Wife Wants a Divorce But Gives Mixed Signals (What Does It Mean & What Do I Do?)

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@dewaleopesanwo8690]

The mixed signals really is nuts. Worst is all the advice you get to react to it. Then add the layer of being compassionate to someone you love vs being a doormat. Validation, trying to get instant results and hopelessness all mixed in. Thanks for the video

[@datyellaman447]

It's a damn shame that you only have 51k subscribers, you are by far the best online counselor

[@jimmybaby826]

My wife and I are in a separation but we see each other everyday and she initiates texts every day. She says she does not know what she wants and does not know if she wants to be married but still wants to go on date nights so she can fall back in love with me . I have made big changes and accept my faults as to what went wrong to save our 19 year marriage and I have grown emotionally and have learned alot about what went wrong and i am actively trying to fix this. We go to counseling but she still wants space and does not wish to come home after 2 months. I am confused but I see that there is an opening to show my improvements and try to rebuild. But I think she is a clear case as you have artfully explained. Very trying and keeping my emotions under control and being cool and calm have paid off for me.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi jimmybaby826, This was a great video to start with, let me share another of what changes she is looking for you to make and what she is looking for in order for her to have trust in you once again. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqjdp4R7opuMd7c

[@j_c361texas7]

I'm literally on the same page as you hope it gets better for you man

[@indrautama3648]

How come this type of super pro councelor has no many subscribers? He deserved millions of subscribers for his super pro knowledge and skills for helping marriage issues. All things he explained are insanely accurate. Eventho i cant affort to join the masterclass due to my financial struggle, simply watching his many videos, can help give me a slight clue of my marriage that was in dire situation...thank you a lot Geff, you are truely a blessing from God that guided me to found your channel. May God bless your work and effort to help much more marriage out there from the brink of divorce that are insanely high these days.

[@datyellaman447]

This is exactly what I'm going through ,it's like you have a secret recording of my life , without therapy and your videos I would have lost it, but I'm trying so hard to stay positive but she is so wishy washy it makes me sad, angry and confused, but I still love her so much and I want to continue to grow

[@elliottwhite5317]

This is such a timely video you posted. I’ve been working on the way I talk to my wife and communicate with her. And this the first video to pop up. This is gold right here. So thank you!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love this. Be sure to check out this other video I have on this topic. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqjdp4R7opuMd7c

[@tomgillotti]

Would love to see you tackle these situations when children are involved. It introduces a whole new dynamic!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

You do realize that we exclusively work with long-term relationships and marriages? And kids are always in the picture? Again, the principles don't really change. Things only seem complex when you don't understand the right approach to solve it.

[@erikdiaz8892]

Hello Geoffrey, I've been separated from my spouse for 16 days now. During this time. I cried a lot and understand the way she has been feeling for ~6 months. I'm the typical guy that got lost in stress and decided to ~pause the romantic relationship to achieve personal goals to be free and to compensate the romantic part of the relationship once stuff got solved. During this months she has been abandoned and alone. So she decided we were going to divorce. I've been studying your youtube content and working on my self. I'm working on personal therapy and been solving personal stuff with my family. Overall I'm feeling great and committed to keep working on my personal growth. She wrote my a very warm text and referred to the place we used to live as "the house" not "my place". She also asked how I was doing and whether my mom had been preparing my favorite meals. Am I overthinking this text? Or she is starting to change her decision of ending the relationship definitely.

[@eddie_pesosdvggaming8885]

I would be very careful bro

[@jerydkern]

Thank you so much man, your insight on relationships has helped me grow a lot in the last few weeks. I would love to do private coaching!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Kern Dog5K, I work one on one with all of my clients, but first check out my free 90 min master class to see if I would be a good fit to working with you. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@TheBalancePod]

Me and my wife have been separated for a month, but we get together and are “intimate” each weekend. She also gets really mad when I suggest that we give it another shot. We’ve been together 14 years. I’m lost

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Lvon kvng, Start here to see where the relationship began to break down and what you must learn to do in order for her to be open to having hope once again. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@eddie_pesosdvggaming8885]

Have you looked into coach greg adams?

[@Joebabylon]

I’ve seen a bunch of your vids but I think this one is the one I’ve learned from the most 🙏 Thank you!

