Why Your Wife Doesn't Respect You

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

Imagine getting married and finding out your wife is a schoolyard bully. If you stand up to her, she will accuse you of "abuse". If she doesn't file false police charges against you, she'll get a divorce lawyer and take half your wealth. Sounds like blackmail instead of marriage. No thanks...it's not for me.

[@Promet17]

Peopple just get married too fast. It takes 4-5 years to vet a future wife, not 4-5 months.

[@steevey1099]

so true..

[@bobkonradi1027]

The solution to dealing with a schoolyard bully woman is to just not get married. Simple. At the present time, this thought seems to be in vogue, as the most recent studies show that only 6.5 men per thousand in the largest pool of eligible men are getting married in any one year.

[@randydavis7718]

Agree 👍 Same Here

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

i did the 5 years but she still did the slow emasculation tactic. it creeps up on you, emboldening her and eventually she turns everyone against you and then comes the death blow in the form of a grifting divorce attorney. either they don’t get that they have let the tapeworm in or they don’t give a damn, all they want is their “freedom”.

[@Nordic_Sky]

The minute your wife thinks she can do better than you, she stops respecting you. At that point she will be constantly irritated, and you won't be able to do anything right. Such a joy your life will become.

[@hmurchison8123]

They ALWAYS think they can do better than you. In her mind she did you a favor by allowing the relationship. If men doubt then start going to the Gym again and improve you body and watch her reaction. She doesn't want your value to increase often.

[@Nordic_Sky]

@@hmurchison8123 I often tell guy friends, if a woman you are dating acts like she is doing you a favor by going out with you, run. It will only get worse.

[@Brent-z2s]

One of my girlfriends did this she started a big fight the night before my physics certification test. This girlfriend and I almost never had fights.

[@Train.Fast.Read.Sleep.Repeat]

@@hmurchison8123thats true, its why some wives will intentionally persuade their husbands to eat more junk in order to gain weight which in turn lowers his value.

[@ghostoferlock]

Because she doesn't respect herself through accountability.

[@anthonywarren1317]

💯🎯

[@superjelo]

Yes

[@SHEAR-JASHUB]

Facts

[@cliffchampion5501]

This is just like how you don’t allow your 5 year old kid throw a tantrum or yield to them. The kid eventually learns you’re not one to be trifled with. Women are a lot like children.

[@Evenmixer]

That's why there's a saying "Women are children in adult bodies" Kids and Women are both emotional creatures

[@leroyj3627]

You make a great point!

[@ao.6916]

They are children in the real sense of it. Stand up for yourself and she will never bring her bs near you. That's respect

[@axl1002]

Except that 5yo can take your kids away and make them suffer just to prove her point and blame everything on you.

[@douggodsoe]

Children don’t have credit cards, and can’t move out on their own. Women don’t need parental supervision to file lawsuits.

[@esotericveritas]

Yes gentlemen, ALWAYS set and enforce your boundaries... no questions asked. You have to be willing to let her walk. You can only love someone else when you love your self first, in my opinion. It's impossible to give something you don't have. I had to learn to love myself, enforce boundaries, and not settle for anything less than what i know i deserve - the problem is, we sell ourselves short sometimes.

[@JamesPetroff]

Absolutely do not tolerate disrespect. Never. Let her cry, scream, escalate, whatever. If she doesn't grow up, she loses.

[@michaelmoss6590]

"Soft Next" her when she she starts with these shit tests.

[@kenpresley45]

It's such a slow process, akin to boiling a frog. You don't realize it's happening, and then you're cooked.

[@jimjohnson394]

Honestly, I think that is a good thing. 20 years ago when we were first married, my wife exhibited some of these behaviors to a small degree. Maybe the pot was luke-warm, and I confronted her back then. Waiting too long or avoiding confrontation until things get out of hand and they lose your respect is how this happens. Be quicker than the stove.

[@jamespropane369]

Some of them don’t know they are sh&t testing you. When they do, you absolutely have to check it. There needs to be a healthy fear. Healthy mind you. I don’t mean physical.

[@Promet17]

hint: it starts with small disrespects and seemingly jokes - if you have a vague feeling something is off, but aren't sure, then check her anyway just in case. It's always best nipped in the bud.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

100%

[@Karll541]

@@jamespropane369lol

[@jimjohnson394]

The messed up legal system is the reason why women can bully their husband. If he stands up to her, she nearly always can take the kids, the house, and half of his savings and leave him with child support and alimony. It is like some kid who has a couple goons there to destroy someone if he doesn't acquiesce and let them pick on them.

