Woman Ditches Guy On First Date Over THIS?

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[@PepeToTheMooon]

That man definitely dodged a life of misery with her.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Truly

[@TSierra]

He dodged a nuclear bomb

[@MikeyP109]

Assuming this man even exists.

[@freudianslip2192]

(Update) Unfortunately no. This fool is giving her a second chance.

[@EnterGenericUserName884]

​@@freudianslip2192Source?

[@brent4073]

I've used a coupon on a date before to see how a woman reacts. It really eliminates some high maintenance women like that. So many women are delusional

[@thatguy6054]

Now, that's efficiency! Vetting a girl and saving some ca$h in one move. Win-win!

[@philhamilton8731]

That's a hell of an idea! I am borrowing that one from you, friend.

[@gd515051]

The best would be to go Dutch, and whip out a buy one get one free coupon. Lol

[@kevinjohnson9929]

I used to take coupons with me to restaurants. Great service gets a 20% tip. Okay gets a 15%. And bad service got 5% and a few coupons

[@ItIsMeJamesE]

@@kevinjohnson9929 Bad service deserves 0 tip...

[@birdenthusiast2095]

As a mother to a 21 y/o son, this makes me feel so sad for young men in this day and age. The toxicity of some of these young women is disgusting and this gal deserved to be blasted on Tik Tok. She's definitely not a boss nor is she someone who should be patting herself on the back. From what I could tell from her short clip, she was no prize. Good analysis, Courtney.

[@steph678]

Its not a true story. She made it up

[@JackRowsey]

As a dad of a 24 yo son starting a good career a thousand miles from his friends and family, I’m wondering if I’ll get grandkids. I feel terrible for my son. I think I’ll tell him to meet a girl overseas.

[@Arma77743]

Привет. Самое интересное, что это происходит повсеместно. Даже у нас в бывшем СССР такие же тенденции.

[@Swarmah]

im 30 year old, ive had 3 bad relationships, 1 was a slut, who got pregnant from another guy, while i was studying abroad on erasmus trip, 1 was a gold digger, third was too woke for healthy relationship

[@williamlevy6964]

@@JackRowsey wrong way to look about it. Teach him how to lead women using rewards and punishments. They can change. that being said go for it. He has options.

[@TheNewMexicoMan]

I was once interrogated by a potential date and her teenaged daughter over the phone. The daughter asked highly inappropriate questions as her mother just sat there. Her mother chimed in with inappropriate questions as well but not as aggressively as her daughter did. Taking the high road, I kindly bowed out. Just before we hung up, the daughter said, "If you can't take this, you can't take us!" I never called her again.

[@neilreynolds3858]

There are a lot of toxic families out there. I'm pretty sure that the family of one of the women I was serious about didn't want to share her with anybody. She had to raise 5 kids by herself and, even though they were theoretically adults, they couldn't live without her. I mean they really couldn't - their lives were one disaster after another that she had to fix. Finding out things like that out takes a lot of time.

[@TheNewMexicoMan]

@@neilreynolds3858 For me it doesn't. After about 3 or 4 dates and it becomes clear. The thing is, us guys tend to overlook the signs until we get them in the sack a few times. Then you realize, their family is a mess and she enables them.

[@garygolithon9058]

“Dodged a bullet and got a free meal.” That was brilliant, Courtney! 😂

[@johnnyamerica4336]

She texted him the blocked him….well aren’t you the Queen !!

[@MrToubrouk]

The garbage got themselves out.

[@emolutioning]

🖐🖐this PHENOMENON IMHO may i share my wisdom* There's too many Likes for Most girls on such DATING Apps VS old days where its just your sphere of influence. We are talking about whole continent of advertising exposure reached! So when u have so many bees around you or Fishes in your sea, naturally the girl nitpicks. Even a guy. Its a Game of Probability girls are especially good a Calculating.

[@servo5000]

Yeah, that's where I just cracked up out loud xD.

[@SexyThyme]

Dudes a pimp. Stay frugal.

[@endlesssearchofknowledgean6998]

I think people have missed another possible reason that this girl might have ditched this guy. To make herself feel better that she can reject someone. I've run into a few girls like that. They reject someone over trivial crap and blow things out of proportion so they can pat themselves on the back and elevate themselves over other people. It's a power trip for them. It's sad

[@mjkittredge]

Exactly, you make a good point. For some of them it really is just power tripping. Often because of some trauma they suffered from a man they were really into rejecting them. So they go down the pecking order and try to reject a guy as brutally as they can to 'regain' their lost power and soothe their wounded ego. It's their revenge tour against all men. Or they're just sadists who enjoy power tripping and don't need any other reason to do it.

[@projman2155]

Yep, they’d rather do it first like histrionics who fear abandonment so that they can protect their feelings

[@passerby6168]

Yup. Power trip which is actually an ego trip (illusion of power).

[@TheNewMexicoMan]

It just shows how insecure she is!

[@Z020852]

On the upside, at least he didn't have to pay for her branzino. Or his burger.

[@LeeEverett1]

I've only ditched a girl once mid-date and it was because she refused to get off her phone. We were at a restaurant and she was texting and scrolling through social media the entire time, I even asked her to put it away which she did for like 5 minutes before pulling it back out, taking selfies, pics of her food to add to her story etc. So I "excused" myself to the restroom, walked out, left her to pay the bill, and blocked her. It was a dick move but I felt she deserved it

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

I don't blame you, it's rude to ignore the people you are with. Some just don't know how to socialize anymore without their phones/devices. People are way to addicted to their devices and are uncomfortable with silence or boredom. While waiting in line, most people are on their phones and don't seem to know how to pass time without having something to keep them occupied. If their phone dies or they lose data signal, they have no idea what to do with themselves.

[@marianotorrespico2975]

SELF-DEFENCE. | No. You acted correctly and logically; you get out of the way of danger.

[@aliensoup2420]

Ask her if you can look at her phone like you are interested in it. Then put it in your pocket for the rest of the date. If she complains, give her the ultimatum of returning the phone or ending the date. But by that time it should be evident she is bad news to be avoided.

