Woman Demands Sex from Corrupt Officer in Bizarre Blackmail Scheme | Matthew Farwell Case Analysis

[@boomkablamo]

How tf can you get arrested for impersonating a police officer and then get a job as a police officer?

[@reemarimz6830]

USA ladies and gentlemen

[@patrickboyle932]

I guess he must have done a really good impersonation and the police were impressed.

[@jazzyjay698]

Welcome to 'Murikkka

[@dogtrainer4645]

He cheats on his wife with a child and then wonders why she acts childlike. 🙄

[@roberthooper8883]

she may have seduced HIM did ya ever think of that??

[@rem898maxamillion]

Your comment is childish. You belong in this group of geniuses.

[@ichabodcrane9479]

@@rem898maxamillionwhat part of the comment is wrong though?

[@pwallace5359]

@@rem898maxamillionwhat does that even mean?

[@decacards5250]

He had the nerve to tell her, "You are truly the worst person on the face earth." He was describing his own character.

[@tonyamartin1425]

she was a horrible person

[@CrazySC833]

To be fair, they deserved each other. Both were absolutely pure evil. It's like two villians getting together. I would wager that both were mentally ill, maybe psychopathy, sociopathy or bipolar. Neither of them exhibited NORMAL traits.

[@WhirlyBird90]

@@tonyamartin1425 she was groomed and used from childhood, and was also very young. You can't truly believe that she had the same moral or emotional understandung as that adulterous, predatory, grown man, can you?

[@TheBOG3]

@@tonyamartin1425He made her that way.

[@tonyamartin1425]

@@TheBOG3 bs you have no idea she was awful just like him who even thinks like that gtfoh the predator ran into a bigger one and ended up in jail so he raised her and not her parents? please she would have been a cop too see a pattern?

[@RavenhallowGrey]

Truly shows the long-term effects of child grooming and how it utterly destroys the victim. Horrifying and sad.

[@judybrennan7930]

Stockholm syndrome

[@majorpwner241]

Please, this girl was fully aware of herself to the point of blackmailing the guy. So sick of people pretending teenagers have zero agency in sex, when they kill and get charged as adults.

[@BaDazai]

She was a victim BUT she wws also a calculative predator, no excuse for her actions, the same way there is no excuse for Mathew's actions.

[@puketinmoarliek994]

@@majorpwner241she was a child when they met you fucking predator

[@idahardy4052]

@@majorpwner241 Sex with a minor is always illegal and the adult is at fault.

[@5675492]

So he was caught impersonating an officer while in a police training program and then later hired to be an instructor in that same program . Police hiring practices are totally whack lol .

[@SoulDelSol]

Fake it till you make it

[@Dj.MODÆO]

It’s by design. Good officers will report bad apples and blow the whistle on bad departments.

[@warlord1051]

It's called white privilege.

[@poindextertunes]

@@Dj.MODÆOthey wont tho bcuz if they do theres no guarantee that, after they blow the whistle, other cops in their dept will continue to watch their back in dangerous situations

[@notozknows]

They also gave him a promotion for pissing off the taxpayers.

[@dianemorton2222]

Her Mother and Grandmother had died so she was seeking love. She was in a vulneranle position. Matthew took advantage of her. This is sad.

[@Cationna]

He killed the child he's been abusing for years and the child he conceived with her as part of a deranged deal. He manipulated her too well, to the point she didn't want to let him go at any cost, and desperately clung to her vision of future with him, and then he threw away the life he destroyed and the life he was responsible for. What a joke and a monster.

[@1realtruthrightnow742]

Soooo She bears no responsibility with the blackmail? ok. enjoy your cats

[@Cationna]

@@1realtruthrightnow742 responsibility for what? Being groomed, manipulated, abused, and killed? No. Allegedly resorting to blackmail (which we mostly have the guy's word for, and he was trying to blame her for his actions, so who even knows) to keep the abuser who became her whole world (remember she had no other authority figures in her life at the time) while she was a disturbed teenager? Yes. Yes she is responsible for committing that piece of toxicity and insanity. Gee I guess that left him no choice but to kill her and the baby you're right

[@winnerwinnerchickendinnerx]

@@Cationna HAHA! funny bro. she is to blame just as much. I do not feel bad for her

[@rachelann9362]

For people that may need more perspective on this dynamic: As someone who was in a similar situation as SB, albeit he wasn’t a cop, I never got pregnant, and obviously I’m still alive , when you’re groomed like that from such an impressionable age, you trick yourself (usually because of things they say) into believing the abuse is actually a relationship. My grooming started with I was 12/13. I TRULY believed I loved him. I believed I had a relationship with him and abstain from any dating in highschool or flirting with anyone else. When I was 18 I moved in with him, and I stayed until I was about to turn 23 (the same age she was.) yes I was desperate, yes I clung to him, because he was my whole world for 10 years, just like Sandra. I put up with a helluva lot because my mind could not comprehend life without him, even though I was miserably unhappy with him-I nearly died from an ED because of the way he made me feel. But that gave me a therapist that slowly helped me realize that he was not a good person in my life and I would be much healthier and happier without him. But the messed up thing? He wanted to “break up” with me a year later, & have me move out and I was hysterical-I remember balling myself up in his lap, sobbing until I couldn’t produce more tears and passed out. I hated him so much, but losing him felt even MORE overwhelming. It didn’t fully click until a year after i had those talks with my therapist, and a year after the hysterical sobbing incident. And when it did, I started to recognize all the massive red flags for what they were and got the hell out of there. He kinda knew about it, but didn’t have specifics. At the time, I had no idea that it was better to leave without them knowing, I had no car, no money, no home, nothing, I was in massive debt (though I didn’t know it at the time), I had to leave my cats that had been my only joy for years. My family was 900+ miles away. I literally put my life in the hands of some online friends that I had never met to get me close enough to my sister (she was at uni and it was a week or two before semester finals, & her & her husband shared a car as they lived in Philly, he worked a state away) for her to get me. I met my now-husband for the first time while in the same room with my groomer. It was a Monday. He drove 200 miles away. I slept in this stranger-irl’s house for an evening, on a couch. He later says I seemed drugged, withdrawn, exhausted. He then drove me further to meet the online-friend for the next leg. I slept on that man’s floor (he was a poor college student) on a make shift mattress until it was the weekend and my sister could use the car to drive those 4 hours to pick me up at the college students place. All of that unknown felt less scary and safer than the place I was in with him. I did not date my husband seriously until about 8 years later. We tried at one point before that, but I just wasn’t ready emotionally or mentally. We’ve been together for 10 years ow. I did some absolutely crazy, dangerous, and embarrassing things as I was passing those final 6 months before leaving my groomer, and the year or two following, We have talked it out a lot as some of it did involved him, and we have come to the conclusion that I was going through the usual rebellious period of high schoolers as a young adult. I didn’t get to do those things to figure out who I was and what I was comfortable with while I was with my groomer, and I was overcorrecting and catching up on lost time. Grooming that young really messes with your perception of things, stunts your growth, and can change your instinctively autonomic reactions . You can truly do believe you can’t live without them. She knew that man for half of his life, I get why.. she just didnt know any better. Farrell built her achetype of how acts in a "relationship", but she would never have the upper hand She was desperate because he was literally her EVERYTHING for nearly a decade.

