I grew up in a brothel, and was sexually abused at age 10-Ifan Michael sits

[@TheRealDeal130]

He's going to need years of therapy to overcome his childhood trauma. As a survivor (myself) of parental neglect and subsequent abuse by predators who took advantage of my vulnerability, it has taken me years to stabilize. My heart goes out to him - he is showing classic signs of PTSD. Chude, please if you are reading this, assure Ifan that it is a sign of strength NOT weakness to seek professional help. If he doesn't deal with his foundation now, his 'success' might be short-lived. I've been there; my successes kept crashing until I stepped aside to revisit my past trauma.

[@korrupted_mbl3122]

Me too it still hunts me till now 😪 😔 my parents neglected me

[@otusopeodejayi1367]

I suffered a lot of neglect too. Rejection and a lot of false allegations from those that were meant to protect me. Painful but a lot of it was from and in the church... Tongue speaking Christians..

[@osasu.daniels]

This interview was actually therapeutic for Ifeanyi. Sometime the best way to heal is to talk about the pain.

[@nwandomuoghalu77]

I like how Chude was so compassionate and patient in listening, everyone needs that❤

[@patienceokafor7647]

This interview blew my mind. No education, no mentor and yet he became a star. Amazing!

[@yvetteebot302]

Thank you Chude. This is one of a program that will help both young men and women who were sexually abuse in their tenage age to come out and speak up. Because many of them are living in pains. Myself am one . Was sexually molested by my Uncle and even at 37yrs, I still feel that pain. And I intend to open a radio station in my Country and be the voice for many of those that couldn't speak up for themselves.

[@naijarealty247tv5]

Bless you for sharing and wanting to share more to help other. You are loved

[@nnennajennifer8986]

Please do for the sake of others, God bless and heal you ❤

[@reinettenamanya850]

Yvette, which country are you from?

[@yvetteebot302]

@@reinettenamanya850 God bless you. I'm a Cameroonian but reside in Dubai UAE

[@Asecle870]

No one ever comes to Chude and leaves same. Oga Chude, this is clearly a ministry. Thank God for your life. 😍

[@ChuchuJS]

just wanna take this moment to say, Lord thank you for giving me the best parent in the world looking out for my ungrateful ass, Hope he gets all the healing

[@titinigirlo]

Well said.

[@emmydavid3981]

Well Said...Me too...Thank You Lord

[@Molly_finds]

This is a very heartbreaking story. I’m happy he’s been able to turn his pain to something positive ( film making). He still needs to see a therapist. It’s very important even though he may think otherwise. God bless him. Well done Chude!🙌🏽

[@sarahsmith476]

The breakthrough he had during this interview was so powerful. He has had God strengthening his spirit through so many obstacles

[@nnekagodwin2922]

This is the story of so many other children and young adults in Africa. Extensive therapy will be needed for a long time. I am in tears just watching. Praying for continue healing ❤️‍🩹

[@Diyabeccah]

I wish I could just hug this guy.he's really been through a lot.

[@lifewitheniola2832]

He still needs to go for therapy....he is still very vulnerable... please uncle Chude ..he needs to. He is hiding under work and achievement...he is yet to heal ..God bless you uncle Chude!

[@Fred-eu9et]

Respect ✊ Praying that the young man heals completely. Thanks for the work you do Chude!

[@bunmit007]

IFAN, thank you for speaking out. You’re truly a survivor. Chude awesome job.

[@pejuodunlami238]

In my career life, I have been opportune to work with a lot of young people in the sex work and gay community and I can say categorically that poverty, parental neglect and abuse more often drives young people into being continuously sexually abused. It's a sad reality but unfortunately it will get bigger in our society. What I struggle to understand is the extent of inhumanity, hypocrisy and callousness of adults in our society. Why can't people just help children for the sake of helping?

[@osomethamary2610]

Mr chude I really appreciate what you do,always their for those neglected, I really feel for IFAN,I'm still passing through healing myself been neglected by my family at a very young age,saying I'm worthless,had to run away from home travelled to a far away country were I was sold for sex,had to give in to any man promising marriage,just for an escape out of camp.And till now still finding it hard to love anyone even myself.i pray we all heal.

[@ronnie8913]

♥️

[@favourfang7100]

I wish he sees a Therapist because he is hurting and dealing with the aftermath. I pray he heals completely 🙏🙏🙏🙏.