[@bobkonradi1027]

When a man shows up at the church, says some "I'do's" while the girl standing next to him is saying some "possiblys: or "you gotta be kiddings", and then they go back to the minister's office and he signs his death certificate, he grants to her near dictatorial powers over him. From there on out, she has veto powers over everything he does, until she decides to cash him in for his money and prizes. In the interim, if he gets out of line, she calls the cops and has him arrested on some bogus charges. He can be thrown in jail, locked up for years just on her say-so. She can go wild with credit cards, and he cannot stop her. She goes out on "girls nights" and he cannot do anything about it. He gets denuded by the state for no reason. When they divorce, its not "Judy Smith vs. John Smith" its "Judy Smith and the State of California (or other State) vs. John Smith." The State can vacate any prenuptial agreement ever produced, for any reason at all, or for no reason at all. It can seize his bank accounts, investment accounts, properties,, everything he's ever worked for and achieved, and there's no appeal for anything they do to him. He's f*cked, and his only hope is that he was a good piece of ass.

[@udontknowhoiambutiknowhereuliv]

@@bobkonradi1027whats even more messed up is ive read situations where men (due to that stupid domestic partnership law) where men who weren’t even in a relationship, merely roommates yet the gov will give a mans life away cause sum bich was his roommate.

[@majorsam83]

You are EXACTLY correct. I’m lovong proof of that…

[@johnryan3374]

I allowed this to go on for years... I ignored her outbursts, thinking it would keep things ok between us. It actually made things worse. We need to stand up to the bullies in our lives, including our spouses. We all deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. What I learned is that you teach people how to treat you, by the way you let them treat you.

[@smokingcrab2290]

And when she tried to gaslight you, call it out. I used to actually empathize with my wife and take her in good faith but I learned she uses anger and guilt to control the frame and manipulate me into doing what she wants. So now I'm calling her out and she doesnt like it one bit. But I don't care I have nothing left to lose.

[@leroyj3627]

I did, too. Let it go on too long, that is. Not anymore, though. Having to present our grandkids with a better example. A healthier dynamic. It sounds harsh, but just like a child, sometimes a woman needs to be reminded who's in charge. This is even MORE CRITICAL when you're raising children together!

[@MGP2210]

There are people that I do not respect. But I do not go out of my way to disrespect or hurt them. Have integrity.

[@Flexageful]

Karyn, thank you for the work you are putting in to spreading awareness and the right information out there. This channel is a goldmine.

[@hurricaneaquatics]

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. You can't win with these types of women. They have serious issues within themselves and they take it out in you. That's the definition of hate, not love. If a woman loves you, she would never think of doing these things to you. Even if she said something bad, she would come to you afterwards and sincerely apologize and take accountability and commit to correcting her behavior. You'll find the Loch Ness monster before a woman like this comes to you and admits fault. The way to change it? Do your thing, l, get back to enjoying yourself and your hobbies, and find a GOOD woman and discard the broken one. We didn't sign up for daddy and mommy issues to be taken out on us.

[@MgtowFreightTrain]

Women are incapable of love

[@mace2gorc872]

yep.

[@a.d.em.c6337]

Stand up to these women-children.

[@douggodsoe]

When you call her out on it, you are attacking her. When you play her the recording, she says she never said that. You are gaslighting her and accusing her of saying something she never said. She wants to be right more than she wants to be happy. It’s messed up, and it can’t be unsorted.

[@agm5424]

Sorry but no. If an adult has to stand up and correct their spouses behavior in order for them to act like an adult then the marriage is over and was most likely never gonna last. Adult should control themselves and learn to be Moral and self controlled human being before they could even be considered adult and specially be considered marriage material.

[@jamespropane369]

Bro, some of them don’t realize they are testing you. When they do you have to check it right away.

[@Promet17]

@@jamespropane369 exactly, which is why you have to check their behavior. As long as you do it early on enough, when it's still subtle, there probably won't be any major BS, or at least very rarely.

[@BloodyHeck]

I’ll kind of agree that they’re testing. Unfortunately most women don’t test to see IF you fail, they test to see how much it takes to MAKE you fail. If you haven’t failed, she’s not done.

[@Promet17]

@@BloodyHeck I'd rather say that they (sub)consciously test to find reassurance that you're the man they want, so if you fail a test, they will just keep escalating tests until you pass. If they still keep testing after that, then they have trust issues or some other mental crap going on, or it's not tests, and they're emasculating you to gain more power in the relationship instead

[@BloodyHeck]

@@Promet17 You said that if you fail a test, they keep escalating until you pass. I'm saying the opposite. If they test and you act in a way that you should have passed, whatever that may be, she's not done. She will then continue testing until she finds the point at which you fail.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

Standing up to my wife has never, ever worked. It always makes it worse. The last time I held my ground, she went on a crusade telling all her friends, and even our pastor, that I was being abusive to her. My reputation was tarnished. So now I literally just try to hide from her. I have my own bedroom, I do my own laundry. I stay far away from her. Anything more, she will walk all over me.