[@marianotorrespico2975]

@@aliensoup2420 -- THAT IS VERY KIND, BUT. . . . | Unless she is an M.D. on call or a secret agent on leave (people who MUST be found upon momentary notice) the smartphone should be put away for the date. Full stop; otherwise, the woman is wasting the man's time.

[@newerax1009]

A little overboard tbh. I think there was a better way to handle it, but I can see why you did it

[@octoking9611]

She's the reason why you should be yourself on a date and why you shouldn't try to be someone else to please every girl. That way the bad ones sort themselves out of your life.

[@boerqwhaas]

Glad this girl posted it on tiktok so now the rest of the world can save themselves the misery of meeting her for a date.

[@georgemendez6760]

Someone will still date her, she has a TRILLION options

[@boerqwhaas]

@@georgemendez6760 Sure, I never said I wouldn't tap her.🤣🤣Girls always have options. It's their job to say no. But how they do, says a lot about their character, and this one, if you get the chance, you better just get done and run out the door!

[@georgemendez6760]

@@boerqwhaas i said "Someone will still date her" I never said she would necessarily sleep with them, no matter what she will ALWAYS have the upper hand

[@clevelandwilliams5922]

That’s why she is so stupid.

[@mtnbkr777]

She actually did that guy a huge favor. She revealed to him what type of woman she is and he is far better off without her in his life. And hey, he also got a free meal out of it! haha

[@craigevan9649]

100%

[@jasonwils5196]

It's funny how people tell on themselves and not even realize they're doing it.

[@stangately2456]

What a heartbreaking story! If only that free burger had been a cheeseburger!😢

[@note2self88]

Honestly I think this is a good sign for this guy. He is clearly concerned about saving money but will sacrifice his own wants for hers. He never said anything to her about watching what she orders and how much it costs, but he had a line he wouldn’t cross for how much he would pay for something that isn’t worth it. That sounds like a responsible man to me.

[@steelethescene]

Yes ... branzino is a pricey dish ...

[@jimkofron8638]

Good observation and summary. Brilliant. Spot on.

[@davidwilson2680]

$3 for a slice of cheese is excessive. I would not pay that either.

[@Lo-fi_Hi-brow]

Nailed it

[@christopherjohnson4934]

YUP

[@thepainphantom]

I once got blocked by a girl, just because she thought I was going to propose her (despite we've just met 2 months and not even officially dating). She got wounded too much by other scumbags (men) in the past and projected it to me. It was the most absurd experience I had with a (random) girl.

[@ajtaylor8750]

$3 for cheese on a burger? ONLY in New York. If anything, this guy deserves props for his smart financial decisions unlike his date who's ordering branzino despite admitting her rent is half her paycheck.

[@CourtneyRyan]

💃🏻

[@gastronomist]

Not only NY. You'll likely pay $3 for cheese in Las Vegas. That place is insane.

[@cisium1184]

This poor girl doesn't realize that she's going to be known as _Branzino_ for the rest of her life. Someday she's going to find the right man, and it's gonna be "do you, Branzino, take this man to be your lawfully-wedded husband?"

[@bob_mosavo]

​@@cisium1184 Nah, she'll be known as $3 cheese for the rest of her life. Branzino is too hard to pronounce, and a name of $3 cheese is more apt, at least in my humble opinion 🙃

[@cisium1184]

When I decide not to buy something major in a store because it's too expensive, I go home and transfer that amount of money from my bank account to my Fidelity account, where it eventually goes into an ETF. The increase in investment is a kind of "reward" for controlling my spending. I don't do it for little things like unspent cheese-money, but maybe this guy does. Over a couple years that money would add up.

[@RachelScalfani]

I used to hate people being cheap (my husband is cheap, wasn't a deal breaker just annoying) but now that I'm an actual adult that has real problems and responsibilities I completely understand. I apologized to my hubby for not understanding when we were dating.

[@Lo_Saephan]

Isn’t it nice to understand responsibilities, it humbles you.

[@mjkittredge]

it's great to see people can grow, mature, with new understanding and perspectives. And best of all, admit they were wrong!

[@PolishKnightUSA]

There's "cheap" and then there's "frugal". Here's the difference between the two: Costco's often have gas stations with cheap gasoline that's about 20 cents cheaper than elsewhere. Hey, fill up your tank and you save $2.50 which is great. But... sometimes I see a line for it that's 10 cars deep (with 2 pumps each line.) And you wouldn't believe how many people trying to fill up act as if this is the first time they ever saw a gas pump and it takes them 5 minutes to get started. I saw folks with high end BMW's waiting a half hour to save $2.50. That's CHEAP. To me, it wasn't worth less than minimum wage for me to fill up gas on my Saturday morning. Frugal means knowing a value. Dollar store toilet paper costs more than at Costco in bulk. Or better yet, grocery store toilet paper ON SALE, costs less than Costco toilet paper.

[@joaquimpipa4842]

Just wait until you are a senior, there will be more understanding.

[@brianjones6465]

I bet you didn't apologize and just say that for attention and validation.

[@spidey1z]

This is definitely an interesting video on the girls behavior. If the guy not wanting to spend $3 on cheese was red flag for her, I could see not going on second date. You finish dinner and let the date end. If he asks about a second date, say you don’t feel a connection or something. However to leave without saying anything and blast the guy on Tik Tok is definitely red flags for every guy out there.

[@PolishKnightUSA]

Courtney, I appreciate being sympathetic to men. I’m chuckling because back in 1990 I had an urbane woman like this get disgusted about me when I griped about a cup of hot tea that cost $5 but was just a teabag and hot water. She looked at me as if I pulled out a dead kitten. I didn’t laugh out loud, but internally I was amused because to Eastern Europeans, tea is sacred (and my wife gets that!) Many women treat men on first dates like contestants on Japanese Game Shows where if he makes the slightest mistake, he’s out. Didn’t “enjoy” paying enough? Didn’t throw money around to impress everyone? Got a “doggie bag”? Note that women who claim to “care about the server” with high tips aren’t caring because they care about these people who work hard, they just want to show off their importance in how much money they can get a man to spend for them. Back 30 years ago, people were saying that something is “wrong” with me, or even just strange, in that I didn’t LIKE being on these dates. I didn’t think that this was a “good time”. I’m chuckling in that initially, I griped that it was “too much like a job interview” and then, I found a way to enjoy ACTUAL job interviews. But yeah, this is not shocking to most of us men in that this kind of pettiness has been the norm for at least 30 years.