[@young_black_economist]

@@rachelann9362❤

[@Katarina-ds5mj]

This whole story makes me sick. Matthew was a predator, liar, cheater, manipulator and corrupt officer. And he almost got away with murder. He failed to realize that he broke Saundra’s hyoid bone, something requiring force as seen in manual strangulation or when someone is hanged from a height. Her strangulation occurred (as it appeared in the crime scene, which we now know was manipulated) from a seated position. He not only ended her life but the life of his unborn child.

[@rebeccabsomanybooks3558]

This sexual predator officer was 6'4'' and the victim was only 4'10''. So awful. This young woman did not have a chance. Don't forget this magot passed her around to his twin brother and the supervisor Devine for their abuse of her as well. Disgusting.

[@poindextertunes]

@@rebeccabsomanybooks3558thats so abhorrent 😢

[@nataliep501]

WHAAA?​@@rebeccabsomanybooks3558

[@MrTrogjrog]

pregnant women are in real danger a lot of the time!

[@Ruth-gv2fs]

@@rebeccabsomanybooks3558 I noticed that as well. Too bad Dr.Grande did not mention that or about the broken hyoid bone in her neck.

[@flinchfiles8445]

Would love to know how her mom and grandma died. 4 generations were wiped out within this story, very interesting, Thank you.

[@HB-hs1nr]

Hadn't considered that. How horrible!

[@0livita]

Notice no word about the father there needs to be accountability there as well!

[@Inkpinkierosie]

​@@0livitapreach 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@RhythmRepertoire]

It’s crazy the kind of people they let become a police officer with so many red flags in the US.

[@hunterlong1820]

Law enforcement pays little and is very dangerous in the US so they recruit from the bottom of the barrel. It needs reformation so bad.

[@honestyisadyingvirtue]

The defund police movement did very little to help, now with the amount of crap police have to take from entitled people, the one's needing a paycheck and more susceptible to corruption will be the one's used to fill needed spots.

[@SubvertTheState]

@hunterlong1820 No. Look at police department recruiting videos (if you can find them). I was in the Army so I have seen how military culture has bled into American Police departments since the longest war in American history. This coupled with Obama's DOD program to grant police departments . military equipment and weaponry. Everything from highly sensitive Stingray systems to covertly surveil cell phones, to drones. The culture in police departments is more militant than the military in many departments. I'm not kidding. Because they use all of the dark humor from combat, WITH OUT THE COMBAT and the excuse of PTSD and coping with war for their behavior. I can retroactively see how racism was encouraged and dehumanization was subtly snuck into indoctrination. The police have adopted this, as an unwritten policy, except the war isn't a war and it doesn't end. The "Bottom of the barrel" is like everyone in society now. We are all having our incomes and wealth squeezed out of us, so I don't like that explanation. The police PURPOSEFULLY RECRUIT people who are wholeheartedly committed to THE INSTITUTION and the State. They don't want principles and laws to get in the way, should those principles and belief in laws ever become a problem. They like people who enjoy power over others. They like people who say all of the politically correct things, while doing something completely different. Those kinds of people don't need exceptional pay, they wanted the job because they like the feeling of walking into a gas station and having everyone pay attention to them. They can play whatever psychological games they want with anyone in public, and the public can largely do nothing. Luckily body cameras are exposing this to the public. But the CULTURE of policing is 100% of the problem. I knew what the Oath meant when I swore it, but that was not required with the military, and I know it's the same with police. What im saying is, the red flags are green to the state.

[@Ryan_Rants]

@@SubvertTheState 100% accurate. And you either belong in that culture to begin with, or you submit and conform. Otherwise you are blackballed. Either you don't last your whole career because you get out or are forced out. If you do make it, you are passed over for promotions and alienated. The grumpy old cop who keeps to himself and seemingly has no cop friends is portrayed as lazy, unmotivated, and not a good cop. While the apathy may be true, many in that situation are just burnt out. Yes they are short on calls and seem rude, but really they are burnt out. They didn't play the game because that wasn't who they were. But by the time they realized it, they were vested so they just try and coast to the finish line. Ironically, in many situations, these are the best and most trustworthy cops. Another idea I push back against is the whole "stress of the job" bs. You mentioned PTSD exposure to trauma obviously exists, but they use it to excuse poor behavior, aggression, hypersexual activity and affairs. The truth is, the type of people who want to be cops are adrenaline junkies. They get off on excitement and power. That is the motivating factor.

[@bodhi1462]

​@@hunterlong1820 it is more dangerous to be a pizza delivery guy than a cop. Don't let them fool you. It is a cushy job that doesn't even require a high school diploma with all the overtime you want.

