Women’s reaction to the male loneliness epidemic…

[@blankkosocal5030]

Perfect. By that logic it's not our job to fix a woman's unhappiness She's a genius

[@janschievink1586]

All right but it's actually not our responsibility and we should ignore their cries for attention until one of them succeeds where they didn't mean to, if you catch my drift.

[@imanibeckett6393]

But it’s not your job?, like I don’t agree with her, I think typically we should focus on people’s happiness as a whole, but it’s not on one specific group to help uplift others, there’s no obligation there, morally it’s a nice thing to do but you don’t have to do it .

[@Shawn-st2lx]

If it was possible to separate the things that men do from the things that women do (like buildings built, food grown ect..) and have only men benefit from things men do and women only benefit from things that women do; this would find resolution within a day.

[@Annabellethedoll666]

I mean none of you were doing this to begin with which is why men are single 😂 it also wasn’t a man job to begin with

[@matthewnelson1420]

​@@Annabellethedoll666men are single because they don't want to deal with the kind of drama women crave and create 🤷‍♂️

[@americandissident9062]

“I don’t want to diminish that…” This is where you know she is about to try her best to diminish that.

[@Dr.JagCobra]

Literally

[@TheVirginGary]

I'm not lonely. I've got joy in the Lord. MGTOW = Men going their own way.

[@converter42]

“I don’t want to diminish that, BUT …” Yeah, your BUT just diminished your statement of intent.

[@Bruhkake]

"I'm not racist but ..." "I'm not sexist but ..." "I don't hate Jews but ..." How do they not see it?

[@POIUYTREWQ62]

@@Bruhkake Women tend to create these technicalities wherein two similar concepts are different. While the logical of us can see that those are the same, the XXs thing "Well, one is my explaining things and the other is bad".

[@iwasadeum]

Remeber men, you cannot make an unhappy woman happy. If she's not happy before she meets you, she will never be happy after she meets you.

[@montoya-400]

But then they're gonna complain about 1 in 3 being abused in relationships but it's on the same lonely men to fix it. You don't choose us !

[@quintenhowell9779]

I wish I had read this a couple months ago 😂

[@Missnoemit]

Nobody is happy in this fallen world...

[@Unknownmuskrat85]

Or she got the clap stage two and just a total Kunt amen brother

[@diogenesdacynic8656]

"People who cant communicate think everything is an argument."

[@liamfairbairn3374]

That would explain so much about my ex.

[@alexm1625]

The entirety of left America rn

[@Lazy_Smurf]

If a guy opens up to you, its because he trusts you and think you won't judge him. The second you do, you've lost him.

[@punknoodles0]

This EXACT comment happened to me last year. Will not trust anyone anymore.

[@Scrittlescrattle]

A guy opens up to me about his deepest trauma because I complimented his shirt one time and then goes around talking about how his “homies” are like his brothers and are always there for him. Yall love the boys locker room so much why don’t you talk to each other? If your bros are anywhere near as great as yall always make them out to be why you talking to some woman acquaintance about your feelings? 🤷‍♀️

[@Lazy_Smurf]

​@@Scrittlescrattle They weren't an acquaintance at the time. It's called a relationship, if you want to remove yourself because of your partners problems, we're not the same type of person. So with you leaving we both benefit. Men and Woman do not function the same way, guys don't want to emotion dump each other. Its a mutual thing amongst guys where we don't want to drag down the mood during the hang out. (If we don't know all the tough shit the other guy is going through, why bitch and moan about it when we're having fun or chilling.) There is a place and time for that, its rare and does happen... but sometimes we don't want to bring others down. Also, anecdotal evidence is not proving anything. One interaction you've had does not mean its the answer for everyone.

[@barbarab.8669]

Im lucky, my friends do that. I rather see them cry, than cry when they gone to soon. I talk to my girls, why shouldnt they talk to us, too?

[@barbarab.8669]

​@@punknoodles0dont say that. One person failed you, doesnt seem fair to the next. But it has to Go both ways

[@boilerbob0526]

To all the lonely women out there Fix it yourself …

[@samhood9843]

Women are not intelligent or strong enough to fix anything. They can however ride coattails

[@h2oboi531]

No amount of logic will make sense to them. Let them be, that’s what they want.

[@bryantdurst863]

@@h2oboi531if they wanted to be left alone there wouldn’t be so many attention seekers and social media busy bodies 🤣

[@scottjoseph9578]

Madam, when 35 comes and you wonder where the good men are, you are the reason why no man wants you...

[@memoment431]

We do that's the difference, more men off themselves than women, yet women are on anti depressants. Do you clearly understand that's because women will go seek help from therapy to doctors. Turn to family and friends if they are lonely. I love being single, and it's my own space, peace, and yes, I have had family that are adults now. Yet even the word lonely annoys me as it is a state of mind. If you are working, looking after the ones you love in your family, friends. Going out and doing hobbies and activities, loneliness shouldn't even be a word that exists in your life.

[@aztn19]

A woman complaining about being lonely to a man is “shooting her shot”. A man complaining about being lonely to a woman needs to talk to his bros about how their heart is doing instead because she’s not concerned about him at all. And women are supposed to be the most empathetic and emotionally intelligent than us men, huh? 🤔 🤷🏾‍♂️🙃

[@mischiviousteefmonster3900]

That's always been a lie. No one corrects then cause they wanna fuck them.

[@janpapai9205]

Jup.. but i feel like that changed 180° now.. we are the ones that want to have kids and marry and all that while women are almost all... Well... Cheap at this point. And i dont want a woman that needs far more then her two hands to count how many guys she was with 🤢

[@aztn19]

@@janpapai9205 💯

[@aztn19]

@@janpapai9205 💯

[@aztn19]

@@janpapai9205 agreed 👍🏾

[@muhammadbrantley5510]

And this is why we rather be by ourselves than in a relationship.

[@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp]

NO! It’s not a choice and you know it! MOST of y’all can’t GET a relationship because you REFUSE to have emotional intelligence and be emotionally available. The reason there IS a male loneliness epidemic is because women are refusing to deal with y’all! Accountability is the first step to healing. When you are healed, you attract what you desire!! ❤️

[@nocturnalrecluse1216]

​ @WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp A western woman talking to men about facing accountability. Now I've heard it all! 😂

[@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp]

@@nocturnalrecluse1216 Once again, that’s EXACTLY why men like y’all can’t get a woman! 🤷🏽‍♀️ Have a blessed day!!!! ❤️

[@nocturnalrecluse1216]

@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp Who says that we even WANT one? The feminist in the video? I don't let her speak for me. I like being single! 🤷‍♂️

[@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp]

@@nocturnalrecluse1216 Ok 😂😂😂❤️

[@moonorchid9242]

‘I don’t wanna diminish that at all’ *proceeds to do exactly that*

[@onlinepole]

So passive aggressive, looking down her nose

[@bryantdurst863]

She’s probably lonely herself, and by listening to her, I’m sure one would need to be pretty desperate to risk dating her.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

"I don't wanna do it..... but I just can't help it."

[@fe3613]

Just like saying "no offense, but..."

[@custos3249]

i.e. "I'm not racist, buuuuuuuuuuut..."

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

The loneliest I ever have been is when I was married. I didn't tell her anything because it was used against me, it was a inconvenience, or used for gossip. I stopped telling her, she got upset because I wouldn't...Her attitude was clear... don't tell her anything bad...

[@exothermal.sprocket]

No disrespect, but out of curiosity....why wasn't enough time given in life before that marriage to understand that this was what it was going to be?

[@hycron1234]

@williamj.dovejr.8613 - It seems like we are all asking women for something they will never provide us.

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

@@exothermal.sprocket She hid it very well for a long time.

