Workplace Bullying Is Not What You Think It Is |

[@clairehuntonline]

Well, I spoke too soon. After posting this the “good” job I thought I had went downhill real fast. Just another hellscape full of cruel, mean-spirited, dismissive narcissists. As much as I think I know about workplace bullying, it appears that even I am still not immune to it. I did everything wrong in this job - and everything I advise my viewers not to do: putting up boundaries with narcissists and speaking out about bullying. As always, that was my downfall. I have come to the conclusion that I am simply not cut out for office, group environments. Maybe sensitives like us all need to focus on entrepreneurship and work from home.

[@targetedtyranny4661]

I know I've learned many things from my experience, you have to control your reactions for one,most of the abuse will be covertly done,which leaves you looking like the bad guy,lots of whispering, and threats will happen,and if its a mobbing thing they will hide what they do,we will be unstable,I can't believe people really set up in such a way,its a devastating experience and no matter what your not believed.

[@MelanieYanklowski]

I feel that I am not cut out for the work force too. I fail every job because I don't know how to deal with arrogant people. I hate arrogance, and as soon as I think that I can stand up for myself, it is the beginning of the end. I always pray that God PLEASE just put me in a safe place! I have so many talents and every job I get they are blocked! The qualities that God gave me that make me special have only been my curse at work. I wanted to use them at work but instead I get railroaded. I actually wanted a job to be an avenue for me to help people and maybe do service work. Now, I don't care anymore, I am just trying to survive and since I ALWAYS get bullied, I wonder why this continues to be almost my only goal. It is all the evil people leave me with- just trying to survive! They won, I am drained. They try to suck you dry of all that is good in you.

[@overkill2006]

Your absolutely right. 👍

[@999timepass]

@@MelanieYanklowski Exactly my experience, Melanie. Hope you are in a safe place. I wish you find something soon.

[@magentarose6659]

Sorry to hear that Claire. It's really nasty, I know. Have you done the Myers Briggs Personality tests? I am INFJ (the Advocate) and it's a rare personality (only 2%) of people and apparently one of the most misunderstood. It could be that you have a higher calling or a lifetime mission that needs your time and that your rejection is simply your redirection.

[@HealerWarrior101]

When the main bully is your boss, you have no chance to survive in that workplace. Heartless, soulless individuals. The more polite and reasonable you are, the more cruel the attacks.

[@Elenaoprea123]

I wish I could find earlier this video I was thinking maybe I am too kind for United Kingdom

[@munificent915]

Mmm... Tell me about it very true

[@999timepass]

​@@Elenaoprea123You mean working in UK. I was suicidal working for a company in London, which has shut down few years ago.

[@Elenaoprea123]

@@999timepassi really hope you will Find a good company Unfortunetly for woman is more difficult Intimidatiin ofensive jokes still in another company

[@Elenaoprea123]

@@999timepass hope no more suicidal thoughts

[@smithaday9225]

You are so correct! I am being bullied. My psychologist said it's because you have a sense of confidence which attracts the bully. My patients thank me, but the bully puts me down.

[@elegantz1779]

I'm a spiritual person and work in corporate where I felt targeted. I was abused as a child by a narcissist, which I felt opened me up for abuse from others and thought it was okay This video is EVERYTHING I needed

[@fallonrappaport5270]

That makes you susceptible to further abuse from narcissistic people. I honestly believe that a narcissist has a demonic spirit.

[@ELgeneral-pl9yg]

You are a highly intelligent woman

[@michaelshannon9169]

The workplace is the optimum setting for bullies and narcissists. They thrive in these scenarios as it checks off every facet of power and control, from hierarchy to cliques, from using ppl against you to invading your space to wages and private life. In every job Ive encountered bullies, their radar is always beeping for prey, a virus among humanity.

[@clairehuntonline]

That's exactly right. They have arbitrarily decided that the workplace is a war zone, which they call the "game" and gaslight everyone else as "lazy" if they don't want to play it. They actually prioritize the bullying over the actual work. With all the time, energy, AND money they waste on nonsense, they could actually do something constructive, but dead souls can not create. They can only destroy.

[@michelledarkentell7536]

Girl, you are telling the truth! Thank you so much. I'm a Black woman in the legal field dealing with this craziness. It's been happening my whole life.

[@clairehuntonline]

Yes, all too often, you are bullied in the workplace for your protected class: in your case two. You are both female and a person of color, so I can only imagine the horror you must be experiencing. People of color often describe feeling "invisible" in the workplace. Hypocritical organizations that pretend to care about "diversity" actually never do anything about inclusion. If this has been going on for a while, if it's a chronic, repetitive pattern in workplace after workplace, you might want to watch my video "Why Workplace Bullies Bully."

[@michelledarkentell7536]

@@clairehuntonline Thank you 😊 so much for the reply. I will check out your video. Please 🙏 keep doing what you do! The information you put out in your videos is so valuable to people like me.

[@tramelparker2085]

Her explanation was amazing ❤👏🏼👏🏼

[@tramelparker2085]

@@clairehuntonlinethanks‼️

[@tiaslays255]

I felt that.

[@crcajo]

I have one (a supervisor) who used passive aggressive behavior through ostrasizing me, saying good morning and goodbye to other workers surrounding me and not me. Rarely responds to me when I speak. Plays as if she didn't hear me (she sits right next to me). Basically ignores me and avoids talking to me as best she can. I do not understand it and why she does it. I don't want to be friends, I stay to myself at work anyway. But when someone intentionally avoids and excludes me, it creates a hostil environment that is extremely toxic. I suffer from a few mental health conditions. I believe she is doing this to force me to quietly leave seeking employment elsewhere. My job states they are nontolerant of workplace bullying but you feel helpless and embarrassed to even bring it up. What do I do?

[@clairehuntonline]

I've had employers tell me to my face that they have a "zero-tolerance policy" against workplace bullying, but they were full of it because they don't even know what that is. What you are describing is the workplace bullying technique of "snubbing" (also called the "silent treatment" or "stonewalling"), and I have a video on it. It's also the narcissistic "street angel home devil": the narcissist treats you like crap and everyone else like gold. I just escaped from the clutches of a covert narcissist boss who treated me exactly as you describe. The reason they do that is they are no longer getting any supply out of you. When they are "nice" to other people, they actually don't give a crap about them: they are just grooming those people as potential new sources of supply. They also treat you like crap because they think they have you locked in, right where they want you, and you can't go anywhere. It takes too much effort for these people to pretend to be decent because it's a false pretense that is not sustainable, so they just give up and stop trying. She also may be trying to deliberately hurt you out of some pathological jealousy issues. All workplace bullies are always trying to get you to quit: that's their ultimate goal. It's happened to me a million times. You are right that you don't want to be friends with her: in fact you don't want anything to do with her. You're just being polite. If I were you, I would view her snubbing of you as a blessing: she is giving you the space and freedom to focus on yourself away from her. Be grateful she is not micromanaging, hypercontrolling you, and violating your boundaries. Use the silence to go within and cultivate a solid sense of self that gives you continuous peace and joy no matter what anyone is saying or doing around you: that is someone that neither she nor anyone will ever be able to touch.

[@zathenhcambidestem-iliv2464]

I have this problem, its laughable, I just ignore the ones who ignore me, its a relief. They want to hurt you cos they can get away with it, they are above moral rules, you question what the feck have I done, they are provoking a reaction from you. Reflect their behaviour to them, don't say hello to them, speak to others you relate to. Or get a life so consuming outside work, it doesn't matter about the unhealed at work. The more you do what you love, the more joy you attract. Make a new timeline outside work, take back your reality. Do not let a shit dictate to you how you should feel, you're in-control of your emotions not others.

[@lincmerc1581]

​@@clairehuntonlineI got snubbed and micromanaged. And, omg, the stringy, unwashed hair😂

[@DelicateDecay]

I understand where you’re coming from. I work in the Deans Suite of a college. There are four staff and two Deans in the office. One of the Deans is my boss and she is new to the office just like me. The same with two of my coworkers. Just has you described, my boss always says good morning and goodbye to the other two coworkers. Often times she forgets my name too 😂. I’m handing over my resignation this week and I’m sure they will be excited to see me go 😅. I don’t like being in such a small environment, it’s lonely. I have another job lined up. I hope you can find a way to either leave or find a way to deal 😊.

[@dm5129]

@@DelicateDecay Everything they do is done on purpose of course. You know? A good person actually wants nothing to do with such foul people. Then they go out of their way as if it is them who want nothing to do with you.

[@wafflesmcgrawl]

i just love your bluntness

[@misguidedpearls7456]

I went through work place bullying by 5 supervisors and managers from summer 2020 til February 2023 Targeting stealing my hours Harassment isolation hostile treatment Lies slander Setting me up Lying on my jobs Taking positions for me Intimidating etc It was alot i never knew this could happen.. I wish this on no human being The company still hasn't even paid me for my last wwek of work I quit.. Ive been happy since i left.

[@clairehuntonline]

Sorry for my late reply. I don't know how I missed this comment. My comments have been disappearing, and I have been deleting some. Thank you for your kind words. Good for you for putting yourself first and walking away. Most often, that's all you can do. Getting away from the toxicity does lighten the load, but it takes a long time to heal.

[@tawnytirado143]

Yes I was abused by several for over a year! I think about it daily. I was laid off by boss because she’s his favorite. She went off on me and yelled and that was ok. He was aware of the harassment and did nothing!!! I’m so happy to never have to see any of them ever again, but why do I still have so much anger ? I don’t want to think of them ever again!!!

