Wine Etiquette 101 | Do's and Don'ts Everyone Should Know

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Do you have any wine etiquette horror stories? Please share! And thank you to Bright Cellars for bringing us this video. Click here www.brightcellars.com/TDC to get 50% off your first 6-bottle box. Thank you for watching! Love, Jennifer

[@tapestryheirloom4201]

Terrible

[@debbiekostiuk8825]

My daughter has found bodilicious wine in a single serve CAN. 🤣

[@beautyofdawn9565]

I had a date who was incredibly obnoxious while tasting the wine at a restaurant. He stuck his nose in the glass and sniffed so loudly, swirled it roughly and even gargled it for a moment, swishing it around his mouth! Other diners were disgusted and the staff whispered and I KNOW it was about us... suffice to say it was only the one date and never again!

[@larag1764]

A friend of a friend who loves red wine once got quite drunk and spilt her red wine on each of us by the end of the night - she, however, was spotless. Luckily I washed it out of my light-coloured trousers. I hate the smell of red wine and can’t bear to be seated near anyone on a plane who drinks it as I feel nauseous :(

[@MilatovichFamily]

My wife holding by the barrel and she fills glass almost or completely full instead of just widest part of the glass.

[@29BKing]

When pouring wine, ease up as you finish, and give the bottle a gentle half twist to prevent drips.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Excellent tip!

[@natasharog7782]

Also, show the etiquette of the wine to the person so they can see the name of the wine while you are pouring the wine. Thank you, Jennifer, i really enjoyed this video. Keep on making these kinds of video. Greetings from Curaçao.

[@darshiybalasooriya9404]

Hi can do it

[@darshiybalasooriya9404]

How

[@MustardSeedish]

I'm not a wine drinker but this was fascinating. I would love to see more etiquette videos from you.

[@naturallymadehome2682]

Neither am I. But I also found it fascinating and can definitely apply it to other beverages also. I think a video on tea and coffee/etiquette for afternoon tea would be very interesting ❤️

[@kimimep8413]

Yes, it does happen. I've had guests spill red wine on my off-white carpet, greasy food dropped on the carpet, coffee spilled on my couch, even Grandpa's ashes have met the floor at the hands of a guest. When I think about these accidents they bring a smile to my face. I can relate to my guests because I know I am just as clumsy. When I think about all the things I have broken and spilled over my lifetime it puts mishaps into perspective.

[@gelbsucht947]

If it ever happens again - wine on carpet, that is - sprinkle bog standard salt very liberally over the stain and leave overnight or for several hours. The salt will drawn the wine out of the carpet and absorb it. When you Hoover up the salt, the carpet will be pristine once more. Whatever you do, don’t rub with a cloth. That will Just spread the stain.

[@eunoia1016]

I was reading etiquette in Japan, you would pour everyone’s wine and then place the bottle down so someone can pour for you. You do not pour your own glass. I have not researched this, but it sounds like the very respectful culture in Japan. Very helpful and entertaining video….. I love learning etiquette here and in other countries….Thank you.🍷

[@DansonforJoy]

Your “don’t do this” clips were delightfully hilarious!

[@beep7]

Yes!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@Jessica_Jones]

"Don't stare at your wine 👁👁" 😂🤣

[@suesaur]

So out of character! Cracked me up!

[@robertascholten8173]

RE: drinking out of your own glass! There are little charms that can be added to the stem of your glass that help identify the glass as your own. Available almost everywhere.

[@clementineclement5757]

As a French lady and wine expert, I can assure you that the most important piece of advice re. red wine serving is TO DECANT. Incredible to which extraordinary extent decanting improves wine. A must anyway for precious, old Bourgogne or Bordeaux. And it's so easy. All you need is one or two crystal decanters you can find at any charity/thrift shop/garage sale if there aren't any hiding in your family dresser. Slowly pour the wine into them, watching out for any dregs ( use a colander if you're nervous), and then just leave them at room temperature. You can do this up to 2/3 days before, the longer the better. A young student we know said he tried that trick with very cheap wines, "bibines" as we call them - plonk ! - and after a couple of days it turned out, perhaps not into a nectar, but was tremendously improved. Why not try it ?

