World Leading Therapist: 3 Simple Steps To Remove Your Negative Thoughts: Marisa Peer | E154

This episode is part of our USA series, over the coming weeks you will get to see some incredible conversations with guests the likes of which we’ve never seen before. Bringing more value, more incredible stories, and more world-beating expertise.
Marissa Peer is a world-leading therapist who specialises in helping people discover their best self, who doubles as a speaker, therapy trainer, and multiple best-selling author of You Are Enough, Tell Yourself a Better Lie and Ultimate Confidence.
Topics:
0:00 Intro
01:33 Your early years
08:18 Your teachers & techniques
10:58 Stories are what cause us problems
21:36 People living in ignorant bliss
25:09 The Increase in mental health issues
26:28 People putting themselves down
30:50 How do you default to optimism
34:08 Rewiring your thoughts
41:05 Using words to change your actions
43:23 Heartbreak cases
48:00 Mistakes parents make
50:55 Come with a question rather than judgement
54:15 Taking responsibility
59:25 I know who I want to be but I still go against it
01:06:33 Your triple A process
01:11:19 The last guest question
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Marisa Peer’s take on the mind is fascinating! Hit like, subscribe & get notifications on for more amazing conversations like this 🙌🏽

[@inayatkanji7450]

Wow... I watch every episode... never thought you would get my mentor on! Just qualified last week as a Rapid transformational therapist from Marisa's school / academy ..... funny how the universe works! Great work mate.... looking forward to this one! Commenting before watching I'm so excited 😊

[@joschgfilms3237]

@@inayatkanji7450 no way, congratulations 🎉 and good luck!

[@inayatkanji7450]

@@joschgfilms3237 much appreciated 🙏🏽

[@Genesis-xm5tu]

@Inayat Kanji All The best on your journey. Congratulations!🎇🎆

[@dombut1906]

The 5W What where when why who add empathy = a diary of a CEO podcast. please could you go though paul canoville book black and blue. I really think he deserves an podcast with you thank you 🕉

[@bhiveliveglobal]

1 minute in is all you need to watch, however, I recommend the rest. "Don't give the job of making you happy to someone else, it's your job!!!!" POWERFUL

[@nousernamewhatsoever]

I really don't get this idea. It's inevitable that the people closest to you will influence your mood and energy. It's not a question of whose job is it, eventually we are bound to be affected by other people.

[@Genesis-xm5tu]

@BHiveLive I had to timestamps that part...✨

[@bhiveliveglobal]

@@nousernamewhatsoever You are right of coarse and this will always be the case. I believe the thinking is that if it happens in a negative way on a daily basis and is making you unhappy you have the choice to change it, hard though it may be. Rule of 5 - you become the average of the 5 people you are closest to.

[@chelseasharp6152]

Literally! This sentence alone is life changing for me.

[@kylawood1601]

@@nousernamewhatsoever It is possible, with intention, to rise above the energetic effects of other people’s beliefs, opinions and emotions - however close in to us they are, by claiming ownership of one’s own life. It is a discipline to follow to honour our own truth, which is our essential self, free from the effects of others dominance. There is much joy and fulfilment to be found in living a life where we each vow to be true to ourselves. Then we have a real gift to give to the world and to those around us.

[@4Asti]

Marissa is soooo good. She helped me heal my stage 4 cancer with her teachings. It’s been 8 years (actually every July is another year) so 9. To be clear here too.

[@Mia15239]

How pls share

[@maggietumulty8915]

Please share!

[@4Asti]

I follow what she said to do; cancer wasn’t mine, my body heals itself, comedy no news or negative social media - visualize your health. Visually see your divinity Exercise No sugar Make your own bread if you live in USA. Vitamins Minerals Living water

[@vicx05]

@@Mia15239 listen to her teachings, even this video. I'm oversimplifying but it's your perception of yourself, the words you use to describe how you feel, and most importantly allowing yourself to feel all emotions (good and bad) fully and acknowledging them. All illnesses are a result of repressed emotions that we hold onto, if we merely feel our negativity we can see it for what it is, then in that state we can reframe how we see them, most of which were other people's beliefs/programming (especially from parents during childhood). It takes a lot of self introspection and constant awareness, it takes work and it is painful, but it does work if you're willing to.

[@kris2455]

Emotions can affect our immune system and the placebo effect is known but to go so far and claim that you can give yourself cancer because of bad childhood is just insane

[@maryallisonmusic615]

I love her energy. So calm, collected, and wise. A fantastic teacher.

[@bicgohill8756]

The red bonnet has to go lol.

[@rainbowgirljules]

@@bicgohill8756 Anybody can wear whatever they wish to wear.

[@Crunch_dGH]

Marisa (or any competent therapist) should contact Isaacson about adding an addendum to his Musk bio, before it’s published. Would be interesting! So many motivations to unravel.