[@dm5129]

I found out that a very big gang, yes gang, is behind these attacks. Connected like a spiderweb over a wide area. I do not know who they are, but I sure know they are low lives, dangerous low lives, they threaten every single aspect of my life and threaten me verbally many times at work with things that are totally below me, made up of lies and story telling. They are hateful, incredibly aggressive, and like I said, there are a whole bunch of them who are all connected. Do not ever underestimate how many of such gang stalkers are connected, they thrive on hurting good respectable people better than them.

[@Remnant-always]

This is one of the best descriptions of workplace bullying that I have heard. They go as far as not giving you proper training during the orientation/probation period, sabotaging your efforts to get work related information. For example materials that you need to do your job, the bully won't tell you where the item is. One of the first red flags on a job is when you have someone train you who is rude, sabotaging, withholds needed information, gossips to you about other staff, ( because you're next) ignores you when first introduced, and gives you the evil eye. You are so right about inappropriate touching, also anger with you because of your degree, looks, style of dress, and God help you if someone compliments you in front of them. It's so tragic when these boundary crossing and abusive behaviors follow you from job to job. When you begin to withdraw you're blamed for being the difficult one. You are right on so many levels about bullying, and especially the scapegoat description. Thank you a million times over.❤

[@clairehuntonline]

Sounds like you've been through the gamut of workplace bullying behaviors, too. It's all jealousy in the end. What jealousy drive people (who think they are "sane" and "mature") to do is beyond comprehension. If I behaved like any of these people, I would be embarrassed. Yes, withdrawal (at least energetically) is the only possible response. However, if you do that, of course they will fault you for it, too. You have to not only passively allow people to bully you but also ENJOY it. Unbelievable.

[@dm5129]

I have learned that many of them are connected with others who also do not lead positive clean lives. Listen, there are many many that can gang up on someone, very ugly people. In the end stages they will get extremely hateful towards the victim that they terrorize with lies and any kind of projection on earth, they get so hateful they will try to hurt someone physically. All that someone does is to make it clear that bad people will not be accepted to get close. Thats all..... They will terrorize me extremely bad every day, while they cheat and lie, and I am a good person that shakes her head about all the things they do. I do not talk to them about it, but my personal stance is clear when I do not let low lives get close to me privately. They will find more and more people that gang up on you and they are horrificly nasty. You will react to that in a way that you know how to react: you repeatedly stay far far away from them, avoid them at all cost. Then they go out of their way to force themselves into your space and target and bully and lie and terrorize.

[@SingleLifeofGwen]

Lol 😂 revenge of the nerds!! Haha I couldn’t agree more. I get bullied at every job I go to. Workplace bullying is the worst. Women definitely bully way more to me than men. I work in healthcare. Most of the women bully everyone. This is a wonderful video and you are very funny 😆

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you!! I think you are very strong to endure what you are going through. I've heard nightmare stories about healthcare. I worked in education, and it's the same: sick people are attracted to service/helping professions because it's a power trip for them, and they just want to tell other people what to do. I've heard a lot about gender politics when it comes to workplace bullying, and it's definitely a factor, albeit one I don't fully understand. It's absolutely true that I've been bullied by more women than men, but it's also true that men have their own bullying dynamics that we are not privy to. The people who come on my channel come from all walks of life, so workplace bullying truly does not discriminate and hits all across the board.

[@SingleLifeofGwen]

@@clairehuntonline yes I agree. I think I just don't encounter many men in this field. I'm a nurse so it is predominantly women in this industry. I definitely met some male doctors and co-workers that maybe were like that but most of them care about production. Are you able to get the job done attitude, but I can say they enable certain people to bully others without them speaking up. People definitely have power trips over on the healthcare side. It's always a competition of who is smarter than who. I appreciate you for making this video. I just went through this is October with my last job. It is nice to not feel like I'm the only one who has ever experienced this. I hope you continue to make more videos because your content is awesome! 😊

[@999timepass]

@@SingleLifeofGwen The problem exists in every industry. You only realize the magnitude of the problem when you're actively following this topic on KZbin.

[@ivybichon8582]

Oh, my God, you’re telling my story. I work in healthcare as well, and wherever I go, I get bullied. I’m the one that’s always overqualified, quiet, and the only person of color.

[@mosaic.owl.studios]

​@ivybichon8582 I've got depressing news for both of you (OP and replier)--are both of you nurses? I work in healthcare administration, and we've got a big problem in our wing of the facilities, too. And they are also mostly women.

[@ericagilvin1859]

It seems to me that no matter how far you are from these toxic people, the damage they did still hurts. My toughest part in getting away from toxic environments is the triggers I get. I've just had to learn to control the triggers I get. I've learned or tried my best not to react to toxic people. That means I will not give them my emotion, I will get stoic. Only yes or no answers, and simple sentence only when necessary.

[@clairehuntonline]

Workplace bullying truly leaves scars that last a lifetime. I've given up on healing and focus instead on symptom management. What you are describing is "gray rock." The best response is no response. However, if you only act as though you are unaffected but still feel upset internally and ruminate about these people, you are still feeding them energetic narcissistic supply, and they know it. The idea is to the get to the point that you no longer feel anything at all when you think about them. That way, they can no longer feed off your energy and will move on to the next victim.

[@ericagilvin1859]

@@clairehuntonline Yes, I'm learning this. You are definitely right. Some days I just feel like an emotionless tired person trying to keep their energy off of me. And even with pleasant people I feel like I have to keep my day at a level I can keep up with. I'm not sure if that makes sense. But I'm just trying to survive the world we live in when I have to work, and save enough of myself so I can love my loved ones. People sap so much out of each other. I feel drained even when I try to pace myself. It's tough out here for me and a lot of people.

[@danield.6452]

OMG... I haven't EVER felt so identify with a piece of media. You are a blessing! Thank You for your work! ❤️

[@christopherholly1392]

She is the therapy the therapist doesn't provide!

[@montsergirl]

My current boss right now is 100% trying to make me quit. It’s absolutely sick. He is such a “nice” guy people wouldn’t believe me if I even told them. Truly sucks anyone has to deal with these crappy people.

[@thepragmatist]

Sorry you're going through this. They always do stuff under the radar so it makes you seem crazy if you bring it up to others. All the best to you.

[@__berichh5375]

Just dealt with this. It was wild. People just thought he was “difficult”. He’s a menace.

[@Rasheens-Story]

I grew up with a mother like this, everything you said is exactly how my mother is. When she would go off, about her lies and who she is as a person around the house, and kept saying how she loves herself, and how she’s confident and secure in who she is, and I’m just like OK, you don’t need to go around saying that every single day when you see me at home, like who are you trying to convince me, or yourself😂

[@kingwhaleboxing]

I was bullied everyday for several months. But this was three years ago and I still can't let it go. The only thing that I can think about is violence. I just wish i was able to stop it. It was so embarrassing. Thank you Claire

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. Don't be hard on yourself. There are things from decades ago that I have not let go of. Workplace bullying inflicts deep trauma that leaves triggers that last a lifetime. Violence is not an option. It's not that it's wrong. It's just that it's not necessary. Opt instead for a firm belief in karma. There is no way these people can do as much evil in the world as they do and not face some sort of repercussion. I believe that workplace bullies get their karma - even if it takes years. Trust and have faith in the order of the universe. As they say, "Keep calm, and let karma carry on."

[@moodyonroody5313]

@@clairehuntonline i dont believe in karma but i hang onto knowing what's right ... i know im only human but i know i would not treat others like that

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

@@moodyonroody5313 I release my negative energy doing yard work and running on an elliptical. No matter how angry you get, never hit anyone or destroy property (theirs anyways). Unless you want to wind up in jail. I immediately remove myself from people who aggravate me. I hate getting upset and confronting people. It exhausts me.

[@williamanderson8932]

​@@JoesVinylShow1980💯

[@ArcaneThingOfBeauty]

I’m dealing with a narcissistic boss who lets a narcissist coworker get away with murder because my coworker is a member of a protected group, and we work for them. (for fear of being identified I won’t elaborate). I’ve held on long enough and plan on transferring; the people left behind will be the new victims. ✌🏾🤷🏾‍♀️

[@clairehuntonline]

I am sorry to hear about what you're going through but glad you have the option of transferring. Yes, the passive bystanders to workplace bullying will always be targeted next. I hope things get better for you.

[@christopherholly1392]

I worked at an engineering firm (Wonder bread white!) that kept one lesbian on staff so they couldn't be accused of discrimination against gay men.

[@alycewarr5332]

Mine is the co owner of a small business I work at. What’s worse and was unexpected is that I have been treated this way in other companies I’ve worked for, but they were men. I wasn’t expecting the attack by another woman. In every way. Female on female narcissistic really bad.

