WILD Bachelorette Parties That Got OUT OF HAND - REACTION

[@dragoncharley3]

The wedding party only pays for the Bachelorette Party if they are surprising the the bride/groom; however, the price for the whole trip absolutely not!

[@maryscottoconnor9711]

I mean… if EVERYONE in the bridal party is RICH, then whatever, you know? But how many of us are rich AND have all rich friends? I’M certainly not, nor are most of my friends.

[@Sakanamoto]

@@maryscottoconnor9711 Agreed! If you got the money, do whatever as long as you’re okay with it. For most of us, yeeaaah no we aren’t even taking ourselves on vacation trips never mind paying for one for someone else for a bachelor/ette thing.

[@disorderli]

Yes, this! I treat bachelorette parties (honestly most parties) like a birthday party. If we're surprising you, then it wouldn't be fair to ask you to pay for something you didn't ask for. But if you ASKED for a specific celebration, especially a trip or something, then you should also chip in for the party that YOU wanted

[@Fe-go2jw]

Yeah I thought it was supposed to be like that the bridesmaids/friends plan and pay for the party for the bride, and of course they discuss their price range etc. when planning it. No?

[@infinitelives1119]

I've never done a Bachelorette vacation so in our group we always just paid for drinks whenever we could and usually the moh paid for her dinner. No bride ever paid for drinks and no one spent more than they could afford. We've all been through tough times and better times but we all wanted everyone there.

[@Skeezer66]

In case anyone didn't know, the "Bachelorette party" where the cop got them dancing was a clip from Reno:911, a tv sitcom.

[@NikkiVenomX]

I came here to say this. 😆

[@ellainab]

@@NikkiVenomX the one where she pulls over the cowboy is hilarious!

[@GingerSnape46]

I thought I'd seen it somewhere before. I loved Reno 911.

[@Bowiebonolennon1982]

Yeah... I'm surprised Charlotte didn't realize it wasn't an actual officer...

[@gyeongwooeopseo]

I still love it tho!!!😂

[@evelynisland1816]

What’s weird is that it seemed like the Bride didn’t really have a problem with paying her portion of the bachelorette party it’s the maid of honor that had a problem with the bride paying for the bachelorette party which I think is weird. If the Bride didn’t seem to have a problem with paying for a portion then I don’t think the maid of honor should’ve stepped in that’s weird to me

[@jessicaseitelman5875]

That's what I was thinking!

[@kochspostulates6149]

The weirdest thing about that one was like the space between her eyebrows. You could drive a truck through it

[@Reneesaidit]

Right. If she was so bothered she should have paid the brides portion herself

[@Cantetinza17]

I think maybe the Maid of Honor should have just eaten the cost of it all since she wants to spend that type of cash.

[@jessimarim_m9387]

Nah I think what happened is the bride had an issue with it but didnt want to be a bridezilla so she pulled aside the MOH and told her to fix it without making it obvious it was her. MoH was just doing her job. 🤣🤷🏽‍♀️ any money thats what really went down, then the bride will probably buy one round of drinks on the holiday to thank everyone... while then expecting people to buy her the occasional drinks and treats so she doesnt have to pay too much on the trip 😏

[@g.l.3092]

The one with the cop was from the show Reno 911! 😂🤣😂

[@stevenkatie789]

I was wondering if some one noticed that 😂

[@cass1249]

Best show ever! My favorite cop is Lieutenant Dangle

[@AllisonKanous]

Reno was the best

[@summerrain8912]

Yessssssssss

[@christinad4418]

Lol I remember that episode, so good! But I think Charlotte thought it was real

[@Govfraudprevention]

Got married about 25 years ago. My friends and I aren’t drinkers. For my bachelorette party we went out for ice cream and just hung out talking late into the night. I loved every minute of it and there was definitely no overspending. 🙂

[@janebaker4912]

That sounds like perfection

[@madr309]

Guy here, but pretty much the same. Friends (mixed group including my sister) went to my favorite sports bar and played trivia (and won!). I think my friends paid for my dinner, but it was something along the lines of $25.00 plus tip. Would never expect my friends to pony up for a trip!

[@EstherHulst-Artist]

that sound perfect and normal. All the weddings I went to including as a bridesmaid all I had to pay was my dress and a gift maybe a view drinks

[@NikkiVenomX]

I could think of a few ways I would do a bachelorette party that (hopefully) wouldn't get out of hand. Staying in would be the key, but doing things like spa & movie night could be fun. Wine, hor'dourves/charcuterie and an adult themed board game. If you plan on having wedding favors, a night with drinks and making homemade favors could be fun too.

[@rubbishpurplelollies]

Sounds great I wish more people would just do this

[@spicynori8861]

My childhood friend got married 2 years ago. It was a small reception with 2 bridesmaids (me included). We spent a day just hanging out together like we went to a spa, ate in a nice restaurant, then had pajamas party. She paid for all the expenses (she refused when we offered to split the bills) and told us that it's her wedding so we shouldn't pay any penny. She just wanted to have fun together cause it's a rare opportunity since all of us work in different cities. It was really fun~

[@janelienert1670]

My ideal wedding 💕☺️

[@seratonin7004]

Sounds perfect to me! 💕

[@jayne59brohammer]

That's a classy good friend!

[@madelinedaigle7598]

Now that's a nice time right there. The only reason I think its so hard for the rest of the world to follow suit is because 9 out of 10 brides is a sociopath. I'm glad yall had a good time it's rare :)

[@SingingSealRiana]

sounds amazing ^^

[@ThisIsKassia]

I think it's absolutely insane to have a "bachelorette trip" - no, it's a party. It's one night. I'd happily pay for the brides food and drinks at a PARTY. But not a trip. As a part of the wedding party, I'd already have to buy a dress and probably hair and/or makeup for the wedding. And maybe even travel for the wedding! Brides need to calm down and stop forcing others to go on vacations with them. Oh, and Charlotte - if you're not in the wedding party, no one should be expecting you to pay for ANY pre-wedding costs. None.

[@raeechil]

Yeah my sister is getting married this year and I actually think it was one of the other bridesmaids that suggested a trip. No one talked to me about it until it was already planned and it was a "well don't come if you can't afford it". My biggest frustrations with it all though has been the amount of time I've had to take off from work for everything. 2 days off for the wedding, 3 days off for the trip, 1 day off for dress shopping, 1 day off for the rehearsal. Luckily I'm now working for myself but a few months ago I was working a new job for me and hadn't built up any vacation time. In other words when my sister asked me to be a bridesmaid she asked me to drop about $500 and request a week off from work. It's all fun if you can afford the time and money, a nurse practitioner is one of the bridesmaids. Her idea of what's possible is pretty different than my perspective.

[@raeechil]

Yay throw another hundred on there apparently we all need matching shoes!!! 🥳 oh and btw our dresses are floor length and it's in a field, she just wants them for the one photo 🤑

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

In the video the Bride didn't force anyone to do anything.

