Wife Having an Affair? Is It CRAZY to Try & Save My Marriage? - Brett's Update

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@randylandry5332]

Hey I’ve watched a lot of your videos on getting your ex back by being pretty much standoff-ish, but I never seen you do a video on if your ex left you because you emotionally neglected her and didn’t give her attention and affection… would it be the same or is this a different case, cause it seems counterintuitive

[@livewithinthedream]

*slow clap* I like that you're real Geoffrey in the sense that you acknowledge there are indeed other paths available for both people in the relationship. If people would stop focusing on what their partner is doing and instead focus on their own growth, internal states, and mindsets then honestly your partner looking at others doesn't even cross your mind. Them cheating doesn't even cross your mind. Rather than getting your relationship back, people need to focus on getting themselves back cause that's what they essentially lost somewhere along the way.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

You're on the right track here! Focus on becoming irreplaceable and growing yourself MASSIVELY, the rest then takes care of itself. Love the process of growing intrinsically, and then your partner will see that your changes are genuine. Ironically, this is when your partner will start coming closer to you :) And, when you grow to become irreplaceable, your partner will happily choose you again because you are objectively the BEST possible choice for her!

[@rjones9norva]

These interviews really put into perspective what the processes can bring to your life. Just to hear the journey and see the processes play out are powerful, motivating, and relatable.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Yes, indeed! It's just one of the many reasons we say that mastery of the processes will guarantee you succeed in your relationship. In fact, every single success story we have involves exactly that :)

[@verb0ze]

28:50 her friends saved your marriage. This is the kinds of friends you want your wife to have, not the ones that are like "you're just human, it's okay, you didn't go the whole way". I hope you've bought them thank you cards.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Her friends helped, but let's not belittle the effort and scale of his changes now. If he had never changed, her friends could convince her to go back to him all day long. it wasn't happening. Also, we have a ton of cases where "friends" and "family" actually did not help. Feel free to check out those.

[@CrapnellGates]

Such a great interview, love seeing Brett thrive so much you can literally see it in his fucking complexion !!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Exactly, his thriving state CANNOT be faked :) Aside from his complexion, what did you learn from this interview that AMAZED you?

[@cell5066]

I got alot of resistance too introducing these concepts to my parents who were having issues, their relationship was falling apart and my mum agreed with these concepts and my dad just refused to accept that he needed and could make the first move to improve and work on the relationship. But despite him talking down on me and saying its useless if the woman doesnt want to work in it too ill continue to practice what Geoffery teaches because i know deep down its the right thing to do, the best thing i can do for myself

[@theorangeofallahpbuh1840]

Hey Geoffrey, I’ve been watching your videos for a while, and they’ve helped a tremendous amount by themselves. I’d love to dive deeper into some of the concepts you’ve been talking about, even learn more about some of the pitfalls. However, I won’t be able to afford the program for a long time. Would there be any books, podcasts, or other cheaper resources you would recommend?

[@verb0ze]

1:22:44 and there it is. Your relationship is up in the air, because you can't set a boundary. You should know what you're working towards, not this wishy-washy "oh, she'll let me know when we're reconciled and we'll have a big ole ceremony". No. What do YOU want? Be clear and direct about it, that's masculinity to me. It doesn't mean you'll get it, but at minimum you should be clear for yourself what you're working towards and be able to express it openly. "I don't care about labels" is a cope people often use to protect their hearts from hurt. I'm no better, I've done it to, but I'm aware of it. I won't sit here and go on about an hour that I'm reconciling with my wife and then say "oh, we don't use labels because they're not important". That is basically what the red pill community says, "do not legally commit to here" 😂

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Don't know about Brett, but what I WANT is a relationship so STRONG, with such OBVIOUS clues, that neither parties needs to label what "we have". Since the recording of this interview, their relationship has gone further past reconciliation, and they both did not need to label what they "are". Sure, some people refuse to label what they are because they are scared to "commit", but some people don't even THINK to label what they are. Big difference. Power is not in an action. Power is in the intentions. e.g. Some men ask their wives for their opinions out of weakness, some men ask from a strong place of being able and willing to consider all angles he might have missed to make a surgical decision. Feel free to watch my videos on power in relationships to understand the difference!