[@Clear4TheSincere]

😂😂😂

[@ironglandx3270]

Trust me when I say this. I don't know what you believe in when it comes to marriage, but I have been there. I have done that exact same thing. And I'll tell you, it's a miserable life. In order to keep the peace in my marriage, I went to the corner room in my house, one of the smallest rooms I had, and tried that same thing. It was so miserable, in the fact that I just felt abandoned and alone. And the abuse from her still continued. She still talked to everyone about how horrible I was, only now she said I was absent from the family and I was an absent father, even though I saw and played with my kids every day, despite working in the military. Eventually, I left. I had to, because the pain and misery of just being a roommate to my wife who I loved so much was too much. I would say to you, don't do that to yourself. You are better than that. Try to work it out with her in a logical, adult matter. And she cannot see reason or continues to act like a child, then brother, leave. You will be happier in the long run. It hurt for me, but eventually, I was happier. I hope your marriage can be repaired. I do. But being locked up in another room and just being a roommate doesn't work in the end. It just drives you further apart. I hope this helps.

[@nerychristian]

Just leave her. Get your own place. Or place a hidden camera in the house, so it captures her in one of her tirades. Then show it to your pastor.

[@nickdipaolofan5948]

@@ironglandx3270 for many bitter and angry women, this is what they want anyway. they want to degrade their husband and relegate them to retreating to the corner of the house, like a scared rat. when dealing with women like this, you are correct that there is only one way to handle it: he needs to confront her as an adult and let her know that the disrespect stops immediately or he will begin divorce proceedings. He needs to man up and stand his ground and let her know that she needs to fall in line or move on. Probably 90% of the time these women are so arrogant and full of pride that they will NEVER submit to their man and will always be a monster to live with. Just give them a chance, but expect it to be over.

[@Brent-z2s]

My grandfather remained stoic and took it for decades then he died at 59 of a stress induced heart attack. The Germans couldn't kill him but she did. Years later my mom asked her of her and her 4 sisters who had the best husband she had to admit she did.

[@ckelly5141]

Karyn….you are such a blessing and a Godsend!

[@ysy662]

I just bought a motorcycle without asking for her 'approval'... she threw a tantrum but much less than I expected and after few days without me budging an inch she just got over it. Now I am riding again! After 20 years of break.... Great feeling ... freedom

[@jimjohnson394]

Good choice. Either she can stay home and complain or get on the back seat and go along for the ride. You are the man.

[@ysy662]

@@jimjohnson394 Before she turned to Mr Hyde from being dr Jackyl ... she rode with me... these were the 'good times' when everything worked out...

[@jimjohnson394]

@@ysy662 best of luck to you. BTW, Jackyl is an excellent band. Saw them open for Aerosmith about 30 years ago. They were crazy with the chainsaws.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Did the same about a month back. Freedom yes!

[@johnzieba6442]

The worst is yet to come , start praying.

[@Barbarian___]

Wow…. Red pill! She is 100% correct

[@randydavis7718]

Another great video accurate as always, Thanks

[@danstout3154]

In addition to my earlier comment please keep up the good work. Some people will grow in faith and figure out a marriage can work but the low rates of happy couples tells me there is a lot of work needed.

[@arofhoof]

Basically you are dealing with a kid

[@sickpuppy575]

A retarded kid yes

[@Sophielily-e2s]

Hello friends

[@jaywagner2321]

Good advice. May send to my pastor, he thinks when a wife disrespects her husband that it comes from God and “a real man can take it.”

[@loverofgolf]

With all due respect your Pastor couldn't be more wrong.

[@electrifyingct4303]

Common talking point that everyone is aware of.... Men will get in a fight, and then become close friends after the scuffle... Who raised us as boys to apologize to everyone for everything? Women. My new recommendation is to never apologize to a woman when they do not perceive logical thoughts and emotion the same as men do. Point being, you never REALLY know what it is you are apologizing for and do not know how that apology will be perceived.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

My pastor says exactly the same thing. The woman is always innocent and the man is always at fault.

[@emcrack7]

Wow. Hard to say that disrespect towards a husband comes from God. I think we need to know what context the pastor is referencing. Respect does not mean agreement about everything or silently suffering. A wife can still show respect to a husband even if he is dead wrong or sinful. This is the aspect of respect that points him back to God.