[@gargikulkarni8764]

This is for all men who are truly looking for help in their marriage. "Feel lost as in what to do? " and if you all have true, strong intensions to be with your wife again, watch him or take his programs whatever he has in suitable for you. I have been watching his videos randomly from a long time now. He is sharing very pinpointing tips. The impact is It gives me a peace of mind by just listening to him. Looking at his work. Its not easy to understand what's happening in someone's mind and try to help others. Even in this video he had some exact words " burned out ", which i did. Many times😊.

[@Provokes_Critical_Thought]

Hi Geoffrey- I believe your system is likely the most suitable and effective process for the largest demographic of men... It's definitely allowed me to regain a foothold in my marriage again. On another note, how would you suggest handling challenging conversations with a wife that is emotionally immature due to past trauma or lack of learned communication skills or due to their own emotional insecurities. It seems as though repressing unpleasant feelings is the coping mechanism that has been developed since childhood and no others exist. When unpleasant feelings arise as a biproduct of conversation, anything other that allowing repression is viewed as negative. Curious to know your thoughts.

[@tanka93]

My wife and I are separating. Last weekend after a few drinks, She reached her hand out for mine three times! The separation is what she wants because she said she's not in love with me anymore. HELP!

[@YosoiJavi]

Mixed signals...have a "i am too handsome for your mixed signals"...it is low-key, untethered and being observant😎...no BS

[@brucevanderpelt2854]

How about a wife who has separated and moved out, but still wants to see you. We had a goal of starting a business when we were together and she still wants to start the business with me. She kisses me hello and goodbye, just a closed mouth kiss, but she doesn't kiss anyone else hello or goodbye. We were together for 22 years, married for 16. We separated once before in 2015 and things were good for a few years, then I got off track and she ended up separating and moving out. She only moved a few miles away, we don't have small children, or any reason she needed to stay close. The way she behaves is really throwing me off.

[@Athelrose]

Dude you nailed it.

[@bigceasar169]

This is what I am facing atm and after watching this I now understand things a lot better now.

[@phillipharris9845]

My wife has told me she wants to divorce…less than a week after we just bought our new home. She has even gone as far as to inform our children…( this is not the first time she has signaled wanting out). She says that she is happy in every aspect of her life except with me and does not have the will to fix our problems. I am so lost and scared now.

[@timbrim01]

My wife initiated this divorce. But she's showing mixed signals. She still wants to know where I am. She wants me to still do my husband duties. It's weird. She said she's done but wants me to stay in the house after I said I'll be move out. I can't figure it out.

[@YosoiJavi]

Currently my wife is in a "relationship" with a lesbian...however her mixed signals are so intense that i have to step back and look at the bigger picture. I just came across your videos however i have been going low-key on her and focused on emotional safety

[@MarcinHrynowiecki]

Hi. What you are talking in your videos resonates with me so much, especially with tha fact it is kind of against the popular advice. I wondered how can I get in touch with you for some maybe personal help as I am facing probably the hardest time of my life and not sure about my next step. Should it be no contact? Or limiteds contact while changing things about me? I have children involved too and evwn though I know what I want to change, i also have be less available for here to give her space. I ma really confused right now and I would apriciate any help.

[@derickbailey2824]

My wife and I are separated and she tells me she wants nothing to do with the marriage and wants me to stop trying and she has no feelings for me. But she will sit and watch a movie with me until late and night. What does that indicate? Is there hope?

[@TheGreatCommission777]

What is the free facebook group!? I cannot find it!

[@disgruntledgoatiam]

I'm 56 and I have really no time for games. My soon to be ex wife had me Mail all her stuff back to Colombia. She also said she'll look for a job which means she's probably not going to come back. Yeah she's hot and cold, but I don't even know if it's worth contacting her. I texted her yesterday to see how she was doing and was pretty much being cold with me. I was sad for two weeks but I'm not going to drag this on. I probably would feel better just letting go so I can keep healing. I think this scenario only works with certain situations.

[@andre168]

Thank you for your valuable advices Geoffrey, I really enjoy this self discovery. May I ask you if it’s ok I watch this video together with my wife so she can support me as well during this recovery period? Thanks.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi andre168, Absolutely, we have many couples who learn to grow and strengthen their relationships together. Also, if you partner is resistant. Just remember "it doesn't take two to tango" kzbin.info/www/bejne/goTWaKxmqJWaj8k

[@vik1974]

This is genius

[@codyneuman2696]

If you don't have children and no contact for her to see the changes that your making. The divorce will happen. You better start working on yourself for yourself.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love this Cody. This is so important that we begin to level up in the right and massive ways. Thank you for sharing this comment.

