Stages Ex Goes Through During No Contact Rule

[@merittneedreve1935]

I had to come back & comment because this WORKS! I have a very avoidant partner, & after a month of me not initiating contact, he has recommitted to the relationship, and we are even stronger than before. I watched Coach Lee’s videos on repeat to give me strength & to keep me positive, and I’m so thankful for this content. THANK YOU, Coach Lee!!

[@manhattan_maria]

This gives me great hope. My partner is very avoidant as well and I’ve been scared that NC will push him away further from me. It’s been two weeks so I’m trying to hang in there.

[@lyrein4303]

It’s been a month without hearing from my ex he blocked me.

[@myrtlejennings2209]

I want this too , happy for you both !

[@ninacallahan7767]

Very happy for you

[@wallyarroyo7939]

Do you think that there is hope?

[@mohdkher7074]

keep watching no contact youtube videos and trust me you will be stronger day by day

[@jonahlevi3178]

I think that's a catch 22

[@CherPsKy]

lmao, yes.

[@CherPsKy]

Hey Mohd, did it work?

[@onaraider2007]

It is very hard

[@BabiiJayy15]

I needed to read this comment in particular omg.

[@djblack1204]

Don't allow them to live rent free in your head!

[@mauriciolancheros7474]

Hoooow, I Have has her in my head and in exhausting

[@djblack1204]

@@mauriciolancheros7474 Try to kick her ass out. Go out with friends and start dating.

[@2umsvee214]

😂😂😂😂

[@carolinelaronda4523]

djblack1204 😂😂

[@amazinggrace6881]

😇 I know that is right

[@connorgreer7559]

It’s almost like a roll reversal, they start to feel everything you felt at the beginning, the more you heal the more they fall apart

[@connorgreer7559]

@@dannyhughes4822 thanks

[@dannyhughes4822]

@@connorgreer7559 you are welcome.

[@khabibmcgregor3592]

@@dannyhughes4822 eat shit thanks

[@cookiecookie1834]

@@dannyhughes4822 if you can't get and keep you love naturally you are sad and deserve to be alone. I hope God builds protection around whomever you're trying to spell cast that they get far away from you.

[@ryp1562]

Exactly this. Emotions get reversed.

[@DominiqueSpeaks]

I can’t believe all these people are feeling the way I do! Very encouraging knowing I’m not alone!

[@mtorchia24]

Nope sis. I'm there too.

[@darrellmasterson7925]

Your diffinently not alone

[@killua2617]

@@melindapupos8668 3rd day in nc:(

[@bmorehemi392]

Definitely not. I’m a man and I’m currently going thru this. It’s hard. I keep buying her stuff and begging her to take me back. She’s just not interested at the moment. I won’t contact until She reaches out first. Which may be never, but I’ll be ok. I need to start my moving on process anyway. She has too much of a hold on me

[@LiLgPnoy15]

I know, seeing the comments of others helps me feel better. Knowing that I am not the only one going through this crap is soothing.

[@jrivera8678]

I'm serving my ex a double nothing burger with a large side of nothing fries and nothing drink.

[@samlove3239]

Love thissss hahaha

[@karinacarrillo1756]

I’m dead 😂

[@petersnell3128]

Hahahahaha. Good food for them!!

[@Trataylor713]

this comment is so under rated

[@faerie_willow]

Ahhh this is the best 😂

[@runer007]

This guy is a good company when you have a heartache. I feel relieved and soothed watching this video.

[@tylervilbert5071]

No contact honestly is more for yourself. It makes it easier for you to move on and get over the breakup as long as you are being proactive at bettering yourself. If you are using it to get your ex back it doesn’t always work. But it’s a win win situation because you either get your ex back or you get someone better!

[@BambiOnIce19]

Yes, it's definitely more for yourself. I was exhausted with my ex. He constantly did "don't get to attached", "don't talk to my kids/family/friends"... Just weird crap like that. I finally got so sick of it, i told him to go find someone else, and to lose my number. He tried to call - once. Not that i answered. I just couldn't be bothered with men who don't appreciate your value. Frankly, if i never saw him again, i couldn't care less. Nobody needs that kind of torture. And if you're dating a person like that, it's not you that needs therapy. It's usually THEM. So leave them in their confusion and go live the best life for yourself.

[@mystic8193]

I will help you

[@trishataylor2837]

In still waiting for the "someone better"

[@SueSweetify]

its so hard 😫

[@tylervilbert5071]

@@SueSweetify oh hell yes. Going the no contact route is hard.

[@zakiahart3919]

As my father use to say silence is golden

[@tanveer4461]

My mom used to say speech is sliver, silence is gold

[@chaostade4087]

my father says that too, but he is a little bit too silent, my mother wants my father to discuss more and have more conversations, but my dad is a silent guy when in house. lol He only talks a lot with his friends.

[@SoundsSilver]

@@chaostade4087He knows talking will lead to arguments lol

[@gggray5747]

I'm beginning to think that silence is platinum.

[@JeremyNoelJohnson]

Relief->Curiosity->Concern->Consequenes

[@viktoriyashiskova3130]

Yep! 🤗

[@chantalp3234]

So true, you can actually see the stages they go through

[@christianestrada1671]

Jeremy J that makes sense But I felt like I went though that backwards though

[@lynnbrown2409]

Thank you. I came to the messages looking for this.

[@flower6186]

I think my ex in his relief and curiosity stages. He unblocked me because of curiosity but haven't reached out, founded out that he was actually sad and down after a couple of months after we broke up. Really hope he would reach out soon.

[@maxithum4080]

No contact is genius! It’s so hard to accept, that it is over for ever- ever. With no contact you can work on yourself and after 6-12 Months you can basically choose between your Ex and the many new options you’ll get when you get better and keep improving!! Stay strong kings

[@quinoasongs2507]

a breakup is a death with no funeral. Going through it, the stages of denial, anger, depression, sadness, blame game, and acceptance. It goes both ways. Unless this person is one where they only want what they can't have. In which case, they are not suited for a relationship right now. If they quickly find someone else, that someone else will go through all that too.

