Will Smith's TOXIC relationship with Jada Pinkett Smith

Will Smith has enjoyed super stardom, and become synonymous with success. But the last few years haven't been kind to him. From Jada Pinkett Smith talking about cheating on him and airing dirty laundry from their marriage, to Will slapping Chris Rock - it seems like the once clear headed, always funny, forever jovial Will Smith, was showing his dark side.
In this video, I explore Will Smith's recent issues in the media, and try to get to the bottom of what exactly is going with him and his marriage with Jada Pinkett Smith.
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[@pankkaj.sharrma]

You really make gooood videos. Clear thoughts and articulative. ❤

[@cindybrannen6597]

Cheating on her husband, rubbing his face in it, and calling it “ healing”?? Jada is a piece of work.

[@CaptainSaveHoe]

It's not cheating when you agreed from the start to this set of rules. That's what an open relationship is. Cheating is when somebody breaks the rules, "cheats" the rules of being sexually faithful to one person, open relationships do not observe that "rule" therefore it's not cheating. I don't know why people have such difficulty grasping that! It's not rocket science!

[@sierramobley8962]

@@CaptainSaveHoe judging from how Will was reacting to her discussing cheating on him, it seems like them saying they have an open relationship is damage control for PR’s sake. either that, or Jada is the only one who wanted an open relationship and Will agreed to it so that he could appease Jada, but wasn’t actually on board with the idea. otherwise he wouldn’t have been hurt by her actions. in any case, open relationships are bullshit and pointless and can never work out for a couple anyway and with regard to Will and Jada’s relationship, i’m not buying it.

[@CaptainSaveHoe]

@@sierramobley8962 she was never the marrying type, he was, it was he who insisted on marriage (from what I read), this is what happens when you impose your own Will on somebody else's, she had the right to not wanting the commitment as much as he had the right to wanting that, mutual respect is when both parties come to some kind of truce, in this case an open marriage, or otherwise go their separate ways. They went for the open marriage, which literally changes the *rules*, she never cheated because the *rule* to be faithful was waived, cheating is when somebody breaks *rules*. What I find BAFFLING is how BASIC humans are becoming, especially in America, life is more complex than simply blaming people, things go wrong for reasons that are rarely black and white. I also am not sure he would have had the career he had without Jada, sometimes, it is the woman who drives the man to become all that he can be, and also don't forget that their marriage outlasted most marriages. I think she's a good person. Will is a good man too deep down, despite the assault. They are two different spirits brought together, who made it work better than most, despite their differences.

[@kookytoots6755]

@@CaptainSaveHoe would a good person let her about to get an Oscar husband up on that stage,? Even worse be the clear reason for him to do that because she couldn't take a joke? Would a good person instill on her daughter how much 2pac was the love of her life?!? She has sailed on wills coattails for so long. She is a nasty piece of work

[@CaptainSaveHoe]

@@kookytoots6755 She didn't know he was going on stage to assault the guy, so don't be ridiculous. Again, it's not she who "couldn't take a joke" it was HE, HE was the one that got up there and assaulted Chris, stop shifting the blame, she is allowed to look annoyed at a joke, that's what jokes do, annoy some people, you are allowed to look annoyed, you are NOT allowed to assault somebody, SEE THE DIFFERENCE? 😡 And so what if she told her daughter she preferred 2pac? It's not a crime to prefer somebody! The guy is dead! I mean come on. 😩 The fact is you do not know who gained the most out of their relationship, from outside it might look like she did, but in terms of the career outcome, I would be surprised if she didn't have positive influence, because it was pretty much as good as it gets, for Will. The problem is, conventional people do not like unconventional people, especially when those people are women, such is the innate misogyny of society, this is what I notice especially about America, it's not a good thing AT ALL.

[@KelseyJohnna]

It's insane to me how she is openly mean and demeaning to him, and he just doesn't seem to see it at all. He planned this birthday for you and saw it as a proclamation of his love, and you convince him that it was all just his ego instead of being appreciative?? Just because he got away from being physically abused as a child, does not mean he's no longer abused

[@IceQeen1011]

Yep, those abused as children often end up with abusers as adults, probably because that emotional abuse and manipulation are very commonplace for them

[@Ghost7065]

He's just trying to make things the way he wants (and I don't mean that in a bad way he is trying to be a good man to the best of his flawed ability) but she doesn't want the same things. She wants to be a top dog with no responsibilities and all the freedom.

[@cazlaz]

100% this!! She gaslights people into thinking they are the crazy one when she manipulates the situation. And this is exactly what the Red Table Talks are about. Spouting her evangelical righteous ways of thinking that only her way is correct. Through and through narcisist.

[@hannah51238]

Whats really painful is listening to Will constantly put himself and his success down because Jada made him believe it. I've just left my narcissistic husband and the way he words things cuts waaaay too close

[@BaggageClaim]

Yes I’m wondering the same thing.

[@racpatrice]

I wonder if she is jealous of him and resents him because her career stalled because of the kids while his continued to grow 🤔

[@adamimberti6948]

@@racpatrice Yep, they said it. Having kids stalled her career and he went on to have massive success. It made her unhappy. He was happy and she was miserable so he said ok, go out and make yourself happy, i'll get out of your way.... little did he know she was a fundamentally miserable person, nothing can make her happy. Now she's still miserable and he's miserable too.

[@radhiadeedou8286]

He says she sacrificed her career for him and their kids, truth is she was never going to be on his level, most people wouldn't know her if she wasn't Mrs Smith

[@Ghost7065]

I'm sorry to hear that. Lots of people get divorced because one or the others egotism. My brother has had two ex-wives, and due to growing up with that, I've never married because I lost trust in people. I hope you found someone new, someone who deserves you and treats you good.

[@1gunnerShock]

What’s sad is a lot of what Will Smith did through out his marriage seemed to come from a place of genuine love, but it was always being painted as if he was doing it ONLY out of selfishness.

[@Caro_arch5801]

I agree. I genuinely believe Will is a good hearted man. If he wasn’t, we would have seen the other side of his nature long before now. I listen to Jada speaking & I don’t like the way she manipulated what she says to make her sound right & him sound wrong. She blames “his ego” for things she couldn’t control. His ideal of being that man that provides as a good husband and father is actually healthy, but I believe her twisted jealousy of his success, denigrates him to make him the reason they had marital issues. Her so called healing, by having a relationship, is just a selfish excuse, plain & simple.

[@Nightman221k]

He’s probably not a bad person but his ambition and ego are where the issues stem from. His goals don’t factor in how the other people in his family feel about anything. He doesn’t realize they aren’t extensions of him but people themselves. The story about the party and him insisting Willow tether herself to a singing career as a preteen just seems like he thinks about what he wants first.

[@tomboywarrior3229]

I believe that too, but the thing is the narcissist person at his side will do everything to not be painted as bad, so the fault will always fall on the victim, in this case, Will. I'm pretty sure he isn't a saint, but I don't believe in this story he is the villain.

[@blinski1]

@@Caro_arch5801 It's absolutely possible to be good hearted person, truly in love, with only good intentions, but at the same time driven by ego. It's always quite ambiguous for me what even love is for a person who come from a strict/cold/loveless home. I mean the sheer personal definition of love always gets its components from some kind of roots and experiences, they're not the same for every person. It sometimes comes off for me as for that kind of person love may be just another competition with their own parents in their minds, like 'I come from a poor house and look father, how successful I am', just switch 'poor' with 'cold' and 'successful' with 'loving'. Love from that kind of person may come from the deep of the heart, but for partner who doesn't share that kind of background it may be just emotionally exhausting and result in searching for one's own space, which might be seen by spectators as being ungrateful and manipulative.

[@kbn7160]

Whatever he does, she seems to be unhappy with.

[@michele-kt]

This woman has nothing positive to say! Her husband has spent 28 years kowtowing to her and trying to make her happy and she gives him zero credit. She knocks down and minimizes every single thing this man says. She is the most negative, ungrateful person I've ever heard! And she apparently is perfect.

[@Jessica_Jones]

Totally, I think I would be more willing to give her the benefit of the doubt if she wasn't so self-righteous about everything. In my view, if she was truly seeing a bunch of "all about me behavior" from Will, she should have sought marriage counseling. The way she's handled it has been to push him down and to do whatever she wants. That isn't loving. I suspect that, at best, she built up this idea in her head that his actions were all selfish and she has convinced him of the same. At worst, it's been a narcissistic long con and she's finally getting her way. I sure hope Will can straighten things out and find his ground. Maybe Denzel will keep in touch with him....