[@kellieliacopoulos8005]

OH MY GOSH, Jennifer!!! I could NOT stop laughing!!! Your acting is as fabulous as your writing!!! Plus, I LOVED all the tips!!! Thank you!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Your b roll was hilarious! Love your humor Jennifer!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Nikki!

[@maureencaldwell2975]

Jennifer, your “don’t” images were hilarious. I can’t imagine you ever doing those things-so funny!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

[@erikaadams9730]

I don’t drink wine, or any alcohol for that matter, but these tips can definitely still be applied to all of us no matter what we’re drinking! Thank you 🥰

[@silver4682]

You are hysterical , Jennifer ! You crack me up while giving great tips !

[@melissaculpepper7663]

Great wine etiquette video! You cracked me up with your “don’t get drunk” bit🤣🤣🤣Love your easy humor and elegant ways.

[@karenhigley4596]

I’m usually the person who finishes her glass first 🤷‍♀️ but have never thought of pacing myself against other friends. Definitely going to try this, tonight in fact, as I’m having dinner with a very old friend. Let’s hope she’s not too slow!

[@flapdoodlecacklberry]

I had to watch this a second time so that I could see your hilarious "don't " wine clips again ! I especially like how during the toast you were looking down and cross-eyed at your wine! 🤣🤣

[@JenniferVanMatreMissouriUSA]

Great tips, I’m craving wine now, or at least the ritual of fine wines with dinners. Your don’ts are so funny! Loved seeing that side of your personality! 🥰

[@starrhelms8235]

The English Butler says actually it is considered gauche to “clink” glasses; raising it toward your companions is more refined.

[@patty-cf7jj]

My etiquette horror story was when I was a bridesmaid there was a bottle of champagne in the limo for all the bridesmaids. A groomsman missed getting into the right limo so he joined us, and since the champagne was meant for the bridesmaids and there was only enough glasses for us, he took the bottle of champagne and drank it out of the bottle! No one could have anymore after he did that!

[@toniwadsworth7577]

Is it more polite to ask your guest if they would like “more “wine or to ask if they would like “some” wine? My mother always offered additional servings by asking if we would like “some potatoes “ for example. She said to ask if someone wanted “more Potatoes “ implied that they were taking too much. What do you think? Would you like some wine or would you like some more wine? 🍷 + 🍷

[@catebannan7343]

My mother said the same, I always try to remember this!

[@jesskan9828]

Great tips! One situation I had was my friend broke my expensive Fostoria wine glass and never offered to replace it. Very poor manners in my opinion. I would have replaced it or offered some kind of gift card so they could replace it. I never forgot this and never served wine in a good glass to her again.

[@amdyson756]

It’s sad but I do the same think because I have had “family” do the same thing. I use wine glasses from the Dollar Store and Ikea. If a glass breaks no one is upset.

[@mudbeauty2004]

Here's one! Back in the 90's, my husband attended an event in LA. He was speaking to Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson when someone walked behind him causing my husband to spill his RED wine on Jessica Simpson's dress! So embarrassing! But the couple was gracious enough to not make a fuss about it

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Oh dear!

[@loub1733]

I would also add don’t let the waiter/ host/ hostess EVER fill your somewhat filled glass. It’s hard to keep track of how much you have drunk if your host/ hostess or waiter keeps refilling your glass and you unknowingly keep drinking you might find yourself in a tricky spot. And in my country there are strict limits on how much you can drink and drive, 2 standard drinks is about all I can drink when I go out and still be able to legitimately drive. Stemless glasses are also fashionable so this poses a challenge for holding ones glass.

[@sogno_di_carta6430]

Two nights ago went to a family get together and my cousin served me wine on a stemless glass, I kinda had a judgmental moment (internally) I’m very traditional. 😂 I still did had 4 glasses. A bit too much.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

That's a great point! Sometimes they do when you're engaged in conversation and you don't even notice!

[@loub1733]

@@TheDailyConnoisseur We have some friends , we call them our ( a couple) our expensive friends as we always have very expensive and usually very good wine when we go out to dinner or visit or host them. The husband in this couple is extremely attentive and always trying to refill glasses. He has now learned with me that I track the refilling with my hand often over the top of my glass as I smile and say no thank you, but I have to keep track and be on watch :-)

[@ponytales.]