[@chronosclaimsall]

Honestly in this it doesn't seem like the bride was forcing them to go along with it, and she even seemed like she was willing to pay for herself. I don't see why the maid of honor felt like she needed to make everyone else pay for the bride when she seemed fine doing it herself

[@smOVERCOMINGITALL]

100% agree. my friends bachelorette party was pretty low key but there were 5 of us and we all kind of went around and paid for her drinks and took turns. COOL i'm all about that. however if you expect me to have and pay for a TRIP that will likely cost thousands just so you can have a vacation? no. i would have honestly backed out. at least been like, hey... we didnt agree to this and i cant afford it. if anyone had an issue that's fine i just wont go then. lol.

[@AliceNsWonderland]

It sounds like the maid of honor was entitled, not the bride because she paid her portion of the Airbnb

[@PersonWithStupid37]

Yeah, that was a bitchy move

[@tams9847]

Ok, but the granny bachelorette was such a win! That looks like so much fun, definitely what a bachelorette is supposed to be about.

[@jadeayla7548]

I couldn't agree more!!

[@KellyLouiseYeahx]

And the comfort?! No heels or uncomfortable clothes, I’m all for it 🤣

[@andreap3358]

I just did this for my birthday, it was a blast!

[@SweetVermillion]

I wish I had had a bachelorette party so I could have done this... Now I just get to do it for real real...

[@karencotlar2023]

And it was a party, not a trip! Fun and reasonable at the same time.

[@orbweaver9750]

I didn't pay for my bachelorette party, but it was also a one-night only thing. It was held at a friend's pizza restaurant, and they had karaoke set up. I then crashed at one of my bridesmaid's houses and she and I went horseback riding (her horses) the next day. It was a great time. :)

[@omegasage777]

Aww, that sounds like a perfect bachelorette party!! Good food and good friends

[@VelvetSerpent]

That is Reno 911 with the Limo

[@allistrata]

That actually sounds fun!

[@Raaslen]

I always thought that wedding culture is an absolute mess, but the more I watch Charlotte's videos the more I am sure of that

[@broncochick4x4]

You are very correct. It seems to get worse every year.

[@Mama_Bear524]

Ya it’s absolutely out of hand

[@Kimberly-lp4nh]

Your wedding culture is literally what you make it. These are just examples of things gone wrong to make a video people would watch (and you did). It's not representative of all weddings and not close to all the options people choose.

[@JamieM470]

I think Charlotte made a very good point when she said what if she never gets married. But I think even if she does, she shouldn't expect anything from the entitled bride. Whenever someone demands that you spend money on them, & if you can't/won't, makes you out to be the bad guy, they're not your friend. They're a grifter.....and grifters do not repay loans or reciprocate expensive gifts.

[@FreshSalad645]

I accidentally started a "bachelorette weekend" trend within my extended friend group. The thing is, when I planned the first, I asked everyone what their budget was, I borrowed a house to stay at (the bride's grandparents vacation home), we carpooled and I cooked for everyone to keep the cost low. In 2023, we have the next weekend and they already tripled the budget so some friends had to pull out...

[@LyraPyxisVT]

well the other friends should be asking the other friends how much they are willing to pay, cause if its a circle of your friends doing it and you guys started doing it at that point it feels wrong to leave out the other friends

[@FreshSalad645]

@@LyraPyxisVT I agree but the bride was in the weekend I organized and asked her MOH for something similar. However, the MOH is not part of the friends that were on that weekend. Sje's a childhood friend of the bride, we're her college friends. I've never met her.

[@LyraPyxisVT]

@@FreshSalad645 ah

[@SoccerandJesus4]

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[@duzins]

I paid for my own bachelorette party. We paid for own own wedding with my family’s help. His family paid for the rehearsal dinner. We paid for the honeymoon. This whole community sponsored wedding crap is bonkers. If you can’t afford to have a big wedding that’s fine but don’t expect others to subsidize *your* dreams.

[@duzins]

@🎄𝘼𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙭𝙭☃️ two reasons. I’ve been on YT since 2006 and it was easier in the beginning and I’m a longtime community manager for big brands - you have to be verified to run their channels.

[@bann5777]

We paid for EVERYTHING for our wedding. We paid for rehearsal, entire wedding, even bridesmaids/flower girl/groomsmen outfits, and our own honeymoon. I completely agree that if YOU want something, it's YOUR responsibility to fund it and make sure it's within your budget. If someone WANTS to help out, fantastic! But it's not required or expected.

[@VictoriaMarch13]

@@duzins thank you!! I thought the same thing. It blows my mind how people just expect others to come out of their pockets for a wedding that isn't even their own!!

[@VictoriaMarch13]

@@bann5777 amen 👏🏼 and some of these people expect BIG amounts. In a time when people are struggling with bills and food the last thing they should be worried about is paying for someone else's wedding!

[@lyndseymc]

@@duzinswhat is a “community manager?”

[@brittanybeggs7048]

When I got married (2019) I had all my bridesmaids pay like $60 each for an airbnb in town (I paid the difference) and we got mexican food (part of their cost went towards food) and watched chick flicks all night in our PJs - and I felt bad for asking them to pay THAT. I could not possibly imagine asking someone to pay for me to have a 5 day vacation...

[@mingiinimene3335]

Yeah, I was like: yes, you pay for the bride, but then it's usually one night and the expenses are discussed before venues or activities are confirmed. I guess You could have a five day trip if all of those attending are very rich but not otherwise. I would just cancel if anyone would say I have to pay for my own and part of the brides trip but doing so at the last minute would make it bad for the others. So just be careful at attending anything that involves a bride or a groom if you don't have bunch of money to spend.

[@danakissmgrits2624]

EXACTLY!!! When did bachelorette parties start INCLUDING plane fare and accommodations? As a brides maid you already have the expense of the dress, the shower, etc. Sounds like a scam to me...

[@itsmackenzie]

I got married over 20 years ago and I was the same way. I was so laid back, I picked $40 dresses for the girlsand they got $7 shoes at payless and I paid for their hair and makeup on the wedding day. We had my bachelorette party at my house and everyone made stuff and brought it. I honestly don't even remember having to talk about cost and who paid for what because everything was so laid back and chill.

[@shay6555]

I've never been involved in a bachelorette event of any kind where the wedding party was expected to pay for the bride, and they've all been a one-night event. This multi-day trip situation where the wedding party is expected to foot the bill is baffling to me

[@jennevamadison3803]

You and me both. That bridesmaid who backed out of the trip must have seen the nonsense coming.

[@NatalieAbb]

I completely agree!

[@doll305]

I’m currently paying for my brides portion of the trip (split between the party) it’s pretty standard practice

[@ladygoodmen]

We dressed up as pride and prejudice characters for my best mate’s bachelorette (hen party) they all had pretty dresses and bonnets and I came out dressed up as Mr Collins - the bride loves it and we still have a laugh about it, 11 years on!! 😂

[@nyreem3586]

I so badly want to see pics 😂

[@monroerobbins7551]

That’s so sweet, that sounds so rad!

[@ladygoodmen]

@@nyreem3586 😂😂😂 I’m sure we’ve got them knocking around somewhere

[@morganellabean]

When I got married my bridal party (including my sister) didn’t plan anything for a bachelorette for me. I just didn’t have one. When my sister got married, we went on a 6 day trip to Mexico and were all expected to pay her expenses the entire trip. My sister didn’t dictate this, to be clear, but her best friend decided that’s how it’d be so that’s what happened. I was unemployed at the time so it was a huge burden but as the MOH and, ya know, the bride’s SISTER, I didn’t have much choice. Paying for a night out is one thing, paying for a destination vacay is completely different.