[@Tradewins4cash]

Jada: "The party... the most ridiculous display of your ego...". No one knows if anyone will like their birthday gift, but they graciously & thankfully accept it because they know the effort that went into it. To belittle a person because they didn't give you a gift you liked is beyond ungrateful. It's unbelievably cruel! So I agree with you. It's all about her!

[@Tential1]

@@Jessica_Jones yup, just makes me sad because it seems he's self aware enough to know how to change, and gets no encouragement. And it's fine, this is an acceptable relationship. Kinda makes me wonder what's left. Relationships are the one thing a normal person can have. Any person. It's now this city girls mentality, all about me, men just are terrible mentality pervading society. People are gonna "lie flat" and check out of society.

[@chompchomp7853]

She literally keeps looking at him like he's always wrong- she's so evil

[@marlenehibiskus]

WS should have figured alteady that sehr is Not the Person you should be married with.

[@pepper3962]

It feels odd hearing people discuss such emotionally intimate things in front of the world. Just feels like a conversation they could’ve/should’ve had in family or couples therapy.

[@lauramcquade924]

Also in front of their daughter.... that was extremely uncomfortable.😨 8:00 - onwards is so inappropriate for a daughter to hear.

[@hope-cat4894]

Everyone is using social media like a substitute for diaries and telling their followers personal stuff instead of texting people they trust in private. It's strange.

[@samr4607]

I thought it was because everything already was so public so decided to address the talk and speculation out in the open. I believe having regular family meetings to hash things out is how they've always been - but now in front of a camera. I think the discussion is insightful, and perhaps even helpful to some in similar emotional circumstances. Nonetheless, they are a bit bizarre.

[@Yesthatsmyfirstname]

and will has repetitively asked her not to do such things. she recorded him on Instagram live soon after the slap. she's freaking gross.

[@ThePuschkin1986]

I agree. Having these intimate kitchen table talks in front of millions of people, edited and polished, even including the underage daughter. The fact that Jada keeps inviting her own husband to her talkshow is very telling.

[@MarianaGarciaGrijalva]

I can't believe she successfully tricked him into believing with all his heart that the 40th Birthday Party he had been planning for 3 years, for HER, was "the most ridiculous display of his ego". The fact that he's crushed by it to this day does not make it true, but the opposite, in my opinion, his subconscious self knows it's not true. It seems he made this out of pure and genuine love. This is sad.

[@RashmiBhattarai96]

I don't agree with Jada on most things. But when you plan someone's birthday, it should be in the way they want to celebrate it too.. if someone doesn't like attention, don't make them the focus of it during their birthday even if you planned it for 4 years, it wouldn't be your partner's celebration anymore.

[@MarianaGarciaGrijalva]

@@RashmiBhattarai96 You're correct, and I agree 100%. I just don't think he would've planned this for three years if she had told him not to from the very beginning. Perhaps she changed her mind last minute, idk.

[@RashmiBhattarai96]

@@MarianaGarciaGrijalva did she know the whole 3 years though

[@MarianaGarciaGrijalva]

@@RashmiBhattarai96 That's a good point actually. I guess we'll never know for real, just what they decided to share.

[@LISA75_]

The thing about JADA saying that she healed with August, and it helped her, he was a 22yo kid who was friends with her own children, and was also having issues with things himself, if she had gone and healed herself with a 35yo man who was sorted and mature enough to deal, then maybe I would see it differently than an older woman taking advantage of a kid to boost her ego.

[@lilcajunqueen888]

It was perverted and bordered on pedophilia.

[@AliRadicali]

Can you imagine the shrieking outrage if Will had slept around with one of Willow's gal-pals?

[@destinyhntr]

Definitely feels like creepy, almost abusive behavior. You do not "heal" a young man (your son's age) by sleeping with him. It was purely her own selfishness and convincing herself she is some perfect person

[@charles9489]

The word "kid" seems to be bantered about alot. While I feel Jada is manipulative, the use of the word kid in this context troubles me.

[@LISA75_]

@@charles9489 I AM NOT IMPLYING THAT August is a child , just that he was less than half her age, Jada is a few years older than I am , and in my life ,I refer to my niece and her friends who are in there early 20s as kids , because in terms of life and experience they are kids compared to me , and so was he compared to JADA .

[@groovefunkel]

I just love how Jada justifies her indiscretions all in the name of her "journey" and "healing" and "growth" and Will just plays along. These people live in their own world.

[@kookytoots6755]

The standing ovation truly was sickening. Yes Jada is toxic af

[@dave1927p]

They likely thought it was a joke at the time. It’s not the brightest audience

[@brandonscott5544]

PROBLEMATIC ISSUES.

[@bobbiemooser7417]

How can you work at a marriage when she keeps telling everyone she never wanted to marry him in the first place? How can you work at a marriage when she tells her children that she’s in love with someone else who’s dead? She needs help but I don’t think she’ll get it because she thinks she’s just fine. I feel sorry for Will.

[@Story2ScreenMovieReviewPodcast]

Have you heard the rumors that Will and Jada are actually gay in real life, ala why at least on her part, this dismissive nature towards Wills love?

[@HerculesBallsInc]

I was raised by an abusive parent and have become very sensitive to attacks meant to diminish someone. When she says, "I never wanted to marry him", and does not immediately follow that comment with, "and boy was I wrong!", then this is absolutely an attack. Without that add-on, the implication is, "and so he OWES me." It's the same with her comment, "I wanted to feel good", and "It had been so long"... it pretty overtly says, "You are not capable of making me feel good. You are not good enough."

[@josipajakovljevic9313]

This woman is evil, she cannot be helped

[@souvikmitra6161]

It's funny, because recently I saw a clip from a livestream of an actor from F&F (I think it's Tyrese Gibson but I don't watch the series) with his wife(?) And she laughs and claims she preferred the Late Paul Walker, his good friend, over him...then proceeds to touch him around his shoulders from behind while he's asking her to get off, covers his mouth when he's trying to say he's ending the stream, calls him old and "not that attractive" and how he knew about her choice and hence it's ok for her to gleefully insult him to everyone watching.

[@arnarstefansson97]

@@HerculesBallsInc I´m glad someone else caught on to that too, it gave me chills

[@kasvinimuniandy4178]

It's so painful to hear him talk. His face, forced smile, he's fighting his tears and real emotions. He's been brainwashed and abused. It's painful to watch it. He didn't even blink. It wasn't sincere but someone seeking approval. He was so self-deprecating. It's so inappropriate to see a family discuss such personal things in public, it's disrespectful to the relationship and bad for the children.

[@ayodeji557]

This man gave all he had to his family and they're absolutely ungrateful for all of it. Sad part is that he keeps getting burned by them and does nothing. He's like a candle that lights others and dies in the process. What a shame

[@hsk2909]

There's so many things wrong with this whole scenario. What adult ass people sit down by a table with their mother-in-law and young daughter to pull marital skeletons out the closet? I would never speak a word about my relationship with my husband with ANY family member. It's just too CLOSE, there's something really creepy about the whole idea. And not to mention that the WHOLE world can watch and hear you airing your dirty ego laundry?!. Yuck.

[@michele-kt]

This woman has nothing positive to say! Her husband has spent 28 years kowtowing to her and trying to make her happy and she gives him zero credit. She knocks down and minimizes every single thing this man says. She is the most negative, ungrateful person I've ever heard!

[@AliRadicali]

@@hsk2909 I don't think Will is there by his own free will, it seems pretty obvious he's being bullied into having these "conversations" in public, in front of the whole world. It seems pretty clear as well that Jada is weaponising the children and maybe other family members as well against Will.

[@utkarshrajput8513]

I'll die a single man. Earn, travel, spend it on yourself and on your parents. Live life to the fullest. F*ck marriage, f*ck ungrateful kids, I want to add life to my days.

[@WolfHound911]

Hollywood relationships are mysterious & mystical things. There has ALWAYS been a price to pay for fame, it's seldom a monetary 'price'.

[@samash7302]

I hope Will doesn’t slap me this time but why Jada’s Oscar gown looked like a soggy spinach? 😭😭😭

[@AdultThirdCultureKid1971]

Her gown did look like soggy spinach. Was she auditioning for a movie role?

[@QueeneTea]

🤣😂

[@duhduh666]

With Skeletor wearing it.

[@Nightman221k]

@@AdultThirdCultureKid1971 She wants to play Popeye in a Popeye live action remake.

