Wife Cheated For 8 Yrs & Burned Me, Now Wants To Come Back Cos Life Is Awful... Surviving Infidelity

I 32M am trying to get my thoughts together to ask questions from my ex 30F who’s been trying to get back into my life, why she cheated the hole 8 years of our relationship.
There is zero chance of reconciliation. We have 2 children ages 6 and 8. We have been split for 4 years and I haven’t been able to get past it. I’ve done therapy, I’ve tried dating, I’ve been going to the gym, I’ve been focusing on me and my children. I’m financially stable with a job I love and enjoy. Overall life is good. but I cannot get over what she has done which has ruined any chance for me with potential partners. Anyway. Why I am here is because she has been reaching out telling me how awful her life is with her partner who’s she’s been with one week after I left her. They have 2 children together. And she’s been talking about leaving him.
Story 1:
She committed Infidelity for 8 years. I’m Looking for closure. Need advice.
Story 2:
I finally asked her to stop texting me and made an exit. I did it, people.
Story 3:
UPDATED: Cheated, abused and the spiral never ends
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[@redditoutloudrelationships1430]

Story 1: She committed Infidelity for 8 years. I’m Looking for closure. Need advice. Story 2: 5:57 I finally asked her to stop texting me and made an exit. I did it, people. Story 3: 11:30 UPDATE 17:51 UPDATED: Cheated, abused and the spiral never ends

[@waltermartin357]

Leave her alone work on yourself and start over when ever you are ready

[@bonb213]

Both stories: You cannot get true closure from someone who cannot even to keep their legs closed. They only know open and is only going to be open for the next opportunity to take advantage of you and lie but closure and truth is not a part of their relationship with you.

[@TheRationalist.]

The guy in the first story needs to get a paternity test on both kids asap. If she cheated the whole 8 years there is a good chance that neither is his.

[@marquisarchibald6623]

At this point he’s probably licked in regardless unfortunately. Plus he’s already emotionally attached and finding out would probably cripple him. Paternity tests should be mandatory at birth tbh.

[@OkabexKurisu]

@@marquisarchibald6623 yes. If you ask your woman/wife. you are not trusting in this day and age. So you have to do it in secret...

[@TheRociprincess]

@@OkabexKurisu I would say don't marry a person you can't trust but you are right it's impossible to truly know when to trust :(

[@TheGrimmCommoner]

Third story: "She said she couldn't look at herself in the mirror." Yes, because you punched the mirror.

[@gelcoliva6314]

hahaha

[@-a.z-9208]

Lol

[@sharkdentures3247]

That was exactly the thought that went through my head when the narrator read it! LOL

[@ArielGonzalez1]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@abe3883]

​@@gelcoliva631430

[@user-zx9qv4kv7m]

Wow just ....... wow . How does cheaters have the guts to come back to even ask after they cheated.

[@ELITE-xn3sh]

Cheaters regret getting caught , thats why this POS came back

[@noexplanationowed3525]

Because they are shameless, piece of garbage .

[@vorpalhit5952]

Because "they didn't do anything wrong"

[@unwokeneuropean3590]

In my country they wouldnt. They would leave you for the other guy. Not stay.

[@GeorgeGiann]

Because they have learnt that their spouse had been a doormat up until then.

[@universe98F]

Last story: OP should report her to the authorities, if the roles were reversed OP would be in jail on r*** charges. The ex is disgusting for telling him this is what he wanted after he told her "no". "No" is a full sentence ffs!

[@sanchitbhansali]

She would most likely get off scot free and op would get ridiculed by the people around him.

[@rajakghosh6602]

Never take back ur cheating ex. She is never yours it's just your turn.

[@thebestscientificmethod9304]

Agreed

[@12savage68]

Not even your turn if she's cheating...😂

[@alvinchoong1558]

This applies to everyone. Never give everything unless you wanted to end up with nothing.