[@ruralsquirrel5158]

The Bible is clear that the man is the head of the household. Your Pastor is clueless.

[@jasonhenage4944]

Why can’t the wife just do the right things so we don’t have to do all of this crap. It should not be this difficult. I guess it’s all because of sin.

[@YHWH_I_AM]

True AND Flip Wilson is still responsible for his actions based on his choices. So is she.

[@MMOMurder]

Because they are lesser than apparently…. All this boils down to treating them like kids not adults.

[@YHWH_I_AM]

​@thehappywifeschool-1 My wife disagrees with you. She says that she IS happy with herself with the "vibe" that she's offended at your suggested sentiment. I'm miserable though. I believe you. She says that I just "buy into what that woman says". She's a "woman of the world" and doesn't really need me. She's been doing this to me since Mt. Sinai! Any suggestions please! Thanks. 😢

[@j.p.5716]

@@YHWH_I_AM - If your wife claims to be a "Christian" then learn the word of God and teach it to her. Here are some appropriate verses. Colossians 3:18 Ephesians 5:22-24, 33b 1 Peter 3:1-6 1 Corinthians 14:34-35

[@johngmulhatton9794]

One gets to the stage whereby you decide to stay quiet and let her carry on with all her untoward ways. Reprimanding aggravates the situation and entices continual eruptions. I believe that is where the disrespect originates from, because the man is not responding to all her grievances. Silence causes her to worry; what now?? But t'is golden to watch what happens.🤫🤫

[@jackofalldenton4347]

I’ve been binge watching your videos and several of them hit the nail on the head. So far I’ve gotten her to accept that I’m no longer taking the bullying and I’ve been speaking my mind freely to her and I’ve def let her know that I’m not the only one with problems in this relationship and she’s def been mellowing out. Scratching her head how I’m all of a sudden making so much sense 😂. She’s been texting me throughout the day at work now when before she’s been too busy 😂 thank you for the vids and info

[@DanyLeeRoth]

We live in a Feministe gynocentric and Missandric society who woman have over right without responsability with detriment to the men.

[@maxcactus7]

If you are a single man and listen to this woman and believe what she is saying, and you should - she's telling the truth, and you STILL choose to get married, you seriously need your head examined!

[@ADifferentVibe]

Or just vet for better women. That's easier said than done, I know.

[@rockkstah2550]

Everything she’s talking about is basically a woman’s nature and it doesn’t matter where and what part of the world one gets married at. A man has and should stand up to any woman BS anytime any day without a question. When a man stands up to her she’ll accuse you of chauvinist/misogynistic behavior. I’m a divorced man from 15 years of her BS which I had very little tolerance for her BS. It’s why I’m divorced putting women in their place and creating accountability,responsibility is their kryptonite, it gets worst as they get older due to insecurity the more miserable they get. I told my ex wife years ago before the divorce was even thought of, that she’s a miserable human being way before I even met her, and she denies it and got super angry. But the guilt on her face that I saw was priceless…..

[@mikec4834]

Oh but max this ones different!!! Two years later I run into this guy and he's miserable!

[@dougoates6308]

Karen said it the best in her video “ Where is God in our marriage?”

[@johnmills3163]

Karen is the best on the Net ! Men can relate 100% to the content of her videos ! Thank You Karen ... for speaking the Truth !

[@BloodyHeck]

I don’t see women who test a man to see IF he fails, I see women who test to see how much it takes to MAKE him fail. If you haven’t failed, she’s not done testing. And I have yet to see a woman who respects a man who stands up to her. For most women, all it does is make her angry that she’s not getting her way and she will now hold that against you and possibly make her end the relationship. Nice guys and ‘yes dear’ men aren’t weak. They just know that if she doesn’t get her way, it will end badly. So sometimes men knuckle under because they don’t want the family torn apart and lose the kids.

[@Train.Fast.Read.Sleep.Repeat]

That’s why you never get yourself in a situation that you FEEL like you can’t leave at any moment.

[@j.p.5716]

"I have yet to see a woman who respects a man who stands up to her" Then you have not seen enough women. I have seen MANY women who this has worked on including my wife. I even had a woman co-worker tell me one time that when she was "testing" a man to see if she wanted to date him, if he was not strong enough to stand up to her and put her in her place, she was not interested in him. Women "shit test" men because that have to know the man is strong enough to take care of them. Learn to pass the tests.

[@BloodyHeck]

@@j.p.5716 Then I could introduce you to the women who are the exact opposite. They WON'T let you pass.