[@user-te2ef2jc6d]

​@@williamj.dovejr.8613 like 8 years? I married only after 8 years for example

[@trubrewman]

It's controlling behavior used to mitigate anxiety caused by a fear of abandonment. They can't help but push men away.

[@derekboyt3383]

Her lack of compassion and understanding will eventually result in her own loneliness. It’s a delayed loneliness that will hit her in her 30’s and men won’t want her because of her attitude and feelings of superiority. Keep on chasing Chad little girl, your clock is ticking.

[@subwayfacemelt4325]

I think she may have already hit that wall....

[@willshad]

You're probably right, but it's more like in her 50s when it'll hit. Women in their 30s and 40s are no different in attitude and entitlement than women in their 20s.

[@drooooop]

@@subwayfacemelt4325Why is not having a man a bad thing? Look at the way you clowns behave. Try being appealing instead of threatening us with a good time.

[@mamadoom9724]

My grandma found love and got remarried in her 70s. She met my step grandpa at church. I was 34 when I got married to the love of my life. Also I used to work in a retirement home and many of those people were dating! There’s no age limit for finding love.

[@N0p3er5]

​@@mamadoom9724if there is good attiutudes and cooperation. Most women don't care for that.

[@user-yb8tb8yq9w]

Whats happening is no one knows how to talk to each other anymore and we keep reacting to each other like we are bad for each other. This can't be fixed.

[@mycroft16]

We know how to talk to each other. The problem is one side is forced to listen to the other side with not only zero reciprocation, but active disdain and mockery. Men in relationships are terrified of sharing how they feel because we have been taught through experience that at a minimum you'll get told no one cares or to man up. Or far worse what you share will be used against you in ither discussions later. Women know how to listen. They listen to each other all the time and validate each other's feelings. But when it comes to listening to a man? Even the man they are in a relationship with?

[@bakerboat4572]

​@@mycroft16 I think you're giving too much credit to women who are clearly narcissistic, or at the very least incredibly self-centered. Far more so, I think, are there women out there who think they can listen but obviously cannot. "Listening" for them is entirely one-way and you do not matter (and are not part of the equation at all). As the femoid in the video showed, these kinds of women are the first to discard your feelings and the last to validate them. They'll never listen and communicate with you, but always you to with them.

[@mycroft16]

@@bakerboat4572That's basically what I said.

[@yoshu4221]

Glad she took time out of her day to make someone else's struggles about herself. She seems like a real gem of a friend.

[@Justheory11b]

Well said.

[@vanmoody]

I see this struggle and there is a struggle today concerning the way men and women relate to one another is that women are very picky in wanting men who are tall, make a lot of money, and are seen as desirable by other women. Men on the other hand are not acting like real men. They are tall boys who want to spend their time playing video games. So they are not seen as desirable to women. The truth is both need to stop watching social media and want Hollywood says and just talk with each other. Get off the computers and their phones.

[@LilXancheX]

@@vanmoodywhat happened to this world where women want a perfect man. But the man wants to be a man child all his life instead. Humanity will be extinct if this keeps going

[@anuragpradhan7500]

​@@vanmoodyLmao no. I am more willing to give up on relationships and women than give up my video games. However, your point about Social Media is correct.

[@corbysimpson9146]

The reality is obvious. American women are looking for a tall rich man they can divorce and get money they didn't earn. The selfish gold-diggers can go work in an office and collect cats and die alone.

[@sonofhestia8234]

I love how women are upset when men tell them our problems, but they are constantly telling us all the things they go through in an accusing tone. Women want us to fix THEIR problems but they refuse to even listen to ours. Thank you for what you said at the end, Emily. It is true. Men have to deal with our problems alone.

[@Gingabread-bw6xj]

Isn’t the whole cliche that women don’t want men to fix anything, they just want them to listen to their venting?

[@andrewcooper-barnes6165]

Most women seem to think that men have no feelings, are unable to be hurt emotionally and have to be strong enough to deal with anything that happens in life. Women need a wake up call to this kind of conditioning

[@richardbesse7148]

Exactly!

[@ernienegrete5702]

Women also get upset when men *don't* open up to them, about their own feelings. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@courtneyharris1006]

Being a man often seems like dehydrating in a desert while having to listen to someone complain about their cup being half full.

[@bobbyavitia]

Feminists: Help us with our issues! Men: Okay, will you do the same. Feminists: What, no?! Why would help you? Fix it yourself.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

😂

[@thundertwonk1090]

The only three people to EVER ask me how I'm doing mentally and emotionally in 27 years are all men. My father, my manager, and one of my friends. I haven't been treated with any concern by women, even the two that raised me. The only one to "care" about me was my most recent ex, and she left me because her self esteem was "declining" after calling her out on her 50/50 relationship hypocrisy.

[@Ionizem]

Yuck, I prefer alone over this lovely personality.

[@onlinepole]

No doubt, who needs this mindset

[@nniinnoo2]

That lady right there is a use only type of lady

[@hushpuckena126]

​@@nniinnoo2I wouldn't give her an importance she doesn't deserve.

[@nniinnoo2]

@@hushpuckena126 true very true

[@jimbothegymbro7086]

I'd rather skinny dip in a septic tank than put up with this toxic, passive aggressive harlot

[@courtneydonahue157]

My husband came home one day after work and said "I think Josh is lonely." I said "ok, why do you think that?" His response was reasonable. I then told him to invite Josh over for dinner. We sat and talked for hours. I kicked him and my hubby out to the garage so I could clean up. The next day I got a text saying how much he needed the family environment and how he appreciated us letting him join in. He said he didn't know he was lonely since his divorce. He missed the sound of kids in the house. This is a society issue, not a gender issue. We need to look out for one another.

[@michellepir9523]

Thank you so much for helping a person in need. You phrased that beautifully and I hope your friend is doing better

[@Lindsey0007]

Amen! Random side note: My bf who passed away in 2017 his last name was Donahue. I miss him a lot!

[@jamesrbrindle]

Thank you for saying this. As i got older more and more of my friends got married and had kids and it was like I didn’t exist anymore. The loneliness is unreal sometimes. The only ones i’ve heard from are the ones that got divorced and were between wives. Soon as they got married again - we don’t exist. There is a lot or activity for children, mothers, families but what do single people get? Exile, loud bars, societal disassociation.

[@derrickdaniels3955]

You are an amazing human being.

[@PuddingXXL]

Yes this!

[@MsLotusBlooms]

I'm sick if a lot of men bashing and treated us like crap, then expecting us to turn around and be their therapists.

[@mikeoxhard3826]

Nah this is a manchild thing, people who blame women are coping for their own insecurities. This is 100 percent an issue with men, not women.

[@altamasparsanov9181]

Terrible mindset right there.

[@thewatcher611]

I can be vulnerable with my wife. Even after she told me to "figure it out". She almost unmarried us. I asked my dad for help, that was tough. He's the only one who offered helpful advice. Her friends and family would rather watch me waste away in desperate, lonely depression before saying a word. The world does not care about "how men are doing". You can find that person that'll help you when nobody else will. Psalm 91.

[@Shootskas]

There's a difference between being lonely and being alone. I spend most of my free time alone and am incredibly happy about it.

[@francoisregis2155]

Same at least I hang with friends and sometimes I have my me time

[@magnus_mode]

@@francoisregis2155 i like chocolate bars! (has exactly as much to do with this video as what you offer)

[@fergoka]

You can not be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.

[@jokerpilled2535]

Well then this video isn’t about people like you

[@RokushoTheRavager]

I spend almost every night at home on PS4 with the boys, so I'm never really alone unless I choose to be, but it does help cope with the longing for a loving, affectionate, & appreciative feminine partner. At least one major upside to this is that you don't have to worry about any unnecessary drama that women often bring to a relationship, so there's that.

