"My father started abusing me at age 5 and my mother enabled him. Fatima Ishiaku sits

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[@missglory8785]

Something is wrong with most Nigerian mentality.....We are afraid to speak out against evil, yet when one is courageous to do it the Nigerians mock you to silence your bravety.

[@bukolayussuf862]

It’s a sick society

[@Blessing_tv]

Those folks are sick, majorities are the problem we have in Nigeria.

[@florencearong4216]

It's an African thing my dear not just nigerian, it happens in cameroon too. Africans like pretends and falsehood, yet we go to church more than every other continent.

[@AvecSeverina]

Not just Nigerians ooo it’s Africa at large

[@gracegeorge7285]

Very damaging. The stigma on victims are real. Cowards hiding under culture!

[@daisyo9254]

Plz support this woman's purpose, she is fightin for our children. I pray she get all the support she need in Jesus Christ name Amen.

[@ela1543]

I always feel that whoever rape any child supposed to get a death penalty because there is no amount of years in jail can heal the abused, and he might do it again and again the moment is out, I feel is better to forgive all those thieves that are killed in the streets for stealing a bag or a phone, the real monster that supposed to get that kind of punishment are the rapist.

[@blessingsaflow4854]

It's, simply put , as sinister and dreadfully evil as that. Period

[@Tehime]

When my aunt husband started rape me, I tried telling her since that day she started beating me and insulting me and all that, I had to ran out of the house and stopped school after 2 years later someone send me back to school

[@egoagbo8574]

So sorry that you had to go through that. All is well. You are a queen and more. Beautiful, valuable, intelligent with a bright future. I love you but I want you to know that Jesus Christ loves you the most. Get to know Him if you don't already. God bless you.

[@cynthiakumi1358]

That is what l always say I don't know why most women want stupid marriage more than the children The sad part is they are aware of what is happening to their daughters and because of dick they will keep quiet

[@JoyFay]

I’m so sorry that happened to you. You are worthy. All the bad things that happened to you did not take away your goodness. You are top tier! Please cut that aunt off forever.

[@temitopeabolade1375]

So sorry my name sake🤗

[@susan8576]

I will never understand how someone would take so much pleasure in causing a child so much pain. Thank you for sharing your story Fatima. You are a brave woman.

[@dzevelalucy]

Look at how strong you sound. God. To think you can talk about this without a tear dropping. Thanks for sharing your story

[@vtara5394]

Anyone who abuses a child shall perish in the hottest part of hell !! May she continue to heal please God 🙏🏽. This can ruin a person’s life forever 🙏🏽

[@imanihaidara2994]

This is also from putting TOO MUCH importance on being and remaining married no matter what! It is criminal to blame a little child, and the worst betrayal is when a Mother takes the side of the rapist Husband. Why have children if a mother is not committed to protecting them.? I would rather be alone with my children than stand by a man that would rape and abuse them. I will gladly go to jail if anyone ever tried that with my children. I am Black American, and I believe the day you bring a child into this world you are obligated to protect that child with your life. When my children were small I talked to them in a way a child would understand, telling them no one should ever touch private parts of their bodies. If it ever happens, tell Mommie, I will believe you. I had that talk to my girls and boys . They could ALWAYS tell me anything. I even told them, that’s the time you scream, kick bite and scratch and pick up anything. My children came first. They are grown now, and I Thank God for watching over them. I Thank God they never had that experience. God knew I was serious, when I said I will gladly go to jail, if ANYONE sexually abused my kids. No one will EVER make me understand the mentality of ANY woman who would turn her back, and blame a little girl,and mutilate the little girl by cutting and burning her vagina. Crazy Ass!! I am sorry. All to keep a Man? Honor and stand by your Husband when he deserves it. There are people who do not deserve children. There is something very wrong with a Mother who chooses NOT to fight for her little child. 🥲🥲🥲Too heart breaking!!!

