Arranged marriages in India - First the wedding, then the love

For devout Indians, real life begins with marriage. Weddings follow classical Hindu rituals and usually last a whole week. Moreover, an Indian wedding is a true family affair: it is not for the groom to decide who will be his bride, but for the entire family clan. Before each wedding, there is a long selection process and each other's families are meticulously analyzed to determine their compatibility. Only rarely have the bride and groom even seen each other before the wedding. Arpit and Ankita were lucky: Their parents gave them time to get to know each other better before their wedding. But their marriage is and will remain arranged.
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[@Raptor-yr4ob]

My father showed me the definition of marriage in Black's Law Dictionary. It said, “Marriage is the legal union of a man and woman.” Then he asked me, “Where does it say love?” That really helped awaken my mind in my early 20’s.

[@senoradelvita]

Lol! Your father sounds like a lawyer😂😂😂😂

[@imawarrior4527]

😂 lol then why your father cares about isn't it love?

[@preety554]

Where does it say about family union??

[@bhivanshisawriya6017]

Lucky u got father like him❤❤

[@fionagregg3511]

I had an indian boyfriend many years ago and what struck me as very unfair was the fact that he travelled abroad and had many sexual partners but insisted that he would eventually return to India for an arranged marriage with a virgin.

[@gravityclarity]

It's disgusting. A lot of Indian men don't respect women. And the culture is so misogynistic.

[@trishya501]

As an Indian woman, I agree this is a sad reality with most men here.

[@Cristina-xo9kw]

Did you see how the narrator mentioned that it is tradition for the Hindu Bride enters a marriage a virgin that is a religious and a must…. Like why only the bride ?

[@meco4068]

I had the same issue with a twist...I'm male, and my boyfriend went back to Pakistan and married. He didn't see a problem with any of this and even felt that he and I should continue our relationship and he would eventually bring his wife to Canada, but living a split life wasn't an issue for him. His wife doesn't need to k ow - it was none of her business,he said. I told the girl he was arranged to marry! She needed to know 🤷‍♀️

[@meco4068]

@@Cristina-xo9kw , they did mention that the male should also be a virgin and that even the Hindu God, Lord Shiva, had to wait till marriage to engage in any sexual contact with his wife!

[@91rummy]

There are different types even in arranged marriages in India. In South of India, bride and groom both decide who they want to marry after the parents have presented options to them. Some are not consulted and decision taken by parents.. Delhi is not the whole of India..

[@beavadakkoot]

Exactly! My fiance is keralite but we are having a love marriage, he didn't want an arranged marriage

[@graysonwalker]

@@beavadakkoot his parents will treat you awful...non acceptance

[@Tea-ei1cl]

@@graysonwalker My own cousin was treated bad by her parents initially and after 5 years, they understood it's not worth it to live like this and now they spend atleast an hour with their grandchildren lol

[@beavadakkoot]

@@graysonwalker no they don't, they treat me better and with more love than my own. We are all Christians, that makes a huge difference🥰

[@beavadakkoot]

@adolft_official nope, we are both traditional Christians aka catholics and have an amazing relationship. His parents are like my own, I love them so much. They treat me more like their daughter than my own father. It's a huge blessing from God 🙏🙏

[@Lee-jc1ob]

I know an India friend. He did not mind that his marriage will arranged by his family, and he did married a girl chosen by his parents. But many years later, he divorced, as he described they found incompatible although both have similar social background and university education. After that he found someone and got married again, this time seems right.

[@navneethkrishnan3412]

I also know many Americans, who went for love marriages, and are divorced..😂😂

[@angiedoe597]

That’s one anecdotal case, there are many Indians who have arranged marriages & have perfectly good, stable, loving marriages too. If it weren’t so, most of the new generation wouldn’t have opted for arranged marriages. There are also many cases of people dating for years, choosing their own spouse & marriage still turning unhappy & in divorce. It’s also dependent on the person the,selves, & their own abilities to adjust with the other person. Self select or arranged, any marriage can be happy or unhappy depending on the people in it.

[@navneethkrishnan3412]

@@angiedoe597 💯💯👏🏻

[@irmakalember9403]

Lots of them are not happy period.

[@stampmaker9384]

@@angiedoe597 We are all human and we all make mistakes. - as long as the in-laws and so called "good friends" don't interfere most marriages will last very long in my opinion.

[@Truthseeker371]

The old wise women in Japan says love doesn't last forever, but make sure you have your own income. So true. Financial independence and spiritual independence go hand in hand.

[@Lee-jc1ob]

Marriage is considered an act of union between families, not an act of love between two. The two types of union sometimes can go along with each other, sometimes go conflict.

[@973bge7]

I would say the act of union and love together because the act of union also encompasses the act of trust and love between two. It also encompasses the act of trust and love to parents by their children. In western modern and posts modern post christian societies these values are gone.

[@jerrymathura5807]

A married is an holy ritual in Hinduism before that they go to a astrologer to now if it's o.k.

[@graysonwalker]

@@jerrymathura5807 exactly

[@joshuanun8192]

Then educate your kids and wait for the arranged marriage but not date around before.

[@preety554]

@@joshuanun8192 well said 🤣🤣 Most of the indians are highly diplomatic !! Matlab karna bhi h and against bhi h 🤣

[@TheKing-og8br]

In India arranged marriage is kind of like dating, except you marry. You get to choose your girl or boy you like. Lot of Westerners think of it as forced marriage where it is a totally different concept.

[@amandab8433]

My sons fiance is first generation here in the US. Her family moved to California from India when she was two. The parents have an arranged marriage, and are quite happy. Though they have decided, going against family tradition, to not have their own children do the same. My son (African American) and his fiance met in college (he's an engineer at Google now, and she's in Med School) , and her family has taken him in as a son. They just celebrated their six year anniversary of being together. The older extended family members are absolutely against their relationship, because he's not from India, and also they want to keep the family tradition of arranged marriage. The younger generation have accepted him with open arms. My family has done the same for her. We absolutely adore and love her too.

[@s.shanmugasundaram8869]

@@amandab8433 That is good to hear, I hope me and my partner be like her parents some day :)

[@rbaet3465]

Choosing a life partner based on a few meetings doesn't really sound like their genuine choice. If the decision is made hastily without considering the whole picture, it doesn't truly reflect a well-thought-out choice, in my opinion

[@preety554]

@@rbaet3465 your opinion is right . Don't worry indian mindset are also changing ....

