Wife Wants Me to Split My Son’s Paycheck with Her Kid-Says I’m Playing Favorites and It’s Heating Up

[@RetroPanda13]

I love how she says OP "doesn't care about his non-biological son" but the wife doesn't even care about OP's bio son. The complete irony

[@epsyblue7714]

Hypocrisy

[@briansmaller7443]

She is a moll.

[@megamiet1210]

Just remember she wanted separate finances, but now feels entitled for your money.

[@zachboyd4749]

Not even his money, he was setting aside some of his son’s paychecks. She felt entitled to her stepson’s money, and only went after OP and his family when that didn’t work…

[@mrsw2923]

SHE is clearly the one who is financially abusive. Not just to you but also your son. Divorce her immediately.

[@robertcohen1888]

The level of entitlement with this woman is off the chart. It’s not OP money. He’s not taking anything from the marital home. He’s not changing anything up. She has to pay for her own son and do for him. Nobody else is going to do it.

[@cyndirankin]

Really, the SON earned the money. OP just saved it.

[@termite9673]

The wife was in a toxic relationship before, especially concerning the financial part? Maybe SHE was the toxic/financially problematic part in the previous relationship?

[@Allie_phelps]

That’s what it sounds like. Sounds like she was a financial mess, caused a ton of financial problems, the ex husband was tired of it and divorced her over it. She doesn’t know how to save money for herself nor her son, if you want finances separate, then you are responsible for your own son especially if the father is responsible for his own son. Sounds like she’s just using her new husband as a walking, talking ATM for her son (or at least trying to). I’m only 2 minutes into this video but I hope the husband realizes that and divorces her

[@Kingaoiun57831]

NOOOOO!!!! THAT'S NOT YOUR MONEY! This is your son's money! You don't set your son on fire to keep your stepson warm. Wife is a selfish and entitled person. She wants to financially abuse you after she got out of a supposedly abusive relationship.

[@kevinpotts123]

The irony of her claiming to have been financially abused in the past and then trying to abuse her current husband is wild.

[@ChaseVickers-l8i]

The wife is dumb. The money is not OP's, it is the son's money. The son earned that money. OP should tell wife, okay I will give your son a car but I want half of your savings, I mean fair is fair

[@karinefonte516]

I mean, if Daddy took the money, is it the son's? He snatched a good amount from kiddo's paycheck without his knowledge, she might have felt entitled to the loot. He can say it's for "teaching to save" or any other reason, but I doubt it wouldn't go to his own needs and wants given the chance.

[@Allie_phelps]

He took the money from his son to help him save up for something in the future, so yea, it’s still the son’s money. We used to take most of the money of kids received for birthdays and holidays to put on their savings accounts. The money is still theirs, it’s just in the bank instead of being wasted on stupid stuff. Our daughter is now 20, when she first started driving 16, she wanted to buy a car and we told her about all the money she had saved up over the years. She didn’t even realize she had the money but that’s why we saved it. We saved it so they could buy a car, put a down payment on a house, etc. the money is theirs, we just helped them save it. Our other children are still young, so we’re still putting their money into their savings accounts. Their savings accounts have both our names and theirs on the accounts. We let them take some of the money or even all of it from the bday/holiday cards if there’s something they really want but if not, we put it into their savings account. Only a scumbag parent would take their children’s money and not give it back

[@oily__oddyssey6159]

@@karinefonte516op did not " snatch without his knowledge". His son knewand gave him the money. He just didn't know what it was for n

[@Nerdificent]

If OP's wife wanted her son to have a car or have his education paid for, she should have put the money in savings herself AND taken 30% of her son's cheque.

[@scottiefutch6073]

The only thing that needed to be said here was. "I'm not going to steal from my son. The money is his money in the first place. I had no hand in earning it, only tucking it away."

[@belladeann8398]

STEPSON SHOULD ASK HIS REAL FATHER. 19 SEPTEMBER 2024 THURSDAY I AM SURE THE WIFE WASN'T PAYING ANY HOUSEHOLD BILLS. SHE IS JUST BEING GREEDY.

[@mrsw2923]

This story defines why “equity” is horribly unfair to those that do all of the work.

[@mogulmade]

Equity vs equality

[@briansmaller7443]

Why socialism never works.

[@pahhw1533]

THIS WOMEN SUCKS you are selfish because you wont steal from your son for my son you are selfish for not buying my son a car you are selfish for not paying my sons collage entitlment cranked up to 11

[@violetgreen1953]

Where is the stepson's father and grandparents? They should be the ones getting him a car and paying for his college.

[@mimiwhite1963]

Wow it is his paycheck,his money. You agreed to separate finances, your wife needs to shut it. She is incredibly entitled

[@shadowblade19]

That's why people who are parents and single. Should stay single and just raise their kids.