No wine, no worries over here! We do not drink, anything alcoholic , one less thing to worry about!

[@elleseay5870]

Very nice video! When offering to pay for someone’s meal, I like to jump ahead and offer my wine/food suggestions (in my price range) to give friends a subtle idea of how they can order without being stressed. Never the cheapest option and rarely the most expensive unless it truly can not be missed. It lets them off the hook in worrying how they should order.

[@cyndielake4092]

In the same vein I would say that good guest would follow the same rules. Always order moderately and follow your hosts lead when ordering.

[@CoffeeattheBeach]

Tip: if anyone spills red wine on your wool rug first just use a towel or paper to soak up excess, then you can use straight peroxide on it and it will oxygenate the stain it and should not pull color from the rug. I did this and saved a colorful wool rug I owned.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Great tip!

[@catebannan7343]

Soda water works well too.

[@soniaspf9705]

I am lucky my husbands family have vineyards in the Moselle valley so etiquette and what to choose for each occasion is now embedded into my very soul. A quick tip is NEVER wash your glasses in the dishwasher it leaves a residue that can change the taste of the wine.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

How lovely!

[@Jessica_Jones]

Ooh! Question: is there any particular soap or scrub "brush" you would recommend for wine glasses? Edit: I never use the dishwasher but I do struggle to get my glasses looking sparkly clean at times.

[@soniaspf9705]

@@Jessica_Jones I use Ecover fragrance free liquid to wash the glasses. I use a pure cotton cloth to washout but with red wine always put some warm water at the bottom of the glass for a few minutes and it will help remove the stains. Wash in warm water drain for a few minutes and dry with a lint free cloth. If the glasses look a little drab after storage just polish before using. Hope this helps

[@Jessica_Jones]

@@soniaspf9705 thanks so much!

[@annettepellowe9847]

Jennifer, you have such an endearing way about you🍷 Thank you for the tips!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Annette!

[@crystaldeboer]

Giving the bottle a slight turn when almost done pouring helps with drips. Also opening your bottle of red and letting it breathe helps soften the flavor and release aromas.

[@Thekatedelaney]

Really like your etiquette videos Jennifer! Cheers! 🍷 I saw in a movie where they had a party and there was a red wine couch and a white wine couch; designated with signs 😂 That’s always an option haha

[@susan3372]

Jennifer L., you are terrific!!! You are so down to earth, you can instruct on elegance without making me feel that you are looking down on me, the viewer. You are the perfect teacher!!!!

[@jtgirl7]

You did it again, Jennifer! High quality content and we love to see it! 🙋🏾‍♀️ Also, I love this silk twist on a classic white button down shirt! Can’t wait to get all the details in your Fall 10-item wardrobe video! 🥰

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Jordan! It's Lilysilk. Linked in the description box.

[@akontilis1792]

I'm so glad you found Bright Cellars. I love them! This Wine subscription is so delicious because it is personalized. It really helped get me through the various lockdowns! Cheers!!

[@elizabethanne8729]

Ok yes the wine… but can we talk about this wall paper??? I have a mighty need🤩

[@christiejean2653]

My 5 year old daughter was watching with me, and she absolutely loved the look on your face when you showed how NOT to do "cheers"!! She was cracking up.

[@buttface3875]

When Jennifer does it, it’s so natural. When a kid??? 😂😂

[@JoeCaron1]

I do not drink wine myself, but this was a wonderful video. I like watching all your videos just for some tasteful influence. My husband and I have been reading Connoisseur Kids/Little House series with our boys (6,5,3 and 1) and we have really been enjoying that. I like to identify myself as Ma Ingles 😄. Thank you for the time and effort you put into making these videos. They are such a blessing and refreshment in such a "trashy" 😉 society!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you!

[@LoriSkees]

I once served guests a glass of wine from a bottle that I had already recently opened and it had gone bad. It was so embarrassing! So now I always open wine right in front of guests. Then if it’s no good, it’s the wine’s fault, not mine!