[@3112isabel]

WOW, he called her the worst person on the face of the earth…. What about himself? He is a disgusting person.

[@darrenleaguecity]

Agreed, but she was pretty bad herself. At that age if she had murdered somebody, they would throw her in prison as an adult if found guilty. It's not right, but it's definitely a double standard.

[@misterdinkly]

It usually takes one to know one.

[@Cazador60140]

The head in his pants had a hard time to take decisions

[@wolfmantroy6601]

Not near as disgusting as Saundra.

[@gossamer9966]

They both sound like pieces of dog 💩

[@heatherchandler1184]

Wait so he thought having a baby would keep the affair a secret?! lol

[@lolbots]

jezebels take away your rationality

[@a.walters123]

Yeah he’s not the brightest, I mean, we are talking about a man who r@ped a minor while on duty, for years

[@JP-ht6nm]

Exactly what I was thinking

[@whitemountainapache3297]

Did day have lovemaking??? Was it quality, powerful lovemaking, fulla moans an groans and shrieks of shekinah glory?

[@ScreamingEagleFTW]

more than not having the baby I guess because she was going to expose him.

[@Bebecat477]

The man was a predator. Sad case.

[@aftertheheadlines]

A total of 3 officers slept with her. Although I don’t know her age when the other two were. His brother was one of the officers sleeping with her.

[@gregorybush3224]

Yes, he met her when she was 12.

[@QuothTheRavenclaw11]

Disgusting.

[@adotintheshark4848]

They manipulated each other actually. She should have ran to the cops first thing instead of trying to play the "I'm pregnant, what are you going to do about it" game.

[@team8137]

@@adotintheshark4848 eww

[@coll4455]

If she was 15 and he was 27 we can’t really say that’s when they started their relationship. We should probably say that’s when he started abusing her. She was 15 and she could not legally consent. That’s rape.

[@wildhorsestm]

How are we skipping over that fact.???

[@W8iHav2P]

​@@wildhorsestmwhat are you talking about? He literally said it was a crime several times

[@JIMMILLS-vo4dw]

A non-consensual or criminal relationship is still a relationship. Abused/abuser is a relationship. Any sense in which people interact can be said to be a relationship: coworkers, acquaintances, friends… all different kinds of relationships

[@scottandrews947]

Eh. If there's grass on the field, play ball.

[@BettiePagan]

Haven’t seen the vid yet but the title does not sit well…

[@HB-hs1nr]

"Farwell knew he wouldn't fare well in prison." Perfect!

[@ErnieLeblanc]

Not exactly a fond Farwell.

[@glee21012]

He will be in Federal (Pound in the Arse) Prison soon.

[@jojojo6147]

@@glee21012 Probably wont last long.

[@joevignolor4u949]

Matthew Farwell is under a federal indictment and will be tried in a federal court rather than in a Massachusetts court. If convicted he could face the death penalty. Trying a former police officer in a local court could be problematic because there could be questions about corruption, especially if he is acquitted. That might be why the case was elevated to the federal level.

[@callaflower221]

There is already a question of corruption given how shoddy the initial investigation into her death was. Not ruled a homicide despite contrary evidence, the abusive relationship between them ignored, the tens of thousands of text messages between them that weren’t found by the police department. It was the family’s consistent fight to have the FBI take on the case that helped bring about a thorough investigation. It’s telling that the Feds have brought the charges. What else have they found at the police department?

[@ScreamingEagleFTW]

@@callaflower221 thats a ggoood point. The feds got involved because there was corruption in the police department.

[@funkywagnalls]

I believe they have a very corrupt system in that county, probably starting with the district attorney. Sandra lived in the same town whose police department was complicit in framing Karen Read. No wonder the FBI is taking over these cases.

[@BettiePagan]

@@callaflower221 corruption in the fact this “man” passed his “object” to fellow “police officers” to use…

[@texasrefugee7888]

There's a lot of perverts and predators with badges.

[@paulbryant8403]

Yeah?

[@marcodarko6941]

It's easier for them to abuse their power and take advantage of all the technology and resources at their fingertips in order to pursue their victims. They appear to have limitless means to stalk, hack and track at their leisure or pleasure. They have infinite amount og plausible deniability and people that aren't aware of how truly evil others can be, including law enforcement always tend to blindly hold them in such a high regard no matter what. Plus the blue line gang always seem to cover for one of their own regardless of how bad the scenario is time and time again.

[@brendareyes6914]

Sadly, I think they're everywhere

[@charliechurch5004]

Terrifying

[@GregMacDougall-m3n]

Remember what they said in the 1971 movie (Omega Man), ''There's never a cop around when you need one''. But thank heavens there's always a Federal Agent. This situation is proof of both. p.s. Federal Agents gave him a ''One way ticket to midnight''; on the highway to Hell!☣☢🚫⛔🔞🏁

[@user-dm6jy5jr9o]

This is quite the take…. The police didn’t stop their investigation? Uh yes they did. The US Attorneys office had to get involved because Sandra’s family wouldn’t stop protesting the suicide ruling. Not to mention this is the same tiny police community involved in the Karen Read case. I don’t really understand the point of being misleading about that.

[@helendeegan1591]

Oh what a tangled web is weaved when people first practice to deceive, he was a married man with good prospects and a career, and she was a vulnerable kid, so so sad and she was lovely, in one way it doesn't matter what awaits him, it won't bring her back as we all know, but it will help bring some type of comfort to her loved ones. She was lovely.

[@DigitalNeb]

This guy is a total monster, and it's amazing to me that he was able to gain so much authority with such obvious character faults.

[@pajeetsingh]

Freemasons.

[@nate_8403]

amazing or typical

[@ChrisMissal]

He was seeking power from an early age

[@JesseStG-i8p]

You'd be surprised how many genuine garbage people have managed to be employed as police officers which has historically been documented for hundreds of years

[@Koozomec]

He was looking for authority because of his faults.