[@wenhen8996]

All the drunk girls in the limo sounded like Charlotte when she’s making fun of drunk wedding girls.😆😆😆 It was perfection.

[@loganpnotpaul]

That one was Reno 911. It’s a tv show. The actress is Wendi McLendon-Covey is hilarious.

[@liabowden8526]

I was looking for this comment, hadn’t seen that episode but I guess I recognize their shenanigans when I see them, lol.

[@loganpnotpaul]

@@liabowden8526 same. The second it started I new without a doubt what and who it was.

[@loganpnotpaul]

Knew

[@akikodaddy1004]

No B. N

[@mrsshelbycobraa]

I’ve never heard of paying for the bachelorette party. My husband and I paid for all of our wedding and our engagement party (combined party instead of separate). The only thing my bridesmaids and groomsmen paid for were their own dresses ($20 Amazon dresses) and the guys vests (outdoor barn wedding so they wore jeans). Idk seems odd and rude to make other people pay for your wedding things.

[@maryscottoconnor9711]

Eggzackly

[@DanielSelk]

ANYONE expecting me to pay for their things, especially when it wasn't discussed, will get a "HELL no" from me. Sorry if I break "expecations", especially unrealistic ones, but I won't do it.

[@AleeshaWeesha]

I agree. I would have never thought of others paying for anything other than their dresses. Even then I would have found some for a reasonable price that could be worn again. When I got married there were no parties, or trips. We wore our "Sunday best" and got married by a JP.

[@tabitas.2719]

Absolutely! We had a gift list (as ideas for people unsure what to get us) with gifts in various price ranges, so everyone could find something. Also, I asked my bridesmaids what they had in their closets to see if they had something that'd go together well - they were the ones who wanted/agreed to buy new dresses. It was a nice gift when one couple said they wanted to pay for the honeymoon (after we'd booked it at a reasonable price we could afford); definitely not expected!

[@Cheryeleah]

I live in South Africa 🇿🇦 and discovered your channel a few days ago and I CAN'T STOP WATCHING. I love you Charlotte 🤣🦋 most relatable content and you are just so awesome.

[@katieohlms9342]

Absolutely insane what bridesmaids are expected to pay to have the “privilege” of being in a wedding!

[@michaelwaninger3155]

Maybe they shouldn't plan a trip they couldn't afford.

[@plushypuppy2024]

I don't like that either, you either want them as bridesmaids or you don't...I knew recently of someone who was excluded because she 'wasn't pretty enough'...good for her, else she would be paying for something!🤣

[@stampandscrap7494]

​@@michaelwaninger3155they could until someone pulled out and they had to pay for the bride

[@Nina-us2mz]

I mean it's a nice gesture to pay for the bride but it shouldn't be expected and it should at least be talked about before the planning. Everything else is unfair

[@thora4041]

I didn't make my brides maids pay for anything but their dresses, which we shopped for together. I told them it just had to be close to the same color, but could be anything they wanted. Otherwise, I provided them with thank you gifts for being in my wedding, i paid for our makeup to get done, and my cousin (who was a bridesmaid) did our hair. I never expected anything. They took me out the night before and bought me a couple drinks. If dishing out all this money for the bride is the new norm, I know now to decline if someone asks me to be in their wedding.

[@peachmango377]

Charlotte, that was an episode of Reno 911 that used to play on Comedy Central. Hilarious!

[@jessicamarshall8042]

So glad someone else noticed that!

[@peachmango377]

@@jessicamarshall8042 that show was the best! I still lmao.

[@mssteshacano]

I was waiting for this comment!! HAHA yes

[@sirclarkmarz]

reno 911 was the best show ever

[@LaquetaHodge]

Every now & then, someone sneaks in a video from Reno911 lol

[@tiffanytorres6374]

LMAO 🤣 The “cop” is most likely the actress; Wendi McLendon-Covey from the series Reno 911.

[@melissaj.beaver9164]

That’s what I can to say. Lol. Love Wendi. 🤪🥰

[@lynnayamoon]

its not the first time a reno 911 clip has snuck its way in, and she thought it was real then, as well. i love it.

[@amandasnyder7841]

Yes was hoping someone said this! I recognize her voice anywhere, I especially love her in the Goldbergs

[@welt8669]

I thought that sounded and looked like her!

[@brendazavala7070]

I thought that was her! Lol

[@MaeLanae]

I love the granny outfits cause they know no one will be hitting on them while they’re trying to just have fun😂

[@ida-mariebendixen2085]

I'm Swedish and the bacherlor/bacherollet party are surprises for the groom/bride. The bride get a time and place but have absloutley nothing to say about it. It's a bit of a "challenge" for the party to see how well they know the bride.

[@pablodelsegundo9502]

I like that approach. It keeps the micromanaging bride/groomzillas off balance, for starters.

[@eiralinnea]

Same in Finland, I was at one where we got: padded suit sumo wrestling, a burlesque lesson from a pro, and then a night out - bride only knew something was going to happen and to wear comfortable clothes. :D she was a real champ about it too!

[@zooloo73]

We have had a few good surprises here in Norway. We kidnapped one groom in the store he worked. We were all in full military camo gear. It was agreed with the store owner in advance. A sales representative was told by his boss to hold a presentation for potential customers. We were waiting in the meeting room. A few guys picked the groom up at home on a Friday. Had a properly lame party with just a few guests but got the guy very drunk and made sure he got home in bed. The whole gang picked up a very hung-over man for two days of activities Saturday morning. I was a guest of the bride at a wedding. The stag-do had started with the groom being kidnapped by a high-profile ex-criminal in the board room at work.

[@roxanno1075]

The granny Bachelorette party, that sounds like an awesome and real and fun set of friends. That sounds way more fun than getting stupid and making a fool of ourselves at a night club/ *expensive* bar.

[@Doroellisa]

In Germany where I come from, it's a tradition that the bride wears silly clothes the bridesmaids organize. The bride is also supposed to sell stuff in the streets to strangers. With the money you get with this you spend the evening together. It is really fun! Love from Doro 🤗

[@downhomesunset]

Sounds great!

[@Doroellisa]

@@CarinaCoffee That is true! My bridesmaids made me sell kisses on my T-Shirt and condoms and such things! With a glass of wine it went went well, but I'm actually an extrovert... Love from Doro

[@duckeh1952]

Finns do this, or some do. men and women. bridge/groom is made to wear silly clothes (my husband was given very cheap Batman costume) of course there are different type of parties for different type of people. I never had one and I have only been invited to one where i could not go (i wasn't invited to wedding, i was just old friend) the cost and payments should be discussed before. so ones whose budget it won't fit can drop out or plan something else. if its super expensive and bride (or groom) is aware, they should be responsible part of cost. having surprise party and expecting someone to pay is AH move

[@lonelyronin2428]

Wow, good silly fun and commerce to pay for your party without guilt! Germany getting it. Again, my home country, USA, is a shit hole.