[@drwboy07]

This might be a little long but here goes, this guy I knew awhile back was dating this chic for little over 5 yrs he proposed to her as well. Anyway he had to do some work seminar/training outside of the state for about 3 weeks, he had a buddy of his check in on his gf to make sure she was safe or if she needed anything. Anyways his buddy drove by and there was a rando car in the driveway and when he got back he said he knew she slept with some dude in his bed, so as he stated "she wanted to be a hoe so I treated her like a hoe". And he said "he would screw her like a porn star" and he did some twisted shit. After he kicked her to the curb there was times he would tell her "yeah we could work it out" but then used her and kicked her out again. Dude was funny af.

[@thebestscientificmethod9304]

@@drwboy07 she deserves it

[@triplemoyagames4195]

Story 3: WTF OP was f*cking RAPED. I feel so bad for him. OP should absolutely press charges

[@triplemoyagames4195]

@Alex the Angel doesn't hurt to try. That or he kneecaps the B

[@beta-male4864]

When it's over it have to be nc if not we all will wind up in some type of sexual situation with your ex/soon to be ex/ sorry been here to damn many times. It's confusing cause what does it mean? Not a DAMN thing to her , she's just manipulating the whole situation dude sorry we should have seen this one coming. This move is equal to a female crying 😭 when cought.

[@nexus2691]

Yeah thats literal fucking rape.

[@mg7094]

@Alex the Angel you're right but if no one ever goes to the police nothing will ever change. The only reason that women who were taken advantage of in an intoxicated state are counted as rape now, is because some were strong enough to press charges. Rape culture will only truely end when both male and female victims press charges, are validated by society and in the best case the perpretrators are convicted. Rapists and rape apologists are trying to turn this into a gender issue. If we can stand by male rape victims, we can show that this is not a gender issue but a rape issue. Many men don't even realize they were raped.

[@galactusholmes]

No one cares when it happens to a guy. I know from experience. Indifference is the best reaction you can hope for. Ridicule is much worse but seemingly more common.

[@TheIronwil]

Last Story: I dated a woman that wouldn't take "No" for an answer. We had an extremely vigorous sex life, especially considering we were in our early 20's. But I was also working a lot and was into serious strength training. Meaning I was really sore and tired fairly frequently. My girlfriend would suddenly jump on me in my sleep, and I would be groggy and out of it, telling her to stop, but she wouldn't. I did always end up enjoying it, and I wasn't emotionally. traumatized, but it did piss me off. So I get where OP is coming from. The second-guessing when desire and sanity go to war. Self-doubt kicks in pretty hard... did I really drink to control my emotions, or was I subconsciously getting trashed to excuse a decision I knew I wanted to make? Was I really as opposed to it as I told myself I was? These are the kinds of self-talk a man often engages in after being forced like this. None of that matters, though. Whether there's conflict or even desire, a "No" is still a "No".

[@elijahwise3060]

Flip the genders and you are in jail right now or just the allegations would have made you lose everything.

[@maam-yj8ph]

If your partner does not take "No" for an answer, do they really love you or are you just their favorite toy?

[@tankbeast8480]

Rape is rape

[@7up13down]

This is almost exactly what happened to me too. I was in a verbally and manipulative relationship a few years back. She berated me if things didn’t go her way, gave the hot and cold, double standards, and gaslighting. I didn’t have long hour work shifts, but I did work out and was always mentally drained by walking on eggshells and holding my ground. She always wanted intercourse almost aggressively, every single day. Again I would give her excuses, say I was tired or wasn’t feeling it, but she never listened and continued to forced it. It surprisingly wasn’t emotionally traumatizing, at least I don’t think it was, but this neglect for my boundaries for her selfishness translated into frustration. But I had enough. She moved on to date some millionaire, and has been taking care of 2 kids. Not sure if they’re still together and if quarantine affected their life, but I’m over entertaining any curiosities. To a certain degree it changed my outlook on relationships and the level at which I share my vulnerabilities, but I’m doing a whole lot better now. For my maturity, self growth, and success.