[@joejones4296]

When I no longer stood to be bullied my now ex-wife hired a divorce lawyervto bully me. A 2.5 year process and she can no longer bully me. Not sure if she is happier or not. No contact since the day I took my last box from the house....and she called the sheriff to bully me....then she posted our divorce settlement on the internet. Now I am free.

[@randydavis7718]

Been there done that congratulations on your freedom

[@j.p.5716]

She is not happier. She is miserable.

[@alexszlanina7548]

I've learned that you have to tell her the truth (your truth in your perception of your morals) .. and don't make too much of a fuss out of it .. just say it once.. but stand your ground.. be prepared for he to respond.. and have an answer ready.. be playfull. Counter fighting arguments don't work ..

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

I am a strong Daddy and that's not going fly with a lot of women but I don't want a lot of women I want a couple of good ones who enjoy being cared for protected and provided for with an easy life the problem is eventually they take you for granted and their ego gets involved and blow it by thinking they own something they didn't pay for they forget the rules and become difficult and that's when I call next !

[@Chrono826]

Can you imagine the outcry if these roles were flipped and men constantly abused women? How about women stop emotionally abusing men.

[@warwickbarnes8106]

All well and good to stand up for yourself, but my wife usually trigger me when her monkies are in the room, and I raising my voice in protest, this show her monkies you are the problem. "Can't win don't try"! The hardest thing to do is to live with a barage of "you're usless, lazy and a drunk", thing that I am not, but that is her perception of me, and there is no changing it. stay CHILLED guys!

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@stanleymason-od4ls]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@stanleymason-od4ls]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Zacharychampion-yy3nt]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@stephencollins9062]

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[@rawthe]

It's' all fun and games, till you realize that women use divorce as a bullying tactic. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. If her goal is to pin you down regardless of your efforts, divorce is a blessing.

[@Maximusadfectare]

Unless she’s a narcissist, which is highly likely. Be that the case, there is no change, it only instills narcissistic rage in them and they will hurt you more for it. Discarding them is the only answer. Never look back unless you also want to turn into a pillar of salt. I’m not joking here. I think that biblical story has a lesson for us men when we walk away from evil. Do not hesitate.

[@olanderdecastro52]

So… It’s the man’s fault. Seems to always be the man’s fault. It doesn’t seem to be very much in the way of telling a woman she shouldn’t be disrespectful towards her husband no matter what and no matter how she feels and no matter what the circumstances. I’ve stood up to my wife many times and almost got stabbed in the neck with the kitchen knife. So what you’re saying has some truth to it but mostly you’re just saying it’s the man’s fault.

[@emilwilczewski]

A bad person won't become a good person just because you stand up to her.

[@olanderdecastro52]

@@emilwilczewski Exactly and it gets exhausting after a few years.

[@olanderdecastro52]

@thehappywifeschool-1 I’m not telling you ANYTHING.

[@Brent-z2s]

You are the only one who says stand up the rest say be stoic which if your wife is having a bad day and this never happens maybe.

[@Promet17]

The being "stoic" part is good, but in the meaning of not getting emotional. When they mean not reacting, that's BS as it will only worsen the situation in the long run. If your wife has a bad day, does she take it out on her boss? No, because she doesn't dare. But she dares to do it with her husband? Clearly she doesn't respect him as much as her boss lol. GG husband.

[@metaleater9]

In my experience there are two kinds of bullies as based on what they want from their victims. Those who seek no reaction in order to find exploitable victims and those who seek a reaction because the reaction is validation. The former likes to steal from or physically hurt people and the later likes to toy with and torture people, There are also nightmare human beings who will do both and you almost have ot pray that never get involved with them in any way whatsoever.

[@josefranciscodasilvaeolive674]

I love this content and greatly appreciated Karen's work and message. However, it is painful apparently obvious that single men need to avoid LTR with vvomen. Full stop. Why suffer because another human being is a tormented, miserable and unaware shrill who projects and blames? We would NEVER tolerate this behavior from friends, coworkers or bosses. Yet it is a requirement for modern relationships. Fellows, she (insert any girlfriend, wife, or romantic partner) is the problem and there is nothing we can do about it. Read Stoic philosophy. Get your body healthy. Get your finances in order. Travel and enjoy! Life is too damn short for all of this nonsense. Karen, you're a wonderful person but this message is doing nothing to actually fix the problem.

[@admiral1963]

When my wife was bullying me and I stood up to her and said that's enough you're not treating me like this anymore the next week she threw divorce papers at me

[@j.p.5716]

At least you brought it to a head. What you did was your only chance at it working. It did not so move on and be happy that you did not wait and suffer any longer.