[@unknowboysvlogsghana9750]

Thank you.

[@rebeccajohnson5658]

I can relate to that also

[@TimStJohn-xp8rv]

Well said!

[@ryp1562]

What you said is correct all them emotions you listed are in order of the dumpee but for the dumper they go the other way around, perhaps anger closer to the beginning for dumper though.

[@Chaz_NFQ]

My mother used to say that divorce feels like the person died but their corpse is still up walking around

[@azazel3944]

NC will start working when you guys stop reaching,worrying,stalking them etc JUST STOP IT AND WORK ON YOURSELVES AND LET THEM GO

[@mjop183]

Facts

[@diaryofseresha]

Wow this was so deep, im goin on NC starting today after pouring my heart to my guy who told me he wan be move on as my friend n i told him not possible since i love him n then he told me he is currently solving some problem, saw my all msgs n didnt reply. I wont msg, stalk n do nothin now. I tried doin that from 2 months n it got taken for granted everytime. Gon go on NC n work on myself

[@lettyrodrz9940]

Yes, and i am proof of that because since after 45 days of no contact he texted me. I just could no believe my eyes when i saw his message.

[@lettyrodrz9940]

@_ BUDDHA _ do not contact her just concentrate on you. If she wants to be with you she will contact you..if not, you should be comfortable with yourself without having her in your life...

[@kellyparkwerhip1616]

I found that I needed method .. Friends believe it works, I would strongly recommend it to anyone. This have saved my life!! Is the only thing it really help me to get my ex back and now i am again with her and happier than ever.. This program is both for male and females .Good luck *MyExLove. info*

[@laurencetaylork6757]

Trust no contact. If they truly love you, they will come back, just put the work in to change for the best. I was at a total loss without my ex and just before Christmas I got the message. Saying how lost she was without me!

[@vivianl8278]

the stages: 1- Relief 2- Curiosity ( secondary to no contact ) 3- Concern (fear of loss) 4- Consequences (Shock)

[@alfredobermudez6430]

When does the fear of loss hit someone

[@d4444-g7z]

@@alfredobermudez6430Depends on attachment style and the situation

[@Chelssums]

I forgot to comment. But my boyfriend broke up with me like a year and a half ago. I did no contact and he texted me after he saw my car driving around town. He asked me to eat lunch with him. We’ve been together since. BUT, let me add, that while this works, make sure you do it for the right people and you don’t stay together with someone who is toxic! Know your worth! Thank you, coach Lee!

[@madelinegono4670]

NO CONTACT WORKED. It literally took 7 months but was worth it..I was so scared we would never speak again but he contacted me after 7 months and we spoke for an hour about how much we miss each other. He's flying me to NYC in a few weeks to hang out. ( We were long distance). Just posting this to encourage everyone to stick with it..it's really hard..I thought about him everyday that 7 months but it worked. I think it really rose his respect/ value for me and he admitted to watching everything on my social media and thinking about / missing me constantly..I can't wait to see him in a few weeks. Stay strong !

[@snowwalker9999]

Madeline Gono if no contact is going to take more than a month then hopefully I'll have moved forward by then

[@claudia111love4]

May I ask you if you both dated other people??? Be careful...

[@peachink3847]

Thanks for the encouragement and congratulations on your success. I hope it goes well with you.

[@nafisakhamraeva742]

Madeline Gono but it’s so hard if u love smn and making No contact

[@manifestationhappiness705]

7 months is way too long after a month it’s game over for me I don’t know how you managed

[@terrelladams2905]

I went no contact then move out of state once my ex found out she started calling texting like mad we talked daily then she moved down here with me and now we getting married.

[@NAG3]

Unbelievable

[@mylesm1494]

Terrell Adams believable

[@nicolewinters]

Unbelievable how did u guys come back together

[@charlesd3024]

That’s called a hard next

[@KnightXV]

Ouch. Married too soon. She may be using you as the "provider ". Oh well 🤷‍♂️

[@fahimaqalanjo8590]

Working on yourself and time will heal your broken heart and you will find someone who’s better than your Ex. Everything will make sense in time and you will be okay 👌

[@RapidZLadZz]

What does it mean when people say “work on yourself”

[@fahimaqalanjo8590]

It means to become a better version of yourself than before. A strong person who can go on with his or her life without their ex and you just have to be strong and have patience to get through hard times. You don’t need anyone. All you need is you so became the best version of you. I get over my Ex because i made the decision to move on, i realized i deserved better and one day I would find the right person so i respected myself enough to decide what’s best for my life. Then later on in time, i meet someone better than my Ex, and he is my boyfriend now. When you focus on the right things, you will find better friendships, better relationship, and ya should always have a life on your own, outside this person. God have someone for you, who’s meant to be in your life, give your heart and trust to God and God will give you someone who deserves you. When the right person came into your life, you will realize why it didn’t work with your Ex.

[@fahimaqalanjo8590]

I mean when the right person comes into your life. You will realize why it didn’t work with your Ex.

[@fahimaqalanjo8590]

_ BUDDHA _ You’re doing great because you’re not breaking no contact and you responded polite when she contacted you. Um in my honest opinion. You should focus on your life for now and don’t wait for the text message or contact from her, she will contact you when you least expect it just be yourself and be happy. As long as you’re focusing on your life and improving on your life. Is win situation for you because you will level up on your life and you might get her back or you will get someone better than her. Either way you will be okay

[@dankline9162]

IF my ex never comes back, and I do find someone better, THEN I'd be comfortable and like to be friends with my ex. I can't do that before then, as I never thought I'd be lucky enough to find someone as compatible as her. I may have to, though. At least I know now more than ever, what exactly I want.