[@daveblackman816]

I saw this one last week. I couldn’t believe it was real. I wouldn’t even notice if my date didn’t want to pay 3 bucks for cheese. She will end up single forever.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I was genuinely shocked lol

[@marcusherts9345]

She’s gonna make someone a great divorcee, Soon, the only males giving her attention, will be her cats! 🐈‍⬛🐈“Meeeeeowwww!”🐈‍⬛🐈

[@bradfrei193]

As Kevin Samuel's would say, "buy a cat, die alone!"

[@MikeyP109]

I couldn't believe it was real either, so I did the obvious and concluded it wasn't.

[@JeminiThaBard]

If it wasn't cheese this time , it woulda been some other topping.

[@davidaguayo9571]

Went on a first date a while back and the girl said to me “I don’t date guys with tattoos.” Even though I had one and she didn’t know that I have one as it’s hidden. Had a bad attitude/entitled princess mentality. Nor was she even courteous to offer to pay her half even though I always have the expectation that I pay on the first date and neither did she say thank you. I immediately thought “Next! Bye Felicia!” Dodged a bullet there!

[@mikeactual7640]

😂😂😂

[@Weesel71]

That tatoo thing works both ways. I do not believe attractive young women should have more tatoos than the entire fleet marine force. Tats can be nice when new, but they don't stay that way. There's probably an analogy here too.

[@princessmarlena1359]

What a hypocrite! I myself don’t want tattoos, but I do my best not to judge anyone who has one (unless they have an offensive one such as a hand-standing Swastika).

[@picklerix6162]

Women with a lot of tattoos have dated the entire fleet marine force.

[@Weesel71]

@@picklerix6162 Not arguing that. Just stating a preference.

[@dfrost666]

First of all, really appreciate the Morticia vibe going on in this video. Second, and more importantly, I really enjoy your videos because you present this very grounded approach to your advice and insights. In a world of click-bait and sensationalism I find that extremely refreshing. Thank you for continuing to work hard

[@ryanpierce5460]

Dating today is a dumpster fire. I went on a first date and got dismissed because I made one little mistake. Didn't make eye contact just once. The rest of the time, I was calm and made eye contact. She probably over analyzed it and dismissed me for one minor slip up.

[@carlcotterill6283]

it wasn't your slip up it sounds like she was looking for any excuse to finish the date early look for the signs . i walked out from three restaurants with women talking about there x then selves and on the phone and also no real conversation . they are the things to look out for and obviously eye contact but not every time they look at you

[@ryanpierce5460]

@@carlcotterill6283 good point

[@angiepatterson6338]

The secret isn’t to find the perfect person, but to find someone who is just as messed up as you are.

[@judithharley9236]

FACTS.

[@video99couk]

Worked for me. Neither myself nor my wife would pay that much for cheese.

[@christopherparbs]

😂

[@Azhureus]

Yep, did that. Together for over 12 years now. Best choice of my live !

[@stephenrandall484]

Im having trouble finding someone who makes the grade

[@devilsadvocacy]

It’s OK that you’re late to the party on this one Courtney. The brain cells you killed by watching this got to live a little bit longer than everybody else’s

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂😂

[@havoc5319]

​​​@@CourtneyRyan Believe it or not Courtney, I've actually seen a lot worse than this. This one woman freaked out because of the way a guy put his hand on the steering wheel. That's all. That's all he did! And she literally freaked out and talked all kinds of shit about him on social media because of that. She blocked him over that. Another one did the same thing because of the way a man poured his coffee. Crazy! And even worse, I've seen a lot of this. These are the women who ask "Where are all the good men?" when they hit 40. I have some really interesting topics to bring up after doing a lot of research that I'd love to bring to your attention If you're ever interested. I pay attention to psychological studies and I have a few I think you'd be very interested in. I wish you had a discord community or something.

[@pauljensen4773]

HAHAHA

[@jessicaholting2362]

@@havoc5319Maybe a lot of them but not all women who ask “Where are all the good men?” when they hit 40 are like this. It’s very possible to be a good person and still single at 40.

[@jarednovel]

She seems to be looking for a submissive nice type guy that she can control..She hates a man with guts and principles

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

Oh my gosh I remember this date I had where the lady was visibly disappointed when we met. Her reaction was just so unflattering that I just ended up getting her coffee and going with a walk instead of meeting her there and then doing something else or even having a more in depth conversation. She said she would have to walk home so I offered to take her to her apartment and drop her off which she refused and I was relieved. Later she did tell me she was not interested in seeing me again and I expected that and told her that I hoped she met someone who she liked and moved on. Those kinds of definite bad dates where the lady is not interested are kinda irritating but frankly they happen. It doesn't matter who you are you're not everybody's cup of tea. Frankly the guy rejected by that lady saved himself a lot of time. It sucks being rejected but it frees him up to actually meet someone who he clicks with. The next lady I dated I ended up marrying. So don't worry about the ones who quickly step aside because they are only making room for someone better to come along.

[@RealYRM]

At least she saved you a lot of time and didn't try to fake interest. I can't even be mad at someone who doesn't play games. Don't like me? Cool. Good luck finding what you do want, and I'll do the same, thanks for not lying to me or using me for my money. I mean that seriously. Getting rejected like that does you a big favor of not wasting your time.

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

@@RealYRM Oh yeah I ain't even mad at her or nothing. I mean after all I didn't waste any time and the next date I went on I ended up marrying her so no hard feelings believe me.

[@IzzyDaMan530]

These type of girls are all over on dating apps, maybe not to this extent but overwhelmingly the majority are like this, stay strong kings!