[@j919or]

She's all about her own happiness and she will therefore never be happy she will only be happy when she seeks to make her man happy and to support her children..... Seek God's will and ask God for the strength to do his will and as well as that you see to serve your man and to serve your children and you will be overflowing with joy otherwise you will be miserable I guarantee it

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

I was emasculated, down but not out. I needed better meds, intact, Now that i have a mind to reflect, she was out of order, big time. Now were divorced, by her.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

@thehappywifeschool-1 My ex apologized a few days ago, in person, i forgave her. I don't know if going back would be a good thing. She has no bank acct, etc. She has to pay cash for everything. She was scammed twice for over 15K. Her phone was taken by the police for evidence. I gave her $50 with no strings attached. I don't know which way to take this. Stay to grow or go to grow with her. I feel so sad for her more than i had before all this came to this.

[@emilwilczewski]

Well, if a woman sees her husband as weak and doesn't respect him, then she is a bad person. Then she is his enemy. What point is there living with a person like that? She won't become a good person because her husband stands up to her. Don't live with bad people folks, nothing good will come out of it. They won't change.

[@j.p.5716]

This is actually not true. You don't understand women and why they act they way they act. What Karyn said is true but does not work all of he time. Some women have been left to themselves for too long and they are beyond saving.

[@emilwilczewski]

@@j.p.5716 A good person doesn't see the man she has married as weak and disrespect him. There is no love in such behaviour. A person like that is cruel and has a huge ego. She thinks she's better than him and therefore is intitled to treat him like trash. That's narcissism. I am of course only speaking of women married to good men.

[@j.p.5716]

@@emilwilczewski - Good is a relative term. There really are no good women, no one is training them to be good any more. One or two percent might accidently find their way but the rest have to be made by the husband if they want a good wife.

[@emilwilczewski]

@@j.p.5716 No, to be a good person is not something you have to be trained for. It's just how some people are. It's a part of their personality, and personality is something you aquire in your childhood. Are you saying a man should train a woman to be the way he wants her? That's again something that narcissists and psychopaths do. They train people around them to please them. But those people are sick. A mentally sound person doesn't do that. Karyn is only talking about good men, and that to her and me means a man who's responsible, caring, loving, hard working and who doesn't want anything more than his wife to be happy. Men like that don't train their wifes to please them.

[@j.p.5716]

@@emilwilczewski - The cancer of feminism has eaten your brain. You have been completely brainwashed.

[@PublishWithEmissary]

“I don’t think this has to do with what I spend my time doing. I think you’d be unhappy no matter what I do.”

[@iandeynzer2883]

Sorry but when this happens, one has to realise that you made a bad choice and married an emotionally immature woman who can’t regulate her emotions. Time to forget about having a family (a common trap), pack your bags and cut your losses.

[@JimKittell6486]

Working together, I would dig into why she's trying to emasculate me. Partner, not combatant. Edit: all the responses say she's a combatant. If so, the marriage is over. If it ever existed.

[@JohnDretired]

It takes 2 to be partners and only 1 for that not to happen.

[@nerychristian]

Because she doesn't love you

[@jimjohnson394]

terrible idea IMO. It doesn't matter why. Trying to psychoanalyze terrible behavior only gives them an excuse in their head to keep on doing what they are doing.

[@Promet17]

as Jim said, it will only give her excuses if you do it with her. You don't need to do it anyway, I will tell you: she is either testing you or wants to control you. If it's the former, then you must check her. She may be angry for a while, but her behavior will improve. If it's the latter, then either you picked the wrong woman, or she's doing so as a result of her giving up on submission to you because you failed too many tests.

[@YHWH_I_AM]

"Helpmate"...It's "more than" a "partner".

[@urbanart7325]

Was I too self centered to ruin my marriage. This is what I questioning a out my self and how I weakened our marriage?

[@j.p.5716]

If you are a man, then probably not. If you are a women then probably so.

[@danstout3154]

US society has changed so just don't marry anymore. Maybe 20 30 years from now it may change back but the S Koreans can't make it work. They have some real problems and we are there. It is the other pressures as well. Housing, food and vehicle costs. Someday people will need to roommate (and make it work because now it is not very effective) if they want to own a home and build wealth that way.

[@Enoch940]

Millions go on to marry a second time 😂😂😂 society has you boys trapped in a legal web.

[@stevestruthers6180]

Because an army of lawyers, judges, counsellors, psychotherapists and other hangers-on all profit from maintaining the status quo. Without men to demonize, they can't make a living. Just don't get married in the first place.

[@stebarg]

But, HOW to stand up against a wife that abuses you verbally and physically? How to put her into her place without making the situation worse?

[@xxChacaronXX]

You need to stand up for yourself.. if she doesn’t respect it then leave her. Because obviously she will keep taking and taking.