[@ao5624]

I refuse to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me. I will walk away and live my best life. The best revenge is to live your best life. I deserve better. I am counting my loss and moving on.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

AO, GOOD FOR YOU! 👍

[@ao5624]

Update, my ex reached out to me after about 60 days. The no contact definitely works!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@ao5624 Happy for you. 👍

[@sunnyztmoney]

Based

[@canalmyers6888]

@@ao5624 vocês voltaram?

[@elenalimberg7364]

Guys! Do NOT give up! We can do this!!! Visualize your future with your ex(only temporary state, BELIEVE in what you visualize! If you believe and know as a fact that you two are meant to be together - that's what IS going to happen! Coach Lee - you're the best! Thanks for everything you do!

[@ruthankers7680]

I was waiting patiently for the day I could write this .... THIS WORKS. I had no contact for four months and my ex came back, apologised for everything and told me he wants to give things another go! You are so right about everything

[@theempire00]

How happy should u he be tho…. Why did he leave u in the first place 🧐🧐

[@ronaldrodriguez766]

​@@moytheboytech616it is true? Does it works??

[@FM-wbos]

4 months that’s long they probably had a relationship and didn’t work out

[@ruthankers7680]

@@theempire00 his work took him away to sea and I wasn't comfortable with that lifestyle, now he says he will happily change his career to be with me 😊

[@ruthankers7680]

@@FM-wbos if you follow coach lees work you will see four months is about the average time. Neither of us had relationships in between, we just took the time to work on ourselves 😊

[@nathanblankenship122]

Man I watch some of your videos everyday. Sometimes I'll watch the same ones over because you help give people confidence in this process. Awesome advice.

[@BasitCh]

I watched his videos like every day almost 7 time a day.... I know it's crazy but it gives me hope.

[@dodzretarepahtez3682]

Agree

[@adamhackett5812]

Same here.

[@YogiMDWanders]

Same! Usually because I was about to break and make another mistake in breaking no-contact. Lol

[@nicolewinters]

Hi you’re cute

[@peacekeepermoe]

The 4 stages are: 1. Relief 2. Curiosity 3. Concern 4. Consequences

[@momocyrine]

How long does it take !!

[@lordmakishima2480]

@@momocyrine depends on what you did Relief may took longer if you plead and beg to your ex. It may take shorter if you acted cool like let them have the space they wanted.

[@momocyrine]

@@lordmakishima2480 totally ruined my chances . Ivr beeh through hard times that period i didnt see what i was doing. I want my dignity back

[@melodyluich7042]

@@momocyrine You didn’t ruin your chances if you leave them alone eventually they’ll go through the stages

[@momocyrine]

@@melodyluich7042 i dont care anymore .. i have new crush already ! Thank you

[@nikosm2113]

My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She told me that I am the best thing that ever happened to her. She is still in love with me. I watched so many videos like this one. If u want a true advise listen me! Move on. Think them, cry, miss them but move on! Remember that u were alone before them and just fine! Try to love yourself again. Update: Hey guys I hope everyone is trying to be okay! Well I’m coming back to this comment after one more bad break up again they dumped me. It’s ok tho I’m following again the stages to love myself again! Always try to find people that are complete alone, that’s the only way to be happy in a relationship.

[@nikosm2113]

Jill Lee yes she broke up with me 2 months ago. Grief has many stages and you have to go through them! Best thing to do is get angry. Because u did everything for someone and he/she didn’t had the courage to fight for your relationship! Accept what it is and learn to live without them. You were great without them and u will be again. Now I am feeling great. I do things for myself and enjoying some alone time with people that truly love me!

[@nikosm2113]

melissa justin let me understand your situation. You had a fight, he left and then you didn’t speak again?

[@am30wish]

hanane 567587 same to me we didn’t confirm the break up he never said ok about it !!! He blocked me first after the fight !! Since he is still friend on social media try to talk to him !! Believe me you will feel better ! You don’t have to get him back ! But try to have a conversation 💭 with him

[@victoriaberry514]

Nikos M I keep telling myself this

[@dankline9162]

Same boat. Found my soul mate. Never cheated, but she thinks I will leave her. !! She breaks up with me, says she loves me (but not the same feelings as before) Even says she thinks she may not ever find someone she meshes with so well! But at the same time refuses to really sit down and talk, to work it out. Then she calls ME ridiculous after pestering her. I ran out of words, she hardly budged an inch. I was so confused, wanting to bash my head in every day... Since nothing I did worked, I finally searched online, and am doing NC!

[@dianaalonso9502]

Sometimes we win just by loosing 👊

[@PredictAnythingSoftware]

Exactly... very ironic... hhaha

[@1besieged]

sometimes we win just by losing.

[@thelinguist01]

Very accurate Yet simple.

[@GreatestXchange]

Profound

[@lailamnn2328]

Yes

[@unicornprincess2565]

Being dismissed feels as though someone has driven a sledgehammer through your heart and just keeps grinding on it. 😢

[@shanthelgaray3501]

Whenever I feel my anxiety start to kick in and I start to get mentally weak Coach Lee's Videos give me strength 😊

[@RosaCharice]

Success story here! It worked after one year. I’m in a different place and love myself now :)

[@aisshwaryachandrasekaran1146]

One month of no contact, wohoo. Baby steps! Thank you, Coach, it feels like you're with us helping us go through this.

[@ags835]

Update?

[@aisshwaryachandrasekaran1146]

@@ags835 6+ months of NC.

[@Roshan_K]

@@aisshwaryachandrasekaran1146 ..... Girl, are u still waiting for him..... !? Oh my God u seem very tough person

[@Zeref_edits]

Update??😢

[@Tsan1010]

Update?

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

I just had a hard breakup. It's been really difficult since my five-year relationship ended a few months ago. My former partner is still very much in my heart, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. Nothing has worked to get him back, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anyone else. I know it may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and think about him constantly.

