The change is no contact. It's living your own life, getting happy. They see the change through other avenues. It's actually stronger if they hear it from someone else rather than from you.

What about when your partner is dealing with insecurities and projects onto you along with self sabotaging then asks for space despite trying to work it out? This can't be the other person's fault. Many people have their own insecurities but at the same time, it's not their partner's responsibility to fix them.

On the basketball thing. Think about Steph Curry people. Turned down by two colleges, one of which his dad played at. He practiced anyway and now what? One of the highest paid NBA players of all time.

Kinda late to this video but I messed up in our relationship it’s a 3 year relationship she’s perfect no problems but I messed up and she had problems trusting me again but we got over it. Once the one year mark of the the incident came, she got distant and now I know why but i accused her of cheating instead of reassuring her. From then it spired out of control and now she asked for space

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Thanks Jeff!! So helpful man you’re a big inspiration to many 👊🏽😘❤️

Sir this is my very first relationship iam a 16 years old and my gf and i are in a relationship for past 6 months she asked me to give her space 2days ago i was never anxious and nervous as i never knew how to react sir you really helping me as i dont know how to react and what to do in this situation

What if she wants to do couples counseling but she has signs of talking to others. 😐

What if she's filed for divorce?

Not handling difficult emotions

i feel like in my situation they really aren't actual boundaries she's putting up. It seems more like controlling what i can and cannot do regarding her world. For example, it is a boundary that i can't go over her mother's house without her knowing about it or she'll feel her boundaries were disrespected. Same with me seeing her animals that live over her mother's house. Those are her animals and i don't have a right to see them or else i'm "entitled" and i feel i can do what i want. I don't see those as boundaries. I see that as controlling another person's actions underneath the guise of boundaries. They were never discussed either. I don't know I disrespected a boundary until it happened. When I bring this up it turns into "well if you were a considerate person you'd think to do / not to do that and I wouldn't need to tell you not to do or do something"

Love that mentality, mistakes are fucking awesome!

This is a great example of how no situation is unique, I love it! I also like how you pointed out that at each level of growth there are new problems to learn from. I was thinking about the question in my last comment about wether or not you would publish the full Q&A session, and I realized while I enjoy listening to it that way this format has the potential to reach a larger audience of people with a short attention span. Another positive aspect of this is there is a new small lesson published every day, which helps to focus on all of the points in depth. When I listen to the long format I listen to them over again many times because I miss details, while this format helps to hyper focus on any given topic. Again thanks for continuing to publish these, there is always something new to learn here.

Oh forgot to add. Divorce is just a label guys. It doesn't mean you can't be with her, don't focus so much on your label Edit: Never mind, G said it in the video like 1 minute after lmao

Geoffrey i still wonder wether there is difference between men and women. I noticed that women are much more willing to give it their best and give their men what he dreams about ( if they feel totally safe with him ) but I’m still not sure about the opposite… I noticed that when men (some men) feel totally safe they don’t see why they need to change. They are already happy and do not see why to do more for their woman

People been telling me they are blessed to be my friend, I connect with people deeply now and chat for hours, and yet...there is still something I am missing it feels like. It is making me crazy lmao. Maybe I am overthinking but once I grasp that I will post here. That said, thanks to this channel my life has done a 180, and I am having meaningful and deep connections while also finding success. Thanks bud

Hey, I've been watching for a couple of weeks, and I've learned and am still learning a whole lot. I appreciate your channel so much. Right now, she had said she needed space (2 weeks). we're supposed to be talking again tomorrow. I had an addiction and many micro things i kept doing. I've been learning to separate myself to do it for me and not her right now. it's in between.

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Love this story with Luke! The damn theme again,” change for yourself and if they come along for the ride, great, and if not, great”!

Thank you Alex 🙏🏾 The common theme is “doing it for your damn self” ✌🏾

Hey do you still have the Facebook group

We need such detailed videos on 'Frameworks' and 'following through' please...

This was good. Thank you for this one

It's time 2 dive deeper into your teaching to shift me I see divorce made me wanna be better

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hey again Geoffrey, I really appreciate your incredible videos and effort in making them so concise and baluable. Your content is changing my life. I saw the videos about internal shifts but can you create a more detailed video about how to perform the auto-suggestions? and examples about looms and Amos?? I'm not sure I understand these yet.. THANK YOU AGAIN, man

Great job Geoff! i was hoping if you could please post a detailed video on Frameworks please

Hey Geoffrey, I could listen to you for hours! Since you don’t accept everyone in your program, I’m curious-do you believe some people simply can’t change? I ask because so many wives endure abusive treatment (sometimes physical but mostly emotional), and I often wonder-if they put in the effort to change, what if their husbands never do? I know it is still worth it for these wives to do the work, but is there any way this could be dangerous (husband's resistance abusive???) Did you mention licensing? Any link to read more about it?