[@ndlilian]

Thank you for being so kind and awesome. God bless you more Dear 👍

[@GbeyiwaFaith]

Most women will sacrifice their daughter's future to save their marriage, I have seen a case similar to this. The mother was always telling her to Keep quiet the child opened up to me I have to help her escape out of the house, this woman refused to talk to me till today because the money her daughter's father brings for upkeeps is no longer coming to her. Thank you so much for speaking out God bless you.

[@amazingstylestv3777]

May God reward you greatly for helping that child

[@temitopeabolade1375]

She is mad, she is lucky I am not you, I would have arrested her too. May she not die well

[@joychiamaka4778]

Hmmmm some women are just heatless, enjoy hurting their own daughter

[@formidablezee7368]

Accursed woman, a lo of "mothers" aren't fit for the title or roll. Mere vessels to bear the child. Disgustingly disturbing

[@somawilbert]

Sorry dear, thank God you survived.

[@nechi1131]

Please, being Raped is no one's destiny! There're just too many sick disgusting people out there 🤮

[@anyokuchinwe1275]

I concur

[@comfortugorji7568]

I agree, it can't be one's destiny nau😢

[@ovigweolumide1075]

I think this woman is very straightforward and she is an example of one who is healed as far as I can see.

[@catherinebrooks2271]

Please The n name of the book I need one of these books

[@timamuhammed5696]

The name of the book is I called him dad. You can get it on Amazon and other book shops in Nigeria

[@florencearong4216]

Fatima am so sorry for what you went through, may God heal you permanently. I commend your courage.

[@QueenQueenly]

I will never understand mothers who stay with the abusers. So many women don’t deserve to be mothers 😡😡😡

[@letstalkwithbigsheila]

They wanna save their useless marriage

[@CherishedNike]

As someone that was abused by a neighbors child for about 8years of my life I totally feel her pain and all she went through…in my mid 30s and still struggle with the trauma…I was a very stubborn child growing up I have serious trust issues. Please check your kids if they are acting stubborn it might be an effect of abuse.

[@blessingyoung3116]

A lot of Nigerian parents have destroyed their kids because of useless societal norms and believes. An average Nigerian adult has stories of abuse, one way or the other. Could be sexual, physical, verbal, psychological, emotional, financial, etc. Ask 10 random Nigerians and prove me wrong. It goes on as a cycle....a cycle that needs to be broken ASAP.

[@Bmcravings]

You are right… so right… but no matter what they do you just have to say that they did well… it’s so sad

[@temitopeej8407]

@@Bmcravings There is so much untreated mental illness and trauma, so much undiagnosed anti social personality disorders that it is breathtaking. All these are easy to hide under “societal norms”. People know who the perverts are but they won’t speak up. It’s sickening.

[@elizabethbenjamin8016]

You’re so correct

[@nosajoyidoni9248]

Mental and physical abuse is another one. Bad parenting.

[@blessingyoung3116]

@@temitopeej8407 Yessss!!! I know of a lady who opened up to her mom about a sexual abuse she experienced as a child, mom's reply to her was that she should forget about it, these things happen. When she told me, I froze. I just didn't know what to say. She was crying her eyes out, I knew about the abuse for a while and encouraged her to speak to her mom, maybe will start the healing process but the response, unbelievable. I felt like was my fault because I encouraged her to go, but alas, lady is seeking help somewhere else and I am very proud of her.

[@gloriaoe4400]

Fatima is a survivor. Such a terrible experience. This is a severe case of adverse childhood experiences

[@tkosaa3509]

How does a 5 year old seduce an adult.😲😲😲 Even if the adult is an imbecile. That the most ridiculous comment ever.

[@iyabodeattah431]

How can a child seduce a grown man!!! This is a familiar script for most mothers whose husbands are/have abused their daughters

[@lolaispure4296]

Soooo sad. I love my daughter with all my heart, i wont fail her. She is my reason for being.

[@temitopeej8407]

This is sickening!