[@markanthony1004]

My wife and I would disagree. My stepson is basically my first child already in college working and his 3 siblings are all treated the same like I can’t buy my stepson something without getting something for our 2 daughters and our youngest son and we like that. He’s my stepson but I call him my first child and my mother calls him her grandson without ever needing to be asked to do so 14 years of marriage and so far so good

[@JenniferJohnson-l3r]

Ewwww the wife is definitely the financial abuser for sure. 🤮 🤮

[@saltwatertaffy7020]

Ex-wife kept moving the financial goal post, so now she's out of the game.

[@shirleyjohnson1930]

Dear OP: Stop!! Do not ask your parents to pay for her son's education. Do not buy or ask your son to help pay for our stepson's car. Her son is 19 and if he could save for a mac-book then she could have done what you did for your son. She knew that you were saving money for your son for a later time. If she wanted her son to get the same she should have done the same. Some one has put a battery in her back - but the wrong size. Her son is not a boy but a young man at the start. Don't give anything. She should have done what you did to get the results that you did. And you should care for your son - that's that.

[@leegraves8878]

This guy is just a wallet.

[@jondoty-cd3kr]

Wasn't the money his sons money in the first place?

[@Allie_phelps]

Yes, yes it was. The father was taking 30% of the son’s paycheck to save for his son. We do this with our children. All the money they receive goes into a saving account that has both our names and our children’s name on them (each of our children have their own account). It’s to help them later in life, new car, down payment on a home, etc. Our daughter is now 20 but when she first started driving at 16, she wanted to buy a car and we told her about her savings account. She used some of the money for her car but she’s left the rest of the money in there and has even been adding to it herself. She’ll have enough to put a good down payment on home. That’s why we do it, and that’s exactly why this father did it for his son

[@cocoace7587]

​@@Allie_phelpsThat's perfect. I know your daughter was ecstatic 😊❤.

[@Allie_phelps]

@@cocoace7587 thank you, she certainly was ❤️

[@margaretowens3524]

That's your sons money, it came out of his check!! Step-son could have saved some of his work money also!! Also step-son has grandparents, yes?? Did they save for grandson college??

[@Allie_phelps]

Oh hell no. Her son is older and should’ve been more responsible if he wanted to buy a car. Or as his mother, she should’ve done what the father did for his son. In NO WAY would it be right to take money from the younger son that worked to save money to buy a car, for the older son that did absolutely nothing to save money. Absofuckinglutely NO

[@devhxh1558]

She wanted to keep finances separate but when she see you saving she want a piece of pie.... She is greedy and a gold digger. . . Divorce her

[@cocoace7587]

Exactly. Plus , she encouraged him to stop saving for HIS son 😂.

[@gonelooney5698]

WTF! why do your wife and her son think they have any rights to money that your son earned?!?!?!

[@marycarlin1911]

Divorce her, she nothing but money hungry

[@lisalovie563]

That is his sons money even though he saved it. The son worked for that money. No don’t give his hard earned money away. Your wife is crazy you need to leave her alone. Divorce her she doesn’t deserve you.

[@bsouthmama3010]

wtf is up with this stepmom. It’s HIS money. HE worked for it. NOT the stepson. Like the audacity is real.

[@debbiekoenig7376]

Nothing to figure out, its the son's money!!!

[@genrestoriesupdate]

It sounds like you’re navigating an incredibly tough situation with a lot of emotional weight. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, but prioritizing clear communication and your children's well-being is crucial. Remember to take care of yourself through this process and seek support when needed.

[@alexaikens1610]

Please do not fall for any of these mind games & manipulation tactics. Notice how it’s only fair or balanced when she & her son is on the receiving end of the deal.

[@devhxh1558]

Went away for month's Askin for OP money... Now wanna fix it... After she got served divorce papers!! 🤡

[@seosarang]

You need to tell her what is she bring to the table for your son? Plus it's his son money saved to the side. So she want her stepson hard earned money to go to her son? what is her son gonna give him?

[@toniirion5225]

Another one bites the dust 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@michelleoneal1817]

Your wife is an entitled ah. You were smart with your son's money and she could have done the same thing because she knew. Poor planning on her part doesn't constitute an emergency on your part as the saying goes.

[@ninaross211]

SHE WANTS YOU TO STEAL FROM YOUR OWN SON ! BECAUSE SHE HAD 16. YEARS TO SAVE 4. 1st. CAR 🚙

[@katarzynaxx563]

He can’t give her any money and split anything, because it’s not his money.

[@raindancer1872]

If her son had saved, he would have money as well, but he chose to spend it all. She could have saved for her son, but she did not.