[@Yukajoseph]

I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?

[@Yukajoseph]

His name is Father Obah Eze and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.

[@Yukajoseph]

He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

I simply looked him up on the internet because of your useful information. Father Obah Eze is very sincere, according to my online research. Once more, thank you ❤

[@LiLgPnoy15]

We're all feeling the same way! We will all get through it!

[@christopherengland654]

After my breakup I lost sleep, missed meals, lost muscle/weight.....that's the perfect time to get me back because now that I'm back up to 7+ hours of sleep and eating 4 meals per day and in the gym 6 days per week I'm not thinking about my ex or any future relationship because I'm focused on me and these gainz.

[@roc8083]

Man since NC, I've gotten so swole. I even got muscles in my nose now. When she sees me again, she'll either be very impressed or very afraid of me

[@lovingme6896]

Josh Williams muscles in your nose LMAO IM WEAK. Thanks for the laugh

[@calvinthomasmuzik]

Lol

[@ashton1952]

😅

[@03081416]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@stephenherrington3549]

How long have you been doing no contact?

[@F88i]

I'm treating my break-up like a science project now. I've watched a lot of videos about ''no-contact'' and the progression of the person who was dumped (me) and the person who did the dumping (her). It's crazy how I can now make a timeline and retrace back all the events that happened during the break-up and how they were so precisely described in these videos. Right now, I'm super good. I've got my emotions in check and I'm doing all the things that I should be doing for ME. The scales are balancing out and shifting my way positively. Whether she comes back or doesn't I am good either way. I gotta say though, N-C does help a lot. At some point, you realize that you're in a better spot being the person getting dumped because you will make the effort to get better and not necessarily the other way around. ;)

[@Crm.xcviii]

Any updates with you science project lol

[@Crm.xcviii]

@@esthermonday926 I don’t got exes

[@monarene44]

I treated my breakup like a longitudinal study. He reached out a couple times in a vague manner but I didn’t take the bait. He had hurled a lot of insults at me after he dumped me and I never trusted him again. I was convinced he would never treat any partner with any respect after he had fooled them into thinking otherwise. I was correct. He never admitted to wanting me back but it was obvious he wanted me to do the soliciting. It would have been a complete waste of time. He had nothing to offer me anymore. He was 100% emotionally unavailable to anyone.

[@jamesroach1997]

When I feel myself slipping and wanting to reach out to her I come back to these videos & I don’t know how but it gives me a sense of calmness and ability to make it through just one more day! I pray she comes back for the sake of our son & a stronger relationship but I’m also willing to accept that it may never happen but that something better for me is destined soon.

[@videosofinterest9227]

Same here.

[@marcopervo]

The dumper eventually feels the lack of oxygen that the dumpee has been providing their fire, and the more resiliency and dignity displayed by the dumpee, the more likely the dumper will eventually desire contact and even seek it out. All bets are off if they pathologically jump from lily pad to lily pad. They've done you a favor by breaking up, and you should focus on attracting someone with blood running through their veins.

[@aquilascott8218]

I love what you Said here and i totally agree with this .

[@trevorharding3783]

100% agreed.

[@jimatkisson8986]

Wow, that's good! 👍 I just made a screen shot, going to use your insight as my phones wall paper to remind me whenever I struggle to reach out to her. She doesn't deserve me and I need to not feed her ego further

[@amberspeacefulplace5803]

Love this 💕 so right especially the Narcs and Jezebel spirits don’t need those kind if they are gone your blessed! They are cold n heartless. Self serving just put God first and self love!🙏♥️🔥

[@chaostade4087]

haha I like your comment. Spot on.

[@bishaldev7692]

Success story...I get my gf back after 5month of no contact...stay U will succeed

[@tecktonalex]

contect please

[@amyle974]

Today is Day 10 of NC. This journey is ROUGH. I am very grateful to have found this video and have been watching it every day for 6 days. No matter how low or high my emotions are during the day, I still love him and have hope of us getting back together. This video and the comments have been my HUGE motivation. Thank you. Thank you for this video.

[@mskamran123]

update?

[@amyle974]

​@@mskamran123 It's been 5 months. I would be lying if I said I don't think about him from time to time. But the biggest thing I have learned in the last few months is time is precious. I could sit in darkness and mope about how life seems to be so heartless. How can one just move on? How do people continuously put themselves into relationships knowing that heartbreak is also an option? Or I could change my mindset. Use this time to feel what YOU need to feel. Because life goes on, darling. I chose to feel what I needed to feel. If I felt sad, I let myself feel sad. If I felt anxious, I let myself feel anxious. If you need to watch these types of videos three times before you can fall asleep, then watch the videos three times to fall asleep. Once I allowed myself to feel the emotions I felt without being harsh on myself, it was a lot easier to get up every morning. Now, I enjoy my alone time, but also enjoy spending time with new and old friends and family. This is the "self-care" so many people talk about. Self-care isn't the bubble baths and retail therapy. It's the way you take care of yourself the way YOU want to be cared for. I have a better idea of how to balance time myself with others. I pay attention to my flaws and ask "well, how do I work on this?" I use to have this "hope" of us getting back together. Now I simply smile and say "it is what it is." If we cross paths again, it is okay. If we don't, it is okay. Because life goes on :) I hope this helped!

[@tecktonalex]

update?

[@hootieshorsehavenhootiesho8932]

Thank you for this video , 2 months post break up , lost 50 lbs , trying to focus on me . We were together ten years and had a beautiful farm together so this has been devastating . I did alot of things wrong in the beginning but after watching you I've changed my behaviors and it's helping me move forward for me .

[@realmsofthespiritarts8557]

Update!?

[@lil_rockstarrr]

Update??

[@MilonMia]

Update?