[@anamiguel668]

Love that crisp white blouse

[@susanborgen7436]

Great video and the timing is perfect as we begin to approach the holiday season. I drink wine on special occasions, usually at someone else's home. Now I am confident I will be a well-mannered and gracious guest! Thank you for giving us the means to stay classy!

[@carrie5387]

I don’t drink wine, but this Was an amazing video with great tips! Thank you!

[@katiestevenson8920]

These are all good points. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us!

[@deannab9511]

Thanks for sharing the tips Jennifer, my husband and I rarely drink wine at home but we love visiting winery's all over the country!

[@TaraandSky]

Thank you for making this video. I don't normally drink wine except for a glass on my birthday and I never knew you were supposed to hold it by the stem. Thank you.

[@leannglasman7147]

Regarding the wine faux pas of paying for the meal with a wine hog ordering copious glasses or too many bottles, would it be appropriate, at the beginning of the meal to say , "we will be sharing X number of bottles during the meal" sending the message of limitation and saving my pocketbook? Definitely, enjoyed this episode. 😁

[@larag1764]

As a non- or rarely-ever drinker, I always make it clear at the start of the meal when in a group situation. I don’t want to pay for other’s cocktails, etc. So long as you’re polite, no one is offended.

[@olivebobo6885]

I always understood you hold the stem for white wine as you drink white very cold, but it’s ok to hold by the barrel for as red is usually served room temperature.

[@louisehlsm370]

Loved this video! In France there's another wine etiquette rule I do follow but it may be old-fashioned (I don't think everybody does that actually): I never pour myself wine if I'm in the company of men, especially at when the occasion is formal or if I'm with older men - I'm aware that may sound like a sexist or archaic rule to some, but I like the refinement of it :)

[@Rosebud4u1]

I agree with this, I was always taught this too! It was also interesting about drinking all wine from the stem... I thought this only applied to white, or especially champagne.. that was very interesting... Also I was taught, my grandmere was French from Normandy.. that when offered more & you don't want more wine, you just place your hand over your glass.

[@danielleb6064]

I love your etiquette videos! May I make a request? Could you make a video on the etiquette of being a good host for out of town guests staying in your home? Things such as planning activities versus down time, how to give them space while still being available and hospitable, or do you still do your regular cleaning routines while they are staying? I can find videos on being a good guest, but not the host. Or if you have made something along these lines, could you point me to it, please? Thank you!

[@christinescott441]

I absolutely loved and appreciated this video Jenifer ,thank you and esp to Bright Cellars generous one time discount which I will definitely use.

[@Lootoodle]

I’m so early! Live this topic Jennifer, wish you would do more etiquette videos!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you for watching!

[@tapestryheirloom4201]

Yes please tell us how to be a winebibber with class.

[@cstar6682]

Interesting points. I don't enjoy wine, but sometimes think some wine drinkers can be too pretentious.

[@dmmosher]

5:52 Ha! ha! I thought for sure you would quote Proverbs 23:31 here-"Do not gaze at wine when it is red, when it sparkles in the cup, when it goes down smoothly!" Great video as usual! Thanks!

[@ThePlannerPlaceCo]

👏🏼This was very helpful and you demonstrating the “not” to do examples made me laugh! Thanks Jennifer 💛

[@amberrodriguez4945]

This was such a great video! I love the playful tone and I learned a couple of really good tips! Thank you 🍷

[@abundantbalance]

Love this video. Appreciate your thoughtful insight. Very helpful.

[@VedorianObiora]

This was entertaining and informative. I don’t drink wine but I like to know table proper etiquette.

[@MissJuliesMontessoriMinutes]

What are your thoughts on the trend of stemless wine glasses?

[@BarbyDailey-Rurallife40]

I do not drink wine but I really enjoyed this. Especially the black and white clips showing what to do or not.

[@michelleneuman579]

Great job! I am in a wine club and I have added wine charms with peoples picture in a tiny frame. My friend still picks up someone elses glass!

[@gwendolyneholman4230]

I don't drink alcohol often, but really enjoyed this tutorial. You gave me a good laugh for the day. Thank you!💛

[@babytexan3038]

Etiquette question I'd love your ideas on--if I don't drink alcohol (for religious reasons), are there ways to explain that without making others uncomfortable? Has someone had a good experience when one of their friends declined to drink? Or a bad experience so I can avoid phrasing it that way? Thanks!

