"Finding out I couldn't have children, didn't make me feel shame, I felt inadequate- Nse.

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[@blessedchild2879]

I was told by the doctor that I couldn't have children because I had no womb. I took it to God in prayer. Meanwhile there was a cancer diagnosis and doctor told me to just forget about children and think about my life. It was at an advanced stage. The more i prayed thr more it became worse. I attended Apostle Johnson Suleman crusades in the USA for a year plus and it felt like God won't answer me but yes he did. Cancer disappeared from my body and womb was restored, I got pregnant but miscarriage at about 4 months then got pregnant after 6 months by God's grace and today I have 2 beautiful girls. I couldn't stop praying despite the challenges and I denied to accept the doctors diagnosis.

[@susan8576]

Hallelujah Jesus. Such a powerful testimony

[@thetimo_]

To God be the glory over your life. Thank you for sharing.

[@euniceedmundz7644]

My faith is stirred up

[@s0fire_]

This is a glorious testimony, ThankGOD for this Miracle 🌹❤️. It's so encouraging, "Never stop praying" Thankyou for this, I key into your testimony 🫶 Amen 🤎

[@sabrinatenkorang1603]

All the glory to God

[@PCyrusC]

Nse is beautiful, classy, incredibly intelligent, outspoken and so loveable. Life happens and we all choose how we ride through.

[@yakubuaminaladi284]

I love my Nse,she is just herself, wonderfully herself. Chude connects with people easily,makes his job looks easy

[@kuteallets]

Exactly. It's grace upon him

[@brendadickson9583]

True that

[@Awake_Africa]

Not everyone will have children, it's nothing to be ashamed of, they can choose to adopt if they want.

[@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767]

Assisted Reproduction can help. So long as she produces eggs, she can hv chiren. Unless she no dey c period. If her fallopian tubes r blocked or her womb has issues, a surrogate mother can carry d baby/babies

[@lover4all113]

Thank you 🙏 o

[@fromthefountofyouth]

@@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767 But how can she menstruate when the uterus has been removed?

[@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767]

@@fromthefountofyouth if she had Hysterectomy with Bilateral Salpingo-Oophorectomy den she can't hv her own biological kids evn with Assisted Reproductive Methods or anything cos dat procedure totally removes d uterus along with d fallopian tubes & ovaries so no ovary can b produced 4d use of Assisted Reproduction. But if it's Total Hysterectomy, without Salpingectomy & Oophorectomy den d ovaries still produces eggs evn tho d uterus isn't there. So if one decides 2hv Assisted Reproduction, d eggs can b harvested & implanted in anoda woman's woman 4d fetus 2grow. Biologically, DNA & evrytin dat child is urs, not d carrier of d pregnancy.

[@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767]

@@fromthefountofyouth, I was speaking generally, not referring 2dis particular case, in her case, she won't menstruate cos d womb ain't there no more but d eggs r still bin produced monthly so if she likes, & she has d moni, she can still hv her biological chiren. Evn me fit carry her pikin 4her.

[@Growthtacticsworld]

Asa and Nse looks alike and has this kind of difference that’s simply enviable, women who already has identified whom they are without needing the consultation of the universe cause they are the universe itself

[@oderindemorenike2250]

Same thought

[@marthag5064]

I couldn't have said it better myself

[@sevdailysortez]

Bridget your head is hot 🙌🏾🔥 Carry on!!!

[@TheLushMom]

I have had this comparison in my head for so long.

[@thetimo_]

I agree with you ❤

[@flourish5blessing424]

I think Chudi is one of the best interviewers I have ever listened to. He is gifted in this and really knows how to connect with his guests. He asks the tough questions in a very respectful way. He also waits to listen to the answers without exerting his own opinion on the guest. They are having a great conversation and laughs.

[@kingamar8780]

The Baba is Brilliant.

[@spotlightmediatv]

Exactly I the part where you said without inserting his own opinion 😄

[@fridayojeogwu6225]

INTELLIGENT AND HANDSOME

[@zizou4229]

I love Nse, she's one of my favorite actress. God bless her

[@folasadesalami1030]

few minutes into the interview...I love her 100 million times more.