[@letstalkwithbigsheila]

The excuses they give for these men is irritating. Those mothers are not worth being called one. Tufiakwa

[@chineloubah5773]

I thank God for your life. A friend passed through thesame experience and it affected her so badly. She just couldn't really succeed in anything and she wasn't mentally unstable. Even when I reconnected with her some years ago, I didn't think her brokenness had healed. Funnily, her mother never believed her but rather accused her of attempting to destroy her marriage. The father kept using sex as a weapon. Each time she summoned the courage to resist him, he would withdraw every form of support. When we were in SS3, he suddenly withdrew her from school. I was later to understand that it was punishment for resisting his advances. Shockingly, the man was a religious leader. I believe such men must have mental health issues as well. I don't understand why a man can have sexual feelings towards his own daughter or even step daughter or infact towards anyone in a relationship of care and trust.

[@rachelanderson6323]

This is an unfortunate daily reality for some children/adults. I salute your courage Ms Fatima, this is an unbelievably painful experience.

[@queenadonri5913]

My sister, I am sorry to hear what happened to you. The lord will continue to be your strength. As for those that are bullying, and commenting negatively, they are either ignorant and jealous because what the enemy meant for bad, God turned it to good and blessing for you. Hear this, sometimes the enemy has seen the bright light in your destiny and will try to quench it. You are a blessing, you a gift and God will continue to strengthen and protect you in Jesus name! Amen! Keep doing what you are doing. I am proud of you. If nobody loves you, God loves you and if Gods is all you have, you’ve got all you need. Cheers💕💕💕

[@houseoffatimafoundation]

Àmen. Thank you

[@adaezenwankwo6831]

This is a powerful interview. You can feel the honesty and pain in her voice. THANKS FOR FIGHTING FOR OTHERS

[@rochaelradcliffe5135]

Some women don't want to lose their meal tickets and they rather to be with a monster than being alone. So they disregard the wellbeing of their children rather than being known as not able to keep a man. Regardless of the circumstances of how your children came into this world, they are yours. Never put any man above your children. They are to be loved.

[@thecreativefamjoy]

The pain is still in her voice OMG

[@nanaakosuaamankwaa9471]

Yeah, you can hear her voice shaking

[@meenahwurldz]

God What is this dear Lord This world is wicked ooo A mother doing that to her daughter?? I don't understand the hate though People go through a lot and are going through a lot in this world, in Nigeria. Nigerian parents don't want to know their children ooo. Everything is the devil's work. Who are the people that are mocking her sef? Where are some people's brain sef? This idea of mocking someone that was courageous enough to come out publicly and say what they went through is nonsense sha 😑 People need to stop it. Especially Nigerians. Nigerians need to stop it. Stop looking at victims some type of way.

[@kimcelestine9100]

Nigerian woman are THE MOST STRONGEST, STAYING ALIVE WOMAN I KNOW. 🇳🇬🇺🇲

[@michaeldawson501]

Mu dear all over the world women are going through the same thing. So sad 😞

[@veeeeneerkay6098]

“She seduced her mother’s husband?” A 7 yr old???? What is wrong with us???

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

The thing tire me o...what is there to seduce

[@abahhannah7336]

As in ehhh. I feel so bad. It's sad that some mothers are still not believing their daughters even now😭😭😭

[@tonyebiere551]

some people on the internet are demons

[@florencearong4216]

Our African society am afraid is a disgrace for blaming victims instead of the perpetrator.

[@Mstees1]

I wish you strength and healing. Please ignore as much as possible, the "key board warriors" looking for 5 mins of relevance at ALL COSTS. Most of them don't have anything going for them in their lives. They are hurt themselves and are sadly looking for who to drag down the abyss with them. HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE!!! its not an excuse but its true! The Lord saved you for a reason, ......live it! *hug*

[@EstherJAudu]

Your mother and her husband are devils 😈. Parents protect your children girls and boys! May God help us to do the right thing. Educate and monitor your family to speak out if there is any unusual behaviour. People who insult victims with out trying to understand them are illiterates and wicked. We have to educate people to speak out any bad experience or abuse they go through.