[@TheBirdManOfAzkaban]

Women: "Men should be open about their feelings and problems. You don't have to deal with everything alone" Man: Does exactly that. Women: "Eeew. Why are you talking to us about your feelings and problems? Deap with that alone!" Called it. 👍

[@takumiito97]

You sir are a prophet. But jokes aside, this is messed up. She ironically threw a clean boomerang while it’s very obvious to other men.

[@livezero264]

In my experience, if you let a woman know what is dear to you or what can hurt you emotionally, it will be used against you so that she can win an argument. Nothing is off limits when she needs to win.

[@rebarius]

Exactly 😂😂😂

[@mdredheadguy1979]

Exactly! Modern feminist = hypocrite

[@JackDesert]

"You need to ask your bro how his heart is doing" Men create a healing group and a men's getaway Women: Oh my god, Sexist! Judge we're suing the Men's Healing Retreat because they won't invite women to it. Oh and do hurry with the judgement, I need to get to my Women's only Yoga class and then to the Ladies' talk group about why men won't heal that we don't want to muddy the waters with what is really bothering men... we only want to blame them for us menstrating. Judge: Fine, summery judgment of two dollars.

[@TinaRN]

I finally understand why so many guys (and gals), but mostly guys, pick me to open up to. I actually listen, and neither offer to fix them, nor tell them to fix themselves. They are trusting me with their vulnerability! Their stories are not mine to tell. I’ll take a lot of other people’s secrets to my grave.

[@mycroft16]

Guys are pretty good at fixing ourselves. We just want to feel like someone listened and understood because we get that so very rarely. Mostly it's man up. Be a real man. Stop being a sissy. So for someone to listen, not try to fix it, and just give us emotional validation is life altering for most of us. We can figure the solution out if we haven't already. Society tells is from single digit age to suppress and hide how we feel because no one cares. It's why we're always fine. We are rarely fine. So thank you for just listening and allowing them to feel heard.

[@TheBarovianDuck]

And you're a wonderful person for that.

[@bakerboat4572]

It says something about the other women in the comments still complaining that it's men's fault for not talking to other men about emotional issues.

[@Burn143]

People may be up my ass about this, but the dark haired girl is right. While she could have conveyed her point less harsher, it still stands. I see so many men online solely blaming women for them being lonely. These are also the same men that throw pity parties for themselves, don’t check up on their friends, and do nothing to solve the problem. You cannot help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves. As someone below me expressed, I believe this is a societal issue, in which society has gotten more and more isolated over the years.

[@montoya-400]

No one wants to feel bad. Ask male friends how are they? You mean those who are more lucky when it comes to loneliness? Sounds malicious to me.

[@Burn143]

@@montoya-400 you’ve completely missed the point.

[@user-sm5ey8mf8v]

Ah yes, Womens didn't played with Men's feelings, didn't teased them, didn't bullied them like everyone else?

[@soehnr]

The passive aggression she displayed is unreal…

[@tabbyreed8925]

There is a big epidemic of men hating women, some even make it their entire personality. I know it's not all of you but you can't be hating women calling us 304's and obsessing over our "body count" and then expect us to give a damn about you. If all I am is a useless slut in your eyes, why would I want to be with you?

[@cliffterrell4876]

No it's not unreal, it's normal with American females today.

[@soehnr]

@@cliffterrell4876 this type of way someone talks shouldn’t be considered normal regardless of the gender or the person’s nationality. The way this person talks is incredibly disrespectful.

[@SadhnaSharma-gg6nm]

​​@@soehnrsomebody who doesn't accept facts there are always idiots like that😂😂

[@kierananthony25]

Yeah she's projecting.

[@TonklinFallen]

This is the equivalent of telling a depressed person "Just cheer up."

[@scipioafricanus2212]

Just cheer up bro. Just do it

[@emma_luce_0623]

Yep. I believe people should take personal accountability but when outside sources are the cause of your pain or struggles then there's not much you can do. And if it's hard for you to fix your struggles that you're causing then other people should be kind enough to help you

[@sagar110]

Technically she said get help from your friends and talk about it with your male friends. Her recommendation is just seek a free therapist.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

Or telling a depressed person to get help where you can actually get help. What are woman supposed to do about it? How is that woman's responsibility?

[@deltoro8816]

Don’t waste your time with “please don’t stalk me” she blames men for everything and misandry is her passion.

[@ohmygodyouknowwhatweshould2496]

No one should be getting defensive over the need for personal responsibility, nor should any adult should expect random strangers to fix their problems.

[@montoya-400]

This is where you're wrong. Imagine everyone throwing stones at Jesus and you do too just because "it's not up to me to fix it". By what could loneliness be fixed??

[@Noperare]

"Women are so much more empathetic because we have actual emotional intelligence" *man says he feels lonely "I miss the part that is my problem"

[@Ananka76]

This is what a heartless BEING sounds like. A real HUMAN shows kindness in the face of pain❤

[@Beeezledrop]

She's talking about the men as a collective but she's talking about herself as an individual. That's the issue.

[@kalebpiper8107]

Exactly. But what she could do for her part considering she's a 3.5 or 4 in the dating pool, she can get together with another 3.5 or 4 male and not chase Chad until she's a barren wasteland of eternal sorrow.

[@ALoverAndAFighter-wb8ut]

Not just that but damn, she has no heart... & she needs therapy herself.

[@yourlifeisagreatstory]

Her voice and that valley girl durp accent she has is nails on a chalkboard

[@Swissgar0]

​@@kalebpiper8107 And this the exact issue. Completely on point.

[@dc741]

I would not give her a minute to listen or to fix anything for me so she can just go home and listen to her cat meowing

[@jessabean13]

I feel for this woman. She's being judged for telling the truth. One woman on a date can't solve an epidemic of loneliness ...because she's a woman on a date, not a therapist meeting a client. And women help each other handle loneliness all the time. She's just coming up with the only solution she knows, i.e., talk to any friends you have. It's good advice.

[@nax1807]

she's right though, it's not womens fault that men are lonely, women don't owe men companionship, intimacy and a family, just as much as men don't owe women marrige, a house, bills paid etc. the comment section in emily's videos are very much men pointing their fingers back at women and showing hughe signs of cope, instead of looking within yourself and finding a solution, as real men would do. yes women will caste blame on men for the worlds problems, but that don't mean you need to point back...seek to be better, if you're lonley, find productive hobbies that bring fulfillment.

[@mikeoxhard3826]

Exactly, people love to act like their loneliness is caused by everyone else, and love to blame women as a group. If you don’t want to be lonely you have to make a conscious effort to make friends, meet people, and live a healthy lifestyle. The world isn’t conspiring against you.

[@Shaolinthemple]

You're missing the point entirely. It's almost as if you don't live in this world.

[@nax1807]

@@Shaolinthemple explain the point then....

[@gaia7240]

Exactly

[@nax1807]

@@Shaolinthemple still waiting for you to explain that point.....

[@bstybyz3]

"...At least your problems are taken seriously..." ~Bill Burr

[@rehanfarooqui2071]

E we hss as t a line!

[@BinkyStalls]

“I think we’ll be fine.” - 95% of lonely dudes.

[@jakesmith-bs4jd]

It’s all good bro

[@aWake.d-_-b]

We will be indeed. Hopefully. If not.. it is what it is .