[@Avinashm7]

Some are forced or choice because of caste financial

[@prachethakikkeri1384]

Firstly, Hinduism places a strong emphasis on individual autonomy and free will. The idea of karma, which is central to Hindu philosophy, suggests that individuals are responsible for their own actions and their own destinies. Therefore, it is believed that every person should be allowed to make their own choices, including the choice of whom to marry. Arranged marriages, on the other hand, often involve coercion or pressure from family members or other external factors, which can undermine the individual's free will. Secondly, Hinduism places great importance on the concept of dharma, which can be loosely translated as "duty" or "righteousness". According to Hindu beliefs, individuals have a duty to fulfill their social and familial obligations, but this duty should not come at the expense of their own happiness or well-being. Arranged marriages, which often prioritize family obligations and social status over individual happiness and compatibility, can be seen as a violation of this principle. Thirdly, Hinduism is a religion that celebrates love, devotion, and spiritual connection. The concept of bhakti, or devotional love, is central to Hindu worship, and it is believed that true love and devotion can lead to a deep and meaningful connection with the divine. Arranged marriages, which are often based on practical considerations such as social status or financial stability, can undermine this ideal and rob individuals of the opportunity to experience true love and connection. Lastly, Hinduism values diversity and individuality, and recognizes that every individual is unique and has their own strengths, weaknesses, and preferences. Arranged marriages, which often involve matching individuals based on external factors such as caste, can perpetuate harmful stereotypes and social hierarchies, and can lead to discrimination and prejudice against certain groups. In conclusion, Hinduism is a religion that celebrates individual autonomy, free will, and spiritual connection, and it is therefore not compatible with the practice of arranged marriages. By encouraging individuals to make their own choices, based on their own preferences and desires, Hinduism promotes healthy and fulfilling relationships that are based on mutual respect, love, and spiritual connection

[@Skatejock21]

Its good that he recognizes that he was blessed to get to know her and them to meet prior to the wedding.

[@preety554]

Seeing the huge amount of money investment and arrangements no one will break off the marriage doesn't matters you meet that person or not before prior to your wedding!! Lol

[@churchkimber6401]

I unfortunately fell in love with an Indian man and now he is being tossed into an arranged marriage. We been together for 5 years, the pain that is has on me is beyond belief. He told his mother and she didn't speak to him for a month! She was so angry. He tends to listen to what she says alot except for the fact we had a whole relationship for 5 years. Its un fair to me and un fair to his new match that he is not a virgin. I am just so torn. I hope that he is happy with the choice he made though.

[@ranjitamalakar2297]

Not only this !! I'm indian and I also faced lots of cracks from the boy family !! Now I'm dating Uk guy and feeling relaxed now !!

[@joshuanun8192]

This is exactly why we need to teach our kids to stay away from Indian regarding romantic relationships I am so sorry to hear that for your situation. Your boy friend is selfish and dated you such a long time knowing he will never be able to get married you.

[@joshuanun8192]

​​​​@@ranjitamalakar2297 but you will get married an Indian guy anyway. Please leave the uk guy alone. He might think he can get married you. Do not mislead him. Tell him that you can date him but not be able to get married ever.

[@almara90]

But to be honest these men know they will end up in an arranged marriage because the alternative is that they are disowned. So it’s very unfair for them to drag a woman’s heart and lead them on with no intention of a future with them. You are lucky you don’t have a child together, which happens sometimes and they still go back home to have an arranged marriage.

[@badzgh]

Had the same situation , we're almost 10 years however his parents asked him to marry . At first he introduced me to his family that he wants to marry me, unfortunately his parents chooses someone for him and his mother was having drama to have a heart attack everytime he discussed about me . One day I was shocked when my boyfriend told me that we will not be able to continue our relationship because his mother is against our relationship . Actually, his father was just neutral . He left me past 2021. Until now , my ex- boyfriend is still single because the girl that he supposed marry rejected the marrisge proposal because she found out that he has previous relationship with me .

[@abhasingh2141]

Indian marriages are based on orthodox selfish reasons, here marriages are based on families , caste , horoscopes, monetary status ,based on selfish reasons, at the cost of sacrifice of happiness of the two people. The two people who show-off happiness while extremely uncomfortable with each other.

[@ranjitamalakar2297]

Omg!! You have spelled the deep root cause of indian society !! Heads off dude!! Finally I got a sensible comments !! Idk why most of us indians always appreciate everything we do !! Atleast they should learn to accept their mistakes or faults!! There are so many faults western countries has but also there are many things they are too good than us !!

[@anumayashinwong24]

Well said ✨

[@av1421]

arranged is not "forced". It is 1 year of dating & approving. The documentary is misleading!

[@silverstarlight9395]

1 year is not enough to know a person inside out. You have to live with a person to actually know them.

[@nikhiltiwari6923]

@@silverstarlight9395 It's fine. If they don't get along, they can get divorced. Don't worry.

[@msdolly6101981]

​@@silverstarlight9395 then why do live in partners separate?

[@yoongi-fied1173]

I’m surprised to see how ignorant many people are. Please understand that the definition of arranged marriages have changed drastically over the years. At least from the part of India I come from, people meet through different matrimonial sites..they chat with various people and finally once they feel the bond with one of them, they inform their parents to meet in person. And no the marriage is not rushed especially nowadays both parties spend more than one year to get to know each other…Only after that they get married

[@user-mv3sz9gk1d]

That's weird I also come from u.p and here marriages r forced ,and no meeting

[@omprakashbiswas3254]

@@user-mv3sz9gk1d that might be true in village and slums

[@nikhiltiwari6923]

@@user-mv3sz9gk1d No meeting? That's some weird shit coz my friend from Rajasthan married a UPite girl, intercaste. It was a love marriage. Boys parents were not agreed but now they are fine. My cousin married a Christian from Assam, can you imagine? We are Brahmins. But we cherished the couple & blessed them. You must be living in some stone age UP.

[@user-mv3sz9gk1d]

@@nikhiltiwari6923 well I must say ur case is different, or rare

[@user-mv3sz9gk1d]

@@omprakashbiswas3254 dating being taboo in india proves the obvious even it's not allowed in ur high society too:)

[@ninjanana8730]

I am sure this seems a far fetched situation to most of us but lets face it....do we ever know the person we married? I was 19 when I met my husband on a blind date and married 3 months later.We have been married 50+ years but still have problems with communication and under-standing.No way is optimal.

[@S__K-yo9es]

and are you happy?

[@hajaramohammed9498]

Not how long ma,but how well

[@cynthiadavid5282]

Still today alot of children agree to the marriages being arranged by the parents as out of love and devotion to the parents alot of indians or jewish have dating sites now but i dont citicize their ways it doesnt apply to me what ever makes them happy they put in gods hands

[@ninjanana8730]

@@hajaramohammed9498 As well as most that do not last near as long.

[@s.shanmugasundaram8869]

But the difference is you had a lot less pressure culturally or from the family to take it, than say a typical 25 year old indian. Later on if you regret it and wanna separate/divorce you will have a lot easier time socially for it as well. Indians have a hard time grasping the concept of “boundaries” with family members and emotional abuse, and literal manipulation that they think arranged marriages are “choices”

[@ellequartz7969]

I have a guy and we've been together for 3yrs. I just met him in a dating app. He's 26 yo and now getting married who he just met once for arrange marriage. He told me it was fine for marriage since it's the culture of India and both parties agree, not just him but the whole clan.