[@l.1020]

Wouldn’t the real tradition would be a “Polterabend” and not a bachelorette party…? Since bachelorette parties aren’t originally what Germans did but something that came from the US wedding craze

[@dmoler1250]

The limo bachelorette party is a scene from Reno 911, Clementine and Lt Dangle were my absolute favorite characters

[@effiesummers5577]

The “but what if I never get married? Do I not ever get a free trip” thought😂🤣😂…I felt that so hard

[@divahc1]

Es! I'd also like there to be an aunties' day..I'm single and childless..when is someone going to spoil me?

[@bkny2234]

That cop dancing with the drunk girls was from the show Reno 911.. hilarious show....

[@AlanaUliano]

I was searching for this comment. LOL.

[@PotterytothePeople]

THANK you. I was starting to feel old for realizing where this was from 😆

[@jeffreycater5447]

Wendy is a treasure

[@AlanaUliano]

@@PotterytothePeople YES! LMAO.

[@emilyb7730]

Absolutely Love the show and movies!! Hilarious!!! 💜

[@jennylynn9835]

My “friends” just had a Bachelorette party for another “friend” but I didn’t get invited because I have anxiety. I opened up to them about my mental health and they used it against me. I love watching your videos and laughing at them it seems so much fun!

[@firelady118]

That's horrible! I'm so sorry they did that to you, I have bipolar disorder & severe anxiety disorder so I completely understand. Just because you have anxiety doesn't mean you wouldn't want to at least be invited & at least have a chance to see if you'd be ok going smh, honestly & respectfully, it sounds like you need better friend's hun. I don't have many close friends because of my mental health & trust issue's but the ones I do have, have been there for me for over 20 year's & they wouldn't ever even think of treating me that way. You deserve so much better than that, js.

[@stampandscrap7494]

Not real friends.

[@herronml86]

I'm so sorry! There's no excuse for them, and I'd find new friends (easier said than done I know).

[@myliza700]

Ew girl…. I’m glad based on the quotations it seems you’re aware that those aren’t your friends…. I get burnout really easily bc of chronic pain. My friends still include me but offer options for trips if like one of us doesn’t feel like doing something more social/active. I hope you find a better group of friends that is understanding still includes you and leaves the need to exit up to you and you only.

[@shannonshort1092]

I’m SOOOO glad I got married before cell phones and social media! Almost 30 years now. My family paid for the wedding, my husband and I paid for the honeymoon. My family hosted the shower at my parents house. Weddings/showers used to be ONLY about commitment to each other and celebrating that, now it’s about outdoing the post to social media you saw of someone who you will NEVER meet! My mom and I designed my wedding dress and she stitched love into every part of it something I wouldn’t have gotten in a bridal shop. Weddings brought people together, now it’s fighting, expecting things, pettiness in a bad way and usually divorce. Yes it’s your day, but get over yourself, it’s NOT about likes from strangers, it’s about the love and commitment between two people, celebrate that and stop caring about if a stranger doesn’t think you had the best wedding.

[@Bennifer2002]

Or caring more about your pictures that you actually crush someone you supposedly “LOVE”

[@KendrickJ2]

I wish I can go back. They didn't have these parties back then. All my friend's wives cheated on them, I know women who cheated with strippers at the bacholerette, my ex's cheated, I've turned down 50-100 women in my 20's that were aggressively trying to -you know- with me, because they had bf or married (there was a lot more women that approached me back then, and some may have lied and said they were single). I've never cheated. It's a rotten thing to do (any form of betrayal really). I'm 45 now and have been single for almost 20 years. I am so glad I avoided all of this. Not worth it.

[@leodawn5913]

Thank goodness you have a 54-year-old watching Charlotte!! The hilarious bachelorette traffic stop is a scene from Reno 911. It was very popular when you were just a little baby!

[@katherineholmes8726]

I'm 30 and I watch that show I recognized it right away try not to be so condescending

[@enternameherenow]

Its not that old. Shes oldee than me and ive watched it...

[@sarahzatolokin145]

Remember canada friends. Yes it's in her age range but our Comedy Central shows aren't degrassi 😛

[@katherineholmes8726]

@@sarahzatolokin145 that's what I was saying I don't think he meant to come across as so condescending

[@becajoy]

What I appreciate most about Charlotte, aside from her witty sense of humor, is that she gets right to the meat of the video And does not hold us hostage with her sponsors.. Thanks Charlotte!

[@sophielegacy1648]

I have a KZbin Premium account. I don't think I could ever go back.

[@DBSKxSECRETsarang39]

@@peep4257 dude that's her opinion. Calm down lol

[@alysha2162]

For my own wedding I kept my bachelorette very simple and low key - just wanted to spend time with everyone - we did and escape room, went out to dinner, and chilled and watched chick flicks at someone’s house. I offered to pay but my bridesmaids wouldn’t let me. It was lovely!

[@smokeytaboo]

That sounds lovely! I love escape rooms!

[@User_1414b]

I've watched countless hours of wedding related content. That cop interaction was hamds down the best bach clip I've ever seen. What a story to tell!!

[@montananerd8244]

lol oh it’s from a tv show! Reno 911, it’s a fantastic comedy, it was on Comedy Central. Officer Clementine was notoriously unprofessional. But def not a real cop.

[@User_1414b]

@@montananerd8244 well don't I feel stupid... 🤦‍♀️ mindlessly consuming content as reality, I'm part of the problem 😳🤣

[@maripossalover]

I helped pay for my friend's bachelorette party, but it was something reasonable. Also, it was our gift to the bride, it wasn't obligatory for us. We agreed on it. (I wasn't in the wedding party because of COVID restrictions, but she wanted me to be at her bachelorette party because she wanted the people that impacted her life to be there, and to my surprise, I was one of those people.)

[@FlagCutie]

Same with the last wedding I was a part of. Not only that, the MOH is a total type A that travels a lot, so girl did her research and got us a pretty sweet deal!

[@sweett5896]

Same. Whatever each person can afford/ wants to pay & that was the gift for the bride for all wedding related events, including the wedding.

[@hannieloooo]

I am 40 years old and have never been married, and the amount of money I have spent on other people’s weddings is astounding. There were years when the only vacations I took were for someone else’s bachelorette party or destination wedding. I think it’s ridiculous to be expected to not only go on these trips and spend this amount of money, but also to pay the bride’s way.

[@jack-e342]

I'm 36 and still waiting for my "no baby no wedding shower"!!

[@kani9284]

you don't look 40 if that's you on the photo :)

[@edithrainville9909]

1. You REALLY don't look 40! Very beautiful! 2. I agree with you that the costs of weddings, wedding showers, bachelorette parties/trips, baby showers, christenings, etc... it's insane. I'm 33, I'm not married and I don't want kids, but still I'm glad to celebrate my friends with gifts for their weddings or for theirs dreams of starting a family. I'm a bit bitter though with the fact that if I don't get married or have a baby, I will never be celebrated for my choices. Yes, there are birthdays, BUT so does everybody else, so I will never get anything from anyone if I don't ever find a husband or change my mind about kids. That's kinda sad. I think all lifestyle choices should have a celebration. :)

[@edithrainville9909]

@@jack-e342 Throw yourself one!! I'm thinking about it because I'm not married and I don't want kids. Welcome to my ''I don't have a baby shower'' haha!