[@stankwus8679]

I appreciate your journey and truth, Ifeanyi. You're truly a survival and thanks for helping others walk through life challenges. Even, the chidima girl who assisted Ifeanyi has a good heart to have accommodated him against the odds of her profession. Chidima was also a victim o circumstance, who couldn't tell her success storieslike Ifeanyi an probablydidn't get help to comeout of her helpless circumstances. Chude, thanks for helping others to tell their stories and strengthening others to accept that volunerability is part of our humanity.

[@fountainofwisdom8422]

Thanks for this intensive and patient interview Mr Chude, but I feel this young man is still trying to protect his abusers. He needs to be free by voicing out completely and then get a therapist. I hope he's still not dweling in his past life style thinking its beyond him. He can conquer this journey of pain yes its possible. Such a heart breaking story. #thanksforhelpingpeoplehealfromtheirhurts.

[@Ifekaeo]

Hmmm! I cried watching this😭😭😭 This is so painful, Emotional but inspiring. All the best IFAN! You are an inspiration. Thanks for telling your story.

[@dikolizaskk5847]

I am also crying not sure whether to close it or what

[@Ifekaeo]

@@dikolizaskk5847 It's better to watch it till the end. Despite the pain it is inspiring

[@veeeeneerkay6098]

You can clearly see “regression” when he recalls all the trauma.

[@yelahtv9121]

Yes, he was living it right before our eyes.🥺🥺🥺

[@Deesplace]

God is your strength Ifeanyi. Felt touched by this interview

[@tokunboade728]

I cried watching him talk about what he went through at that young age… So much pain is bottled up inside of him that he doesn’t even know… He still needs therapy,I hope he accepts therapy to reduce his pain and heal because he is still vulnerable and he thinks he can do this on his own but he still needs so much help and positive support to heal completely

[@Ibhasky2016]

Ifan, your are a survivor and not a victim. You are a star like you said. I must say that this interview was therapeutic but you still need to see a professional therapist. It is not a sign of weakness but it will help you heal further. The sky is your starting point.

[@beautifulbeginning6952]

My heart bleeds for you.You are a star.Keep shinning son.God bless you

[@chidychyk]

My own is, that wicked & evil uncle Obi needs to be arrested; that's if he's still alive, hopefully not preying on anyone... I noticed he dodged the question about him, maybe somewhat still protecting him, somewhat expected & understandable. I also know he said he's over it but we all saw how he broke down and I get it, we always have to respect people's boundaries. He has to come to that decision of seeking professional help himself. I pray he finds peace. Shalom

[@erinmaibiwariokere923]

Hmmmm no words to describe what IFAN had been through from the age of 10, very heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹 for someone to abuse a minor just because the child can’t help himself ??? It beats me honestly. If he had helped this young man by giving him a decent life/future wouldn’t he be proud of the man IFAN has become today! He would be mentioned in his success story. God bless you IFAN for sharing your story, I was very emotional throughout the interview. Chude pls pls pls he needs therapy, he sees you as a mentor pls talk to him to see a therapist so that he can heal properly. He used his talent and work to heal, but I think he needs help, professional help. Love ❤️ and light 💡 IFAN you are indeed a STAR ⭐️

[@oyinade84]

💔🥺So heartbreaking this life is so hard for so many in this life . I can’t imagine the pain he went through all these years .

[@BukolaRY_TV]

This is really sad. I pray he seek for help and get the right people to help him HEAL 🙏

[@kumbiaros216]

This is deep!!! People goes through stuffs... so sorry ifeanyi for all u ve been thru..... Weldon Jude ......I suggest maybe you have a qualified therapist at hand on any of ur shots to support these guys. I'm sending my love❤❤❤❤❤

[@nazerinne]

Wow?!.. This is our Nigeria where there are so many creatives yet so many damaged & broken souls but, our society teaches us to get on with it, move on, keep hustling and gain "accolades" without a "safe space" to share and without judgment. Chude, you are truly a gift to this generation and beyond. You gave Ifan his first "therapy session" without him realising. .. Sometimes therapy for our community comes in the form of friends, family, mentors and even strangers. The most important things are being able to share, not bottling it all up and not letting the trauma define us.

[@juliettsstyleglam]

I am so confused. How is a 10 yr old doing all these. Something is missing in this story. I get the impression this Obi was also in the Nigerian film industry.

[@adaorahi]

Please, can you explain more😮

[@Beckzmama]

I sympathize with him thou. But I am with you on this..