[@tylervilbert5071]

I’d say about a month is the average relief period. From experience being on both sides. I broke up with someone and felt relieved for a little over a month and then out of no where thought about her and missed her like crazy. And then girls that have dumped me that DID come back usually came back around the 6th week. Some came back within a week. Some came back months later. Some never came back.

[@bqhatevwrsb]

Are these girls you were in relationships with or just dating?

[@Nimbus3690]

I messed up by reaching out and getting ignored 3 times and it interfered with the post-breakup process. I've been in proper no contact and radio silence for 2 months, not sure what stage the ex is in, if she is even in this with me at all.

[@cinecobafi8640]

YOU ARE 100% RIGHT. Now I can see where I was going wrong in all my previous relationship

[@ericm.5408]

I deactivated my Facebook I went no contact I disappeared

[@ericm.5408]

I love her but I’ll will honor her wishes and leave her alone.

[@anajasmine7409]

Keep us updated on how that works for you

[@swatirajsgi]

I did the same.

[@tasyahokage]

but coach said that is immature :/

[@ericm.5408]

Sensei Doraemon No it isn’t I need to deactivate my Facebook account because of other reasons and I need it to disappear from my friends so I can work on me

[@jgonzo316]

I'm not even going through a break up but his videos are soooo calming but when I was going through mine he really helped my mind at ease no matter what amount of pain you feel or how unique you think your situation is it will be okay it will hurt and you will see who you truly are during these tough times but if you focus on yourself and just try to see life without them it will get better trust me! Remember if you need to talk to people TALK!!! Don't bottle up emotions that hurts worse than the break up

[@annausf3887]

Almost 2 weeks of NC, eh, thought I wanted him back, but not so sure anymore, have to continue to protect and (re)-develop my own self worth...

[@Kay-js4cb]

No contact 7 months now. Losing hope. I think it's over though, but I've improved myself so much. Prior to entering my 5 year relationship, I haven't went to the gym since. Now I have been going for 3 months straight 3-4x a week.

[@bradvk3553]

Loss can be a great motivator. Keep doing what you're doing. Like you said you've improved, so you'll be able to get an even better partner.

[@Kay-js4cb]

​@@bradvk3553 I still have feelings for my ex. But thank you! very encouraging words

[@Flow-WithTheGo]

Yeah I’m on 4 months. It was a clean break up & ive been in NC since that day. Not heard a word. Strange to think I’ll never hear from her or see her again

[@Rizzard_of_ozzzz]

I’m on a year and a half and I haven’t gotten a single word.

[@Kay-js4cb]

@@Rizzard_of_ozzzz Unfortunately, I say you won't hear back after 1.5 years of NC. I'm already 7 months in NC (9 months post break-up) and I already feel like I'll never hear back again. I think up to a year is the maximum amount of time before it is likely you won't hear back again. After 1.5 years of NC, even if I heard back from my ex, it is possible I don't want the relationship back - I'd feel like they failed to find someone better and only came back because of that. Do you still want your ex back?

[@evanspiewakowski5007]

It worked for me!! She texted me asking me if we can talk, we got together and she said that she's sad and it all rooted back to the break up and that she wants to work on us getting back together. We are now back together and happy.. trust no contact it's the best thing to do!

[@ChadMNicholas]

How long was no contact period?

[@evanspiewakowski5007]

@@ChadMNicholas like Coach mentions you can't put a day on it. Like I cant say 30, 34, 48 days it's really at there pace. But its wasn't 30 it took a little longer but just know that with no contact you have your BEST chance and it's the right thing, they can't miss you if you are constantly in there life right?

[@hwdareu5848]

My ex broke up with me 1 month ago and we have been friends since then . I will go no contact from now.

[@ATXMEX78]

Oh to be in your shoes would be a blessing!! I'm happy for you congrats!!

[@Don-pk2uy]

Update?

[@edt8535]

Lee, you are head and shoulders above the other people offering advice on this topic. I thank you from the bottom of my broken heart 😢

[@mlara95ml]

Stay strong people! 🙏

[@rarirover44]

My ex texted me after one week of no contact she commented on my photo damn i turned the tables around so happy she gone see now

[@bhonggamelicor8860]

Amen 🙏☝️❤

[@kristinesison3892]

Thank you

[@lavishbyvicky8146]

Thanks you too

[@gmmavila4111]

@@lavishbyvicky8146 getting your lover back shouldn't be a problem I got my ex back with the help of Mr osekhametalor.

[@jodiesingy8394]

Honestly, this is the only Dating Coach I trust. I've seen a few.

[@stephaniemendez6784]

I’m doing NC and I’m feeling relieved!!! Depressed but relieved...so it’s not just the other party..

[@calvinthomasmuzik]

Stephanie Mendez me too

[@FerrisSonnbichler]

Thank you for your calm. For keeping me strong. I watch your videos daily. You make sense of the chaos. And you are correct. Chasing, begging and pleading are off the table. We are not pawns in a chess game. There is no winner here. A lot of sadness and a deep feeling of loss. No sense in losing your dignity in the process. Thank you again. I cannot afford your EBK but I will always back you. You truly come from a compassionate place. ❤❤❤

[@vanessaescalada5624]

Yes true in 1 month no contact I feel good about myself and I realize that I can let him go. I'm so much thankful that I survive no contact

[@Kevrix]

@@ebayj8754 LOL :D

[@Nk-jv4pj]

EVERY DOG HAS ITS DAY. today is his Some other day will be mine. I am in radio silence now. Falling into the trap of over thinking what all we spoke over the years. Blocking is so immature....he blocked me and unblocked me manytimes. This nc is heart wrenching. Hope all will be good to all of us here. After multiple times rejections and his shortcomings and the lies by this guy it is making me hardened. I do miss him . I do I want a better version of him if and when he comes back. And i too want to improve myself. Actions has consequences.....

[@mortezahabibi2596]

Keep going. It works.

