Women Must be HAIRLESS | r/BadWomensAnatomy

[@Jammidodger]

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[@Dino-1958]

I think I should get some free promotional toothpaste as the only genuine Dinosaur on KZbin, I'm old and a few teeth have gone by the wayside but there is still some! 💐🦕💃🤔🐈‍⬛🐕😼♥️☕🥖🧀🇪🇺🇺🇦🏳️‍⚧️🌈💐

[@peculiar-pan]

mmmm dino

[@duckUnknown]

How is there only one reply? Edit: two now cuz me

[@sweetsunshine4279]

hope i can get the discount

[@samijodavis9204]

Seahorse breeder

[@JhericFury]

Imagine thinking body hair is unnatural. Dude, we're apes

[@silverghostcat1924]

😂😂😂

[@iclynnx]

Some of these people probably are religious and don't believe we came from apes. But still, we're land mammals. Is there any land mammal without hair on their body? Even elephants have some hair strands, especially Indian elephants can be fuzzy.

[@JhericFury]

@@iclynnx naked molerats maybe? My cousin Ralph? (There is no cousin Ralph)

[@iclynnx]

@@JhericFury I looked it up, even naked mole rats have some hairs on their body, just sparsely. They gotta feel their way around somehow, in those underground tunnels, while blind. And yes, cousin Ralph is the exception.

[@JhericFury]

@@iclynnx ooh, very interesting, thanks

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

I am Greek, so I come from a long proud line of women who can naturally grow glorious bushy mustaches! Body hair does not negate femininity

[@joparkin6960]

As a gay woman, I want to say "yes please!".

[@kittyrabies]

that's actually so cool I love bearded women

[@SarastistheSerpent]

As an Italian, we too are very culturally proud of our handsomely moustachioed ladies! Greeks and Italians have a lot in common

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

@@SarastistheSerpent Indeed! Famous mustached women of history, unite!

[@Anuyushi]

My family is Italian, it's in our genes for women to have sideburns!

[@beaucarbary5619]

It's really funny the "getting married sucks the life out of men" meme because single women statistically live longer than married women, and married men statistically live longer than single men. Who's sucking the life out of who?

[@vladimirazubcekova7727]

if its so bad for men then they should stop getting married

[@bambino05]

It's also wild because most of the people who spout this are the ones who asked for marriage

[@SuperStella1111]

It’s so bad for women we have. But that’s destroying the men. They call themselves incels. And like all men cut off from women’s company they destroy everything - themselves, and those around them. ​@@vladimirazubcekova7727

[@ChrissyCat87]

Statistically women also get more work and stress from getting married, men get less work and stress. Housechores and childcare still mainly falls on the woman to do, and also taking care of the husband. All of that on top of also working.

[@emeryhiss5675]

I'm a trans man who just had a hysterectomy, and in the process learned I had endometriosis. I really want to try a period simulator just to see where my cramps were on the scale. Just curious honestly.

[@Nat_778]

I will say as someone who has a period and tried one of those simulators: they aren't very accurate because they tickle like hell! I'm pretty sure they use small jolts of electricity to stimulate your muscles to clench, but the sensation of small electric shocks on the skin felt like pins and needles x100000 😭

[@JeeWillacurs]

@@SkullyGal53 nooo dont say thaaaat you wont be okay with it😭/ J

[@Vahlee-A]

My sibling's periods are as painful as labor. They used to need to squeeze my hand to deal with the cramps.

[@dim9753]

I’ve only ever had very mild cramps. Not all women get them and those of us who don’t, are not the least bit curious. Just thankful we don’t go through that ish

[@hannahk1306]

​@@SkullyGal53 I get why you might think that from a cultural perspective, but trust me you *really* don't want periods! It's way more than the pain, the cramps and the inconvenience of bleeding: mine affects my mental health, my energy levels, my sleep, my ability to concentrate and I get nausea and sometimes vomiting from it. I know other people who have periods *far* worse than mine as well. Some people are very lucky and have mild or even no symptoms, but many people have horrendous symptoms due to their periods.

[@BLZ231]

Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for women to shame other women for having a c section. At least online, I hope it’s uncommon in real life.

[@silverghostcat1924]

People are getting ridiculous! The one's claiming you're not a real mother unless you have the baby naturally rather than C-section are utterly unhinged!

[@hyunjinies_dumpling]

there should be no shame in c sections... i was born by c section because it was an emergency and i almost died!!! sometimes it is just safer for both mother and baby and is not "the easy way out" you are still left with very obvious scarring for the rest of your life!! both ways can be scary but ultimately, doctors do whatevers best for the mother and child

[@SarastistheSerpent]

I think Marjorie Taylor Green said something not too long ago about how she thinks women who don’t give birth vaginally are not “real mothers”. She also went after adoptive mothers as well if I’m not mistaken

[@adidi7789]

​@@silverghostcat1924literally the plot of Macbeth hinges on this idea, it's not a new thing and unfortunately I don't think it's going anywhere

[@glampixie]

Literally wouldn’t be alive without C-sections.

[@Belti200]

I swear i read the title as “women must be hairless: bald women’s anatomy”

[@sashadoom]

I mean, that would work 😆

[@botanicalitus4194]

this is so funny help 💀

[@thatfinnishkrista]

Funniest comment 😄

[@JDMimeTHEFIRST]

He should just go in an Alopecia dating site

[@Muffinn_Cakes]

Thank you this made me really laugh lmao

[@DanSlaughter85]

As a trans-man with advanced endometriosis people saying period pain doesn't exist really pisses me off. 🤬 Also the odds of "being allowed" to get a hysterectomy are next to none especially in my state. Im still at 39 told im of "breeding age" and "too young" to make these decisions. I've never wanted kids and I'm trans I wouldn't be having them. They'd rather risk my life even though they have also said that i can't even conceive. My response was "Of course I can't im gay AF!" It's a game femme presenting and AFAB people cannot win. It should be our choice point blank period. Considering AMAB people can get a vasectomy at 18. 18!

[@MamaCat956]

My ace roommate is 20 wants a vasectomy and is being told by doctors that he has to wait till he's 25. Because that is a permanent decision. His brain is still developing.

[@glampixie]

I’m nonbinary but I’ve had similar experiences with trying to get a hysterectomy. I also have extremely painful periods that are unreliable and can last up to 12 days. I have immune issues and multiple Disabilities. I’ve told my doctors I do not ever want to have children, ever, and still they refuse because “I could change my mind”. Weirdly I’ve never been denied any of the 30 plus other surgeries I’ve had because I might change my mind, and those are all permanent too…. I hate it.

[@SnowDragon_2204]

am i understanding this right? you can’t conceive but you’re not allowed to get a hysterectomy in case you “magically change your mind and want kids” (bc yes, that’s VERY likely) (very /s i swear) ??? how does that make sense? how are these doctors allowed to do this? it BAFFLES me how many times i’ve seen similar stories :(

[@glampixie]

@@MamaCat956 That’s not even medically factual lol. Geeez these doctors.

[@calamityjean1525]

How infuriating! I'm so sorry.

[@BlackKoshka23]

"How did you get this much [body] hair as a female?" Puberty!

[@barabajagaI]

if these men think a woman having a little bit of body hair is unnatural imagine if they found out about PCOS

[@krissyskulls]

Men is a stretch, I’d just call them males.

[@emilyjohn2034]

I can say as a woman with PCOS it is not a good reaction. In my experience most of them just blame us for “failing as woman.” Not the worst though, the worst is definitely the fact that serious PCOS can cause a very risky pregnancy and I’ve literally had men tell me to my face that as a woman it would be better for me to die than to not have children… some of these people just hate woman and no amount of reasoning will sway them

[@jjbud3124]

I never had PCOS that I'm aware of and I started growing facial hair when I was about 12 and I've been shaving every day since - decades. It is genetic. People would be surprised how many females are hairy. Most just shave it off or have electrolysis if they can afford that and have dark enough hair.