[@thembisaodendaal]

Umhhh thank u Mr Chude for all u do.This was such a sad but inspirational story

[@ubaniblessing]

Tears in my eyes...I agree with everyone who says the guy needs therapy...this is too much please! People are wicked 😭

[@mfongirl]

The wickedness of Bros Obi😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@DivaAfro]

My only suggestion would be to take off the background music. Also, I would love to hear the interviewees speak more BUT I appreciate the delicate subject matters you allow your guests to share

[@yemim8246]

Ifan you're truly a survivor.

[@newsongjoylove9098]

A lot of child neglect, how can a 10 year old decide what was good for him. Leaving from the care of an adult!! Scary!!

[@nnekaokonkoh4112]

Very touching story... the camera man was just moving here and there. It was disturbing my sight .

[@simbaba-jatau9721]

May God ALMIGHTY heal you completely Ifan. You are a star that cannot be dimmed.

[@chiomaekpechi920]

Ify,God hands are on you.Chude you are a blessing,and for the Chidinmas out there,you are a light in a tunnel.

[@sandyblooming]

I am traumatised!!! I wish I can tale a legal action against that good for nothing guy that violated this minor at the time.please Chude, that "brother" whatever can't just go free!!why!!

[@agukhadijah4221]

Imagine the level of respect that man would have earned if he helped that little boy. That is why I don't pity some people when I see them suffering because most times it's karma that has caught up with some of these people you see suffering. I pray God heals his heart and soul,more blessings.

[@ijeomanwichi1242]

I commend him so welll.He never went to school but speaks well.He is a great voice for others.God is on his side and would help him heal.

[@soniaogochukwu6361]

Situations like this bred more gays and lesbians in our society today….this is just sad, I hope he heals completely

[@nnennayanwachukwu3829]

You have made it and that is the most important thing. God will continue to see you through. You need to go to rehab counseling and therapy for healing. Wishing you the best. Do not lose focus. So sad.

[@olufunmiaganga453]

Thank you for the difficult conversations you have.

[@tinawadibia9615]

Poor him, he is going to be needing loads of therapy to get through this!

[@esegrace8838]

This is really powerful Please always check up on him To know how him is god be with him through this

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

This is tough to watch, i have always wondered why great people always suffer greatly before they achieve success....you can name them oprah winfrey, tyler perry Joseph in the bible etc even our own brother Shaggi....it just goes to prove that the law of averages is always at work in all our lifes....it simply says, things would have to get worse before it gets better

[@justinsreviews3738]

heart breaking !!!despite the lack of accuracy in the age he's giving . I mean if the condition back home with his parents was this bad , how then was he at 10 able to afford to buy a cellphone, own a number , that he couldn't use eventually to reach out to the so called marketer who invited him to Lagos??.. ..

[@GraceGodsRoyalDiadem]

It seems you did not listen to the story correctly. Nigeria moved from the days of phone booths and it was much later everyone could afford phones. He never mentioned that he owned a phone but clearly mentioned that the marketer's phone was switched off. Please try and show more empathy to someone who has come on air to say 'his truths'. I am also a molestation(no sex) survivor and could only speak up about it to family after 14years(2021). The person denied it but my cousin also went through same in the house. I wish I had spoken up earlier as it would have helped saved sibling and mother rivalry/strife now . But there was no evidence and it would just have been brushed off as 'can't your brother-in-law be caring again' especially for a quiet person like me. I am just saying let's be sensitive with our comments. Thank you.

[@oboroobagbemi9603]

He called d marketer but his line was not going through. Pls watch nd listen to the video.

[@Eteawan]

This is purely a case of parental neglect. How does a 10 year old boy travel from Enugu to Lagos without the parents knowing?

[@mmesomavictory6058]

You can still feel the anger! 😭🥺 it's palpable!

[@gracenwachukwu8368]

This interview is traumatizing 💔💔😢😢

[@samachema]

Abuse is really horrible. How can I be so successful in a sense and still feel this inadequate about my story.

[@lizbetzee7584]

Who’s gon interview chude??? I’m interested in hearing chude’s story, I know deep down he has a story he has never shared!! I love you chude ,I love how therapeutic your interviews re to this persons!!!! TELL us your story ♥️

[@newsongjoylove9098]

I agree with the comments that he still needs therapy. If he is this emotional. He got jealous now the guy is sleeping with a woman! So much happened because once he was introduced into that kind of lifestyle, he continued!! How is his life now!! This guy needs help Chude. The interview is great but he needs to get back into normal life!!

[@amaratobi811]

Yes I feel the same way. He went through a lot,I am so angry that someone as young as that could go through that much and his parents didnt even care to know if he was alive. He is still healing but I feel he needs therapy but I know he can never be a straight man again because he is gay.