[@mg7094]

Thelronwil and Andrew Nyugen if I may ask. What you describe sounds like rape in a relationship for me. However you both say you weren't emotionally traumatized. Of course I am not in your shoes and therefore have no inkling of your experience but it seems unreal to me that there were no emotional scars. Please just ignore me if this is to invasive but have you ever seen a therapists? Gender stereotypes are often so important to ones identity that people do not accept when their experiences are in conflict with their sense of self. However of course its your experience and you are the only ones who know the truth.

[@dre1978]

OP in the last one: that's rape. You told her no, you were drunk AND high, and she continued while being sober. Run away fast and far

[@DonCurrywurst]

Last story "she couldnt look at herself in the mirror anymore" ...well you kinda broke it

[@mjjm8446]

Damn, I was just about to write that.

[@yellowdrapes5536]

That's what I thought immediately too lmaoo

[@yellowdrapes5536]

That's what I thought immediately too lmaoo

[@swanniejones3141]

She is a LIAR!! you can't believe anything she says. give her nothing, especially your time!

[@CunoWiederhold]

IKR!?

[@Shakera...]

The first story: The dad is absolutely sweet. He was damaged badly and yet he keeps saying sorry for the hurt in her life that she CHOSE over him.

[@tacticaldank9714]

Yea, he is sweet. Too sweet tbh, and too naive. When you only see the good in someone, makes you susceptible to getting played like a fiddle. Which he did :/

[@changedmyusernameagain7654]

Ikr. He's too nice

[@Notoriouscj1]

Sweet... no he’s weak

[@Shakera...]

Yeah he's definitely too sweet and naive but what I wanted to point out is that he's sweet, it's on her for throwing away such a good man

[@ARcinder]

@@Shakera... It is because he is a good guy that he ended up in a failure of a marriage. He is too nice and too foolish, and she would never have respected him for it. There a reason why weak men like this are walked all over, and controlling/abusive men are worshipped.

[@cooltoad00111]

Who knows she is lying about her current partner being abusive to you like she did about you to her AP's , her current partner might actually be nice guy

[@alihaydaryalnz6118]

A good man doesn't sleep with someone else's wife. ;)

[@theerealatm]

@@alihaydaryalnz6118 knowingly. Sometime the guy has no idea.

[@kos2919]

@@alihaydaryalnz6118 he still with her even when he knew she was cheating on her husband. A good man gonna back down and left because he knew it will be a train wreck

[@noexplanationowed3525]

First story, screenshot all the convo and expose her to all relevant parties,........u don't owe anyone anything,not even an explanation, but all the same, destroy her like she destroyed u...... remember, being nice with a beach will only screw u over, the experience u already have.

[@genji900]

They can't even admit that the dude in the last story was raped. Flowering it up by calling it forced intercourse instead of the disgusting word of rape is disgusting and makes what happen seem less traumatic or horrible than what it really was.

[@AndyyWithAY]

The commenters called it rape. The reader used another word cuz of stupid KZbin policies

[@epichounds1979]

KZbin policy

[@ArabicLover101]

Yes it is KZbin Community Guidelines and Policies Zachary

[@elsaflood6393]

1st story. You are divorced for 4 years and here you are still in the dark pit. There is no closure especially when she constantly dangle the bait and you are reacting to it. Move on and have a great life.

[@juliosantana3536]

Reading and hearing these stories makes me think of my pops. Early on my pops taught me and my siblings that kindness is a strength but can also be a weakness, if you do not set boundaries and limits in your life you will not be able to control which side of the fence that ends upon. Be kind but not naive, but aware but not overly cautious to the point that you are afraid, risk is not bad recklessness is. It's okay to trust but not blindly, mistakes that some of these guys have made, God help me.

[@philwill0123]

Story 1: i cheated on you, and had two kids with the AF. Now I want you to take me back and look after me and our 2 kids and 2 kids with AF because i need security. Guarantee if OP took back ex, he will lose his remaining friends and family who supported him during break up, because their time and effort to help would be wasted.

[@tk-jv4zd]

crazy af

[@vsk1494]

Kids' weren't his ? He didn't mention it in this video ? Was there anyother update ?

[@MrKentakie]

Always, always press charges as otherwise, it can be held against you. Remember: You are not your emotions.