[@vrinda5303]

He's an idiot and a hypocrite.

[@Nina-oi1qk]

Let's not equate arranged marriage with forced marriage ; this bride knows very well that if she disliked the groom, she could tell her parents and they would not force her. Most modern Indian families like this one, where bride and groom are educated will not force anyone. She herself said it took her a year to decide and they talked and met often. These days the families basically perform the introduction, the decision to marry is the bride and groom's.

[@LovingRiv]

I never knew this, I thought it was forced just like in Afghanistan so this was eye opening and I love that it isn’t forced one bit, quite the opposite

[@le7062]

The decision may be the bride and the groom's but how they live their lives after also is dictated by the in laws and the family. in some families you don't have anything of your own. it is all communal. only those who have gone through this will understand the torture.

[@_someone_somewhere]

It's indirectly forced if you think about it

[@michelleferrero8206]

I would rather be an Old Maid.

[@mihaelaclaudiap..2]

'She will then belong to the groom's family' almost like she is an object! But hey, if that's their culture fair enough. I am happy to have freedom of choice. xx

[@Sandeep-yh4bz]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 now i understand why west people are fool in this matter.

[@AnanyaMedvedeva]

Why 'almost' like an object? Literally like a commodity

[@Sandeep-yh4bz]

Indian sanatani marriage didn't start with fucking and then marrying . Thats why most of asylum are in west/Europe . Most of children didn't know there Father or Mother name . Elders die in old age home without love , care , support from there own children. While in india majority of couples live together till death with there childrens . And provide care and support for needy one. They didn't swap there partner only for sex and money. Instead according to sanatan dharma they believe that this bond last longer till 7 re- birth cycles.

[@louniece1650]

@@Sandeep-yh4bz What foolishness are you on about??? 🙄

[@Sandeep-yh4bz]

@@louniece1650 i am just telling those real truth which i saw closely .

[@shivanijoshi9827]

This is not true....modern Indians do not marry like what is shown.......people get to know each other before marriage and even parents know about it.....you meet someone through your family but full freedom is given to both the girl and the boy to reject each other if they dont find each other compatible.....the rather prevalent custom nowadays is love marriage that is arranged....

[@silverstarlight9395]

When you say 'get to know each other' what exactly do you mean? Do they live together for years? Do they apply for a mortgage together? Do they spend a lot of time with each other behind closed doors?

[@kaustubhraizada]

@@silverstarlight9395 sex is not the only thing to know each other 🤣🤣 western countries just think about sex , there are many things like aspirations, education, personality, finance , family history , bad habits etc

[@MissKashira]

It sounds like the couple shown dated for a year before agreeing to marry, so how is it different from what you're describing?

[@gravityclarity]

@@silverstarlight9395 no they don't. Lol. Parents want to rush their children into arranged marriage and families don't give you 3 to 4 years to get to know the person. They act like you have an expiration date as to what age you should be married by. A lot of people are pressured by their families into arranged marriage. It doesn't matter what people like to call it, it's still coercion.

[@silverstarlight9395]

@@kaustubhraizada I never mentioned sex in my question. But in response to your question, yes, sexual compatibility is very very important for a couple. Sexual incompatibility can lead to a lot of problems later in life. It leads to low satisfaction, a blame culture, cheating, problems with having children and a very poor quality of marriage.

[@allforjak8074]

In the protestant religion sex before marriage is not allowed either. I don't understand why the narrator stated otherwise. Do young people have sex before marriage? Yes, but it is not ordained in any way by the protestant church. Abstinence is taught and supposed to be observed until marriage.

[@Mutasis_Mutandis]

I caught that too and made a comment above. Scripture says to Flee fornication.

[@Mutasis_Mutandis]

I caught that too and made a comment above. Scripture says to Flee fornication.

[@LaRoche_]

Christian societies don't held any social stigma to having sex before marriage. So even if on the paper it is prohibited, no one cares. In the rest of the world young women cannot just go out and live their best life without facing the social repercussions. No man wants to commit to a woman who had many partners throughout her 20s.

[@shellbell313]

As a woman, I am so grateful to not come from this kind of culture. This seems incredibly oppressive.

[@ilenamutis2245]

Yes

[@harithap1778]

@@ilenamutis2245 yes it is and you are lucky.

[@ilenamutis2245]

@@harithap1778 I know. 🌺

[@tintunbirha]

Yes, you are right. Better to stick to your use and throw each other culture. That's where happiness is.

[@shellbell313]

@shivam um…not in the thumbnail, but I actually watched the video 🙄

[@abhasingh2141]

Indian marriages are more of like business deals . I personally know so many people who are seeking happiness outside of their marriage . Selfish families make their children suffer by making them marry at young age before 30 , it’s easy to convince them when young , but later on they just suffer with frustration in a marriage

[@le7062]

there is nothing wrong with getting married before 30. Infact, biologically that is better. But the problem is the cultural, societal, and family pressure to a certain expectations even after marriage. They won't leave you alone. constant meddling

[@mercedesbenz3751]

So you wanna get married at 40?

[@abhasingh2141]

@@mercedesbenz3751 I am 44 and unmarried

[@gravityclarity]

Grown men and women should do what they feel is best for them. A lot of people are pressured by their parents to have an arranged marriage. So they're really coerced into it, which really isn't exactly a free choice. Traditionally, in Desi culture, you do not get married because you love the person. They don't consider that. It's more like a business deal. It's mainly about coming from the same background whether it be religion, language, skin color, class, caste, etc. Some people are lucky to actually fall in love with the person they had an arranged marriage with. But for others, love never develops. And it's supposed to be a lifelong commitment. If you divorce, it brings shame on your family. So many stay in unhappy marriages because they don't want to disappoint their families. It seems like a lot of them think love is something to be looked down on and discouraged. It seems like they think divorce is the worst thing in the world. Just because you stayed married doesn't mean you have a healthy or successful marriage. I think it's better to take your time truly getting to know a person for a few years before marrying them. If you get married after knowing someone for a mere few months, you may realize too late that you're with the wrong person. Then what? You're just supposed to stay married and force a relationship that brings no one involved any happiness? It's even worse if you bring children into that situation. It messes them up too. Bottom line is, make your own decisions. And if it doesn't work out, at least you can be happy knowing that you lived for yourself and made your own choices without any regrets. I think that's better than living an unhappy life of regret.