[@Springrolllll]

That part where they discussed about their dogs passing, held hands and shared the pain? I love it so much! I love spaces where you can grieve about things that ain't conventionally considered huge.

[@obikegertrude3710]

My best actress. I love her so so much. When death comes no one remember whether he/she has children or not , wealth or no wealth.

[@ogsmitth]

I so much love Nse, this lady is always positive in her taught no matter the situation she finds herself in 💯💯

[@olaoluwaabiodun2472]

OGB

[@MalcanniCB]

Having gone through a great deal of pain, guilt and shame, I have come to be very empathetic with people. It's tough to be human.

[@HavilahGreen]

Very tough

[@therealgemboss]

Her energy and positive vibes is admirable . Thanks for sharing Sis

[@afolabiolukoya1885]

Amazing actress who embodies her character in every movie. I love her so much. More grace to you.

[@gnsoh]

The first time i saw Nse was in the movie" Mr n Mrs" that has been the best nollywood movie I ever watch. She's great.

[@Favour2020]

Absolutely. Nse Acted The Mr And Mrs Very Well.

[@marthaewoe5682]

Yes

[@Reactwithzeke]

Please do you have an idea where I can get Mr. And Mrs. Downloaded

[@crissoa]

I loved that movie. I watched it back in the cinema in 2011.

[@crissoa]

@@Reactwithzeke it’s on KZbin.

[@Psychehealthymindhub]

Nse has always been my best actress. She embodies so much grace, fate, and self love

[@adeolaolayinka7442]

My bestest ever! And then when I met her? It was life changing for me. Her type is rare.

[@Psychehealthymindhub]

@@adeolaolayinka7442 omg, hope to meet her someday too...

[@asha5594]

Yesssss

[@gazelle20111]

I like his interviewing approach… real comforting and so relaxed

[@nengiskitchen]

Chude is an awesome interviewer 👌 Nse is a beautiful enigma that needs to be studied especially because of her location, a very rare specie 🗣️

[@beathaapril4777]

When I lost my dog people said I was overreacting but my family totally understood and stood by me🙏

[@elizabethwunse5332]

Dog again?🙄

[@thelookout5802]

Are you serious?

[@beathaapril4777]

@@thelookout5802 Yes I am dead serious. To make matters worse they made comments like "It is just a dog" People never cease to amaze 😅

[@ritannajiofor7709]

I lost my dog at a location where dog meat was a delicacy and as such they didn’t see the reason why I should mourn my dog. Most painful experience.

[@beathaapril4777]

@@ritannajiofor7709 oh I see! It makes sense now coz they eat dog meat in the area I was aswell 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@stephaniebasil5498]

Chude I wish one day i would be popular enough to get to sit with you and share my story through your platform with the world and people like me out there.

[@stormieblaze510]

We’ll hear your story someday. You don’t need to be “popular”. ♥️

[@theglobalchairman07]

...and so shall it be unto you, @stephanie

[@oreoluwaroberts2732]

I love this Woman badly. ❤❤

[@ritaokpara4086]

i love you NSE. mehn, watching this at this hour of the night and laughing hard is something i appreciate. We should just learn to live and yes nothing defines you... I stop worrying if I'm right or wrong all the time and started embracing every side of me that is there to love I love me

[@muoboentertainment]

Well said.

[@omololatalabi9593]

This is so hard to do sometimes, but you're right... Let's just live through our experiences.

[@asaahprecious07]

How does anyone not love Nse? Because it’s impossible, she’s such a beautiful human 😍

[@muoboentertainment]

Yeah; physically and personality-wise

[@blessingsbest6838]

She is x

[@triciamsema2828]

I love this woman she has a free spirit

[@ograhjay1]

There’s nothing not to love about this woman ❤️

[@awelemirabel4633]

God bless this beautiful woman such a pure soul and chude you always know the right questions to ask

[@cecestyme7142]

My first time seeing her in a interview and I love her down to earth simple vibe with honesty. I am glad she’s not faking and shame, because of not being able to give birth. She will have a new testimony soon. So continue to hold your head up high and living life. Big shout out to a great supportive husband….