[@anniedaniels9937]

Dear women we are the cause of our problems, how on earth can one sacrifice her very own child to a disgusting pervert of a husband?? Fatima thank you for coming out to share your story and most of all for forgiving your mom.

[@inegbenoseosose982]

To keep their home. It's a disgusting mentality

[@temitopeej8407]

@@inegbenoseosose982 What home, though? I was so shocked by her story and was talking to my adult son and he showed me this story of a Nigerian mother in Germany. Her husband raped her daughter and she left the home with her daughter. Her Nigerian friends in this “superwomen” group were commenting in their closed group that she should go back to her rapist husband, calling the daughter a “seducer” and “fresh meat”. This is a deep problem in the Nigerian society, unfortunately.

[@inegbenoseosose982]

@@temitopeej8407 The comment was sarcastic as that demonic phrase is the reason why some partners stay in abusive marriages or never expose their pedophile partner. Marriage over morals and logic. Tragic!!

[@temitopeej8407]

@@inegbenoseosose982 😅 Thank you for clarifying.

[@JoyFay]

Because Islam and Christianity makes them feel like it’s shameful for a woman to not be under the control of a man. These destructive religions have degraded women and girls, they make it seem that our whole lives is about keeping men happy. And, because these lunatic religions have penetrated our cultures for many many generations, even traditionalist are copying the bad behaviors of Christianity and Islam.

[@Butterflycreativeworld]

Those people that are mocking and insulting u are doing what ur step dad did

[@idayatabosede3007]

She is a Strong Woman, She is a Survivor. I'm scared of having a Girl child in this Warped Society

[@AvecSeverina]

I can relate I can not even process how I can bring a child into this world for something like this to happen to them especially being a survivor myself and knowing how deep the trauma is.

[@favouragbozo8297]

When I tell people I don't want to have a girl child they don't understand....my sister suffered rape and now she is no more....these experiences gives me chills

[@AvecSeverina]

Hummmmm

[@joysamuel7919]

Even boys are not safe either. Many were and are still being raped and sodomized on a regular.

[@sapphireruby4701]

Male children are victims too

[@AvecSeverina]

The response you get from your supposed protector when you exposed the incidence is even more traumatic than the experience itself

[@monioluwalaniyan5786]

One can still feel the pain in her words. It takes real courage. This issue of child abuse is a big issue and I'm afraid that it's been handled so lightly over here in Nigeria. Victims are afraid to voice out. They are then stigmatised when they try to talk.

[@jecintaaghedo1195]

Until some people go through certain situations, they can never understand that is why they can insult others.

[@ajagunwamaka7724]

Exactly 💯 percent

[@obiamakawilliams4299]

Can still see the pains in her eye's 😭 God please heal her completely 🙏 I'm also a victim and I still get nightmares, anxiety and low self esteem people need to do better and stop blaming the victims and hold abusers accountable.

[@opokuserwaahagnes2579]

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[@opokuserwaahagnes2579]

Hi G

[@ukagaesther8299]

My dear is well, her's is her step father what of me dat my own child's father did the same to my child at 5yrs I went through a lot with no one to help me till date because of financial help is not there

[@peter.k.k.j.spreadton]

This is really very sad to hear...you can even feel from they way she's talking it's very deep...my God give her the strength to hill completely... Very courageous lady

[@Treasurewithoutmeasure]

Thank you for coming out to share your story. Leave them to say what they want to say. You are helping millions and you are beautiful.

[@this.is_adanma]

Some mothers treat their girl child like they picked them up by the road side, and I don't know why. Believe me, this is a thing. My friend and I had time to talk to each other, about our childhood and growing up, IT WAS HELL! OUR MOMS MADE IT HELL!!!!

