Wife Talk | *TMI* Q&A about sex, periods, conflict & more

[@hardikshukla1017]

Husband talk next with the one and only Chad man 🤍😎

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah should i do it?!?!

[@hardikshukla1017]

@@ToriAndChad ofc is that even a question???????

[@lilysteward4406]

@@ToriAndChad Would love to see that! ❤

[@ToriAndChad]

if enough people want it we will do it!!

[@iuliaturcas4348]

@@ToriAndChad please do!!!!!!!

[@ryushizu17]

1:25 Period projected to happen on wedding week. What to do? 3:51 How to love your husband even when you don't feel like loving him? 5:24 Do you guys flirt each other in marriage? 6:15 Do you ever get insecure about your body when Chad can see everything? 8:14 #1 tip for a girl who's about to become a wife? 11:17 Do you feel like you're obligated to do housework or are you happy to? 12:56 Did your first time having sex feel uncomfortable? 13:54 Did you know how to cook when entering marriage? Any tips? 15:40 How do you get yourself in the mood for intimacy? 17:52 Are there seasons where one partner is spiritually stronger? 18:54 Do you guys schedule sex? 19:40 Is being a Proverbs 31 woman realistic or is it really high standard? 22:29 Wedding regrets? 23:22 What's one thing you didn't expect about marriage? 24:09 How can I prepare to be a good wife in my single years? 25:46 How do you tell your partner when you aren't feeling loved enough?

[@nosipho4899]

God bless 🙌 🙏🏾

[@JelenaKrnjic]

Thank you 😊

[@sinethembaspelman]

Thank you

[@simonetozaharieva]

Thank you!

[@siennajohnson2747]

Definitely missed Chad, BUT more ‘Talks with Tori’ please!! Your godly wisdom for women is so insightful and encouraging! I feel like I’m talking to my sister (yay for sisters in Christ!). Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

[@angelasantiago7797]

Yessss

[@rubyschrock8945]

Amen!!!!

[@j.botchek7064]

@@rubyschrock8945 excise ju👏😅😅💀

[@jlv61560]

"Expectations kill experiences." So good, so accurate!

[@marcovforte]

“You cannot expect what you don’t communicate.” Love that

[@rashellewilcox2633]

You n Chad definitely go together like happy and birthday!! Yes,he was missed. But the hugs were the best part!!

[@yellowrose13]

The young wife and mother gets SO much praise in the Christian church that for someone like me who is still not there it can feel like I failed. Thanks for saying that different seasons happen for everyone at different times.

[@heather6404]

To the girl that possibly has her period on her wedding week, it totally happened to me. My cycle is always irregular, and I totally had my period on my wedding day. I talked to my husband about this being a possibility and he was totally fine with it, and he was totally fine waiting if I wasn't comfortable. I was a virgin when I got married and we just ended up falling asleep on our wedding night anyways, so it's really no big deal.

[@AllieSierdsma]

Thing that would worry me is white dress

[@corrineainley]

I can relate my cycle arrived on my honeymoon too. And after 10 years married life is sweeter than I imagined being together. Put in the hard work to learn and grow together in all areas of life. ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

right!!? We feel the same!

[@nadinepotgieter9594]

15 years going strong by His grace and it gets better!

[@corrineainley]

I just listen to another pod cast with author Maisie Hill. It was so good, I learned about the seasons of our whole menstrual cycle. Wish I would have known this info sooner would have helped me in my early years of marriage.

[@dsophie7816]

Tori, you're doing such a good job of being a mentor for those who don't have one! I loved this video. And you too, Chad! You were missed and I pray you get better soon.

[@iriamonge1704]

not a wife but taking notes for the future, love this videos.

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah that will pay dividends for you!

[@abstract1126]

THANK YOU TORI!!! I lagit was just contemplating the Proverbs 31 woman yesterday and totally started judging myself and my life against that standard. Recognizing that it was written about a womans LIFE and not a bout a snap shot of a time in her life makes me feel SO MUCH BETTER!