[@realkemiadeyemo]

@@amaratobi811 hmmm! What makes you so sure he can never be a straight man again?

[@ikwouyo5955]

Chude, this young man needs help. Watching this interview was really difficult, there's so much bottled up in him, please encourage him to speak with a therapist.

[@tbabeujah356]

💯 with your comment ifan should pls get a professional help 😢💔💔

[@rachaelnnaemeka]

I honestly think Ifan needs help. It’s good he’s talking about it because that’s a step. That trauma was too much mehnnnn... I’m so proud of him and I hope Chidinma sees what he’s doing and she’s proud too. God bless you Ifan

[@ChefAichaFreeman]

He hasn’t fully healed I feel like he’s just running away from it and using his successes as a getaway. I pray he heals for real

[@charmyni8847]

To make your impact complete, jail that abuser. You are still suffering as a result of his abuse.

[@theodoraokpewho5829]

This is really sad story. But please help him he needs more professional help Chude

[@evablissingevablissing2375]

The story is touching, this ifan behaves like a gay, bros obina transfered the spirit of homosexual to him, Ifan may God heal u

[@TOOO951]

he's gay already. With all his expressions, those are gay attributes. And no one can blame him honestly.

[@julesyarling1227]

C d way he behaves, even his dressing on IG. d way he speaks too. Omo! Like serious gay.

[@oluchigift9769]

The guy is full of emotions. This is a sign that he is yet to heal from those traumatic experiences he went through. He needs a therapist because he hasn't moved on as he made said. Because of his emotions, Chude wasn't totally in control of the interview. Yes he wanted to hear him out but the guest ended up repeating himself over and over again. He messed up the interview with his frequent emotional outbursts. So many questions begging for answers here. His parents separated and he wasn't able to follow either of them, why? Why did he run away from home? After OPC guys, what happened? How many years did you stay with Bros Obi the Barber? At what point in your life did you meet Chude that gave you a rare opportunity to showcase yourself? Where are your parents now? Etcetera etcetera.

[@onyinyeonyema9921]

I think so too. Chude was not in control of this interview. But thank God he played a pivotal role in his life.

[@amaratobi811]

I was about saying the same. I think there should be a part 2 to this interview.

[@otusopeodejayi1367]

It was really hard to watch this.. Really hard.

[@mosunmolafasuyi8625]

Me....I don't even know what to say...was just 😭 crying all through... Life's hard...butt there's light after the tunnel....is his story.

[@blessonblessnomancancurse1619]

I pick many inconsistencies in this story, the story does not add up in many parts. Sorry if you had this aweful abuse, i hope he is getting professional help too.

[@ronnie8913]

I agree with you. Sad story but at 10 he travelled to Enugu. he had a phone? he travelled to Lagos? he had a film story? ..its a sad story but confusing

[@khadigwen]

Same here I found his stories a bit confusing...not really flowing...

[@amaratobi811]

Same here.

[@adaorahi]

@@khadigwen Exactly

[@diy9ja]

Try recalling a traumatizing event you have tried to drown and suppress over the years. The specifics get blurry.

[@munachimgeorge]

This is so horrible... So so horrible. My God

[@yvetteebot302]

But IFAN need a therapist. Help him get one . He need to be heal. Untill you go through sexual abuse, You will not understand the deep hurt this young man is feeling

[@derrygomash8356]

I have been sexually abused multiple times @ 11 and I never spoke about it until year ado after I was 35 when I told my my best friend

[@Cheque17]

Interesting interview, but I feel something doesn't add up....

[@nnekaokonkoh4112]

Why will his parents just abandon him like this??? Even when parents divorce, their child should be their priority !!! This is so heartbreaking!!!

[@kaytunes]

This man needed this to be out....same city but we see her differently

[@winifredokonkwo2329]

I hope the guy overcomes the trauma..he should reconcile with God to find total.peace and eliminate that feeling of guilt he is still having..most people that are abused are damaged psychologically and either become gay/lesbians due to the trauma..Wicked people including child molesters will never go unpunished

[@vouchernetlimited5475]

Oh my God! Ifan needs to get professional help to go through his past pain. The reason his parents are still alive today and his relationship with them seems scared. I pray he heals.

[@angelicakweku5293]

That's why his marriage fell apart. So much garbage/ unhealed wounds in his past. Unfortunately, this is the issue with most broken homes!!!