[@j.p.5716]

Most of the time a woman disrespecting you and treating you poorly is nothing more than a "shit test". Men need to understand what they are, why women do them, and how to pass these tests. Women NEED to know their man is strong enough to stand up to them and (benevolently) put them in their place. If he is not strong enough to deal with her, then he is not strong enough to protect her from the world and she will not respect that and it is impossible for her to feel safe and content in the relationship.

[@majorsam83]

At 3:50 - YES. That’s what I did - and then she divorced me…

[@twistersage7226]

Lmfao same😂

[@74mackd]

It’s pathetic that a man has to guard himself against his damn wife. I mean WOW. This is where he should be able to FINALLY drop his guard. But instead, he has to fight the damn world, THEN, come “home” and defend himself from a toxic narcissist. SMH. To hell with that. Cut her loose and find you some peace fellas.

[@isiahwashington2999]

Best way to gain respect from modern women? Leave them

[@anujjagtap1604]

I'm not married but it's so disgusting that women try to devalue their men. I see that with my mom too. But my father is a strong strong man. But this had already affected my in my childhood that I'm not yet fully recovered. I identify my mom as a negative and sad person. It's so not correct. Anyways now I don't see her as my mom. It's just formalities, and the life is going on. This is soo weird coz nor does my father deserve that nor do I. The most stupid thing is that many females let it out on their small children which ruins their future. I feel my mom has never taken any responsibility. I forgive her for that but the thing is she never forgive. Anyways now I've left it to God :) I'm free. But still your video may help many men out there. I hope I had found a videos like this in my childhood. It would've been soo helpful. Just to let you know, I've seen many women ruin soo many good men and many women just being slave to a bad person. I just hope women understand that when they get a good man they take care of him. My assessment is women need to be wiser, many mem already are. Also, women must not ruin life a small children. I don't know why they give birth, to ruin life after? I prefer healthy way of learning and teaching than toxic/harmful way. This is the reason that mostly bad people are running all the companies or governments of every country out there. Just because women ruin lives of good men early on in life thinking they are controlling them but I'm sure there is another healthy way. Women should not be insecure, there are more good men out there. Trust us and be humble. Be responsible. All will be fine and strong.

[@jolo4036]

I guess it started from the VERY beginning in the Garden of Eden. Adam was doing just fine, until ,,,,,,,,,, Eve was ceated to be a loving asset to Adam, not his downfall

[@dukelps9132]

Even if the man presses on and does the things he enjoys, he will always have the thoughts weighing on his mind of what he'll have to deal with when he gets home . She'll suck most of the joy out of anything.

[@Gk2003m]

0:57: this is where I’ve arrived. But it’s staggeringly difficult to stand up to someone weaker than you, you know? In grade school I stood up to bullies who were bigger and stronger. It’s different when that person is smaller and weaker, and as your partner you do not want to upset or embarrass them.

[@bgrego88]

Why is it whenever you speak of a man you qualify it with good man but never specify a bad woman even when you proceed to list and discuss all the bad things she does? And it's very telling how you expect the man to constantly provide husband services, while the women has no obligation to wifely service

[@7gmeister]

Rich Copper calls it the death by a thousand cuts Women will test men by trying to get them to do stuff and be demanding and the more you’re willing to take on this yes dear mentality the less she respects you Is not that you shouldn’t ever do what she’s asking but it’s very important to establish respect In other words don’t let her make demands of you EVER! If she wants something from you you don’t owe her anything and make that clear If a woman treats me that way she’s in the doghouse and she stays there until she says she’s sorry and admits she was out of line or she’s out the door because she refuses to bend and take responsibility I just don’t tolerate disrespect anymore and I don’t think men can ever afford to We live in a debtors society where in most situations in life where you have bills and you work where it’s getting harder and harder to have a spine with your boss and others and that tends to transfer into relationships as well and that’s where you need to be strong as a man I just lost someone important to me because she wouldn’t allow me to lead and was trying to manipulate me and the sad part was that she genuinely cared She just was so tone deaf to my needs and couldn’t admit she was wrong and it broke my heart but I had to let her go and her life is spiraling out of control and it truly breaks my heart because she wasn’t full of malice She’s just scared to trust me and admit she was wrong but there was no one there to explain it to her andI seriously doubt she’d listen because women are raised nowadays to act this way and it’s not always a malicious thing and that’s what’s really hard to take

[@easter_sunday]

If you don't get married in the first place, then this isn't an issue.

[@nlawson2004]

Jesus Christ, just divorce her. That’s the ultimate and necessary move you need to make. Shouldn’t have married her to begin with. Also a good man would get rid of her and marry a real lady next time. Where you’re her first and only and she has always lived with her family, with a solid father.