[@Marie_Garwood]

I remember the days of girl talk with Tori! 😁 I missed Chad, but I also really loved this! I’m personally not opposed to some occasional girl time! Feels very cozy, and yes, not all of us do have mentor figures or readily available friends to pour our hearts out to!

[@naturebaby303]

I'm crying! Ahh, thank God for you Tori, and these videos! My cup has been filled and I have so many ideas now with how to improve my walk with the Lord and my marriage. The best thing you said for me was, "Your personal relationship with the Lord is going to sustain you and your marriage". Amen! Thanks Tori! :)

[@emilysneller2413]

"You can't expect what you don't communicate" such a great reminder

[@tamlynryan2018]

This was SUCH a great video. I especially loved how you spoke about the Proverbs 31 woman and how your life doesn't end after your 20s. Also, felt the communication talks - that is so important in life but especially in relationships.

[@rubyschrock8945]

Thanks Tori- I really needed to be "refreshed " on some of the topics you touched on!! We are married 24 years & having a good marriage takes effort and "work". Blessings to you- I appreciate your posts!!❤

[@hannahrobby]

Thank you, Tori, for taking the time to go deep… and REAL lol. Y’all are wonderful 😄😍

[@ToriAndChad]

you are so sweet!

[@allegravet]

Solo talks with Tori giving me flashbacks to the channel 2 years ago! Also get well soon Chad 🙏

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahah it really is!!!

[@lenak.743]

Did Tori and Jess talk about doing this kind of video before recording? Funny that Jess uploaded the exact kind of video today 😂 Love it! Thank you Tori for being so real and open, you’re like an older sister sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us 😊 Lots of love, praying that Chad is getting better soon! 🧡

[@bitachocho]

i just finished jess' video hahah!

[@_devotionart]

Yeah I was thinking about this!!! Just watched Jess video and now I’m here 😂💖

[@colleengapuzan]

HAHAHA EXACTLY

[@sophiameg2203]

Haha I was so excited to watch both of them

[@arlettezempoalteca7040]

Right!!! But loving all the nuggets of wisdom 😄

[@anoriginal97]

I knew to the channel, I was introduced through your visit with Milena. But I will say, I definitely appreciated this talk & your biblical perspective of these things. I’m really impacted by the amount of selflessness that you express these things in, along with the joy all over you as you’re talking throughout the entire video. I would definitely appreciate more talks like this from you. But, I do hope chad feels better & think it would definitely be cool to have him do something like this for husbands. 😊

[@melissapergakis1112]

I loved this type of video even though I love the two of you together and pray Chad feels better soon. You were so insightful and encouraging and you didn’t hold back, which is so important and coming from a Christian perspective was so helpful. Thank you for allowing us to witness an authentic Christian marriage. I’ve been divorced for several years and have since then become a Christian and this will help me to navigate a Christian relationship when the timing happens for me. 🙏🥰

[@annan.9966]

LOVE Wife Talk! I'm a wife of less than 3 months and so grateful for people like you paving the way!

[@arozsa-h57]

I have been a wife now for almost a year and this was so helpful! Specifically, Tori, the advice you gave about having no expectations. If I keep a high standard, I will always live in disappointment.

[@amandafranklin1770]

Love this! The virtuous woman has always been something I want to strive to be, but it seemed so unreachable at times. What you said is so true, we don't have to accomplish all those things RIGHT NOW. Just because someone else might be doing a certain thing by a certain age/time doesn't mean I have to as well. God has different timelines for each of us. ❤❤ and His timing is certainly better than mine! Thank you for your encouragement! Hope Chad feels better soon!

[@AnneLindsey1]

Very good words of wisdom. At 67 I look back and wish I had known some of these things at your age. Keep up the good work and encouraging others! Same goes for Chad, he was missed today.

[@joyceamarapu8141]

Absolutely loved the girl talk! Thanks for the encouragement and we've all missed you Chad. Hope you are feeling better.

[@ToriAndChad]

Wooo! Thanks for being here with us!!!