[@namkia205]

Dating Apps suck only leftovers there, men and women.

[@rjakob8073]

This is no longer a joking matter. For a woman to be so picky over a lousy 3.00 dollar piece of cheese is beyond being toxic. Guys, turn your lives over to MGTOW. You won't regret it!

[@Ironaddict714]

They say trauma stays with you forever… I’m sorry about the $6 Oreos

[@CourtneyRyan]

thank you 🫡

[@celestes1630]

I will remember for the rest of my life paying $6 for a head of romaine lettuce not too long ago. 🤣

[@anthonyml7]

This is a sad example of how girls these days just aren't "grown" too many girls aren't mature enough to be in an adult serious relationship. But I loved how you talked about that pack of oreo's still haunting you! lol We love you Courtney.

[@TheZoorat]

It's funny, he let her order whatever she wanted but him doing that with his own food was her deal breaker.

[@_kingtek_]

I would like to take the moment to express how dope you are. The energy & vibe that you're pouring out to the community is so needed in this day in age ... This Queen definitely has my respect... ~take care🌹

[@chickenpotpie2008]

I ain’t paying $3 for a piece of cheese either! Like you said, dude got a free meal. She reversed uno herself.

[@Courtney-Alice-Gargani]

Any person who is always pointing out your flaws and has nothing positive to say about you has issues and they need help. They're so insecure and a narcissist. They act like they're so perfect that everyone needs to better themselves when they should be looking in the mirror.

[@jumpingthroughhoops9737]

You sound like a real one

[@NiklasAndersson7]

LOL. Had to laugh about myself in these situations. I live together with a female friend, and I can get upset if she spends like 2 euros on a litre of water when all shops are closed, when I can buy like 30 litres next day for same amount just knowing where to shop. This Tik Tok girl would have a snowballs chance in hell with me.

[@chad534]

I went on a date 30 years ago with a lady who had looks but no money. She wanted to travel and I had plans to go to several places over the next couple years. I discussed it with her just in passing. She was broke as a joke so I said as the date was going well if you are able I'm going to Chicago in a few months. She was offended and took it wrong. It was funny the mood changed instantly. We finished up rather quickly and I was walking her to her car she said what are you doing? I said I'm being a gentleman and walking you to your car. She said you don't need to. I said well you are right but that's what a gentleman does but now you have made it clear you don't want me to goodnight and I walked away. She said as I was walking have fun in Chicago. I said yes I will...sorry you couldn't afford to make it and kept walking.

[@JustinFromMD]

$3 for cheese is crazy. I’d even understand her viewpoint if he told her she couldn’t get cheese on her food. But to be upset that someone didn’t want to get ripped off on his own food? He’s lucky she weeded herself out.

[@spaghettigodoriginalmedia]

It is 50 cents extra for a slice of cheese at McDonald burger vs a huge chocolate bar that cost only $2 the last 3 weeks. Price is key.

[@garypierce7380]

But he sounds like a skinflint ordering the cheapest thing he can find on a date. And she’s not a Foodie because she paid for the meal….even skinflint’s hamburger plain and water.

[@spaghettigodoriginalmedia]

@@garypierce7380 $3 for a slice of cheese well $5 cad here. That the price of farm-raised sliced cheese at restaurants is 50 cents so $5 is way too much. He is not even cheap a brick is $10 cad or USD 7. You just want to call the man cheap to keep her standards looking good.

[@JustinFromMD]

​@@garypierce7380 I'm just saying it's strange she cared that much what he put on his burger. Plus plenty of "foodies" would say you should never put cheese on a burger if it's good. I personally like cheese on mine- hell I like Blue Cheese w/onion straws on mine. But if someone I was with didn't want cheese it wouldn't even cross my mind that I should have an opinion on what is or isn't on that burger.

[@chrisandsneaky2453]

@@garypierce7380 He didn't ask her to pay for his meal, and he didn't know she was going to. She probably didn't plan to pay for him either; she did it because she was so disgusted by him not ordering that cheese that she was willing to pay for his meal just to get away from him. She was a stupid fool; the man did nothing wrong.

[@curtiszambili5661]

A woman ditching a guy for a measly piece of cheese that costs $3.00. Now that’s trivial af. Courtney makes a good point

[@maxwellspeedwell2585]

I would have Door Dash deliver her a slice of cheese.

[@jinpachibobochan3532]

Surpassed her value (personality), so she felt nervous and left

[@jarednovel]

There is more to it. I feel she hates men with guts or a man that would ask questions and challenge her or someone else for that matter on anything

[@SendU2Jesus]

She's gonna get the cheese-eater she always wanted, don't worry

[@inorite4553]

I can't believe that me, a guy, has to properly translate what really happened. I don't think it had anything to do with cheese....it was because she thought he was cheap because he declined the cheese. She's still an immature person and ditching the guy and blocking him without even a conversation, thats more immaturity showing.

[@DavidAWA]

It's tough in New York. I went on a Hinge date with a woman who didn't want to do coffee, brunch or a couple of my museum suggestions and chose the place (a rooftop bar on Central Park South). We knew right away that we didn't vibe but were mature and friendly about it. The conversation was polite and fine. But 2 drinks each at the bar and no rooftop view due to a private party, and $100 later it was time to say good-bye. She didn't want to walk in Central Park and I walked her to the subway. If I'm going to spend $100, I'd rather go out with a charming friend I already know.

[@charmelizabeth8584]

Thank you for highlighting this issue Courtney. From what many men say, so many women are like this these days. It's all about money.

[@rjakob8073]

Don't forget her entitlement behaviors that flare up daily.

[@MikeyP109]

Sadly, we're back to tik tok. Yes, I have seen this video before and the guy reacted to it in a similar fashion as here. So what we have is another tik tok creator getting attention for her shock value content. This is one person who wanted to be controversial and did a great job. This is not something men in the real world will have to deal with on any significant level. She posted this video for attention, and the dating gurus gave it to her. We need to stop giving these people the time of day. Consider that we don't even known if this date ever happened.