[@BigMike92_]

This exactly what I’m going through with my wife, just the other day she said she doesn’t think this is going to work she doesn’t want it to work then we got into an argument, then just yesterday she said 1 of 3 things are going to happen after she moves out next week, 1) we get a divorce 2) we get a divorce but we are friends 3) we get back together

[@Davidb600]

Hope your doing well

[@imawethentik]

My wife left me in May.. She came back and tried again in Mid August- Mid September but then left me for a bouncer at a bar we went to a lot. Shes been with him now for 2 months and is basically living with him and tells me shes falling fo him. But when we do talk or text if I am not pushing her or questioning her 24/7 she will tell me to make the changes and become a new person because she wont be with this version of me ever again. Yesterday she said Make the changes is all I am saying. I said does that mean yes you will come back and she said You Will See. Im confused on if shes being real or what the whole you will see meant.

[@Dr3w2020]

Sounds like she's keeping you as a back up if it doesn't work out with bouncer guy. I'd start looking elsewhere and ignore her if she's says why? Just tell her you only have time for someone who wants to be with you only. Im 41 my wife left me 2mths ago and it's killing me inside we got a kid been married since 2008. It's crazy feels like your world's turned upside down. Hang in there what will be will be maybe she left so you can find someone better but it's hard when your going through it and the hurt is fresh. It took me by surprise aye didn't realise things got so bad till it was too late.

[@rhinaherrera1229]

Me and my wife are separated rn she is in another relationship she told me she don't want communication but she messaged me saying message me whenever you want idk if I should or just keep my distance from her I will love to message her but idk if it's OK in my situation

[@lewisriggs6596]

This is what is going on in my life now it’s so hard do understand some times

[@justme-so2en]

I just walked away broke up and went no contact had enough of that in 6 months .one week I love you and I want you , next week I can’t make the date cause of work or school then week after I’m overwhelmed and I just want to be friends lol . After two and a half years she’s still not communicating and closing off . I had enough

[@xeethao6183]

That was what I feel right now

[@Jae_Garcia]

As always, informative and helpful

[@curry83ats53]

I love your advice on many things concerning marriage and long term relationships But I can’t help but to notice that from your perspective the female is ALWAYS right! I’ve never seen a video where you actually acknowledge that maybe they could be at fault or that it could be the other way around. I get the saying “the Wife is always right” but in my honest opinion that’s so false. Thanks anyway tho I really do learn things from you.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Because I coach men and my job is to help you with useful and actionable takeaways that you actually have control in doing. A coach that tells you to play the victim and blame things on your partner leaves you with no useful takeaways. Think about it.

[@matthewbarrett176]

My wife and I separated 8 months ago but we never really stopped communication and we pop around to each others places a few times. After 6 months of separation we were doing really well. But a month ago she went ahead and completed the divorce. Now we are texting everyday and we visit each other regularly. Infact we are the best we have been a really long time. What would your opinion be on this situation

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Matthew Barrett, Checkout the title for this video. This seems like it describes this very question you asked. Be sure to watch it, then come back to me with what your thoughts are. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqjdp4R7opuMd7c

[@AmirOnzo-vp5pq]

Hello. My girlfriends tather died and she broke up with me at the same time because she was falling our oflove with me.We both have our own kids and we love them SO much. She is hurting in s0 many ways and am lost in SO many ways need some real help please This is a cry of desperation. Any help is much appreciated I am SO sad for her loss but also S0 sad for our breakup.

[@Ervsr93]

Geoffrey, my wife says we are done and there is no hope for us she has move out but we see each other everyday due to our kids and we still hang out but only with our kids never just the two of us. She says she doesn’t want to go on dates with me that she will only hang out with me for the kids. She says it’s just co parenting. But she hasn’t filed for divorce yet she moved out about 4 months ago. What does this mean? Do you have a video that can help me on this?

[@akleo78]

I am in the same boat right now. Any update on your situation since you posted your comment 8 month ago?

[@Ervsr93]

@@akleo78 still in the same situation, no divorce yet but no signs of reconciliation either, we hurt each other and now it seems neither of us wanna try. I’m tryna become a better person for now but for me because this whole I’ve been trying for her and that’s not the way to go. If she likes the better me then maybe we can see what happens in the future but for now I’m just tryna be a better father and a better person overall. She’s a great person and she’s willing to be the best version of herself as well as much as I want to be with her I think it’s best I just think of myself right now and we’ll see what future holds. I just don’t wanna give her any more trouble or hurt her in any way anymore which I’m still doing even though we’re not together. But like I said I just wanna be better.