[@LesleyLizbeth]

Booze hound vibes 😂 Loved it. Don’t drink wine but this video was very entertaining ❤️

[@karliepatterson2803]

I agree!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

😂😂♥️

[@msjoby89]

These came right at the perfect time! Thank you Jennifer!

[@dianaragub-schwartz4416]

I click because I am ignorant when it comes to wines. My husband and I don't drink wine unless we are with family. We do not know anything about alcoholic beverages so I'd love to learn a few things.

[@bookwormbon482]

Great video thank you :) I learned a lot and will definitely be implementing these tips into my life going forward

[@mousumeenath4922]

Great video, much appreciated. I have a question. Is it necessary to clink glasses before saying cheers. I find it rather awkward when it's a big party and everyone is scrambling to clink with one another. Would it considered rude if I just raised my glass but didn't reach out?

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

It's good sport to clink with the people who are closest to you, but you don't need to do it with people who are out of reach...

[@lauraneaves6912]

Hi Jennifer...someone I know served me wine at her house and before handing it to me she stuck her nose into the glass to smell and 'verify' the aroma for me. Wow . I just accepted it...what was I supposed to do!

[@winnies2783]

Thanks Jennifer..very relevant one indeed..loved all the valuable tips

[@larag1764]

I’m not a wine drinker but watched as I love your videos ! I love that white shirt on you. Hi from Australia 🇦🇺

[@linbron2018]

I’m in thanks for the wine tip, I m going to order 3 for 3 different people on my Xmas list . Thank

[@anitalee9097]

This was so helpful! I learned some new information! Thank you.

[@JenniferoftheSea]

I found this so helpful. I actually learned a couple of things. I now know how to hold my glass correctly and I will pay more attention to where I drink on the glass!🙃

[@marisastoneobrien7834]

My favorite part of this video is you downing the wine, so not you! I no longer drink but I was a wine connoisseur for many years. You did a great job here! I so look forward to your Monday video's! Happy Monday!

[@JennySpadaro]

Quick horror story-a few years ago I was having a party and a particular couple sat on my white sofa for most of the event, eating and chatting etc. when they left I saw that one of them had spilled quite a bit of red wine on the sofa. I tend to be such a gracious host, because I always believe most everything can be fixed or replaced so it just doesn’t usually matter. In this case I popped my slipcovers into the washer and they were good as new. But I have never forgotten that they didn’t come and tell me. It was actually shocking. And another quick *dont* I thought could be helpful. I have a good friend who talks with her hands and no matter how much she drinks, she never ever spills her red wine, it’s a true gift lol. However…often her host doesn’t know that, it may be a new friend and you can see the worried look on their faces. So even if you’re not a spiller, always be aware of your red wine especially and how you may be in a precarious position. Love the video as always Jennifer

[@marep5597]

I loved this. Great tips as always 😻

[@jenmaclellan7208]

Great advice that many could learn from and is much needed. Terminology is “ bowl” and “rim” of glass and “neck” of bottle. The overly full glass is not only incorrect for the aromas of the wine but becomes very top heavy and a real spill hazard! The stemless wine glasses are not for me with small hands. I can barely get a proper hold on it!

[@maureencaldwell2975]

I agree! Stemless wine glasses have become popular, but they are not for me.

[@1960genius]

This was so informative and FUNNY! I had to pause the video several times to laugh at the illustrations of the "Dont's". Thank you Jennifer!

[@catebannan7343]

Hmm, if someone was being a “ wine hog” in my home, I would not address it, would casually bring out another bottle for the rest of the group.

[@smurph4959]

I always offer white and red at dinner as I've found sometimes peoples preferences are different to what I'd predict. Great tips 💗

[@katieogiba1119]

This may be your most entertaining video yet 😆. I always love your videos but I don't always laugh out loud! You're a wonderful actress🥂

[@staroliva6502]

This was a funny video. Like you Jennifer, I drink wine for special occasions or maybe a holiday dinner. And a glass it’s enough for me...Very educational and funny. Cheers

[@priscillasohn6143]

Jennifer I loved this. Would you consider making a video on fine dining etiquette?