[@isiscastillo1690]

Nk update?

[@kat-pg5cx]

Any update?

[@Daniela-pg7qg]

So keep working on u and love yourself so much. Ask the un8verse also

[@Daniela-pg7qg]

Trust

[@danielfranco4896]

Nc really does work. After two days of nc with my ex she finally texted me this morning saying she was sorry for being rude to me and that she still loves me and that she forgives me. This guy is the truth !!! Trust this guy. I had really gave up on my relationship and had a great feeling that she would never talk to me again even threatened me to call the cops to leave her alone and I’m in shock !!! Thanks coach lee

[@FancyNinong]

My ex came back after 2 weeks, thank you coach! You made each day worth living for 🙂. I hope these contents receive more credit for this truly inspires us broekn hearted to continue life even with a heavy heart. 🥰

[@FancyNinong]

@@johnpormat6168 thank you so much for sharing your story. ☺️❤️ It's a wonderful turn of events, with plenty of ups and downs. It is so inspiring😯☺️🧡❤️

[@shadowking423]

did you beg at first?

[@FancyNinong]

@@shadowking423 No I didn't but I begged him to stay when we broke up. Apparently, my decision to leave him was right, I wanted to update my comment and that we really are not compatible with each other. I realized many things after breaking up with my ex. :) P.S. It is fine if you beg it's human nature.

[@jasonh8212]

this is 100 pct accurate, all of it! ive been through a few breakups and this is such an extensive/accurate breakdown

[@georgehathaway8631]

I made the mistake of begging to get back with her. I decided to log out of my sc, fb and insta and I wont talk for a while, i hope she will miss me, pray for me guys!!

[@pizmomartinez3876]

George Hathaway update?

[@georgehathaway8631]

@@pizmomartinez3876 Were back together!!

[@pizmomartinez3876]

George Hathaway holy hell man im so happy for you!!! Its been a day passed a week since shes been gone but she still texts and stuff and says she does plan on coming back but im just tryna play it cool and stay calm ☹️🤞🏽 wish me luck loll again congrats bro and rootin for it to last 🙏🏽

[@gom3nasaioniichan258]

Should i stop using social media? Because she can still see what i posted at instagram stories

[@pizmomartinez3876]

Gom3nasai Oniichan just cause she can doesnt mean she is ... either post you doing good or just completely stop posting at all

[@LazyDaisyDay88]

The sanest video I've watched on relationships in a long long time...

[@YvetteZapien]

Coach Lee, no matter what happens I just want to thank you. I'm going on week 3, and the more time that passes I just feel better and better. You have really helped me during this difficult time. When I thought all was lost you gave me the little bit of hope I needed to just get out of bed and keep going. Even if I don't get him back I will always be thankful to you for helping me.

[@RealCoachLee]

I deeply appreciate you leaving this comment. Thank you so much!

[@Msluxpearl]

It works! I did NC for 5 months and he came back asking me to marry him. But then I don’t want to marry him anymore. 🙂

[@admiraljohan7152]

When you described the long complicated nonsense reason, and the word for word fact that they need to "work on themselves" you opened my eyes man. That was word for word my current situation and while I didn't buy it from her there was still the voice in the back of my head saying "well what if she does truly wanna work on herself and we might get back together later" you really confirmed it. Thanks for being real man.

[@RealCoachLee]

I hope the best for you Johan!

[@loribelle26]

I actually don’t believe it’s always 100% BS. My ex husband is a narcissist and he stalked me and my ex boyfriend, showed up at his house and made threats, spread lies to my kids about him. Etc. He said that it was just too much to handle and extra anxiety and stress in his life.

[@CiluhStyle1]

Facts...it just is an easy let down...false hope... I experienced it too...I thought it was b.s. but trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. But coach lee confirmed my initial thoughts that those words are full of shit. We may need time apart but breaking up to work on yourself is b.s. when you could have did that together and agreed to take some space to do that.

[@ShilohJulia]

THIS IS THE MOST ACCURATE INFORMATION AND DESCRIPTION EVER

[@ultrastandphoenix1883]

For realz

[@KingRussellJJ]

1 year of no contact and going strong.. who needs someone who is uncertain about you

[@twinkie311bc]

Thank you so much for these videos. I’ve been watching everyday to help me sleep better and to keep me with this mindset. Even if this “no contact” method doesn’t work, it’s helping me to accept that it’s over, cry less, and become stronger.

[@hefhefner3507]

You really are a blessing bro, helping thousands of people during probably the hardest part of their lives.

[@princessfraser194]

Coach Lee you are 1 in a million everything you say in your videos makes so much sense encouraging people in a breakup lifting up our spirits and different strengths to survive a breakup you are a godsent thank God 4 a man like you always helping people I love you so much your precious

[@andreamcleod9347]

No contact seriously changed the way I feel for the better. Needed this break for my mind and health. Feel so much better.

[@brianchoi1851]

I find this to be extremely helpful in piecing together and making sense of intense and emotional situation. All of his advice was helpful but the thing that was important for was to realize that no contact doesn't mean ignoring your partner but about being able to plant the seed of doubt if and when they reach out to you. Not being so predictable and adding that element of mystery while being able to show "the best me" was key.

[@dsireesanchez]

Dear Coach Lee, your videos gave me so much strenght over my breakup, almost a year ago. As hard as it was at the beginning, I followed your advice and 7 months after breaking up with me, my ex came back. Thank so much for sharing your experience and advice ❤

[@TheAsmaahmed]

"By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning.”― Lao Tzu

[@liveandlearn0203]

I can breath now, I got my life back, I can see clear now after 7 years and 9 break ups! Thank God .

[@Yaro98]

I don’t want my ex back, I just want to move on and this kind of videos makes it easier for me. I do hope we can stay in each other’s life as friends.