[@mayliss120]

These type of mothers (fathers) are Narcissistics, they are evil 👿. So sad that this is the reality of some kids in Africa 😞. Shame on those that shame the victims.

[@ronkeadeyemi4850]

Yes ooo you are right. There was a time I concluded she wasn't my mother.

[@queenimade7632]

Even if you pick a child from the road side, they still don't deserve to be treated as trash.

[@angecynthia347]

Same!!! I am fighting off that aura she gave me from birth...not wanted..but I want and need myself now more than anything😊

[@mayliss120]

@@angecynthia347 love you and do you 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@folasadejubaadeoye797]

Mothers awake from slumber, please.

[@thedammy]

There needs to be a department or agency of government that cares and watches out for children of broken marriage. They need a third parent in the government.. honestly.

[@hopesolomon871]

The only answer to her question about why her mother hated her instead of defending her and fighting with her husband is the same as what women do to any woman their husband is interested in, looking at or pursuing. Look around you anytime a married man is misbehaving around another woman, the wife picks a fight with that woman instead of the man. It is a problem I am yet to understand. I had a husband that was misbehaving around girls, I confronted him, some of the girls never ever knew that I knew about them. This is how emotionally stable women handle stuff but truth is 99% of men and women are not emotionally stable as far as relationship is concerned. Some of the women are afraid of losing a useless man and would rather look away than confront the issue. It is the case with wives of accused Pastors. Sometimes in church a married man is staring at a single lady, instead of the woman to tell her husband you're committing adultery she will go and rally other women in the church and start a rumor that the young woman is coming after her man. As a woman I just sometimes shake my head for us.

[@oluwadamilareadewale7940]

Her mother knew she was just in deep denial of what was happening. She could have been blaming herself, it was a case of protecting her virtues than her daughter’s

[@ayanmelegift]

That's just the raw truth... it's a pity

[@mbaireneogwe4735]

OMG! 🙆🏻‍♀️🙆🏻‍♀️. You are God's sent madam. May God bless and protect you.

[@usmanidris4361]

In life I always like supporting the underdogs. I will like to support her in what ever way possible.

[@estherabiodunomolara7043]

To hell with his image. His deeds have already tarnished his image already.

[@kemisjourney]

It’s abuser protection she needs therapy to understand that

[@ClusterofGalaxies]

God we pray for full healing for this woman, keep her and her people safe and sound. Bless her, pour love into her life. I pray that she prospers beyond her wildest dreams. Take the pain away completely

[@princessntimboateng9650]

Let’s all use our voices and resources to fight against defilement, rape and sexual abuse it happens everyday Being sympathetic alone doesn’t help

[@fei-stynwaekwueme1n2]

I told someone about this few days back.. Most people get through the pain after the incident like, after they get molested BUT THEY FEEL THE PAIN MORE when people mock them, blame them, stay away from them n all....N THIS IS ONE OF THE MAIN REASON WHY victims DONT AND CANT SPEAK UP.... Most people get to speak aboutit sometimes aftergoing through the 5 stages of grief!!..... SPEAKING UP/OUT HELPSSSSSS A LOT! Some People break out of that bondage the moment you speak! 🙇...We've seen a lot but 😔.. God dey see us shaaa.... Lemme just chill

[@beverlytaylor7146]

Those who are accusing you were also abused and they don’t want to speak out. God is your father, don’t worry you are not alone. Thank God, God bless you!

[@dorathychinonye4371]

I need this book please how do I get it

[@caro.caro.9578]

Sexual violation on minors in Africa is painfully really. Too many untold stories. Sad 😭 .

[@dorisharrer4857]

It's alot. I feel for young girls in Nigeria, they are not protected at all by family and the society in general. May God console her

[@hauwauyakubu-wokili5239]

Too many in Africa

[@dorisharrer4857]

@@hauwauyakubu-wokili5239 So so sad!, it's like the men are allowed to be unaccountable for their sexuality. I cry for girls and women in Nigeria

[@MYFATHEREMMANUEL]

Please be there for other victims. I truly admire your boldness for coming out public, big respect to you ma'am. You are such a beautiful women, the devil plans has failed: there is reason behind every action. God saved you for greater tasks.