[@130shooter1]

Wow the 1st and last story.... Calling them trash would be an insult to sanitation workers everywhere. No one deserves to handle that.

[@ian7064]

Story 1: What sort of closure could this poor dude possibly want? She cheated (and likely still is on her current partner) bc she's a terrible person. There's no reason to dig any deeper than that

[@shirin9452]

Thinking about it, I feel he can’t accept how terrible she is. I get it, no one would want to believe that the person they loved was literally not worth their love. As you can see, he talks about what she does and how she hurt him but never says YOU FREAKIN’ SUCK you selfish bitch lose my number etc etc. In a way he wants her to give him an actual reason so he doesn’t have to truly hate her. I remember when I was telling my first love and best friend how he hurt me with his decisions, I told him what he did but all I wanted was for him to be able to say something that would make me understand so I wouldn’t HAVE to accept that he was not the person I fell in love with. I was lucky, I got closure and my ex admitted he still loves me. But I remember panicking, thinking that if he can’t make me understand I have to accept he’s just a piece of shit, and that would have killed me. So...I almost feel like he’s saying this to her, hoping for some answers so he doesn’t have to hate her, and also himself in a way. Trying to remind himself that he cannot let her get close.

[@onyxdragon1179]

"...the minute I left her house last month, she couldn't look at herself in the mirror." Yeah, because he punched it XD

[@redterrorproductions1373]

You'll make a fine rug, Cat

[@robertcromwell9736]

Story 1: Do the same as I did with my EX when she called me whining about how ner new feller was treating her. "You should be calling someone who cares" click. NC except for talking about kids. Closure? You will never get it from her it must grow from within yourself.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Damn, OP is being way to kind to the ex. 2 things he shoukd do: 1) Get thearapy to help hin deal with the issues his ex caused 2) grow a pair and stop being so nice to that beeech. The only reason she reaching out is because she sees him as a door mat.

[@SnowyWolborg]

Story #1: Do not be one of those parents who suffers a cheating partner "for the kids." There is no benefit to OP being anything more than co-parents with the ex. She is untrustworthy as a GF, and he owes her no more of his time. She burned the bridge and can't try to mend fences when it's only for _her_ benefit.

[@frankconley6321]

Never NEVER try to rescue a damaged or broken woman. It's a train wreck that never ends.

[@dougbaron8021]

Story # 1 Don't worry about closure. Her lying, cheating, and divorce is closure. Only respond when involving your kids.

[@OceanSentinel]

"She couldn't look at herself in the mirror anymore" Well yes... because the mirror was destroyed after you punched it

[@stephoncox5778]

Story 1: closure is knowing she will continue to crash and burn

[@spacetofu5306]

This is the best response I have seen.

[@generalrendar7290]

It's all about power, and making themselves feel good. I chased a girl that gas lit me after she chose a guy 8 years older. Told me that he was creepy and abusive, then texted me from her phone accusing me of the same things that were attributed to him. A month later she comes up to talk to me and acts like nothing ever happened. I simply gave a greeting and told her that I had somewhere to be. Never spoke to her again.

[@ddavis8988]

I've never understood the desire for people to need closure in this situation. It's over, let it go and heal. Stop holding on to shit that us dead and rotting.

[@bbjjbb61]

The first guy can't move on because he's still doing things for her and maintaining a deeper connection with that woman.

[@maameyaa7053]

1st Story: If she was able to lie about you she might be doing the same with her new husband. if the boys are his. He should ask her how her new husband treats the children, if she says he treats them bad screen shot the conversation and get full costudy and cutt contact with her.

[@TheIronwil]

2nd Story: Awesome. Pretty sure if was Tony Robbins who said, "People change when the pain of staying the same exceeds the pain of effecting change". Most men are simps in the beginning. Some stay that way longer. But we tend to learn to respect our own worth after getting burned really hard a few times. We realize that the pain of having no self-respect is far greater than the pain of losing a woman (hetero perspective). Suddenly all the gaslighting and lies mean nothing any more. The bank of emotional punching bag is closed. 1st Story: Forget closure. The commenters were correct - it doesn't exist. Knowing the specifics and the "truth" will never set you free. The only thing you need to know is that you were betrayed. It doesn't matter who, how many, or how long. None of that matters. Betrayal is betrayal. Just move on.