[@Christinascupcakes]

She came out and said it wasn’t real and it was a convo she overheard and decided to make a video of it herself. That could have been true or maybe because she got so much hate over it. Either way, I agree with you. These ppl just want attention and we need not give it to them.

[@MikeyP109]

@@Christinascupcakes Thanks for that update. I had no idea. I was just responding to her terrible performance.

[@ryanschneer]

Everything is a content grift now

[@sean5558]

I thought the same thing, she’s making it up or went on the date with intent to end it in order to post video for views

[@Matanumi]

Still a scam

[@marcocarbajal9299]

This episode reminds me of a very bizarre and toxic experience I had with a lady that I asked out on a date. Our initial online conversation was normal and pleasant but when the subject turned to where we were going to meet, the whole conversation took a turn for the surreal. She took deep offense and demanded that I apologize for choosing a 'watering hole' closer to my place than to hers. In reality, it wasn't far from her place at all, but in retrospect, I understand that she was applying a 'sh*t test'. Or, maybe she was just crazy. To make a long story short, I told her that I wasn't going to apologize over something so trivial and inoffensive and ended things there. This was twelve years ago. I bet you she's either still single or making some poor husband's life miserable. I think it's probably the former.

[@minxlabrada]

Had 3 dudes who wanted to beat me up, 12ish years ago, because I told a woman, "I like your Lord of the Rings purse". She got in my face all angry and demanded an apology. Can you imagine? So I didn't apologize and explained that in fact her purse looked like a prop from Lord of the Rings. And that its a compliment because a lot of hard work went into making the props for that film. So she walked off angry. And then when I went to leave the place, her husband, and his two friends tried to force me to apologize under threat of violence. I laughed really hard, which I think angered them. Pretty soon, the bouncer walked out and told them to leave. Not sure what is worse. Bad behavior from women or men supporting women's bad behavior under threat of violence.

[@marcocarbajal9299]

@@minxlabrada Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you were dealing with a pretty unstable group of individuals. Anyone reacting to such a harmless comment with that degree of hostility is not only deeply disturbed but highly insecure. I'm glad you escaped the situation unscathed.

[@minxlabrada]

@@marcocarbajal9299 Noticed some people will lash out at small things sometimes as a release for something else. Had a cashier tell me that a guy got angry at her and threw his change at the wall over basically nothing.

[@risnlion6439]

I chose 2 places for a girl and I to meet and she didn't approve of either. So I told her to choose. She chose a super high end place in downtown Detroit that required reservations. I told her I'd be down to go there after her and had met a few times. She unmatched me..some very psychotic unrealistic women out there.

[@Hawkeye2001]

@@risnlion6439 Dodged a bullet there too

[@mynameisnotbob941]

I’m glad I was out of the dating scene before the internet became a big thing. It’s normal for a date to not go well, but now if it doesn’t go well the other person has to blast you on TikTok. So stupid.

[@Dreykopff]

I've experienced something similar. Her father is rich but always tries to save money with everything, up to the point of wanting to sell their old car instead of giving it to her, which she of course hated a lot. Then came I, at the time a student without a job. I was at her place for a week or so. I looked at the prices of some things and/or complained about them just a little too much (but still paid up), she collected resentment over it and shortly after dumped me. But when it came to food, she had only the cheapest, most basic and effortless meals to offer, and then even wanted me to heat (can hardly call it cooking) half of them. I am just now realizing how hypocritical she was there... Be what you want to attract!!!

[@123dweaver]

What that woman probably doesn’t realize is it’s the guys who are like this who are the most wealthy later on. Unless they inherited their money, all the wealthy people I know are like this. How do you think they ended up this way? She’s going to attract the very person she doesn’t want and she uploaded a video showing the entire world this.

[@its_clean]

Not all wealthy people think like that though. As a person who has a little money (but certainly not textbook wealthy), I subscribe to the philosophy of "spend whatever it costs on what you want, spend zero on what you don't". If I wanted cheese on a burger, I'd just get it. If I want my car to be a certain color that costs more than the others, I'd just pay for the optional paint. But I wouldn't pay for the sunroof or the carbon fiber whatever, even if that's "expected" on the types of cars I buy, because I have zero interest in those features. In my experience, smart people with money are not stingy or excessively frugal. They spend money without hesitation on things they need, things that bring them happiness, and especially things that save time. They just don't waste.

[@angrypenguin956]

@@its_clean I am on the same page, but it's also true that I know quite a few people who have pretty decent means and got there by watching every penny they spent. A couple of them could accomplish that on a relatively modest salary.

[@its_clean]

@@angrypenguin956 Nothing wrong with watching your pennies, but what matters is where you watch them. If you don't like cheese that much in the first place, then obviously don't get it. But if you like cheese and you want it, but you don't want to pay for it, then there are only two reasons for that: either you can afford it and you're denying yourself enjoyment just to save a few bucks, or you can't afford the $3 charge and you probably shouldn't be at that restaurant in the first place. The chick in the video has a terrible attitude and deserves to be shamed. But the dude she was out with was also not necessarily right. There isn't always a winner in every situation. Sometimes everyone is a loser lol.

[@user-td4wl8by8d]

Bingo! People don't acquire wealth by spending money all the time.

[@emberya9561]

@@its_clean You're probably the most sensible person I found in that comment section. We don't know how much he actually likes cheese but if he likes it a lot then it could mean he is stingy. In case of them being a couple, her having a kid and him becoming a breadwinner of the family, he could be depriving her of any non-free of charge little pleasure too. Hence this kind of behavior can be a yellow flag. Somehow everyone is only praising. Clearly shows that they have never lived through financial abuse.

[@zaynevanday142]

I’m so happy I pulled out of the dating nightmare in 2017 and this just reinforces my decision 😂😂😂

[@godpilled9077]

Being single rules!

[@davester1970]

Another shining example as to why men should never do dinner on first dates. Especially in NYC.

[@stevekaspar1396]

Just found your channel!! Love it!!! Great!!!! Thank you!!