[@bigmummy6657]

Where is the man now? Where is her real father? May our Lord Jesus heal you perfectly. You will get married and have your own children. Where can I get the book?

[@olayemisiomodara4259]

Thank you Fatima for the book and speaking out... Many thanks Chude for bringing Fatima and creating awareness for sexual abuse and more importantly the victims. I pray for you Fatima for continuous strength, light, love and blessings as you journey thru the rest of your life, Amen 🙏 ❤️ 🙌 ✨️ 💙 ♥️ 🙏

[@vivianoji2297]

I celebrate you Fatimah. Thanks for this boldness and the Grace of God upon you to be alive. I pray as they watch this video, they get healed and speak up/out. God bless you ma.

[@gracegeorge7285]

I am so for your experience, and yes, a lot of unimaginable child abuse on girl children go on in Africa, and some mothers will harm their innocent children to keep a husband. Just horrendous!

[@christinechineke8843]

Thank you for opening up, shame to African mothers who can't stand up for their children. Proprietors are rapping their students, and society blames the victims. Fatima we love you for opening up, you're stronger than you know.

[@rifkatudogo8781]

Society makes it worst that is why most people don't speak out. I wish d orientation can change 😩 😪

[@diabosalma8594]

My own mom used to call me a prostitute and maltreat me even when I was less than 10yrs And it is something I can’t forget but now I’m the one taking care of her and I care about her so much

[@JoyFay]

Why are you taking care of her? She was abusive to you as a child and now she is using you. You don’t owe her anything.

[@diabosalma8594]

@@JoyFay hmmmm I wish I could stop but she is my mom even just this morning she called that she isn’t feeling well In fact I’m broke and jobless at the moment but I have to still force myself to send money I don’t do ashawo or hook up so how can I keep providing

[@mansanotmusa9206]

So sorry for what you have to endure

[@diabosalma8594]

@@mansanotmusa9206 thanks

[@temitopeabolade1375]

Sorry @Daibo Salma, may God reward you with a great husband

[@chiamakanwankwere6912]

I don’t understand.., why would a sane person blame a victim? I will never understand this

[@yetundealaka6401]

It is not really the abuse that hurts...telling your parent and then they don’t believe you hurts so much 😭😭I was also abused by my own brother

[@oghenetegaudueni4253]

Oh my God.... this feels so sad. May you receive healing. Amen.

[@ellaben2497]

I watched a Lifetime movie network movie where a mum knew her husband was raping her 10 yr old son but she kept mute due to her evil ambition of keeping her marriage. I know that was a movie but honestly this world is wicked. Women...a man will never respect you for concealing his evil trust me...speak up and know peace

[@lydiadaramola785]

Please what is the title

[@BukolaRY_TV]

It's sad to watch. I just hope and pray that our generation will do better than our parents 🤷‍♀️

[@oboroobagbemi9603]

Chude tnx for this interview, for the first time I enjoyed this bcus of time allocated. Pls keep enuf time for d benefit of ur interview. God bless u

[@oduesorose8825]

Mothers are to blame for all this they carry their husbands on their heads instead of protecting their children forgetting God will ask them question latter

[@beinspiredwithclaudia1849]

How could someone stay married to a man that rape there daughter,am so sorry for your pain my sister,may Jehovah brings you full ❤️‍🩹 healing

[@bariagbegha5774]

These people who mock her are very low-level-minded. They have no clue because they have no knowledge at all.

[@gisellekalengankongolo7737]

I'm very disappointed with Africa 🌍 😞 mentality how can 5,7 years girls seduces a grow old man I really fill for this women she went through alot 😢 she's a strong 💪 women I respect her for that

[@alphaduo1466]

her mother had a terrible experience with her biological father and each time he sets her eyes on her she remembers.