[@johnsalazar2581]

LOL.

[@s.thomas9493]

Their marriage appears to be a mix of unresolved childhood trauma, insecurities, perfectionism, regret, resentment, and bitterness. All in the hopes of securing love… life is complicated.

[@AliRadicali]

I absolutely believe Jada broke Will; gaslit and manipulated him into a puddle of insecurity and then built him back up as a sniveling lapdog. And the worst part is, I don't think she loves him either. I think she likes the benefits he provides, but is otherwise envious and resentful of his success. I think in her infinite narcissism she has convinced herself she'd be just as big of a star as Will Smith if only he hadn't "forced" her to have kids. Completely delusional.

[@ThePuschkin1986]

I would also argue she has a lot of resentment due to being the wife of a celebrity liek Will. Her own work and success, though extensive, has never remotely matched his. I believe she is well aware she owes a lot of her accomplishments to the connection with him and has a need to keep her profile by being his wife. Without it people might have long forgotten about her. But things will always be a little better if you are married to one of the greatest stars of his generation.

[@kasvinimuniandy4178]

Yes, maybe she is struggling with low self esteem and jealousy

[@tochukwuudu7763]

​@@ThePuschkin1986 your husband is richer than God what more could u want.

[@feliciaf8]

​@@tochukwuudu7763not event close

[@funkyfranx]

@@tochukwuudu7763Narcissists are never satisfied

[@Rowe104]

When they brought Will one the red table talk to go over all his faults- rly seemed like all three women brought him there just to castrate him in front of the world

[@michele-kt]

Exactly!

[@destinyhntr]

Sadly, I was thinking the same thing. It felt very one-sided and the only mentioning how Will's actions were out of love was him. The rest of them clearly viewed it as selfishness.

[@xhaltsalute]

Think they done good…

[@user-is7xs1mr9y]

It was like seeing three vultures feeding on a corpse. Sickening.

[@thankuwelcome2153]

Public humiliation is a narcissist playground

[@laythadrian5705]

“I don’t look at it as a transgression at all.” That’s when you file for divorce

[@osuunaftmath]

I get the feeling that Will has done EVERYTHING within his power to lift his family up, but Jada has convinced herself and the children that it was a selfish powerplay. I find it hard to believe that Jada did not push for these things (a massive celebration for her birthday, fame for their children etc.) Jada has no respect for the relationship they have built, and the effort will has put into it. Will was a global role model, Jada has stolen that from him and the world.

[@maricls26]

Worse, she's convinced Will that it was a selfish power play as well. He now (at least on the surface) believes he was only doing everything for himself and that now he must change to be better. I once admired his hard work for his family, dedication, etc....but now I worry for his mental state. He just appears so broken down now!

[@osuunaftmath]

@@maricls26 100%.

[@AliRadicali]

She's the perfect case study in how a narcissist will grasp on to anything and twist it to manipulate their partner. On the one hand she has convinced Will that his selfless acts on her behalf were actually selfish and egotistical, on the other hand she's guilting him for being upset at her infidelity. The lack of self-awareness is astonishing, and the fact that she's getting away with it tells me she's largely isolated Will from anyone who might point these things out to him.

[@angelicaluna8108]

You lost me with that last sentence there. If it was the other way around and a female went up and slapped somebody on stage cause her bf didn’t find something funny, no one would be blaming the guy for her actions. It would all be “no one told her to do that” & “ she took it upon herself…” He made a mistake, I know it’s hard to believe from him but HE did this to himself.

[@AliRadicali]

@@angelicaluna8108 I don't think Jada overtly told Will to hit Chris Rock, but I think it's fair to surmise he knew he'd be sleeping in the dog house for laughing at the joke if he didn't make some sort of dramatic gesture to "correct" his dreadful sin. I don't think the gender-flipped argument holds up because violence in general, but especially in defense of a spouse's honour, is not something that is culturally or socially equal between the sexes. Notions of male chivalry, defending m'lady's honour and all that, might not be in vogue today, but there's a long history behind them. Wives historically were not expected to lay hands on people who insulted their husband, although there are certainly examples of that as well.

[@GuessJess]

This relationship breakdown really upsets me. From what I’m seeing, Will was a good man and did his best to provide for his family in the ways that men are traditionally expected to. And none of that was good enough for his woman. Jada, as a fiercely independent women who never wanted to get married and seemingly never wanted to postpone her career to raise her children, obviously doesn’t understand how masculine men show love to their families by being the provider, earning respect and appreciation, and doing whatever he can to make his wife happy. He maintained his masculinity without resorting to the physical abuse that he suffered at the hands of his father, and also tried to be an emotional support for his wife and kids. Instead of trying to meet him in the middle, she chose to cheat on him. She asserted her needs in a very selfish way considering that everything he’s done (good and bad) was strictly for her approval. I think in the end, she did break him, they are in a toxic marriage, and they would do better if they separated from each other.

[@morningglory3644]

I do believe Will has a lot of great qualities about himself; however, I believe Will would not be in this kind of relationship if he had a healthier mindset about his own self-worth, and his concept about men and women. Because I believe his statement is flawed. He believes a woman is a motivator for him to succeed and excel, that sounds romantic, but it doesn't work well if you give the woman all your power. Because I can see that he is constantly seeking approval and validation from Jada, and is she disapproves, then he blames himself and never feels validated by her...so he is never good enough in her eyes? That only causes him to feel diminished and devalued, so even after 25 years of marriage, he still doesn't know how to make her happy? I agree that they probably should go their separate ways, and not look for healing in each other. They need to heal on their own, so he doesn't feel conflicted by her needs and expectations, he needs to figure out what he really wants for himself!

[@katrinat.3032]

@@morningglory3644 I agree. I definitely agree that he he lacks self-worth or some thing deep down inside. Especially since he can’t see how Jada makes these demands on him. I think most people would see him as a good man and a good provider in their marriage. But she somehow twisted it around like she had to suffer while he fed his ego. That’s bull!!!! They have plenty of money and they could’ve had nannies galore helping out with the kids. I’m not saying nannies to raise your kids for you but if she wanted to still have a career they certainly have enough resources to be able to do that. But you know what? she didn’t build her career. and I don’t know what the reason is but for some reason she needed to cheat on Will, because according to her she just needed to feel good. I guess all that time with Will you didn’t feel good. Who’s fault is that? It’s your fault not wills. Will needs to get away from her, it’ll be hard on him but in the end he’ll be stronger. And I think he cried during his acceptance speech because he felt so frustrated and exhausted inside of trying to make this woman happy. And then he realized what he did on a national stage and he still felt like she wasn’t happy. I think there’s a part of him that’s exhausted inside

[@ab-gail]

We’re on the same page, Jess!

[@ab-gail]

@@morningglory3644 Agree with this too!

[@ab-gail]

@@katrinat.3032 Yes indeed. I hope he finds rest!

[@adoseofbeauty6443]

Speaking only on the public relations/appearence of the issue: I think Jada comes out looking worse because she doesn't present her actions with humilty or contrtion (i.e. her decision to get married, side track her career, stay married, have an affair, **). She comes across as self righteous and cold which makes her seem domineering\bullying. Personally, I was turned off by her description of the affair - her husband and lover have both expressed negative opinions about the affair but she focused on what she alone got out of it. Also, it "feels" like I have been hearing about her unhappiness, their troubled marriage for years now - good grief, are she and Will happy yet? I don't think these tell all interviews are getting them any closer.

[@AliRadicali]

What I find most off-putting about her is how easily she can twist her husband's attempts to demonstrate love/affection into proof of ego/selfishness. I'm sure she just completely kneecapped Will when he had organised that gigantic 40ieth birthday celebration event only for it be thrown back in his face. This is narcissism 101: Everything he does, she can distort into proof she's being victimised so she can further guilt and manipulate Will. Meanwhile, there's not a hint of self-awareness around her own, far more selfish and prideful affair with her son's buddy.

[@leet2888]

@@AliRadicali Listen to the part @1:27 My hope is that these 2 men heal and reconcile, oh and it has nothing to do with me cause the world needs more love. Also I haven't figured out life with Will yet for the past 20 years.

[@rebeccawilson5465]

She doesn’t love him or she would have worked things out behind the scenes. For his sanity he needs to leave her. He seems to of had a slight psychotic break ( hitting Chris on live tv then cursing, that’s not like him at all)he needs to rebuild himself, become centered then find out what he should do best. I hope he will recover he’s a good actor.