[@hemiltongrace6699]

That's Western mentality where as an adult you have a right to CHOOSE. In Eastern cultures, it simply doesn't apply. There is no free will. You are simply not allowed to marry a person you love IF your parents don't approve. There is no going around it. Entire family disowned you if you marry who you LOVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART that parents didn't agree to. It just how it works. In countries where there is ARRANGED marriage there is simply NO CHOICE to marry who you LOVE without parents AGREEING. They disown their grown sons and daughters for marrying who their parents didn't approve of and agree on. End of story. No free will. If parents DON'T AGREE that means you must SPIT on a person you love and want to marry and listen to mommy and daddy like a little kid.

[@gravityclarity]

@@hemiltongrace6699 it's sad. It's just being a slave to parents' wishes. If they truly loved their kids, they would allow them to choose who they love, marry, and procreate with. I'd rather be disowned and find people who truly love me and who will stand by me. It's better than being miserable your whole life married to someone you don't even like.

[@TheKing-og8br]

@@gravityclarity that's totally wrong, arranged is not forced marriage. He is talking about forced marriage. India has arranged marriage where both parties agree to marry each other. ONLY in rarely I hear Indians forced into marriage....

[@gravityclarity]

@@TheKing-og8br a lot of Indians are pressured into arranged marriages by their parents. So they may choose it. But it's often because if they don't, they face being disowned or shamed. So it's often more of an ultimatum. Parents put too much pressure on their kids and are really adamant about their kids following their tradition. Maybe some people choose it. But I think more younger people prefer to find someone on their own rather than someone their parents insist on. It's interesting to me that's it's never an Indian woman going this hard for arranged marriage. Every time, it's a guy. Hmmm.🤔

[@nikhiltiwari6923]

@@gravityclarity Clearly see why the Indian you dated left you. Any family oriented guy would leave women like you. You should only marry a woman. Men you should have for fun. That would keep you independent.

[@harveyking5038]

i had an arranged marriage. we liked the look of each other but no attraction, so it's been a terrible 13 years of marriage, 2 kids but no romance and love between us. no sex life of course. thats life, looking to get a divorce in later yrs

[@AnanyaMedvedeva]

When you don't take your own decisions and make a choice that God has given you, you end up living your life in sufferings, trying to please anyone else but not yourself. What kind of life is it?

[@harveyking5038]

@@AnanyaMedvedeva no shit

[@kimmichaud4064]

My boyfriend was the same he was in a miserable arranged marriage until his kids grew up then he divorced

[@harveyking5038]

@@kimmichaud4064 did he become your boyfriend after his divorce?

[@kimmichaud4064]

@@harveyking5038 yes we met about three years after he got divorced I did not know him when he was married

[@markstevens797]

He should stand up for her and let her know that he has her back no matter what

[@baphomethere130]

According to Hindu culture women should not have sex before marriage but doesn't say anything or force men to do the same. Shouldn't the society ask men too if men are virgin too before marriage or does this only apply to men

[@navneethkrishnan3412]

Not just in Hindu culture. Even Christianity and Islam says a big no to pre-marital sex.. And answering your question, Yes, even men too must be asked if they're virgin, and that's happening today. I myself know a few girls who rejected men when they found out the men's virginity status. But thousands and thousands of years back, that wasn't the case, because polygamy was prevalent. So ofc, a man who marries 2nd or 3rd time won't be a virgin..

[@misha5600]

Source?

[@gravityclarity]

Well the culture is misogynistic. Men are treated better than women. Men can go around sleeping with a bunch of women, but women are supposed to be "pure." It's a bunch of BS. Who are all the men supposed to be having sex with, then? Themselves?

[@Thunder-kw8qn]

Are you mad?Hinduism advises to follow strict brahmacharya for both male and female. After a certain age get married and build family,where did you find that men are allowed to have sex before marriage

[@simpletasty7809]

@SharkAttack This only applies to Muslims.

[@carmendelabellemotte7865]

Lol as a Westerner I believed in this lie of love and happiness ...they may not have this but at least they are not alone...here we are bondless

[@carolegibbs8856]

???

[@Shaitan-K.Pillay]

Love is not a lie. You love yourself, don't you? It is harder to find other people who truly love you the way you love them, but why should that be the only reason for happiness. Ultimately, unless your basic needs are not being fulfilled, it is not that hard to be happy. It really is in the mindset.

[@theabhishekmondal]

*That's why Divorce rate in India 1% and in West 50%* *Cry west*

[@msdolly6101981]

​@@theabhishekmondal it's because divorce is still frowned upon in Indian society. Most women are not financially independent and our legal system is not easy

[@4kassis]

a little strange to blur out half of the sculptures...who exactly would be scandalized?

[@anitachoudhry8764]

Dont know which India you are talking about! Now a days live in relationships before marriage, in India are becoming quite common!

[@trishya501]

Then u live in an India of which majority of people are not part of. India is not just limited to few metro cities and even if you only look at them live in relationships aren't that common.

[@rahuldahoob4513]

Liar

[@Cristina-xo9kw]

No now a days there’s bio data so it’s like online dating before the marriage or getting to know the person before marrying them. Even then it’s limited time before you have to marry them

[@andreamessiasgomes7118]

@@rahuldahoob4513 what????

[@ayushdhingra855]

People share their own life experience

[@AnanyaMedvedeva]

Well it's like playing a Russian roulette. Never know what you are gonna get. I suppose Indians like the element of surprise of the biggest scale imaginable.

[@saisha8565]

According to me there are 3 kinds of marriages 1) love marriage 2) Arranged marriage & 3) Forced marriage ( which is bad & need to be reported) . People always tend to get confused between arranged & forced marriages. One of the Top rule for healthy marriage / relationship (any above ) instead of brainstorming on wedding bash plans or pre -post shoots ....shoot your EGOs and invest time in figuring it out pro's & con's about one selves by respecting each others dreams & beliefs. Life is not all about lavish wedding, surprise / expensive gifts, high expectations.... earn yourself and spend together with your own limits rather than putting parents life at stake. Another beautiful rule of marriage is only GIVING (love respect, support & sacrifice) rather than TAKING.

[@alwayshopeful7587]

soo true .arranged marriage are mostly consensual. partners can meet to see if they like each other or not .mostly arranged marriages last longer I guess.

[@vitaminprotein7786]

@@alwayshopeful7587 Yes but it’s a cultural value you can’t find love in a person whom you met 4 to 5 times before marriage because your parents thinks they are right person for you so best thing to do is date for a few years before marriage

[@navneethkrishnan3412]

@@vitaminprotein7786 Date for a few years, and if it's not working, then reject it, right? And then go for someone else and reject? In simple terms, just use-and-throw. And even such couples who date for years and then get married, even they end up getting a divorce, because after marriage, things just change. When you date, you just love blindly and get fooled.

[@subham99vlog]

@@navneethkrishnan3412 but still love marriage gives u more experiences and maturity coz at the end it's ur choice and if marriage failed then u learn that it's ur mistake and I learn from ur mistakes without any excuses while in Arranged marriage u will always gv excuses that it's my family choice not mine !!! Learn to be Independent and self choice coz u r not kid anymore !!! And what's the prblm is u love anyone but ur parents don't agree for ur marriges?? Don't u find stupid and disrespectful??