[@joyceamarapu8141]

@@ToriAndChad 😍❤

[@lilymust5322]

Leviticus 15, start from verse 19. My mom told me about this a few months into my marriage and I was like...oh. Also, I’ve been married for going on 6 yrs, and pregnant with our third. And litteraly a few months ago I started to just TRY instead of following my feelings and 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️❤️❤️ I literally feel so much closer to him now. And SAME 😂 every time he comes home and I’m messy, he goes “you’re so beautiful” and I just get so many compliments. ❤️❤️ You literally just woke me up with the expectations talk. Wow. I gotta do this ❤️❤️

[@leahkornbau217]

I don't think that's a sin issue. That was an uncleanliness thing in the same way certain unclean food were avoided.

[@autumnalexander2329]

I feel so uplifted by this video. I needed to hear so many of these things today! ♥️ Thank you for sharing. God has given you such a special gift of speaking his truth into peoples lives!

[@sallyhand9274]

Hopping on the TMI train to share that I too got my period on the morning of my wedding day. Despite doing my best to plan around it this had been a fear of mine since the start of my engagement and I saw it coming. I can’t encourage you enough to simply have transparent communication with your fiancé - my now husband was nothing but supportive and caring, making me feel completely safe and cherished. My doctor also suggested that (since I knew when it would come) I “preload” with a dose of ibuprofen the day before and take it consistently throughout the first couple days of my period. Not only can this help with cramps, it can reduce nausea and slow your bleeding. All that being said, our wedding night was beautiful and I wouldn’t change a thing if I could.

[@amandalynnsmith832]

What you said at the end about being a mentor; just know you are! As someone who is so new to faith you are giving me major big-sis vibes so thank you!

[@Sbro901]

That’s why you just have to love Chad you know…look at what the man of God wrote in the description box. Tori you are truly blessed among women. What you shared, and HOW you shared it, ministered to me deeply. I’m adding these nuggets and more to my treasure chest while I continue to Grow in Christ. If we prepare for a husband like we prepare for Christ, we can’t go wrong…WIN WIN!

[@doroteeat896]

Tori! Be blessed, you should know you are an inspiration for us ladies! words of wisdom from you!! have a great day or night & kisses from Italy 💕

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww you are so sweet!!! We can't wait to visit Italy!!!

[@doroteeat896]

@@ToriAndChad may you come with God’s will!! otherwise, can’t wait to meet you all in heaven 🤗

[@StephanieSharesJesus]

Just subscribed. So thankful for the godly influence and having people with the same values in my space. I don't have many friends and it's nice to find that now on KZbin.

[@rfanaccount]

your so positive and hardoworking. yall make our days so much better. thank you for everything

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks for being here with us!!

[@kyndallrohan1310]

I absolutely love the vulnerability. You’ve really showed me how I should communicate in my next relationship and showing all of your imperfection to your partner is normal. I also love how you always think with God in mind and know what he wants you to do versus what your thoughts or feelings are telling you to do. Can’t wait for more videos! ❤️

[@emilysneller2413]

I've watched all your singleness series videos and they're so good! I took notes and will probably go back and watch them again while I'm still in the single stage.

[@allihernandez3788]

I really needed this! I’m so glad that you are such a good Christ centered role model, Tori. I feel like you are a great glimpse into what a mentor should be. I just moved from Texas to Mississippi within 2 days (I’m military), and the loneliness of having no friends yet while juggling huge life/jobs changes really hits hard. I encourage you to be a light during the dark or uncertain times of the lives of the women watching these videos. It helps to just get out of my own head and put things into a Godly perspective. I don’t want to give the illusion that I think you’re perfect, because none of us are, but I want you to know that you impacted me. ❤️ Much love from a Texas gal feeling out of place!

[@keziaabraham375]

love how God is using y’all!

[@ToriAndChad]

Love your encouragement!!!

[@ayounk4202]

Absolutely loved this. Please do more Girl talk/talks with tori. I really missed these. I still love chad but these juts really encourage me! Always like to here that I am not alone.