[@angelcollina]

@@emilyjohn2034I’m so sorry! 😢🫂🫂🫂

[@aliceb.1481]

"does anyone actually have menstrual cramps?" Omg how is that a real person.. should tell him that being kicked in the balls doesn't actually hurt and men just came up with it to make people think balls are more important than they are.

[@waffles3629]

I told a man that, he called me sexist. Then again he also claimed that being kicked in the balls was a million times more painful than childbirth, so he was talking out his ass.

[@katyamcadams]

As a trans woman (with balls, cause surgery do be expensive), my experience with things similar to being kicked in the balls don't actually hurt that much, initially. It basically hurts about 50% more than other areas (so 150% total) initially, and a moment later it turns into gut cramps/pain, along with a bit more pain in the balls themselves. This is to say, I know it's definitely NOT as bad as childbirth, and does not last as long as the pain and cramps during childbirth do.

[@prschuster]

A rule of thumb: You have no good reason to tell others how to manage their looks, but by the same token, no one is obliged to be attracted to anyone.

[@dietotaku]

the only people suggesting anyone is obliged to be attracted to anyone else are right-wing trolls so what's your point? that's like saying "only you can determine your gender identity but by the same token it's wrong to require that kindergarteners undergo sex reassignment surgery."

[@MrLoveandKindness]

Very wise😊

[@mazzy_ivy]

thank you. THANK YOU.

[@jcfreak2007]

I prefer the 5 second rule. If they can't change it in 5 seconds, don't mention it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lethfuil]

​@@jcfreak2007 But what if they could, but don't want to, because they rightfully don't give a crap about if someone else likes it, or not?

[@TheSkullcleaver]

As a cis man every day I spend on the internet I become more disappointed by the absolute stupidity of other cis men.

[@pandora8610]

Don't the sort of people who talk about "god's perfect design" usually also believe that women suffer in childbirth (and deserve to) because one once ate some fruit?

[@emisformaker]

This is the one I was looking for. I had this exact same thought when that bit came up.

[@Kattlarv]

Yes. *Specifically* because: Eve did WHAT she was created to do: Obey. She was *not capable* of disobedience. As she was created solely to obey. So: She was given a command to eat the fruit. So she did as instructed. Adam however, *had* free will. (But no knowledge, so could in no way know it was bad to do as he was told.) So, god then blamed Eve for doing what she was created to do, because it made him look stupid.

[@dark7859]

even funnier cause that's literally what's written in the bible

[@ADBH-sd8cz]

​@@dark7859well, it does say that her birth pain would be increased. It didn't say that Eve was incapable of disobeying Adam.

[@dark7859]

@@ADBH-sd8cz I meant the part about birth pain being because of eve eating the apple

[@lauraevans2104]

I worked with a guy that was of the opinion that a woman could not change her appearance at all once dating him especially hair length or there would be no second chance he would be gone. I followed up that statement with: Me: Then you wouldn’t be upset if she left you for shaving your face?” Him: “that’s rediculous, I can shave whenever I like and she’s being shallow.” Me: ….😑

[@dietotaku]

bet i could count on one finger the number of relationships he's had in his life

[@dielizzy-ts2rv]

:D LOL that dude!

[@lauraevans2104]

@@dietotaku yep and he cheated so that ended.

[@IndigoViolent]

@@dietotaku Yes, and it would be with his hand.

[@PumpkinQueenFlorence]

Men are so attached to hair length, it’s actually insane

[@donneverae3050]

Here in the US, I think any senator or representative who has never had a uterus, but plans to vote on women health issues, should be required to undergo labor simulation as a mandatory qualification.

[@vladimirazubcekova7727]

its not their business either way

[@katwitanruna]

I don’t know *anyone* who doesn’t have body hair. Seriously. I know folx who remove body hair but no one who was born hairless.

[@waynerazorblade]

i mean most people are born hairless. you know, as babies

[@jacquelynsmith2351]

I know someone who had no body hair at one point... but she was in chemo, so I don't think it counts. Her hair grew back darker and curlier

[@grantmegan91]

​@@waynerazorblade even babies are covered in tiny hairs all over

[@mrmaniac3]

I'd ask these people, how am I supposed to be disgusted by my girlfriend's body hair? I'm so much hairier 🤭

[@Vahlee-A]

As a trans woman I hate my own body hair, but I think it looks awesome on other women.

[@j.apenrose7896]

Had a doctor's appointment today at a mental health specialist kinda place here for under 25 year olds. I'm non binary, and look very androgynous, and wear my pride pin to things like this because people tend to gender me right more often when I do. In the waiting room, a woman saw me and immediately started to go off at me about how "you (slur) shouldn't be allowed in kid's spaces" called me a groomer, etc, the usual crap. I've been really anxious about this appointment all week so I just couldn't bring myself to say anything really. The kid she was with looked really embarrassed by it. Thankfully reception asked her to leave, but I felt like crap that the kid had to lose their appointment because their mum was transphobic. And what I think a lot of transphobic people don't get is how unsafe that makes people like me feel. After the appointment I had to ask one of the ladies at the reception desk if she'd be okay walking with me to my car, because I didn't feel safe. I don't get why people feel the need to act like this. It's awful.

[@joanfregapane8683]

I am so sorry that you experienced that awful person. I can only guess that woman has a number of insecurities and turns that fear to aggression against others. That’s disgusting

[@waffles3629]

Sadly I think they know exactly how unsafe that makes us feel because they want us to feel unsafe.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz no such thing as your humanity, sanity, or brain.

[@Avner1008]

And then they go online to complain about how dangerous we are lmao

[@silkvelvet2616]

​@@joanfregapane8683the mother is the reason her kid needs therapy.

[@RijackiTorment]

Not only is the "no hymen, no diamond" misogynistic double-standards, there are also many non-sexual ways for the hymen to be broken. I broke mine by slamming into a chain-link gate at the bottom of a hill while riding a 'boy's" bike (i.e. with the top bar) 'cause I expected the gate to be open and.. it wasn't. I was in 3rd grade. I started my first menses a few months later.

[@VideosForYou90]

Exactly! I broke mine when I had an accident with my bike on my way to school... I was 12. They're talking bs.

[@sumiha]

Martial artist here (for a couple of years) and yes i did break the hymen without sexual means too 😂

[@AlexaFaie]

I broke mine rather painfully in a rocking horse accident. Like I literally just sat down on it too hard and missed the middle bit of the saddle - sat on the pointed up bit in front. HARD. It hurt so damn bad and when I went to the toilet I noticed a bit of blood in my knickers but couldn't work out from where (no visible cut). And I was too scared about it to talk to an adult to ask what had happened. I was still in the first couple of years of primary school. It wasn't until I was in year 5 a few years later that we got the period talk bit and that was only because the school was small enough (multiple years per class) that it was simpler just to teach us all than split us up. They previously only taught it to year 6 when there were more kids per year. But even then the hymen wasn't mentioned. That was a secondary school lesson. I only figured out it must've been my hymen breaking based on the list of ways that it can be broken which don't include sex we were given in sex ed in secondary school.

[@lhaindirt5585]

The hymen as we know it is a myth, there's nothing to break ... What is actually there is a thin piece of mucosal tissue around the opening, and this has been called the hymen. The hymen can not be broken. It's like a scrunchie with an opening in the middle. Gynecologists came to school when I was young and taught us this, and I've also seen a documentary about how the myth of the hymen as we know it came to exist. It's all about controlling women's bodies.

[@emilyjohn2034]

@@lhaindirt5585 it can absolutely be ripped though, it’s just not the “freshness seal” they think it is, but it definitely can be ripped like most other body parts. The funny part is that it rarely happens during sex, normally the only activities that cause it to rip are non sexual. Some woman will tear it through activities like gymnastics for example

[@dielizzy-ts2rv]

I had one coworker who complaint that in hospital a women screamed during birth. I mentioned : well birth is painfull, you have 2 kids, you should know. She said: I had an easy birth with hardly any pain (because she had a medical issue) and I responded: good for you that your little babyboys just slipped out of you - some birth bigger babys... Jeeesh I so don't like people who assume that their experience is everyone's else's

[@FederalBurroOfInvestigation]

I HATE people who are like that. I have low natural empathy, but I can put together facts and logic and still do a much better job understanding stuff like that than some of the same people who claim they're really empathetic or talk about how important caring about others is. It is a massive pet peeve and almost makes me feel disconnected from humanity at points.

