Would You Consider Getting Back Together? | {THE AND} Simone & Charlie

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Simone (she/her) and Charlie (she/her) are exes who maintain a friendly relationship after breaking up and are currently roommates. They are working on navigating their romantic feelings towards each other and are still considering getting back together. Both are acutely aware of the challenges this would entail and the individual changes each would need to undergo to make it work. This conversation is part of their healing process, with vulnerability and honesty playing significant roles.
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EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR | Topaz Adizes
PRODUCTION MANAGER | Marisela Delgado
DIRECTOR OF PHOTOGRAPHY | Kat Hennessey
CAMERA OPERATOR | Albert Dantzer
SOUND | Jackson Collins Jr.
EDITOR | Samanta Barbosa
WITH THE PARTICIPATION OF | Simone & Charlie
Would You Consider Getting Back Together? | {THE AND} Simone & Charlie

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Our story runs deep! Couldn’t get it all out on here lol

[@GoogleAccount00]

Thanks for sharing. If it is worth it, heal and work things out. If you know that it's not for you, remain loving and friends. Wishing you both the best!

[@CharlisaKarehn]

@@GoogleAccount00 thank you! And naaah, it’s over! I respect her though and always will desire the best for her r

[@queerbrunchwoclondon8696]

Thank you for sharing your Love & Your own unique Love Experience with us all. Peace & Blessings to you & to you both.

[@ACEMiller3.0]

When I tell you from the time this video started I felt your pain! I feel like we’re twins. It’s a sad hurtful feeling. I wish you the best of luck! Genuine love will find you. GOD GOT YOU!

[@dejawoods2865]

Which one is Charlie and which is Simone?

[@warreng5394]

Clarity always comes after the break up...

[@devlynnikole1067]

Facts...❤❤

[@mysterygurrl301088]

Whew! This really resonated with me. I went through something similar with my ex-girlfriend. Once I was finally done with her, she knew all the right things to do and say. She even begged for another chance. At the time I was not fully over her. However, something in me just said, "No". That same thing in me also pointed out why I shouldn't believe her. Long story short, within 2 months of turning down her request to "try again", everything started being revealed to me and I saw that all the reasons I had given for not wanting her back, were true. She hadn't changed! What had happened was, that she went out there and realized that things were not how she thought they would be and figured, she could run back to me, the one person who loved her unconditionally and always only wanted what was best for her. Remember: "SOMETIMES WE ARE JUST COLLATERAL DAMAGE IN SOMEONE'S WAR AGAINST THEMSELF".

[@webleach]

"SOMETIMES WE ARE JUST COLLATERAL DAMAGE IN SOMEONE'S WAR AGAINST THEMSELF" - felt that with my entire being

[@zerandrianmorris]

The love between two women. My God. Ain’t NOTHING more intense. And…It’s always the one who doesn’t fully choose the other who would be willing to try again. 🥴🥴 Let her go. Release her.

[@lonegabalebatse9356]

i literally found myself saying 'let her go please''💯

[@SisiphoAmelieLeeZinja]

She needs to let her go and find what she was looking for when she had her 😂😂😂😂😂

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Thanks for watching!

[@tiadeese]

YEP, they always wanna hold on yet they're the reason you two aren't together.

[@SisiphoAmelieLeeZinja]

@@tiadeese is there a science that explains this?

[@SebeneleDlamini-ge9ct]

I don't know if she is really remorseful and wishes she could do things better or is she feeling lost and lonely that she needs familiarity to gain comfort that she's not alone. Sometimes people fear dealing with a certain era of life alone because everything is overwhelming and they selfishly hang onto people to satisfy their own need. My own advise to the girl with braids is to just close that chapter and choose herself ❤

[@CamilleAOPDG]

Damn…this comment is powerful!

[@TheAmayaM]

I needed this comment for MYSELF! Wow!

[@texasgoddess323]

It feels as though, if a person is truly moving towards changing in the right direction, the other person would feel that and would be able to give examples of how that person is different, which would make it more possible to rebuild.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Lol it’s really crazy that you said this. There’s a lot of truth in this. I did close the chapter though.