[@Smiles410]

Miss youu Chad!! Get better soon. Thanks for taking care of him Tori

[@blessingwandera2927]

You are such a good husband Chad💕 You were dearly missed N quick recovery to you.... As for Tori , what can i say...you are such a suitable help mate that it's just so adorable to watch you serve your husband. Lots of love💕

[@kerminagattas2339]

Tea Time Talks with Toriii!!! I love ittt, missing you Chad!! Hope you feel better!

[@ToriAndChad]

and chats with chad!!! Thank you!!!

[@renf5246]

Can’t say how thankful I am for you and Chad! Thank you for your constant honesty, openness and above all love for the Lord. Just know that your videos mean a lot to myself and I’m sure so many others.. God bless y’all 🙏🏼🤍

[@rachelmclaren4904]

I’m an OG and I remember these talks! But I love that you brought up feelings following actions! I remember being told this awhile back, but you bringing it up now was like a lightbulb!

[@ToriAndChad]

Yes feelings following actions!!! Love that it hit!

[@rachelmclaren4904]

@@ToriAndChad yes! Sometimes I think I forget how much of a choice we have!

[@taylormays8750]

wowwww love this advice from tori! also, the description was SO NEEDED! love you two!

[@jemimaabraham5329]

Hey Chad! Hope you get well soon...And thank you for the encouraging talk on the description. Can't wait to get back to the video and get encouraged by Tori! Already know it's going to be great!

[@ToriAndChad]

Awww thanks for the love, Jemima!!! We appreciate you so much!

[@peteysrib]

We miss you chad. 😟 Hope you feel better soon! Love the thing you wrote in the description.

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thank you for taking the time to read the description! We appreciate you so much!

[@peteysrib]

Have a great day.💜

[@dakotadupee2176]

I love you so much Tori, you are such a light and a great example to all woman. I am married but I came here to watch because 1st I just adore you and second to get some advice and hear what young woman are asking. I wish this were longer!❤️

[@shwetav]

The encouragement was superb! Thank you for always reminding us of what's important and centre us to intentionally focus on what the real thing is! 👏

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thank you for taking the time to read it, as always!!!

[@shwetav]

@@ToriAndChad 🙃Thank you for always writing those pearls of thoughts.. you have no idea how impactful they are!!

[@ToriAndChad]

:)

[@jessimitchell2051]

I love this!! I did miss Chad, but I want more of these girls talks! Please please pleaseee!

[@sgwiedenheft]

I was here for those girl chats with Tori!! Here since the beginning!! Loved them!! ♥

[@jenlewis241]

hey Tori! :) Great video! Started watching Jess and Gabe (and their separate channels), then the podcast with Gabe and Chad and Zac. Really thankful for godly influencers who are real and share openly. Thank you for sharing from your heart! Looking forward to listening again soon! Edit: LOVE what you shared about the Proverbs 31 woman--the lie that we women can believe (I think men and women both can believe this, though!) that we are not enough or behind in life (coupled by comparison and envy) can be so joy-sucking.

[@linayiiaholleman]

I absolutely adored your singing of Chad's part at the end, remix edition hehe! Chad was missed but really admired your continued vulnerability! Thanking God for your Wisdom Tori! ❤️

[@jenny-i1q5p]

Missed Chad and hope he’s doing well but I do love your talks with Tori!!💛 it’s very encouraging to listen to you!

[@estellesuen5182]

wowowow this was soSO good, this talk definitely gave me a lot of insight into married life and i love that you were super open about sharing!!! thank you for being honest and encouraging - i really appreciated that your advice squashed a lot of the societal expectations and viewpoints that have been instilled in our minds through modern culture

[@Mermaidzester]

Thank you Tori. I really needed what you said. And miss you Chad. Thank you for what you said in the bio too Chad. We you said their hit me hard.