[@greatlawrawoodsschools6323]

Wao... God bless you oo.. Great woman.. You are a helper to young girls.. O.. I stand by you on this mission... God heal and help you ma'am

[@annex247]

The society is the main reason a lot of people die in silence. They will make you feel worse than what has happened to you but people that break the odd and still speak out are the great heroes. Thank you so much sis. You are an inspiration. May God help you heal completely and grant you all your heart desires. 💝💝💝

[@ifesinachiobi7901]

You are such a brave woman. I celebrate you.

[@oyenike3785]

Also rapists should be held accountable more often and those who sexually assault people should be labelled as such. Her dad should have been in jail. The victims should not carry the burden, but the perpetrators.

[@ude-nnadiasorgozie9283]

I give God glory for healing you and gave you courage to come out and speak for the voiceless and create the awareness of evil practices in some parts of Nigeria. May he continue to bless you and grant all your heart desires. I heard similar story from a victim who was impregnated when she was under age by an old man. She was paraded nacked round the village, where passersby mocked, cursed, spited and called her all sorts of names. Her mother having this same believe of cleansing, gave her to the traditionalist who subjects her to this inhuman and traumatic treatment. The man involved denied and was not punished by man nor their evil gods. I know it's hard to believe but don't relent. The Lord is your strength.

[@simoneokolo]

What happens to these men who do this? Surely they should be in prison

[@estherabiodunomolara7043]

Oh God have mercy. This lady have been through so much. May God help her overcome this pain. I am so scared of having a girl child in this warped society. I will love to get her book

[@jemimahshekinah-shalom9758]

Rape is soul destroying. Even extremely harder when a mother is an enabler.

[@adegbolacecilia4322]

God does not need a man to suffer to proof a point.A corp member manipulated me but that was not God.100%

[@agabi2008]

Wow wow wow, stumble upon this horrible story. This mother must have had been abused In some way and not ever been appreciated in her own childhood and was only able to transmit what she knew. African society needs to change the way they approach abuse. Whether is a child, a man or a woman that is been abused. God, people have to be a little bit compassionate. Just horrible. You are courage personified. Kudos to you

[@modupeolukeye4307]

Thanks for sharing Fatima, this is an eye opener for Nigerian parents. Know your child.

[@damilolaelizabeth9631]

My own mum is not ready to hear me, she will abuse me, if i fail to run an errand for that brother she will beat me n she will still inform my dad that brother lagbaja want to send me on an errand but i fail my dad will still beat me. Hum i go through the trauma alone for 8yrs but hummmm i still love my family and i don't want something that will tarnish there image, just keep it to myself up till date

[@JoyFay]

I’m sorry, you don’t deserve the abuse. And your parents are not good. My hope is that you will have the wisdom to carefully plan your escape to a better life and cut your family off completely-you are too good for them. Have you finished secondary school and what do you like to do?

[@damilolaelizabeth9631]

@@JoyFay infact am a graduate already but anytime i remember it, i lost my self esteem, coz most of my relationship had fail coz dey do body shame me coz i don't hide it

[@temitopeabolade1375]

Besides, you are not the one that tarnish your family's image of truth be told, the Lagbaja is the one that tarnished your family's image, and your parents also tarnished it the more, what you are doing now is just like our society, blaming the victim and making the victim pay for the crime how is that truth? How is that honourable? How is that justice???

[@olujonzin]

So sorry

[@rachealifeanyichukwu5626]

Mine is not rape but abandonment. it hurt so bad.

[@funkeoduode]

Thank you Chude, thank you house of Fatima

[@jessicabright4703]

I couldn't watch till the end ooo Listening to this lady change my entire mood. Kai! 😥 I'm short of words 😭😭😭

[@oluchifrancis1826]

You are a strong woman Fatima. You are an inspiration to a lot of women and young girls

[@chidimmajoy784]

😭😭😭 you are a strong woman. Thanks for sharing your story. Lots of young girls go through a lot.