[@2pacorwhat]

I'm having a really hard time with this one. 1:12:25 I can't get myself to agree on this. The thing is even if you do all this work, there's always someone "better" than you. Humans, especially women, are emotional beings and will get carried away by their emotions in certain settings and will do things that they will regret afterwards. Why would you, as a couple, willingly put yourself in situations in which cheating happens a lot? (like going out). If I had a dollar for every woman that has cheated on their partner just because some dude made them feel a certain way a certain night I'd be a billionaire. The only way that responsible adults make sure they do not cheat is by not putting themselves in situations in which cheating can happen. This goes from instantly blocking dudes or women sliding into your dm's to not going to the club "with the boys/girls" to get drunk.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

"The only way that responsible adults make sure they do not cheat is by not putting themselves in situations in which cheating can happen." I always say - Give your partner enough freedom so they CAN leave. Treat them well enough so they won't want to. Your description of relationships seems reminiscent of North Korea. (The only way that responsible citizens ensure they do not defect is by not putting themselves in situations in which defecting can happen). No thank you! :) My wife, and now my army of 5,000+ clients' wives choose to stay with them not because they HAVE TO, but because they WANT TO, even if they can leave. I'll take that any day! --- Read your comment again, now replace the words "women" with "men". Would you personally stay with someone who thinks so lowly of you? So you say ""The thing is even if you do all this work, there's always someone "better" than you."" Are you sure the women in your life are leaving you because they are messed up and found someone better? Or perhaps paradigms like that turn them off, and it's not so much that they found someone better, but they want to run away from people who think like that about them? P.S. Our definitions of "better" is very different. Feel free to look up these search terms and watch these videos to learn more. If you don't want to watch it, that is fine too. Just wanted to share what has revolutionized relationships for so many men. "Change in the Right Ways Geoffrey Setiawan” "Positive Masculinity Geoffrey Setiawan” "High-Value Geoffrey Setiawan” "Power in Relationships Geoffrey Setiawan”

[@2pacorwhat]

@ thank you for your detailed response. Would you agree that despite wanting to be in the relationship, it is still possible to feel like someone better has appeared in your life and ending up cheating? It has nothing to do with forcing each other to not do these things. You can come to a mutual agreement about this based on the principles I laid out. I think your North Korea analogy is a strawman of my argument. It’s not about thinking lowly, it’s thinking realistically. People, especially women nowadays, cheat on each other all the time. It’s not thinking lowly to agree on certain things to drastically reduce the chances of this happening. I agree that the best way to do that is by the principles you lay out. I’m just wondering if it is really that bullet proof to then let your partner that previously cheated have nights out with the girls again.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

@@2pacorwhat Like I said, I think we have two very different definitions of what it means to be “bullet-proof” and what it means to be “high-value” or “better”. But to put it simply - out of the 37 success interviews we have recorded after affairs so far, we have had zero relapses. In fact, they are all growing stronger by the day. Brett included. And this is not including the many reconciliations that we never recorded a testimonial for. No relapses. Zero. So for us, when someone becomes “better” in the right ways, and to the right standard, and become “irreplaceable” in our definition of what it means to be such, we just do not see the “behaviors” from women that you are seeing. What we see is that when a man becomes someone who can create the 5 pillars in amazing ways, they are also amazed at how much it allows their women to blossom in the best ways possible (mine included). But like I say in many of my videos, you are always free to see life, relationships and women in however ways you wish! We just wanted to introduce you to ours as we have created quite a revolution in this realm with thousands of men and couples (many of whom thought like you when they first started). Remember, your paradigms affect your actions, which affect your reality. If you want to change your reality, you must be open to changing your paradigms.

[@2pacorwhat]

@ Thank you for taking the time out of your schedule to respond in such detail to my objections. That people are cheating en masse is not something «I’m seeing» it is just an undeniable fact. Although I think it’s safe to assume that the vast majority of people in this world do not adhere to your 5 pillars either, so you make a good point. If there are no relapses that is very impressive. I’m just doing my due dilligence before investing a large sum of my money into something. The fact that you’re here responding to me despite being in a position where you absolutely do not have to tells me a lot about why you’re doing this. You seem like a genuine person in a space filled with charlatans.

[@Nuez234]

Brett... looking good man!🎉

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

It's quite noticeable how much more lively he looks, right? Just one of the many reasons I love doing what I do :)

[@rblrahul007]

@@GeoffreySetiawan Love you man😊

[@rblrahul007]

Every thing which Geoffrey says in this video Para clarify , lots of learning 😊

[@katlehomoeca9513]

How do you heal her heart? She's not angry at me, but she's very angry at herself for allowing me to hurt her time and time again.

[@livewithinthedream]

Question Geoffrey. At this point I am just doing it for myself so I can remain this great guy. My family relationships are 50x better. Friends are inviting me over all the time (never happened before in my life), women try to pick me up in public...constantly, and I thought that one interview where the dude said that was the case had to be staged! I apologize to you and your team cause this is legit once you give off the vibe you give off the vibe. So I am having process wins daily, and I am loving it. I noticed her stonewalling went from kinda-sorta to like...clear attempts to not even talk to me when we are face to face. I chuckle at it when alone but what am I looking at here? She is okay right, from what you've seen in your experience.

[@render_red]

Hey i would like you for some advice because you seem like you could help me out a little bit So basically this might come off as cringe but i was in this relationship with a girl out of my class in school that broke up with me because she told me her feelings weren't real from the beginning. I still kind off think that she had feelings for me, but those just died out throughout the relationship. It would be so helpful for me if you could tell me what to do because i really feel hopeless in this scenario and am just so lost