[@cocoace7587]

1st story : Why would one son give 1/2 of the money HE worked for to his brother, who had HIS own money ? If she left a whole husband b/c he saved HIS son's money & she didn't save HER son's money , it is wild . She was looking for a chance to leave . 😢

[@seosarang]

That saying your money is our money and my money is mine money

[@royjohnson6773]

This is too stupid

[@kperp]

Communism

[@safaa454]

Wow. Its just the dad saving the kid's hard earned money!!! The step son could have saved his own money. Entitlement much?!

[@jemase7931]

"wanting both boys equal" But neither the boys nor their parents have acted equally.

[@nievaconsing3344]

She wants to split your son's paycheck unfairly. Split with her instead. 🕊️🇵🇭

[@quitenerdy1]

Take a shot every time chat gpt puts the word "palpable" in these stories.

[@mariaharthartmar5415]

That’s your son’s money, no sharing. The 19 year old also has a job.

[@aeroeng22]

splitting the fund isn't fair, it's the opposite of fair.

[@chung2055]

NTA: stepson needs to save his own money for a car.

[@Wildersport]

Okay this is really simple guys. If it's one person's paycheck it goes to that one person. It doesn't get split with anybody. If the wife wants her son to get money. Her son needs to get up off of his tailbone and go get a job that pays him something.

[@SharonM-f5v]

The only person that gets the money his dad took out of his paycheck, is the son that worked for it. Do not divide it.

[@oily__oddyssey6159]

Step mom thinks " it's fair " to take money that her stepson earned to make her own son " feel better and included " ⁉️⁉️⁉️ ummm NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT‼️‼️‼️ if her son's future was so important she should have done the same for her own son 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@DCWornock]

What a stupid story. You can't take someone's paycheck.

[@JakeSweeper]

Unless you're the tax collector, but that's neither here nor there. :)

[@deecarlson2601]

How is that fair? This boy worked for his money, that's HIS money! If she wants to save a portion of her son's money so he can have a sum when it's his turn to buy a car she can too! YOURE NOT AN A HOLE! ITS YOUR SON'S MONEY!

[@kimberlysharpe5184]

19 year old needs to save up his own money. Step mom is being unreasonable.

[@nicolajackson3760]

Get out now, she’s only interested in your money and is being manipulative to get her way, it’ll be no loss

[@markanthony1004]

Oh this could work for my stepson and the other kids. Stepson is in college and working and lives at home so I’ll talk to him about a rainy day find because he’s already asked about a checking account. I’m cool with it. He’s responsible as hell

[@ninaross211]

MATCHING SONS MONEY 💴 IS. ABSOLUTELY NORMAL ! WAY OF TEACHING SON ! WORK ETHIC &. IMPORTANT OF SAVINGS AND THE REWARDS COME WITH WORKING HARD &. BENEFITS OF SAVING 4. WHAT HE WANTS

[@mariaharthartmar5415]

Let his father buy stepson a car. Where is his father?

[@virginiamosier9115]

Your son earned all that money. It is his money.

[@cocoace7587]

I love these stories, but some of these folks are unbelievable 😳. I can't believe she wanted his parents to pay for a stepson's tuition 😔. Wow 😢

[@Your_Gal_Pal]

So the bio son and the step son both had part time jobs, both with opportunities to save. One saved and the other didn't. Now the son that saved up should share his savings? Divorce is the right option.

[@milissadaniels2727]

Stand your ground she isn't worth it and is teaching her son to be entitled ditchvher and the kid she can ask her own parents for that.

[@sandragarner2912]

It was your son's pay. Period. If her son wants to have you withhold some if his money for savings, he is welcome to hand it over. As for outright buying the older son a new car, dont do it. Offer the same deal. You hold the 30% of older son's pay. Your parents have no obligation to pay for anything. It sounds like they are preparing to drain you financially and emotionally. Its not a rock and a hard place. Its manipulation or divorce.

[@briansmaller7443]

The correct answer to the wife's "Are you just going to throw away blah blah blah" was "Yes". And stop talking. There is nothing to be gained from talking.

[@oily__oddyssey6159]

She was just upset that her gravy train was coming to an end but not at her decision. 😆😆😆

[@biene1292]

For real? If it was OPs money that was put aside, i would understand the wife. But it was OPs son‘s money…

[@nievaconsing3344]

Not a goid wife. Her saying they keep finances apart is equivalent to a prenup. Wife's son has his own grandparents. 🕊️🇵🇭

[@mcqueenmarlene]

He earned his money... Its not his responsibility to help anyone (not family friends ect...) Your wife could have did the same thing for her kid (didn't) her son could have saved (didn't) thats on them... She wanted seperate finacies she got them... She has no business being mad... NTA run dont walk away from her... She can buy her kid a car if its thats important to her... Nobody bt his parents are responsible for her son... DIVORCE HER NOW....and if your paying all the bills and you have seperate finacies you deserve more then half the house...

[@denisekarpuszka8948]

Your son paid for his car. Get rid of her

[@bethanderson7467]

What has she done for his son?