My seperated wife acknowledges my “transformation” (in her words) and it’s only been 2 months since the separation. She is acknowledging it but I don’t think she truely believes it, she’s just being nice about it.

Like, for real.

There is no Hope. Move on.

it's been a little under two months now. at what point should i give up and try to move on??

I love this, work on your product before worrying about your advertising! I feel like this resembles the paradigm tech companies use when releasing a new product, they hype it up with adds that include things that are still be implemented in the product. When consumers purchase the product they realize that the product is not how it was advertised, and decide to move on. Likewise our partners may make the same decision if we do not work on our product, the same way the tech companies must push forward to improve their product. Attempting to solve this with more advertisement may create many false reconciliations, but the customer will never stick especially when other products are available. Only when your product is 10x the other products will the customers start to stick. Even then, due to the numerous false advertisement campaigns, it will be harder to re-establish safety with this person and to get their attention again. But with an ever improving product they will eventually notice, and begin to regain interest. Great lesson.

When you spoke about the work situation, I just spoke about that with my ex yesterday. She said she didn't even think I wanted custody of our daughter. I didn't even need her to explain, and I realized I put so much into work and earning money that I pushed aside my family. Immediately the conversation dove into so many more hard truths, but it is never the thing; it is the thing behind the thing that's behind the thing.

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So sad I missed this! I would've loved to speak. I used to be exactly how Maddie was, and now I hear him and hope he can have that "wake up" moment and surrender to the process. Spoke to my partner for two hours yesterday and she was letting me have the tough truths. It was awesome haha!

My wife and me is separated for 1 month after 4 years marriage. We have a 4 year old daughter. She has been stonewalling me since. She only replies in short text whenever we update each other on our daughter. We both stay different place since we had our daughter and only meet up on weekends. She listed all the thing I did and did not do which irks her for 4 years. Until now I have no chance to apologise to her for what I did. I am planning to write a letter to apologise. Should I do it? If she stonewall me, how can I even have 5 minutes to even talk to her? What should I do? Please help @geoffreySetiawan

As a woman who is experiencing this, listen to this man! He is absolutely spot on! This lack of emotional safety actually shut my libido down and destroyed my marriage.

Hey Geoff. I just want to get a better understanding of this. Is this also referred to as attunement?

Holy fuck Geoffery you went batshit on Matt. Unhinged bro but i can hear the pain in your voice like you want matty to grow as a man and why isnt he a man. now i see the sides of being defeated and the victor, its a very hard topic to teach Geoffrey. You are trying to teach him instincts which he is too damaged to see.

My partner finally had enough of my avoidant behavior of 2 1/2 years of our 3 year relationship and is also in love with someone they game with online who is out of state. I'm surprised I've done everything you recommend without knowing. They're moving out in a week but it's just down the street so we can see each other. It was hard, I've had 2 months of focused change and they still doubt me but it's less and less frequent I hear it. I think distance is going to do us good. If you love someone that loves you value it. Never take it for granted... if anyone has a time machine I'm greatly interested in making one quick trip, please 🙏

These are awesome Geoff, are there any plans to publish the full Q&A session?

FAE, what does that stand for?

How to join the q & a ?

funny my name is Matthew and her family hates me too LMFAO

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Hey man, I just want to say THANK YOU. Your videos are PURE GOLD. You gave me hope, I totally change my paradigm. I used to think that the more time we spent separated, the more difficult would be to fix the situation. Litteraly it's the opposite. Thanks to your videos I acknowledge my big mistake (trying to rationalize why we should stay) and focused on the process. That's the only way, and in a week she was back. The more effort you put into stay together in that situation, the worse it will get. After the paradigm shift (focus on the process, and not on the quick outcome) my anxiety levels went almost to 0, I found hope and motivation. Untethering is the best advice one could get. At least it has worked like magic for me. I hope this can help more people. Remember, focus on yourself, give her the space she needs, don't lose hope

Hey is there any way i could reach out to you

If your partner asks for open relationship/marriage there's 2 questions that should be asked. 1) Do you know what the tree lawn is? --2) Do you know what the front door is? A possible 3rd could be if the partner is taking way too long to pack their belongings. Cheating, open disgusting garbage etc....is 100% a deal breaker

I know this episode is very old but I have just recently came across your channel and it has been very eye opening. My fiance stonewalls me whenever I get angry and the "response to stonewalling section" was spot on. I know he gets overwhelmed when I am angry and I do my best to try to reel myself in to talk calmly. Hopefully your tips here will further help me.