[@robbiea1482]

PHD worthy analysis as usual from Claire. Having been through the wringer myself, I think it can be summed up with the word 'projection'. I see these bots everywhere now, dumping their baggage on everyone else. I think every industry is run by narcissists. There are organised beat downs and hazing to keep everybody weak and spiritually crippled. I hope everyone reading finds some peace and contentedness :) Best wishes to you Claire

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you!! When I learned about the concept of projection, every word out of the bullies' mouths made sense. Now I take everything they say about me as a projection of how they really feel about themselves. Narcissists are obsessed with superficial, external, earthly power because they have no idea what real power is. Unfortunately, as a result they are also pretty good at manipulating themselves into positions of (false) power. I was just thinking about the concept of hazing the other day. Sometimes, that's exactly what workplace bullying is: you're supposed to "take your lumps" because it's a sort of "rite of passage" that everyone goes through. Meanwhile, it's totally counterproductive and demoralizing and serves absolutely no functional purpose other than to gratify the sadism of sick people. Never let them break your spirit. Best wishes to you, too.

[@robbiea1482]

@@clairehuntonline Thinking further, it could be more than a rite of passage; indoctrination into the company culture. Management staff dump their accumulated shame via abuse onto another person for temporary relief, and also beating that person down into a shell that can be easily controlled. This could explain why office environments are full of these narcissists, as most have been targeted at some point and have unresolved shame. I have also long considered comparisons between office environments and cults / narcissism. Where things get interesting is my hypothesis; some people are naturally low vibration and so don't take much to be indoctrinated and adopt these low level behaviours. They can adjust and become comfortable in these jobs. The chosen ones are naturally high vibration and so are repeatedly targeted for the worst abuses, because we must be brought down a very long way to fit in with the low vibration culture. Like you I am repeating the same situations. It is only after prolonged abuse where I become completely miserable and lose my peace of mind - that suddenly I am told I am a great fit for the organisation and should be promoted. Sending you lots of support!

[@ashleychemise]

I noticed more traffic coming to a 2 part vid I made about how I got work mobbed, which led me to similar vids like yours. This vid stood out! I'm 24 minutes into your video and you are 1000% spot ON! It's as if you read out my toxic workplace story, wow! I hope more people visit this video, because I believe some will avoidheartachee at work. You provide a great wealth of thorough knowledge. Peace and many blessings to you!😊🌟💫✨️

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your kind words, and thank you for watching!! The more voices contribute to this movement, the better. Workplace bullying truly is a pandemic that is destroying the lives of people all over the world. Alexei Navalny said that, if everyone who supports him turns out on the street, there is no way millions of people can be arrested. Everyone needs to speak out about this problem until someone is forced to do something.

[@999timepass]

​@@clairehuntonline Search for Mobbing petition UK.

[@rawfire2711]

Your videos helped me to understand a lot of things, I have been dealing with narcissistic boss and I realize that too late. He is the kind of person who you would not suspect that he is evil he is actually a charming person, he personally helped me with a lot of things. but one day I realized how sick he is, he separated me from the team, he bullied me a lot he spreads rumors about me and I was thinking the whole time that I am the problem or other employees are the problem but turns out he was the one who completely destroyed my self esteem and playing with me psychologically. I can’t explain the amount of damage that he did to me and others, now I am improving my portfolio to find a new job and I will never repeat my mistakes again.

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm happy to help. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. Please know you are not alone. I was bullied for 30 years, wrote over a 100 pages about bullying, and made 60 videos about bullying - and I am still being targeted. I just got out of one of the most abusive environments imaginable with one of the most evil, sadistic, cruel, and mean-spirited narcissistic bosses I have ever encountered. I said I was the authority on narcissistic workplace bullies and that I could spot one from a mile away - but I made all the same mistakes I have always made, did not learn my lesson, and did everything wrong and everything I advise my viewers not to do. So I'm still learning too. Rather than a mentor, I think I am just an ally here to offer support. I, too, have redone my resume and am applying for jobs. I hope, for once, I won't make the same mistakes again, either.

[@dm5129]

When you know who someone really is, many fake who they are, then you can get in trouble. It does not matter if you do not even talk about it. When you know who someone really is, that monster is out to get you with all the force necessary.

[@nainainai2740]

my abusive boss bullies me, a very sensitive young girl, and brags about being the best christian who goes to Church multiple times a week, and so on. she makes me so depressed:(

[@magentarose6659]

@nainainai2740 I'm so sorry you have such a hypocritical boss! Going to church doesn't prove anything! (I can sit in the garage but it doesn't make me a car.) Compassion, love, joy, peace, patience and kindness etc are taught in the bible, so if your boss doesn't show these qualities then you can make a guess that it's head knowledge and not a change of heart. If you do read the bible at all, you'll see that a person's "fruits" can be discerned and that is how you know what their heart is like. I agree with you ​ @clairehuntonline , great advice. I wish it was not necessary for videos like this to be made, but thank God there are people who make them.🌻😊 Sending love to anyone being bullied. You are worth so much more! 😘

[@villalobosregina]

amen sister. Same here ❤I’m sorry you’re going through this

[@Carmen-.-]

A dead and empty vessel who’s soul has been swapped out with a demon… 👺 The most fully detailed, extensive, and precise video on the narcissists nonsense I have ever seen! Woooo! Thank you so much Claire, your knowledge is true power!

[@clairehuntonline]

You're welcome!! Thank you!! Yep: I believe in full-blown, straight-up demonic and Satanic possession because I've literally seen it in people who have abused me. With all the drugs and alcohol they do, they escape their bodies, leaving them open for something unsavory to come in. If you lose your connection to God, you make yourself vulnerable to evil. I wonder if they realize how spiritually weak they are.

[@Carmen-.-]

@@clairehuntonline Amen to these facts! This is the same reprobate stronghold I’ve witnessed in my community, verbatim! May God continue to bless you! The knowledge you are spreading is definitely why the enemy has attacked you so fiercely, God is absolutely using you next level mightily!

[@joycewatt800]

@@clairehuntonline Absolutely! No connection to God leaves you open to evil because there’s no concept of good. The devil can only have free reign when we give it to him.

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

I call these humans the soul-less. I truly believe some humans have souls. Some are nothing more than animals.

[@viviandaviss]

I wonder how these individuals get like this. Were they always this cold and calculated or were they once a good person and just went through lots of trauma that caused them to be heartless. I'm just trying to understand the mindset of these people.

[@danalarose846]

You're right. I'm strong, my bully is weak. First she tried to make me uncomfortable, the war phase was her trying to literally murder me.

[@vivicardona7204]

You are right!! The one instigating and creating a toxic environment spreading rumors/gossip at my work was the girl from HR. She put the entire store against me. When I NEVER had a conversation with her. As you said the basic bee, the catty trashy mean girl. I don't like to call adult woman girls, either. but in this case that's what she was. Very immature and unprofessional!

[@clairehuntonline]

You need to watch my video "HUMAN RESOURCES IS EVIL."

[@dm5129]

Yeah, I know the type, doesn't help when you are just trying to walk out of their way, run literally out of their way, they are evil to the core....

[@NovaPrincess]

Oh, Claire. 59:00 Your story where you describe your symptoms and life outcomes after a lifetime of bullying broke my heart. 😢 If it wasn't for channels like yours many of us would be still stuck in these narcissistic social systems and feeling alone. I am in the process of grieving what was lost from facing narc abuse my entire life, starting from the womb. It hurts to feel that pain, but acknowledging it has helped me process and heal. Grief is a long cyclical process, and some wounds still leave deep scars when healed. I'm wishing you peace, Claire. You didn't deserve to be treated that way. I can tell you are a kind soul. Your videos are so spot on that sometimes they're triggering, particularly in parts where you repeat word for word what narcs have said to me as if you were right there listening in the room. That's how I know this is spiritual because narcissists from all walks of life, nation, or religion speaking different languages, behave in the exact same way as if they get instructions from the same entity. It's eerie, but it reminds me that it wasn't my fault and there was nothing I could have done to not be abused. These narcissistic people are everywhere, and the only way to avoid them outright is to live as a hermit. I just quit my toxic job after 2 yrs working there because of bullying, and although I am celebrating the small victory, I do know that if there at least 10 people at my new job that I interact with regularly, at least 1 could be a narc statistically speaking. Then workplaces cultures and social structures dictate that narcissistic people congregate at the 'top' in certain jobs and drive away all empaths.

[@clairehuntonline]

Hi! Thank you so much for your kind words. My heart goes out to you, too. It's so hard. But you are doing EXACTLY what we should ALL be doing: grieving. You have to feel it to heal it. Let it out, and let it go. If you don't, you start projecting it onto innocent people, and, then, you become what you despise. You are right: narcissism is everywhere, and it's impossible to avoid if you don't want to live like Howard Hughes. Because they are so obsessed with false power, they usually get it. Most systems are inherently narcissistic because they were created by narcissists to encourage, promote, and reward narcissistic traits. Anyone with real empathy will always be the first to be targeted and eliminated.

[@rjformation9038]

I honestly miss pandemic, I hate being back in the office.

[@kemistryishere]

You are so honest about your flaws and reactions to surviving these people. Your commentary is appreciated. I keep to myself but these people keep inticiating interactions to create conflict and the micromanagement is their tool to keep scuritizing me/others to keep petty dialogue. I am not a natural introvert but at work I am generally quiet and do not socialize much luckily I am able to work alone most of the time. You are so right though what you notice is in the 3 years of being bullied is that they drive everyone away and what is left is the narcopath and mostly codependent enablers.

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your kind words. Sounds like you are experiencing baiting. Classic narc move. They thrive on drama and love to pick fights. See my video entitled, "Workplace Bullying Is Negging." Don't take the bait. You know what they say: "never wrestle with a pig ...." We are all forced to be introverts when we are around toxic people all day.