[@IAMFhuluT]

My healing journey started the minute I subscribed to your channel ❤no more sleepless nights. 😊

[@Luke-ph9xf]

Lees videos are exceptional. Listen. It's all about the moment here right now. The past is done and the future isn't set. It's like a car on a highway at night. Lights are on and even though it's dark you WILL reach your destination whether that is that you get your ex back or you meet someone new and amazing. Imagine the darkness on that road is your fears and the headlights are your hope. When you are driving to a destination in your life have you ever stopped to contemplate the darkness? Of course not it's time consuming and pointless, so apply this analogy to your emotional situation. Each one of us is a very unique light so follow it, and you will find your true destination.

[@rubyshoes1032]

Patience with yourself and them. Women tend deal with a breakup immediately going through the emotions etc, men don't, they will carry on and then it will hit them, even a few mths down the line. Don't wait, live your life, you don't know whats ahead be excited for it, daydream your future, where have you wanted to travel, try new things, even a new love with the qualities and virue you seek. Then if they do come back by then your vibration will be so high that your out of their reach, take a brave step forward ❤️you've got nothing to lose, so much to gain 🙏🏻

[@commoncreations2226]

Before Coach Lee I used to toss and turn whilst trying to sleep with all kinds of negative thoughts about my break up... Now I listen to Coach it helps me sleep by easing my fears about the future. Guys I was a wreck for 10 months doing all the wrong things trying to get my ex back... nothing worked. Discovered Coach Lee 5 weeks ago....started no contact straight away.... Starting to see positive signs slowly... Going to stick to it until she contacts me directly. Pray for us guys.... I will pray for you all every minute I get. Bless you all. Hang tight. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@virginiaperge8207]

When you "want it" it tells the universe that you don't have it you lack, But if you release it the desire it will come to you

[@virginiaperge8207]

Honestly I'm not sure if I want him back

[@jaxxmariecambridge5212]

These videos are SO helpful to keep me on the straight and narrow and to not reach out.

[@sophiakon6293]

Same here. It comforts me.

[@robertbrown2594]

same here, but every day that goes by feels like forever...

[@sophiakon6293]

@@robertbrown2594 its been 3 months now. Im better and Im also dating someone else. I would never have imagined that. But Im still thinking about him... and it still hurts.

[@1988kilo]

I've been watching Coach Lee's videos for over a year, albeit less commonly as time goes on (due to a 5 year breakup that happened over a year ago). Kids were involved (hers), and it was tough for me to be cut off so suddenly. However, I feel as though there isn't enough emphasis on how long this thing can actually take. I have been in several long term relationships (1+ year) over the last 30 years. Without fail, EVERY SINGLE ONE HAS come back (roughly 8-10, if memory serves). I know it isn't what people in pain want to hear, but on the brighter side, let me stress this again, EVERY TIME! Several times it has taken up to about 3 years, sometimes less. There has always been a complete NC in every case. Sometimes it just takes time, and by the way, I have never once taken anyone back. Good luck, his information is generally right on, and NC is the core of it all!

[@prachisaxena3788]

I am shook and amazed at how accurate this video is. More power to you.

[@Raven.8501]

Ok…seriously… your eyes are amazing! They are so blue! 😳

[@greateststarbyfar3345]

i agree !!! his eyes are beautiful and well wish he was gay and looking lol:-))) as good looking as Coach lee is i wouldn't mind a minute to use no contact on him to keep him:-)

[@jakecorriveau7004]

@@greateststarbyfar3345 lmao

[@kutchieman]

So she initiated the break up and I decided to give it time but focus on my life again but as soon as I stopped thinking about her, 30 days passed and she already added me back on Socail Media… she’s poking me to see how I’ll react to it. I’m not going to react to it at all. If she wants to be in my life she has to put in the work, I’m not going to chase somebody who looks at me as an option

[@nicolet6131]

Not sure I even want to get back together. Coach Lee's videos have given me mental strength during the break up. Thank you so much for helping all of us with your videos Coach Lee! Extremely valuable information!

[@666shrekgreenarse4]

Day 4 no contact with him. I wish he will come back. Pray for me🙏🏻

[@nilsaehterami9341]

A Human update?

[@ATXMEX78]

Hope you are stronger regardless of the outcome..

[@tc4905]

I’m on day 5. I feel your pain.

[@666shrekgreenarse4]

He hate me. He dont reply my message and start following pornstars.

[@666shrekgreenarse4]

Rich B. Thanks💕

[@taniamuzungu1697]

This guy must be a Scorpio cold and strategic, love it 😍

[@boostedlife3082]

Thank you Coach Lee. This video is absolutely 150% in how I handled my taken time apart from my girlfriend. It has been 10 day’s since we have had any contact with one another. It is very hard for me right now, but I am granting her wish to give her some space.

[@Starrisaw]

Update?

[@lil_rockstarrr]

Update ? I’m at ab the same point rn

[@SoundsSilver]

@boostedlife3082 How did no contact go? Did she ever come back? Any lessons to share?

[@ziadaouladbenzerouala7579]

Update pls 😊

[@jayr_xx]

These videos are really helpful. I find that even though there are clear signs my ex will reach out, when you’re just inside you’re own head it is hard to feel any hope at all. While nothing is guaranteed, knowing i’m taking the right steps makes me feel better and allows me to easier focus on the right things! Thank you!!

[@anastasialalruatfeli9938]

I used to watch your video when I was pregnant and my baby father dumped me when I was 7 months pregnant , it was hard for me but watching your videos help me a lot. Now we are together with our 10 months old daughter, we forgive and love each other , thankyou so much,

[@azebede]

Well... I begged and pleaded for two months. Nothing. Applied the No Contact Rule and in a WEEK she reached. Now back together.