[@navneethkrishnan3412]

@@subham99vlog Fine, if you love someone, go for it, nobody's stopping you. But that doesn't mean arranged marriage would be failure. U choose arranged or love marriage, depending on your circumstances and choice, but they're just 2 different roads taking you to the same destination. Nothing like, this is only correct and the other one is wrong. It's all based on your choice..

[@memyself870]

Even love marriages break up.......my mom and dad had arranged marriage......they are still together sin 30 yrs...in short it's about people and not arranged or love ...... arranged marriage in India means both after knowing eachother gives consent to marry......and not a forceful marriage

[@riyaray1006]

Marriage be it love or arrange never ever gives guarantee of a person behaviour in future. And in India arrange and love marriage both happens. And arrange marriage are more prefered as matching the social status as its union of 2 families. Arrange marriage also girl meets discuss with many boys before choosing someone n vice versa. Not like one they met n forced to marry. That used to happen in old ancient India not now

[@ellencooper2199]

if males are having sex before marriage and females are not whom are the men having sex with?????????

[@silverstarlight9395]

Married women

[@sharronmussett2507]

My thoughts exactly!!!, who are they sleeping with?

[@bunnyharish9191]

according to our culture you are a boy or girl you should remain virgin until gets married but some people cheat their partner they do sex with some other before marriage it's not acceptable. if girl knows boy extra marital affairs she will have right to cancel her marriage.

[@mercedesbenz3751]

s*x before marriage is not allowed for both males and females. This documentary is somewhat misleading.

[@ashakuldip1657]

@@sharronmussett2507 Western grirl friends.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

When you choose your own partner what do you do? You date him/her and meet him/her a few times, maybe some months. He/ she is on her best behaviour and all spruced up. Unless you live with a person day in and day out you don't get to know the person. So choosing your own partner and arranged marriage is almost the same. If you marry a person after living with him/ her and finding out he/ she is compatible then it is different. But to me this sounds just as distasteful and disastrous(to some people) as deciding your life partner in an arranged marriage. You can't live with series of people and award the prize of marriage to the winner can you? So arranged or otherwise the important thing is a life partner should be of your choice and your decision.

[@jenniferd6069]

Are you deluded? It’s not the same whatsoever. When we meet someone we usually get to know them over a few years, not months, I lived with my now husband for 3 years before he proposed, now married for 30 years.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

@@jenniferd6069 Well as I said and if you had read my post properly you will get to know a person if you live with a person. But how many will you live with? You live with one person for sometime you find you are incompatible and break up and go live with another person. Are you playing musical chairs in relationship? BTW I was talking about Indian arranged and love marriages cos though live in relationships have become more common now in India but they still are not the norm at all.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

@SharkAttack I had an arranged marriage. I wanted an arranged marriage. My sisters had love marriages. But I was clear. I told my parents: Please do all the grunt work and I will have the veto power.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

@SharkAttack I did not meet him cos he was working in Delhi and I was in another city. But we had long chats so I was quite comfortable with him. He was also very patient and understanding and that helps.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

@SharkAttack Yes, Western societies do have a form of arranged marriages some of them are business deals. My point is there is huge difference between Arranged and Forced Marriage. I was not coerced and my opinion was most important. I knew I was not the sort who can fall in love or search for her own partner. I am just not built like that. If arranged marriage had not been an option I think I would never have got married. I am an introvert and love books and my own company best. I am not shy and if you put me in a party I will not hide in corner but given a choice I would rather be alone. So Indian marriages are perfect for me.

[@vidhyasagarhv]

Simple thing "Arranged Marriages are not Forced Marriages"

[@TheOrangeGrove]

Even in the Church I was brought up in, it was encouraged to marry someone else in the church and matchmaking was always going on and not uncommon for cousins- usually 2nd cousins or cousins from each side of the family to marry...so currently I am related to cousins from both sides of family who married each other...if we have a family reunion..we are all related and only need one family reunion as we are all related.

[@travelsphereuk-7090]

This is not only in India, same in Bangladesh & Pakistan aswell.

[@inavanmourik9021]

Sri Lanka also

[@navneethkrishnan3412]

Middle East, and Africa also. People think there are only two types of culture- a beautiful one of America, and a shitty one of India

[@smollilbean]

Saara subcontinent hi barbaad hai.

[@RevancedYou4]

😂😂😂​@@smollilbean

[@gy6g4f47]

This is not how majority of Indians get married parents do play an important role but bride and groom know each other quite well before getting married . They go on dates hang out together even as an Indian i cannot marry a unknown person just coz my parents want me to do so we are given complete liberty to choose who we wanna marry .

[@sakshigurjar8654]

I live in India so I know the truth !! So called modern Indian cool parents 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Directly or indirectly these type of marriages r also called forced marriage (emotional blackmail +mental pressure)!!

[@gy6g4f47]

@@sakshigurjar8654 well everybody has different opinion and 1.3 billion people cannot have same culture and family values

[@amberice7383]

Having to marry someone you don't know seems so gross to me. 🤮🤮🤮

[@kaviramgoolam5315]

They knew each other before...and yes u should know a person before marriage...marrying blindly is no sense at all..some indian families do this an is wrong too

[@justicepower1255]

Super gross🤮🤮🤮

[@PodlejskiGame9]

F

[@mercedesbenz3751]

Well, Having multiple sex relationships before and even after marriages and then still divorcing your partner despite having love marriages is so gross for me as well.

[@Dianeayr]

Would this actually work, I am interested to know how happy these women are in their marriages? This is totally alien to the west!

[@kaviramgoolam5315]

Wasnt alien up to 19th century. Research. An much higher successful marriage rates are arranged..

[@AnanyaMedvedeva]

Not everything comes from British colonialism . Yes, it took place, but before that don't forget the influence of Islam which is huge in India. India is more islamised and Conservative in a Muslim way than some Islamic countries. They forgot real Hinduism

[@alwayshopeful7587]

and what is Hinduism. fucking around with random dudes or girls to find the perfect one .

[@anisasajid6437]

🙄

[@Cristina-xo9kw]

What is real Hinduism? India is majority Hindu, Hindu rulers everything.. Hindus are conservative too. There’s no way your blaming Islamic people for Hindu traditions.

