses7023]

My ex said the same to me . He said “ you can call me anytime, you really don’t bother me” imagine that, I was hurt but I’m a survivor ,God is good.

[@emanuel_soundtrack]

a really appreciate the quantity of hours you and other coaches spend repeating some things. Because its true: our diseases just repetition and heartfull words can heal.

[@emanuel_soundtrack]

But sometimes it makes me laugh! like idea fixe haha

[@isaacsmith3529]

Give them what they asked for, they know you want them so by showing you can stand on your own 2 feet they will have to stand on theirs aswell without the option of falling back on you.

[@travis6694]

This is it. Bingo. You are so right. Because there expectations get squashed over time of thinking the dumpee will come begging back.

[@DNATruLyricist]

My ex did this exact thing.. out of the blue after a month.. she messaged me asking me if I banked with wells fargo.. because she got a message on my phone with my name on it.. so that's the trick she pulled.. then she sparked some small talk.. and then dissapeared completely.. then over a week later I fell for the bait, and asked her if she would like to grab a bite to eat as friends.. and guess what.. just like coach Lee said... NO REPLY.. Cuz she got her ego stroke... and that's all she wanted.. but she DID reach out over some time.. and if I would have not sent that chase message she might of reached out again.. but I believe in the no contact still because when we did talk, I was friendly and cival.. no bitterness... and I showed nothing but a kind friendly manner.. so I believe if I go back into no contact, she will eventually message again, but next time I WILL BE READY FOR THE EGO STROKE.. and I will NOT REACH at all in the next contact. I will wait for another contact.. and I will wait for more reaching signs on her behalf.

[@mariyammf7495]

I loved how u said..U are worth more than that😌❤❤❤❤

[@aadam3692]

After weeks and weeks of watching videos this is THE ONLY one they perfectly describes my situation! She contacts me on a regular basis and she knows I’m desperate for her attention but she doesn’t want to be in a relationship. She sends me hearts and emojis like we’re still together but no meaningful statements despite my over the top efforts. I still call her pet names and she says she doesn’t mind. She wants me to keep texting her but is reciprocating just enough to keep giving me crumbs of hope. Any advice is helpful.

[@me0wkyu]

Crumbs are actions they do that is not a direct contact to you. Dont fall for those.

[@karimeigner]

This is soooo what a Narcissist would do.

[@christianlopez1]

My ex has been watching all my stories. Every single one. Viewing my TikTok profile. I honestly shouldn’t care. I unfollowed him but I didn’t block. I definitely think he wants me to reach out.

[@tonymontana5753]

thanks coach lee. i watch your videos to move forward after my ungrateful ex dumped me. very ungrateful.

[@ryanjewell9832]

"do not take the low-ball offer of friendship" great advice!! I'm 'friends' with my ex wife, and I don't want her back. Lol

[@jenniferstarotpositivefree]

Coach Lee is the best with the no contract idea.

[@layahclass604]

That's exactly Wat he did It's been 2 days since He called broke no contact then he went silent again this is new for me so Thank You for You love & time with us!!!!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Layah, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@crszitamarshall]

My ex just tried this shit. I only need love and support in my life. If you aint on my team, you're out of my life. I aint wasting energy on this shit. Power within, I don't need anyone.

[@semanavidi8694]

I sure hope you make a lot of money doing this coach Lee and you deserve every penny of it, whilst most other so-called counselors do not.

[@dishathakur7605]

Status trick. Played many days ago. Now understood and wish I hadn't responded.

[@hunny333]

Please update status now

[@thiagosantana214]

Yes. You just feed them with your attention and validation, they trick you to beg in some form and they ignore you after.

[@crissid6122]

OMG. .I wished I'd seen this earlier. My ex is constantly doing this. I FElt like a yo-yo & pathetic & i let him win - again. More fool me but after watching this No More. I'm going to listen to this everyday just to make sure I'm not going to be an idiot or fooled again.

[@LilacVLopez]

After breaking up with me and him starting a rebound relationship after 3 DAYS!!..1 month later he sent me a picture of the blooming amaryllis and Xmas decos we bought together only 2 days before his breakup "announcement" that he somehow fell in love with someone else...the pic had no text no message just a pic of those flowers I bought him. I didn't reply or break NC.. but it took tremendous energy and days and nights of your vids to comfort and give me strength to hold me back!! Every day..i get over the shock and anger..realising he doesn't deserve me and I deserve so much more.. Thank you Coach Lee!

[@williamwilson2012]

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[@doshiyack6018]

I think my ex tricked me to break no contact. After a month of NC she texted and said she wanted the key back to her apartment and to pick up my mail. I went and returned it. Damn.