[@seganlojas]

As anyone who knows Bandler and Erickson knows, 100% of 'her' ideas & techniques aren't remotely hers. But she seems highly competent at applying them. She COULD be honest, though. Great person to interview nonetheless.

[@alexiscolby9415]

@@bicgohill8756looks more like a hat but yes I agree with you…86 the object on her head.

[@AmandaE329]

Imagine what a beautiful place the world would be if we could all have parents as emotionally intelligent and kind as Marisa Peer.

[@mhiadollxx8888]

Wonderful

[@yuliaschannel6288]

What people are on outside for others is not necessarily they are the same in the family. Her kids are probably have complains and problems because she is too busy with her career and other people.

[@wWoWw1]

@@yuliaschannel6288 like Leonard in The Bigbang theory 😅

[@Lily-uv9uu]

@@yuliaschannel6288 no she probably made different mistakes than her father. Kids want parents to have interests besides their kids and for them to have their own lives and not live for their kids only

[@yuliaschannel6288]

@@Lily-uv9uu so you don’t have kids but giving advices. Kids want all the attention they can get till they are teenagers then they want some space, and if you have 2-3 kids it is at least 20 years of putting them first, all other interests are secondary if you want your kids to grow up mentally healthy people, who was loved and properly cared for.

[@TheOriginalRasheedat]

This makes me want to cry. I can so relate. Who would I be without my grandparents. Now I mother, adopt and teach children because maybe I can be that one person. I have fostered around 100 children and I have been able to keep 11. I have 13 children and am a grandmother now all through adoption. ❤

[@anitapaul230]

How wonderful. You probably have lots of energy. I wld have loved this

[@gardenlover9663]

Your life sounds so meaningful.

[@liztowers2058]

Oh wow!!!!( That's commitment. I don't know how u did it but ....holy cow that's amazing . I have friends that can't even handle their one kid. Lol

[@iheartjbgccb]

I think I would like this but can you explain more about your experience? ❤️

[@lorimiller4301]

I'm doing the same thing, it's just with cats instead of kids. I must have at least 50 on microchip and have spayed/neutered around a hundred. I feed the birds and squirrels too just to be fair, lol.

[@feyiodesola1983]

This is such a beautiful episode. Her eloquence, demeanor and simple language allow me to understand that genuine fulfilment in one self can be possible. Dealing with your insecurities, fear and trauma can all be done, you just need to have the courage to do so. Literally loved it!

[@svetlana7904]

Sooooo true

[@ebazileyes1475]

Agreed with everything you said. Couldn't have said it better myself. cheers!

[@HansenFT]

She does look and speak like a perfect example of aging gracefully

[@miapax1962]

How did she help?

[@rubylane9862]

Totally agreed with everything she said.

[@happinessyogateacher]

All you need is ONE PERSON to believe on you, and that’s all you need! That one person can be you, but you and one person make two and two are absolutely unstoppable!

[@TheNothingEverything]

When I worked nights I used to listen to Marisa all night. She literally changed my life and I cannot thank her enough. This woman is an absolute game changer!

[@silvertrees6326]

Absolutely agree with you. I listened to a lot of Marisa’s contributions. I refuse to say work because it’s so life changing.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

@@silvertrees6326 what do you say instead of “work”???

[@StellaChilinharova]

For me too the “one person” is Marisa ☺️

[@TheNothingEverything]

@@StellaChilinharova brene brown too!

[@seganlojas]

As anyone who knows Bandler and Erickson knows, 100% of 'her' ideas & techniques aren't remotely hers. But she seems highly competent at applying them. She COULD be honest, though. Great person to interview nonetheless.

[@jh230377]

Currently reading Marissa Peer’s - Tell yourself a better lie. Loving it 👍

[@JohnDavy1]

thank you I am so glad you are enjoying it xx

[@lorimiller4301]

Everything You Know is a Lie by Lloyd Pye.

[@sisqui1950]

LOL, how could you not ? ... ! 👠

[@adrianwhitfield6656]

The resonation I felt with this episode is so strong. The continued self sabotage, drinking heavily as an excuse not to approach the girl I liked when I was younger. Keeping myself closed off to prevent myself getting hurt, not trying for the big promotion or showing my artistic work to prevent rejection. Going have to unbox this one.

I wish you every success in becoming free of it xx

[@svetlana7904]

Go boy, world is yours and enjoy, be bold, be happy

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you, still a work in progress at 62. 💗🇨🇦

[@agnesfrancois5550]

Me too work in progress at age 69! These podcasts are very helpfu! Thank you

[@sunnygirl9691]

It’s ok if people tell you “no”.