[@FurikoMaru]

@@edithrainville9909 You could make yourself a designated holiday-host and go absolutely ham on Halloween or New Year's Eve. That way you'd be able to be the woman of the hour once a year in perpetuity - not even the most dedicated bridezilla can get people to agree to that.

[@skpage6]

I was a bridesmaid for my sister. Her wedding got postponed 'cause COVID so it was a little different and we didn't have a traditional bachelorette. We did take my sister out for cocktails and a fancy dinner and covered that cost for her, but it ended up being an extra, like, $50 each, not hundreds, AND--most importantly--we discussed that before we went to dinner.

[@carmillabathory201]

No is commenting on how amazing that cop was. The last part was just hilarious.

[@astr0988]

It's from a show called Reno 911

[@dinasilva9263]

Almost 1M subscribers Charlotte🤗 But this Channel deserves even more. You are like a friend (very funny, sweet and cool) to all of us. At this point this Channel is our daily laugh. Thank you. 👏👏

[@pambrown8692o]

I’ve been a bridesmaid like 6 times, and I’ve always ended up paying for the bridal shower and bachelorette party/weekend. After the last wedding I was in I made it very clear that I will not be in anymore weddings. To be on a fixed income, and then expected to pay for my dress, makeup, shoes, hair, etc the day of. AND the parties just really upset me because every wedding I was in the bride and other bridesmaids knew I was on a very fixed income and had to save up sometimes an entire year to pay for everything.

[@lusstarr]

Sounds like you have been constantly taken advantaged of. You should evaluate your “friendship” with these people

[@ducksquidbat8315]

@@lusstarr no. Sounds like she is weak and has an inability to set boundaries. It’s called accountability. Saying no is important

[@caileyrookids]

@@ducksquidbat8315 Yes she should have said no, but also it sounds like they knew she had to save for a long time. Who's more at fault depends on if anybody asked her if she was sure she was okay with it, or if they just decided it and left her in an awkward position.

[@susanlewis549]

I'm sorry and I understand about having an extremely tight budget. Instead of feeling honored, you feel exploited. I had 2 weddings I was asked to be in before dates had been finalized. They ended up being 2 weeks apart. I had to opt out of anything fun because it was all I could do to afford the dresses.

[@Seldarius]

I find it ridiculous that because someone gets married, their group of friends suddenly becomes their cash cows. Throwing someone a party for a life event is all well and good… but how many parties and holidays are expected here? And it doesn’t even seem to be the bride, it’s the maid of honour.

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

It's all for social media.

[@mamabear9058]

RENO 911😂😂😂😂 THE COP GETTING INTO THE LIMO/ DANCING WAS A CLIP FROM RENO 911❤❤❤❤❤❤GO WATCH IT!!! IT'S HILARIOUS😂😂😂

[@amys7539]

I've recently had my hen do (that's what we call them in England!) And it was a nice chilled afternoon - we did a paint a pot session then had food, drink and games. I made sure it was affordable and not too much drinking as most of my friends have small children/don't like going out/didn't want to travel far. We still had a great time without breaking the bank!

[@timothyclark803]

See, my ideal bachelor party (stag do for you) would be a quiet night in with some D&D. I don't drink, but, I wouldn't stop anyone else from drinking.

[@karencotlar2023]

@@timothyclark803 I’d love to play D&D for a bachelorette party! That would be so much fun.

[@artcafe2684]

Honestly, the granny bachelorette parties are hilarious! Those look a lot more fun than any of the other ones.

[@michellemccumber]

I literally paid for my bachelorette party myself. I didn’t expect my bridesmaids to pay for anything other than their dresses, which were like $30. I knew what I wanted to do and booked and paid for everything for the night

[@Bethcolumbia2021]

I just did my bachelorette party in my backyard and paid for all the alcohol and stuff My bridesmaid just paid for their dresses, which was 100 max and then with my wedding I paid for everything I didn’t have my parents pay for anything But we the grandparents and family they help make food and my mother-in-law bought a keg the keg and food that was their wedding gift to us

[@theskyisblue567]

THAT was very gracious of you!!!🎉🎉🎉

[@YochevedDesigns]

For my daughter's bachelorette, she and her wedding party got their nails done with nice acrylics. I paid for it all, and they were extremely grateful.

[@MarleneCaruth]

That's how I remember some wedding being and half the time bachelorettes are thrown by the brides mades(they made it a surprise). I can't believe people out here expect their friends and family to pay for everything and some more shit.

[@LoveandData]

"So what you're trying to say is.... it was fun." After the SUV burned to a crisp. LMFAO 😂

[@bcpart3654]

My friends paid for my bachelorette, but we literally just had food and game night/lingerie shower at mine and my MOH’s apartment and it was a blast!!

[@NikkiLocd]

I like that. That’s different than expecting people to cover their costs plus someone else’s. I don’t think that’s ok.

[@bcpart3654]

@@NikkiLocd Yeah I big agree. Also, I didn’t want anyone to have to get a hotel or anything so we had mad air mattresses all over (which i know isn’t a #1 choice but ya didn’t have to pay to stay)

[@pablodelsegundo9502]

That's completely reasonable and it actually sounds fun. It's the whole bachelorette luxury expedition that's ludicrous, unless they're all rich, in which case, whatever.

[@bcpart3654]

✨i’ve basically peaked, charlotte loved my comment✨

[@Birdbike719]

Bachelorette parties used to be a night out with your friends the night before the wedding. Children's birthday parties used to be a cake and pin the tail on the donkey. Wedding receptions were a cake and some sherbet punch. Now...people have gone insane trying to keep up with the Jonses. its just ridiculous.

[@ladysaranoir]

My sister in law had to "make her own money" to pay for drinks as part of the bachelorette shenanigans (of course we all had chipped in regardless). She was dressed up in a puffy orange and turquoise tulle skirt, a tiara and a sash that said: "I'm getting married!" Then we went to one of the busy areas in Copenhagen, handed her a basket of sweets and a sign that said: "sweets: 1$ kisses on the cheek: 10$" - every kiss was with the brightest lipstick we had on hand. Once we had enough money we went to a theme-park and had silly fun, food and drinks.

[@martinjrgensen8234]

So she had to sell herself… sounds “fun”

[@FurikoMaru]

Sounds like you guys had a blast! And I'm an introvert saying that.

[@novice5895]

That sounds like good wholesome fun to me! Congrats to your bro & sil👋🏽.

[@gam8ligant]

@@martinjrgensen8234 it sounds like she enjoyed it, whats the problem??

[@andreear6444]

@@martinjrgensen8234 relax, a kiss on the cheek doesn’t mean she sold herself jeez 😅 u know kisses on a cheek are used as a mean of salutation in many😅 European (at least) countries?!

[@joellelizabeth1028]

This is decently a per bride scenario!!! As someone planning a wedding, I would NEVER expect my friends to pay for stuff for me. If they wanted to or offered it would be one thing. But I wouldn’t ask for them to do so. And if they did pay for “my portion” of something then I also wouldn’t expect a wedding gift. That seems like a good enough gift. To me. Hell we don’t even want bachelor/bachelorette parties. We’d like to have a group hangout with both grooms people and bridesmaids.

[@chioyiti]

So true, it's the same for us!