[@AliRadicali]

@@rebeccawilson5465 I don't think the Oscars incident rises to the level of a psychotic break, but I definitely agree that Smith wasn't himself at that time. It seems pretty obvious he was under some sort of mental/emotional duress and felt the need to "correct" his grave sin of laughing at the GI Jada joke. I'm not a big fan of the trope that abuse victims can't be expected to act rationally, but this seems a clear case where the victim is not operating at 100% due to stress/anxiety/etc.

[@thornyback]

I'm so tired of this "affair" narrative - THEY'VE BEEN IN AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP FOR OVER A DECADE. Will had his own mistresses way before Jada got with August. This is a sign of societal misogyny and I'm so tired of it. His affairs were private, that's the only difference. What's going on here is the frantic protection of the male ego because she or rather August embarrassed him in front of the world. GET OFF THIS AFFAIR NARRATIVE, IT'S TOXIC.

[@Pheebs77]

Jada has traction alopecia which is self-inflicted. She did an IG post saying she didn't care what people think, yet the rolled her eyes when the joke was made. She could also afford the best wigs if she dind't want to draw attention to it. Can't stand the woman, such a narcissist. Will needs to get away from her.

[@user-is7xs1mr9y]

@Bla Bla She sucked at The Matrix movies. She voiced Gloria the hippo in Madagascar. Nothing outstanding, even though I like those movies.

[@tahlia__nerds_out]

I’ve never heard of traction alopecia before and had to go look it up. Thanks for giving me an educational moment; I love learning stuff

[@BiggieTrismegistus]

If someone losing their hair is the biggest "struggle" in their life they are immensely privileged. That people talk about like it's a problem she has with her health is downright insulting to people who have actual health problems. I lost my hair and I didn't consider it a health issue at all. I understand it's different for women given societal expectations of how women are supposed to look. However another way in which it's different is that women can, as you say, wear wigs and look as if they have a full head of natural hair. On the other hand men who wear hairpieces look absolutely ridiculous. Even rocking a bald head like she does works for her; I think she looks great bald. Some women can pull it off really well and she's one of them.

[@rogue_centipede1798]

Well what I learnt from this is don't overcommit to a person who doesn't deserve you.

[@Nickle_King]

To build off what you said in the beginning, about how Will and Jada are a rarity because of how long they’ve been together, I believe that that is the exact problem. That moment when Jada said she doesn’t believe cheating was a “transgression” (despite using dodging words like “entanglement” and “transgression”) you can see Will’s jaw tighten. Not only is wife admitting, publicly to his face, that she cheated on him, but that, not only does she not regret it, but she loved it because it made her feel “good.” Then she used that word “good” over and over, like a club. These two need to get away from each other NOW. These two are not a couple, and the amount of miscommunication, misunderstanding, and selfishness on both sides are the type of story you hear from close friends after a murder. These two are not a couple. They’re not a “partnership”. They are going to get each other ruined and killed if they keep going like this.

[@Julia-uh4li]

Nick, I too, had that dark though cross my mind. I pictured someone snapping to the point of NO return. Just something during that red table discussion gave me spidey tingles. Intense😬

[@hissyfitz7890]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@wlhansen2068]

He might as well be castrated.Its quite pathetic to watch a man live in a perpetual denial.He must be deeply insecure to leave this vapid woman

[@hissyfitz7890]

@@wlhansen2068 - He has DEEP WOUNDS from his childhood that SHE saw & keeps picking at the scabs; NEVER to let them heal. Cognitive dissonance is probably the most challenging MINDFUCKERY to overcome in a relationship with a narcissist. Think about a child growing up with abusive parents - ‘if they love me, they wouldn’t abuse me’ conversely translates to ‘if they abuse me they don’t love me’. He NEEDS to get out & stay out of his relationship with her. After a few YEARS then he’ll be PO’d at himself for being so tragically DUPED.

[@tingle2323]

True

[@sirgreedy88]

She hates will. She resents him. He is a mega star and she is barely famous. That's all it's about. Nothing more.

[@KateLJ1799]

It's so heartbreaking to watch him feel the need to apologise for his success and for supporting his family. Also to hear him say that he wanted to be married from five years old, for Jada to say she didn't even want to marry him, and for them to now no longer view themselves as married. He does and says everything to please Jada, but you can tell it's still not good enough for her. And for their daugther to have to sit and witness this, and probably being told to view this as an inspirational, mature partnership to look up to. At 8:25 he is presenting what he is saying as a joke, but underneath that persona I wouldn't be surprised if he is 100% serious and that was a cry for help, a momentary glimpse of the truth behind their marriage.

[@PoirotFanGirl]

Will is most definitely in a relationship with a narc, I can tell you that it's very difficult to leave. I hope he finds a way out soon

[@CsykKrit]

Narc = narcotics officer

[@spandsbab]

Jada, Amber, Megan = the unholy trinity of narcissism

[@summersevening]

This is bizarre. Amber’s physically, verbally and emotionally abusive. Jada clearly has a lot of issues. Megan’s just a woman who’s been targeted by a deeply racist and abusive state institution and the media which supports it.

[@spandsbab]

@@summersevening I can agree with the Jada take but Megan nope sorry my friends knows her personally

[@Nothereforthechase]

Hahaha that was clinical. Couldn't agree more.. imagine the collateral damage if these three united. Sad that we keep validating these narcissists. Although I'm happy we're getting the awareness regarding this personality disorder.

[@PaulRubino]

12:03 - Speaking of her cheating on him she says, "I just wanted to feel good. It had been so long since i felt good." She cheats on him then explains it away by telling him she wasn't feeling good with him (Will) so she found happiness somewhere else. She's telling him if he doesn't keep her happy she will find happiness elsewhere. Why is he laughing through this bulls**t?

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

Hiding his pain maybe?

[@tahlia__nerds_out]

@@JeSsE10mCcOy11 I agree. He’s laughing, but his eyes look sad.

[@blueneptune825]

"Love will make you do crazy things". Being a victim of narcissistic abuse seems a more likely scenario after watching these two on the world stage. I hope he gets help.

[@HerculesBallsInc]

Sadly, some victims of abuse come to think of PUTTING UP WITH ABUSE as 'love'.

[@lisaterry2387]

She is definitely a narcissist. She treats him like garbage and totally disrespects him.

[@deecee9548]

Always loved Will Smith - ever since Fresh Prince, but yeah, there is something off about him now. It's like he is simmering with anger and trying very hard to hide it. Perhaps the 'slap' was his tipping point 🤷‍♀

[@renekirebornrenekireborn4777]

It's so sad to see how much Will seems to have lost his identity within this relationship. Being secure in who you are as a person is more important than being married in my opion. But, it seems he wrote, directed and starred in his own life and now real life is creeping in. At some point one has to make peace with the life you live. Thanks for a great video.

[@Vespyr_]

That's what being with a narcissist is like.

[@Kyuukami]

Well put.

[@AliRadicali]

Even in this video I think we see several examples of Jada twisting and weaponising things Will did out of love into examples of selfishness and ego. I can pretty much guarantee that if Smith hadn't thrown an over-the-top extravaganza for his wife's 40ieth birthday, then THAT would have been the problem. If he hadn't been a career-oriented superstar she probably wouldn't have married him to begin with. But now, in hindsight, she can take all those things and edit them into a tale of victimhood to justify her own selfish behaviour, I.E. sleeping around and telling the whole world about it. In true narcissistic fashion, all the pesky details can simply be reinterpreted or re-written to fit Jada's inner narrative, where she is the stoic victim and Smith is the problem.

[@katrinat.3032]

@@AliRadicali I agree. This whole video seemed to be about what Will did wrong according to Jada. I think he needs to be completely away from her for a while and realizes his own self worth. He’s a good person he’s hard-working he has a lot of great characteristics that seem like they’re getting twisted into something else by Jada. And I think he cried at his acceptance speech because deep inside he knows no matter what he does it’s not the right thing according to Jayda. I think inside he was really saying oh shit what did I just do?