[@thelonggame9166]

16:30 First and foremost: you weren't manipulated, you were R@43D! Seems like you were drugged and attacked, but you certainly were attacked! You need to have ZERO FKS about her being suicidal for reporting it and pressing charges. Next, and this will likely be the hardest part: you need to transfer to another university, so you can avoid the entire group easily. The reason that is hard is because, in the process, you will be tempted to quit altogether, but you cannot do that! I understand that the victim shouldn't be forced to make changes, but you have two extreme disadvantages: 1- you're male and 2- even if you press charges and she gets convicted and dismissed from the school...even if she does time in prison, there will be people in her friend group that will say you "over-reacted". You're going to need to leave and continue your education elsewhere. Next, you need MAJOR therapy. I don't trust psychs, but this is one of those situations where you need to walk through this with someone professional. Lastly, at some point, you'll also need a sex therapist. A standard psychologist won't be able to fully get you through all the blame, guilt, and other nightmarish thoughts you will have. You will not likely trust women again until you understand, from all angles, that this wasn't s3x. Good luck and God Speed!

[@jaydave1246]

Ladies and gentlemen, ALWAYS remember. Taking back a cheater is like taking back ANOTHER persons "used condom". Disgusting! 🤢🤮

[@richmerch]

Story 1: She a narcissist, that's all you need to know.

[@okirrama3587]

She forced u to go to bar and force u to go to her Crib

[@TheRationalist.]

The guy is a pathetic simp. She didn't force him to do anything. He is a whimp and its pretty obvious that unless he drastically changes he will get walked on his whole life.

[@lizzylala4703]

@@TheRationalist. if you're talking about the third story that is literally rape he was intoxicated and she forced him to have sex with her he couldn't consent

[@brandyb2931]

This guy can't blame himself for his ex's drug use, its not his job to keep her sober, it hers.

[@Lalocadelosgatos012]

Third OP needs to make charges regardless of his fears of self harm from his ex, all and all this guy was r**ed and is having trauma attached to it :x

[@mbyerly9680]

There's a line in Jimmy Buffett's "Margaritaville" about his decent into alcoholism which resonates with that last story, "Some people claim there's a woman to blame, but I know it's my own d*am fault."

[@jefferyepstein9210]

Closure is moving on with your life

[@DrownedInExile]

Title story: That second comment nailed it. OP needs to polish his spine and teeth, and stop being nice to the ex. He doesn't owe her a damn thing, not even politeness. And he's not going to get any closure from her either. So he shouldn't lift a finger for her, beyond what the courts require. Next time she asks for anything, 1-word answer: No. Anything beyond the kids, grey-rock all the way. Hopefully in time, her toxic influence will fade.

[@adiunknown6520]

I am proud of all three guys 👦❤

[@robertcromwell9736]

Story 1: Ex wife is just looking for another escape like she did while with you. Her baggage goes where she goes. Closure to such things is just a myth. Time and working to get past such things is the only cure to at least scar over the wounds. do not let her reopen the wound.

[@ashmikray]

If he threw his sim outside his balcony, how did random numbers call and text him??

[@CunoWiederhold]

You're too young to have these kinds of problems in your life!

[@pulpy87]

No more mr nice guy was an eye opener for me.

[@GermanGoodGuy]

14:37 "She told me the minute I left her house last month, she couldn't look at herself in the mirror anymore . . ." Well, the Mirror got busted. Obviously, you couldn't. Yes, I am that kind of a jerk and would just say that xD

[@plantemor]

The guy who talked about how he used to not fool around with cheating girls and then found himself becoming the doormat of one, I'm so proud of him for standing up for himself. I totally know what that's like. When I was young I didn't take any shit from guys either until I met my ex who in every way was every single thing about men that I hated and wanted to avoid but he managed to sweet talk me and break down my defenses and totally ruined and humiliated me. It can literally happen to anyone. It just takes the right/wrong moment and the right/wrong person to catch you off guard and destroy your sense of self. The good part is that there's always a life afterwards and lessons to be learned! Life gets better and we grow wiser.