[@turbozee9791]

We'll be fine, if we ain't. Hell, it is what it is

[@Pete-Prolly]

I just ended a 6-month relationship. (I never been better.) My ex thought I was of talking to another woman on messenger because I was on there for 2 hours, and I'm usually never on Facebook or messenger. (My cousin in Greece just got married... and THAT'S who I was talking too!) But I say, "Babe. What's the problem? You're always on messenger. Do we need to talk about that instead?" "THAT'S DIFFERENT!" she screams. (oh, that's different) "Well," I go on to say calmly, "you can continue talking on messenger to whoever you want, for as long as you want, and so can I...or I'll be done with you right now." She freaks out and then she's all like, "WHY! CUZ YOU MET SOMEONE ELSE!?" I tell her, "Nobody, and I mean nobody, is going to have one set of rules for me and a different set of rules for themselves. You're out of your Goddamned mind if you think that. I do what I want. You will not police my conversations. Fuck that shit." She yells, "OH I KNOW HOW YOU ARE! IT'S MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY! THAT'S WHAT YOU ALWAYS SAY!! AND I DON'T LIKE YOUR WAY!!!" "Well," I explain to her, "now it's just the highway. So enjoy it, Little Miss Big-Mouth." *Imagine a desert Highway with all of my ex-girlfriends standing around, and tumbleweeds are rolling by, and some are holding up one thumb hitchhiking.* 👍 *Imagine coyotes.* *Picture a cactus or two.* Now imagine my first girlfriend ever, walking up to my last girlfriend ever, and I mean my ex, Little Miss Big-Mouth, and she's saying to her, "You dumb bitch. His way was a luxury car with heated seats. Who chooses the highway???" *OW, OW, OW-WOOOOOOOOO!!!!!* "WAS THAT A COYOTE!?" asks my ex? And one of the other women says, "Hell yeah, that was a coyote. It sucks out here." "WELL, WHEN IS HE COMING BACK!?" asks Little Miss Big-Mouth. The other women snicker and laugh at her. My first girlfriendㅡprobably a skeleton with a wig by nowㅡsays to Little Miss Big-Mouth, "DON'T YOU GET IT!!??? HE'S NOT COMING BACK!!! EVER!" She grabs my last ex by the shoulders and shakes her until two of my other exes pull her off! "OKAY," says my most recent ex, "MAYBE SOMEONE BETTER WILL COME ALONG. GEEZ..." "Sure. That's why we're still here," says a girl way in the back. The sun begins to set and one of the other womenㅡa boss babeㅡsays to the group, "Ok, girls. Gather up some sticks. Time to build a fire. It's about to get really cold out here." They huddle together for warmth. They throw their makeup in the fire pit. They hold their hands over the flames, shivering, while I drive around in my warm car listening to the radio: "I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S SO COLD!" "Will you shut up?" "Put your purse in the fire." "FUCK THAT. PUT YOUR PURSE IN THE FIRE!" "I already did! My first night here..." (Oh yeah.) That's music to my ears.

[@commanderb7291]

The other 5% are the ones who are truthful in admitting there's a problem. There is nothing OK with men pretending to not be in pain, to not be suffering, to say everything is fine when it isn't.

[@zaksmith7018]

The willful blindness of modern women is palpable.

[@wanderingwarrior5626]

MEN, stop putting your hopes, desires, on a woman!

[@readwatchlisten2863]

This is priceless. You know how many people say "Society teaches men to hide their feelings"? This is it, this is society doing it in real-time. Right here.

[@thosewhocare2427]

How is it getting men to hide their emotions by asking what you expect women to do to fix the lonliness of men ? It's a valid point. If your lonely it's your own responsibility to correct that for yourself. Not to have people do it for you. If it's that bad see a therapist who get paid and educated to be able to help you personally.

[@deltoro8816]

@@thosewhocare2427 more misandry. Crazy. Lol 😂

[@readwatchlisten2863]

I'll put it another way. Women: "Society teaches men to hide their feelings, men need to be open" Men: "A lot of us are dealing with loneliness and feel depressed" Women: "That sounds like your problem."

[@throwaway5926]

@@thosewhocare2427 When you tell someone, “we don’t want to hear it, go fix it yourself” that’s exactly what you’re saying. You literally just did it too. Congrats, you’re part of the problem.

[@thosewhocare2427]

@@deltoro8816 it's called personal accountability ypu should try it

[@kelanderson401]

Men are opting out of relationships at such an alarming rate that bridal shops are going out of business. Male loneliness is literally affecting the economy.

[@awesome-dp1oo]

Correlation does not mean causation. Bridal companies are going out of business because of many factors, with the biggest one being Online Shopping and the runner-up being Covid.

[@kelanderson401]

@@awesome-dp1oo It does when the marriage rate is the lowest in 122 years. This is called statistical data.

[@awesome-dp1oo]

@@kelanderson401 bridal shops can't compete with online markets, especially when you can find the same dress online for cheaper, and with more customization. All that and you don't even need to leave your house, bridal shops could never compete. The dating scene is barely a factor in bridal shops going bankrupt.

[@Sobreira4]

@@awesome-dp1oo Online customization. First time.

[@chrisrobles2012]

@@awesome-dp1oo, and every married man knows how much crap our wives have ordered online that didn’t fit. And you think online Bridal dresses 👗 beats trying it on in person? And that is somehow the reason why bridal shops are closing?? Sole reason?? 🤦‍♂️ couldn’t be MGTOW or Boss Babe mentality or statistical data.

[@garyhome7101]

I learned this lesson in my twenties - 40 years ago. No woman wants to know my personal inner struggles. But she does demand I listen to hers with utmost earnestness. Nope.

[@jasondyrkacz8270]

Younger men are learning that lesson a lot earlier.

[@rtd7066]

To be fair, emotionally and spiritually..we must individually learn to face our troubles and make our way through. In other words, no one can fix us. We must do it ourselves.

[@SilentSakura-]

“I don’t wanna diminish that” *Proceeds to diminish it*

[@TheBrokenCoast]

Double standards my bro the double standards.

[@SilentSakura-]

@@TheBrokenCoast Preach, brother.

[@P.Whitestrake]

​@@TheBrokenCoast Exactly, brother.

[@johnl9977]

Our culture has given our women a lot of undesirable qualities. They value possessions, that is it. Go international and it is easy to find women that value the family unit. I had to do that 14 years ago. Best thing that ever happened to me.

[@number3stunner118]

​@@johnl9977men are largely to blame, to be honest. If "we" would've had higher standards and not tolerated so much bs, I don't think there would be so many narcissistic women. That's not to discount other factors - because they definitely exist(ed) - but too many kiss-asses helped fuel this fire.

[@xyshomavazax]

Getting “what am I supposed to do about it” as a response is one of the main reasons why men don’t speak up about loneliness.

[@Tunda2]

Or anything for that matter

[@cheche373]

What happened to just listen and don't try to solve the problem?

[@y0utuberculosis]

Totally missing the point. You become lonely when you don't have an emotional support system, which can be your partner sure, but you also need to have friends that are there for you. And men are usually friends with... drum roll... other men.

[@number3stunner118]

​@@cheche373that's a form of support females tend to prefer. Males often do want help with figuring out a solution - although someone listening and showing empathy is still nice.

[@nataliewalton5118]

If you dont speak up, THATS ON YOU. Why dont men talk to other men instead of complaining about women?

[@wayneturner8575]

Being around her, would make any and every man lonely. She is full of herself.

[@QuebecoisSti]

36 yo man here. No wife, no gf, no kids, no pet. I am employed in a good job, got a decent education and I have friends but I kind of feels alone sometimes at home by myself. Most people around me are in couple or having a family with kids, it feels weird sometimes for me. I don't want to be seen as victim here but just to tell anyone that they might not be alone in similar scenario. I have differents passions and stuff to have fun but tend to put more time in my machines, tools, creations than to socialize. I don't see myself as an introvert but at least I see the non-human objects can't betray me nor have to endure consequences or bs.