[@geddhead1971]

Dr Grande has labeled him "exceedingly creepy".....this is all I need to know about his guilt

[@weasellylittleliardude]

When Dr G says theyre exceedingly creepy, its over

[@bonniedeaves422]

'Exceedingly creepy' and the way Doc says it in a slower drawl, always makes me happy somehow 😅

[@sarahjaye4117]

😂

[@thePassionatePK]

"Exceedingly creepy" makes me laugh every time he says it. It's such a professional way to say omg what a weirdo lol

[@Seegoatlove]

Me too😅

[@TL-pb6sz]

That haircut is also a crime

[@GO-GO_SO-SO]

Yeah, I think he did it. And to think, there are cops like him that are still on the force. It makes my skin crawl.

[@misterdinkly]

There is reasonable doubt though.

[@enjoystraveling]

Yes, there’s always some bad apples in every job, but there’s many good policemen and heroes. Two policeman rescued me when I was a young child

[@GO-GO_SO-SO]

@@misterdinkly I have to go with Dr. Grande on this one and say it is beyond a reasonable doubt that he actually did it. Motive is there, opportunity was definitely there, and he seems to have been caught on camera being the last person to see her alive.

[@GO-GO_SO-SO]

@@enjoystraveling You are right, but think of it this way. If you had one million people in your neighborhood, and someone told you four were rumored to be attracted to small kids, the rest of that million people being good would not stop your skin from crawling about those bad four. And add the fact that you don't know which people are the four. It's not the good ones you need to worry about. It's the bad ones that are the issue.

[@jodybrown4956]

Really does meet the typical love American style 0 morals commonly developed amongst average white peaple from supposedly good homes pseudo Cristian upbringing reep what is sown .Depraved pagan standards.

[@JemicoTX]

Sounds to me like Matthew was his own problem and a horrible person.

[@misterdinkly]

Two shady people finding each other. It is common I guess

[@kungfreddie]

Sounds to me like they both were.

[@lostsock9852]

@@kungfreddie Huh? Are you saying she was horrible? Did you hear Dr Grande's opinion that he made her that way?

[@behavedave]

@@lostsock9852I’m guessing he was referring to her being her own problem in that she blackmailed a violent person, yes he was a bad person but she made really bad choices.

[@wolfmantroy6601]

You spelled Saundra wrong. Matt was no saint but the female pure evil.

[@kathleenamatangelo3713]

Farwell married, his wife delivered their 3rd child 13 hours after he killed Sandra. Her blackmail was telling his wife...

[@torynichols2413]

Him being a pedo too.

[@tyraebowie6175]

😮 that’s crazy.

[@sarahschlichter6059]

Whaaaattt

[@deannaann1922]

So he believed he had the perfect victim. She had been through so much in her life just to have it taken away by a monster

[@RullVox]

Matthew Farwell should not have been hired by any police dept. These types of people getting jobs in police departments happens frequently, and it has to be stopped.

[@shadydayday]

About as bad as hiring trump for office both should never have been put in office

[@SubvertTheState]

​@@shadydayday no...Its not. You should explain to me why you came up with such a wild idea.

[@Ssbad24]

@@shadydayday The man you speak so badly of, seems to truly care about his country. Don't believe all the media hype.

[@AshaAbdul1]

​@@Ssbad24 The Orange man only cares for himself. He is avoiding prison.

[@Seaneey]

The groomed child gets abused into a sick relationship

[@tonyl6385]

A H.S drop out, impersonating a cop and still he was hired. I get it, he was in the army, good for him. A zero is still a zero. These depts won't ever learn. Sad

[@HB-hs1nr]

"H.S drop out, impersonating a cop and still he was hired." That caught my eye as well.

[@HB-hs1nr]

I''m sure someone said, "well he was just a rambunctious teenager . . . when you're young and stupid, you're young and stupid." Or he had familial or political connections to the PD . . . sorry for my cynicism . . .

[@panushjo]

I bet you protested for Michael Brown.There is your reason

[@Alyciamarie345]

You demonize the position then no one good wants to do it anymore. This is obvious.

[@alexk9646]

@@Alyciamarie345that’s some circular reasoning if I’ve ever seen any. Cops get demonized because they’re aren’t vetted or trained properly. They are constantly responding inappropriately to situations involving mental health crises (with minorities especially) Not to mention how corrupt many departments are.

[@jamess5154]

I am no expert but her actions of ordering door dash and going out in the cold to get a snow brush certainly do not seem like the actions of a suicidal person.

[@paytonwasemiller2395]

She also had laundry in the washer

[@tyraebowie6175]

Exactly!! I’m upset it took them so long to figure this all out. He’s a monster.

[@adotintheshark4848]

depends on what she ordered from Door Dash

[@jamess5154]

@@adotintheshark4848 Or she finally looked at the delivery charge.

[@adotintheshark4848]

@@wes555 couldn't find the turkey baster?

[@walkerpantera]

cop was stupid for EVER sending a 12 year old a facebook friend request. if that were my daughter OR son, it would be ME in that video with a hoodie visiting dude.

[@aquaqt853]

@@walkerpantera Facts!!!

[@rockyevans1584]

​@rubiks15 you don't understand how a parent would be angry to the point of physical violence if an adult is potentially trying to groom their child?

[@bonniedeaves422]

Loved 'hoodie visiting dude' 😅😅😅

[@Jonas-gl9ke]

Yes, that’s where it all went wrong. The Facebook request…

[@troy3456789]

Internet tough guy! No wayyyy

[@seemoretoys5944]

As a cop he probably saw enough suicide scenes to create a convincing fake one to cover her murder.

[@elhuddleston17]

When her friends finally was listened to by the right law person that he was really interested in the closet. Sick case, I think she out lived her young age he likes.

[@young_black_economist]

He knew Proctor would just make up stuff with the SOLO cups either way.