[@rjformation9038]

Exactly, documenting its bs, same as going to your boss or hr to report that behaviour. I did that once and I was gone after two weeks

[@S2Vconsulting]

I have never heard workplace bullying explained so thoroughly, on point, accurately and that equals my own sentiments about the ordeals that Targets experience. I wish I had received this information years ago . It would have saved me so much wasted time, horrible experiences and unnecessary fights with HR over the workplace bullying protocol. You have done a great service by explaining what workplace bullying really is.After years of going through several incidents of workplace harassment.I have decided to move out of the capitalistic United States so that I may find peace.. Thank you so much for doing this I don't think anyone could have explained this better than you !!!

[@clairehuntonline]

You're welcome!! Thank you for your kind words, and thank you for watching. I'm sorry to hear about what you experienced. Good for you for recognizing the need for change and for taking action to do what you know you need to do. Sometimes, the universe needs to nudge us in the right direction toward our dharma.

[@amberleach5501]

wow Claire, you helped me so much...I finally left that job and I'm in a healthy environment....trying to regain my health and financial status...I'm sleeping better and I need to work on not isolating myself.

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm happy to help and so glad to hear things have improved for you. Workplace bullying does a number on our sleeping habits. All forms of abuse are always very isolating. We start to fear abusers and subconsciously withdraw as a self-protective, defensive mechanism. I hope you feel safe reaching out again soon.

[@MysticBlues22]

Thank you Claire. This helps a lot of people feel less alone and understood. I deeply appreciate it.

[@arikecooks0]

I lost my job after so much misery experiences from being bullied by authorities at my work place. I worked in a professional kitchen as a chef and basically everybody in power abused their position and it felt like they were always looking for someone to pick on. It was a really crazy place. I’m trying to move on from all the misery I experienced from the head chef there but I just can’t stop thinking maybe if I wasn’t so weak or if I had fought for myself, or stood my ground or Proven to them that I was tough, I wouldn’t have gotten to where I’m at.

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Workplace bullying is truly everywhere, and I've heard nightmare stories about the hospitality industry and had my own bad experiences in it. The first thing you need to own is that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. IT'S THEIR PROBLEM. You did absolutely nothing wrong and nothing to deserve this, and there's nothing you could have done differently. As I state in my video, the moment you "fight back," these people escalate. They will use any response you have to the bullying against you. It's never about "fighting back" but about paying attention to the red flags and getting your boundaries and your defenses up the minute the alarm bells go off. You did the best, right thing by simply walking away and not giving these people what they want. Never change anything about yourself for a bunch of losers who are not worth it. Stay who you are, and just be glad you are not like them. You do you. I am sure you are a skilled, good worker and will find a healthier environment that will appreciate and value your strength.

[@arikecooks0]

@@clairehuntonline thank you so much for the kind words! I’m finally accepting that it’s not my fault and I’m able to move forward after this.

[@arikecooks0]

@@AT-bq1kg I’m so glad to hear this. The relief that I didn’t become like them and I’m able to be kinder to people who feel bullied

[@arikecooks0]

@@AT-bq1kg thanks for this! I’ll start to incorporate forgiveness to find my inner peace.

[@ernarc23]

Wow...Claire. This understanding of covert narcissism and its manifestation in the workplace is sheer MASTERY. Thank you. I needed this badly. 🌹

[@rief.1376]

You are DEAD on with all of your points! It's like I finally have found someone that UNDERSTANDS and has posted all what I have been saying for years! Keep the videos coming.

[@marygoodman9530]

Control gang stalkers associated with certain individuals. Gossip and rumors. Facts 💯 Thank you

[@elenapirela-strem6572]

I am officially soon going crazy from my job. Such a toxic culture, constantly criticised, observed, micromanaged, and one of my colleagues and my boss says I am the problem because I don’t handle criticism. No one loves to be criticised, but this is not constructive criticism, it’s bullying. Ignoring me, belittling me, looking down upon me. I had enough last week, and when I tried to have an honest constructive conversation with one of my colleagues, she said that I don’t handle criticism and I should be more humble because I’m new (worked there for two years) and she has been there for 13 years. I told her she is not my leader so she has no power over me, and I don’t like this hierarchical thinking. She looks very insecure and she acts like she really mislikes me, and I’ve only ever been super nice to everyone. I even asked her how her child is doing just to be nice, because let’s be honest I don’t care about her or her life. I have to get away as soon as possible. I feel weak and targeted at this place, not encouraged like I should be feeling from coworkers and leaders.

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing that. If you feel you have no support from the leadership, perhaps it is best to leave, but only you can make that decision. Your coworker simply sounds very typically jealous and intimidated by you. You did nothing wrong, and it's not your fault. The best you can do is focus on yourself and do your best to self-regulate internally so the disrespect doesn't affect you so strongly. Being ignored is actually a blessing in disguise: do you really want to interact with any of these people, anyway? Consider their silence a much-needed break.

[@shantitakemoto1058]

I never bullied ppl and wasn’t bullied much in school..I approached people with curiosity, and openness. It took me a long time to even wrap my head around what motivates someone to go out of their way to bully, or even how to do it..I was bullied so much at my current job from start to current..I’ve been called an empath and I feel like I accidentally stepped into a pit of snakes..

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I, too, was bullied for decades simply for being naive. Part of our healing from narcissistic abuse is radical acceptance: take off the rose-colored glasses, and accept the reality that not everyone in the world is like you. Then, it's all about boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. You can not have healthy relationships with dysfunctional people. You can only tolerate them from a distance.

[@shantitakemoto1058]

@@clairehuntonline Thank you Claire, for your response and advice, and for posting this because it really helps me feel not as alone..I’ve often wondered about the spiritual aspect of bullying, because I’m not that religious of a person but it does bring up images of demons, and I find myself using words like “evil” “pit of snakes” etc. when I wasn’t brought up religious and I don’t often use words like that. I found that those who didn’t bully have an energy like the sun, warm and light and comfortable, and the bullies have a wall, or something dark that has a sound like dirty air whistling through a cold, dark chasm lol..I know, kind of dramatic but I had this image pop in my head when I was standing next to one of my coworkers a few years ago! I’m so glad you do touch on this spiritual angle, as not many do. I’m coming to the realization that distance and boundaries are key..and I’m planning my exit from my job..I’ve been there 5 years..continued to stay after the first two bully managers got fired, and left respectively, but I still deal with a few coworkers and also I’ve seen new hires start out nice and turn mean once they’ve been here a few months. It almost seems like there is just a bad energy or dynamic in the place itself. I’m putting me first..thanks again for your awesome breakdown of narcissistic abuse, it really helped.

[@TheMcgaever]

Thankyou for finally calling out the You're to sensitive line , its followed me all my life . As a INFJ Cancer with Pisces rising, you bet your life I am , I can see whats going on! You should write a book , you speak so well, and the truth , the world needs to hear it xxxx

[@clairehuntonline]

You're welcome, and thank you!! I'm an INFJ triple Pisces, myself. Been told I'm "too sensitive" by everyone my whole life. Yes, as empaths we see right through all the nonsense to the TRUTH of the situation, and that's exactly why we're bullied: it's a dangerous power that is very threatening to a lot of people. I did write a book: my essay on workplace bullying is 117 pages long. Links to it are in the video notes.

[@sopherls9762]

I need to write a further comment because you puzzle me with how many insights you have. This is simultanously spooky and healing because you describe the bullies behaviour so extremely accurately. E.g. when you said bullies have no boundaries: She physically turned another person around in order for that person to stand in the exact way she wanted them to stand in a congress booth, while I was watching and thought to myself "whoa, she can't do that, that's inappropriate" . And the psychological rapist bit is exactly why I am at war with her. She isn't my direct boss but higher management and therefore hierarchically above me. In one of our first encounters I clearly told her "no I would not do something for her" because it was not my job unless my actual supervisor would want me to do it and I was able to delegate my actual work to someone else and she hasn't been able to deal with this. She just showed her real face as a two-faced, reputation destroying, lying twat. and keeps on gossiping and bad mouthing me behind my back. I have a checklist for bullying, which my government (in Austria) provides and basically she is using every bullying technique on this checklist except for sexual harassment. Thankfully I have one of the best direct managers, also a woman, who deflects all that shit and protects me and believes me 1000%.

[@clairehuntonline]

Psychological rapists refuse to take "no" for an answer. She went on the warpath because you put up a boundary with her, and that's the dynamic I mentioned in this video and others. She is a toddler throwing a temper tantrum because she didn't get what she wanted from you. She tried to give you a task - not because she wanted it done - but only because she wanted to have power and control over you. Trying to delegate tasks outside of the hierarchy of responsibility is a classic workplace bullying move - one of the oldest tricks in the book. Good for you for standing up to her! Someone has to until she learns she can't always get what she wants. If your boss supports you, you're golden.

[@Naturallynatural3]

Dealing with one of these disordered people in my current job. The only reason she doesn’t turn up the heat is because she knows that HR won’t back her, so she remains passive aggressive and gossipy.

[@MelanieYanklowski]

Thanks so much, Sudhir, that is sweet of you to say. Still praying for a safe place. Life is too short to be bullied!

[@scot60]

I had a female Lieutenant (I work for a Sheriff’s Office) and this woman never stopped bullying me the entirety of her being my supervisor. She gaslighted me, she denigrated me, she was a total narcissist. She is universally disliked at the S.O. and it has held her back. She made sure she never put anything in writing, it was always verbal.