[@Undomaranel]

@@Vespyr_ Not just narcissism, but acting in general. I was scrolling through shorts one day and came across "day in a life of an actor" that features someone hopping from one car to another like luggage, never asking questions, meeting up at a location to be shuttled around again, not even knowing where they were going or what was going to happen. The comments were FILLED with people who agreed. They never question or think about their actions, they just do. A director tells them to make it sexier they just do, no questions. Someone in an unmarked van tells them to get in, they do. Then when a moral dilemma finally appears, like the casting couch, they have trained themselves to just do. It's a cultural beating down of the individual, as run by narcissists and power hungry, abusive monsters. It's a lack of moral fiber, of responsibility and accountability. And that is the culture that is making our entertainment, ever wonder why they accuse everyone of being istaphobes when their society is run by actual monsters? It's because that is their lived experience, they don't know any other way and have been brainwashed that everyone else is an uneducated fool. And because they don't question, they just agree and do like the sheep they are...? Will's waking up. Hopefully it's not too late for him and he can help air some dirty laundry and make positive changes. Especially with the Heard v Depp trial, there needs to be a massive cultural shift down there. Wishful thinking I know, but still hopeful.

[@derek.....]

when Chuck Norris tells a joke about Will Smith’s wife,Will Smith smacks himself.

[@mikeharlow]

I love this channel. Helpful insight on narcissists… since we’re currently being ruled by a bunch of them!

[@seriouslyjoking2]

We have ALWAYS been ruled by Narcissists or people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissists rule companies...Countries...as they are able to step on people to get to the top. Psychopaths head corporations, are doctors, lawyers, etc. This has been since the beginning of time.

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

Dealing with narcissists is not the point of this video tho... if you have actually paid attention to it.

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

@@Cumdown I am just saying that's not the point of this particular video. I don't see why this is toxic of me, but okay I guess. LOL

[@KingOfWinter]

Yolenda愛唱歌 / Yolenda Loves to Sing..... you’re forgetting to say “in my opinion” different people can watch the same thing and come away with different ideas on what the video was about. You see it one way, they see it another. What you said was toxic because for no reason at all you felt the need to comment on their post and tell them they were wrong and imply they were stupid for not seeing something that was “so oblivious”. Or in simple terms it’s like in the movie Bambi what Thumpers mom says to him “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”

[@Gobble_de_Goop]

@@yolenda_loves_to_sing - Jada is *most definitely* a Narcissist.

[@abee5344]

Why is Willow there and why is she agreeing with Jada when she said she wasted her life having kids and staying home with them..

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

She is probably just acknowledging her mom's sacrifices, that's all.

[@abee5344]

@@yolenda_loves_to_sing her mother just told her she was a sacrifice and her life was horrible because of her and her brother existence....Jada is a top teir NARC

[@lobsterfool6002]

@@yolenda_loves_to_sing Children should be something you want. If you believe you made a sacrifice to raise your children, that implies you didn't want your child in the first place. Jada should have never voiced that opinion in front of her children. If I heard my mom say that about me I would be absolutely crushed and probably cry myself to sleep at night.

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

@@lobsterfool6002 I just thought Willow wasn't agreeing to Jada, but just acknowledging her point. That's all. What you said and what I said wasn't contradicting at all. :)

[@abee5344]

@@yolenda_loves_to_sing are you okay...are you used to your mom saying she doesn't want you...you are Asian and girls aren't prized...is that it?

[@iamgoddessoflove]

If you are not sure whether you’re in a toxic relationship or not, ask yourself these two most important questions. How has this relationship affected my self-esteem? How do I feel when I am around my partner? 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@kate2create738]

Love it! Great wisdom you have there ❤️

[@leet2888]

Simple questions yet we tend to ignore. Great advice!

[@trawlins396]

That's very short sighted. Enough with the internet "relationship gurus" who do nothing except repeat generic platitudes. You can be in a toxic relationship and STIILL feel happy to be around someone.

[@trawlins396]

You can guarantee when someone is pretentious enough to call themself a "coach" it means they have no formal training and have no basis for giving advice besides the fact they watched a few eps of Iyanla Fix My Life. 🙄.

[@tingle2323]

@@trawlins396 yes when individuallly our self-esteem is less

[@elenabob4953]

3:01 Why did they exclude the fact that it was Jadas choice ti have the babies and to sit hone with them? Nowdays nobody looks down in you if you decide to hire a baby și you could go work. Also let's not forget that asking for the father to get more involved in raising the kids it is also wife's prerogative. You can't say that they have been dirt poor and they couldn't live them n luxury even if Will reduced the pace.

[@Farmer_El]

I think Will Smith has been manipulated and controlled by Jada since they first got together.

[@seriouslyjoking2]

It is what he wanted. People are drawn to each other to replay childhood traumas. We choose an intimate partner similar to a parent.

[@Caro_arch5801]

@@seriouslyjoking2 As a child, he wanted to grow up & have a family. That doesn’t mean he actually got HIS dream. A woman can influence a vulnerable man into what he believes is his dream. She changes the rules & he is left out in the cold. This is what we saw at that round table conversation. He no longer is allowed to see himself married & he is hanging on to the thread of what he believes. She controls the narrative & his fear of abandonment keeps him hanging in there, not realising that s she is now devaluing him.

[@heathermarie3820]

So she confronted 'emotional insecurities,' and got 'deep healing' by adultery? K😳

[@debranielsen2002]

It’s usually men who come up with this nonsensical garbage. 😠

[@alexwilliams2276]

Because I was curious I looked into it further. They were going through a pretty dark stage through their marriage. Some people do step out. And then they’ll “cheat” and may get a divorce. In that moment the person that steps out probably doesn’t care. They can do it openly in front of the other parent or kids. Usually, it’s in front of the kids. The kids will resent the parent (we saw this with their son Jaiden). And then usually if the couple works out they come together stronger together. A lot of them, usually the cheater does admit to feeling secure in the person they cheated on them with. It’s something that’s missing and though it hurts it can’t always be prevented either. But you can talk to your partner about it. So, I can understand her wording as some cheaters don’t always feel remorse immediately. She may feel remorse now but who knows I’m not in their private life

[@thesecondderivative8967]

Yes. The healing was VERY deep.

[@Unfinished_senTenc611]

​@@thesecondderivative8967 👊😏

[@Ashwin-zg7rt]

People don’t value what they have. Wil is a gem and his family is lucky to have him around

[@PaulRubino]

Will Smith seems like a smart guy, but I think he's using his smarts to fool himself and rationalize away very clear indicators that he is in an abusive relationship. He's lost and she's keeping him that way.

[@danceteachermom]

In a marriage, it's never that one person is all good and the other all bad or visa versa. They BOTH have flaws, as we all do. The problem I see, is that IF Jada had an issue with everything being about Will, she didn't address it and let it pile up and pile up. Then she was pissed and said.. Ok, now everything is about ME. But that is NOT how marriage works. And Will obviously didn't want to lose her, so he said it was fine for her to cheat on him. It's obviously extremely painful to him and he doesn't like it or want that. Jada does not take responsibility for her own choices. No one MADE her stop working.. She was not his slave. My observation of the situation is that they BOTH have flaws/made mistakes. But I think Will seems to be the ONLY ONE admitting mistakes, even when they are HERS. I think she is more selfish and manipulative and unloving to him. I'm not saying that he's perfect, but he's definitely trying harder than she is in the marriage. It seems like she is controlling and twists the conversation. When he slapped Chris Rock, I was COMPLETELY against Will Smith. But now, after more revelations (even before today I heard much of this), I am definitely more sympathetic to WILL. I think Jada needs some counseling and that there IS some narcissism there.

[@Tradewins4cash]

13:52 The eyes are the windows to the soul. Forget about the smiling & laughing. Will looks exhausted, drained, lost, disappointed, wounded! He looks like a man hopelessly looking for an answer in Jada where there's none to be found!

[@laviniasnow4494]

There is no reason to hurt your partner by cheating on him/her (it's obvious that Will was devastated, hence the look in his eyes). If one feels dissatisfied with the relationship there are always couple's therapists available and if after this it still doesn't work break up, don't keep the other one hanging because that is emotional abuse. It's so cruel to emotionally manipulate someone like that. 😔 By the way, have you seen the video where she keeps filming him without his consent even after he asks her to stop because he is uncomfortable? 😐

[@Yesthatsmyfirstname]

but the red table is her therapy /s

[@laviniasnow4494]

@@Yesthatsmyfirstname Therapy should not be made public if the consent of the other party is not given freely, without any sort of coercion, if you get what I mean. That is because during therapy different emotions surface and those participating in it need to be in a safe space.

[@Yesthatsmyfirstname]

@@laviniasnow4494 hence the /s or "end sarcasm". I know red table isn't actual therapy, Unfortunately Jada does not.