[@Stachelbeeerchen]

Generalization is killing human empathy. Stop generalizing and maybe you grow empathy. Its that simple.

[@ash_g8st944]

@@Stachelbeeerchenfr idk but it annoys me that some women say that every women has extremely pain when their on their periods I’m a women and I’m really lucky and I don’t really have that much pain (their are some days it’s worse and some it’s not) or when they say that every women experience sa and sexism or something like that with is not true (for me and I’m grateful for it and I’m sad for everyone who experienced something like that)and I’m sorry if it isn’t understandable i sometimes can’t write

[@FederalBurroOfInvestigation]

@@ash_g8st944 this also annoys me. There is no "every person (insert whatever group of people here) experiences (whatever)." People are different from each other and experience things differently. There's going to be exceptions somewhere. Now if it was, "quite a few," or something - sure, but not *every.*

[@ash_g8st944]

@@FederalBurroOfInvestigation yes I agree with you

[@lilithh2708]

Wow, that one about a miscarriage meaning an inviable fetus leaving the womb. If the fetus dies in the womb and doesn't leave, it is still a miscarriage. In fact a miscarriage like that is incredibly dangerous for the mother. It's why some of the more vaguely written abortion bans in the US are incredibly dangerous for women. Even women who would never consider terminating a pregnancy.

[@aliciawentzshadows]

Exactly. My first pregnancy this was the case. Went in for an ultrasound around 9 weeks just to find out the fetus has stopped growing around 6 weeks and my body has no clue I was no longer technically pregnant. I ended up terminating the pregnancy for my own safety and to save myself the anguish of naturally miscarrying.

[@yourgodismean4526]

I want to clarify 2 things. 1) Induced labor is far more painful n by virtue of the extra time it takes without the presence of natural labor, more dangerous. 2) …Triggers for CSA here…. I lost my hymen at the age of 7, when I was raped by a stranger in the neighborhood. Does this make me “ruined forever”? Would anyone who gets w me be “settling”? Guess I’ve always felt like I was pretty damn lucky I survived, and he didn’t decide to kill me. (Nothing was ever done, btw, bc of a Christian mother who was worried what ppl would “think of me”. That’s right-no police, no medical, n the rapist chased me around town for the next 2 years til we finally moved when I was 9.) This is what the Christian nationalists want for all little vulnerable girls n boys. Love to u n ur community Jamie Hey, edit: I can’t make normal comments on YT rn unless I buy a Super Thanks, or even respond to a comment(hoping this edit goes through). Can’t figure out why n it’s a nightmare. Wanted to say: yes, I am safe now. I’ve worked w trauma therapists to help reclaim my life. Broke contact w unsupportive parents long ago and broke the cycle of abuse w my own kids. I share my story when it seems appropriate. I want every survivor to know that they’re not alone, they can have a normal life and their experiences are worth exploring and honoring. Ty for all the lovely support. I love my queer family 💪🏳️‍🌈❤️🦋

[@BlueTressym]

I'm so sorry, no one should go through that ever, much less as a young child. Also, victim-blaming is one of the grossest things in the world. I hope you're safe wherever you are now.

[@cryochick9044]

Ruined? Potentially. Mental health can be ruined by this Undateable? Hell no, it would just mean like any relationship care needs to be given towards peoples discomforts.

[@majasteinchen]

As BlueTressym said: I'm sorry as well that you had to experience such awful things and hope you are in a save place now. Unfortunately these people who say women are "ruined without their virginity", also say women are ruined if they have been raped. These people who say such gross things are so disgusting! You aren't "ruined" at all! You are loveable and dateable. You are a whole person like everyone else. You are important. I wish you a lot of love in your life. ❤

[@EmillyOrr]

Yeah, "ruined forever"? Oh, I'm sorry, I thought you said you felt so sexually inadequate one in four women you've ever dated/been married/fathered will shred your shaky self-esteem when you find out. OP, all sympathies, that's awful, and made worse by your mom. Yes, you survived, and that makes you lucky--and strong. No sarcasm, genuinely--many don't. 🌈💝

[@berrysnowyboy5251]

Hey. I can never fathom what you went through because I've never experienced it myself, but I'm sorry that you went through horrid shit like this 🫂🫂🫂🫂 Victim-blaming is a poison that hurts, destroys and kills people. (On the side note of therapy: I'm proud of you for breaking the cycle and I'm more than proud of you that you're doing right for both yourself and your kids.)

[@AmEv7fam]

The "you were born not a virgin" thing? I think the guy was thinking that somehow they were able to penetrate past the cervix (impossible without massive pain) and into the fetus' vagina (again, impossible, and super creepy???)

[@Katedfate]

Also the fetus, later into the pregnancy, is UPSIDE DOWN. Which adds another layer of impossibility

[@thezilch7227]

Also the part where he only figured out that pregnant women having sex is a thing is because there are some on dating apps. No way any pregnant women would be having sex with their partner, only ever with Chad from Tinder.

[@GerBessa]

​@@Katedfate That's how people are born f**ked in the head...

[@AquaEclipse324]

I've genuinely read some Urban Dictionary posts that mention penetrating into the foetus' vagina (usually relating to sexual activity). They make me want to carve out my own eyeballs

[@RikouCam]

My mom litteraly calling my leg hair disgusting and demanding I cover up when I visit her...... Luckily my husband does not care at all. I stopped shaving my legs because it just irritated my skin so much and I was tired of having itchy legs. :(

[@dielizzy-ts2rv]

I call my leg-hair Bob and my partner isn't bothered at all with it

[@cryochick9044]

Im the opposite Smooth legs feel good to me especially when I rub them together. I'll constantly rub them because of this. Weird quick about me

[@RikouCam]

@cryochick9044 i think for me it's mainly because how quickly my hair grows. I shave and i almost immediately have itchy stubble 😅😂

[@cryochick9044]

@@RikouCam yea that part sucks I wanna get laser

[@KAW-69]

​@@dielizzy-ts2rv hello bob

[@Liatriss]

As an Italian woman my hairs grow in three per follicle when they show up, conserving space to fit more just like a Fiat

[@RoseHanson4056]

Think that's bad? I'm pale, and even when I shave my legs, you can see the hair follicles, like micro dots. I never wear shorts

[@itslll7245]

@@RoseHanson4056just like me fr

[@Truzyxx]

I once saw a woman breastfeeding as I got on a plane, with a glimpse of rather distended nipple. And I say, good on her, because I would rather have seen that than listen to a screaming hungry baby.

[@hannahk1306]

And presumably (unlike the creep in the video) you didn't stare intently at her as she fed her children? No wonder she kept looking at him - she was probably thinking, "Why is this weirdo watching me breastfeed?"!

[@barrylangille3523]

I've encountered women breastfeeding a couple of times, and honestly, I've hardly noticed. Usually, the woman chooses to cover up a bit, and anyway there's this very solid baby in the way.

[@kwowka]

Mum likes to tell the story of her and dad being in Canada, as nerdy poor Australians, with me, a 10 month old, stressing, and being rescued by a gay club full of lovely people who gave them chocolate and a booth at the back for privacy. Most people are normal and nice (believe ito r not)

[@sethmichel6138]

​@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jzYou are 0 for 2 on comments that make sense or have any amount of truth behind them, but 2 for 2 on being so much of a strawman that if you told me you were a troll I wouldn't believe you. Nobody uses the term "chestfeeding" and "nerdy Australians" is not bigoted at all, I do not know how you got either of those claims because that isn't even something right-wing people try to say the left says

[@kwowka]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz hey mate! Chest feeding is a term but it doesn’t replace breastfeeding. The people who use it use it as a way to describe their experience, not to replace the term entirely. Also I am a nerdy Australian. I don’t think it’s bigoted. My parents met at a youth group as teenagers and both liked school and got good marks and are Australian, and had very little money at this point. I agree with the other person, in that you are clearly trolling and pretending to be a genuine person, but you are so clearly just straw man argument-ing and being deliberately ridiculous. I am saying this as a self identified anarcho-communist.