[@whothefcares2687]

She's so confident she waited til she was gone to say anything so she couldn't be called out about it then blocked him so she couldn't be told how ridiculous she was there either.

[@alfx5432]

She has some new mental illness.

[@shageta456]

One of my biggest pet peeves are people who NEVER take accountability or responsibility for their actions and put the blame on me, and then I get walked all over and get in trouble for it. I even tried to confront someone who got on my nerves, and they didn't even say sorry or think that they were the problem because they love to take advantage of the kind people of this world

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

I know I can't stand people like that either.

[@bradfrei193]

Had a coworker antagonize, antagonize, antogonize, until finally swear words were exchanged. And yet he flipped it back on me, as though it was my problem. Never his problem. Atleast now, we both ignore each other, and get through the day in peace and quiet.

[@hathlete4ever916]

I've had hundreds of people like that in my life and know then when I see them.

[@Chrissycolelive]

She should have kept it to herself smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@gankdalfthedank9855]

"Why am.i doing this, to MYSELF?" She's asking the right question at the beginning, but for the wrong reasons 😂

[@ilai7893]

Not sure what's worse - her calling herself out for being unkind, or for being broke but wanting to flex (she ditched him for a $3 cheese when she later caller herself out for being a broke student -- yet she still got and paid for the branzino!)

[@TRC19999]

The entitlement because a guy didn’t want to pay 3 bucks for something he didn’t care for. Then she sneaks out the date because of it. Smh At least he got a free meal

[@CourtneyRyan]

Right lol a win is a win 😂

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

Lol unbelievable the way the dating scene is becoming. Wow.

[@steveklemetti8035]

I think she took care of her part.

[@kylegrant9980]

I doubt she paid for it. She just didnt want to look like she just dipped

[@moleahy6880]

@@kylegrant9980 Agreed.

[@rjakob8073]

Hello Courtney, this is one of the most powerful videos you've ever posted. Thank you 🌷. People need to slow down and look into a person's heart/mind before throwing them to the wolves. No one is perfect.

[@starkiller9897]

$6 for Oreos & u still think about it today u aint over it!!😂 I dont blame u thats some bullsh!t!!😂😂😂

[@KidDynamite22]

At least she covered the bill I guess.... "The confidence this girl has... is ..... alarming" actually made me laugh put loud

[@headlibrarian1996]

Probably only her part of the bill.

[@PappaBear_1234]

We just need a video of Courtney just Roasting all the pick me girls and the women “humbling” men

[@xchazz86]

Holy shit, how did she manage to survive to adulthood? This is literally a 6 year old in a grown womans body.

[@joegarcia9057]

I talked with several friends and they mentioned that even if they became filthy rich they wouldn't pay for certain things in the grocery store and that would include some things in restaurants. There was a restaurant I frequented and when I ordered a chili burger they would ask if I wanted cheese and lettuce on top for1.50 extra. I said of course. Well someone purchased that same restaurant and when I ordered that same chili Burger they asked the same question. Do you want cheese and lettuce extra for $1.50. I said yes but they literally put two pieces of lettuce and two pieces of grated cheese. So the next time I go whether I'm with someone or not I'll say no. I think food is outrageous but restaurants should be fair with servings and not take advantage. A date or friend can interpret this however they want. But a date is about someone's company not food. Modern dating is pretty superficial .

[@charlie5thumbs351]

One of the reasons I deleted all of my dating apps. Not saying all gals are this bad, but tell me women aren't pickier than they've ever been before. Dating sites and social media has definitely contributed to this. There is always going to be someone better on an app. Someone richer, stronger, better looking, etc. and now we all have FOMO. Lord have mercy.

[@BGS22202]

A woman deemed me “too frugal” for a date because I did my own taxes and did not take big vacations for the first few years of my career from 2003-2008…in the same conversation in which I told her I had two international vacations planned for this year.

[@christopherparbs]

His rationale about paying 12 quarters for some cheese is his choice. He was probably thinking...If I put 3 dollars more, I can get a whole pack of cheese tomorrow!

[@thebluelunarmonkey]

Or... I don't really care about cheese, or worth risking upsetting lactose intolerance... so as long as I don't have to pay extra, sure... I'll risk it.

[@jonathan2260]

Thank you for this. I made a similar point in the comment section of another channel. I pointed that she was lying about her reason to ditch the guy. The problem wasn't the cheese. We don't know this from the video you shared but what if this is their 1st meeting and she didn't like what she saw in him and just found the 1st reason she could find to justify to herself to ditch the guy? She's in denial as to why she left him but had to post something to her followers because validation is more important than anything else out there for this girl.

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

I'm glad you included the fact that she got roasted. As I was watching the video doing a full body cringe, I made it worse when I pictured all the boss babes gassing her in the comment section because they felt she was in the right. The fact that she got roasted gives me hope.

[@rangopao138]

Courtney...props to you for being mature beyond your age. We are about the same age and your advice is very valuable and I take them seriously in my dealings with others. Keep going....

[@bertg.6056]

I used a coupon on a date once, and the woman started to get huffy about it. I simply explained to her that mine was the free one, I'm still paying for hers. Didn't matter. Good riddance.

[@jonathanbrown2025]

Being budget minded should not be seen as a turn off. If anything it shows a good level of maturity.

[@slversrfr99]

If a lady freaks out over something like this, she's definitely not worth the time; I was supposed to go on a date with this one woman, VERY first date after we'd messaged some (dating app I think? idr, it's been a while), so like the day before the date, she messages me and was like "Don't forget to get me flowers!" I was like what?! (thinking to myself) I'm not against getting someone flowers, but on the first date for YOU to tell me to get you flowers? Yeah....no; I blew her off, she texts me and was like what happened? I said I was completely turned off by her demand for flowers, and she was like I was just joking whatever you are missing out. People these days, lol. :)

[@aliensoup2420]

Joke or not, you could have gone on the date and ignored the flowers to see how she reacts. Women put men through all kinds of "shit tests" even after marriage. The best behavior is to let them roll off your back like water. Often women say crap just because it enters their mind, but they forget they said it 10 seconds later. You can't take some things seriously.