[@smores8982]

I just commented on another video advising of being tricked into no contact and literally said the same thing you did. My ex seems to be baiting me with hints and indirect-direct approaches of meeting up. I haven’t taken the bait. He was the one who ended it so unless he directly verbalizes his intent, I’m not going to foolishly believe he wants to get back together. He may very well miss me, but i reckon he simply feels lonely and gets his ego fed by maintaining contact with me.

[@mgtowsoldier8673]

any one had the misdirected text trick....? where they send you a text which they pretend is addressed to someone else....trying to get you to react

[@carloscabrera5311]

Sounds like something a woman would do...🤣

[@robertswift6101]

yep she did that a few times. all part of the game for them

[@taichiwisdom1209]

MGTOW SOLDIER yes actually

[@laracherry6583]

@@stardust86x me too lol!

[@laracherry6583]

@@stardust86x but I didnt call back, it was a 3 sec missed call... Who calls for 3 secs, he wanted to see how quick and happy i will be to call back so he would say he butt dialed

[@CynthiaWithLove]

One of the most valuable explanations of relationship power dynamics!!!

[@rosechapa2342]

Thank u !!! 🙏 I needed to hear this. U validated he came to visit to feel to feel loved and secured again. And now disappeared again! 😣 I wish I knew this b4.

[@danasmith8390]

THIS and even when they reach out don't respond until it's substantive Trust typically they just want an ego boost, validation or want you to chase

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Dana Smith, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is fantastic! It will help you. myexbackcoach.com/ebk

[@MarshallSmith27]

now it’s been a little over 2 months. i’ve been in NC for a little over a month and last week she was posting on tumblr for the first time in two months and it was stuff like “all this for a love that turned out to be hatred”....what? and depressing pictures. she unfriended my whole family and then blocked us all but then turned around a week later and unblocked me.... but didn’t unfriend my two closest friends at all. i was with my friend earlier today and i decided i would check her likes on instagram because they always reflect how she feels. i just felt like she was moving on and i wanted to know if she was okay. well she liked 8 really fiery quotes and only quotes about how i’ve taken her innocence away and taken advantage of her. i am so confused right now. i haven’t done any of that. we were each other’s firsts and together for 5.5 years and madly in love. i honestly feel like she’s kicking and screaming hoping to get my attention. btw we were engaged

[@Jay-uo1sn]

How do you know it's meant for you? You never know if it's meant for another guy

[@MarshallSmith27]

because I started dating her when she was 15 and it ended now. shes 21 now. there is no other guy. other than this guy shes talking to now ive been her only boyfriend

[@KevsHardLemonade]

@@MarshallSmith27 that's what you think lol. There's a lot I'm sure you don't know

[@MarshallSmith27]

KevsHardLemonade yeah there always is. same for anyone. that’s beside the point we shared things with each you don’t tell someone else. she’s told me things i don’t want to hear. that’s the point.

[@KevsHardLemonade]

@@MarshallSmith27 so what? You think because she told you she loves you or "shared things" you assume she wouldn't with other ppl that your special? Or she's being honest? Or that she's not selfish? The fact that you're being so naive and trusting is probably what turned her off. Women actually like men who are aware that most women are deceitful and hypergamous. Stop putting girls on a pedestal. Women have always cheated on men who have absolutely no idea it's been going on for years and say sht like "no way she's at her Grandma's house. She'd never cheat on me bc she has my kid, she's told me her deepest darkest secrets, we shared great times etc " meanwhile she's sleeping with a guy with a fatter wallet, bigger house, more exciting social life or whatever turned her on at the moment. I love women and flirting and having fun but I'm saying don't be foolish. ANY girl no matter how much you think she might be special, is capable of cheating on you and will do it if it suits her at the moment and you will never know about it until she dumps you. And even then you might never know she was cheating on you for months before the break up

[@nl5607]

Great video man. 15 years she was super selfish. This is something she actually might do lol been week no contact and last time I begged and pleaded lol makes me sick. Ima hold out. 😎 feel blessed today no girlfriend no stress today 🙏

[@nl5607]

Just had to do a little update. I’m in a way better place now I can honestly say that. She is not the first,last and only thing I can think of each day. I know you have probably read and heard “it gets better” slogan from many people but it really does 💪 get your butt in the gym or work out at home. Don’t like weights? Do cardio or vice versa. Lifting weights helped me channel my roller coaster 🎢 of freakin emotions 😳 and making me look better in the process 😉 start a new hobby it the gym for s not for you. Bottom line is to stay busy ! Take up more of the time that is free now that your single. Is it still crappy and hard some days🤔 absolutely but again you will feel better eventually. Might never get over it fully but it’s a life experience and one door 🚪 closes but new one opens as they say. Lol. Stay strong 💪 and you got this. This man does know what he is putting out there but again all this nc business is for YOU ! Not the jerk who left you. Them coming back is just a bonus if that’s what you truly want. In the beginning I’ll admit I did also. Now I can’t picture my life with her now lol oh! The damage is done so I guess I’ll be bricky!bricky! Leavin! 😝😂✌️😎

[@JulieZeller]

My ex kept breadcrumbing me, it hurt so much I eventually had to block him. I needed to take care of myself. 3 weeks in and I am FINALLY healing from the rejection. Don't get me wrong I want him back bad but I need to do some serious me time first.