[@Valeciols]

If you are feeling alone at home by yourself, I suggest getting a pet maybe!! Like a cat! 😊 I understand what you mean 🥺❤️ things happen over time!! You do what makes you happy! ❤😊

[@QuebecoisSti]

@@Valeciols I thought about getting a pet for a long time. However, I am more towards dog, had 3 differents dogs when I was younger living with my parents, it was nice but right now because of my schedule that is not steady and long hours (don't want to leave it alone for such long periods) and don't want to have something holding me up (eg. I travel from time to time and go do activities here and there). In the end I don't want the pet to endure loneliness because of myself...

[@Valeciols]

@@QuebecoisSti ohh I understand!! True, if you travel a lot having a pet would be hard! Maybe find a new hobby or something to make you feel less alone or join like a club in your area!! 😼😼❤️

[@Valeciols]

@@QuebecoisSti dang I feel bad 😭 feeling lonely sucks y'know? Especially because we are social creatures! I hope you find someone or something to ease the loneliness! You seem very kind, I believe in you! ❤️❤️

[@RomanianReaver]

The obligatory quote here: Privilege is invisible to those who have it.

[@Teddy-fm9nt]

Yeah, I think black people have been telling white people this for the longest time. Now you have something to relate it too.

[@RomanianReaver]

@@Teddy-fm9nt Considering black women are usually treated better than white men in terms of legal disputes (be it criminal or civil) ya may wanna do a double-take there. Womanhood > white skin (or olive in countries where it ain't crackas who "held da brotha down" ;) )

[@astahfirula]

Don’t think it is a matter of privilege being invisible to those that have. More like a lack of empathy cause she spent her life having her pick of men but now that she got older, nobody chases her anymore. Her vibe screams “i am now lonely myself, stop taking of other people with the same problem i have and start giving me the attention i want.”

[@michaelfanning1306]

100%👍👍👍 nailed it.

[@Beantastrophe]

Sounds like gaslighting

[@soulstech414]

Yup, women tell us to open up and share our feelings more and this is what we get.. this is why men dont talk about our feelings because as soon as we do, we're seen as weak and we're no longer respected.. and this is especially true with the women we love the most..

[@Avogadros_number]

100% such a catch 22

[@moonorchid9242]

Unfortunately there are plenty of people who will look down on a man being vulnerable. However if your close women are the ones doing it then there’s a balance issue in that relationship. One of my exes was so caught up in ‘being the man’ (His words) to be strong and supportive & not vulnerable that he ended up disappearing for weeks at a time without telling me what was going on or that he was struggling. Then pretending everything was ok or trying to blame me when he was around. I told him he could talk to me, I showed him I was there no matter what & if space was what was needed that I would not question that, just asked that he at least tell me he was going off grid for a bit so i didn’t worry. He did…. One time… after 6 months of it I couldn’t do it anymore and broke it off. He chose to blame me for that too and then got mean about it. Anyway the point is don’t allow yourself to be so closed off that you can’t let those who truely love you in. Because someone that truely loves you will support you through a rough patch and listen when you need to talk or hold you if you need to be held. We are not all walking contradictions. If one says “open up” and someone else says “be a man” those two people aren’t contradicting one another. They just have different opinions

[@yamomma8560]

@@moonorchid9242!!!! yuppp i feel you i have gone thru the same

[@cliffterrell4876]

Opening up to women is like your Maranda rights, you have the right to remain silent and better. If you give up your right to remain silence, everything you say and do WILL be used against you. You have the right to an attorney when she files for a divorce to take everything you own. You won't be able to afford the attorney but you will pay for her attorney. If you don't understand these rights to be a single man, it's your fault.

[@cliffterrell4876]

​@@moonorchid9242I was married for 19 years to a slut who claimed she loved me but didn't give a damn about me or our marriage. I was there as a ATM only. I opened up once with her and regretted it later. 99.9% of females are walking contradictions. That's why a smart man would never open up to a female and prefer to stay single.

[@CDRFINANCE]

I agree with her, she is reiterating her true nature and that is to despise men who show weakness, in her eyes.

[@mhakes-to5vw]

This is very true. I honestly don't know if I can take the constant loneliness anymore. If it wasn't for my daughters, I don't know where I'd be.

[@ionicatoms]

I really fear for my son. He’s currently a teenager. There’s so much toxicity directed towards boys and men now. it’s amazing to me how women can be so sensitive to the toxicity that they are exposed to and yet turn around and flood the environment with the same toxic trash.

[@fauvecorrigan1233]

1 in 3 females are sexually molested on average in the states. Rape on college campus are an all time high. Porn and drug abuse use are on the rise along with the mental health crisis and yes there is a direct link between all these issues. Combine this with all the toxicity in music, movies and social media, the boys and girls have grown up with a completely fucked up sense of entitlement far removed from reality. The upcoming generations are in for a huge wake up call before society eats itself from within

[@junicohen7918]

Take him out of public school now

[@NostalgiaHDOS]

@@junicohen7918ong. Homeschool him

[@BecomePneuma11235]

Here's why it's not that shocking: the outer world is a projection of your inner world. To girls, they've been abused, used, and objectified for so long that they are full of hate and anger and loneliness. So they project that out onto the world around them affecting it in a negative way. The only real way to make change is for people to learn to heal. Turning around the same ugliness into the world that you've dealt with doesn't help anyone or anything. And it's not just women vs. men, it's black vs. White, rich vs. poor, repubs vs. Dems. No one treats each other with respect with anymore, we're all so divided and we just keep swinging the pendulum back n forth instead of trying to stop the stupid swing. People need to learn to love and respect others even when it's hard, even when you don't agree with them, even when you perceive that they've wronged you. This world is becoming such an ugly and hateful place.

[@JohnSmith-rw6vo]

I've a couple of jobs where the majority of coworkers were women. It was like highschool, they were constantly talking about each other behind their back. Even the store manager did it. In my personal experience, guys can be physically abusive but women are soul crushing.

[@JohnoGarcia4]

Exactly why most men keep it bottled in or permanently harm themselves. If we express emotion, it will get used against us or thrown back at us to where it's our fault.

[@DeltaVe]

Absolutely. I can say for me that my journal is my best space to be vulnerable, for exactly the reasons you mentioned: it can't be used against me or become a reason for someone to lower their opinion of me.

[@CARPETMAN6666]

when she's being raped or if her hometown is being invaded by another country I think it's a her problem. what the hell are Men supposed to do?

[@SuaveHousexx]

💯 They always throw everything back in our face.

[@nutcase724]

My male friends are the only ones I would feel comfortable coming to with issues like that. I dont think I’ll ever feel safe coming to a woman who isn’t my mother

[@CentientBeing]

Watching you play had taught me how to be chill in the most grueling situations and how to have fun regardless or whats goin on 👊😎

[@stephenpatemusic]

Sweetheart… women like you are the reason why we’re COMPLETELY okay being single. 😂

[@ryanshorter6422]

She is posting this because she brings chaos stress and drama to every man she comes across but in every possible way she is blame shifting. True narcissistic sociopath.

[@stephenpatemusic]

@@ryanshorter6422 been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and then burned it! 😂

[@sourceofhealing]

​@@stephenpatemusic😂

[@tinnagigja3723]

@@ryanshorter6422 Yes, she's the crazy one, not the guy making up a whole ass backstory and diagnosing a random stranger with mental health problems based on a few seconds of video.

[@sarahrobertson634]

​@@ryanshorter6422Guys are coming at her with accusations, like she owes them something because they feel lonely. That's really creepy of them.