[@alenate1123]

I came over from Milena's kid free vlog and have watched a few of your videos! Just wanna say I love your energy and how Christ is so evident in your lives! I definitely feel encouraged after every video :)

[@kategoodberlet3685]

Tori, thank you so much for this video! It was so so helpful to me. I totally agree with you. I’m gonna be a wife in a year and a half and I really needed this advice. I appreciate you so much! You’re a huge role model for me. Love you!! And love you too, Chad! ❤️

[@miriammarcu5083]

Yayy!!❤️ I was looking at the time to see when this video will pop up. I am so grateful and excited to listen to you!!! Literally I was counting the minutes. You are such an inspiration to me! Even if Chad is not present in the video, let him know we miss him also!!! God bless you both!! So excited to hear this wife talk!! As a new wife I found out I need these kind of conversations, so your video just is a response to a prayer. Thank you!!❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

You are legit the sweetest... Thanks for being here with us! God bles syou and your new marriage!

[@miriammarcu5083]

@@ToriAndChad aww thank you!! You've melted my heart! ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

Like this video if you missed Chad (this may or may not be chad writing this lol)

[@angelavanoosten1]

Hahahaha already liked before reading this 🤪

[@Itsthenatashagrace]

🤣

[@veritygrace1257]

I must admit the intro didn’t feel the same without you Chad!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah you are one of the real ones

[@ToriAndChad]

lol selfish plug to feel loved

[@lilysteward4406]

Love you guys! ❤ I remember the OG girl talk! So excited for a new one!

[@ToriAndChad]

We love you too!

[@lilysteward4406]

@@ToriAndChad Aww you guys are so sweet, love you guys so much! Thanks for all the love! Y'all the best! ❤

[@kerryannec734]

I need that mentor, and this meant SO much to me. THANK YOU❤️🙏🏼

[@shaughnsmit2076]

I know you did excellent sweet T! Thank you for holding down the camera view, much appreciated!

[@ToriAndChad]

Sweet T!!! I love that nickname! Dang that is incredible! lol

[@esther_fama]

I looove how practical your advice is and that it comes from you guys actually walking them out !

[@gracesattelmaier5821]

I loved this woman to woman talk Tori :) You’re such a great example. God bless you and Chad. Hope he’s feeling better!

[@AnuBeutyxx]

Love the description and love how the Lord is using you guys!!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks for taking the time to watch it!!

[@laraaguirre90]

I LOVED this video. you are my mentor!! you motivate me to be a better girlfriend and women in Christ. We of course missed Chad and i hope he is doing better!! loved how comforting and natural this video was. you truly feel like a big sister lol.

[@kellypadilla1026]

Thank you for this!! Loved the real talk. Love you! Continue to be who you are and let that beautiful smile spread joy!

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww we love you!!

[@gabriellemattox1061]

We missed you Chad!!! Can you guys do a marriage series? I know you probably have some videos like this one pertaining to marriage. But I am recently engaged and this video was seriously so helpful for me and I would love more videos talking about healthy communication in marriage, healthy balance in marital roles, etc. whatever wisdom ya’ll wanna share that you’ve learned along the way, I would love to hear it! ☺️ God bless!

[@JoannaUwera]

We missed you Chad on this one. Praying for Healing. Go Tori ..you are doing great.

[@maddieziari6974]

I woke up not feeling the happiest but literally this brightened my day so much :’) thank you for being such a light in this world 💛 & yess can’t wait for guy talk moments w/ Chad!!

[@ciaraliane2751]

This was so refreshing and encouraging! Thank you for being honest with us!!

[@amruthavarshinisumanohar7135]

Omg Tori is so beautiful. A pretty person on the inside and outside 🥰

[@ToriAndChad]

awww I feel the same (this is chad)

[@amruthavarshinisumanohar7135]

@@ToriAndChad thank you for replying chad 🥺

[@ToriAndChad]

Of course :)

[@princessubong8496]

Wowww!!!! I loved this… thank you sooo much❤️ I hope we have more Tori talks😊

[@WordsPictures997]

Tori!!! But how are you soooo wise 😳 Thank you so much for doing this! Get Well Soon Chad!!!