[@InoriUgaba]

It's heartbreaking. Thank you for speaking out and standing out for others. May God Almighty continue to bless and keep you. Thank you Chude for your educative interviews.

[@athulumargaret8372]

Human beings can be very evil!!! Why abuse a small child...coz when they grow they will fight back!!!

[@Beebaby8254]

....its simple some ppl will rather blame the victim and say they seduced the grown adult because if they come face to face with the truth and blame the perpetrator they will have to confront the fact that they are an enabler themselves and that they have a perpetrator may be as a husband, a child, brother, father, mentor ..... Which means they need to do something about it and they don't have what it takes to do something about it...... so the easy way out is to blame the victim who is weaker (ppl easily prey on someone or something they perceive to be weaker)

[@oghenetegaudueni4253]

I applaud your courage for speaking out Fatima. Please let's all try to help the little ones out there both male and female. Look out for them. Educate them on the slightest opportunity you have to recognise signs of abuse and learn to speak out. Teach them to protect themselves and be distant from negative people and abusers. Teach them to love God and have confidence in themselves and not to be afraid to speak out.

[@annmariepardo6989]

Sweet heart when you speak out You have to speak to the right people

[@olafab3998]

All this pedophiles and rapists should be severely purnished.The male gender should be thought from childhood that rape is wrong and evil.The male child needs to be thought that you cannot have a lady by force.May God heal you Fatimah permanently in Jesus Name.Amen

[@abigailmartins6148]

When my cousin's husband slmost raped me,they called a family meeting for me to undult me that it was my fault ,saying i shouldn't seduce him again or avoud him. And my cousin was still went back home witg her husband. I was shamed, mocked and insulted for speaking out. Guess what? My aunt was a respected christian in church.

[@belthaayuktanyi8729]

Fatima has a heart of gold , because truth be told if I was in her shoes I will never forgive my mom for making me go thru pain .

[@shamusanasa4058]

Yeah its hard

[@nwakanmapromise782]

I don't understand what kind of mother she is, Eh God! I am short of words biko, he doesn't even love your mother gosh My point is one shouldn't take a child to another man's house because it is very difficult to get a good man to father a child that is not their biological child. God will continue to bless you for sharing your story .

[@savannahmohamed1714]

I see a list of books you recommended. I don’t see Fatima book being linked considering you’ve interview her. What’s the link for the book?

[@timamuhammed5696]

The book is called him dad you can get on Amazon and other book shops in Nigeria like roving height, glandora book shop, jazz hole books

[@LadyRooooooo]

I just love you, for your courage. You are beautiful both inside and outside ♥️ . Thanks for sharing.

[@oluwapelumiadenuga7250]

The lesson to all victims is to find a way to break the fear of bondage, so far they are still alive, they have a voice. Speak out first, and then prepare to forgive, if they want the healing to be complete.

[@callmekingty2532]

Fatima your extremely strong ❤️

[@KateTriumph]

Book writing is therapeutic indeed. If you have a story to share get intouch with me so that we can work with you to write and publish your book.

[@chukwukaoluchie5699]

I have a story yo tell

[@chukwukaoluchie5699]

Hello

[@ugochinyerequeen9476]

Am bittered 😭😭😭 I also have my story

[@evanamakanjepu1698]

Please how can I reach you please

[@afosplace5885]

Just yesterday a child of 2years old was reaped by a man of 40yrs. The man that reaped the child was watching a porn with the child. The mother came in, saw the man watch the movie and didn't take the child away. Before she came back the child was reaped. As she said parents should be vigilant with their kids

[@ledilempyatona4486]

Wtf

[@zobasworld4689]

Tears dropped from my eyes when you said that you forgave your mother after all these mehn you're good and God shall surely fulfill his promises upon you just watch and see