[@blxckwidoww]

you're kidding me 🤣stop blaming islam for your hindu traditions, i'm muslim and we certainly don't do all this bs am seeing in this video if anything islam would have taught you guys not to marry your daughters when they get their first period, maybe go and actually learn about your own goddamn religion rather than blaming it on islam you illiterate cow dung

[@nikhiltiwari6923]

Yes, the brits taught us English,Culture, Civility & now they will teach us real Hinduism. 🤣

[@empresszoe9351]

If I were Indian I'd like and arranged marriage. I just have to meet the guy and maybe see if we are compatible and if we want the same things in life. If that's a a match and I like him that's good for me. Thing is I've seen many love marriages and seldom do those end well. Lol I'm actually married and I feel my husband and I have an arrange marriage of some sorts. Only thing is we were chosen by our ancestors. We were just drawn to each other. Very happy to stay together and we have the same values. We just click man and that came without butterflies like most romantic relationships are first based on.

[@BLAIRWILLOWSS]

That's how it is nowadays & other parts of India

[@user2-lx1xl]

These kind of marriages are common in MIDDLE EAST as well as entire SOUTH ASIA.

[@niveditasingh6796]

Too biased. Can't believe this was uploaded 2 months ago...with arabic background music and the whole propaganda speech. Feels the video was made 30 years back.

[@priyasahu4521]

Agreed. I was thinking the same while watching the documentary.

[@ayushdhingra855]

Western channel

[@vijayseethepalli2247]

It’s not true that you’ll love a stranger if you get married to that person. In India parents teach and expect kids not to love. This continues after marriage.

[@tatyanahinds891]

Only men are allowed to have sex outside of marriage? With who??? The double standards never make sense 😭

[@MM-lr5hv]

Marriage first then tortures for the Dowry …

[@divya7856]

So true

[@ayushdhingra855]

All marriage are not like this

[@chandraprabhubirnale4495]

This so typical western projection of Indian weddings😅. It’s not that the bride & groom has no say in wedding. Only if they agree then the wedding date is decided. Such a propoganda video.

[@ayushdhingra855]

Correct.

[@katiempojer]

I remember my cousins Hindu ceremony it was so colorful!

[@sakshigurjar8654]

In india , there is called an updated version of forced marriage in replace of fully forced marriage:))

[@parusahu6961]

I think you had a bad marriage. So don't exagerate it. We are fine with arranged marriage where both families are helping us.

[@user-ns6kv7mk3m]

We Indians do have a say if we agree on our parents choice or not it's not forced . Many Indians do love marriage and those who don't they decide among one of the proposals their parents find based on their son/daughter characteristics matched with the other. Yes we need more opening but it's not something forced which ppl wrongly depict.

[@niveditasingh6796]

The girl has no say😆😆that's bullshit. Parents give u options to choose and date and then marry. In my circle i have seen girls rejecting some 10 guys before finally saying yes for some guy after dating.

[@andreamessiasgomes7118]

That is in Modern India , it should not even be called arrange, arranged means done by parents without the one knowing abt it

[@ayushdhingra855]

Yes

[@monicanath4859]

The groom never opened up about the extent of his affairs before marriage. I wish them both the best!

[@ranirathi3379]

he never will. coz yes it is misogynistic. he can have PASTS. she can't, else she's a slut fit for streets.

[@ujjwalyadav3783]

​@@ranirathi3379 yep she will.

[@juanitarichards1074]

I married a Hindu and he sure wasn't a virgin.....most of the men aren't when they marry. Only a few I knew who were good boys and obedient to their parents stayed virgins until their arranged marriages - and they never had time for affairs and girlfriends anyway as they worked long hours to help support their parents and contribute to the family finances. They never spent a single night away from home until their marriage. I knew some Hindu men who had secret girlfriends before their arranged marriages came up and they still secretly saw those girlfriends after their marriage....many had affairs and mistresses. One of my sister in laws husband abandoned her with a baby son to run off with a Muslim woman and he never came back. She got a divorce and her family arranged a marriage for her with a widowed cousin.

[@irmakalember9403]

I would never do an arranged marriage or have my parents pick for me. I know it’s their tradition. But I am glad we don’t do that in my culture. Good luck.

[@pragyasingh3109]

not all Indians have arranged marriages, a lot also have love marriages, thats just something that was rlly big in the past

[@sakshigurjar8654]

@@pragyasingh3109 but maximum indians hv arranged marriage !! That's shows how strict r indian Parents to even allow their kids to hv relationship or fall in love !! That's the not about the generation gap that's about less communication skill between kids and parents in our country which results in thay way !!

[@joshuanun8192]

​@@sakshigurjar8654 Indian parents need to do batter jobs to keep the precious culture. Lock your kids and do not send them or move to other countries and so that they do not date around.

[@sakshigupta8603]

You'll have your friends pick for you though. And that is even worse.

[@bunnyharish9191]

that means you don't have sense about what is arranged marriage.

[@tatianarodriguez6607]

First wedding then maybe they will love each other.

[@Cristina-xo9kw]

It’s crazy I met a girl that had an arranged marriage. She was one year into her marriage and she was telling me that she’s still getting to know him and that she’s in the beginning stages of love for her husband.

[@tatianarodriguez6607]

@@Cristina-xo9kw 🤨🤨

[@KHVedica]

Arpit or armpit wtf🤣🤣🤣😭

[@BaranidaranPanneerselvam]

Delhi doesn't represent entire India. This documentary failed to capture larger pictures

[@marciacapell1541]

Theres no way I could marry a guy I was not in love with. Nope. And if he didnt love me I wouldnt like that either. Not one bit. Thats crazy. 😳

[@nikhiltiwari6923]

No one is asking you as well. You are not Indian. This marriage system is of Indians.

[@segupta11]

First find Love, then look for second love., then third, ... (West). Love means even you hate other person in full, than also don't leave them. Love and sacrifice part of same coin. like day and night.

[@sakshigurjar8654]

There is huge difference between dating a person and loving a person !! I think u got confused between the two!! That's why half knowledge is very dangerous!!

[@anuragmathur3824]

People don't understand one thing, that is, it doesn't matter if people do love marriage or arrange marriage. If people are real to themselves, then love will eventually bloom between the two. In any relationship, both people have to make an effort, it doesn't matter where they get married and with whom they get married, be it white, brown, black and it doesn't matter whether we get married to any Indian, British, African, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Australian, American, Spanish, Italian, Arab, French, it doesn't matter at all . Just be real to yourself and don't take the burden of anything of being in a relationship or marriage. Life has ups and downs and just like that relationship and marriage is also like that, live every moment, face every ups and downs of life with courage and fearlessness. In the end, everything will be fine. All the best to everyone for their future. 🙏❤️👍

[@cogur8205]

I don’t understand the issue regarding arranged marriage, it’s not like it is a forced marriage. Many arranged marriages work and some couples divorce. This is everywhere.

[@subbanarasuarunachalam3451]

Shri Dr.Sudhir Kakar said it very well and logically acceptable by any society which gives importance to morality!