[@pebblepod30]

My comments keep on being deleted for no reason

[@josephh891]

Does Dr Grande have OCD? He has a habit of looking to his left whenever he says certain words.

[@josephh891]

Yep. What he did was obviously wrong, but you can only push a man so far.

[@marytaylor8482]

The huge power differential in this relationship is not to be ignored. Here is a clear case of a person in a position of power abuses the trust of a younger person who views them in that light...a hero....etc. Sad story indeed

[@TimJBenham]

You are thinking in cliches, which is well rewarded here. The person who has the more favorable ratio of damage they can inflict to cost incurred has the greater power.

[@marytaylor8482]

@@TimJBenham interesting

[@marytaylor8482]

In my mind this shifted over time. He had it at the start. Her ability to control through blackmail at the end lead to her death

[@lolbots]

I don't usually blackmail my heroes, do you mary? are you that psycho chic?

[@uggggggghhhhh]

I feel sorry for this woman, she was a victim in many ways for more than half her life but she really wasnt doing herself or her baby any favors by attempting to control and extort a "man" like him.

[@twocents8355]

This case reflects an unpleasant truth: Partner violence is the No. 1 cause of death for pregnant women. Here, a man un-alived his pregnant girlfriend AND upended life for his pregnant wife.

[@mrtechie6810]

"The women's mortality rate from any cause increased from 54 deaths per 100,000 live births in 2019 to 70 in 2020, the researchers found. Mortality rates increased 22% for pregnancy-related causes and 36% for nonpregnancy causes. Causes not related to pregnancy accounted for more than half of the women's deaths in 2020, the researchers say. Accidental drug poisoning was the most common, followed by motor vehicle collisions and homicide, with mortality rates of 12.2%, 5.9% and 5.5%, respectively. The mortality rate involving suicide did not significantly change. The study authors also identified significant racial and ethnic disparities. Mortality rates were three to five times higher among American Indian or Alaska Native women for every cause except suicide. Black women had similarly high mortality rates across all causes, with 5.3 times higher risk of dying from homicide." ABC 7: Deaths in pregnant or recently pregnant women have risen, especially for unrelated causes: study

[@SHELLWER]

They were NOT boyfriend and girlfriend..nor were they partners. He was a pedo in a position of power over a child..he warped her mind from day one. He continued to abuse her for years. This is not typical in a statistical sense whatsoever

[@geometerfpv2804]

This is a bit of an odd case, not really your typical "partner violence" situation. Saundra had complete control of his life, and was willing to use that leverage. She wasn't just a "pregnant partner", she forced him to impregnate her under threat of complete destruction. Obviously he made terrible decisions too... but I wouldn't compare this to your typical DV situation.

[@maryellengodfrey]

@@geometerfpv2804 She was groomed into that and was not psychologically able to think independently. So he took advantage of her. He should have known better. Seems like he could have stopped seeing her if he was sane and had any empathy at all. He’s a killer mentally she had a suicidal or self destructive personality that kept her identity of herself as a victim. 😊

[@maryellengodfrey]

That did not need to be exploited. It’s on him.

[@michaelmoorrees3585]

It wasn't the local police that arrested Farwell, but the FBI. Both Stoughton (Farwell's work) and Canton (Sandra Birchmore's residence) PDs swept it under the rug. btw: The Canton PD is also involved in the Karen Read case, which also has the FBI doubting the way the case was handled. This is in the greater Boston area.

[@JackTheAviator]

Life long resident of stoughton not the first time stoughton pd being investigated by fbi. A few years ago it happened too. Stoughton pd has always been corrupt

[@Angbwillinspireu]

Sandra Birchmore was a victim 360° of life trauma. I would NEVER hold her responsible for allegedly manipulating, the predator who groomed her through deviant, pathological coercion from her primary, and fundamental psychological and physical developing years, age 13 to 23. In a web of both psychological and social dysfunction, she counter engaged in demands of the very man Matthew Farwell(such an apropos surname) who probably threatened her to secrecy of his deviant crimes on her when she was a minor; if true, then Sandra learned well the art of 'blackmail' & manipulation from her groomer, former OFFICER Farewell, and possibly other officers with authority of law & punishment they possibly wielded over and upon her life. He abused the fact Sandra was a child of trauma who lost both her mother and grandmother- no mention of her father present in either the Civil court papers filed by her aunt(who was her caregiver and guardian after her mother and grandmother passed), nor was a father mentioned in the press conference held by the FBI, Who are now charging former officer Matthew Farwell with her untimely demise, impossible other criminal charges coming against not only farewell, put maybe many other Officers directly involved in Sandra Birchmore's case. .

[@aftertheheadlines]

Anytime a pregnant woman commits suicide, is murdered or goes missing the majority of the time it is the baby’s father. So the lack of investigation by the department is troubling. I believe the call to the department letting him know he was dating Sandra was the week before her death. Everyone who knew had to have thought that a motive to kill. Did they DNA the baby then to determine paternity? The lack of investigation by the department is troubling. The content and notes from that phone call would be interesting, did the caller state the relationship started when Sandra was a minor? If they did the department should have done an IA Internal Affairs investigation which would have included them talking to Sandra. The entire department is suspect. The reason I don’t think she killed herself is because she would have text her friend who she confided in via text that he dumped her (his defense-he dumped her she was distraught and killed herself). Her MO was to vent to others. She had no chance with three officers sleeping with her for normal development. She was talking about the baby’s last name, clothes, holidays, and photo shoot at 2 months pregnant. What kind of work did she do to afford that apartment?

[@Bethbutucancallmechandra]

I come for stories I stay to hear you say exceedingly creepy

[@ddddoc7078]

If Dr. Grande did cameos, I would pay for him to give me one of his "this is just a theory, my opinion" roasts like at 14:50

[@_Kittensworth]

I'm adding "exceedingly creepy" to my lexicon.