[@karencotlar2023]

That’s what we did for ours back in the early 90’s. They were called Jack and Jill parties then. I don’t know if they still are because now I’m old. 😂

[@astreleski1811]

These are turning into bachelorette MLM schemes 😂

[@eowyn8340]

I had to put my foot down a few times as a MOH when the bride was getting greedy. One of the bridesmaids also kept bringing up how we should be paying everything for the bride on her bachelorette weekend. I refused since no one helped me pay for decorations for the lingerie shower or other little details before/during the wedding. My response was usually “if you wanted expensive stuff, you should have asked for a wealthier MOH.” 😝

[@Mama_Bear524]

I’d honestly just quit.

[@jennevamadison3803]

Well maybe that bridesmaid who kept bringing up how y'all should pay for the bride the whole weekend should have just paid for the bride's expenses herself! People need to stop telling other people what to do with their $$$.

[@srhfitzpatrick]

Weddings are expensive but nobody talks about how being in someone else’s wedding can be expensive!

[@DrT0705]

I occasionally mention it but because I'm single, some people put it down to jealousy. No, I love love, I just don't want to have to put myself in debt to celebrate with you!

[@Mudhooks]

I would NEVER expect people to pay for a trip for my “bachelorette”. That’s crazy! It’s also crazy to expect guests to pay for their meal at the wedding reception. I have had no problem with holding a party for the bride. Someone, usually the mother of the bride of the mothers of the bride and groom and/or the maid-of-honour do that. But expecting people to fly you half way across the country AND pay for your hotel AND your food… That’s crazy.

[@moonsaces2122]

This is why I want to do a combined Bachelor/Bachelorette Dnd party. It’s a common hobby for me and my guy and I think it’d be fun for everyone to get toasted and kill some monsters!

[@penguinabroad]

I wasn't even in the bridal party, I couldn't afford going to the bachelorette party so I explained it to the MOH and the bride...the bride didn't say anything at the time but I got a text from the MOH a week later saying she'd pay for my part and I didn't have to pay her back bc the bride really wanted me there.

[@tinabahena1254]

😭 that’s so sweet!

[@AngelConfetti]

I got married recently, me and my husband included the bachelor/bachelorette parties in our budget and expected to pay for most of it; it was only when my older cousin said she’d spent loads on other brides bachelorette parties that my parents found out the social expectations of the bride not having to pay and they panicked (I’d invited them and already paid for most of it) I didn’t mind but then ended up paying for part of it which was really kind of them but definitely not expected. If I’d made my friends pay several of them wouldn’t be able to come due to finances so I guess it depends on priorities

[@thejenmath]

“Wife Guard” just gave me so many book ideas!! I see a lesbian novel in my future.

[@petrastedman669]

post a link. I'll buy a copy.

[@bei456]

@@petrastedman669 I second that

[@olympiaelda1121]

Please!

[@jessicaludemann9673]

Post a link please if you do so!

[@moriamo6591]

When you write it, please let me know. I'll buy a copy or three

[@AutumnLuvsJesus]

“You’re not gonna like say anything in a group chat.” Why is this generation so scared to have adult conversations?

[@jessicasnider1872]

The Grandma Bachelorette part looked lit! I would have loved to do something like that with my besties.

[@souleylove]

I was a bride almost 10 years ago, but my bridesmaids just agreed that I shouldn’t have to pay for anything that weekend. We went to Atlantic City for a weekend and got scolded by 2 of my bridesmaids when I asked how much I owed for my portion. 😂

[@dylanadavis2118]

That's how it should be. You offered to pay but your friends insisted you didn't pay. In this other story it seems the bride was willing to pay as she'd already sent the money but the MOH was trying to set a new normal in her friend group possibly for her own upcoming event.

[@amatije]

"Never invite someone to spend their own money " - exactly! I'm from Croatia and that's unwritten rule. If one invites someone to a coffee, dinner or the movies it's normal that the one who invited is paying the bill, unless otherwise agreed. Here's normal for bride's family to pay for the wedding, including venue, food,drinks and the band . But usually the parents of the bride and groom are splitting the cost. MOH and the bridesmaids are organizing a bachelorette party for the bride. Also the best man organizes a bachelor party for the groom to be. Since the couple is paying for entire wedding,those one night surprise parties are paid by the MOH and best man.

[@Habibtay]

Not me reading MOH as Ministry of Health 😂😂

[@amatije]

@@Habibtay 🤣

[@jessicaschroder6978]

“U never invite someone to spend their own money” ... 💕💕

[@N3utralove]

I love how confident Charlotte was that all the women dressed as grannies would out live their husbands 😂

[@nelliebly6616]

On average women lives 8 years longer than men....

[@anniejuan1817]

Some years ago, the chances were 90% of women outlive their husbands. Things may have changed, but generally, women have longer life spans.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

@@anniejuan1817 As you said, people are living much longer these days and woman do have longer life spans. People living in their 90s and 100s isn't as uncommon these days. I don't remember where I saw these statistics but a few years ago I read that married men lives longer than single men and single women live longer than married women. Women will nag their husband to see a doctor and women are more likely to take care of their families and neglect taking care of themselves. I wish I could remember where I got that information and it totally made sense.

[@Dragon-di1zg]

I can never get my head around how much people expect their wedding party to pay out to attend a wedding. Don't get me started on the bridesmaids having to buy their own dresses.

[@rachaelgibson2330]

All the grannies had me ROLLIN!! 😂🤣 GREAT video Charlotte!!

[@mandydunkle507]

I was a brides maid and her ordained minister as the original backed out a month prior to her wedding... she paid for everything... right down to a hotel as I came from out of town... 🤷‍♀️

[@oceana3070]

I find it incredibly tacky when people expect others to fund their life choices. I spent $2500 in ‘support’ of a friend’s wedding. When I got married she didn’t even write me a card, let alone a gift, party, etc.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Over 2 grand?? I'd rather lose the friendship I swear to god. People are insane...

[@agarcamila]

Right?! When I moved out of my parents' house I spent months sleeping on a mattress on the floor. No wardrobe or desk (and I was an architecture student) nor wifi because neither me or my parents could afford. Then people decide to get married out having the money to do it and we have to pay?!

[@alzychoze6591]

@@agarcamila it IS INSANE! NO ONE should be shamed into paying ridiculous amounts for entertainment/trips for a brides

[@izstrella]

EXACTLY! And OF COURSE the same people who expect you to pay are usually also the people who enforce a *Veil of SHAME* upon the group where even voicing your monetary concern is "taboo"🙄 Sometimes toxicity isn't just "fake friends" - it's also just straight out bad friends; there may be a genuine bond there, but that should never excuse the way they negatively affect your life - whether that be conscious or unconsciously.

[@oceana3070]

@@izstrella Woah this really hit home for me 😯😢 It has just really struck me that that person I’m referring to in my original comment is a bad friend, despite there being an initial bond there. When I think over our friendship it has been me constantly supporting them, celebrating them, validating them, often at personal expense. Not just their wedding like I mentioned, but many other things too. I don’t know that that there’s malice behind people that act this way, but maybe extreme self-centredness?

[@oodles_of_noodles.]

When I got married we went out for dinner for my hen's night. The 10 other girls chipped in to pay for my $40.00 meal which I was so grateful for. I would never expected anything beyond that, I actually didn't even want wedding gifts, just the company of my family and friends.