[@snorpenbass4196]

Chud: "Hairless is the only way to go!" Ancient Egyptians: "Ah, you have a problem with pubic lice, too?"

[@arisacupcake]

So there are people out there that think body hair is literally unnatural for women? 🤯 I always thought that was a metaphor for 'all women shave their body hair, so you better do it too.' I can't believe that they actually think women don't grow body hair wtf

[@sashadoom]

5:05 Wholesome plot twist: The commenter asking how she got this much hair as a female genuinely wants advice so they can be hairier. They received many helpful replies and have now achieved the optimum hairiness level. Shaving around the tattoo so the raccoon has fur is frickin' brilliant.

[@poisonedkilljoy9304]

it was a secret transmasc trying to manage their dysphoria! (the answer is to be born with brown hair and refuse to shave ever by the way)

[@MBJean]

Yea my husband and I laughed about raccoon tattoo, brilliant

[@Umbri3]

Babies do not like schedules, can confirm. I was nearly born on Valentine's Day, the nurse told my mom she could make it if she could hold me in for just a few minutes. That nurse got yelled at, and rightly so, I feel like she should've known better 😅

[@kitsu13]

"Held you in" lol what? Does the nurse know how giving birth works?

[@Umbri3]

​@@kitsu13 I... guess not? 😅 I try to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she hadn't had kids of her own

[@KaleMakaiYouji]

Thank god she didn't listen! In extreme cases some babies have suffered serious damage from birth parents being forced to "hold it in", although usually because another person makes them hold the baby in. But the point still stands that once baby is ready to get out, they should NEVER be forced or encouraged to stay inside longer, it can be so dangerous and the cons greatly outweigh any pros.

[@poisonedkilljoy9304]

i was due on valentine’s day! i wasn’t born tho - i, in a staggeringly early display of who i am as a person - refused. eventually my mum had a c section 2 weeks later because i “didn’t want to come out” she was also on so many meds she didn’t notice when i’d been removed, someone slapped my father (deserved, might i add), and then she broke out of hospital to go stay with her mum. they relented because my maternal grandmother was a midwife and a nurse so she’d know what to do also my uncle (mum’s side) was told off by my gran for wanting to get a chippy tea before coming to the hospital to see my mum and meet me. his entire point was that i’d still be there after he got his fish and chips, and he was hungry. personally i’d take his side in this argument

[@umbreon013]

​@@poisonedkilljoy9304 I can see your uncle's point on both counts. It's fish and chips, and babies aren't really known for hitting the railway to get away from their families 🤭 Refused to be born on Valentine's day crew! 🤜

[@ajwinberg]

You can tell that there are a lot of people who didn't pass biology or just didn't take it in school. It is sad that in this day and age that people don't understand how the human body works. And I mean all human bodies, not just women's. 😢

[@joiedevivre2005]

I got stage III cancer at 33 & shaved my head because my hair was falling out due to chemo (did chemo for nearly a year) . It's 20 years later, I'm cancer-free & my hair is to my waist even with regular haircuts. Soooo, no dude, hair does grow back.

[@blu_heron]

I am a cisgender woman and I cut my hair around the age of 21 to shorter than Jamie’s and now it’s over 4 feet long. I’ve received so many compliments about how the length of hair is attributed to my moral value. Now I want to cut it again because of migraines and I have to mentally prepare for the public backlash I’m about to receive. 😂

[@ttintagel]

I've been growing my hair long and then cutting it short all my life, and the big chop always feels SOOO GOOOOD.

[@MaxRide1]

not saying you need to but you could circumvent some of the backlash by donating the cut off hair to charities that make wigs for kids with cancer (in the uk: the little princess charity) - it's what I did with mine when it was around 80cm long (from my jaw down). They take it as long as it's in fairly good shape, all cut off at once (so 1 long length) and preferably tied together with multiple hair ties. Alternatively you could go the other way and hold a bonfire where you use your cut off hair as a fire starter :D

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz You call yourself human. Liar.

[@AlexaFaie]

@@MaxRide1 They rarely use that hair that's sent in because it has to be cut just right for them to work with it, so they tend to sell it and then pay people to cut their hair for wigs professionally. And then the kids have to join a beauty competition where they judge who gets the wigs, and then they only get to keep them for a very short time as they grow but they have to go through the process all over again if they still need a wig the next year. And they're subsidised wigs, they still pay the charities something to get the wigs. Most of the wigs got to kids with alopecia (not a life threatening condition) rather than cancer too even though they predominantly advertise themselves as for helping kids with cancer because it tugs on heartstrings more. Plus wigs aren't needed at all, and they don't need to be human hair if someone wanted a wig for aesthetic reasons. Its such a major scam those kinds of charities. They could do much better if they focused on reducing the stigma around not having hair but they don't.

[@Just_Reading_Comments]

@@AlexaFaie while there may be some charity as you described and other not so great charities there ARE good charities that do help kids with cancer without the hoops you mentioned. There are also charities that do provide the wigs to children with cancer for free. There are salons that work with charities to make sure the donation is collected properly and is usable. As with anything it’s important to do your research. Unfortunately there are many “bad” charities, not just in this area, but there are many good ones also so don’t let the bad deter you from finding the good and, no, not all are “scams”. It’s great that you personally feel that wigs aren’t needed but you can only speak for yourself. Others may feel differently, and that should be ok too. For some, like me, it’s not about stigma at all. Also as you said, some people like them for aesthetic reasons. Some like to play around with different lengths, styles, colors, etc like an accessory. While human hair might not be “needed”, there are differences between human hair and synthetic wigs and many people have a preference. Also why not use something that would be thrown away anyway. We all could do much better if we focused on letting people make their own choices (that don’t hurt others) without judgement.

[@mikalamaynard6096]

Shoot, I'd love it if my hair stopped growing after 30. Imagine the money I'd save on barbers lmao

[@adrienstarfaer]

14:08 No, I'm pretty sure that's the type of person who doesn't believe in preventing accidental pregnancies. That's the type of person who believes women shouldn't have sex until they're ready to have a baby.

[@dietotaku]

nah, that's the type of person who wants to turn the united states into gilead and relegate all fertile women to chattel incubators for the "master race."

[@elstarnor4628]

@@KrimsonKattYT if everyone was cis lol

[@JazniaDraw]

​@@elstarnor4628or all trans were T4T

[@poisonedkilljoy9304]

no no that’s the kind of person that believes women can only have sex when married, can only have sex with their husbands, but also must “put out” whenever asked. but also it’s her fault if she gets pregnant. somehow.

[@_foxpuppet]

The whole "a woman absorbs the man's dna" is just so sad? Like, these guys SO DESPERATELY want to be important to women but seem to genuinely believe that they have nothing to offer in terms of companionship. Like, the only things they have to offer are babies and money. Neither of which women need men for, so they're just inventing whole ass lies to make themselves "important" again, rather than doing the bare minimum of treating women like people and trying to be their friend. Idk, it's like this weird pity/horror feeling when dudes talk like this. Like the combination of entitlement and lonliness and self-pity is just... dudes need therapy, genuinely. Like, send them help

[@_foxpuppet]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz Get a real hobby, friend. Improve your life.

[@brittrugg2676]

Well I don’t need men for companionship. But you’re right men need therapy.

[@wesleywyndam-pryce5305]

well, its true they have nothing to offer

[@lady_draguliana784]

Do Cis Guys think all those commercials for women's razors are just for show? that we shave our legs performatively? 😖

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz So, they're called trans men then?

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz you aren't human.

[@lady_draguliana784]

@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378 It looks like the suspiciously-white-supremacist-named account you're replying to deleted their comment (or got it deleted) 🤣

[@notnulli]

I mean tbf the razor commercials usually show pretty hairless legs getting shaved

[@MBJean]

😂😂😂 the “root” of it isn’t funny but levity at this point

[@megmarie2153]

Does the person who believes that miscarriages don't always cause the death of a baby also believe that about stillbirth?