[@tercsi1]

@Aaron Zebede me too. It's been 3 months

[@timwengsi8637]

I wish this could happen to me I begged for one month nothing and I just went into the NC it's hard

[@tercsi1]

@@timwengsi8637 don't feel bad. In reality no ex's ever come back. Maybe 0.05%. Just look around. People just move on. I pleaded my ex fiance . He never blocked me . He lives down the block from me. I even showed up and even got intimate with him months after the break up. I went radio silence 2 months. July 5 to Sept 3...he did not reach out. I reached out Sept 3. He still isn't dating..no casual sex..no rebound..nothing. ..he's older ..53. So I guess it's not important as for younger guys..but he still hasn't come back either 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@artsadiku9325]

@@timwengsi8637 update?

[@WallyMerc06]

They didn't want to do it, unless they're a narcissist, then they seriously don't care about you at all and you need to walk away forever.

[@arykesdeminno4389]

After 3 weeks of watching Coach Lee's videos. Now I don't even want her back. Thank you so much Coach Lee 🙏 😊 ❤️

[@jean-josephsmith6364]

This is surprisingly spot on. I went through a terrible break-up with my ex; I was the dumpee. About five years after the break-up, I contacted my ex out of curiosity because I saw a picture of her holding a little girl. I was curious to know if it was her daughter (it wasn't her daughter btw). I had already been married for about five years up to that point, and had one child -- with one on the way, so my intentions were a genuine attempt to make peace. During our brief contact, however, she did admit to me that she started to miss me around three years after it was over, and wanted to start over, but that it was too late; I was already married -- and have remained married for over 13 years. Very inspiring vid.

[@byebrows9698]

You got married directly after your break up?

[@theempire00]

@@byebrows9698omg 😳😳

[@johnnycalderon9951]

This was a horrible story bro lol u literally got married right after a break up even though u wanted someone else

[@conradsmith9441]

Don’t forget the final stages of regret and moving on that some feel when you get better and move on from them. I’m just hoping she doesn’t completely think I moved on. Long distance is rough because I keep wondering if she already moved on. I’m just trusting no contact even though I’m afraid that does espite her feelings of missing me the distance will prevent her from wanting to reach out.

[@shoshKid]

I'm currently going through a break up right now and this is really therapeutic. It's difficult time for me but after watching coach Lee's videos, I feel better now. By the way, I just discovered coach Lee.

[@petersnell3128]

Coach Lee likes telling us of his 20 years experience in this stuff and that's one thing that gives me the confidence to follow his videos through. So far they've been working for me...

[@LiLgPnoy15]

THis is exactly what my situation is like! I've been in NC for 3 months. It;s so hard but I know I am worth a lot more. I will continue to focus on myself.

[@queenednails5522]

Update?

[@yinmoekhaing6545]

What's going on now??

[@iksot4013]

ex reached out 2 months after brakeup, 3 weeks in to NC, she asked me cassual queston "how are u doing, whats new in your life". I gave her the most cassual answer "i benched 100kg week ago" I feel proud of myself after all that begging and pleading.

[@rjanbyberg6730]

petar stavrov How long was your relationship?

[@iksot4013]

@@rjanbyberg6730 6 years, we lived together 5 of them.

[@letatcestmoi8648]

petar stavrov 6 years? That’s a lot of memories to feel & to remember after a breakup. Glad to hear you took care of yourself. Keep up the efforts.👏🏼👏🏼👍👍

[@rjanbyberg6730]

petar stavrov Do you plan on trying to set a date if she reaches out again? I have a date tomorrow night, but if she isn’t as cool as I hope, I think I’m gonna contact my ex after 54 days of NC. We dated for 5 months. Figure I have nothing to lose, as Coach Lee says.. I know I can get other girls, so I’m fine either way, although I really miss her. I will give it one shot before I get busy with one of the other girls I suspect may be into me.

[@iksot4013]

@@rjanbyberg6730 highly doubt, even tho i still love her more than anything. When she broke up with me she told me that she is not seeing me as a good father for our future childrens and that im mentaly abusive...i was in shock, i had no idea what was that abusive thing...a month later she told me that was just an excuse, infact she cheated on me 3 months before the breakup but couldnt tell me that in face. Guess the grass was not greener on the other side...so no i wont take her back. Im setting up a date later this week with another girl so yea...love not always wins, especially if its onesided BTW do not contact your ex if u are the dumpee, u will regret it and u will be back at grieving stage.

[@Criggs]

I lost count of how many times I’ve watched this video 😂, finally I think I’ve reached concern because she reached out and seems interested/ jealous about other women. Well back to no contact I go!

[@sydneeball4077]

Did you respond to her when she reached out? My ex reached out with the same thing and I told him I’ve been focused on myself and then he basically pulled back again and no contact for 5 days.

[@Criggs]

@@sydneeball4077 I replied and thought everything was moving forward but i found out she was in a rebound. So i'm guessing she was asking me about lovers so she wouldn't feel as bad etc. So im not saying yours is in a rebound but that was my case. However, good news is shes now contacting me asking the "how are you" and random texts and has agreed to to meet when i am free. So hold in there!

[@Bucky1836]

@@Criggs you got her back 😉 just both of yall work together better and communicate more 😁

[@killua2617]

@@Criggs how long did it take for her to contact u?

[@Criggs]

@@killua2617 like 4 days, I thought this was a good thing but it wasn't. She kept checking on me once every week or couple days. I'm almost certain its to ease her guilt.

[@Internet_Spy]

This works. I did this for almost a week. She was reaching out and my responses were curt, to the point and always just enough to be polite. Otherwise I NEVER reached out. By today, a week later she wanted to do a video call last night and wanted to talk through the issues she has. We had a 90 min conversation and intend to talk again tomorrow. She's messaging me all night, while I was sleeping. Coach Lee is 100% right. I will be making a contribution. I had been texting my ex for months instead of actually talking with her or my therapist. I was reason, primarily for the end. I initially ended it, but then realized i had made a huge mistake.