[@beavadakkoot]

Thankful among Christians in kerala at least, the couple chooses the partner, no-one is forced to marry someone they don't choose themselves. My fiance is from kerala and we are having a "Love marriage" and everyone is fine with it, actually we aren't the first ones. His own parents married out of love, not arranged. It's slowly changing, at least amongst chrisitans.

[@zigzagto644]

Westetns who can't live with single partner for a month, most of the children have two or three parents.. They don't even know who their real parents were... Now ranting lectures on Indian relations.. 🤡 go to your 3rd or 4th mom instead of talking about Indian marraiges....

[@lilibethbenlot1051]

For me I prefer for a love Marriage, because arranged marriage seems like deprivation of my liberty to live a happy marriage...

[@Habits794]

To ensure a society's downfall, you gotta make their women feel small, insecure, and exploited. To make them feel like "grass is greener on the other side". other side being "no marriage or love marriage". Mere pyare Bharathiyo, do your thing but use your head. Think long term, be more vocal about what you want, communicate, and learn from west's mistakes. Western ideals like liberty, freedom, equality are ideals at best, not practical. Their sole purpose at this point is to snatch away chivalry from men and divinity from women. Stop falling for these propaganda bots in comment section.

[@flowertulip4621]

I'm so lucky enough, I don't belong to this kinda stereotype indian mindset (society, culture and tradition..)! Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and I can't imagine or picture myself marrying to stranger or to someone I don't even like. Arranged marriage wedding to them are for show-off, for peoples eyes to see. So, there's no any sacred on it! Becoz they are marrying for the sake of societies, both families and not from Gods will! Men, be matured enough and have a balls..

[@suzanajosic9501]

@Balochi boy No they don’t. Is that what they tell you so that you agree to an arranged marriage? LOL

[@aigatulifau6127]

Shows how much trust children have in their parents!! It’s my goal my daughter will trust me this much!!

[@adissiosdynos9087]

No. You are wrong. You need to teach your daughter values. Right and wrong. You need to teach her how to make choices, how to be a good person, and how to be dignified. After you teach her all these wonderful things you need to step back. DO NOT force your child into anything she does not want to do. Her life is her life. You owe her training until she is 18. DO YOUR BEST as a mother. After 18, your responsibility ends and her life starts. NO NEED to control her.

[@andreamessiasgomes7118]

@@adissiosdynos9087 correct unfortunately many children and parents don't understand this.

[@lans2226]

@@andreamessiasgomes7118 becoz most indian mindset is kind of distorted

[@Parasuraman-ey4wo]

This is true and most Indian arranged marriages work out. This works because of the culture and family backing from both sides. Most Indian males do not have any sexual partner other than their wife. I can say this for sure for myself when I stayed celibate for less than ten years in the US before getting married. Other Indian males that I know were stricter in these matters than I was. So, the women commenting below that Indian males are evil and sleep around, is not true from what I know. Some maybe are, but not the majority that I am aware of.

[@theabhishekmondal]

*That's why Divorce rate in India 1% and in West 50%* *Cry west*

[@priyasahu4521]

I tried to watch this with open mind but i find it a little biased. They're portraying the story from west's narrative. Or this might be a really old documentary as things are changing thess days.

[@neerajanaghosh4464]

Yes, because the channel is Western.

[@tinyGrim1]

Beautiful weddings & ways. I like it. 💕✨

[@Asad-zeetwo5241]

I'm only here to read the comments on how Hindu Indians and the Western world truly feel about each other!. On all other channels when it comes to political covering they seem to be hugging and kissing one another and saying we stand with Western policy and we love Israel 🇮🇱 😍❤️💞. But different story here!.🤔

[@katrinbandel]

Is this only in my location, or is everyone seeing those statues at about minute 11.30-11.40 in a blurred form? I mean, it's only a statue, why can't they just show it...

[@harveyking5038]

Ankita is taking a huge risk, good luck to her cause it's all about luck.

[@harveyking5038]

@SURIYA SILVERLANCE brother 90% of Indians would get divorced but they dont cause they care too much what others think. almost no Indian husband likes his wife

[@harveyking5038]

@SURIYA SILVERLANCE trust me, 90 % of the indians here in Australia dont like eacho ther, let alone love, I got divorced once and doing it again, both arranged marriages..etc same thing happened to my brother and cousins, we're western indian, you think like a true indian, were not like that

[@harveyking5038]

@SURIYA SILVERLANCE arranged marriage is best thing for a backwards culture like Indians where they dont value love, its a business transaction for them.. im indian man but born and lived only in western counties, England, Australia etc

[@harveyking5038]

@SURIYA SILVERLANCE youre like a typical indian that is worried about money and worries about car sale value lol

[@gravityclarity]

@SURIYA SILVERLANCE it's because divorce is taboo in the culture. Indians seem to think that divorce is the end of the world. People stay in bad marriages because they're afraid of what "society" will think and don't want to bring shame on their families. Staying married means nothing if your marriage is miserable.

[@lizputri1421]

This is rich indian

[@jameshumtsoe1852]

That's why they flirt extremely...

[@Romania324]

Indian men as their marriage is arranged...they don't take off their eyes with lust if they saw girls every street ... because they never felt Passion intimate love

[@jameshumtsoe1852]

@@Romania324 true

[@meeshak5257]

Lovely looking couple ! Girl is very pretty ! 😍 may God bless this couple forever ameen

[@kimzimmer2542]

They really are a lovely couple

[@mahrukhfatima8658]

Well it's an *arrange* marriage not *forced* marriage

[@user-mm1pf4km2f]

Enforced marriages🎉😂

[@bunnyharish9191]

@@user-mm1pf4km2f you people don't know what is love that's why india is most successful with arranged marriages.

[@nareshvasishth4034]

Indians go all over the world and preach "Non materialism" The opposite is true in "Arranged marriages' LOVE in my view is the very basis of Marriage. Regardless what dictionary may say) Not seen one single marriage in India. NOT ONE bar none. The main actor is the astrologer who check the position of stars to determine if the match is suitable, and mother in law determines the rest. I left India in 1958. Been married for 65 years. Do not take my word. Check for yourself My list has more than 100 marriages. Indians of so so very proud of their marriage system. Why? See what they did to SITA and Dropti

[@Habits794]

Do you think my parents aren't in love?

[@theabhishekmondal]

*It's Much better culture than* *Father Less Westen Culture* 😂😂😂

[@akankshapatwari4167]

Well I wanted an arranged marriage. My sister had a love marriage so it is not that it doesn't happen in my family. But I was clear. I told my parents you do all the hard work whet the groom according to all your criteria cos you know me best but I have the veto power. I will say the final Yes or No.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

@Rahul Pandeya I think my parents have more wisdom than me especially when I was young. I can give one small example. My sister was going to study law in Pune. The college didn't have a hostel so she had to live in a Paying guest accommodation. My parents spent 3 days looking at many PGs. They came across several and one of them seemed a very good one and came highly recommended. But they didn't like the vibes in that place. They rejected it and actually paid higher in another PG and my sis stayed there . A few moths later the PG they had rejected was closed down cos of sex tape/blue film scandal. There have been many instances where they have proved their far sightedness. So I am not a fool and used their experience to find a husband for me.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

PS. I have,been happily married for 35 yrs. My kids are grown up and pursuing their interests. So I think my parents found the right person for me.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

BTW I am a 55 year old lady. You calling me a bot is pot calling the kettle black. You have all the features of a troll that my psycholgy professor had enumerated in his lecture. So please talk some more rot. I really want to study trolls and their habits.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

PS If you are confused by my profile pic it is of my two daughters.