[@heidimariemarney]

Ahhhhh as soon as I saw her face this morning on Instagram I had to immediately listen. Her therapy completely changed my life. I had a session in lockdown to heal some childhood wounds and it seriously transformed my life. So so grateful for Marisa and to you Steven ❤️

[@NIKUK84]

Same! It was one hell of a rollercoaster but it helped so much.

[@dans9218]

how did you go about organising that?

[@heidimariemarney]

@ aw thank you for responding. You’re a really amazing person and I am so grateful my life changed for the better because of your work. What an incredible gift to the world ❤️

[@jamiefloyd5737]

How did you get a session with her?

[@froufou100]

Heidi Marie Marney, as another person asked you here, I would really like to know how to have a session with Marisa Peer, there is nothing on her website so am confused how to organise that and would very much appreciate a pointer?

[@jeffmate1]

Did you notice the bare feet. It was such a relaxed conversation. I love it. A lifetime of experience was condensed into 1 hour.

[@babytheresalight6699]

WOW I just realized how I got out of depression and into a higher vibration before, when I was feeling really good for the first time since I was little I would tell others and myself "the chances of surviving depression and staying better are so low, the chances of someone going from living in depression to living infinitely in alignment are even lower that's why I have to stay focused and live from my heart" I saw myself as one of the only people capable of doing it so I did it! I was super happy for months, I could feel vibration all over my body and it felt amazing, I felt like I found a part of myself I didn't know I was missing, then I got lazy and I got off track and eventually back into depression. I've been back in depression for 4 years now, I keep asking myself why is it so hard for me to get back in alignment, when will I have a breakthrough, now I remember the feeling of knowing how to get myself better! I am a woman who has always been meant to overcome depression and live a magical life, I know I am!

[@joannpeura3429]

Your story sounds just the same as mine, though I was feeling centered, empowered and loving life for just 2 months and got disonnected 9 months ago. It was such a great time since I've been battling depression and low selfesteem most of my life, at least 27 years. I wish I can navigate myself back to that empowered and loving state soon, because lately I have been feeling so hopeless :(

[@anitajoshifflett203]

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[@InfiniteIrene]

Yes you are! I claim it with you 💫

[@vickywitton1008]

I hope you find your answer❤

[@luvyanks4ever]

This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it kzbin.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.

[@annaw7437]

Oh My God! This conversation was so rich!! She speaks in such a nonchalant, relaxed way yet EVERY single thing that she says is Gold!! I have a lot of childhood trauma and low self worth and my coping mechanism has always been food. So of course I have been overweight/obese since I was 12ish. So I do understand the mechanism of my actions, where they come from. And still always wondered why do I need to eat eat eat (especially anything that's crunchy! Crisps are my drug, seriously!) when I know it's bad for me, and also understanding the psychology of the coping mechanisms...yet I still do it. I can't stop myself, like I'm in a trance. And then she said one thing in this interview that just blew my mind, that I had NO idea about!! - That there are stress receptors in our jaws, which is why people like to eat, especially things that are crunchy, when they feel stressed or anxious! Oh my god, it makes sense now!! I've lived my entire life with anxiety. I never eat because I'm hungry. I eat because I need the process of eating (chewing, tasting, crunching). Of course... We are so evolved yet so primitive, as humans...

[@torreygreen6794]

What a brilliant explanation. Thank you for your clarity! I have a different struggle but was always curious about food addictions and why people are unable to stop eating. Good luck to you!

[@SmartestDumbGuy]

That's definitely not accurate because otherwise you would simply chew on celery. If you remove processed foods from your diet you will realize that it's very easy not to eat. It's the chemicals that they put in our food that makes it insanely delicious that we get a huge dopamine spike from it. Just like any other drug. You can't find that in nature. So processed food is in essence is a drug. It's an addiction. Dopamine is a pain reliever.

[@TriAngleMassage]

Thank you for sharing this point! I’m currently watching for the first time and haven’t gotten there yet. What you said is completely relatable (appreciate your vulnerability here) and you just made me look at this from a different perspective! ❤

[@lorimiller4301]

Why don't you try ice or bubblegum ? Really work out your jawbone. I used to bite out of anger, it's a natural feeling. I wonder if there's someone in your past you'd like to bite ?!! Best wishes for your recovery. Eat slowly and drink a lot of water. It will help.

[@joannemark2053]

Yesss exactly my thoughts, bullseye 🎯

[@ktrump5882]

Hands down, one of THE BEST Guest's that you ever had on this Channel. Complete integrity and genius Thank you. Blessings

[@beccalove7133]

I’ve never looked back since I discovered Marisa peer, something about her just connects with me, almost like the healthy mother figure I never had. She’s incredible and her words imprint on your brain.