[@barbwegley907]

Not her money ❗️

[@treehouse2902]

This is all on the OP. Put the kabbash on this and give the wife options; drop it or divorce. She is a greedy bully.

[@albertgongora6944]

This is the most pain in the ass back and forth story I've heard it in a long time more on the original publishers part because in all honesty I felt like we could have gone into the point of a long time ago in the updates

[@barbwegley907]

Not his grandparents ❗️

[@hollypotter6989]

In the original post OP didnt mention he was matching the 30% he saved for him from his paychecks. The 30% is fine, thats his money..but the matching isn't really fair. Yes the wife could have done the same, but it sounds like she isn't financially able while OP is. Now they are divorcing over money. The wife sounds a little loony. Her demands are ridiculous. NTA but its sad.

[@elinorcastro793]

No she should have done this for her son when she knew this and do or combine with you at the beginning

[@TheSWADE247]

no she crazy divorce her

[@ninaross211]

HIS DAD GAVE HIM THE SHORT END OF THE STICK

[@hilyrzhi]

Why use the words 'i saved' instead of my son 'earned'.

[@MsKaz1000]

It is the son's own money the dad just put it away for him and now he is giving it back so he can buy a car with it plus the money he also saved from his own money and the balance regarding college why don't her parents or the bio dad or his parents pay for her son's collage

[@ninaross211]

SHE WAS HIDING A SIDE. INCOME !

[@carlaromero9055]

Didn't she give you a sob story about men manipulating her & her money? Kind of think it was the other way around. Tell her, that her son is a grown ass adult, and with all the money he's saved, not paying rent, utilities, or food, he should have a pretty hefty nest egg? Your wife not paying anything as well makes me wonder if she's done this before!😒😳🙄🥴🤦‍♀️🎪🤡🐂💩🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️😏🤣

[@dylankeggen6668]

I'm sorry but wasn't it the son's money that he earned from his job? What does she think she can do about it since she in no way contributed towards it, honestly mate good riddance

[@bwtawny]

In the end he meets someone els e. No! Stay alone for a while. You do not need to be with someone because you are alone.

[@milkamejias1486]

No

[@kwakithailand]

Gold digging of new dimensions 😂

[@zentec010]

First off the money isn't even OPs it's his son's money he just took 30% and held on to it. Not for rent or anything but a surprise to give back for a car. What a wench. Not to mention the stepson has been working longer and should have about a couple of pay raises on top of that get real.

[@doc_havoc00heavywing37]

She sounds like a gold digger

[@randallcosta74]

That money was earned by the biological son. The step son an earn his pwn money. He has no righ5 whatsoever to the the younget brothers money. Taking his money is just stealing it. Bioson earned it fair and square! Step son and stepmother can go pound sand! Let stepmother save her son's money for him.

[@Belinda-x7i]

FIRST OFF THATS THE SONS MONEY THAT HE EARNED NOT EITHER PARENTS EARNED THAT MONEY HER SON IS 19 YEARS OLD AND HE COULD HAVE DONE THE SAME THING ALONE NG WITH HIS MOTHER

[@sofiayanez5328]

Ya op should have said ok fine I’ll agree to give your son the money if her son saved the same amount that op son saved then he’ll cover the rest like he did to his own son

[@yoopwi1]

Dave Ramsey & John Delany questions

[@Tarotlynx]

There's nothing to figure out. That's his underpaycheck you were taking from. Bad enough he had to give you his income, but at least you were conserving it. There is no way he should be forced to hand that money to the stepbrother. This is what happens when you mess with someone else's money. You opened this bottle. I'd have given her son a car to keep the peace. But expecting the grandparents to join in this is beyond reasonable.

[@milkamejias1486]

Nta

[@randyl8979]

Op missed a golden opportunity to teach his son about taxes by having the money he worked for and earned taken from him and given to somebody that did not earn it.

[@cocoace7587]

😂

[@unowen7416]

"You're playing favorites by picking your bio son over your stepson!" Lol, uh, yeah, you're SUPPOSED to love your OWN kid more than your partner's kid! Reason #1,300 not to date someone with kids! 😂

[@rairai3517]

Sounds like mom has a woke mindset no one needs that kind of static in their life , divorce not divorce your choice......just saying.....

[@karinefonte516]

I seriously doubt any sane person would be "pumped" after hearing anyone, father or otherwise, was defrauding your paycheck on 30% of the value for whatever reason, even to buy a car, even for college. What is it, training on how to accept IRS advances on your wallet? EDIT: It seems kiddo doesn't. But it's OP's words, not his own. Personally I think he is blowing the money on a car, but it's the US, a man without a car is like a man without a d*.

[@andresmoreno8244]

Buy 2//93 hondas , g3ie stepson one and your son the other then sale your sons ,buy your son the car he wants