[@hunter_69_69]

This is spot-on. A high school diploma where I'm from, western PA, is about as good as a college degree in NYC, which is where I'm working now. The higher cost of living pretty much cuts off the pay raise from the degree lol. Can't blame the guy for wanting to save some $.

[@steelethescene]

I wonder if it was the question about the extra charge for cheese, him declining to add $3 for a slice of cheese (which IS exorbitant & the menu should clearly STATE extra charges so u don’t have to ask) or the added comment about how u have to pay extra for everything these days that got her ... maybe if he had just politely declined the cheese ...

[@NIGHTFOX216]

You literally took the words right out of my mouth about that women.

[@markcorona919]

Well, it is a good thing that personality and merit mean something to other more rational people. I am glad the guy got a free meal and I hope this girl enjoys pets, can continue afford pet care, pet food and has a nice TV to watch her stories continuously until she retires. She can be that angry old woman who complains that men are not worth it and keep other selfish ladies single as well. Thank you Courtney, this is just eye opening. Not sure if dating is honestly worth it anymore. I will continue to work on myself and live. She represents the very worst of what I keep seeing here in the US.

[@normharris]

I've experienced something like this. It was the third date, except she was VERY vocal in nitpicking me apart, i. e. "Oooo, you like that?" Oooo...you buy your clothes from there?" "Oooo....you would do that?" I was so tempted to ditch her there, but I didn't want to be cruel because I picked her up from her place. After that date disaster, I never spoke to her again.

[@JamesLilly]

Loved that story! It's a perfect example of a blessing in disguise! He's probably moved on another lady who is much more compatible! Nice!!

[@johnahuna474]

Totally agree with you Courtney, I would just call "standards"--Principles. Sometimes, particularly women on my dating site mention one of their desires is someone who is open to compromise. I give ALL day on preferences, toilet seat up/down, shake/bang your toothbrush, etc but I NEVER compromise my principles. I, in turn, would never tell a woman to compromise her principles to agree with me. Life is NOT first of all about "Agreement;" it's about "Clarity"--I understand you; you un

[@Bombadil-ez9ns]

This goes to a larger lesson I've learned: If somebody cuts me out of their life, embedded inside their reasons for doing that are my reasons for being okay with it. And maybe most importantly, I never need to know what their reasons are.

[@JacoWium]

100%.. Totally on the same page as you.

[@krunkologist]

many woman on dating sites arn't really looking for a relationship. like this woman for instance, she just wanted to feel superior. oh well... better to learn on first date then spend weeks, month, years in a relationship with her

[@FrancisFjordCupola]

I really, really, really dislike people who try to cover up their bad actions and behavior with "it was just a joke" and "why can't they take a joke?"

[@crabcakes4194]

First impressions are everything.

[@joelds1751]

Sadly, this childish behavior is rampant with young women these days, at least online; false sense of entitlement not earned, blaming others. I am on Hinge myself; sometimes like having a first date just texting. The good news is that I sometimes save time by realizing that I am not compatible with someone, based on their strange or rigid responses, like this "cheese" response, making a big deal out of nothing. This just happened to me yesterday. And by young I mean including people in their 40's or even 50's.

[@yasmine7919]

I still don't understand why people go on restaurants for a first date. A coffee will do And you don't have to wait until you chew your food to talk ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@pigknickers2975]

@@yasmine7919 Exactly, cheaper, quicker, easier, less pressure, can do in the day, all sorts of good reasons.

[@seraphthegatekeeper]

@@yasmine7919 Lots of women slighted if you don't take them out for food. It's a catch-22 for a lot of us out there. You can take her on a coffee/walk in the park date, but then she'll think you're cheap. Some appreciate it, but many are so entitled.

[@EricSPizarro]

Women 50 and less are becoming extremely undesirable and repugnant. Of course, there are exceptions, but they are in the one digit percent

[@georgecherry1536]

You can learn a lot from a person just texting if you're "listening" before you take them out to a meal. When you get to the point of asking them out suggest something casual and check their response. If she applies pressure by saying no to Starbucks and a bench and maybe some ice cream she will tell you why; they always do. But if she's good with the frappe and some Hagen Daz, then you offer something a lil more. But listen before you get there ladies and gentlemen. It can save you some heartache and hemorrhoids.

[@mdredheadguy1979]

This girl is a perfect example of why I quite dating. The way I see it, staying single is just a better choice.

[@lockyp204]

Yep, and that woman is quite average to be honest. It’s a lost cause.

[@joshuapierce3085]

The thing I get from her was that it was not about the cheese. It was her saying "he's not willing to pay extra for something extra he wants and if he's not willing to do that for himself, then I doubt he'd be willing to pay extra for whatever I want and that is unacceptable". That's the feel I get from the woman. Nothing to do with the cheese itself and everything to do with the values behind why or why not to get the cheese. Though another commenter here brought up that it could also be that she just wanted to make herself feel better by being able to reject him.

[@maugre316]

I'd turn down cheese for $3, too. My favourite woman I've ever dated (unfortunately it didn't work out) would also look for the cheaper deals and items. It's not about being cheap; it's about being frugal so we can afford to enjoy other little pleasures without worrying about debt.

[@barkercarter1782]

It sounds like a total win for the Gentleman.

[@mikeg3439]

Early dating with my wife, she was attracted to me because while I was not stingy with my money, she noticed that I was cautious with it. She saw that I was willing to spend rational amounts of it to be kind to those close to me, but I set limits, and generally maintained discipline, and I am a planner. I was attracted to her for the same quality in her. This of course isn't the only reason why we ended up married for over a decade to this day, but I can tell you this much: it's why we do NOT argue about money/finances.

[@ILoveJesusForeverAmen]

Avoid narcissists. No one is ever good enough for 'them'

[@murphy6700]

"This guy dodged a bullet and got a freee meal." Hilarious!

[@jonjon-ft6wp]

I used to be a correction officer at a MAX PRISON and fight over a grilled cheese. Courtney thank you for all the advice and all. Been watching a lot of your videos.