[@edwinromilly4645]

Interesting ‘Podcast’ I’m sometimes little bit unconvinced with some therapists ,as some are too full of equations and theories but She was enlightening.As i see it- The first key is to be where you are. Don’t wish away your whole day today waiting for better ones ahead. Just be present. You've come a long way to get here, and you're still learning and growing. Find value in the lessons. Take them and make the best of things right now. 2. Remember that it’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than it is to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.!! Once you begin to value your inner peace over your need to hold on, engage, react, or be right, you will in fact begin to feel more centered and whole (and in control). Truly, learning to let go of certain things and detach from certain people's behavior, are two of the great paths to inner peace. And yet we collectively tend to hold on tight! peace🕊

[@beemanc4968]

This should be top comment, perfectly summarised.

[@mphozamahloko8742]

Edwin Romilly, thank you.

[@joannemark2053]

Thank u

[@stopwars8642]

Her voice alone is healing and calming, your own pictures and thoughts creates your story

[@alinarehman405]

The way you feel about everything, everything is down to two things: the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.

[@NerriPangoCrochet]

I loved how Marisa ended up without shoes in the end of the talk… 🥰 she is iconic!!

[@thecat2415]

Wow! This is a story of my life. I didn't even realize my parents were toxic until this year and I'm 30 years old. They wanted a boy, I wasn't neat as my sister (I am neat, but not millitary neat). I had to clean entire house (vacuuming, dusting, mopping, dish washing and other things from age of 4). There often were actions with belt for both me and my sister because we laugh or run at home. They regulary said they will send me away to retarded school because I left T-shirt on chair at my room. They said they hope I never will get a husband. Mother always gossips about me even until this day and says only bad things. Parents said I should never study Psychology, because only weirdos do that. So I went to study Art which also was bad and they said I would never get a job. My grandmother was the best person I have ever known, she always said that I'm good and I really miss her. I had the best first boyfriend when I started University, he loved me and I loved him so much, but I was young and my mother always said to my relatives and her friends that that boy is ugly and shy, and poor, and doesn't suit me. And it always stayed in my mind, because it was important to me what my parents think. So time went by and after 5 years we broke up. We stayed friends, but now he's gone forever. He died. After we broke up my mom said that don't understand why I broke up, I don't know what I want and it was sooo confusing, because I broke up to avoid constant badnouthing about my life and decisions. Time passed and I started relationships with another boy who lied and cheated me. I felt like no one is there for me. No one. It took years to get out of that toxicity, but it was possible only because I moved to live abroad and distanced myself. Now I have to listen bad stories about other family members and relatives. So it is a never ending story. But at least I can see positive things in the World at times when I don't have to speak with my parents. I believe that I am where I am because of lack of confidence and support, but I will heal myself and I will believe in myself by listening to inspiring and positive peopke who overcame their struggles.

[@PopaFlorinn]

I understand, you deserve better! Much love ! Im here if you need to talk!

[@corrinaamato8805]

So much u said i can completely relate to. My sister and I both only until we were also in our early 30s , realized our mom was also toxic. I am 41 now and she is living with me. I cant stand it. Although , I own my own home I am in a position that the little extra financial help is needed and my car broke, she has a vehicle so it helps but omg i get where u come from. My mom always gossipped abt my sister and me she had us when she was very young and honestly didn't know what she was doing .. She slandered people into believing we were horrible children. Our parents divorce was hard on us but no adult ever asked how we were doing. Instead we got yelled at by other adult family members for being "so mean" 2 our mother. Smh. I have a daughter and I could NEVER imagine talking so badly about her .... she is the apple of my eye. My daughter is 19yrs old we dont always see eye to eye but i NEVER talk about her negatively to other people. If anything, i put her on a pedastal so i can't understand my mom ever doing that to us. She is always gossiping about other family members too. She changed her side on how she feels about someone and then will change the whole narrative about them if they're not getting along. Same as far as being in my personal relationships. She hated my daughters father (some reasons were legit) and would get into our business so much, telling me for YEARS i should leave him... then when i finally did, she became friendly with him and even got him a job.. Yes, talk about confusing. She is so confusing

[@mgregory22]

I like how she explains why words and thoughts matter, and how they fit into the causal chain that becomes our behavior.

[@TrevorBingley]

This whole interview was so therapeutic. I can tell she's a creme de la creme therapist

[@DianeZeisler]

17:51 Thought Blueprint... 23:17 Detective Work... 39:53 Subtlety of Words... 1:05:01 Words & Pictures...

[@nyxsun]

Thank 💚🙏

[@niralishah1]

Marisa peer is so empathetic and I got the feeling of her talking with her cat and drinking wine and just talking about the most profound concepts! I'll for sure read the book.