[@akleo78]

@@Ervsr93 thank you for replying and I am so sorry that you still live in uncertainty. You and I are excatly in the same situation and I truly feel your pain. You are doing all the right things. You both seem to be good people but in this day and age, being good is no longer enough to make a marriage work. Men and women are so different in many ways and that's what attracts us first but we can easily grow apart after a few years due to the same reason. I am hoping giving space and working on yourself can help you get your wife back but if that doesn't work, it is not the end of the world. I am following your foot steps and I get discouraged sometimes but I try to stay on the right path as much as I can. Best of luck to you Irvin. I will check back with you after some time. If my situation improves, I will also share and let you know what helped.

[@Ervsr93]

@@akleo78 best of luck to you! I hope you can do all the right things to get your wife back, just don’t lose yourself in the process. Just know it’s okay to make mistakes we are only human and we will keep making mistakes but if you really wanna be a better person don’t do it for her truly do it for yourself. It has taken me a very long time to realize this and to this day I don’t think I know how to do it. But I know I don’t want to be that same person that hurt her and I’m going to do my best to be better. Just don’t lose yourself trying to be what you think she wants you to be. Maybe they are not in love with the real us anymore and that’s okay, falling out of love happens and you can’t blame someone for how they feel. Maybe they want to love us but the feeling ain’t there anymore. Be yourself but work on the ugly if it’s meant to be I believe someway somehow it’ll happen💙 Good luck I hope next time I hear from you your in a better place!

[@davidisaacs6692]

there is a lot of "overlap" in your many youtube videos. Surely a lot of the info could be condensed into a few underlying memorable principles guidelines which would be more helpful. Many of the scenarios you describe are to produce a perfect man (who does not exist) with a high maintenance demanding wife or partner. In ALL relationships you love your partner even with some faults (otherwise they would not be human beings!!!). Reply

[@obispamente2036]

I have a wife, in my opinion, the love of my life. Have 2 kids, 1 boy almost 7yo and a girl 2 yo. I am from another country. Moving here to the US i dont know why, made me jealous of her, not because she was a bad but because i didn't want any one near her . In my opinion her friends were a bad influence (maybe not, but it was my fear). Now she wants space , etc. At this moment after a agreed with what she wants she keeps texting me for ramdom stuff. I love her but i am in a mind set of "just leave, have fun and leave me alone". What should i do?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

First watch this video to see my approach when our partners want space, but keep texting. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nGLGkoatrd-LmMk

[@billydavidsonvip]

Just about all of JEFFREY's videos put the blame on the man..

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Yes, my videos are not for people who like to play victim and blame their problems on something out of themselves. Pls go somewhere else :) P.S. I have a lot of interviews and successes with women too. Lol. If we work with men, we work with men who own their issues. If we work with women, we work with women who own their issues. We just work with a lot more men than women because our business is originally directed to men.

[@billydavidsonvip]

Could it be possible that a woman is so broken from past relationships that these techniques wouldn't be applicable?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

@@billydavidsonvip Let me put it this way - we have enrolled 6,000+ clients, and while all of them start out thinking their woman is too broken, they all end up realizing that their woman is so capable of so much more when my client learns to LEAD the change of the culture. So far, zero unicorns where their case is unique... So let me know if you find that unicorn.

[@billydavidsonvip]

As a fellow KZbinr, I have to say your videos are incredible! Congratulations congratulations on your success and I will be enrolling as soon as I get back and start my journey of healing and leading my future wife! Thank you sir

[@S1lverspike]

You very much so explained it from her point of view. I generally thought she was being a b1tch to me despite me doing a 180 in my life. Her emotions are fighting with her logic. Makes sense white she’s hot and cold and sometimes in the same day. I’ve had her argue with me over our child in the morning and be sweet to me when I show up. I know to operate with compassion and understanding that she’s trying very hard but it’s not gonna change in 1 day.

[@murphytoadster9864]

Wife bought this corny lingerie from a fascinations store and mentioned thatbis was really expensive and i was like eh just return it. Because her in a short dress and a thong is like a 1000x more hot to my core primal sexual attraction. But she took it as a rejection and thati don't care about our sex life. Hard to explain but it's like you want whats really sexy to ME not some cheesy cliche costume