[@laviniasnow4494]

@@Yesthatsmyfirstname Yes, unfortunately. 😔

[@someone3195]

U...don't...know...what...they have decided between each other. U. Don't. Know!

[@kaunas88]

When Will confronts Jada about her infidelity, she shows no compassion for his feelings and no contrition nor takes any responsibility for her actions. According to her what she did was completely justified and positive and Will better accept it with a smile on his face.

[@tigrecito48]

what i notice about Will Smith when he's describing things and laughing about it or stating what he wants Jada to hear etc... is that he seems like he's constantly on the verge of crying...

[@debbarringer1967]

no one's "woke" as jada. if you don't believe me, ask her. she's analyzed will and told him how to see things.

[@elenabob4953]

If you talk about who is controlling who just remember that Will laughed at the joke but as soon as Jada gaved him a stink eye he "mobilized" and was put into action to have her satisfaction.

[@Yesthatsmyfirstname]

​@@elenabob4953 don't live by your ego will, live by mine.

[@SJ-76]

Jada is lacking gratitude for the life she has because of Will. It seems she manipulates his ideals and reasons for his own actions. I don’t hear her taking any responsibility for her unhappiness and hurtful actions to others. The 40th party seemed hurtful and pivotal for Will. He decided he was done. But somehow she manipulated him into thinking it was his ego. In my opinion, Will needs to heal from the manipulation and control Jada has had over his emotional state. Jada needs to recognize her responsibility. Great video and insight!!

[@DJFlare84]

I cannot IMAGINE a woman other than Jada who wouldn't be absolutely THRILLED to have a guy like Will Smith.

[@robpolaris5002]

Jada has convinced Will that being kind is wrong, helping your kids to get the career they want is selfish because they can’t quit their obligations when they get bored. Everything Will does is wrong. This is EXACTLY what narcissists do. If you do something they want, you are selfish, if you do nothing you are lazy, if you ask what they want, you aren’t paying attention. When you are upset they cheat on you with your child’s friend, you don’t care about their feelings. If someone makes a joke about them, they HATE that person. There is no right answer for a Narcissist!

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

Will mentioned in another interview (when he promoted his book with Oprah a couple years ago) that his whole life was about trying to make women around him happy (including his mom, ex-wife, Jada, and his daughter probably). But he keeps feeling like he failed in every relationship with every woman in his life. And here at red table talks, Jada also claimed that she believes women are often the most important motivator to men. This resonated with me a lot...... Because I remember my ex-boyfriend have been telling me that I was the one who motivated him to get a new job and upgrade his career during our relationship. When he broke up with me and decided to be with another woman, he also told me that he has now found a new motivation, which is her. The exact moment when I heard that, is when I knew deep down we were truly over......

[@dhanarputra555]

Me on the other hand had almost same point-of-view. My wife is my reason to live my life. She likes to settle but it push me harder to be much better.

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

@@dhanarputra555 That's really sweet of you~

[@AliRadicali]

Love for a woman is absolutely a motivator for men to work harder, take risks, be ambitious, etc. It's the reason the boy-saves-princess trope is one of the oldest and most common storytelling tropes. It's just unfortunate that heartless women like Jada will exploit that and worse, make their SO feel guilty for being taken advantage of like that.

[@Seeker0fTruth]

@@AliRadicali But it can also bleed into toxic masculinity, misogyny, and narcissism of all flavors. Don’t put people on pedestals and don’t diminish your own value. We’re all in this together.

[@tingle2323]

This is just a way to play with people.. This kind of people never with anybody.. Their thinking is hollow

[@danieljackson654]

Will Smith has morphed into the paradigm of want versus need. A young, "innocent" fame BOY meets a wiser more experienced WOMAN. He wants HER. He acquires the False Belief that If And Only If he is successful, She will love him. The false belief is she will love him AND that will make him fulfilled. Seeing this video presentation, in our age, Will Smith has become The Great Gatsby. In one irrevocable instant, he became a truly Tragic Hero tumbling down into the Abyss. Interesting how that green dress transforms her into JADA THE HUT, our Tragic Hero's Antagonist. We don't need the psycho babble of toxicity. Tragedy will do nicely.

[@lbell9695]

Brilliant way of putting it!

[@FroggiesAnonymous]

Honestly watching Will rationalize all the clear emotional neglect. If Jada wasn't satisfied why didn't she communicate more of what she wanted than letting him run wild to please her? It's so clear they shouldn't be together. I feel terribly for Will. They should be with different people and I really hope Will finds someone who actually loves and appreciates him. God and his uncomfortable laugh he does. And Jada doesn't apologize or take accountability at all.

[@joelrumidi3268]

So basically he tried his best and she failed him as a wife

[@jennthecatmom]

So excited every time I see a new post. Best channel on the tube! Jada just makes me sick. What a shame she had to give up acting for a few years to raise her beautiful children and build a home with her husband. What a cruel world and life for her. 🙄

[@Farmer_El]

I wish I had a large following on Twitter or Instagram, because I'd be linking to this video right here. She deserves millions of views and millions of subscribers.

[@wonkydonkey8349]

Not every woman is a sheep to patriarchal power structures that were designed to make women invisible

[@elenabob4953]

But they don't even mention that it was her choice to have the babies, her choice to stay with them and not go to work and hire a nanny. Poor, poor Jada.

[@ArtfulDodger566]

Kids or no kids she was never gonna be a big star in hollywood. Telling herself that she sacrificing her potential for stardom to raise her children is just self delusion.

[@samr4607]

It's a common phenomenon to have much, yet be discontent.

[@aabidahsiebritz3839]

I'm sorry, Will Smith obviously did all these to make his family happy. Love has to have conditions especially in a marriage, If my spouse abused or constantly emotionally manipulated me I would have to at least review my relationship. Will Smith spent 3 years planning a party and Jada minimized his work and planning by refusing to be grateful and also making it his fault she was unhappy in the first place. All those things he was saying about how he was able to go be an actor and work while she was home looking after her kids etc sounds so weird, it's something I thought about when I was pregnant but I never expressed it because I also relished my new job as a mom, plus someone has to go out and work. Marriage is a partnership and there's a lot of give and take, we make sacrifices for one another. Why does Will have to be shamed for doing the things he believed were right for his family while the rhetoric Jada employs about her mistakes which seem really selfish and harmful to her marriage, is that it was her healing herself. The things Jada shares are also quite hurtful and she says things I would never say to my husband because I care about his feelings. I apologize for the rant but when you think about Jada's words and actions, she just says whatever is necessary to do whatever she wants.

[@elenabob4953]

5:42 spoiled brat that doesn't know what a commitment is so ok to blame the father when you no longer want to do a thing.

[@Ski3953]

Without a doubt Will is in a toxic relationship with Jada, so toxic that his bright light has been extinuished and replaced with a dark shadow looming over his head. He looks depressed and lost.... That evil women has weakened him and brouht him down - probably to the point of no return. Their saga is like a modern day Samson and Deliah where first, Deliah breaks Samson's sprit, second, she steals his soul, and third, she drains the life out of him. Will is now at the third phase. He has been advised and warned time and time again by his friends, fans, and perhaps his family to leave Jada. But he insisted on holding on to that evil. Will has to learn that evil does not love, evil destroys. He has to know that the longer he stays with that evil women the more opportunity she will have to completely destroy him. Truth be told, he should have left that evil troll a long time ago. But because he didn't, his career is almost tanked as he is becoming less and less relavent in Hollywood. He has already lost roles and endoresment. Why doesn't he get that she is the root cause of his career decline. Bottom line, if will would left that evil doer when he should have, that slap that was seen and heard around the world would have never happened. He needs to take a page from Johnny Depps playbook and stand-up to that witch, and dump her. Because truth be told, between evil Jada and Scientology, Will dosen't stand a chance .

[@alicat1564]

The green dress she wore at the oscars looked cumbersome, heavy and uncomfortable to wear . That choice of dress was about her ego.

[@liselottenormannsrensen7867]

The way this family seems to enjoy putting their life on display, and living their life like an open wound is really weird. Poor children🤨

[@HappywifeTaylor]

I heard someone say before. "If you treat a woman like a queen, eventually she will treat you like a peasant" I was thinking this while watching this video. Wonderful video as usual.

[@akirafudo4419]

It’s almost like people should treat each other equally in a relationship.

[@lobsterfool6002]

Damn that is a good quote!!!

[@HappywifeTaylor]

@@lobsterfool6002 not sure where I heard but it's profound.