[@ked7426]

Loved her style, why does therapy have to be long, and complicated, exactly, bring on the quick, and concise. 🤗❤️👏

[@houras8332]

You Marisa are much better than any psychiatrist, I have listened to this podcast few times and every time I have learned something new , thank you Steve for being a good listener and bring this podcast for us 🙏

[@Lo-to7zh]

But psychiatrists don’t know the brain 😅

[@rukhsanahk4867]

One of the best podcasts. The way she communicates is incredible and so clear. She doesn't talk about money, or being successful like the other guests. She talks about being human and understanding ourselves, re-wiring our code. Really stunning and the most important podcast (as well as Mo Gawdat). Will definitely buy her book! So nice that Steven let her talk, it's nice to hear from the guests on the podcast rather than the same relationship issues, or family problems of Steven.

[@fat7636]

20 minutes in, I've paused the video to face my deepest limiting money beliefs right away, now I write this and will continue to watch the episode afterward, but.. wow! Now it all makes sense, why I'm not having more money!! I've always had "enough to survive" but I've never had more to get a standard that truly excites me.. and why? because I've learned and saw as a child: when I have more money people will take advantage of that + me! I will stay dependent on others and especially on my family and guess what; my biggest value that drives me is independence! sooo it's no surprise at all that I didn't want to have more money because I didn't want to stay bonded to my family because I knew: they will all come to me to ask for it, and that's why I've never had a good relationship with any other family member, only with my younger brother - who was through the eyes of my system, not the problem. All others haven't had enough money and were sick all the time (there is surely even a connection to my eating disorder). And holy f* I've proved myself these beliefs so many times, especially as a teen in any kind of relationship. There are even more deep realizations but I think it's enough to say THANK YOU to both of you!! .. seeing these dots and connections, OMG I'm literally blown away. I finally have one of THE keys to unlocking my business success.. even more than that: to open up a whole new life! 😭🧡now I've some headaches. I'm going to let these things sink in & I will do all of my steps from now with a lot more confidence to build the life I (!) want for myself!

[@sugarfury]

This is so lovely, I am going to read your comment again as I can relate. Thank you so much for sharing. This has given me a lot to think bout.

[@fat7636]

@@sugarfury I'm glad it can help! i could talk more about it if you need some more insights - it just doesn't have to be in the comments section here xD

[@therailpubthirstyyet126]

I love how my mind could not listen to this interview at first. The cadence and tone ality I resisted. I wasn’t feeling. I continued to work on my journey and then one day I came back to this interview and soaked it all in in its entirety and got every bit of gold out of it. I can’t wait to listen again! Thank you! Your interviews are leveling up big time!! Congratulations!!🎉

[@estherhealth4465]

Can I like this episode a hundred times over?? Most relatable, healing, insightful one hour conversation I've ever listened to. Cannot recommend it enough! Thank you both 🙏

[@joannamuyoti2621]

What a calm, assured wise lady. What a therapy session! Thanks!

[@alexandraannable5964]

Thank you Steven for highlighting the amazing work Marisa does and the power of RTT. I’m about ti graduate from her school and can honestly say that studying with Marisa has been one of the healthiest, kindest and enlightening things I could have ever done for myself.

I am so delighted to know that thank you

[@curiousme113]

What's it cost

[@Polina-hn7hu]

@@curiousme113 last time i looked it was around 1200 pounds

[@almaeno3618]

Hands down one of the best interviews for me. I’m now a huge fan of Marisa Peer can’t wait to read her book

[@temioni79]

As a therapist, I found this conversation so soothing and fascinating. Marisa's voice is so relaxing! Awesome content. ✨

[@charlottearena]

Sorry I disagree about her voice.

[@lorimiller4301]

I kinda like it too. It's easy to understand. Relaxing tone. I love listening to Esther Hicks when she channels Abraham. Very soothing vibe.

[@ruthvictoriarjaster753]

It is only her “voice “ 😢

[@ruthvictoriarjaster753]

Esther Hicks is a smart

[@spice8831]

The quality of your guests resonates your direction to continuously provide your subscribers high quality content, thank you both.

[@ktrump5882]

This is by far, my most FAVOURITE Episode of ALL the Experts that you host on your Show Stephen. Gabor Maté is a very close 2nd. I love the concepts within Rapid Transformation and how they help me to transform my life. Marissa you are a true Gem to humanity. Blessings.

[@eleniglinia2798]

You give me courage to go on!

[@Shaara1]

That's true. You only need 1 person to love you or believe you. That gives you wings.