[@pyromanaic21]

Reminds me of what Berne Brown said during one of her Ted talks. "For men, shame is not a bunch of competing, conflicting expectations. Shame is one, do not be perceived as what? Weak. I did not interview men for the first four years of my study. It wasn't until a man looked at me after a book signing, and said, "I love what say about shame, I'm curious why you didn't mention men." And I said, "I don't study men." And he said, "That's convenient." And I said, "Why?" And he said, "Because you say to reach out, tell our story, be vulnerable. But you see those books you just signed for my wife and my three daughters?" I said, "Yeah." "They'd rather me die on top of my white horse than watch me fall down. When we reach out and be vulnerable, we get the shit beat out of us. And don't tell me it's from the guys and the coaches and the dads. Because the women in my life are harder on me than anyone else.""

[@Sweet-Leaf]

Saw a clip from that last week on this same channel, but had no clue who the lady was or where to find the full thing (and forgot to go into detective mode)

[@brogers1559]

That's an awesome clip! She got humbled quick!

[@Batty_Mckick_N_Punch]

For me, when I lost my job at 21 many years ago my sister kicked me out on the street. Many years after that after my partner cheated and left I went to live with my mother and sister. Some time later they threw me on the street again. Had to rebuild my life again all alone. I'm ok now but my point is for a lot of women they treat men like garbage when a man goes through hard times.

[@fm2dmax]

After my ex left me bc asking for help driving me to surgery (hospital requirment) was "pathetic" there is ZERO question in my mind that you can EITHER live an authentic life as a full human being OR you can have sex. I told her "Patriarchy does not just walk around in men" and walked out. I've decided on an authentic life and possibly an occasional cuddle with strangers cos the real actual human man is not lovable. And we don't have to blame feminism bc nature saw fit to rig our genome to birth 105 boy infants per 100 girl infants. There's just too many of us. They have these statistical advantage for selection so. Therefore, our culture at least for dating reflects that advantage. We are in fact disposable.

[@thedog5k]

@@fm2dmaxman, I’m just coming to terms woman as creatures are awful They don’t love do they, more like a trophy you have to fight for every day, and they sound less and less appealing Subscriptions suck, I’m a buy for life kinda guy

[@jondavis2206]

Dating is so crazy since the internet, everyone thinks they are too good for someone to date. Go figure!

[@map3384]

Solitude is better than female company.

[@TruckerReviewed]

"Some men tell me this as if I'm supposed to care." - her real thoughts

[@radioactiveassassin5218]

After hearing so many women on the internet say exactly that, that was what I was expecting her to say, but she changed it to "supposed to do something about it."

[@Newnodrogbob]

When women say “be more open with your feelings” what they mean is “be more demonstrative of how much you love me.”

[@genedelay5501]

With Money!!!

[@hoedemakerbart]

Yeah it means open your wallet and i want 5 exotic vacations a year minimum

[@toasty862]

"but only in front of my friends where it'll score me points against that b*tch Stacey"

[@Stoic_Poet]

Ding ding ding!

[@StephenH1]

"Be more open with your feelings" and then you are demonized for having those feelings and labeled as not masculine enough. It's a death spiral.

[@matthewwriter9539]

Imagine a world where there was a female loneliness problem, they would blame men, and say it was all our fault.

[@nuagor]

In Mr. Rogers' words, find the helpers. No person can solve the epidemic solo, but you can find a way to help. And if you don't know what to do yet, find someone who is helping and learn from them.

[@williamh.1519]

She just knows that a man would still be lonely even if she was in his life.

[@SusieQ3]

That's exactly what I was thinking.

[@onlinepole]

She definitely doesn’t seem like a person who would commit to a partner

[@georgeelder8415]

Reflecting, if that's possible???

[@jimbothegymbro7086]

she'd make him want to be alone

[@i_am_funny]

​@@SusieQ3is your name a JoJo's refrence?

[@mattt9278]

The loneliness that we're experiencing isn't for friendship and platonic love, it's for romantic love and to build a life with a partner. Many guys can hang with their boys all day and night but they're still lonely.

[@markgaumee]

I have a group I enjoy spending time with yet every night I stare at my ceiling wondering why I feel so alone.

[@Glacierlune]

I kinda don't believe you, Women aren't lonely when they are single. So what dose that say about men? Men need to be better friends to eachother so the loneliness isn't so crippling while they develop the social skills to persue a romantic relationship. Edit: because people don't even know what subject I'm discussing... You need friendships in order to develop the emotional and social skills that make it possible to develop a romantic relationship. The loneliness epidemic is a societal problem baised on society untraining men from having any kind of relationships and experienced by men who have difficulty even forming friendships because of how deep the destruction of manhood is and how it's imprisoned by threats of "being gay" or "being a girl"

[@markgaumee]

@@Glacierlune Right because you understand exactly how male relationships work and what they need to succeed. How about you spend some time in a man's shoes before assuming you know how fix their problems.

[@Jamespetersenwa]

@@Glacierlune Among almost all women, this is a HARD case of "you can't see your own privilege". Women do not realize they live without an anxiety that men live with constantly and that's the anxiety of knowing you can easily die alone. We are HYPER aware that if we do not perform and put in almost all the effort to meet and court a women, that we will very likely never meet anyone. On the flip side, every average or above average women is subconsciously aware that if they want male companionship, even if it's with a slightly less desirable mate, they just need present themselves for conversation and laugh at a few jokes and there's a decent chance they'll get it. You know that really big female friend you have that has a hard time finding a partner and is really dejected about it all the time? Yeah, she's dejected because she doesn't live with that same privilege as other women because men judge her on her weight. She's dejected because she's living with the possibility that she may die alone. She's dejected because she's living life like a man does, only difference is society prepares us for it a bit, women have ZERO clue how to court a man if they're not conventionally attractive/average usually.

[@Glacierlune]

@@markgaumee okay, I'll go put on my shoes. And yes, this is exsactly how I fixed my problems with male relationships. Honestly the hardest thing about having male relationships as a male myself is that some men are so terrified of being labeled feminine or gay for interacting with other men in an emotionally supportive role. And not abandoning eachother when things are rough because "tough man can handle by self" I really look up to my brother who also doesn't let toxic masculinity disrupt him from expressing natural masculinity. It's something we learned from our father, who didn't grow up in American culture so he was free of toxic masculinity. Ironically my father is very masculine but would be considered feminine by the toxic masculinity standards. Thank God that is finally dying out so men can actually grow up to be real men secure in their healthy masculinity.

[@POIUYTREWQ62]

Women: "We want men to open up / be more empathic like us" Men: *Opens up* Women: "Ewww gross. What the eff is that crap? Why should I care?"

[@johnjohnson5930]

Social media has destroyed women

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

I wish apps such as tiktok, Facebook and Instagram never existed in the first place, they need to be banned permanently

[@the1tigglet]

"I don't wanna diminish that" You diminished it.

[@Kjeks7]

Men are lonely Women: Fix it yourself! Women are lonely Women: Men need to do something about this!

[@alejmc]

and as soon as they try ideas, passively embrace it like mgtow or actively like going abroad, hell breaks loose. Hypocrisy is rampant

[@luisluna5835]

Dont forget that the option to get a female partner still is: "We need a real mean to step in as a father (personal ATM) of my 2 children of different parent..." That is kinda the average "best deal" on the table in "take it or leave it" tone.

[@GamingProspector84]

Men are lonely Women most affected

[@mnomadvfx]

@@GamingProspector84 That's basically the response when MRA's discuss fathers rights in family courts where mothers have overwhelming supremacy. Or in criminal court where women get off most crimes with a slap relative to men getting time for the same crime.