[@ngoziokwuegbuna3387]

Coming here after watching The Wait….it makes so much sense 🥺🥺 Nse is a woman of strength

[@Olushola18]

Me too

[@okubajotiti5410]

Same here 😢

[@senavivianealohoutade537]

same here

[@NnajiChideraE]

Likeeeeeeee! I asked myself if I'd have acted such a role with such a real life experience. That woman is dope!❤

[@OluwadamisiAgosu]

I'm sorry your lost your dog. We laugh cos we can't cry, that's touching. It was a real pleasure having Nse Ikpe-Etim on your show. She is an example of originality.

[@muoboentertainment]

I can't even begin to imagine how she must have felt when she found that out. I'm glad she's accepted it and moved on.

[@manarisiairozuoke7144]

It's never easy but we live through what life throws at us.

[@somtochukwuofodum5898]

I love this woman!!!

[@fabier2404]

Nse is such a beautiful ,smart and strong woman.

[@theroseshow5773]

Love love her.. Nse is something ♥️♥️ Love that she can laugh about her pain now

[@ninamina2138]

Was she worried initially about her issue?

[@greatnation4328]

In summary, my take away is " nothing defines you....". Thanks Nse.

[@sweetchildafrique5564]

Hmmmm, I love that part of it's us, you walk in there as a team, not just that it is my "wife " that has the problem, no it's us, accept it, 1+1=1, please let's just accept it like that biko

[@akinolaelizabeth5864]

Ma'am I so much love you.... Will really be proud to be your daughter.... Can't imagine how much more you will train me to be very smart ma'am.

[@SoulfulSymphonys]

Not shame Inadequacy Oh sister you said it. I AM NOT ASHAMED!! Live through life.

[@thetimo_]

Oh wow! Thank God for you beautiful woman ❤❤

[@millicentnicholas9754]

I love her charisma and personality painful seeing she can’t have own children.. Such a wonderful actor an amazing one at that with a beautiful eloquent voice.

[@princessadex3243]

But she can If she wants thru surrogacy or adoption. But I guess she just can't be bothered.

[@lover4all113]

With God anything is possible.

[@stormieblaze510]

@@lover4all113 Not everyone would have children and it is absolutely, completely okay. Doesn’t make them any less fulfilled or their lives any less happy.

[@atomsworld1724]

I love her so muchhhh🥰

[@ewuradwoaquayson1634]

Nse is really Amazing. I REALLY REALLY LOVE her movies damn I love acting and I’m dying to meet you and act like you Your fashion sense oh my God is just Incredible

[@morolayoogunwemimo]

My feeling exactly! Thank you for putting into words what so many finds difficult!! Thank you

[@clarandubuisi6595]

My love for Nse just went up a notch higher, you cannot not love this lady.

[@ecarolyne5287]

Tried several times to join, but it doesn't allow me.. Senegal 🇸🇳👋...please help somebadee.. she is one of my favourites, I want to watch full version

[@nengielizabeth6872]

She's so strong infact you both are so strong... I was literally crying while you were all laughing. Chude please tell her to Adopt me as her daughter I love her so much 😭

[@thatgelechic]

I hope a lot of women Come across this video, and learn to be happy regardless of what life throws at them.

[@crissoa]

She’s such an amazing actress and very eloquent. Beautiful lady. I heard about her situation and I know it could not have been easy. I hope she can adopt 😊

[@Ladyhadassah]

Love my Nse,one of my favourite actress

[@Josephinevibes123]

I will always love Nse 💘 no matter what. I love her more in "Mr and Mrs" along side Josephine Benjamin.

[@floBar51651]

I hide my partner too cos world people na wa

[@abibatukoroma6567]

Nse you are a wonderful woman. I love you

[@samlivelong1988]

I resolved to adopt without wasting time when i noticed that satan desired to frustrate himself with child bearing. When God and satan saw that i was not going to allow childless to come between God and I, they both agreed that i was gone beyond the reach of satan and an angel was sent to me as a child.

[@flourish5blessing424]

I pray God will bless Nse with children. I think she will be a wonderful mother. What God cannot do does not exist.

[@NinaNdraman]

How can we contact her ?