[@ceoa]

Rephrasing how to relate YOUR feelings or how your RESPONDING to someone else's feelings is really the gem in this conversation, to me. Loved the phrase 'Being Flawsome' 🤗

[@sisqui1950]

I do hear you 😊 I am ‘perfectly flawed’ was my ‘go to’, in a moment it has changed to FLAWSOME ! 💐

[@smar4433]

When she said you don't have to believe it, just saying it is enough, that sunk in. The road from one belief to the opposite can be a looooong one

[@joanhebert73]

This is a wonderful interview with a woman who showed so much depth of understanding and kindness. Beautiful putting this out in the world. Wishing everyone hope and healing. Thankyou Marisa Peer. 🙏

[@ligimamillijohnstone4562]

Kia Ora korua, Amazing! Her three step methodology in understanding is exactly the same analogy when gardening. Weed out, turn the foundation and plant the seed. Then water to begin growth…She is constantly in reflective mode, which positions her as a learner, regardless of who stands before her. Beautiful mind, beautiful soul, pure heart and loving empathetic person❤

[@Ruby-kr6fh]

I like that she provided a very simple approach to mastering your mind. I do think the point of practice and repetition can't be stressed enough. The work is SIMPLE but not easy.

[@erindistel]

Steven this interview was completely enlightening delightful & engaging. I’ve listened to Marisa before on other interviews but this one flowed superiorly.. your interviewing skills & her immense insights and talents have made this one of the best podcasts I’ve listened to. Thank you!!❤Erin from NJ

[@pete8808]

"...flowed superiorly.." 😁😎👍

[@FARAFINA221972]

Brilliant, profound, insightful, informative, helpful, simple, down-to -earth and li-be-ra-ting!!! Thanks to 'The diary of a CEO ' host who invited this wonderful therapist and whose questions were really down to earth!!

[@silkysmoothsound]

Of all of the guests you have had that I’ve had the privilege of listening to- this is my favorite guest ❤

[@alexanderbeck7953]

Great podcast. Such an incredible woman with so much knowledge and a soothing relaxing voice. Love her hat too, awesome.

[@tiriri221]

What style and poise this woman has. A pleasure to listen to

[@hauwabashir5972]

She’s completely right, I’ve had self defeating thoughts paining on my confidence for a while, when I identified that I thought I could try separating the ‘Shadow’- visualizing my bad ego so I could have an objective strength; and arguing with it whenever I had a negative judgement about myself But then after a while, left alone to my thoughts, I realized my anxiety and overthinking stemmed from not trying to make myself look like a fool, and to be liked by people, those thoughts although very self defeating were also trying to protect me but just ended up being a danger alarm that keeps beeping at all times and turned into a poison

[@amandasawyer4784]

Wow. That was very powerful & resonated with me so much. So many light bulbs went on for me. I feel like I’ve just had the best therapy session ever. This sort of material really should be part of the schools curriculum. Huge thanks to you both ❤

[@feelgoodastrology]

OMG I had a special grandmother too Marissa. You can't underestimate the power of the love of a grandmother. paying this forward to my kids and look forward to one day being that grandmother! great interview. Thank you x

[@nazmasaleem4053]

Listening to this as a therapist is amazing, resonated with a lot of client work. I love the sense of calm, experience and insights. Thanks Steven.

[@helenstefanovski934]

I love Marisa, i love her positivity and the way she empowers people. Also her voice is so gentle and soothing, so good to listen too ❤️💜

[@maocharlisme]

18:00 I'm also chronically late and lately I've actually been getting the insight about myself that I always had to go out into the world without question anyway and do and participate and adapt, regardless if there was still a lot amiss for me or not that I actually needed to be fixed or dealt with first. Both my parents have always thought punctuality very important aswell so it was always this continuous issue aswell that I was always late and I started to feel increasingly that my value was just being measured by my ability to be on time, timely (fast enough to keep up with the world), doing and finishing homework and assignments in time and also chores around the house for example, things like that which are essentially superficial to me. A bit later in life I was also pressured a lot to keep up family contacts (again with the always having to be timely and on time thing which I basically never managed), while my parents seperated when I was was 2 y.o. and upholding this chaotic ideal of co-parenting with me being expected to fit in everywhere with everyone, at all times at the behest of all the adults in my life so that alienated me from most and at the worst times all members of my family even more in those dark and trying times. So over the course of my adolescense I started talking less and less to anyone basically and especially less to my parents, essentially trying to just tough it out through the shit because I knew I was going to be misunderstood and unheard anyway.

[@svetlana7904]

Time to change, life is in front of you, just embrace it, forget about the past:)))

[@paulasandhu7086]

I also make silly mistakes, try hard not to.

[@lizreed4284]

I love Marisa Peer she is by far one of the most advanced therapist and shes so much more! Anytime you have a chance to hear her talk listen!

[@esc91]

she's really incredible describing her method - detective work and then the change.