[@akankshapatwari4167]

@Rahul Pandeya My whole point is that Arranged marriages are not bad neither are love marriages. Both are just as good or just as bad. In both cases you have to work on your marriage. I find this latest trend of condemning arranged marriages as pure evil and praising love marriages to the skies akin to throwing bout the baby with the bathwater.

[@Khan10645]

If you are ok with open relationships ok with having multiple relationships in one time or ok with sleeping with strangers so called one night stand why not arrange marriage atleast groom and bride take responsibilty of each other its very easy to point fingers to others and not looking in to yourself

[@gravityclarity]

A lot of men in arranged marriages (women too) actually do cheat on their spouse, especially if the marriage is unhappy. A lot of arranged marriages are like that. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@kiranrajswastik3369]

@@gravityclarity you don't know anything about culture, family, and relationship in india. So stay away from our and mind you own business 🙏. Marriage means everything and it's not only relationship between only two person but also the two family. We know every thing about western culture (I have been in Texas for 2 years) Cheater are everywhere, hook up culture, prostitute (mainly single mom and college girls), open relationship(you can fukk who ever you want,) is this how you american and European respects marriage. Having many sexual partners before marriage is a high red flag and sure it will end up divorce. If love marriage is best then why so many single mothers are in Western. So stay away from us. We know how we live and how to adjust and love one man Or woman till death and rise our kids with one mom and dad not many dads and moms. Dhanyavaad 🙏

[@kiranrajswastik3369]

Well said bhaiya

[@sakshigupta8603]

​@@gravityclarity A lot of love marriages are like that too. What point are you trying to make?

[@gravityclarity]

@@sakshigupta8603 the point is that a marriage won't necessarily be better just because it is an arranged one.

[@KaizenAtHome]

I am afraid, this video doesn't provide the correct information on modern Indian marriages. Nowadays parents just act like dating agencies. They provide the biodata n check the family background. They leave final choice to childrens.

[@LovingRiv]

This is so eye opening!! I have a pen pal from India and who isn’t far from New Delhi

[@darthlaurel]

WT heck is she talking about re "young protestants"? That's one of the dumber things I've heard.

[@TruthTroubadour-xi9cc]

Protestants aren't allowed to engage in premarital sex, either, and it doesnt doesn't exclude men.

[@mjsg8476]

Blind arranged marriages are quite a large over now and people are opening more n more about their relationships.

[@Cristina-xo9kw]

Yeah and they have bio data now lol so it’s more of an online dating type of thing.

[@masa4279]

How can a man have sex outside marriage with a woman who also needs to eventually get married but also needs to be a virgin ??? This doesn’t add up

[@bevs9995]

prosts?

[@charlanetrapani30]

My friend lives in India 🇮🇳 Arrange Married. Doesn’t Work. He is Divorce Already unbelievable Sad. Marriage for Love

[@kaviramgoolam5315]

Same can be said of love marriages charlane...an over 50 percent divorce rates an more in the west world ..can happen anytime with anywhere any couple

[@charlanetrapani30]

@@kaviramgoolam5315 Yes I agree Very Sad 😢

[@markstevens797]

She doesn't belong to anyone but her man I get that's apart of the culture and u have to respect everyone's culture and believes but she or any woman for that matter isn't a object or slave it's sad knowing that your woman has to be a slave to your family and the husband should have his wife's back no matter

[@sakshigupta8603]

Where did you get this idea? Yes ofc she belongs to the guy just like how the guy belongs to her. Having multiple partners is looked down upon unless you land a very deranged family.

[@kimmichaud4064]

My boyfriend is Indian he was in an arranged marriage for over twenty years and miserable he waited until his grew and then he divorced

[@vitaminprotein7786]

@Balochi boy It works due to cultural traditions but how would you know if they are happy in their marriage or not if you look at divorce rate it’s only 1% in India 🇮🇳 doesn’t mean every arranged married couples are happy there are many couples in India 🇮🇳 avoid divorce due to societal pressure and the society would look at you in a suspicious way so your concept is wrong 😑

[@vitaminprotein7786]

@Balochi boy Unhappy Marriages also leads to depression stroke and suicidal you can lookup the stats for average number of suicides 5% is for unhappy marriages there are many cases in arranged marriages where husbands or wives wanna divorce and leave their partners but when they can’t do divorce they have to find happiness in that toxic relationship so society has to change and accept divorce otherwise legalize live in relationship like bf and gf can live together for years before marriage

[@rahuldahoob4513]

I'm not gayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[@nehashrivastav7552]

It's wrongly said, bride and groom. Don't have any say in selection of their partner, mostly parents ask for their children opinion and given time to understand.

[@gsuranjana7146]

Biased video.... lack grassroot level research related to true culture, society, peoples emotions and proper explanation of religious text.

[@louniece1650]

Why not. No guarantees in life anyway.

[@sakshigurjar8654]

tell me the percentage of adults who want their marrriage to be arranged!! U will merely find only 1/2% !! But unfortunately there is huge no. Of arranged marriage in India coz most of the families restricts or rejects to involve in relationship !! Even some families cast or culture issues ... And in some so called high standard families parent's emotional blackmail on boy or girl persist!! So u can say most of the arranged marriage r actually forced either directly or indirectly!! There is not the questions of success of failure marriage but there is a question of freedom and mental peace in India!!

[@omprakashbiswas3254]

Get to statistics. Know the reality

[@parusahu6961]

Divorce rate for love marriages = 6% and for arranged 1.XX %. Now tell me the success rate.

[@ujjwalyadav3783]

I want to be my marriage to be arranged. Aur tujhe intercaste kisse krni hai.

[@Milenko1041THEEDGE]

So let me get this straight. She HAS to be a virgin, no room for error, BUT he's allowed to decline to comment if he's slept around or not??? Does nobody else see the horseshit in this? Lmao

[@ujjwalyadav3783]

Nope. Because future of boy and past of girl matters . Even though past of boy should also be a factor of consideration but girl generally doesn't care about it.

[@vandanasingh953]

this is kind of bollywood wedding not true hindu wedding. hindu wedding is very simple with lots of rituals. in this wedding i see very few rituals. whatever the groom is saying is his personality .