[@PensiveOmen]

They forgot to note that the definition also didnt include the word 'baby'. On the one hand they were technically right that it doesnt case the death of a baby... does cause the death of a fetus though. SMH

[@waffles3629]

Who knows, I was raised to believe that you could pray your way from an ectopic pregnancy to a baby. Not that you'd survive the ectopic pregnancy, but that if you prayed hard enough you would have a baby.

[@jjbud3124]

That's the actual definition of a miscarriage - birthing an unviable fetus. If the fetus lives it was not a miscarriage (spontaneous abortion). It is a premature delivery, and the fetus is then a baby. A baby is a live born fetus.

[@meh9623]

My mom once commented on my leg hair and that it looks horrendous and I told her it's natural. she replied with "its not" she is a nurse.

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

My mom is weirder about my leg hair than any guy I've ever dated. I'm not sorry, if you don't like it, don't look. Would you prefer to see scabs from digging out all the ingrown hairs that any form of hair removal gives me? I sure wouldn't, now can we drop the subject? And please don't buy me the lateste depilatory product..Let's drop the subject. Only took a decade for her to learn to ignore it.

[@kriskossack7231]

I have endometriosis. It took along time to be diagnosed. 1 time I went to an urgent care because I was in so much pain. They said I had a sinus infection. How they came to that conclusion, I will never know. When I left the urgent care they gave me a prescription for sinus infection. I looked at my husband, thinking ‘what just happened’. Needless to say we didn’t get it filled. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@MaxRide1]

_speechless_

[@glampixie]

These misogynistic ideas about women (or assumed women) is so harmful. So deeply harmful.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz *which happens to trans women exponentially more than cis women, coward.

[@Leena79]

My mom had a medically induced labour when she had my brother, a few days before the due date. The reason was she wanted my dad's father (my grandfather) to get to see his first grandchild before dying of cancer. We now have a photo of my grandfather, whom I never got to meet, holding my brother as a newborn. (This has very little to do with the video topic, but that odd story made me think of this.)

[@glampixie]

The only people who don’t feel pain are people with an extremely rare congenital disorder/disease (CIPA) and they rarely live beyond early childhood because they also cannot feel things like temperature and cannot sweat.

[@RurikDankil]

Yes, if a woman has short hair her hair completely stops growing at about thirty. And guys hair can no longer be cut at about thirty. It becomes even harder than diamond.

[@elaexplorer]

I believe the guy was saying if someone cuts their hair short past 30 that they tend to keep it short and don't grow it back out. Mostly because they realize how easier life is when you're not spending so much time managing a ton of hair.

[@RurikDankil]

@@elaexplorer I figured as much. I just felt like making a little joke.

[@Idiot_TaylorsVersion]

Honestly the fact that women grow body hair means there's something very RIGHT with their hormones

[@Idiot_TaylorsVersion]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz I know, that’s kinda what I meant

[@Widdekuu91]

I started losing hair, like my eyebrows and eyelashes and it turns out I have a thyroidproblem. Hairless means sick.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz an hero coward.

[@ErutaniaRose]

Exactly. For years I shaved my belly because I thought there was something wrong with me and I had to hide it. And when I stopped I got so anxious about exams at the Dr for my digestion issues. Now it’s a stim toy and my normal hair isn’t causing me anxiety since I finally had the courage to ask a Dr about it.

[@tilltab]

What the hell is the no hair growth after 30 smoking??? I literally buzzed my hair to about a mm long two years ago, and have had several haircuts since, and it’s currently shoulder length. I’m in my 40’s!

[@pandora8610]

I didn't cut mine. I had chemo. It grew back just fine afterwards. The only change is that it curls a little more than it used to.

[@tilltab]

@@pandora8610 I’m glad it grew back well. :) I know hair can be a huge concern with chemo and telling people it won’t grow back is just adding stress to a situation that’s difficult enough, especially when it just isn’t true.

[@calamityjean1525]

I'm 73 and mine is still growing. Another two inches and I will be able to sit on it.

[@kitty79er]

@@calamityjean1525 slay

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

Tbh I assumed that one meant that women don't tend to grow their hair long again after 30. Still ridiculous and untrue though.

[@1st1anarkissed]

How does a pregnant woman being on a dating app affect her daughtar's virginity? Well, she got poked when mom got poked, naturally. Her magic innocence field has been shattered for life.

[@kitty79er]

😂😂

[@ethanrose9682]

turducken

[@glancycorner7425]

What in the living hell is this sweet BS? No matter how big your penis is, it will NOT reach the baby.

[@katiemilady197]

Oh but remember, it doesn't do anything if it's a boy. 🤦‍♀️

[@ayajones6069]

Every time I see bad women's anatomy out in the wild, I just comment "And pee is stored in the balls."

[@fernbedek6302]

As a trans girl, I'd be curious about trying those pain simulators just to understand.

[@Katedfate]

I heard from other trans women that HRT give periods-like cramps, but I would still like to do the simulators.

[@leirumf5476]

As a trans girl... Same. Whenever I hear a woman complaining about them I'm usually like "y'know, I'd actually like to have those because that'd mean my anatomy aligns with myself".

[@Zoey_the_Rat]

Nope, nope, nope, keep those things faaar away from me :D I already went through the body horror of male puberty, I don't need another one, even temporary

[@waffles3629]

I'm curious for the opposite reason (I'm a demiguy). I wanna know how it compares to my cramps. Seeing as post-op hysterectomy pain was about as bad as my mild periods. Even walking my surgical site into a table corner less than 24 hours out wasn't as bad as my worst.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz translated: bwahhhhhh.

[@BeautyMonster1000]

I honestly think that the people who are uneducated about simple sexual health facts and biology in general should be embarrassed and be trying to work on learning what they don't know instead of spreading false information everywhere online so that more people see it and become ignorant as well. That's not the way to go about life...

[@dgeneric7518]

I'm part Italian- my kids almost full. Recently, my 11 yr old daughter said she's not interested in shaving her pits. My mom- her grandmother- told her she'd hold her down and do it eventually... So my 11 yr old, my little girl, my 5th grader, shaved her pits 2 weeks ago. Because she was pressured, made to feel ugly and gross... And I HATE that. I HATE it. She should have chosen for herself, and she probably would have shaved. Now she's convinced she HAS to, or otherwise she's not woman enough...

[@katyamcadams]

At *11* too? Nah, what's gross is the people pressuring her wtf.

[@doubles1545]

I have a similar story- I was a child (maybe 7 or 8) when my older sister mocked me for having hairy legs. I began shaving at such a ridiculously young age because of her.

[@PirateQueen1720]

I have to admit I'm curious about whether those period pain simulators have multiple settings. Because for some people they are really debilitating, whereas I've always had SOME cramping with my periods, but nothing that interrupts my normal activities. So if I were going soley off my own experience and not listening to anyone else who had periods, I would say they aren't that bad...but there ARE people who need some time off to rest and deal with them! I feel like we need some more education around how the experiences of people within certain categories can differ, because there's a lot of people making definitive statements that really collapse down the broad spectrum that is human life.

[@teritt]

Oh yes period pain simulators go from 1-10 and 10 is said to be a near exact replica of severe pain

[@grantmegan91]

​@@terittunless it's inside of you, there's no way I'll believe it's accurate lol

[@adidi7789]

And it's not just varied levels between different people, mine vary in severity month by month. Some months are completely pain free, sometimes mild cramping, and a few times (thankfully not often) I've had really bad ones to the point I've literally fainted from the pain

[@teritt]

@@grantmegan91 It’s not entirely there it’s more like 80% accurate because it’s only imitating the muscle contractions happening around the uterus contractions.

[@devonsimone2891]

I have fainted or thrown up from the pain of period cramps almost every month since i first started my period. For context I got my first period when I was eight years old; I’m in my 30s now. For a lot of people, the pain unbearable. I’ve been to so many doctors over the years and almost every single Dr just says “oh it’s normal”. It’s not. IT IS NOT NORMAL.