[@safehouse432]

The first story "thank you for the card" wtf where can you get "I'm sorry for the affair, emotional and mental abuse, please help me."

[@IrenaTheWiccan]

That poor guy shouldve pressed charges, but I cant say I blame him. Many victims of rape just want to get away from something so traumatizing and never look at the rapist again. Even in court. And considering hes a guy, unfortunately, even as intoxicated as he was, some people wouldnt take him seriously just because hes a guy. Because "guys are supposed to like and want sex all the time". Its disgusting. My heart goes out to this guy.

[@carouselofagony3276]

The legal definition of being the father in my area is an affidavit of paternity. I've never in my years seen someone get it overturned

[@ajb7530]

1st story, OP you finally got the stones to kick your now girlfriend to the curb. I'm proud of you. Now Never ever, I mean never let any person mistreat you.

[@birdybanks5819]

The advices given were great. OP needs to move on and be concerned only for the kids.

[@conchclub7097]

She couldn’t look look at herself in the mirror anymore probs cause the guy punched it😂

[@brandyb2931]

First story, the only contact he should have with her is about their children, she will never give him answers that will make him feel better or that will explain things, he just needs to letitgo. The trash definitely took itself out here.

[@n3v3rth3re]

"From the streets she came, to the streets you better put her ass back"- me to everyone in this video

[@VashXTrigun]

So, the ex in the first story just apologized and gave him a card and think that would make all things better??

[@Tugman-fj8wq]

She wont tell you the truth.

[@suefecteau1306]

Dont open a door you dont want answers too. Closer is oneself thought. And oneself healing. Move on . Find yourself . Love your kids no matter what

[@pezchef7577]

story 2: *clang*clang* I think I heard somebody got their balls back! cheers mate!

[@ramirorodriguez857]

Woman treats guy like shit. Guy writes polite letter to get over her. Dump those kids on her and just move on.

[@Anagh1701]

The moment cheating is found, you dead to me.

[@GhostFrost524]

Karma always has a way of waiting in the shadows.

[@DemelicosHelsaint]

"She couldn't look herself in the mirror anymore" Well... yeah, you broke her mirror...

[@jmass7835]

Op 1 is far too honest with someone who is horrifically abusive

[@stedmansykes]

The last story I feel that she's could possibly try and beat him to the punch and say he took advantage of her instead. I hope he keeps some proof to back up what really happened when it comes to it

[@killerkdawg88]

In my personal opinion, closure is overrated. 1) It doesn’t make feelings disappear. 2) For at least one party, there is never going to be 100% closure. Nothing they tell you will make it feel any less shitty. So just accept whatever answer they give you, and if they don’t give you an answer, then just make one up yourself, and put it to rest.

[@JennyfaninSweden]

She’s never yours, it’s just your turn

[@andrewmedanich2844]

3rd story OP should press charges rape is inexcusable and disgusting and should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law EVERY SINGLE TIME IT HAPPENS. There is no high ground on this for either gender as both are capable of it. File charges on her disgusting ass.

[@apocolips13]

For number 3 the deep dark pit is a fine place to be. It can be cold and emotionally hard however it will make you stronger just don’t let the darkness take control of you. The best lesson it will teaches you is how to be cold and emotionally strong. I doubt he’ll see this boat for anyone who happens to be in that place right now just remember the darkness isn’t your enemy it is you teaching yourself how to be stronger just don’t let it consume you and you’ll come out the other side just fine might take a while though

[@geraldsandoval1113]

Would sub, but the noise/music is so annoying that I will never do it.

[@yaacovba]

What would help you to move on would be to forget about her. Just don't forget what she put you through, remind yourself that she is not worth it. NO CONTACT should be your fall back position. Unless of course, you are a glutton for punishment.

[@vicarofrevelwood]

First story: closure is a fallacy. Whatever she'll tell you, she'll lie. The truth is not within this woman. She has proved it over, and over, and over again.