[@khalid969]

I was reading the other day about what impresses Dutch women, and one Dutch woman weighed in on the matter and said: "if you want to impress me don't buy deodorant just because you need some. Buy deodorant only when it goes on sale". Have you ever heard an American woman ever say something like that! The US and Northern Europe are two very different cultures.

[@jpnarino]

Dutch are famous for being cheap. I would be shocked if someone thinks personal hygiene and not annoying others with your B.O depends on finding cheap deodorant.

[@jurypyrate2809]

You are wise and awesome!! Thank you for being you!

[@jo92sm47]

2:05 That subtle look at the camera was awesome.

[@davew8841]

Another great analysis, as usual. I think you're spot on, about constantly reinforcing those core values that we hold closest. This idea that everyone we meet has ulterior motives hiding beneath the surface, is out of control. The average person is an easy-going, flexible sort of individual, in my experience. That's the desirable sort of person, too.

[@lilypad7851]

Off topic, but your videos are so relaxing! I was a bit tense/stressed and the moment I started your video it's like I instantly relaxed. The background, your voice, your tonality, and the format of your videos just give me such a good vibe!

[@springbok204]

I wanted to send a fan email but it would sound just like this!

[@r.b.ratieta6111]

Real talk, as a guy, I'd feel kinda bummed over the rejection, but the realization that I got a free meal out of it without an awkward goodbye would compensate enough for me to probably laugh about it a half hour later. Then I'd use the money I planned to use for the date to buy myself something nice and spontaneous, maybe ice cream or a milk shake, maybe something for my computer, maybe something on Amazon. Chances are I'd feel right as rain the next morning. Then I'd make sure to block her number anyway and bam, new day.

[@ared18t]

I can't even meet someone to talk to I don't have time to worry about getting rejected haha.

[@crashzone6600]

This is what happens when someone has too many choices. You have so many choices, that you are never satisfied with any choices, or when you do finally make a choice you will always regret it because of all the other choices you could've chosen. Ultimately I think these type of people are setting themselves up for endless unhappiness. Whether they deserve it or not, I'm not entirely sure.

[@paulhynes170]

she probably thought she has 100's of options before this date she will be lucky to find 1 now

[@mjkittredge]

the paradox of choice. Grass is always greener on the other side. I think the problem with people who think like that is the complete lack of self awareness. They don't stop to really think about what their goals and standards are and if their behaviors are in line with them. They are usually self sabotaging hypocrites who are far more concerned with getting what they think they deserve than providing any value themselves. They overestimate their own value and underestimate others value. Honorary members of the Dunning Krueger society.

[@ashtonsmith9682]

@@paulhynes170 lmao delusional cope. She is decent looking. Regardless of her actions she will always a suitor. man you guys are so bluepill and delusional

[@TSierra]

I saw this a couple of days ago on ARAKO TV’s channel and I couldn’t believe it. She better enjoy her 15 cats when she gets older because with that mindset she has, she’s going to stay single for a long time.

[@mai_tq]

Talking about first dates: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z3-0ZnyJp7xjgNU

[@juniorcamacho6477]

This is exactly THE reason why I don’t want relationships anymore. Setting up and going on dates are never the same anymore. Being ditched during a date or get ghosted/blocked after one seems to be the new solution nowadays, instead of being mature and coming forward by telling the truth. Sht like that is a waste of my time for me. I’m done with this dating scene today. Nonetheless, I’m enjoying working out, being wealthy and living my best life as a single guy.

[@georgecherry1536]

Happy living your best life? Bullshit. So you got ghosted. You dodged a bullet. It definitely doesn't mean you give up. Your best life is nothing without someone to share it with. Be honest. Isn't it cool to have someone who appreciates your accomplishments and shouts attaboy and gives you a juicy kiss? Takes you out to celebrate and is genuinely in your corner? We all want that and there's nothing wrong with that. Dust yourself off and try again lika Aaliyah would say. It could be worth it at the end of the day my dude. There are some good ones out there. Don't give up.

[@RealYRM]

It is actually better to have someone to build memories and share travel and other things with... you might have to sift through 1,000 women to find the right one who has the interest level and values you want, but they are out there. Stay away from hookup apps. Be open to dating women that aren't perfect 10s, who have some integrity and value themselves enough not to put out easily. You can get a nice 6-7 who takes care of herself that might actually appreciate you and brings something of value to the table and is fun to be with.

[@Yonah_144]

@@georgecherry1536 It's not bullshit. If he's filtering out women that are behaving this way, he will begin attracting women he wants. The key that a lot of people are missing is not being attached to the idea of finding someone, and already feeling like your life is complete.

[@jonny-b4954]

Yeah, single life is fun for a while. As the years pass though, I'm realizing more and more that's just a cope and rationalization of it. Being alone sucks. Especially once your family starts dying around you and you're left truly alone.

[@DavidFarrington]

I once tried to take a girl dancing at a campus swing dance class. A class I hadn't been to in a while that had apparently fallen apart a bit. So I tried to salvage the date by being my usual charming self, and she went to the bathroom and never came back. (To be fair though, she did have social anxiety, at least that's what she told me in the text right after "I'm leaving, this date is awful.")

[@pigknickers2975]

tbf that does sound like a really bad choice for a date. So many ways someone is going to end up looking bad.

[@nicoleackerman205]

I would leave to but would tell the person that this is not for me. I can't do dancing in public. Just heard that the class is giving me chest pains

[@HyperFlair]

imagine finding the love of your life, your life partner, your soulmate, your world, your everything... but throw it away over a piece of cheese😂

[@nicoleackerman205]

You clearly were not if you fight over cheese and coupons

[@rjakob8073]

I thought I had found the love of my life so many years ago, but near the end, the X was cheating and even admitted to stealing thousands of dollars from my accounts. Today, 10/22/23, I am DEAD set on never dating and not entering a relationship with a modern American woman - Period! You, toxic nut cases, are done!

[@cococinnamon2236]

I agree what you said about the slice of cheese

[@bignapolean3068]

Intelligent commentary. Thank you. 🎉