[@lostinmymind8147]

I hate that body hair is being shamed on. I have light skin and dark body hair so I ripped it out with its roots in my armpits because I was so ashamed but now it’s not growing back and I actually like my body hair and it’s so sad that I felt the need to do that. I’m hoping that when I go on T it will grow back :(

[@professorbutters]

Yes, it probably will! It will might even be a different type of hair. I’ll be hoping for you but I think you’ve got good chances.

[@Church_of_the_Skittles_Snek]

I grow hair on My chest, and I thought there was something wrong with Me, until I saw another Woman that also grew chest hair... Now I don't feel like such an Outcast, and God Loves Me, and I Am Beautiful in Their Eyes Ase 🙏🏿

[@Samson16436]

You absolutely are! ❤❤❤

[@soaringspirits2267]

Defo dude. You're awesome, stay awesome.

[@Church_of_the_Skittles_Snek]

@@soaringspirits2267 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I Am not a dude 😂😂😂😂😂 I guess you don't know how to read 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@soaringspirits2267]

@Elle_the_Sistem Sorry my guy, I use masc terms as gender neutrals, all the time. (My guy, my dude, my bro, dude-bro, man, guy-man, bro, bruv, stuff like that.) I do apologize for any upset, if I caused any.

[@jjbud3124]

I have a few hairs on my chest. I also have some longer, thicker hairs on my shoulders and upper arms, and face with full beard. It's genetic.

[@anvithequarsonist]

good luck on your dentistry business. be careful of those chompers while doing surgery, i hear dinosaur teeth are pretty sharp

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz an hero.

[@PonyJammin]

I think. They are confusing human women with female lizards. For, like, half of these. They're gonna start thinking women can regrow limbs if they just wanted to next.

[@Jay_and_Meeka]

You know, this is making me think of a recent conversation I had with my dad about my hair. I have his straight, auburn/reddish hair and I love it. I've always loved it. I've never liked a lot about myself in general, but my hair was something I could point to and say "I like that about me". I turned 35 last year, and went through immunotherapy treatment for skin cancer. A few months after my second round my hair started to fall out, and the remaining I had turned white. It was so odd. My dad is in his 70s and is just going salt and pepper. My hair is now growing in snow white. It's now been more than 8 months since my last treatment, and I see patches of colour starting to come in. It's hard to tell if it's my original colour or not. Anyways - I told my dad that even though I loved my hair, whatever happened to it, happened. I was alive, and treatment worked. I remember him saying "oh, but it'll grow in. Don't worry". I wasn't worried. I did have a few tears when it started to fall out. But as soon as the oncologist told me that thinning and greying hair was a sign that treatment was working, I was fine. It was almost like I now had the freedom to do whatever I wanted with my hair because my body already had. I never dyed it because I didn't want to ruin my colour. But now? I feel fine to do whatever I want with it! But in that conversation, I got the vibe that my father was more worried about the colour of my hair than I, the owner of said hair, was. Why are men so concerned with female hair in general? I love my old man, but it feels like he may have to grieve more for my hair than I will. 🤣

[@CoMorbiditty]

The part comment reminds me of the cheap barbie dolls where the long hair comes from one spot lol

[@viverra]

Aside from the horrible double standard, presence of a so-called "intact" hymen is not a virginity test. The hymen naturally has a hole (ortherwise women could not menstruate) and the membrane can stretch, so it is quite possible for a woman to have sex without tearing her hymen, especially if her first experience is not violent. Conversely, a woman (or child) may have a torn hymen because of things other than sex, like stretching or strenuous exercise (Unfortunately, that fact might have been the origin of some of the ridiculous prohibitions placed on women's activities.) And some women just naturally don't even have a hymen, rather like some people don't have all four wisdom teeth.

[@thenobleandmightybeaver4411]

Can we talk about how amazing it is to stop shaving where your furry animal tattoo is? Who is this genius of our times?

[@Jykinturah]

Jamie has the best bewildered dad energy hahaha

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz You're wracked with cowardice.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz every word out of your insipid mouth is dripping with fear. Pathetic and hilarious, subhuman.

[@ZapShortCircuit]

Idk, once a month my uterus behaves like a satanic ram’s head. So maybe they’ve got a point.

[@Siilikeiju]

Also... That Satan account is incredibly funny and wholesome satire account.

[@EJKelly-tu9dm]

Wild not to know that hymens can break in many situations that are not sex - but I don't think anyone who cares about someone else's hymen would really care about that fact.

[@zigzagperson]

Had a friend who cut her long dark hair, because this one guy kept harassing her about it - telling her how beautiful she is because of it, touching it when he could... every day, more than once. We were teenagers and didn't have the vocabulary to explain the issue, so she decided that cutting it would just be easier

[@ArturGlass.C]

When I said to my gyno I was a virgin she was like "oh no I can't do a IUD because of the hymen". My hymen's been broken this entire time because I work out and specifically do a lot of squats. She hadn't even check. Can we like as a society stop with the whole hymen thing. The obsession with virginity is completely unhinge but it's even more unhinge to see hymens as the ultimate factors of this. Women have literally been punished and killed over hymens when it's such irrational ridiculous nonsense because you can literally be born without one, lose it during SA or lose it by doing random unrelated things.

[@katrinadaly1755]

Trigger warning: SA As someone else who is a virgin but wanted an IUD - I first saw 2 gynes about it, one wouldn’t even consider it and the other said they “wouldn’t advise it, that it was a bad idea” and that they “wouldn’t help me with a procedure just because I wanted it’ 🙄 They both tried to convince me that I should just continue trying birth control pills or have the shot or rod in my arm even though I have historically had very extreme and even life threatening complications on birth control pills (even those with the lowest hormone levels and had tried over 15 different ones). I did NOT want to get a shot of something that lasted 3 months and have a life threatening side effect and be stuck riding it out for that amount of time, the rod in my arm was a similar issue - still systematically hormone based and more difficult to remove. I am Demisexual, so it can take me years to feel comfortable/attracted to someone sexually, so I wanted something that I wouldn’t constantly be poring money into (some of the specialised birth control pills I was on were around $140/28 days - absolutely NOT affordable when you’re not even having sex or thinking about it…) I also have AuDHD so trying to remember to take pills at the same time of day was just… a struggle, even with loads of reminders and alarms. Before my appointments with the gynes, I was mostly exploring birth control pills for pain/period management as I have a nerve condition on top of endometriosis which means my periods are long and extremely painful to the point of completely bed ridden to hospitalisation. But then I had someone I’d thought was a friend SA me and after that, I wanted to have a reliable and permanent form of birth control that couldn’t be messed with - it helped me feel so much more ‘in control’ of that entire situation and my life going forward. Despite all these reasons and that I’d literally done more research on the IUD through the manufacturer that both gynes knew on the topic. I was literally dispelling THIER myths (which were addressed in the product information booklet on the manufacturer website 🤦‍♀️). After that, I gave up on a specialist and went to my amazing GP - who initially referred me out since I have a more complex hx. She was more than happy to organise the IUD for me and I would not budge on being under sedation for the procedure (something that got a LOT of backlash from the other gynes I saw). I’m actually so glad I got my IUD, it’s significantly changed my pain and life, helped my mental health so much after the SA and boy am I glad I got it done under sedation and didn’t listen to the ‘doctors’. I had an absolutely lovely surgeon who was so encouraging about doing it under sedation, I had so much cramping/pain post procedure that I needed IV pain & muscle relaxers and a few extra hrs stay on the ward. The surgeon said he had a bit of trouble inserting it due to all the scarring/adhesions there & the fact that my pelvic floor muscle is always completely contracted down and advised me to get sedated when removing or replacing it - he was so good at validating my decisions and listening to my concerns. I think the thing I was most nervous about was dealing with the PTSD from the SA when having someone else ‘down there’ so sedation really helped with that experience too. I liked the fact that with an IUD if it isn’t working out or you want to get pregnant it’s pretty easy to remove while still being a long term permanent option that doesn’t cost the price of a small army every month. It took me almost 6 months to actually have the IUD procedure done because of all the mucking around with the first two drs. It’s sad that a lot of drs just aren’t willing to consider that we know what is best for our own bodies (and even if we don’t, we can still choose to make that choice too!) But yes, as a virgin who isn’t sexually active, every dr, nurse and health professional kept asking me ‘why’ is was wanting/getting an IUD & it was so painful to have to relive the entire SA experience and say “I want an IUD in the hopes it can help with my menstrual pain but mainly so that I actually feel comfortable in my body and being around people again without the overwhelming feeling that I could be SA’d again and have to decide what to do with a pregnancy resulting from that”… and then awkwardly and painfully describe why I’m 24 yrs old and haven’t had (consensual) sex before but also how, yes I’ve been tested for pregnancy and STI’s recently as 2 months ago. All of that involved devolving the details of the SA and my sexuality (Demisexual) that I was still exploring at them time. After the 3-4 times of being asked & even getting told that I needed to see a therapist (I was, she actually supported my decision), in the end I just straight up lied, said I’d had sex before (a few times if asked), how long ago (just before the STI/pregnancy testing) etc. etc. For me it didn’t affect anything medically except make the entire experience way more bearable for me (all the new surgeons, drs, nurses, theatre techs and admin staff weren’t asking for a painful recount of all the SA related details, instead I could just easily stick to a simple story with the same relevant facts without all the awkward silences, pity and follow up questions. To them I was just getting an IUD for birth control bc I was a sexually active 24 y/o and that was reason good enough. Whether you’ve had sex before or are currently sexually active absolutely should not impact on whether you can get an IUD or other form of birth control/procedure but unfortunately for me, it did. When I said I hadn’t had PIV sex before and wasn’t soon planning to, I was met with so much backlash and medical professionals doubting that I either ‘really wanted it’ or ‘actually needed it’. I shouldn’t have to lie and tell someone I’m sexually active, have had sex before or plan to be, to be able to access a specific form of birth control or procedure but that’s how it was for me. It was as though what I wanted for my body didn’t matter unless there was a man involved who could get me pregnant and only then was that considered an issue and a valid reason for me to have something done. For those first 2 drs, the person who has SA’d me over 2 months prior currently had more rights to my reproductive decisions than I did… And it’s shocking that a lot of people don’t realise that’s the way things are more often than not 😬