[@bobbyboucher3626]

A truck driver you say? This guy never misses an opportunity to typecast himself. I truly pity the next woman he offers a ride to. 😢

[@joshuabekel9700]

Even if she was 16 and he was 27 it's STILL not right.

[@clarissa8477]

Would’ve been legal tho

[@joshuabekel9700]

@@clarissa8477 at 27? That's questionable.

[@UnseemlyGenie00]

​@@clarissa8477No age of consent isn't applicable to people in a position of power such as a teacher or police officer

[@aisoconcranberriesu2as]

Exactly

[@ADDERANGLE]

Then they need to change the age of consent.

[@Matthew-xb1zn]

"Exceedingly creepy" *Legendary* 8/10 Creeps

[@mtadams2009]

I also believe some other cops are being investigated for having relationships with this young woman when she was very young.

[@kitkatclawz]

pathetic pe...dos.

[@adamwatson6916]

All he had to do was not have sex with a 15 year old and this all could have been avoided.

[@sarahg2653]

Right? Seems pretty easy to avoid, but I guess not

[@m.w.6604]

She liked it

[@C_Law]

I have never heard that the pregnancy was a “deal” between the two. Very eye opening how sick and sad this whole situation was.

[@elhuddleston17]

Unless it's recorded I don't believe his side.

[@craigbenz4835]

His sources aren't cited, and particularly obscure.

[@Felbicky1]

It’s his word, he’s a predator I wouldn’t believe a word he utters

[@courtneyr6645]

It’s been confirmed in court filings.

[@viktoreisfeld9470]

It made my stomach drop hearing that. Babies are so precious and valuable.

[@staceyellis408]

I usually like Dr. Grande’s content but as someone from Sandra Birchmore’s area who has been following this case closely along with the Karen Read case, I feel the title of this story is misleading and offensive. This is the first time I’ve ever heard this horrible story described as Sandra Birchmore “demanding” sex and “blackmailing” her abuser. She had been GROOMED by this vile man starting I believe at age 12.. Sandra Birchmore holds ZERO blame.

[@paulaunger3061]

100% agree. Not happy about the title of this video at all.

[@JackTheAviator]

How’s it wrong ?

[@thereeljahjah]

💯 Excellent point !

[@NickiNickiNineDoor]

My thought exactly, what a disgusting title for this tragic story

[@FawnaFuller]

Thank you for pointing this out Stacey it must be scary being a resident and a woman yourself. Wishing you well!

[@truhunk1]

Just goes to show, Police departments will hire anybody off the street.

[@JustinFerguson-k6e]

Guess you got denied

[@SNDE7M3]

He had army training

[@tonyl6385]

100% correct

[@neilrichardson7454]

​@@JustinFerguson-k6e😂😂😂😂😂

[@neilrichardson7454]

@@JustinFerguson-k6e 😁😁😁😁

[@muttsnuts5849]

In my High School. Back in 2000. Our SRO was a creep that groomed a girl that was 16. The school staff and students all knew. They ignored it. He was married with twins. Now, he is married to that student with twins.

[@poindextertunes]

grosssss 🤢

[@kungfreddie]

So they seem to b happy then.. what's it to u? U americans are such prudes! A 16 yr old is a grown person when it comes to sex.. we become sexually active in puberty.. there is a reason for that.. and it's not so we should wait 6 yrs b4 having sex.

[@joshuabekel9700]

😡

[@wolfmantroy6601]

At least they made it work in the end.

[@troy3456789]

Our school in a small town didn't need an SRO. There wouldn't be anything for an SRO to do. The principal, the school board and staff ran the school, not the other way around like it is today.

[@huson-7wk]

Her relationship with this so- called man began when she was 12 - didn't this whole thing come about because of grooming? I don't think you ever used this term ( of course, I could be wrong)? Yes I did think the " click- bait" title was disrespectful to this woman who was most definitely the victim in this crime.

[@SoulDelSol]

I am very confused by title. The news clips I've seen say he groomed her, took advantage for years, and then offed her.

[@tanagra2]

Yes he has enough followers not to have to do that.

[@JohnMack-f3f]

Yeah, sure.

[@michaelsluder8546]

Exactly!!!

[@kimberlyan1089]

I agree. Lost respect for him. This girl was a victim of a pedophile

[@Stetsonhatman]

He loved her innocence until she grew up to challenge him then he killed her.

[@48mastadon]

It took them long enough to arrest him.

[@Juliet-y3g]

I know!! What was the hold up? Couldn't be because he was a cop/sarcasm.

[@ziggykatze]

The police didn't investigate further. The parents hired their own medical examiner who ruled it a homicide and sent it to the FBI. The FBI are the ones who found all of the text messages and arrested him.

[@MrAlexdimm]

absolutely incompetent medical examiner. It makes it more difficult to perform an investigation when the examiner declares it a suicide and not a homicide.

[@troy3456789]

​@@MrAlexdimmYou'd do the same as a medical examiner when you cannot see all the external factors. They became aware of everything as time went by.

[@mcrow9599]

Canton like corrupt cops?

[@slideoff666]

That was the first time your words have ever made me cry, Dr. Grande.

[@mamabeartrue420]

He's gotten me a few times too. Sending hugs 💗

[@thelocalmaladroit8873]

She had already lost her mother and grandmother which made her even more vulnerable. He was all she had and he took advantage of that.

[@thereasonableconsumer]

Honey, just a reminder, I am not diagnosing dinner, I am merely speculating its quality and offering my analysis.

[@juliestrom412]

Lol 😅

[@James-ev6dk]

They both sound awful here. She definitely didn't deserve any of the things that happened to her but it is chilling how manipulative she was and how she might have been to that child and any future romantic partner. May she rest in peace tho and that cop learn valuable lessons on empathy and how to treat other human beings

[@maximillion8442]

I'm so glad they investigated further. Sandra deserves justice, and he deserved to be exposed.

[@TianXiaoMao]

Yesss we got an "exCEEDingly creepy"!