[@asmkalrizion7078]

"She couldn't look herself in the mirror anymore" the one he punched? no shit...

[@mariabarker2036]

Story 1. Get a paternity test. You can (and should) still be dad to the boys you've been raising. But the boys deserve a chance to have an accurate family medical history. And they have NO chance of having that if they think they are your bio kids and actually are not. I don't get why people act like paternity tests are about the dad's need to know. It SHOULD be about accurate family history for the children. This is why paternity tests should be automatically done at each birth. No one is singled out, no stigma for one mother over another. Just done and dusted.

[@stanhankins3175]

This guy is hopeless. Bless him.

[@Cass-es5kl]

I would hope you wouldn't abandon your boys no matter what. You have raised them and you are their dad. Get rid of the ex.

[@vsk1494]

But sue her and her AP for the child support. They had an affair for 8 years.

[@notasaintjoseph7365]

I swear the men who post on reddit are so weak. I always get second hand embarrasment listening to this type of stories.

[@angelichellspawnyang2722]

The nerve lmao

[@raunchi2383]

The only thing that will help you move on is moving on. Life rarely is a movie. Most of that shit just imagery used to help the audience relate.

[@chrismcfizzle]

There is no need to ask "why" they do it......they did it because they wanted to, plain and simple....don't try to understand it...kick them to the curb and move on...it takes time, but leave them in your dust....doing better for yourself is always the best revenge because it eats them up inside.....Believe me, I know for a fact having been through it.

[@steveg9268]

Attention all doormats: People treat you how allow you them to treat you. If she disrespects you she doesn’t love and never will.

[@tomvershay4281]

The only closure this guy will get is when that perfect fit of a women to him will step out of nowhere and sweep him off his feet.

[@christopherkrug2191]

Don't do it The audacity. What does she want. Another shot at ruining you to finish it for good?

[@yellowdrapes5536]

This whole video is a sad vibe

[@dannystelly4838]

Yep

[@sharonblevins3281]

Best bet is to stay away from the addict.

[@beegee1960]

She won’t be able to tell you why she.did what she did. She doesn’t know herself.

[@bryanmayes4862]

I wish I could sit and talk with OP from story 3. Just let him know to just chalk it up to life experience. Dude’s 20… at that age, all it usually takes to get over someone like her is to just get with other females. It is what it is

[@stevenharris4281]

Karma will come for them.

[@kimsawyer3918]

O.P she can answer every question you have honestly and you wouldn't belive her .even with the truth it won't be good enough stop looking for her to help you feel better its not gonna happen. Find peace with in your self and just know you're better off. Shes lied on you betrayed and everything under the sun stop just stop dealing with her . Your not homies your not lovers and your dam sure not friends. Stop looking for what's not their answer's. You have to realize some ppl are just messed up completely thats not a you issue that's a her issue.

[@marvnuts]

Story 1: NC unless it's about your boys. She doesn't care about you beyond what you can do for her.

[@thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763]

People are so melodramatic. Pot is hardly a substance.

[@theerealatm]

Naw i used to be addicted to the stuff. Coats alot and keeps you complacent of where you are

[@thereturnoftheprodigalyams6763]

@@theerealatm So does Alchohol. And yes i agree you can abuse it but there are millions if not a billion people who use it responsibly.

[@wemustbecomemachines2012]

all these dudes who cry for their cheating exes...that's the greatest gift you can give a narcissist who doesn't give a shit about you.

[@beta-male4864]

When someone show you who they are believe them. She showed you when she flerted in front on you

[@tonyharmon6527]

After my ex there is no "he is just a friend" if you are talking to him while being with me you are disrespecting me and proving that you are not worth my time.

[@danneltheflannel]

Lol how nice that first guy was with his responses. I'd give her the coldest of shoulders if my ex was that much of an ass-hat. And that's not even including the cheating part of her actions. What a waste of life she is.

[@AlbowaSinema]

Story one: You were a cheque. Now life is hard you need to get back to solving things. 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Delta6Creations]

The first story is one where she clearly has NPD. She’s triangulating you with the new supply.