[@aBeerFromHere7994]

2:35 people (men) think that hairy woman are 'unnatural' because women are shaving regularly. Thx advertisements and beauty standards.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

We need a men razor company to make an ad with already shaved men doing air-shaving, it would be wild (and somehow the norm for women haha)

[@KeaganZ2737]

As a teen, I changed my middle part into a devil's lock, and 23 years later, i still have it. I had to cut my hair into a bobline due to hair breakage, and to my absolute shock, it's starting to grow out. imagine the shocked Pikachu face my hairdresser gets every 6 weeks, and she shaves my undercut. Also, my uterus is definitely Satan incarcerated. She keeps on bleeding randomly, not at all or for MONTHS at a time. Only gallstones and ACNES top my cramp pain.

[@KeaganZ2737]

@KrimsonKattYT lol, nah, it's what the emo side swept bangs are called. At least it was in the 2000s.

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

OMG YOU CHANGED WHERE YOUR HAIR CAME FROM what idiots... My hair doesn't care where I part it, but if I don't make a part specifically, it parts itself somewhere. I generally guide it to be where I want it cause I prefer my part to be straight, leaving it up to chance usually makes a zigzag.

[@SassyGirl822006]

OMG, I had endometriosis (treated by burning off the lesions at 25, no return), and have had kids without pain meds. Endometriosis is worse.

[@Coccinelf]

That was I suspected. But the worse part is "giving birth' every 3 weeks 🙃

[@UltimatBlitz]

My mom and her best friend gave birth to their first kids (me and the friend's kid) on the same day. We kept getting pushed together as friends because of this, and he terrorized me.

[@ttintagel]

I have two cousins who were born within a few days of each other, and they always had a joint birthday party.

[@katwitanruna]

15:25 I was in labor for six days with one of mine. You definitely feel everything. OTOH you do forget the level of pain like it’s behind a veil afterwards.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

With the "debt free virgins," I was about to mention student loans in the UK but then I realised this person probably doesn't want women to go to university.

[@bbo7002]

That specific line has got to be from Lori Alexander, aka the Transformed Wife. She's used it constantly for YEARS now, bc she's an evangelical fundie who """'teaches women"""" about living a """"godly life"""" or whatever, when in reality she's just an ignorant, hateful person 😒

[@Uv_951]

I don't understand anyone who says to be grossed out by some body hair, breastfeeding,... I simply cannot understand how it works. For me they're just people who want to mess up.

[@annabrown3337]

Have pcos, been on pill (progesterone only, no break) for like 2.5years and then had antibiotics that stopped pill working, cue 3-week long period; my God I'd forgotten!

[@glampixie]

Omg I recently had a period with a three day break followed by another week of intense bleeding. I was starting to worry I should go to the GP I’d bled so much.

[@tealkerberus748]

Reversal of tubal ligature historically has a very high rate of leaving scar tissue which drastically increases the patient's risk of tubal ectopic pregnancy. If you change your mind after tubal ligature, the safe option is IVF. Get some eggs from your ovaries, get them fertilised, implant one in the uterus, leave the tubes closed off.

[@kathleenwoods8416]

That sounds like the safe option just anatomically at that point, but that does sound like a good solve.

[@catluvr2]

I got my ears pierced today, and I was shocked a bit with the first one. The second one was fine, though.

[@Samson16436]

Nice ✨ i really want to get more ear piercings, like totally blinged out cus I wanna feel faaaancy 💎✨✨

[@mckennalaird2398]

I got a tubal ligation about 8 months ago and there are a few different techniques to do it. The technique I had done uses cauterization (burning the cut ends of the tubes) instead of tying them off or using medical clamps like other techniques do. Each technique has a different reversal rate and also success rate in pregnancy prevention. What I had done is the highest success rate in pregnancy prevention, and my doctor at least told me it is not reversible at all, it is 100% perminant. My mother had the medical clamp, and she was able to have a successful reversal and had 2 more children.

[@sashadoom]

9:46 Cool, diamonds are overrated. Engagement rings are kinda cringe anyway, in that traditionally, only the woman has to advertise that they are 'taken'; of course, men aren't expected to wear white as a symbol of purity either, so it checks out. I could go on and on about weird wedding traditions that hearken back to the history of marriage being a transfer of property.

[@Andrew_Warden]

10:16 The first time I heard a doctor telling people they shouldn't douche, they had said that region is a "self‐cleaning oven." As a cis man I was not aware of this, but I love me some light hearted education that can also make me laugh 😂

[@MorgenPeschke]

That's not a douche though, it's a portable bidet, which is completely different. It's generally useful but absolutely key when you're traveling and ends up having to use a public toilet that's either out of toilet paper or they just use stuff ao cheap that it's rated by grit rather than ply.

[@Andrew_Warden]

​@@MorgenPeschkeThere's a diagram of it being fully inserted though? I know it's labeled as a "bidet," but my understanding is that a bidet is for the external area only, not to be inserted like this product is clearly demonstrating. Not to mention Jamie's reaction to it saying "you should never do this, it's not necessary, it's bizarre" made me think "douche."

[@MorgenPeschke]

@Andrew_Warden Holy Crap Weasles 😳 I'd misunderstood the diagram (phone screen 🤷🏼‍♀️) and had looked away just long enough to miss the close-up. The nozzles are pointing the wrong way, this would be useless as a bidet. It's either a douche or an enema 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@Andrew_Warden]

@@MorgenPeschke lol yeah, I was watching on a tablet so it was kinda hard to miss for me 😂

[@kwowka]

Eternally glad I was raised with an honest parenting style. Mum and dad answered any question as honestly as they could, keeping it age appropriate. Also we’d be in all of their doctors appointments, because childcare is expensive, and honestly there’s nothing less inappropriate than a doctor explaining signs of cancer to you while mum gets a breast scan… it’s just. Facts.