[@no89lan3]

I don't want my ex back but these videos are still helping me

[@AdeleMoravcov]

damn I needed to hear the friendship thing... my ex is friend with a couple of their exes so they assume they can be friends with me too even tho we are completely different case and I am different person and even tho we were friends first before we were a couple, I dont think I can do that anymore bc I will always want them as more, I already tasted how it is to have them as more, I dont think I can go back to being just friends.

[@littlemizzQT]

Omg are you me? That’s what I’m going through right now. Did he ever reach out?

[@AdeleMoravcov]

@@littlemizzQT actually yes, but just to tell me hes cutting me off his Netflix and made it sound like hes changing his passwords so i cant get it lmao ppl told me he was just looking for a reaction and that this was actually an excuse just to contact me but well it still didnt sound positive

[@rushikeshpatil1157]

Oh.My.God. it's such a small world. I am going through the same stuff. Did you make up ? Are you two together now ?

[@AdeleMoravcov]

@@rushikeshpatil1157 Im sorry but no, we dont even talk. its either still not time or Im not one of the lucky ones

[@rushikeshpatil1157]

I am sorry. I hope you guys make up soon and everything goes back to the way it was.

[@levdog9862]

don't block them on any social media, but most importantly, DO NOT CHASE!!

[@joemaz188]

Nope let them watch and see what their missing

[@claudiapurcell8687]

I love you and your comments! I'm listening your videos and over and over and makes more sense...and I feel getting stronger!!! I don't know in the end if I want him back afterwards. Thank you, Coach Lee!💐

[@TaschaGal]

Some I dated briefly and hastily dumped me baited me for a year and a half, even while I was dating someone else, until I finally reached out, only turn around and immediately reject me and insinuate I’m insane for thinking he was baiting me. Some people are really ill.

[@joeyjaggers9959]

I really love your videos you make a lot of sense to me this is the second time she has done this to me and I am not getting back with her she tries to break no contact once every two weeks not falling for it done!!!!!

[@steevenderavine4597]

I started no contact. Just 3 days in she tried to reach out. She couldn’t find me because my phone wasn’t working at the time and she panicked, tried to call me multiple times during the next days, even called my dad, a good friend of mine to know how i am doing and she even almost come check by my house to see if i am safe...

[@rayf5360]

I recognise this. My ex dumped me but has been posting angry/bitter/sad quotes and memes as if I dumped hér. I also get the impression she's angry that I don't chase her. I'm inclined to pursue but I won't since my feelings for her are still very strong. Everytime I contact her or see one of her posts it cuts so deep it reaches my soul and it takes days to recover from it. I need NC to heal and protect myself. At least some posts seem to be directed at me or our relationship, they just "fit" too well into the situation. I don't know if she really means to bait me into responding or is just venting. Could be my perception, but sometimes it feels like provocation.

[@shav12]

RayF if I were you I’d stay off social media entirely.

[@rayf5360]

@@shav12 About 2 weeks ago I've made sure there is no way I can be confronted with anything she posts anymore. She already unfriended me months ago from Facebook and I'm not stalking her account because I really don't want to see her enjoying her life and dating other guys, that would increase the pain tenfold. Aside from that I've erased all chat histories from FB and Whatsapp. Last thing I did was delete all pictures of her/us as well as her number from my phone since WA was still showing me her status updates. It's terribly hard still loving her and not knowing anything at all, but in this case ignorance is bliss and better than being confronted with info that will hurt even more. NC for me at this point has become a "blackout protocol" that I need to recover and move on.

[@DeemMeBeautiful]

I realize although he reaches out I’ve definitely been giving him tooooooo much power when he does.

[@RealCoachLee]

Melanie, I’m glad I could help. Stay strong!