[@BrainsBeautyandCommonSense]

The murderer was terrible, and took advantage of an underage girl. After the victim grew up, she tried to manipulate him into a long-term relationship. He was unstable, she was foolish and obsessed. It’s sad. The wife and first family are also victims here.

[@katietravadi2362]

lock him up!! he brought it on himself when he started grooming this poor girl. he psychologically damaged her for years then had the gall to play like he was a victim to her reactive instability

[@doreencaputo2942]

So he's annoyed with her because she's acting immature 🤦‍♀️

[@tyraebowie6175]

I’ve heard about this case about a year ago. I’m so relieved to learn he’s finally answering for everything he has done. Sometimes the justice system really does work 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@persephoneszeliga]

Disgusting.

[@kenmore01]

Just because the age of consent is 16 in Ma. doesn't mean people there are any more mature than anyplace else, it's just where the line is drawn legally. Since the age is lower there, consenting adults who are just of that age are likely to be immature, and certainly anyone under that age is much more likely. That said, her vision of living happily ever after by controlling someone was a very flawed plan that was likely to come to a bad end. I'm not saying she deserved what happened, but her actions didn't do her any favors.

[@u2b83]

In mexico (12 in some places) and other countries they set a low limit because their legal system is too busy to deal with an additional load of cases. This is the real/practical reason for these limits.

[@Imperiously]

This is one of the most bizarre things I’ve ever seen

[@KingfishStevens-di9ji]

More common than you think

[@blainwilson7937]

This is far from most bizarre.

[@artawhirler]

You must be new here. Welcome aboard! 😅

[@kyleboulanger170]

This reminds me of the case of Stephen Rios & Jesse Valencia. Rios was a married cop who ended up having a homosexual affair with Valencia & killed him when Valencia threatened to report Rios to his superiors & his wife. The case was covered in the Forensic Files episode "Cop Out".

[@evelynwaugh4053]

40s Noir and neo noir films have made the point endlessly that blackmail is so unhealthy for the blackmailer.

[@dontbelongherefromanother]

​@@evelynwaugh4053it puts them at a greater risk for harm

[@DickyPasedena]

Also an episode of Forbidden: Dying for Love! Really underrated true crime show. One of the best, actually.

[@kyleboulanger170]

@@DickyPasedena Also covered in the Dateline episode "Before Daylight".

[@YouTube4me]

This is actually a case of a teen being sexually abused by a grown man.

[@m.w.6604]

Her problems are over

[@janedoe4316]

A cheater, a pedophile, an abuser, a double murderer. Some people are blaming her. She definitely did some wrong things, but she was a victim as a child groomed by an adult who also had a position of power & a murder victim. He is the worst of the two, no matter her black mailing history.

[@paulaunger3061]

The wrong things she did were as a direct result of her 'relationship' with him.

[@lornaginetteharrison7168]

Obviously he’s literal scum, but what the hell was she thinking, blackmailing him into getting her pregnant, threatening to reveal his crimes?🤦🏻‍♀️ How did she think this was going to end? What a mess. He should never have been a police officer, given his prior offences impersonating a cop. She was seemingly completely lacking any insight or self preservation skills. Unfortunately she was an extremely manipulative person who thought she could blackmail him into getting what she wanted, and with him being a horrible a-hole, it was a recipe for disaster. Sadly this outcome was entirely predictable.

[@staceyellis408]

He began grooming her at the age of 12 when she entered the police explorers program. I’m sure the grooming and abuse that began at such a pivotal age DID affect her judgement and decision making which is not her fault.

[@jborrego2406]

​@@staceyellis408 an sounds like he pass her around to other cops

[@Grawlix_Jungle]

@@jborrego2406yeah, Grande didn’t even mention that he allegedly trafficked her to his brother and as well as his boss that ran the Explorers program

[@martinmcfly7581]

Lol anything to absolve women of responsibility for their crimes.

[@staceyellis408]

@@martinmcfly7581 so you defend pedophiles?

[@persephoneszeliga]

What took the police department so long to arrest him? You don’t have to be Sherlock Holmes to realize Fatwell was involved.

[@HB-hs1nr]

Same DA's office and state police detective unit as in the Karen Read case. Full stop.

[@jeanbastien9424]

They try to protect their “own” up until they have no choice but to arrest them, no matter what crime they commit.

[@crippledalien5937]

Well it was ruled a suicide by the ME. And the scene appeared as a suicide. Probably typical to other scenes.

[@HB-hs1nr]

@@jeanbastien9424 "They" still wouldn't arrest him. The DOJ and FBI had to intervene and arrested him on, essentially, civil rights and corruption charges

[@bbrcummins1984]

Karen Reed ring a bell, it's Massachusetts

[@jbug1979]

how could this guy be a detective and not know his communication would be found?

[@Ablank2011]

Impersonating a police officer is enough of a red flag 🚩

[@haleytruslow7200]

Guys we’ve slid back to only consistently generating an interesting dialogue. I’d like to see us get back to ALWAYS generating an interesting dialogue.

[@mason4354]

What does that mean?

[@sarahjaye4117]

🙌

[@OrggsOrggs]

Yes Mam.

[@OrggsOrggs]

@@mason4354 The Doc is mixing it up a bit on the outro mate. That's all .

[@nikdagr33k]

It's from the docs unique and edifying closing patter and we must try harder! 😆

[@Cam-ns1yi]

He told her she was a bad person.... WOW

[@genxx2724]

If the military had looked into his background, he wouldn’t have been admitted. Then this whole scenario wouldn’t have happened.

[@winexprt]

If only Dr. Grande would marry Linda Latte. The Grande-Latte wedding would be absolutely DELICIOUS!

[@Jets287south]

He killed her and the unborn baby 🤬

[@viodesa3]

Don't blackmail people, sometimes the consequences will make them do terrible things.

[@MattySagz]

He used his phone to check if the police could find old messages… on his phone?😂 that’s gotta be next level stupidity

[@BaDazai]

🤢🤢🤢 Mathew was a disgusting predator and Sandra was also a disgusting predator. They were both vile and both disregarded the value of life. One took a life and the other was using a life to blackmail someone.