[@MrBrachiatingApe]

​@@mnomadvfxI read that if one equalised all the discounts women get in the crimini justice system (arrested less often for the same crimes, charged less often, charged with lesser crimes for the same actions, given better plea deals, given lighter sentences, etc.) then you'd have roughly 90% as many women in prison as men, possibly 95%. That's not even counting shit like false accusations and women using the justice system, especially family courts, as a proxy for punishing men for whatever.

[@harrisonjones1087]

I wouldn't ask a man how his heart is doing because it would be idiotic and accomplish nothing, and I don't care what he thinks. It's not repressed emotion, it's avoided stupidity.

[@calvin013]

this is why men do not complain to women. i don't wanna diminish that.... it sounds really rough.... and then chastise men for the rest of the time.

[@ChefMarkyMarkz]

*Sometimes a man just needs a hug. Nothing more or less.*

[@Lindsey0007]

Sending you virtual hugs my friend! 🥰😍😘

[@Darkour97]

This. Take it from someone who shook uncontrollably when someone hugged me out of love. It shouldn't be like that for anyone.

[@davidkramer333]

I run a bar and some older gentleman who is a regular got a break up phone call while he was there. He fell on the floor sobbing, I picked him up and gave him a big hug. I don't know him that well but he is a good guy and he definitely needed it....we all need it sometimes

[@---Dana----]

We all do.

[@r.a.o.c.2592]

Best example of that was the scene from Spider-Man when old girl just gave him a piece of cake after a rough day period that's all he wanted.

[@YN97WA]

If I had to choose between loneliness and that harpy, I would welcome loneliness!

[@Vortexstorm921]

How many women think it is IMPOSSIBLE for a man to give an opinion on abortion? Something that involves both parties, and in the same vein deny the validity of male loneliness (which is a male problem only!)? These double standards are getting so tiring.

[@Lilgreenman89]

"I don't want to diminish this but I'm totally going to make this about me."

[@Wolf-xb8bo]

This is why I don't open up at all. Even when someone asks me, I just don't because 100% when I express how I feel it is used against me.

[@RonnieMyers777]

Yup

[@kiddhippie948]

Unfortunately

[@ciaclark1111]

As a woman, I'm so sorry that's happened to you. My two closest friends are men. We share our deepest emotions with one another. Sadly, not everyone understands love and respect.

[@gabrialgreen659]

Simply put, it is men against the world.

[@gumby3057]

Never let them see you bleed and even with brothers from other mothers, just give a short overview, nothing more.

[@MaryKikakujou]

Thats like not caring about famine in a foreign country just because you're in a first word country

[@Cathmoytura]

I've had women accuse me of being selfish for choosing to be single and celibate and thus reducing middle-aged women's romantic prospects. This is a human thing, not a man thing.

[@GadreEl777]

Just went through a 2 1/2 year divorce with the most selfish creature God ever created. I’m not lonely. I’m relieved. And somewhat off put.

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

Absolutely being with an ungrateful woman is not better than being alone. In the United States this is almost always what it becomes at some point

[@johngoosen1962]

Freedom is priceless brotherman!

[@georgeelder8415]

Ah, prenup and vasectomy... It's a theme song of those who believed... For those with faith.

[@ianjones9322]

Congratulations bro, hope your able to peaice it together and go again, surely there are some good women out there??? I hope

[@disalazarg]

When did you marry my ex? 😂 But yes, some women are truly awful human beings. Not all, I don't think even most, but far too many.

[@SG-js2qn]

The logic of the entitled. "Everybody must help me, but I am not obligated to help anyone else."

[@laurarsheppard]

Where in this video did this woman expect men to fix her loneliness or unhappiness either?

[@SG-js2qn]

@@laurarsheppard What in the world? Your comment is so out of left field, it's like it must be coming from a bot. It has nothing to do with what I said OR the video.

[@laurarsheppard]

@SG-js2qn I'm not a bot. Your comment implies that the woman in the video (not Emily) acts entitled to receive help from men, but not obligated to help men. I'm saying, no, she's not claiming any right to receive help EITHER.

[@naturalpro2003]

​@laurarsheppard She is not offering to help either. As she stated, lonely men act "like I should do something about it". I guarantee if she is dating a man, she would want that man's shoulder to cry on when her life takes a downward spiral. The same type of man she would tell, "Suck it up, buddy", if things got hard for him.

[@johntumahab323]

In almost all situations, everything a person says before the word "but" is irrelevant.

[@CRKerekanich]

Yeah, men do need to do better. But my confidant, who I can fully express myself to, is my best friend, and it took us years and various traumatic experiences we had to deal with to become close enough to be there for each other in a really positive and significant way. Guys don’t generally come to that understanding easily, and it’s both the popular and socializing stigmas that keep us in these places mentally. It can be a difficult habit to break in assuming that we always have to deal with everything alone, and gaining real friendships with mutual trust and respect can take time. Life can be complicated.

[@gaia7240]

This is exactly what the girl tried to say

[@justiceseeker2nd963]

Yes, you ARE supposed to do something. Be friends, talk to them, do ANYTHING. I’m so sick of this dismissive ‘go and get therapy’ attitude people use to excuse continuing to be jerks

[@marklittle8805]

Well we see how well therapy helps about 50% of the female population....most screwed up segment with mental health issues is women and all of them that are in therapy don't seem to be getting anywhere but they know how to blame men

[@mynameiselvispresleygirlsa5911]

Except we DO! We try to be friends, then get trashed when we don't want more than that. So if we don't fuck you guys, we're "friend zoning" you. But if we DO fuck you, then we're "hoes."

[@oleksandrnagornyi1130]

As a man in my early 30's, to all those women friend zoning me as a "good" guy for the past years: stop sharing your feelings with me, fix it yourself. I couldn't* care less, I'm now fixing myself, working on myself and providing for myself.

[@michaelleza3291]

Yep. They can go tell their bad boy boyfriend and see what happens.

[@oleksandrnagornyi1130]

@@michaelleza3291 welcome to the gym 💪 bro, cheers!

[@stevenmintz1]

Pay cash for your house if you can and a plot of land to grow your own food. Then you can set high standards on your girlfriend and if she acts up. Well see ya.

[@Colton-wz5sh]

Couldn’t* care less. If you can care less it means you care

[@catherinemccright1256]

Bro you sound bitter all women are not bad because you choose the wrong type ... I guarantee you keep going after the exact same type of women too 😅

[@KellyAspinall]

They are the leaders…so yes. Fix it yourselves!

[@ezramiller8936]

Its an accusitory tone because the only individuals that can keep woman acountable and high value are other women. The refusal to shame other women for their permisquity at a collective level or the willingness control her own at an individual level to some degree, plays a key role in why women are starting to be viewed as unfit for comanionship by the other sex.

[@StrikerEureka85]

Notice how she embellished the story by saying that the guy told her "in an accusatory tone " to victimize herself. Borderline sociopathic behavior.

[@TheVoxbox13]

👍 Fact. Well spotted. Right out of the gate she framed the story/tried to bias the listener: "In this story: man = aggressive, woman = victim)

[@Umega101]

Narcissistic rather. She doesn't view the issue as a problem for her, and so proceeds to push it away from being any type of priority for her to 'deal with'. A sociopath (if they recognize it...) would use and manipulate this situation to their advantage. A sociopath is more likely to use some faux-charm and even appear empathetic to manipulate the situation; while a narcissist is generally going to go 'victim card' to steer the debate to their own worth by devaluing the other person and/or their argument

[@ProfessorFaceless]

That bothered me as well when she said it that way. "Wait accusatory...so a man answering the question as to Male Lonliness is having an accusatory tone...?" Most likely she uses Mansplaining a lot...

[@westernartifact4163]

The irony is she's acting like any man would ever trust having such a vulnerable conversation with her about this issue. Yeah, sure bitch.