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your public service, and thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry you had to go through that. That's why I say documenting doesn't work: workplace bullies are not stupid enough to put anything in writing, so there's nothing to document. And, yes, these people's behavior ultimately does cause problems for them all across the board.

[@scot60]

@@clairehuntonline thank you Claire. I have a strong faith and I’ve seen much sowing and reaping. I leave the paybacks to God.

[@NostalgiaVibes420]

I really appreciate you on breaking down this horrible behavior from people in the workplace. I went through this and it was no fun! So glad I didn’t stay. I’m still choosing to watch these kinds of videos since it’s addictive and informative. Please continue to spread your knowledge and wisdom on this topic. You are helping many others 💕💯

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your kind words, and thank you for watching. I'm sorry to hear about what you went through but happy that you found a healthier environment. We should all be so lucky. Unfortunately, for so many the nightmare just never seems to end no matter where they go. More workplaces than not are toxic.

[@michellescalia2142]

Thank you Claire for your bravery, honesty and directness.

[@haha-pr6bw]

You've put what I've been experiencing into words perfectly. Thank you. It's been so difficult to understand what I've been witnessing, feeling, and experiencing. When I would bring it up or try talking about it, I would be dismissed as being "too sensitive", or "cynical" but I'm starting to believe that it's an emotional literacy thing in the case of the enablers I've been opening up to. Thank you so much for making this content. It's so clear and easy to understand and captures everything I've been trying to put into words.

[@clairehuntonline]

You're welcome. Happy to help. Unfortunately, when we experience narcissistic abuse of any kind, we learn who our real friends are. Understand that, if someone can not respond empathetically, that is because that person is already full of their own unprocessed, unhealed pain and trauma. They haven't dealt with their own stuff and resent yours. There are people out there who can understand and empathize. Finding them is just a matter of trial and error.

[@haha-pr6bw]

@@clairehuntonline I totally agree. I used to give enabling people a pass because I could see that their intentions weren't bad and that they were just desperately trying to see the good in others, but it's getting hard to trust people who contribute to your own self-doubt and enable your mistreatment, even if they don't mean it. Kind of a sad realization when those were what you thought were your only safe spaces. My boss is surprisingly one of the most empathetic and patient people I have ever met, sometimes to the point of excusing toxic people's bad behavior especially when it is as subtle as the gossip, snide remarks, and passive aggressiveness that often constitutes workplace bullying. Unfortunately their inability and unwillingness to see the evil for what it is is part of the reason one of my coworkers was hazed into quitting and nothing is being done about it. I feel me and one other new employee is next and I fear bringing it up again will just make me look paranoid or like I'm making shit up, especially when one of the "bullies" plays a really big role in the company and firing them on the basis of "being mean spirited" would be a big risk financially. Planning to greyrock and plan my exit strategy with the long term goal of being self employed. Thankfully I have a lot of experience with the subtleties of narcissistic abuse thanks to my family of origin. I hope staying true to myself will naturally attract like-minded & like-spirited people into my life in this phase of letting go of those that no longer resonate. Wishing freedom & abundance to all of us who have had to suffer this b.s. ❤️‍🔥

[@PepperstoneGB]

*Excellent 👌👍 video. This channel is an asset. It gives me flashbacks of my own employment tenure.*

[@gypsylake5164]

This woman has given much time and effort and clarity to a problem that is insufferable. I relate in that this hollowing out of my life. I put exhausting effort and sacrifice to achieve my goals and aspirations only to decimated by a being that has absolute impunity. It turned the whole world inside out but it has given me greater insight to see the larger picture the problems going on in the world and that there are solutions and why the problems will never be resolved because these abusers are invested in keeping the problems and securing the stranglehold over a job, over others, the community, the organization, the state, the nation, and the world. The wars in Ukraine and Palestine are wholly unnecessary, a waste of life and much needed resources. There is no big secret to it, it all boils down to mutual regard and respect, that is all it takes, not billions of dollars, nor ship loads of weapons, bullets, bombs, missiles, helicopters, jets, rocket launchers, useless metal junk. Mutual regard and respect, eye to eye and hand to hand promising each other's mutual regard and health and wellbeing. Hopefully there will be heros and heroines who will speak up for the underdog and dispose of hypocrisy. It takes good people to turn this world around and cease nursing abusers and solve the problem of birthing, raising, educating, and find a special place in society for these less than human monsters. It begins with teaching at home and then in formal education the value and moral character of responsibility. Every aspect of society must infuse every part of daily life with responsibility then the problems of society and ultimately the world can then be examined and worked on to resolve. It at the line; responsibility or evisceration. One earth, one world, one life, many people, many cultures, one responsibility, mutual regard and respect is everyone's responsibility. The time is late the people must choose.

[@clairehuntonline]

Very beautifully put. Thank you for your articulate and inspiring contribution. Indeed, workplace bullying as a form of narcissistic abuse is really just a symptom of a problem that is endemic throughout the world. It's the demon of human ego that prioritizes personal gain over the greater good. Empty and insecure people would rather fill the void within with an insatiable lust and greed for power than do the inner work and cultivate positive qualities inside of themselves in order to feel personally empowered. There is something about parenting: parents should be taught to raise secure children. Above all I think the problem is spiritual.

[@marieferrer3516]

Love this talk. I needed it 7 years ago, but it's still good to hear now.

[@christinamorales6887]

My boss was a bully and you described his narcissistic self. It’s a form of scapegoating abuse too.

[@kevindunn1588]

I've heard about people having narcissist supervisors, i worked with a narcissist coworker who lied to me about being my supervisor so he could control me but the idiot didn't think I would check with the people who were my boss's who obviously all told me he wasn't. I also had to endure all the other pathetic insecure crap all narcissists dish out, deceit, lies, triangulation, manipulation, isolation, intimidation, rage fits etc. Ended up leaving the job just to protect my mental health. Hopefully if I do have to endure another one of these narcissist bullies i will be able to see the red flags which i didn't see then.

[@clairehuntonline]

Same. That's a pretty classic narc move: claims to false power. They want to be everyone's boss when they really are the boss of none. They get so mad when you expose their lies. Yes, unfortunately, sometimes, we have to learn the hard way to spot the red flags. Now you know.

[@h.nicolejorgensen2077]

Yep! So true. Just left my current job due to narcissistic bullying boss. I was subject to bullying, gaslighting, constant harassment Things I noticed. They are usually cowards hiding behind big threats and intimidation But if they want to do anything it is through HR or by starting a smear campaign against you. They love to bait you and push buttons to make you squirm. Just like the kid pushed down on the playground, they will use public shaming, insults and intimidation in front of coworkers. They will leave you out of the important meetings and conversations so you don’t know what is current or going on. They will neglect to tell you of assignments or training modules coming due. They will gaslight you when you ask them why they are acting this way and tell you that you are imagining things and act insulted. They ignore you but acknowledge others sitting next to you. They are super competitive and if you don’t make the team look favorable for them and they get called out by their boss, then you are in BIG trouble. Nothing you do will ever be good enough in the end, even if you have done many good things in the past. Once they make up their mind you are a threat, you better start looking for something else. They will stop at nothing to see you quit on your own or are fired for something stupid and menial that makes no sense. 😢😢 Only thing to do is to get out. If you can’t leave yet, then document EVERYTHING - the what and when, and avoid them at all costs. Going to HR seldom helps unless there is verbal, sexual harassment or physical assault. But maybe with enough information they can look into the situation? This has just been my personal experience so far. I hope others have not had the misfortune to experience this with their boss.

[@clairehuntonline]

I can relate, and so can millions of people. I actually recommend NEVER going to HR, and I have a video on that. I was forced to deal with HR when I was sexually harassed, and I was gaslit within an inch of my life and forced out. Also, documenting does not work, and I've stated that in several videos, including this one. The isolation and the ignoring that you experienced is the workplace bullying technique of "snubbing," and I have a video on that. Not giving you information is the workplace bullying technique of "withholding," and I have a video on that, too. And, yes, all narcissists are heavily victimized, living in victim consciousness. The minute you confront them, they go into victim mode, and - poof! - you're the problem.

[@4fsake2024]

Excellent video, Claire. The only thing I see differently is the writing things down. In my last toxic work place, I just quit 2 weeks ago, writing things down in a clinical, non-judgmental way helped me see the gaslighting. I was constantly second guessing myself about my reaction to things. However, after a month of writing down events, I could see that I wasn't crazy. As an INTJ female, I can ignore quite a lot of emotional crap, but it will eat at me and may take me a while to see the damage. I eventually started asking trusted co-workers if I was seeing things correctly and they enthusiastically agreed. 4 of us (out of a department of 10) quit within one week, made it clear that we would no longer tolerate the bully, but since the boss was sleeping with her...

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you!! Good to hear. You are not the first viewer to tell me that writing things down helps to stay sane. I myself have started journaling just a wee bit and find it very nourishing for my soul. Rarely can you take any of those notes to anyone in a position of authority because they will always dismiss them as "he said, she said." But, when you do it just for yourself, it's a wonderful tool to save you from internalizing the abuse, which we all do but is quite literally the worst thing you can do.