[@janeblackhart6165]

I was told that you hold the bowl for red wine and the stem for white wine. Red wine is served warm, white wine is served cold.

[@Jessica_Jones]

Oh my gosh, I feel so fancy! My picky and perfectionist self has me practicing most of these habits already for the reasons you gave! That said, I'm certainly replaying all of my potentially borderline faux pas moments in my head...hopefully I never seemed overly eager to pour another glass 😬 I can't say I'm one to have my glass refilled in a restaurant when I know I could buy a bottle for the same price, lol, guess I still haven't quite "made it" in that sense 😉 But I sure do feel empowered for any future situation! When things are more back to normal, I will never have to worry when attending a fancy work-related event! Thank you so very much for sharing 😊

[@barbaramayfield5898]

I found this to be very informative and appreciated!

[@lindadavis6061]

Hi there! If you were throwing a dinner party, would you have different wines available for mingling and then a “paired” wine for the table? I’m thinking of your pot roast example! Although the red would be better with the meal, how would you accommodate guests who would prefer the chilled rosé?

[@lori3664]

This was very helpful, thank you so much!

[@ShyShySchullie]

Thanks Jennifer! I love your videos. I normally agree with you on so many things, but in this video, the point about the person hogging the wine, I actually felt your suggestion was a bit passive agressive. Maybe it depends on who your with, but I think the classy way to address that is to actually be more direct. Like "oh, we actually only have that one bottle, if it's OK, let's share the rest." And if it was my cousin or a friend, I would just tease, "stop hogging the wine, Tommy!"

[@kristiLB93]

Oh my word Jennifer, you crack me up when you giggle about a faux pas and it cuts to your reenactment!!😂 Great tips! Sooooo so many people, including me, are guilty of many of these. I look forward to more videos like these- it reminds me of Myka Meier's daily Do's and Don'ts!

[@paolamartz]

Love this video!!! ❤️ was so informative and funny! Thank you so much Jennifer 🙏🏼❤️

[@brifren2]

In France, all this is part of the savoir-vivre, and we learned it from parents or grandparents during family dinners. But now a lot of people don't know or don't care, and I find it a little sad, so this was a great topic for a video. One more thing, a special "ring" around the neck of the bottle will avoid wine drips (especially on a beautiful tablecloth). Usually made of metal like silver outside and lined with red velvet inside. Just don't forget to remove the 'ring' before disposing of the bottle in the end :)

[@happyhomeinholland]

Love the video! Off topic but does lemon juice in your water in the morning break your fast?

[@BaggieBelt]

Darcy from Texas- 🌹Informative and lovely! Thank you!

[@nancycerreta5629]

What do you think of stemless wine glasses?

[@hdavis82183]

What color jumpsuits did you order from Outerknown? I am looking at black, blush, and the natural colors and can't decide.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I ordered the tan and black... I'm worried I will love both

[@hdavis82183]

@@TheDailyConnoisseur I would have the same problem I feel like the tan would be good all year round, but the black is sooo cute and chic. Such a hard decision!

[@melodymuir891]

Thank you for the first point! It took some time for me to get used to it, but now can’t hold it anywhere else, and the lipstick around the edge does look disgusting.

[@agcitrusstudios1075]

Oh dear, I mainly use stemless wine glasses! :) Now I will break out the others. I do really enjoy my cabs…

[@tamlynrn]

All good tips. We traveled to Champagne a few years ago and they served champagne in white wine glasses rather than flutes. I don’t even bother with flutes anymore. They are pretty but a pain in the neck to clean.

[@crestaogle]

The best advice I have heard and remembered for many years regarding temperature of wines is that whites, sparkling, and rosés should be 45 degrees or lower; reds should be served at castle room temperature… low 60s, not our modern room temperatures.

[@betsylloyd8557]

After making a toast should you (and everyone else) not talk until you've taken your sip of wine (after the toast) to honor the toast?

[@SincerelyHannah9]

I’m not even old enough to drink wine but here I am LOL never too early to start learning etiquette