[@elderberry63]

What's the point of choosing to stay with a woman like this, that continues the behaviors and refuses to take any accountability? To me, a man who chooses to stay, is the definition of insanity.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

What percentage of marriages are happy?

[@Brent-z2s]

One of my girlfriends told me only about 20 percent of women love their husbands.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

@@Brent-z2s I have yet to see a happy marriage.

[@bpo6955]

Mine is great. Married 30 years. Minority, for sure. I’d say maybe 25-30% are happy marriages

[@smokingcrab2290]

10% tops

[@sickpuppy575]

1 in 100,000

[@Karloz-zr3hv]

She doesn’t respect herself had no accountability and double standards so nothing changed best to leave she won’t change. Once no respect always no respect carnt even handle a boundary that she sets.

[@TuerlingsTim]

When there is disrespect they are unhappy. They blame the men so feel sorry and remove the cause (yourself) and wish here luck with finding the perfect person she can happy with. Stop all the support and let here find out here own challenges

[@questshun808]

Laying here the bed alone cause im being bullied.

[@rgmann]

I'm betting that Jacob, the progenitor of the Israelite nation, didn't have a problem with any of his four wives giving him respect, as they always had to compete for his attention with the other three wives. Pretty simple solution... ;-)

[@tgold8422]

Do polygamous cultures have this bullying issue? Or for that matter, any these “womb man ways”? Do they act this way with other womb men around who might be sweeter? Seems like she would only act like this if she saw herself as his only choice.

[@jolo4036]

Very interesting, never thought about that

[@YHWH_I_AM]

Having two wives is not a sin. Where did God ever call anyone who had two wives in the Bible to repentance over this issue?!

[@jolo4036]

@@YHWH_I_AM Is it adultery when 2 women are married to one man? Sex is important to a man, so it might help him

[@YHWH_I_AM]

​@@jolo4036​ Read the Scripture: Jacob (2 wives), David (5 wives), Solomon (700 wives). There was never a call to repentance for their actions with regard to marriage.

[@jolo4036]

I was told once that God allowed multiple wives to quickly populate the world at that time, since there were not that many people then. One wife can be a real handful, but 700?

[@allinfortheKing]

I cant wait until I'm dead....

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Tip. Try to live day by day and try to enjoy a few simple things every day. For example nice weather, songbirds, a good glass of wine, etc. Hold your head up and walk on.

[@smokingcrab2290]

@Billy-the-Kid, i try but it's all so fleeting and shitty. All the things I do to enjoy life are mere distractions from how bad it is that I will just never be worthy of love from my wife.

[@mlorthio]

​@@smokingcrab2290I'm getting over that hump. Got two kids and I'm in too deep at this point to end it right now, so I'm learning to make the best of a bad situation. You have to forgive yourself for your perceived "inadequacies." We can't be everything to everybody. When was the last time your wife tried bettering herself for you? I'll bet never. That speaks volumes. Giving your wife the power to be your main source of validation puts the power and control in her hands. Don't let that happen. Take it back. You have to start living for something more and doing more outside of the relationship. Have the funeral and grieve the loss. If you can, get out of the marriage. If not, take your validation elsewhere, and no, not to another woman. (The answer to a problem with a woman is not another woman.) Keep your chin up, brother.

[@bgrego88]

You just compared a marriage to a relationship between A BULLY and a Punk, Remind me again why we should marry you?

[@hollydewbean3248]

I'd like to know why you hate women so much?

[@paddyoak1]

She’s just saying what is happening with 98% of marriages. Virtually every married man I’ve ever spoken to about this has experienced this

[@shawnberthiaume7056]

I stood up to my wife. She left me for my friend and took my house. 😅

[@j.p.5716]

In time you will look back on it and understand that it was the best thing that could have happened to you. And for your (so called) friend, now (or soon) she is making his life miserable.

[@PipeFighter83]

It's funny, this is why there is so much arguing in my house, because I refuse to let my woman tell me up is down, black is white, I'm a bad father, I'm not supportive, I don't make her feel secure...etc. I wake up, go to work, pay the bills, spend time with our son, and leave her on the sideline when she's being a manipulative C. I carry on with my program and let her sulk in her own shit, simply because I cannot make her happy, and I will not leave my son because she's emotionally fucked up. Alpha.

[@PipeFighter83]

I've also recently stopped arguing all together...lol. its a very effective tactic. All you gotta do is let your woman walk around the house acting like a psychotic C and not respond to any of it. The kids will see who's really the shitty person in the end.