[@lamamasworld5155]

Thank you Steven for bringing THIS guest!🙏🏽 What a gift! I’ve been intrigued with Marrisa’s work for a while and really wanted to hear her talk for longer.. the knowledge so gracefully expressed, really appreciate it. Love Paulina xx

[@brim5675]

I have very very low self esteem, and I am very capable and willing to admit my mistakes. My behaviour, my reactions and talk it through with the person I wronged. It's the only thing I disagree with. This talk is so helpful. Thankyou

[@peacenholiness6855]

🧘‍♂️🙏☯️

[@Katie-kp6cf]

Same, my low self esteem usually leads to me OVERapologising and being overly critical of myself even when I sometimes deep down think I didn't do anything wrong

[@FromPeloToYourHeart]

​@@Katie-kp6cfI can relate 😢

[@FromPeloToYourHeart]

❤❤❤

[@dianeaperehama5835]

Marisa how amazing you are, how simple it is to make a person change an idea {or thought} into healing oneself, using three steps, to change any negative thought, feeling, or action into awareness. This simple method can be used by all people from the entire world.

[@restymacalisang]

20 mins in, and I'm blown AWAY by how she thinks. I never considered asking an alcoholic "What's good about drinking alcohol?" but that question is very good it always leads you to emotional answers. OMG, she's a genius and I want to be like her!!!!

[@claudinavivo7416]

People who express their feelings and who express the as HONEST as they can follow me on this ARE THE HEALTHIEST KIND OF PEOPLE. She is wright. This is gold. Thank you again.

[@NerriPangoCrochet]

I accidently hit tipped this video and while was looking for the button to go back to the previous video I was watching, I just got captivated.. that is obviously not the accident. I had see this!! Thanks so much! 🙏🤗

[@kayburnett36]

Marisa Peer is so wonderful! Her slow speaking and clear words drive home the thought-provoking points that's had a huge impact on my life. How wonderful to be a person like this!

[@mjrotondi5086]

I think Marissa created who she is through pain and experience.

[@poppylove3673]

Love Marisas vulnerability, she is fascinating and knows her stuff!

[@charlessentongo9423]

Watching this teared me up, this lady is amazing

thank you so much xx

[@soulthriver-oz6470]

So is Teal Swan. Try her too. She's a genius imo.

[@bluebellbeatnik4945]

@@soulthriver-oz6470 uh... has she stopped performing for men? she had some interesting points a few years back but then just kept saying things men wanted to hear.

[@melissasmuse]

Wow can you imagine if she could spread her message to all schools?

[@shawnafletcher6543]

So many golden nuggets of wisdom packed into this interview. I had to watch this over the course of three days to make sure I didn't miss anything. The Spice Girl reference was the cherry on the cake. Thank you for posting!

[@CJ-ft9yo]

I had a lot of reasons to think “it’s all on me” , in early childhood but the thought “‘do i have to listen to this” is what i felt about hearing my dad rant. I just thought it was all him not me. i learnt very young that you just can’t win with some people either way, that it’s not your fault you trigger them. Even being told “you were a mistake”, made me think “well wasn’t my mistake”!

[@Simon1985_]

Marissa Peer is incredible. So many things she said has hit so hard that it has really helped changed my perception of things, even if it’s only temporary. I take all I can get at this moment and it was such a beautiful relief (even if it’s only whist I’m watching this) that she is truly a fantastic credit to her profession. Alcohol has been an expanding, detrimental part of my life for so long and just hearing her calmly explain it in her pleasing voice, reinforces just how much I have been self-deprecating and how much I need to change my thoughts.

[@joschgfilms3237]

Yet another great episode Steven 👏, the guests you get are always so articulate. I applied for an editing role at Steven Barlett LTD for this reason exactly, to be involved in inspiring work that ultimately is therapy to a degree for some viewers. I didn’t get the job obviously, but I’m continually motivated by these speakers and their stories. Moral of the story is: instead of giving up after you get refused, rather bounce back stronger and with a restiance to giving up as you can only improve. I will be back :) ……

[@marjoriematieriene3028]

Og

[@nicolenavarro6819]

Stay motivated

[@annabellesapphire]

Wow Marisa, you've excelled yourself with this interview, the guy also did such a great job, letting you speak, prompting gently and sharing his own thoughts. Thoughroughly enjoyed this, I always learn something which helps me and others on my journey, I practice reiki with animals and folk. The spiritual and logical, practical can work so well together. Thank you for being here at this time we can heal and become better souls Blessings to all

[@spanglishfantastico]

I split up with a lovely guy, who was never right for me though, four years ago. He moved out of my house and as I was redecorating the room we used to share, I discovered Marissa Peer on KZbin, and listened to her for hours. It started a journey of personal growth that brought me to today. Today, at the age of 50, I realised that I can view myself as a feminine and attractive woman. I can find a man to be a partner in a relationship we both want and enjoy. I went out to work knowing I wanted to work through this realisation some more, then lo and behold! When I got home from work and opened KZbin I am presented with this wonderful conversation, with this wonderful woman. Thank you. I am going to have an early night. I want to relish digesting this in a quiet room… I just wanted to say a big thank you first 🙏 THANK YOU!