[@DeemMeBeautiful]

@@RealCoachLee Thanks so much Coach Lee! All of your videos have been such a blessing to me as I navigate this time in my life. ❤️

[@Roomboter]

Dear Coach Lee, I love you. You already helped me so much. I’m in quite a predicament; my ex reached out 6 times during no contact; via a drunk voicememo (of our fav band) when he was on a wedding , liking my posts, responding to my Instagram stories (with applaud emoys🙄) and tonight with sending a track from spotify. Nothing with substance… I think about him every second of the day… He broke up with me twice in 2 Months after only 5 months together. 5 months before we met he was divorced of the Mother of his kids, who he has been with for 16 years, so he says he hasn’t healed from that. What should I do? HELP!

[@royromero5329]

My ex reached out yesterday morning after 4 weeks of no contact, for Father’s Day in the morning. I was very polite just to match her text. Around 8pm she texted me and then she video called me. I almost couldn’t believe it, she was begging me to take her back, she said I’m the best thing ever happened to her and continued to compliment over and over and over, I thought I was dreaming. I suffered so much these past four weeks but totally worth it. I booked a call with Coach Ken tomorrow at 10:30am. I have soooo many questions, she was so intense to the point she sounded desperate.

[@CRISPBeatss]

Don’t take her back you will regret it

[@CRISPBeatss]

If she was brittle enough to leave you and not try and make things work if you take her back she will look down on you

[@johnwick2338]

Update?

[@kazeeydee5817]

but coach ...I stayed in NC for 4 yrs and she chased, she risked rejection , being blown off, I never reached out to her..... ever ....oh she did all of the chasing and putting herself out there for 4 yrs straight....and every time I rejected her....until I made the mistake of so called trying to be mature, and being forgiving and all of that bs... thinking ...I don't think anyone would chase you for 4 yrs straight , every time getting shut down, and she would stop for a sec and then start back up, and as you said she sent me some B's ass 3rd party text about her son and how much he misses me and how good of a step dad I was to him ...and nobody shows him the love that I demonstrated to him...and like a damn fool I broke NC But I figured shit 4 yrs , maybe I should cut her some slack. YEAH RIGHT . She did all of that for 4yrs just for an ego stroke , just to feel like she got me to break .

[@jaydub7386]

He tried to trick me by sending packages. I nearly cracked. Thank you, Coach Lee.

[@leahsraven1299]

My ex texted me and said"good morning dear ,how are you doing during no contact "

[@eatanotherzio6811]

Lmao

[@ionvitan8964]

My ex reached out 5 or 6 times during no contact always with bullshit that could have been avoided, 1 time even angry on my response time. I even went so far and told her to leave me alone and give me my space. Last time she sent me a printscreen of an invoice in which I’ve paid my part 3 months ago soon after the breakup, asked her what does she meant with this and no reply. I’m literally done with this and I’m moving on. I did bailed her out during other breakups by asking to get back together, looks she is looking for the same or at least would like to reject me again. Never again as all the time this backfired big time, telling me I was the one asking to get back together during arguments. Never again, I’m not gonna make it easy for her this time around.

[@bilalkerek1992]

My ex reached out after 6 months of no contact trust in it it works and she apologized

[@DJNEDROY]

awsum so happy fo your results all the best

[@sunflowerlavista9081]

hey, in that 6months, she ever text u or nothing at all & after 6months she texted u?

[@shubhamkumar984]

Congratulations bro

[@francisjosephcutamora8530]

Yay, u gave me hope bro😉

[@bilalkerek1992]

@@sunflowerlavista9081 she would add me on snap out of no where and not text me anything then un add me because I never texted her she even made a fake account we are good now tho

[@kimmyjowahl6380]

Great info.. My ex and I just broke up and I have known this man for over 12 years and he jumped right into a relationship. Before he really had told me he does not feel the same way and had moved on. I know that once she flies home he will contact me.

[@jacobanswine760]

I feel that I have a very unique situation that would take too long to explain. The basic gist though is we talked/dated for about a year and had a great connection, but her feelings changed near the end. She ended things bc she was confused and had doubts. It’s 2 months after now and we haven’t talked in over 2 weeks, when we had a long & really good talk. She just screenshotted something in our Snapchat convo and to me it seems like she’s trying to get my attention. Not going to reach out though, because I’m at the point now where if she misses me I want her to put in the effort to get us back. I still love her and I just want us to be happy, whether it’s individually or together. These videos really helped a lot though.

[@masecox308]

I’m not reaching out anymore it’s been over 3 1/2 weeks since I last reached out and I’m standing strong on definitely not reaching back anymore thank you so much for this advice Coach Lee

[@cyrusvanbeethoven4626]

Update.

[@myrahouse2368]

I got a random message after 2 weeks he feels guilt, I replied no need for guilt I don’t hold grudges. He replied but you dislike me? I replied I don’t hold grudges I get better not bitter. He replied do you not want me to contact you? Me: ---- Thankyou for this advice...

[@Rachelcampbellll]

This makes so much sense holy crap thanks