[@wafflesmcgrawl]

I really appreciate youi coming out and speaking up on this issue. I am 36 and have been working in construction and landscape for the last several years of my life and really appreciate hearing solid words on this. I have been doing a lot of research over the years and am tyring to figure out how to handle all of this. Part of me is i just hinking to leave hte country. I know it can be challenging to make the decision to come out and speak on tough issues and try to find the words to say and stuff so I just want to let you know I greatly appreciate the work you have put into this

[@wafflesmcgrawl]

also, I can tell you have really done your research, and again, thank you

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your kind words, and thank you for watching. Yes, workplace bullying occurs in all industries all over the world. If your soul feels called to emigrate, maybe heeding that intuitive nudge will usher in some much-needed change in your life. At the very least, you can say you did it!! I hope things turn around for you.

[@tragedienne1]

This is GOLD, as always! Thank you, Claire! ❤

[@cann9155]

THIS is the video I was looking for. ♥I knew it in my spirit. I have seen it all b4. Found this video & you said it out aloud. Thx for having the boldness of the almighty That's the ONLY way you could speak such truth.🙏

[@MelanieYanklowski]

Thanks so much, Claire. I agree completely. I am definitely working hard on myself right now and the experience of getting fired is very motivating. I know part of it is inner child, codependent and approval addict. I am going to be a better person due to my inner work. I hope to build a string spiritual foundation. I used to feel that I was on a thin thread about to break and please don’t blow on it or it will break. But now, even though difficult at times, I try to stay in the mind set that I am on an anchor because I am relying on God and my hope in Him and the is my strength. Hope is my anchor.

[@clairehuntonline]

Very beautifully put. Thank you for sharing. I lost my job recently and have found the experience transformative. It's a real opportunity to work on yourself. I still struggle with all the same issues. I see a lot in me that I don't like, but - because I'm not a narc - I have enough of a solid foundation to view those things as opportunities for growth, not fractured parts of myself to project at other people. Childhood trauma leaves these holes in our being that even we may not be aware of until they are triggered. I am not sure it's possible to ever really "heal" completely. It's just a learning and growth process, and I enjoy the journey.

[@OK-wb1dy]

This is an original view of workplace bullying and explores the source of the problem

[@tanafaithrenay1111]

I have a coworker at my job who micromanages me. Meaning, he watches almost every move I make and he is good friends with the assistant principal. She doesn't do this to me. But he does. Then he reported me to her a couple of months ago for being 5 mins late to lunch and made a big deal out of it. Could this be a sign of workplace bullying or not? Can you please give me some advice on what you think could be happening in this situations. It's very weird and frustrating at times. And I've been trying to set clear boundaries with him. He also acts like me and him are cool one moment, then the next feels like he is monitoring me. I know he mentioned wanting to be assistant principal someday also.

[@clairehuntonline]

Yes, it's bullying. It's actually a workplace bullying technique that I call "stalking," and I have a video on it. It looks a lot like the movie "Single White Female." These people track and monitor your every move, eavesdrop on everything you say, copy your clothes and hair, steal your ideas, and even start following you outside of work, up to and including driving past your place of residence. It's happened to me many times, and it's deeply disturbing. They say "imitation is the highest form of flattery," but it doesn't feel like it. These people are not "just trying to get to know you." They are trying to get your number, identify your Achilles' heel, so they can find your weakest vulnerability to exploit and take advantage of in order to attack and hurt you. And they are grasping at straws. These people are digging pretty deep. They will make mountains out of molehills. Five minutes late from lunch? Please. They will exaggerate even the slightest mistake: it's all they can find, so they're just going to take the ball and run with it. This person obviously views you as a threat to his ambition (even if you have no interest in competing with him), and there is NOTHING you can do to change his mind. I would completely give up on trying to be "cool" with him and keep him at arm's length by going gray rock and maintaining the firmest boundaries possible with him. Avoid him at all costs. Focus on nurturing your relationships with your supervisors, the people who matter, as a source of protection. As long as you are in the good graces of management, there's nothing he can do to you.

[@tanafaithrenay1111]

@@clairehuntonline thank you so much for taking the time out to reply to me. You're the best. Everything you said is spot on. I do have positive relationships with my supervisors. So I will ensure I set firm boundaries with him and keep my distance. I will also check out your video about stalking.

[@marvelhunter44]

Im a supervisor and my subordinate is doing just what she’s saying to me he trying bully me out of my job .

[@OK-wb1dy]

Workplace bullying happens behind closed doors, until there’s a paper trail. But that paper trail exposes only a portion of what happened.

[@bendietrees]

You are so talented. I can tell you're a writer. You are so intelligent and the way you speak makes it so easy to understand! I also appreciate your graphic and vivid descriptions of these creatures 😂

[@MelanieYanklowski]

I think that introverts get misunderstood and discriminated against. And things that don’t even concern the work become a reason that you are fired like not being able to kiss the higher ups you know what and do the narc ingratiating thing. Plus, being phony charming and fitting into cliques. My ex boss even raise her voice to me and said she expected her employees to be “friends” with everyone. She even said being respectful and professional was not enough. I don’t know how she can get away with that. It seems wrong to me. A job should be a job not a cult or fun arcade. Anyway, if it is illegal to discriminate because of genetic information, is not being an introvert genetic. Does that apply?

[@clairehuntonline]

Wow, she said the quiet part out loud. Yes, we all want the work to be just about the work. Unfortunately, it never is. It's all about granting narcissists their supply. These people are picking and poking and prodding at your boundaries not because they care about you or want to be "friends" but because they want to get their hooks in to secure you as a source of supply. They want you to give of yourself to them while they give you nothing in return because they are empty. If you put up boundaries and don't let vampires feed off your energy, you inflict narcissistic injury and provoke this "how dare you" narcissistic rage. I'm not a psychologist, but I'm not sure introversion is genetic because of the whole nature/nurture thing. Even if you are not an introvert, you don't want to engage with these people because their energy is sick and disgusting. I hope you can find a way to do your best to lock your spiritual and energetic shields in place and refuse to grant these people any supply - even when you are interacting with them. I know it feels "fake," but they don't deserve your energy.

[@jennifervallari2674]

Thank you, Claire. I’m so sorry it has been so awful for you. I can relate directly to the devastation. I’ve encountered workplace bullies who seemed to want to ruin my life. Ruining the job for me wouldn’t be enough.

[@clairehuntonline]

You're welcome. Thank you for your kind words. You are exactly right: they want you completely destroyed. I've often called them "soul-eaters." They want your soul as dead as theirs. They are not satisfied with anything less. That's why they always come back to stalk you after they eliminate you. If you get knocked down and pick yourself back up, they are mad because they didn't get what they wanted. Spoiled, entitled toddlers.

[@dm5129]

Yes, that is what the hateful ones do. They want to completely ruin your life, force their unwanted presence into your way and hurt you.

[@ekmickley]

Workplace bullies are either in a position where the power dynamic can be exploited by the bully, the bully is a friend to the boss(es) or is very good at their job/invaluable..Management will gladly turn a blind eye if the bully is really good at the job..They do not care about workplace decency, if the bully keeps the trains running, nothing else matters.

[@clairehuntonline]

Dr. Ramani calls that the "golden goose" that no one wants to kill. It works both ways. Some workplace bullies are legit terrible. They have to bully. That's the only way they can keep their positions or advance themselves. But some of them are competent. I wouldn't say they shine because they have no inner light. But, as you wrote, they keep the trains running. And, yes, they ALL ingratiate themselves to the higherups (sometimes, even with sexual favors) to get a free pass for their appalling behavior. It's like paying tribute to the mafia.

[@ElleSeven-l3q]

I think, hope and pray that things blow up for you - in the best possible way.🎉.Thank you for being so open and sharing your rather unique, and refreshing, insights❤

[@__berichh5375]

Yeah it felt like I was dealing with children in a playground. It was absurd

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

Thank you for this, Claire. Masterful and informative.

[@rjformation9038]

Guys am struggling with one at work who is extremely rude to me and he's doing anything to undermine me. He turned other coworkers into "flying monkeys" despite the fact hes a newbie whilst other peers are experienced "professionals". Whats the best way to deal with this? I feel like im not going to win this and the best way to react is just to walk away from this.

[@clairehuntonline]

Sorry to hear about what you're going through. If you have the luxury of walking out, leave. If you need your job, keep your job, and focus on personal agency. What can you do - mentally, psychologically, and emotionally - so that it doesn't affect you as much? The first step is radical acceptance: recognize exactly what you are dealing with. These people are not normal, and you can not engage with them normally. It's not about "lowered expectations." It's "no expectations." You're not dealing with a normal, rational adult. It's a three-year-old toddler throwing a temper tantrum. It helps to be as emotionally disengaged as possible while you are inside the workplace, and, when you are home, cleanse and practice as much self-care as possible to restore your vibration.

[@rjformation9038]

​@@clairehuntonline Thank you so much! Your help means a lot to me; your video found me in the right time. I can't thank you enough. Today, after a rough yesterday, I was on the verge of giving up. However, watching your videos empowered me to deal with their nonsense, and your situational jokes made me even laugh - they're so relatable! xD It seems like I attract narcissists like a magnet. Despite trying to be low-key, nice and respectful, it never seems to work. I think they sense my resistance to their intense love bombing, and they take offense when I set boundaries. I've been at my job for a few months, and I genuinely love it, but the stress caused by dealing with them is not worth it. It leaves me feeling incredibly stressed out and restless to the point where I suffer from insomnia and breathing issues. I've experienced narcissistic abuse before, but since I decided to strengthen my relationship with God, it feels like I'm attracting even more vicious ones now and their attacks are more savage than before. Anyways, I'm hoping to find a new job quickly so I can leave this toxic place. Once again I'm grateful for your help and support through your content and comments. x

[@chaseemerson3367]

Ahhh I'm so glad I found this video. There's a weight that's been on my chest/shoulders for so long and it feels like it's being lifted as I listen to your words. I'm not happy that you've experienced this, but I am so fucking glad I'm not the only one. I felt so alone going through this at my last job. My coworkers would go as far as to FOLLOW me outside of work on my DAYS OFF. Absolutely batshit insane. This was about 2 years ago and i am still having a hard time going back to work anywhere. I'm so not ready to deal with another situation like that. i literally just want to make a living.