[@mrgregw]

Women are experts at manipulation.

[@dan6442]

I tried to help a woman with her problem once. She got mad. Said some things she shouldn't have. I blocked her number. Ten months later, she texted with a new number. Whatever. Not only am I done helping, but I'm also done "listening".

[@darkest_magnum]

Almost similar situation. Helping someone who keeps getting back to someone that keeps breaking them. It's crazy!!! I've trying so hard to shake her off and it's very hard. But I'm determined to end this wild, crazy, unyielding experience.

[@asherandai2633]

Never try to help anyone who isn’t trying to help themselves

[@61countdown]

And then they go and do what you said and conveniently forget it was your idea and never give you credit.

[@darkest_magnum]

@@61countdown exactly. He calls her names, he broke her spirit. I loved her. He was lying to make himself feel better. She was way above his standards. She loved him and became attached. He's being doing it for more than 3years she said. I fixed her. We went out sometime and she told me, she wants to take sometime and get over him and everything. And get back to me. That I should be patient with her. I agreed. He came back apologizing. She accepted him. Lol One night, he dissed her again. And she called me. The next day I told her not to call me late at night. She didn't like it. But she's trying to keep to it. That's how they are.

[@jelkel25]

I don't ever envisage having to ask for support from a person like this, in fact i really don't care about their opinions either. Why say she won't give what she is incapable of? I hope the male members of her family saw this and responded accordingly.

[@halcionkoenig243]

"There is a male loneliness epidemic, and that sounds rough. I don't want to diminish that, but why are you telling me this, like I'm supposed to do something about it?" Me - That's actually true. You have no obligation, as a woman, to care about men's issues. Thanks to you, I've now realized that women's issues are just that... *_WOMEN'S ISSUES._* Therefor, today marks the first day where I actively seek to ignore *_WOMEN'S ISSUES,_* as I am not a woman. Thank you for the advice.

[@gaia7240]

The problem is that most of women's issues are caused by men, just like men issues, do you understand now?

[@southerndad68]

I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than end up with a cold hearted woman like this she isn't worth my time.

[@gregwatruba4541]

It's better to be alone, than to wish you were.

[@southerndad68]

@@gregwatruba4541 I've been alone for the past 5yrs since my ex-wife and I got divorced so it's nothing new to me.

[@fredmercury1314]

*Plot Twist:* There's ALWAYS been a male loneliness epidemic, it's just that the men aren't married now.

[@Jmmarshall69]

This. Well said.

[@jericoba]

Nah, it hasn't really. It's gotten worse now according to research and statistics.

[@fredmercury1314]

@@jericobaThat only proves research has increased. Just because they were married, didn't mean they weren't lonely. No one was asking them, because no one cared how men felt about anything. And really, they still don't. Society only ever cares about how men feel, when it impacts negatively on women and children.

[@Dj0enderman3000]

@@fredmercury1314some day it will impact them if it rises high enough. But it is eviden(tical?) (I don't know how to english xd) that technology plays a big role in the rising loneliness

[@gj4312]

I mean, no there hasn't. That's what makes it an epidemic.

[@jermstergaming8780]

I just realized where alot of my hard feelings come in. Every time it's someone elses problems, it's my job to fix it. Everytime its my problem, it's my job to fix it. It can be rather overwhelming at times to feel like everything is your fault/problem and if you ever ask for help or a change you just get told to do/be better...

[@sloppychoppy]

I mean as a guy, I definitely listen (and love) to Mitski and the recurring theme of her songs (in the past) is self destruction through self-sabotage and people pleasing (themes in Puberty 2) and that ain't a problem of other people to fix either.

[@timothyblazer1749]

Then they say "where have all the good men gone?" You can't make this up! 😂😂😂

[@xxromanovaxx6682]

No one's saying that anymore, useless boomer. Move on.

[@natashadickson4819]

That isn't what she asked. She probably has a good man or beta/simp options. She asked why men are not helping lonely men to deal with loneliness. It's not a difficult question. ❤

[@Blackgrimreaper2024]

​@@natashadickson4819I think men are just moving on from America women in this country will never understand it's just over at this point seriously men are just moving on and giving women there deserved freedom in America

[@ZIbroweed]

@@natashadickson4819 Men are starting to, but every change has consequences, and one consequence of men learning to go to other men for support and thus establishing in-group preference for protecting those men is that there is one less reason to form families. If women are career chasing and men are learning to go to each other exclusively for emotional support, there will be even more children growing up without two parents. What do you think all these red-pill communities popping up online are? That's men going to other men with their problem, and then emotionally preferring those men when looking for solutions.

[@lorieakin5771]

If a woman says that, ask what one looks like. What does a good man be like?

[@scorchedearth1451]

I'm alone, but not lonely. "Alone" is a physical state you're in, and "Lonely" is a feeling. You can be lonely in a crowded room or marriage. I'm a truck driver. Im alone all day. I'm used to it.

[@user-fh3in7nr9p]

I was never more lonely than when I was married and surrounded by false friends.

[@FFKDTP1]

Exactly! I have CHOSEN to stop dating and be by myself, because I’m not needy and have never had a more fulfilling life. I travel a lot, meet people where I go, and don’t have a relationship to do not much more than bring constant negativity and bs into my life. Guys who sit here and cry that they can’t find a woman to care about them are really pathetic. Happiness is intrinsic, you don’t need validation from others…

[@DillyBobBanana]

When men or women come to me with a problem I don't leave them hanging and tell them to deal with it themselves. I care about the people in my life. Male or female has nothing to do with it, they are all human beings that matter to me its that simple. So if one of my sisters or female friends wants to talk about something or needs someone to listen and support them regardless if the issue is my issue I do.

[@sdw2is]

Some of us aren't lonely we are through.

[@squidigin9515]

And yet they accuse all men of being predators as though I’m able to do anything about it 😂

[@jeremy4375]

Her eyes are as black as the devil's soul. Watch out for them gingers. Stay thirsty my friends.. 🧔🏻

[@ChrisWilson-nv5lj]

Yeah, right! Except you know not be lol

[@stephenfiend1033]

I know right ... I'm doing my part by not being a predator that's about all I can do

[@MisterPeckingOrder]

When the vast majority of men wouldn’t ever do anything to hurt a woman, and the younger men of my generation were literally raised to be terrified of ever harassing a woman.

[@squidigin9515]

@@MisterPeckingOrder I’m terrified of being in the general vicinity of a woman without CCTV

[@krisfreouf]

Her: “men need to fix their own issues!” Also her:”why doesn’t my man open up to me?”

[@onlinepole]

Preach

[@Duke-mz5jd]

😂👏

[@adamkuestner2961]

What man

[@Nemephosis]

Because then they use it against us as a weapon.

[@kenmashairtie409]

What?? Fixing your issues doesn't mean shut everyone out and emotionally block yourself. It means identifying the problem and finding solution to fix it. If a solution is talking about it then bam, problem solved. If the solution is stop talking to someone then bam, problem solved. Emotionally blocking your partner because you have issues simply means the relationship wasn't ment to last anyway.

[@lllPlatinumlll]

Sometimes I remember my kids, I used to miss them. There was nothing I could do when she stole them from me. I'll never have grandchildren and it is women's fault.

[@dragon_of_metal1914]

Had never considered talking to a woman about the loneliness epidemic, but watching this it seems like a good way to weed out people that lack empathy or just despise men.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

True.

[@mikedegnan5252]

Women: I'm lonely Men: whoa! Me too!(hint hint) Women: sounds like you have a problem. You better go fix it....

[@forrestgump5959]

lol right

[@Angelwoman3]

Hint hint lol 😂 that's so adorable