[@kellyrichardson9562]

In the gym, headphones in! Absolutely love Marissa Peer and cannot wait to watch this!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

🙌🏽 let me know your thoughts Kelly

[@kellyrichardson9562]

This info is GOLD! Imagine if we could get what Marissa is teaching, in to every school in the world? @@TheDiaryOfACEO fantastic episode Steven! Just ordered the audiobook and super excited to listen.

[@Damngoodchicken_]

That’s my mode. Working out the mind while working out the body sheeeeesh

[@bluebellbeatnik4945]

This is actually a really good idea. I need to distract myself in the gym. Firstly, I must join a gym.

[@itzvince7379]

Literally discovered the channel the other day and I know I’ve learnt so much in such a shidr space of time. In my opinion one of the best podcasts out there

thank you that is so lovely to know

[@kvirkar]

Such a great conversation ! Feels good to see these conversations going on . To everyone working on themselves right now, just want to let you know that you got this! stay consistent , pray and be kind and everything else will follow.

[@mariag.9833]

The way you feel is about the pictures you put I your head. Think of the pictures and words. This is gold thank you for this teachings.

[@ernestoGLL]

Marisa changed my life. What she does is so powerful. I am eternally grateful. Thank you!!

[@karlabelisario5254]

I just saw her on IG this morning and couldn’t do anything else but come right away to see her and it’s all worth it! She’s amazing and the way she talks is so peaceful and powerful at the same time, I could listen to her for hours! Thanks for this, love it!

[@barbaramarrabell4499]

Ty for such a honest great inspiring video. Listening to your videos are so helpful. Your voice just comforts me always.

[@Lisa-sg6lp]

Absolutely love you both! Thank you for this beautiful collaboration ❤❤

[@laraoneal7284]

She’s very different and she’s very cute the way she expresses herself. She made me laugh which is so good. We need levity mixed with all the seriousness today. Ty STEVEN so much for having Marisa on. Love her approach.

[@beastyboyBlue]

Marisa is absolutely riveting ,I hung on her every word. I'm going to get her book. Thank you both.⭐️

[@samantha-kemp-therapy]

Love Marisa so much and I love that you gave her time to talk about her background a bit more. I trained with her. Loved it.

thank you so glad you loved it xxx

[@JoyCaringal]

This hypnotherapist is a genius! I have learned so much! God bless you Marisa!

[@Missyfunkylox]

Two of my favourites together ….. I absolutely love these Steven, thank you thank you thank you 💗🙌🏾

[@cielomusic4396]

Best therapist & public speaker I have listened to by far always loved her stuff ❤️

[@fionam3735]

Great episode, reassuring when she said the behaviours are the last thing to change. Keep working on the thoughts and what we tell ourselves. Peace and good will to all ❤

[@energetichypnotherapy]

Training with Marisa Peer in RTT in 2017. was one of the best things I have ever done.. It all started falling into place since then. A great lady.

[@greatawakeningforall]

This is one if the MOST important videos in the world. She speaks my language. Not only is she right, but I'm here to tell you that what she's teaching is the the True Inner Teaching of all the world's religions. This is also called magic. The Art of the Divine Magus. God bless all of you and thank you, too!!

[@DrBrunoRecipes]

Thank you 😊 Greetings from Scotland 😊 Have a great day everyone 🌻

[@hallieshouse13]

I think Marisa is great, but I’ve never seen her smile, laugh or make a joke. For someone who spreads so much light, this is quite interesting to me - “serious” is the word I’d use 😀

[@carmellewis2466]

She can be really funny.

[@lindaniggumede2030]

Marisa is amazing and she inspires me so much. I learn so much from her wisdom. Love this interview

[@JafaCrochets]

I love Marisa so much. She’s such an amazing teacher. Thank you God and the Universe for giving the world such an amazing gift.

[@matthewlarcome4501]

Hands down, one of the BEST episodes I've listened to so far!

thank you for your lovely comment

[@peaceemezue]

I love her energy, she is so cool and understanding.I don’t get tired of listening to her soothing voice ❤

[@danutamicor7192]

Yes it is not easy to change from being pesimistic to optimistic, but if we change the words we use/say one by one, then we feel better, then we act better and better things happen. I do apply this the last few weeks and it has made a difference in my life. Thank you

[@evagrolmusova1403]

Loving this episode, the thought provoking questions and incredible insights into working of mind🙌🤩 I train in Maria's school to be able to help others transform their lives and feel fulfilled and can only tell Marisa as teacher is a gem with big heart and valuable expertise ✨

[@NonyaBidnissBish]

She’s definitely 1 in a million ( literally ) because MOST THERAPISTS don’t help anyone, price gouge and have nothing to say. I’ve been to many looking for help and found so many others going through the same like me. Although most people don’t get a personalized counsel by looking all over the internet for help, I’m thankful to know there’s a real caring therapist out there.