[@clairehuntonline]

Hi, thank you for your kind words, and I'm sorry for what you experienced. That's the workplace bullying technique of "stalking," and I have a video on that. They obsess about you because they don't want to focus on themselves. They're also doing "oppo research," trying to get some dirt on you because they can't believe anyone could ever be that good. We all just want to work in order to earn money without having to deal with all the drama. Unfortunately, workplaces are run by people who actually believe that the drama IS the work.

[@chaseemerson3367]

@@clairehuntonline it's funny because right after I commented this you mentioned it in another video. Also, you are funny as hell. I ended up binge watching/listening to some of your other videos while I went about my day, and you are very captivating to listen to. IDK about anyone else, but I'd be interested to hear what you have to say about other topics or opinions in general! Had me cracking up with your quips and (deserved) insults😂

[@dm5129]

Oh gosh yes, they threaten me wherever I go, years and years, strangers that I do not want to know.

[@sofbebe1]

Omg Claire, we are so similar.. we are not alone. We both have 25+ yrs of work experience and both 47! You are so courageous for making these videos… i can’t thank you enough. I’ve isolated myself from the outside world since leaving my last narcissistic work situation. I have chronic insomnia and diminished physical energy and loss of appetite. It’s been a year since unemployment and i can feel myself healing slowly but have a long way to go. I’m trying to rebuild financially and my happiness to find enjoyment in life again. With my last employer, i fought back and stood up for myself and others eventually was fired (wrongfully) because i spoke up and urged my boss to do the right thing. I was the head of operations overseeing HR and multiple other departments. My career is ruined, I filed suit. The termination letter was preposterous. I was never written up and with glowing reviews. The smear campaign character assassination began. The blame-shifting Gaslighting… scapegoating… yes all of it. I’m in shock still the company i help build and establish from its infancy the narcissistic owner is a total sociopath. Cruel, insecure, emotionally inept, perpetually defensive, easily slighted, severely envious, attention-seeking, superficial, empty soul. I was hired by the son of the original owners who called himself “CEO” but did not have any work experience professionally. He looked to me to run the companies, i worked hard was a high-performer and had a great team of associates. Conflict began with my narc boss when I disagreed with him on two separate occasions regarding work ethic and professionalism with two male employees who were harassing female employees. Both of these men had multiple previous write-ups including PIPs so they were on grounds for immediate termination. The CEO son didn’t agree with me. As HR, i proposed the terminations. He blocked it and FIRED me. Misogyny at its best. I will survive, you will survive too Claire. You’re a great person and our conscious are clear. ❤

[@clairehuntonline]

Just turned 48. I've had sleep problems since puberty, and I have to force myself to eat. Last year, my insomnia was so bad I began taking medication, which I am trying to wean myself off of because the side effects were disastrous, and my psychiatrist is a gaslighter. The universe is very clearly showing me that the answers are not outside myself. I have been in the deepest depression of my life since quitting my job six months ago, also isolating and pushing everyone away. I hope my underemployment doesn't last a year! I know I should not be surprised at this point, but I am still disturbed by what happened to you. I am sure misogyny was a factor. (Women can be misogynists, too.) All I can say is that I hope you don't internalize it. Absolutely none of it was your fault. I hope you can reclaim your power, your strength, and your purpose, and find a way to shine your light into the world again.

[@sofbebe1]

@@clairehuntonline Happy belated Birthday to you! You don’t look a day over 35 :) I am trying CBD CBN with very minimal thc for sleep it helps immensely and don’t feel groggy in the morning. I tried Ambien years ago but it made me sleep walk to my car get in and drive i crashed onto a center divider. No one was hurt. Thank God. It was the scariest experience never again. Anyway, try gummies for sleep it might help during this time. I think many people are mildy depressed esp in this economy. Your videos are definitely helping me! I sent your channel to a friend who is dealing with a narc former husband. When we help others, we help ourselves. With my last work, my former boss has many internal demons so I definitely know it’s not me but i still blame myself for trusting and not seeing the signs early on. I still want to believe that most people are good. Thank you for your kind words! 😊

[@andersdottir1111]

I hope you finally find a peaceful job where you are left alone to get along with the job Claire, you deserve it after all you’ve been through. Businesses have been a monumental failure as far as employing quality employees; it’s as if they deliberately set about filling their floors with dross and we are expected to ‘play’ nicely with them! No, that’s not going to happen. I live close to the poverty line rather than work, it’s a choice I have made as I’m tired of sub-standard employees, I’d rather be on my own at home and poor.

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your kind words. I respect your choices. Sometimes, some people choose just not to participate in the capitalistic "game." I lived in poverty for 30 years. We can make it work. It's doable. I always prefer my isolation to dealing with bullies.

[@christopherholly1392]

"a peaceful job where you are left alone"-- what's that? Overnite security guard? LOL!

[@JoesVinylShow1980]

Remember when unions were more powerful many decades ago? When workers weren't treated well, they all went on strike and crippled the company. They could actually afford to do that.

[@stella6516]

You are my new hero.

[@lovelydoll1477]

KZbin deleted my comment but I originally asked if you heard of Pearson? They’re an education company and have some remote jobs. They popped up on my feed and i thought of you for some reason. I’m praying you can find a job from home because of 30 years of the bullshit you went through you deserve to work from home.

[@clairehuntonline]

That's weird that KZbin deleted your comment. Maybe it sounded like an ad. I love Pearson, and their materials are the only ones I will use. (Kaplan is horrible and riddled with mistakes.) I don't think they're hiring, though. I've been unemployed for nine months and have given up hope. I refuse to be physically inside a workplace. I would rather die.

[@catherinebow3994]

I've just seen this video and am blown away. It is so informative on so many levels. You have amazing insight and I am sure this has helped so many. Truly amazing.

[@lishpix7247]

I have 19 mins to go and I cannot wait to watch it again! I’m working on myself. My favorite place is on the floor in the corner. I’d like to think I will want to buy a couch one day

[@allme985]

Heal your father wound and break the soul ties to people that hurt you in the past / let go of pain ( it attracts them) - get deliverance ( find you tube videos) ❤

[@theunicornandthefairy8849]

I think you already have more than enough material for a book which people would buy. That could help your finances. You’re helping so many people. Much love to you. You didn’t deserve any of this.

[@clairehuntonline]

Thanks!! I kind of already did write a book. It is my essay, available for free on my website. Links are in every video's notes and on my channel's "About" page. I really just started this as a form of "volunteering." If I make money at it, the haters will say I'm "only in it for the money." I can already hear the gaslighting. It paralyzes me from doing anything. But I will think about it ....

[@theunicornandthefairy8849]

@@clairehuntonline I’m going to read your essay. You have the right to help us AND make money but must of course do what is for you. TikTok would be a great place to promote your book if you decide to sell it. You have impacted people in a positive way regardless. I’m very grateful. I’m so sad to see what you have been through. It’s pure evil. Definitely a spiritual attack. You’ve made me smile, feel understood and know what happened was real and not in my mind. Jealousy is such a force it blows my mind. You are valued and appreciated and such a good soul.

[@__berichh5375]

My boss needed me to leave by waging war and then oddly enough: faked sadness and bs for the visibility on the last day

[@hangonaminute]

Every. Single. Word. Is. Truth.

[@theimperfectscrapper5313]

This entire video is like my personal life story! I’m so gob-smacked!

[@tramelparker2085]

This was the most in-depth healing spiritual perspective on work place bullying- the narcissist. Thank you ❤👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@tawnytirado143]

I was bullied by 2 BEST FRIENDS. One started 3 years after me and made my life a living hell. One was my” friend” and she back stabbed me too. One is even into witch craft and threatened me with that as well. I’ve contacted a lawyer! She was even forwarding emails that I accidentally cc wrong person out of 20 on email. Crazy!!

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm sorry to hear that. I do have a video on narcissistic abuse in friendships. It sucks because we make ourselves emotionally vulnerable to our friends, and we trust them. It is a betrayal like no other. If someone is actually verbalizing threats of black magic out loud, that person has no power. People who are actually powerful do not talk about it openly. Sounds like those "friends" were secretly just jealous of you. You are well rid of them.

[@tawnytirado143]

@@clairehuntonline amen 🙏 to everything you said! Spot on. Blessing for sure

[@joeycooper6223]

I feel exactly like you. I need my job. Your so right !!

[@westcoast747]

Victim blaming culture definitely, they (HR and Management) don’t do anything either. Workplace bullying is soul destroying.

[@lagoldie9783]

Thank you for clearing that up about what empath means.