[@HappywifeTaylor]

@@akirafudo4419 right

[@westboy52]

I disagree. It really depends on who the woman is. Same goes for men.

[@alexcortes3470]

You can take a woman out of the streets but can't take the streets out of that same woman

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

If my spouse threw a splash like that for me...I would be over the moon. I would be bragging about how my lady celebrated my milestone birthday for years and I would do the same for her! Poor Will...his efforts are barely appreciated...all he wanted was to celebrate his wife.

[@ArtByHazel]

A great night for Will that turned into a major sabotage of his career. Learnt a lot about narcissistic behaviour that’s hurting our society because of toxic people who are not self-aware or willing to take responsibility of their own unhealed wounds. It was a joke. Toxic masculinity and femininity needs to be addressed. Our children are listening and watching. May we all look within and heal ourselves as well as collectively. Love is the answer. Unconditional self-acceptance, forgiveness, and freedom from all the wrong programming we’re told earlier on. 💖

[@brianwalsh1401]

One of the many youtube teachers I've watched said that narcissists are brought into our lives to wake us up through the pain they cause. I can say that was true for me because only through that pain did I start to look at and learn about myself and my unresolved issues from childhood that I wasn't aware of and were driving my life. We truly need to learn to love ourselves and only then can we really love anybody else.

[@BiggieTrismegistus]

I don't think _unconditional_ self acceptance is a virtue worth striving for. If there's something inside a person that makes them toxic, immoral or criminal I don't want them to accept that. I want them to change it.

[@IceQeen1011]

The 40th birthday party really hit home for me. The poor guy spent 3 years planning it and Jada just called it 'selfish'. If I had been Will, I'd have called out her ungratefulness. The way they view marriage is the exact opposite: Will thinks of it as a partnership, that you are one and your successes are shared. That's what allows him to be a cheerleader for his wife and to give himself so selflessly to their life together. Meanwhile Jada, didn't want to get married and was coerced into it so she views it as a jail sentence that she's been subject to and is deeply unhappy. They should have just divorced and gone their spearate ways. Poor Will. What he did to Chris was not ok at all but the way Jada treats him makes me feel sympathy.

[@vasalyamoodley9803]

I'm so glad you brought up 3 Idiots. I'm Indian too and that movie struck a nerve with me about the pressure of success in our households.

[@BaggageClaim]

Yes!

[@JustME-pe1ig]

I’ve been WAITING for this!!!

[@Byzantine1]

Same

[@PJPremiere]

I don't think there is any doubt at this point that Will Smith has been in a relationship with an emotional abuser for a very long time. Anyone that watches the Red Table Talk in which he and Jada talk about their marriage can see it. Looking at the footage at the awards show, Will was laughing at Chris Rock's joke while Jada rolled her eyes and look annoyed. They cut away from them but Jada had to have said something to Will because a mere seconds prior he absolutely wasn't angry in any way whatsoever. He was goaded into doing what he did. EDIT: Will Smith needs a divorce, regardless of the financial cost, for his own long-term mental health. Jada is eating him alive from the inside out.

[@danieladeutsch1708]

What I do not understand is, why they are making their private life so public....this is really extreme...I understand, that they are public persons, but... hmmm

[@marlenehopkins1103]

Oh please, these people need to get over themselves Will Smith is very lucky he is not in jail after assaulting Chris because his narcissist of a wife was upset Hollywood is narcissist Central and I am so over it

[@alsmith9853]

Yep. Imagine airing all your personal private laundry out for all to see... and being proud of it

[@lindalee-brown5539]

@@alsmith9853 I was thinking the same thing. Get off youtube - and your children are there listening to this private stuff.

[@ania5038]

Wow this makes me feel bad for Will Smith. He clearly has so much internalized pain that he's in denial about. He wants to have this perfect happy image but doesn't realize that it's his wife who's the problem, not him.

[@lbell9695]

Unrelated but I agree - 3 idiots is a brilliant movie and when I watched it recently as a university student, it resonated with me all the more. Through stories and perspectives of people like Will and Jada, we can take these things for introspection in bettering ourselves and our own lives and families.

[@rebecca7051]

Do you know if it's available to stream somewhere? I'd love to check it out.

[@otonashishiroushuuya4241]

@@rebecca7051 mostly yes if not use vpn putting location as india ( i think it's the Indian 3 idiots movie)

[@renaldsunset]

I fell asleep about 45 minutes into the movie. I don’t want to come off rude but I thought it was so boring, cringe and slow

[@lbell9695]

@@renaldsunset That's your opinion and I respect that :) It's just Asia would say otherwise. In China, Korea, Japan etc, this movie is watched in class because of the message - it was that successful and the students enjoyed it. Maybe a cultural difference for you?

[@renaldsunset]

@@lbell9695 Yes it might be cultural also. It was my Filipino ex gf who introduced me to the movie she said it was very good. She showed me movies from her country also… same verdict sadly.

[@vivtzka]

did you see that TikTok where she films him and is asking him questions? When he asks her to step and says that he did not agree to that, she mocks him and continues anyway.

[@prettycareye3181]

The reason why they had a different visions of a successful life is because they're wholly incompatible. Their entire value system is different, thus you can't build a successful life with each party in their own corner. She was unhappy because she wasn't in control in their life. Will was and is the truly successful one, he's the one who brings all the big bucks and Jada is secretly jealous and resentful of that. That's why she tears down every effort he made to do something nice for her. Even if he was trying to showoff, the fact that he loved her enough to even make the effort is praiseworthy, but she flung it in his face and made him feel terrible about himself. That's not a supportive spouse. She's happy now because she gets to live how she wants, but Will is spiralling and looks deeply unhappy. Marriage always takes work, but when you're compatible with your partner, neither one of you needs to be unhappy ... even if you have different opinions and ideas on how to do things. Jada was not and is not worthy of Will throwing away his good name and reputation for. This is one couple I'd be glad to see divorced!

[@Corvy952]

“Women are true motivators for men” - jada. Not all men. Much like men are not always motivators for women, men can and do excel on their own. Will’s mistake is he never believed in his own ability to be successful and happy on his own & chose the wrong person to have his family with , becoming a worse version of himself in the process

[@MrCmon113]

No one is happy on their own. Even people who spent decades meditating aren't.

[@alicialow7224]

this breakdown and analysis of the situation is so insightful. Instead of taking on the “jada is evil” narrative you shed light on a different side to this story which is how Will perceives the world, his drive in life & the effects on him after losing sight of the drive (i.e. marriage). You’re amazing dear! P.S. 3 Idiots is one of my fav movies in my teen years! Still is today!

[@AkilahOsa]

This video was well written and beautifully put together. Thank you for making and sharing this. 👏🥰

[@kaysha]

Thank you for this video. A better understanding of Jada's sacrifice and Will's obsession to build something with the wrong person. I agree with what you said in the end, it makes me think of my own marriage and my vision of success and how my wife might not have the same idea of success. We have to meet in the middle or diverge to oblivion. Another brilliant analysis 🌈

[@kookytoots6755]

What sacrifices??? Giving up no talent to be given a platform because of who she married doesn't sound like a sacrifice to me.

[@ThatGuyz82]

She did not sacrifice anything. She is a narcissist. This channel giving her any credit for nothing is laughable. Jada is the worst type of people and she has destroyed an icon. She is Yoko 2.0.

[@AliRadicali]

@@kookytoots6755 It's about as much of a sacrifice as Meghan Markle giving up her non-existent acting career to join the royal family. A narcissist can't admit they were given a free ride, either they'll pretend they earned it through hard work (EG: Amber Heard claiming she earned her role in Aquaman) or they'll claim they had to make some huge sacrifice to be eligible. To admit that luck or another person's generosity was involved would lessen the accomplishment, after all.

[@ania5038]

Jada hasn't made any sacrifices. She married up and poor Will will never realize that.

[@kookytoots6755]

@@AliRadicali Facts!!!

[@ForeverSweetx3]

It's sad. Will thinks he is winning and that they did a good job parenting? I'm sorry, but his kids are a mess.

[@Nightman221k]

The bizarre thing to me is that Will has an older son from a previous marriage that he behaves as though he never existed. Like Jaden and Willow are his success stories and proudly named after their parents and his whole family has to be a testament to his success... so he never brings up his other son and it's as if his other son just doesn't matter. The funny thing is you can see he tried to have Trey get into acting and being in music videos but without success so it's easy for him to only acknowledge the two he and Jada had.