[@holiwood72]

Lol my wedding was not paid for by my friends. It was small quaint and homemade..was more fun than a 5 day trip and expecting others to pay my way. Wow drinks and food I can see but a whole damn trip? Just can't lol ❤️ from Lethbridge AB Canada 🇨🇦

[@lotstodo]

Me too. I had a nice wedding and didn't spend a fortune. 30 years.

[@EmilyLouiseTapper]

Charlotte, are you still planning on having a granny themed bacholorette?! PLEASE POST THE PICS WHEN YOU DO!

[@queenbee23225]

When I was a senior in high school, my high school had a tradition of seniors would gather into groups with different themes to try and play little pranks or sell little handmade things or baked goods or something. My friend group and I got together and baked a bunch of stuff & dressed up as grandmas. Our group title was "Baking Bad: Just like how Grandma made it"

[@gnipacave]

I used to bounce in strip clubs when I was younger, the two absolute WORST crowds were when we had male dancer nights and a few times we had bachelorette parties come in, those two types were absolutely insane and more out of control than anything I have ever seen in my life.

[@sk8ergrrl1]

For the bridesmaids paying for the bachelorette party, I think it depends on the situation/circumstances. For my wedding, I couldn’t decide what I wanted for the hen party so my three bridesmaids planned a surprise one for me but it was just a full day out in London (so just a quick train ride from where we all lived) rather than a trip abroad. But I also paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses and I paid for their overnight accommodation at the wedding venue and a few other things. I think if you’re wanting a big trip or weekend away for a hen party, then the bride should pay for her share. If my bridesmaids had planned something like that, I would have insisted on chipping in.

[@Sluzh17]

I am binge watching your videos the past month now and love your reactions! I agree every single time 😂. Can I just say when I had my Bachelorette (which I did not ask for at all), our families and friends got together and made a whole theme with games in my parents backyard and we had a blast! Still have our hats hung up in our room from three years ago❤

[@ramachandra776]

"Not how i lap dance in private ........ to my mirror" - Charlotte 🤣 . "Weddings are not fundraisers for your life " . "Don't dance on furniture " - Charlotte advice to aspiring Bachelorettes . 😁

[@redfireflyncg]

When I got married a few years ago we did a trip for my bachelorette . My friends were kind and chipped in for my portion of the hotel. My sisters split my ticket. I offered to pay for my portion but my friends and sisters insisted. I ended up paying for my drinks and food during the trip. I wasn’t part of the trip planning but from my understanding my friends and sisters had a chat group and discussed what everyone was comfortable with.

[@inesquiterio9635]

Hi Charlotte!!! I'm portuguese and my cousin had her weding about 1 year ago. She had 8 bridesmaids and I was the made of honour. Me and one other bridesmaid organized the entire bachelorette party and the bride didn't pay anything but she also didn't get a say in anything. We organised the party according to what we know she would like (she loved every bit of it) and to an agreed before budget.. Her expense was divided by everybody and the amount we spent was abut 100€ each (wich is pleanty to have an amazing party) and we made sure everybody was confortable with it.. These brides you talk about are absolutely hilarious and if this was here in Portugal.. most of them would have lost their friends a loooong time ago.. (we have those here but they're a minority) People need to care more about people and a lot less about money xD

[@maryscottoconnor9711]

If it’s discussed BEFOREHAND, it’s different. Getting people to accept an invitation or a plan and then SPRINGING extra expenses - REQUIRED, EXPECTED extra expenses- on them is total buIIshit.

[@MrStephenlederle]

I've been a groomsman and a Bestman, but I was not expected nor did I pay for anything. They asked me, so they paid for my travel, food, stay, the clothing (needed 3 different outfits), and considered my accepting the role as the gift. These videos blow my mind.

[@starsrgood]

When I got married in 1981, we had bridal showers just like my friends did when they got married. Some brides bought the bridal party their dresses, but not always. Some groups of friends would have a couples parties where boardgames were the gifts. Generally the groom had a stag. However, no huge trips were part of the equation.

[@michaelwaninger3155]

Exactly there is no such thing as a bachelorette party just another way for women to steel the man's thunder.

[@hiimjai6064]

@@michaelwaninger3155 have you ever heard of a bachelor party? How are we stealing your thunder when the parties are supposed to all happen on the same day and both of you spend time with your friends in separate groups doing separate things?

[@michaelwaninger3155]

@@hiimjai6064 Yes I've heard of bachelor parties and women had their wedding parties. Not bachelor parties .

[@cc1526]

Hey Charlotte! You should do a “reacting to your unpopular opinions” video! We seem to be a very opinionated fan base so it would probably be very interesting and spicy! Lol

[@theOGdebb]

My bachelorette was SO low key. We (literally just my bridesmaids/ maid of honour who were my best friend and sisters) went to a bar then went to get nachos lol. Also walked around my city slightly drunk. Was so much fun

[@BagznBirdz]

I think many of these overnight destination bachelorette parties' attendants go crazy and overdo it because that's what's expected - not how they really feel like doing. Wandering around your home town slightly drunk is great when you have good company!

[@sunshinerose685]

That's what we did too. The party was at a Mexican restaurant where we had lots of margaritas and tequila. The bridesmaids split the tab and didn't allow me to contribute. Then we went home. It was such a fun night.

[@journeyjulie3973]

Me and my bridesmaids were non-drinkers, and let me say, my bachelorette party was SO MUCH FUN. My friends made a beautiful fairy costume, and I had to complete a dare from each of them (7) to open each present! I had to do things like scream “I’m a fairy godmother” while running across a walking bridge, ask random strangers to hold me in the air for a photo, get a free snow cone, I had children asking to take pictures with me… it was so silly, and hilarious, so much fun! And way more creative than just getting wasted. Plus I could remember all the embarrassment 😂😂

[@graceaxisa4213]

I love this so much! So creative and fun!

[@laughingcorrpseholly4136]

This sounds so amazing!!! ❤❤ I love it

[@frodisgirl1882]

My “bachelorette party” was that I went to my matron of honor’s house, she grilled up some boss chicken breasts, I played with her 2-year-old, and then drove home. 😅😅

[@KatieDeGo]

Dude that honestly, to me, sounds like way more fun than getting smashed and acting a damn fool in Vegas

[@ms.annthropic6341]

The female cop at 11:11 is from the show Reno 911, her name is Clementine. I love that show, always a good laugh 😂

[@hobistinyheartbag]

I’ve been looking for that episode I can’t find it anywhere which episode is that? 😭

[@ms.annthropic6341]

@@hobistinyheartbag I’m not sure what episode it is, but I think the whole series is on Crave (at least in Canada).

[@MandaJean789]

My experience as a bridesmaid was a trip from Virginia to nyc for a weekend! Two bridesmaids lived in the city and me and the bride live in VA. Bride and I talked it over and made sure I could afford to do so. We each paid for our flights, stayed at a bridesmaids apartment and the three of us bridesmaids paid for all the food/drinks for bride. All was fair to me!

[@jema2609]

I think the key point of your story is that the group discussed it, and everyone agreed.