[@konlannanleeb9828]

In Jesus name Amen

[@gbadamosititilayo8031]

I have heard about a women without womb, who have lost the hope of having children, they according to their testimonies, decided to spend the rest of their life serving God, whom God later shown them what He can do by making them get pregnant and given birth to twins, God specialized in impossible to make them possible, surrender your self to Him, give your life to Jesus and you will see the wonders of the Lord.

[@localjess838]

It's okay as well if she doesn't have any. There are many women fervent in faith who died child free.

[@TawiahMercy-p1i]

​@@gbadamosititilayo8031Amen and Amen

[@gladysudupegheme8487]

These two be doing like they took something intoxicating 🤣🤣Love them both❤️❤️

[@hopepeace8060]

God bless you Nse

[@bedinabebe4521]

Nse can never be inadequate. This type of Queen is so wealthy with other blessings, gifts to humanity that its Ironically the balance of life. You have everything. You are love by multitudes of admiring hearts.😍😍

[@marthag5064]

I always look forward to watching her movies but little did I know that she is this amazing in person. Would love to meet her in real life. I admire her grace, strength and unmovable faith. Keep shining Nse!

[@ese4741]

Nse is a national treasure abeg abeg. My all time FAAAAAV! Chude what kind of stupid question, who wouldn’t feel something maybe not shame but something, ALSO ALLOW THEM SPEAK all the ummmm ahhhhhh ummmmm and interjections. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@bgsonsthriving.]

I loved this woman so much God bless her❤️❤️❤️

[@lillygeorgezz8310]

God will surprise you because she love you Soo much and has a reason for everything

[@maameadwoaachiaah8460]

Just love this woman

[@queennetcelestine1311]

Things happen and the ability for us to see life above what have happened makes us stronger.... I have had my own share of bitter experience in life, where you are been drag by the person you trust and love. I wish I could be given the opportunity to share my story and over this shame of what people will say.

[@talkwithnaomi6942]

Hello Queennet. It's a sweet thing to hear you say you'll like to share your story about shame. I read the book "The Gift of imperfection" by Brene Brown. It's such a beautiful book,you might want to flip through the pages to see what it has. In Browns words I'll tell you to not just want to share your shame story but "honor your struggle/shame story and share it with those who have earned the right to hear it". Somehow many of us think we can smfit into Nse's shoes when we can just wear ours comfortably. she appreciates her shoes best and this time I think she decided to tell to tell her story to this particular audience and in the way she's most comfortable. I love how she used inadequate and not shame. I'd be very honored to share with you a copy of Brené Browns book mentioned above. Reach me by email at: [e-mail] if you'll like to have a copy .

[@BolatitoOludipe]

Love the way chude interviews these personalities

[@nanahemaaoppong8006]

The "SHAME" thing is not only in Nigeria, it's very very common in Ghana as well 🤔

[@janeogheneovo4403]

I love you Nse!

[@Vickyscornerr]

I love how strong this woman is

[@awesomeworship6920]

OMG...I love this woman

[@victoriaossai5]

She is so beautiful

[@cleorukkiss1556]

I love this lady! 😍 ❤ ...the first time I met her in a movie location, I could not help but stare...and I was a bit diatracted...I love you Nse! 😘

[@Omoyoruba_tv]

If your womb is still there, you'll still make baby . Our body treats itself and if them give you good agbo , you go born one . Ibile dey

[@stellaj4719]

I love her!... I cried when my last dog died too! So emotional!😪😫😪😫😪

[@lindaajileye9179]

OMG this open just opens doors for other women. I’m so damn proud of her where she doesn’t give AF!!!!! Love it!

[@victoranie5298]

Bros chuddy is digging it.. So proud of you sir

[@lazsamdi5712]

Too many children are waiting to be loved . Children don't have to be your own biological kids. To produce is very easy but to love is really hard. Please pick a 3year old orphan girl and give her all the love in your heart,you would be surprised at the love waiting for you. You will know you are missing nothing!

[@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767]

Gbam ! Adopt or use Assisted Reprductive methods - IVf, surrogacy....

[@abosedeadetunji3978]

If she is convinced about it, I'm so sure she will give it a try. It's her choice to make. I believe we should allow people follow their hearts.

[@rda-gama2567]

She looks East African! She is a beautiful lady ,may God bless her and family.