[@Bianca_Toeps]

Thanks for this video. I kinda expected a "Jada is an evil woman" take, but apparently it is really more nuanced than that.

[@lukelim5094]

Narcissim is a kind of evil though. And of course there is alot of nuance. The thing about narcissism is that the person can show moments of kindness and genunie care. And there are many type the over, covert and malignant type. But the thing that categorize them all is they are capable of good things when all their needs and desire is met. Once they dont, oh boy the selfishness will really show. The world aint perfect so they will definately act up. They will scream at the world about their own feelings while not giving a damn about the people they hurt to get their narcissitic supply. Well i am not sure what Jada is honestly dont hear much about what she did. But looking at how Will act up? He looks like a person suffering from narcissitic abuse. Fits a lot. Even when he was flexing himself swimming in a luxury swimming pool in dubai few months back. I knew something was off.

[@kirstenjones5331]

Your content is always so well thought out. This one has me doing some serious self-reflection on myself and the expectations I place on myself, my spouse, AND my children. Thank you for this insight.

[@pomiform]

This is the best, most nuanced take on this whole situation that I've encountered so far. Really well done. Excellent channel!

[@ivansherbinin]

13:15 only I am immature enough to laugh my ass of "it was a very deep heeling"?

[@josho5423]

I'm a guy who is similar to Will in persona, in that I don't like confrontation or negativity but place a lot of importance on respect and my masculinity. I will defuse situations that involve conflict through joking, genuine empathy, tolerance or avoidance because my father was a very angry person. However, this passiveness can be a problem, as sometimes conflict is healthier. I end up never fighting or yelling ever, even when there is reason to. Even though I try to deflect these situations to more peaceful, agreeable and "healthy" directions, the emotions get bottled up. Eventually after years of doing this I will blow up, to an absurd degree that is not even near an appropriate response, over that last final straw. Many times that final straw is if I feel emasculated. Most men have strong responses to being emasculated but I think it is worse in those who actually feel genuinely masculine - since it's more closer to your identity. I have been bodybuilding and training in Muay Thai since my early 20s, but Will is not only a big guy, but outrageously successful and rich. I remember loosing nearly 60lbs (mostly muscle) at 26 due to a health issue, and I could sense how different people treated me when I was skinny instead of muscular. Friends and strangers were much less respectful, to the point someone stole a beer from me at a bar and pushed me when I grabbed it back. Although I felt the same inside, people saw me as a 150lb geek, which was not only disrespectful, but I felt like I had to prove my masculinity. Jada completely embarrassed and emasculated Will for a while in a public fashion up until the slap. I think the combination of his jovial conflict-averse behaviour bottled up enough emotion, and when he felt his masculinity had been viewed as non-existent due to his wife's disrespect and subsequent internet meme's, he lashed out in an absurdly disproportionate reaction to what was a minor annoyance. I would bet this is absolutely the case, as I could even see myself ending up doing something like that if I happened in the same situation. It's a stereotypical emotional eruption and desperate display of masculine aggression. Just because I can understand it, doesn't mean I think he had reason to act like that. I do think Jada is a terrible, narcissistic, wife-from-hell and a caricature of everything wrong with the typical, hedonistic, immoral, post-modern western woman but what Will Smith did is 100% on him. Jada shares no responsibility in that assault, and she has more than her fair share of disgusting and self-centered sins. She is the worst person in all of this, and has treated Will like garbage. He still is responsible for his own actions, and being emotionally abused by his wife is not an excuse - victimhood armour is an invention of the far left marxist cult. He's still an idiot.

[@elum1989]

I am impressed by your ability to analyze this situation clearly and verbalize it in a manner so everyone else can understand it. Well done!

[@ujjithkesamneni7658]

One of the best videos from this channel so far.

[@nimmesisbp2395]

Wow .. just 😯 like honestly I started watching your channel when you posted about Amber Heard and then started going down the list of your vids. But THIS one has hit me hard and also scared the shit outtta me as well (thanks 😋) I’m also Indian and have been married before to someone outside of our culture that turned out to be a highly abusive Narcissistic. And I have a child from that marriage that the “father” has nothing to do with, which is a true blessing. Now 4yrs later and I’m engaged to an Indian guy who is amazing and has taken on me and my son in like he found a golden treasure. With my last marriage I tried everything and was a good wife. I dunno watching this just scares me that now that I have a great guy I’m gonna be up being a shitty wife to the wrong guy- when I should’ve with the first one. Ugggh maybe I just need some sleep ot t ice cream or it’s just cold feet. The wedding is in a few weeks . But anyhoo/ you’re amazing at what you do and I’ve got my 🔔 on for your new vids 😊

[@xuxushushu]

Jada asked Will to remove himself from his real life successes into a scenario where they’re both on a deserted island and she’s the deciding factor to his self-worth. “What do we have, Will?”. And all Will has ever tried to do is gain her approval and provide for his family, as any good man would in his position. He has done nothing out of the ordinary than any other husband and father, yet he’s always met with Jada’s narcissistic abuse that tells him he’s never good enough. She told his children he was never good enough, alongside with the rest of the world. But worst of all, she had Will himself come on her show numerous times believing he wasn’t good enough either. She would relish these moments and lay back as he spoke about his failures and shortcomings. Jada is a rotten person that’s deeply resentful of Will and his accomplishments, and has set out to dishonor their marriage and knock him down. Will Smith is a battered man in an abusive marriage of many years. What happened Oscar night was a cry for help, whether he realizes it or not. He was wrong, yes, but we have to recognize his behavior as a symptom of abuse and direct the outrage primarily towards his abuser, Jada. Side note: I don’t believe Jada would’ve achieved anything remarkable on her own. In fact, the little she’s done has no doubt been through her husband’s exposure to the industry that helped her move forward as an actress with mediocre talent. This idea that she sacrificed so much of herself for Will and their family is an extension of her abuse. She had everything to gain marrying Will Smith, and continues to be recognized at a certain level by mere association to his A List status.

[@NateO123]

Aweomse Content! Really love you level headed analysis and calm delivery..

[@liammccool9542]

Baggage claim your videos are fantastic. I’ve been watching the last 4 days. You’re doing a terrific job on all of them

[@QueenRaven911]

I loved Will Smith (well...at least before the slap incident), I cannot say the same for Jada. That said, she isn't for me to love, as long as Will is happy, but is he? I think all he has ever wanted is to be happy and to be loved. So he keeps trying to proof himself to Jada, but from her perceptio, he does everything just to feed his own ego, including planning her a party. My husband planned a surprise birthday party for me, whether I like the way he did it or not, I still appreciated it because he did it for me. He made a cake and a huge mess, but he did it for me, so I willingly clean up the kitchen regardless whether it was my birthday or not. Jada gave me that feeling that she isn't impressed by anything he did at all, may be because she isn't as famous so she has to gain some kind of control and put on a display that nothing is about Will Smith, now it's all about Jada, yet the one who suffers the consequences is Will. Essentially she is admitting that she has no guilt because what matters is how she felt rather than how her action made Will felt. I don't know what'ss worse, the fact that Jada isn't impressed by anything that Will did for her despite that amount of effort he puts into pleasing her, or Will accepted the fact that his wife cheated on him and still trying to proof to her that he is worthy of her love and commitment.

[@emma_nutella58]

It’s sad Will really loves his wife but it’s clear Jada has no interest in him, I feel bad for the kids kids candy sense this stuff

[@user-jg3jv8gh4m]

Such an insightful video! Well done, I really enjoyed it.

[@sbug51]

I love love love the way you break things down. So detailed, and clear. Thank you for spending so much time doing research, relating to personal culture, and reflecting back on the topic.

[@violetgc6049]

I love Baggage Claim, and your breakdown of Will and Jada's marriage has been especially brilliant. A highlight of this video for me was your analysis of the meaning of Denzel's "Devil's gonna get you when you're at the top" statement to Will after "The Slap." Just so an incredible insightful and articulate. And yes, these videos get me thinking about my own life and my past and current relationships. Are you a psychologist? Or just a wise empath? Blessings!! Keep doing what you are doing!

[@thezackseven]

Never understood why he chose Jada when he could have had much better.

[@BOSSMOSS21]

This the best break down of this whole situation that I've come across. Really hope to hear more about as I can tell there's still loads to unpack.

[@100Percent_Zeero]

So in depth, so much I didn't think of or find anywhere else. Solid agree on Denzel. Baggage Claim=best analysis anywhere. 💐💐💐