[@MelanieYanklowski]

I thought my friends understood that I was bullied. My friend who I am not so sure is a friend, did reference form for me and scored me as “average” for getting along with others .It really triggered me. Even who I thought was my support blame me. I get along fine with others. She also marked me as “average” under initiative because there was a problem with my training at the job I lost. It was because my abuser literally refused to train me. It was sink or swim. Anyway, it really hurt that she did that and hurt my chance to get the job I am after. I have been trying to heal for weeks and doing better. Now I feel broken hearted and hopeless again. I feel bullied all over again.

[@clairehuntonline]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. That "friend" was seriously gaslighting you. When we experience narcissistic abuse, we figure out who our real friends are. Very few people understand this stuff - and it's because they haven't been through it themselves. Sometimes, it's time to take out the trash and get rid of dead wood. Sometimes, family members and "friends" actually do not really wish us well, no matter what false face they present to us. They are secretly jealous, and jealousy is an incurable disease. It's always better to be alone than to expose ourselves and make ourselves vulnerable to people who are beneath us and not good for us. I've been gaslighted and called every name in the book, too. It's all too easy to fall into despair. I truly believe that experiences like these are forcing us to stand firmly on our own two feet - without any external dependencies. Always remember: you are bullied only for your good qualities. If you truly were a dark, ugly, nasty, mean-spirited, and low-level piece of crap, everybody would leave you alone because you would be just like them. I hope that is understandable.

[@maureenw7553]

I recently saw a video where you talked about 2 sides to the coin and perpetual victimhood. It's amazing. I wrote a whole book on it. The flagrant use of this word is maddening to those of us who've been through it. Word salad yes

[@clairehuntonline]

Yes, because I don't foresee that we are going to get any laws anytime soon, in the interim all we have is ourselves. The only thing we can do is take a look at what we might be bringing to the table and how we might be willingly participating because we might be getting something out of it.

[@nancydrew2213]

Thank you for this. You are helping so many people. Which in the end is all that matters. ♥

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Thank u for speaking on this.. I'm just about crying. Bc it was very serious and its sad how lightly its taken

[@AA10785]

Your videos are therapy and empowerment god bless you with love happiness and abundance

[@hertrueself7177]

O....and I happens in team or zoom meetings too, working from home, It doesn't bother me because I was in a relationship with a true bully and abuser. So these women were easy to laugh at. It got to the point where I had to shut my trainer down when she targeted me.

[@clairehuntonline]

Yes, workplace bullying definitely extends remotely, too. I agree that it is less hurtful than sitting physically in the same room with it for nine hours a day. Yes, the abuse does get so bad that we become conditioned to it, and, sometimes, our only option is to laugh at it. Good for you for shutting a bully down! I've never been able to pull that off.

[@JaneyJJJ]

I'm so scared to return to the workforce... How do you protect yourself 🙏

[@tsunamifox]

All I have to say is Wow!! Thank you so much for this video. You have literally describe in so much detail about workplace bullying that it’s unreal. You even warned me about my future in my current company. You are a literal earth angel. I have never been so captivated by an hour+ video like I have been by this one. Thanks. May God/Source/Universe bless you more and more everyday.

[@clairehuntonline]

Sorry for my late reply. I don't know how I missed this comment. My comments have been disappearing, and I have been deleting some. Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope everything has been going well for you. God bless you, too!!

[@tsunamifox]

@@clairehuntonline I actually recently resigned. I caught them red handed doing something against me and reported them but only excuses were made for them.

[@lrockbr]

How can we cleanse ourselves from a narcissist bully's uninvited touch?

[@kaahoots]

I wish i could find a work from home. Im 50 and have been the target of covert workplace bullying. It is now that my supervisor is critiquing my work in front of everyone. Im now angry at everyone. This is a low paying production position. Most people have been at this job for over 15 years and no formal education. I come in and am an instant target. Thank you so much for your videos ❤ I have ended up with the same self sabotaging behaviors. I wish you well❤

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you. I wish you well, too. Just turned 49 myself, and all I want to do is work from home, too. I'm sorry to hear about what you're dealing with. Your coworkers may be targeting you as a form of "hazing," like you have to prove yourself and "show 'em what you're made of" to be accepted. Or you're just different from them because you're new.

[@CremeBrulee543]

So much wisdom thank you

[@coreyanderson7424]

Absolutely agree with everything you said here. Many true statements here, and although we can document, the things they do must be observed directly and repeatedly in order for someone to understand the harassment. Otherwise yeah, it's like trying to list a passive aggressive person's behaviors. Good luck explaining that in words on paper, without sounding like you're potentially part of the issue or overreacting. Of course it's hard to get the message across. These people don't slap you in the face. They hit targets under the radar, so to speak. Yes, it's terrible advice we targets get, isn't it? Nice to hear someone else say it! Yes,the bullies get a rush off it, which sometimes is easily observable. Disgusting we don't have laws against abuse in workplaces. I understand the challenges, sure, but it's definitely within our grasp to address it but clearly priorities are elsewhere. We as a nation will pay the price, and to an extent, we already are paying. And yes, I also will be sick if I have to listen to anymore of the same old advice that WON'T work, because it never did work, and especially to "just be the bigger person and be positive..." rhetoric. I call that, "This person doesn't know how to maneuver workplace bullying,..." Thanks for a good rundown on this common workplace issue that affects millions of people. Shalom.

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you. I do have a separate video about the possibility of workplace bullying law. One of the reasons I have this channel is to correct what I consider to be erroneous and, quite frankly, dangerous advice for targets of workplace bullying. It's not that I don't like to do research. It's just that, when it comes to workplace bullying, there is no research to be done. People who don't really understand workplace bullying will tell you to document, go to H.R., and don't forget to do things that make you feel good, like journaling. Superficial solutions do not work for chronic, repetitive deep trauma. That is what my channel is for, so I understand my message is not for everybody.

[@kiskakuznetsova503]

I always love your videos and everything you say is true, true, true and valid, valid, valid. I would love to learn more about your spiritual practice which you have referenced in other videos. Finally, I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through. And yes, they are to be pitied. It’s a miserable, empty existence. I think Bram Stokers Dracula was based on intimately knowing a psychopath.

[@clairehuntonline]

Thank you for your kind words. I subscribe to alternative spirituality. I believe in a feminine goddess. I like to do full moon and new moon magick with candles, crystals, incense, and essential oils. I like to work with Archangel Michael and the Goddess Hecate (I can't help it; I have Black Moon Lilith at zero degrees of Pisces). I pray daily for protection and try to cleanse often. I believe spirituality is in nature. And, yes, I agree that vampires were based on narcissists, who will never know true peace or joy in this lifetime.

[@lincmerc1581]

The chapter about the director of the mental institution in the book, "The Sociopath Next Door" was my director. This book described her perfectly. All the way down to the BMW she drove with a personalized license plate that read, "ZGRL". You have so perfectly described my work situation that it gave me chill bumps. I retired after 30 years of this abuse. She was forced to retire by the board and retired exactly one year to the day after I did.

[@clairehuntonline]

I've heard nightmare stories about health care and, yes, even mental health. It is unthinkable that the profession responsible for the care of some of the most vulnerable members of society attracts so many sociopaths. They are sadists who enter the field precisely because they want to prey on those who are weak and defenseless. My first therapist was a functioning psychopath who was pathologically jealous of me AND sexually attracted to me. She broke the law multiple times in her treatment of me. And I've run into many "wounded healers" since then. Sounds like you were a catalyst for a much-needed change. You might want to check out my video entitled, "Sometimes, Workplace Bullies Are Not Your Karma. You Are Karma for Them."

[@lincmerc1581]

@@clairehuntonline Years ago, I was seeing my regular physician for bronchitis and walking pnemonia. My director had a nasty habit of calling my physician to ask questions about my treatment and to convince them that I was a hypochondriac. So, on this occasion" my physician had written a prescription and a work excuse for 5 days off work with bed rest. (so I wouldn't end up in the hospital) I told my doctor and his receptionist to expect a call from my employer. And, when that happened I wanted it documented and to be notified. Upon my return to work 5 days later, my desk phone rang. It was my doctor's office. Sure enough she had called and wanted to know why my excuse was for 5 days. They had told her over the phone they were not legally allowed to answer her questions due to HIPPA law and in doing so would be in direct violation of that law. They put together a folder of events as they occurred for me. I added my own documentation that included updated HIPPA law amendment from our city manager's office. I then made copies and called a meeting in her office that include herself, the assistant director, my supervisor and myself. She condescendly asked (as if her time was being wasted) "what's this about?" I told her it had come to my attention from various sources, including physicians themselves, that she personally had been calling them to obtain intel about my medical records. I adked her why she did that. She said she could not read the signature and wad double checking to make sure I had not forged the physician's signature. I told her that legally, she was supposed to take that at face value. Next, I asked her how she was planning to use illegally obtained medical information against me. At this point, the veins in her neck were bulging. After a brief time of hearing her stammer useless bullshit, I handed everyone at the table a folder with updated HIPPA law. She asked where this came from? I told her it came directly from the city manager's office and that he was surprised she had not received hers, because he sent her one. I told her she should have not only already received it, but she should have memorized it as well. I told her this shit stops here and now. I said if you do not hand a folder to the board, I will. I will give you 3 weeks to handle it. I told her my attorney said that was plenty of time. Back on the elevator, the assistant director was shaking. She said, "you were fanguckingtastic!" I was drained and ready for retaliation. It did come. In small swells. Eventually, the board had had enough of her crap. She was forced into retirement.