[@Derriann9705]

Loved this Tori! Thank you so much ❤️ Praying Chad feels better soon! God bless!

[@JennC254]

Love having the wife chat! Do this more often!

[@carolwilliamsblog]

You were missed today Chad but your health is more important than a video. Glad to hear that you're doing a little better today. I found y'all in April last year and I can't remember which was the first video I watched, so I'm not sure how much of an OG I am, lol.

[@estherr1526]

wow, this was awesome!🥰 you are a real sunshine!🌞🇩🇪

[@sarahwood2518]

I love the viewpoints y'all have to share! Such great advice! Thank you for this video Tori and prayers for Chad. Much love from Nashville, TN

[@ToriAndChad]

You're so sweet! Hope to see you in Nashville when we are back!

[@jandk28]

Hi Tori! I just wanted to say thank you so much for this video, it covers so many of the things I've been worried about and has helped put my mind at ease 💖

[@LouiseVisser]

I love to see the spark and joy in your eyes through the video ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

awww right?! She is so full of it!

[@LouiseVisser]

And she's definitely fully in love with you man!

[@ToriAndChad]

AMEN!

[@allisonlucas018]

So much great wisdom and advice! Thank you Tori for opening up and sharing, for being a mentor to those who don't have one ❤

[@sierragarza2174]

Expectations kill experiences. Ugh, so good.

[@hrisipetkova]

Very beautiful and informative video, Tori. Thank you. Looking forward to Chad's coming back in the next video. 💖

[@toniidowu6301]

Really enjoyed this💛 we miss you Chad, feel better soon♥️!!!

[@kiara-beth2466]

You guys!! I did not realise you were friends with Jess and Gabe!! A collab real talk is something I would LOVE to see!! 😍

[@theauthenticart.]

Loved this solo episode Tori!! It takes me back to when you started posting on KZbin 🥰. You (and Chad) have come so far, so proud!! P.S - I hope Chad is feeling better 🙏

[@strongHeart-noFear]

Expectations kill experience. Love it.

[@elizabethmiddlebrook5990]

I love these talks so much, Tori! I'm taking notes in a google docs for when I get married ☺

[@megh2062]

This is SO good. Tori you’re wisdom is beautiful ♥️

[@aubreyidleman]

I love your thoughts!!! Please continue to dig into the deep, controversial things that the other people don’t talk about! Love Ya🤍

[@lizk3558]

Well, what an opening question !! 🤣 That was fun 🤩 You guys bring a smile to my face. I enjoy your videos so much!! Thanks Tori 🥰

[@hannahjames2906]

The encouragement in the description tho🔥Loving the video already

[@ToriAndChad]

aww thanks for taking the time to read it! lol

[@cassiegibb1419]

I missed you Chad! And I absolutely loved this! I felt like I was hanging out which was very refreshing and needed today. It also definitely reminded me of the beginning way back when😂 I hope you’re feeling better Chad! I took notes as usual, so much wisdom. I’m so thankful for you both🤍

[@sierragarza2174]

You’re so beautiful, and so inspiring and encouraging! Thank you for sharing content about marriage 🤍

[@isabellalacy9901]

Love this so much and I hope that you are having a great day! Thank you so much for making a video like this! It will be so insouciant so many girls. Happy Tuesday

[@viikase]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 needs this, good long chat with Tori 💃🏽 I only Leant how to cook last year, coz I wanted to eat what I desired at the time but never knew how to make it + I wanted to learn how to cook for my future husband and kids

[@iuliaturcas4348]

I am so EXCITED for this video! 😍 Thank you for doing this video, even if you are solo, but of course, I am looking forward for Chad’s coming back! 🤍 Sending you two my love, prayers and appreciation!!! 🤗

[@ToriAndChad]

LULIA!!!! Thank you for showing up for us as always!!! We love you!

[@iuliaturcas4348]

@@ToriAndChad Thank you for being here for your community! 🤍 Love you so much!