[@UncleverCarapace]

"Women don't shave their faces" Bad news, teenage cis girls with PCOS, you're just gonna have to grow out that beard!

[@nschannel826]

Oh okay, so I just need to keep cutting my hair until I'm about 30 and it won't come back and I can keep my boy's cut forever

[@ajkleipass]

My thoughts: I think my IQ just dropped 1000 points and my hope for the survival of the human raced has withered and died. Cue the nuclear apocalypse!

[@Chocobo0Scribe]

Will you take your chances in a vault or rough it in The wastelands?

[@stephanie_jjb]

9:20 that's the puppet from FNAF, no need to body shame them

[@Milo-hp9fw]

For the birth control argument, I'm a guy (ftm) on birth control to manage periods. I've been on it since I was 12. I was already Democrat and knew I was trans before I took it. It didn't change my beliefs or identity. AFAB people don't just take birth control for pregnancy. Mine is to prevent anemia from bleeding too much (I'm already iron deficient) I'm currently being tested for a bleeding disorder. Can't wait until I can get a hysterectomy!

[@PhantomQueenOne]

Pregnancy and childbirth can kill you. I almost tanked in the first three months with my daughter. If it wasn't for medical intervention I would have.

[@PhantomQueenOne]

Body hair is natural, I just don't like it. I'm 61 and my hair grows just fine thank you. It was falling out from uncontrolled diabetes, but I got on medication, and it stopped falling out and grew back. I didn't know that was a symptom of diabetes. My hair is very thick and a bit coarse.

[@creativerealms]

Have these people ever combed their own hair? How do they not know something simple like where hair grows from?

[@nandeboleine]

Have you ever seen the “scolp” girl who thought hair grew from the ends?

[@Cashhhhew]

@@nandeboleinea scary amount of people think hair grows from the ends. I’ve had guys ask me why I dye my roots a different color to my hair…. It’s just my natural roots coming out and I’ve had to more than once explain how that works.

[@nandeboleine]

@@Cashhhhew Wow…they’ve obviously never dyed their hair nor lived with someone who does (or perhaps they’re that oblivious). I’ve dyed my roots dark so I could have shadow roots on my naturally blonde hair, but so few people do that, that question makes no sense!! I wonder if they think that fingernails grow from the end too.

[@glampixie]

Every human has body hair. Even post chemo people have some body hair or will have it return. Even with extreme cases of Alopecia, immune issues, or other medical conditions, people will have some hair somewhere on their bodies. Body hair is NORMAL.

[@BlueTressym]

At this stage, I feel it's just another way they're grasping desperately onto anything they can attempt to use to make women feel bad about themselves.

[@emrys7168]

It is entirely possible to have absolutely no hair. Rare, yes, but I've had alopecia universalis for over a decade and sure, some areas came and went over the years, but I've definitely had times when I didn't even have any peach fuzz or nose hair or anything. Trust me, it's possible.

[@glampixie]

@@emrys7168 extremely rare not to have a singular hair on one’s body. I have immune disorder caused hair loss and though I see thinning on my head I still have hair on my arms and other body hair though it is much lighter and sparser. The point is that it’s normal to have hair as a mammal.

[@emrys7168]

@@glampixie oh sure, but not *every single* human has hair. You saying "even with {causes}, people will have some hair somewhere on their bodies" isn't necessarily true. I know I'm rare and abnormal, but I did exist (body hair now growing due to being on T), I'm not the only one and it hurts to hear people refuse to believe that.

[@ladylaudanum8663]

What about women who have had to have hysterectomies and identify as cis gender. Are they not women. Because I'm pretty sure they mostly feel like they're women. I always love to think of that when people with opinions say women must have a uterus to be women.

[@BlueTressym]

Cis woman here who had to have a full hysterectomy a couple of years ago. It turned out I had a condition called adenomyosis, where the womb lining grows into the uterine muscles and is about as much fun as it sounds. I'd have happily got rid of the whole lot long before if they'd actually diagnosed it before then instead of making me go through every form of contraception in the book for years. But yeah, I'm a woman, and I get extremely fed up with these creeps who like to reduce my gender down to my bits and to the reproductive parts that made my life a misery.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. But don't worry, they are total hypocrites, cis women who have had hysterectomies aren't women, but trans people who have had hysterectomies are women, will always be women, and can never stop being women. And yes, it can go from the first to the second if they didn't know you're trans. You are apparently not a woman until they learn you literally aren't a woman, and then you're a woman.

[@MphoenixE]

I'm always surprised by how little people know about women's body

[@brittrugg2676]

These are the people who are making laws about women’s health care. It’s ridiculous and infuriating.

[@MphoenixE]

@@brittrugg2676 very

[@Cashhhhew]

The dudes that don’t know how hair parting works is truly mind boggling to me. I’m trying to wrap my mind about a mindset like that but it’s quite literally impossible.

[@ttintagel]

I guess if you've had really short hair all your life it might never occur to you?

[@Cashhhhew]

@@ttintagel idk though like they never observed people with longer hair before? Of course it grows all over the head lol. With the way they’re thinking it would be like a singular line and if you put your hair up in a ponytail it would be bald on all sides but where they think it “grows from” lmao

[@ttintagel]

@@Cashhhhew I am trying SO HARD to give him the benefit of the doubt! Maybe this is literally the first time he's ever thought about someone's hair other than his own before.

[@Cashhhhew]

@@ttintagel I admire your open mindedness 😂❤️

[@katiemilady197]

They're just jealous bc they (the dudes) are probably balding.

[@Kree.B.]

My boyfriend absolutely refuses to go to the dr for anything. As of typing this, he has a few scary things going on he should go to the dr for and won't. He experienced constipation for one and a half days and begged me to take him to the hospital. I hope if he hears anyone say crazy things about birth or period pain, he tells them about his near death experience and how that's as close to the pain of those things he ever felt. Also, thank you to everyone who stands up for breastfeeding in public 👏🎉 👏🎉

[@Ventura574]

"No hymen, no diamond". That's cool, I got the antique sapphire ring I wanted, instead.

[@bumblebee4703]

My mom was driving around one day and saw a truck with the words "NO HYMEN, NO DIAMOND" in big red letters. Dude got a lot of nerve to put that on his truck.

[@bunhelsingslegacy3549]

Maybe if more of these d-bags posted warning labels like that, they'd be easier to avoid!

[@frogdude1337]

gods brilliant design to block pain receptors. hmm. it says in the bible that god specifically made childbirth incredibly painful as punishment to humanity for sin

[@BlueTressym]

Kind of a dick move, imposing suffering on people who didn't even exist at the time.

[@brittrugg2676]

God doesn’t exist.

[@einavnesher7423]

If we're going by the logic of god's design for birth, we should also remember that god is the one that made labor so painful, according to the bible, as a punishment for eating the fruit from the tree of knowledge. So I don't think gid would design your body to blick the pain while making the whole process painful.

[@Wombletron]

10:24 fortunately that washer bottle is listed as bidet (external washing) instead of douche (internal) so it’s just a rinse for in the toilet if you prefer water first or if you have damage to your genitals from childbirth etc until it heals.

[@waffles3629]

Unfortunately I think the pink extension is meant to be a douche judging from the image. Bidets are great though.

[@lutrachanterell2338]

I had a hysterectomy and that was *less painful* than my period cramps

[@NoxBVansyn]

Me too!

[@Izanuela22]

Interestingly when it comes to body hair… no man ever had a problem with me having body hair… they were all more like, either smooth or hairy, I don’t care as long as we have sex… 😂 Women on the other hand taught me to get rid of my hair and laughed at me for having hair… men never really gave a f…

[@katwitanruna]

The reversal of both vasectomies and tubal ligations depends on the method of cutting off the tubes. Cauterizing, tying or cutting and tying because we want to make sure.

[@MrLoveandKindness]

Jamie is the supportive older brother i never had growing up. I love these videos😊

[@Omniscient_AI]

​@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz That's so obviously a man