[@VanessaLily]

Why did this poor girl want to have a baby with him? Is that because of the Grooming , Dr. Grande?

[@Curlyblonde]

She wanted to force a connection to him as well as be his kept woman.

[@jborrego2406]

​@@Curlyblondewell he did ruin her since the age of 12 and passed her around with his cock buddies. He better be taken care of her

[@daveatkins3568]

I’m from this area and the whole county is corrupt. Trust me. I’ve been on both sides of it. ✌🏻

[@JackTheAviator]

Who talks about counties in mass. ??? What town you from

[@hardtakeoff]

I think your title here makes light of the fact that the abuse started when she was like 12 years old. It's irresponsible to say she was a woman then. She was groomed as a child and turned into a damaged woman who thought relationships were exploiting others to get what you want. None of it was her responsibility. It all rested on law enforcement, who called her suspicious death a suicide. The title here is really bad Dr. Grande.

[@swiftxrt]

yeah the title is bizarrely critical of the minor who was sexually exploited. Like it's strongly implying that it was the minor's fault.

[@nfb6454]

Yep I was quite shocked by the title

[@mechanical_chaos]

He engages in a romantic relationship with a child then is shocked when she is childish.

[@kencarpenter1363]

We need a national registry for anyone working in any enforcement position. This would include not only LEOs, but also security guards or the like. Once you are removed for cause, you go on the list and are no longer allowed to work in any enforcement position. Just like CAs go on a lifelong list.

[@thesouthernerwithadhd2710]

CA?

[@kencarpenter1363]

@@thesouthernerwithadhd2710 Sorry about the abbreviation. I just came from commenting on Yahoo, and if you say "child abuse" in the comment section, your comment will be blocked.

[@thesouthernerwithadhd2710]

@@kencarpenter1363 Oh, that makes sense.

[@laurastuart3814]

Blackmailing a man into letting you have his child is dangerous and crazy.

[@VanessaLily]

This is disgusting! Has Farwell's wife left him yet?

[@alfsmom8025]

Nope! Michelle is sticking by his side.

[@TheBOG3]

@@alfsmom8025She’s disgusting then.

[@VanessaLily]

@@alfsmom8025 WHY??? Her husband is DISGUSTING!!!

[@icturner23]

I hope he can also be charged for the grooming/statutory rape and dereliction of duty.

[@cherylcalogero3330]

Hi Dr Grande....hoping you and your family have a happy Labor Day!! 🐈🐈

[@garryrice1954]

I can only imagine how bad her parents feel for letting her attend the police explorers at 12. No child should be at risk for this sort of abuse.

[@Reyma777]

Why are the standards for being a police officer in the United States so low ? There are several Dr.Grande videos where the officers featured had questionable behaviour and credentials before becoming an officer.

[@EasternDreamer615]

There are many other better jobs out there. Most people don’t want to work a job where poor judgment could result in major legal problems.

[@panushjo]

Did you support BLM?

[@EbsSeven]

What is this obsession when bringing Black people into every single conversation.

[@blackosprey2219]

​@@panushjo BLM chased away most of the cops with a conscience and left us with only the attack dogs.

[@Reyma777]

@@EasternDreamer615 I live in Canada, Police Officers have a salary ranging from 80 to 100k + here when ignoring overtime. However, the vetting procedures and training to become an officer are very strict and centralized. I’m aware that many states underpay officers, and don’t seem to be too picky with who they hire. Also police training in the United States seems to be decentralized.

[@myredpencil]

She was still a child, to think that the most important part of parenting is seeing what Santa & the Easter bunny are going to bring.

[@HeatherHolt]

It’s so nice the coworker was worried after she didn’t show up for work. Most people would just think nothing of it.

[@FillyK80]

Using a child as a pawn is wrong. *Creating* a child for the sole purpose of using them as a pawn to manipulate someone else is wrong on a whole other level. It's not a reason to murder somebody, but nothing in this world could ever make that ok.

[@glee21012]

HS Dropout, gets GED, oh what the heck, he is cop material

[@zekayman]

You know you're cooked when Dr. Grande calls you "exceedingly creepy."

[@kidd32888]

Age of consent should be at least 18

[@jessecollingwood1002]

Unfortunately about a third of the people on our planet believe it should be as low as nine.

[@alfsmom8025]

Absolutely. I will change than in MA before I die.

[@machinegunhippy]

Whatever makes you feel better ... people are going to do whatever they want regardless of what you pr any folks say

[@alfsmom8025]

@@machinegunhippy sure. And then they can go to jail after

[@victoriashoupe3135]

If I was guilty of something I'd literally just confess if I saw the jury & saw Dr. Grande sitting there😂

[@Mattipedersen]

There's definitely an irony in the fact that he would go to such lengths to cover his tracks, which would ultimately ensure his own destruction. This man had so many opportunities to walk away and face the consequences, when they would have been manageable. And yet, he just had to hammer every single nail into his coffin.

[@jamesm8965]

The Canton police are complicit

[@RationalGaze216]

I'm often surprised by the kind of problematic, low-quality people who get hired as police officers.

[@aquaqt853]

Dr. Grande, Can you please analyse the case of Kieanna & Ronnell Burns? They were successful social media influencers. He was a prominent motivational speaker and she was a successful entrepreneur. They had a blended family of 8 children. They were always happy however, her last KZbin video was of her encouraging her followers to seek help when they need it and to not be afraid to ask for help. Right afterward, she fatally shot her husband and then herself. How could a loving, successful and motivating couple do such a thing? To us, they had it all. Thank you and keep up the amazing videos.

[@kathleensullivan4547]

Behind closed doors 😢

[@boboayame2065]

A 'blended family' is neither blended nor a family and you just described a pair of obvious frauds, if you can't see why that set up is a recipe for disaster then you're blind