[@Mama_Bear524]

@@jema2609 and ahead of time. Doing all the planning then saying “oh btw now you’re paying for the bride” is bait and switch. Totally uncool

[@juanmassa1480]

The cop KILLED IT!!! I had me laughing so much, thx I needed it today

[@UBeenThrashed]

When I was the bride being celebrated, I went above and beyond to make those invited to have to do absolutely no extra spending. My MOH kept yelling at me for doing anything but it was important for me that no one celebrating have to reach into their pockets to do so. I made gift bags, filled them with favors, talked everyone down into a cheaper air Bnb, made sure we did as much walking around instead of ubering as possible etc. I tried to cover myself for anything extra I wanted (sometimes with a fight), but the point is you get to choose how people celebrate you. Don’t be a spoiled brat about it. Not everyone has extra spending money but they may still want to be part of your special event.

[@jadeayla7548]

I can't talk for every European, but as someone from the Netherlands, this is ludicrous to me. I've never heard such things here where I live. I've also discussed it with several girl-friends and everyone agrees that everything the bride wants a *specific* way, SHE should pay for it. As in: the bride insists the bridesmaids wear a specific dress, she needs to pay for it. If she gives just a length or a vague color scheme, it can be discussed the bridesmaids pay themselves or wear a dress they already own. Same mentality with bachelorettes. I would avoid weddings all together if I was expected to pay 100's or 1000's of bucks 😂

[@klauseba]

ugh, yeah. I remember a cousin of mine made every bridesmaid wear the same type/color dress and at the end of the wedding she asked them to pay for the dress D:

[@placeb0fication]

I wanted to do a bachelorette party at a city nearby, but I couldn't afford to pay for everyone's room so it never ended up happening. It didn't cross my mind to invite people on an out of town trip and then expect them to pay for themselves and me for a trip that revolved around me. Very different when everyone gets to decide on a trip where we are going and what we're doing.

[@alltoohalliwell]

My sister got married at The Bellagio in Vegas, and everything was included in the wedding package. I flew in early and spent 2 days at Treasure Island to see a show. If we wanted to eat, we paid for ourselves, I paid for my TI hotel and all the Ubers. She never expected anyone to pay for any of her stuff, and we never expected them to pay for any of our extra expenses.

[@jeannettestogner5164]

I thought most of these went over the top - why pay so much to go somewhere and get so wasted you don't even remember most of it afterward?? I agree with you, Charlotte - the granny parties were so cute and looked like everyone had so much more fun!! Thanks for your videos; they're always such a hoot! By the way, I LOVE your outfit! 💕😍

[@Jerseybaby19]

Ughhh. Myself and my sister have funded our other sisters whole wedding. It started small, we have no parents and kind of felt sorry for her..... it started out to be held at a court house with a party and escalated into an event run by the zilla of brides. I'm still astounded at how she convinced us both so easily into guilt paying. It's been 2 weeks and I'm still in shock at our behaviour 🤦🤔🙃

[@HardlyBardly]

11:41 Bachelorette parties are out - Babushka parties are in! XD

[@witchinthenorth4735]

That clip with the cool blonde cop was from the show Reno 911 That blonde is the hilarious Wendi McLendon- Covey

[@KristenAHooper]

LOVE the granny bachelorette parties!! What a fun way to go to bed at 8pm!!! 🤣🤣🎉

[@norietgope4689]

Seems fun, I'd want to go to a bar and buy drinks for random cute guys and film their reactions when they're told that "it's from that group of grannies" 💀🤣

[@zx1906]

My husband and I both got asked to be part of two weddings this year. Here’s what they expected us to do (btw, we live in Arizona): The first couple: both bachelor and bachelorette were a 5-day cross-country city trip, bride and groom not paying anything. Just one of the Airbnbs was $400, no flight, no food. Second couple: both bachelor and bachelorette were 7-day trip outside of the country. Bride and groom not paying anything. We refused all trips. We got married ourselves last year and because of travel restrictions we kept it super low-key just with his family. None of our friends even gave us a card that said Congratulations. What the hell is wrong with people.

[@downhomesunset]

They get ideas seeing things online and then they get (more) entitled….

[@DrT0705]

I'm glad you said this. Whenever I bitch about the cost of being part of a wedding party these days, people give me the side-eye as if I'm just a Bitter Betty because I'm single. Nope, I'm just a bitter poor person! 😂

[@AirWindFire]

Honestly, people who need the bells and whistles make me question their motivation for getting married! I knew a couple who had a big fancy do in Italy, we’re from the UK, and honestly she has not stopped screaming at him since! It makes married life look absolutely miserable, but hey, they have lovely photos of the biggest mistake they ever made 🫤

[@zx1906]

@@DrT0705 I totally agree! And the cost of being in a party doesn’t stop with the bachelor/ette trip… then there’s the matching outfits, shoes and accessories, the bridal shower where you’re supposed to bring gifts, the hotel suites to get ready together, hair, nails and makeup, the wedding that you can’t show up to without a gift for the couple, the "thank you for making me part of your party" gift… like wtf

[@zx1906]

@@AirWindFire Agreed!! If you’re more excited for the wedding than the marriage, don’t get married.

[@sarahperkins2340]

Having just bought an old Emily Post Etiquette book from the 1940 I must say that I would love to write out her opinions, however, it is 3 chapters just on engagement, preparation and day of the wedding advice and rules. On top of this there is also another chapter of supplementary wedding details. That is pages 377-476 and 861-867. And no where in the chapters does it say that plus other chapters cover some of the parties and other things. However it is said that if you marry in a green garden then it is acceptable for the whole wedding party to wear white or different shades of white. But the maid/matron of honor is in the lightest shade of whatever color the bridesmaid's are wearing. The cost of being a bridesmaid is covered here... they are to pay for whatever the Bride decides to pick for the outfit, head to toe.( it's also said in the showers section under the neighborhood customs chapter, that a gift is NOT obligatory if one accepts the invitation for the wedding breakfast or reception, but it is if you accepts the invitation to the shower, hence the name, and the shower is arranged and paid for by friends of the bride, not necessarily the wedding party, since they are paying for clothing or the brides Parents who are paying for the wedding and party after, also, the gifts should be practical things that the bride will need when setting up her new household with her new husband) hummmm no where does it say that to be in the wedding party should you be expected to pay for anymore than what you are expected to wear. I will be looking into how it changes in the 50s, 60s,70s, 80, 90 etc every 10 years and it should be interesting to learn from the Etiquette greats over the years ( yes I believe that Dear Abby will be consulted in that list) not only to figure out how much it has changed over the years but to get a contemporary opinion on what should be acceptable in the new modern age, how the internet has changed Etiquette, and to try to predict what will be expected in the future.

[@Cookiepoooo]

I got a copy of that too !

[@Deryatari]

We did two bachelorette parties for my friend. The original one had to be postponed due to COVID. We instead did a kind of beach / summer party in my family's garden with cocktails etc. After the wedding and when restrictions were lifted we did the original party including a limo drive and a self made escape room. Everyone of us was dressed as the Wreck-it Ralph version of a Disney Princess. I was Mulan. the bride was Rapunzel. Both days were amazing. And my friend was super surprised and extremely happy both times.😊 Also, none of it was overly expensive. Maybe 150€ per person.

[@lisakumasaka4580]

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