[@Favour2020]

We Are All One Family.

[@rda-gama2567]

@@Favour2020 yeah I agree !

[@talktalknation9900]

No l don't agree ✌❤

[@marperautos9683]

Timeout with Jude How does that sound for your channels name

[@alexjaye100]

to Chude, others try but you sir - have an incredible interviewing skill

[@hlengiwemasondo2858]

The people who call u barres because u can't have children are jealous of u that u are not facing the difficulties they facing that are brought upon them by children

[@namatovujackline8281]

Tell her to join NSPPD PRAYERS pr Jerry eze praying every Monday to Friday 7am Nigerian time WHAT GOD CANNOT DO DOES NOT EXIST #NSPPD FIRE PRAYERS

[@CommonSenseSisters]

Nse is one of our phenomenal legendary queen 👑 of Nollywood. We like her authentic personality. Sorry 😞 for the loss of your dog 🐕 Chude & Nse .

[@JustYourHair]

Oh I didn’t know she’s married

[@Joy_Adesua]

Oh Nse, I love you even more now, 🤗

[@graceamoako8121]

I love this lady soooooo much, she act naturally, more grace

[@isiuwaomorefe584]

I love Nse so much. Great actor. And she can have a baby through surrogacy and adoption. Period. Unless she choses not to have a child. Simple. Whatever is her choice, there is no shame at all. Her husband is refined and exposed. I am glad about that. I wish both of them a good rewarding life and marriage. And yes , you can have a happy rewarding marriage without kids. God says marriage is being a help mate, companion and replenish the earth with children. If you have a friend and companion and you support each other. Two over three , has she not tried? Nse go on girl! Have a fun life !

[@localjess838]

And there are lot of children to foster and mentor around.

[@abosedeadetunji3978]

I love your comment.

[@jenniiferpiiter8868]

one can still be a mom it wonderful you are talking about it you can still have children bring those beautiful children we will all treasure our beautiful itse . the solution to having an operation like that is to take fertility medicine for female hormones and then the wife and husband get a surrogate to carry their child we all would know her thank her don't get your self worked up the earlier the better

[@brendadickson9583]

Chude bless you You are such a genuine person n I love her outlook of life n strength

[@odionugbiyobo2316]

Nollywood's finest!

[@chiomanwabufo831]

What God cannot do does not exist. Keep believing don't give up. I assure you that one day you will see a miracle if you believe in him.

[@oluphemmyjames6431]

Chude stop interrupting your guest let them speak and then allow then digest before you ask another question you keep interrupting her

[@Jenniferuktv]

I wish I could have you ma on my KZbin channel some day I love you so much ❤️

[@sophydee8454]

I love her so much. her perspective about life is amazing ❤

[@adeshas83]

Beautiful Actress with a Beautiful Personality.....Nothing but Love

[@abenaesor5303]

About the dog issue, my boyfriend 4months puppy got missing for a less than an hour and come and see me eiiii. Didn't know how attached I was to this dog until that incident

[@IvyLove-oj8bo]

The only woman I love

[@adesanmiadebowale5316]

I so much love her❤️

[@johncejiofor2537]

The world has multiplied enough sef, too many people going bunkers thinking, you have be ashamed of yourself for not giving birth or able to, sorry Jesus died for her too. I love her jare she's living the life of purpose.

[@victoriaaidoo3226]

I wish to meet you one day Nse 💕💕💕 My love 💕💕💕 for you is priceless ♥️♥️♥️🥰🥰

[@graceboyce4912]

Why are they talking about tom cruise and tom Hanks . In Europe if it was a renown European Actress having an interview with European host in Europe I doubt if anyone would mention an African Actor/Actress. They wouldn't even have given them the time of day.

[@odelekevictor3895]

This is deepest, wisest woman chude interviewed that I have seen. It felt like two friends talking at an elemental level....they truly connected. I would relate why her marriage stood despite struggles while some other celeb's marriage didn't. Understanding makes the difference. Such a side woman.

[@chinomsooji7454]

I so much love the REALNESS in this video Chude also humbly received the comfort and warmth he usually gives to his guests when she extended her hands of i feel your pain too No forming at all she was so real with her choice of words