[@theodoraokpewho5829]

Please God heal him please God he needs help

[@ayebatarijuliapaxagiri2767]

Ifan pls talk about it, open up. Tell ppl close 2u about it ,maybe seek help professionally, get it out of ur mind. It helps with healing.May God help u. I wish u were my friend. How cud any sane parent abandon a 10yr old 4any reason ? Imagine not going 2sch, yet u dey manage 2speak well lik dis. U try my brother. Imagine how hurt he is, evn after all diz years ! Fuck mehn !!

[@onyinyeonyema9921]

Very intelligent unique, strong young man...

[@chimaobiemmanuel4145]

I can't stop crying

[@abigailaladesanmi6793]

This is more like an eye opener to parents and parents to be, if you can't raise a child don't bring dem into d world. This guys still need to see therapist, and I pray God heal his pain because this is alot to bear for a child and now his a man and still feeling the pain.

[@yelahtv9121]

Hmmmmmm.... this guy is messed up🥺 it seems as though people aint get no mercy for mankind, how could you flog a child that you see on the street😫.

[@lotus9259]

My late parents told me, as a child growing up, we always have a choice but may not want to choose that choice. It is sad he has to endure what he did, and I do hope he receives therapy. Him being molested did not make him gay, there must have been some subconscious tendencies there to even agree sleeping with another male from the get go. He expressed his jealousy after discovering Obi resorted to sleeping with a female. My heart bleeds for him, abandoned by useless parents and failed by the other adults around him. I deal with cases as such daily. Please get help and continue living your best life Ifan!

[@AJ-mg6tx]

I pray he heals. Kindly encourage him to talk to a professional

[@CynthiaUmendu]

Oh Ifan I am so sorry you are a Star bro

[@CynthiaUmendu]

Ifan don’t beat yourself up for agreeing to do that to survive you were just 10 it’s not fault please know that, it wasn’t your fault

[@enehesther6597]

Tell him that we all love him plenty....thank God bad people couldnt destroy him...

[@Awake_Africa]

At age ten this grown and articulate am still thinking,........

[@VGTV578]

I like him, he is a sweetheart.

[@dikolizaskk5847]

Yooh this is so sad

[@Jaylove777]

Wow! No words at all

[@angelaeweka397]

How does a 10yrs old child head all the way to lagos with no one accompanying him hey guys am I the only one thinking this is too heavy to understand?I think this guy needs a strong therapeutic help honestly i see him living in a strong childhood trauma he might not know it but he needs help.

[@_theallpurposewoman_]

Some parents are so irresponsible. I see kids less than 10 years selling and begging in traffic in Accra. Every evening they sleep at different parts of the city. It happens so much

[@sochiigboabuchi2018]

The editor 😡 switching cameras is hypnotizing 😵‍💫 us. It’s so distracting Abeg na who edit this video

[@Beckzmama]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@HenryChimereze]

Sorry to say the video edit is bad the jump cut in between shots while speaking isn't working for those of us with glasses.Just an honest feedback from 3:10-4:18 thanks you chude for this interview

[@adaorahi]

I believe that Chude wanted for many people to watch this video. It should’ve been among the members only view, but he obviously left it open for all.

[@Awake_Africa]

No wonder Nigeria is going through a lot,the nation is swallowed in sin of immortality and sodomy

[@ericdave5786]

Chude too need to come out and talk about his own.

[@hardcopysexyvideo7005]

I swear cause he’s gay too

[@TOOO951]

@@hardcopysexyvideo7005 he's gay???😳

[@presleyoguschannel3826]

How could someone molest a child

[@nellykutana]

Rather unfortunate, men go through all this and hardly talk about it. They suffer in silence and turn it on other women because they didn’t receive any psychological treatment to deal with the void created. As a result, they end up liking sex but hating women. It’s time to get the abused men to also speak 🗣 out.

[@estherjohnson7291]

Look here young man! You need the therapy because you are not seeing yourself

[@Awake_Africa]

Hmmm, honestly am worried really do. Finding it turf to learn that Nigeria is this bad and morally rotten. I find it hard to wrap my head round all he said that all these artrocities are in naija. Short of words. That is to say there are several gays in Nigeria than you can imagine

[@A.F.U-A]

No, Ifan. You haven’t moved past it. You’re steeped in it. Get help. Biko.

[@jayan791]

It will not end well for Bros OBI and all other useless Bros in this world. Can you imagine Bros obi that can give birth to young IFAN. This world is wicked. I thank God for your life IFAN you have paid a lot of price with all the obstacles/challenges in your journey and you are now fulfilling destiny. I hope you seek therapy so that you can truly heal and love yourself

[@clarandlovu3280]

This guy needs help