[@smome7773]

​@@CharlisaKarehn whewwww proud of youuuu

[@missmo463]

“God said no”. Gonna use that one 😂🤣

[@CharlisaKarehn]

I was forreal 😂😂😂

[@immersiveexperiences4799]

@@CharlisaKarehn what did you mean by "God said no"? Would you feel comfortable explaining?

[@devlynnikole1067]

Get out My head😂😂😂😂❤❤😂😂❤

[@firstRiley]

“I would’ve chosen to be everything for you instead of everything for everybody else.” 💔

[@CharlisaKarehn]

That was the one 🤧

[@violetselene244]

Sadly nothing would change if they got back together. That’s how it goes when people don’t take the time to dive deep into healing themselves before getting into a relationship. For the mental, emotional and physical health of the woman with the orange scarf. Regardless of if the friendship goes ok. Don’t get back with her.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

I know 🤗

[@devlynnikole1067]

Facts

[@nwadi6408]

Dear One-here I’m referring to the brown skin sister-if God said no, let it be no. You will most certainly find another love.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

100%! What He says will always go for me.

[@devlynnikole1067]

Facts 💯💯💯💯

[@user-xm6mb9jo6w]

I really commend these two women for their level of vulnerability. We all gained something from it and there are so many people going through similar situations. Being in a committed relationship takes a lot of love, grace, humility and willingness to look at SELF. My prayer is that they find the healing they need and that this experience helps them in future relationships.❤

[@E01234]

She only wants her back because she hasn’t found “better” or she wouldn’t be able to handle seeing braids with another woman. Regret being the driving force is not a great mix. Loved the video though, great content 👍

[@HappinessTheBrand]

Not braids 🤣

[@CharlisaKarehn]

@@HappinessTheBrand right dang why i gotta be braids 😂😂😂

[@PeukinsPoint]

Why is that a bad thing though? Realized in hindsight shouldn't be that big of an ego hit. Like damn, I've been out here but nobody makes me laugh/smile like my ex. I would think someone could reconsile and appreciate the relationship. We don't always get it right the first time.

[@E01234]

@@CharlisaKarehn Omggg not too much, sorry!!! I forgot y’alls names were in the caption 😂😂😂

[@E01234]

@@HappinessTheBrand 😂😂 pleaseeee, not in a bad way!! Lol

[@HENCHMARV]

Never ever go back to a ex ...their a ex for a reason. Also with that people never really change and if they do its for the next person to deal with.

[@ygoodie5924]

When youre the one always saving people and relationships you got to know when youre times up. Its easier said than done, but who's gonna save you when you have nothing left in you?

[@morg.3572]

Bruh

[@mzapril012]

Whew. They love each other SO MUCH.❤ through the tears and the laughter.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We do 🤧

[@VlogsWithSG92]

They both need time to heal and maybe try again, but if God said no let it go 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ericad5933]

Tough….. wanting to be with someone and loving them so much but knowing it’s not gonna work. Sucks so bad….

[@CharlisaKarehn]

It does suck

[@tarashanice_]

She kept talking about what she deprived herself of…what about what you deprived her of after hurting her?

[@CharlisaKarehn]

🤧 oof. She’s aware of what she deprived me of as well though, we’ve talked about it

[@stacia886]

I don't believe that moving straight into a friendship with someone you just broke up with is healthy. Space is needed. How do you move and navigate a new relationship with the past still lingering around you? How healthy is it to keep a friend who is pining after you?

[@Gossipchic]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@heyjavonnejay]

My thoughts exactly. It’s so common in WLW relationships and I don’t understand why. Any future potential partners will likely be put off by the closeness of the exes. You can’t compete with history.

[@stacia886]

@heyjavonnejay exactly! Worst part is that they are quicker to call the new partner "insecure" rather than look at this unhealthy pattern and realise that it serves no one but them and their ex.

[@sibongilenjengele]

Charlie has great insight. The whole video was so emotional...😥

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Thank you! 🥺

[@kiwixoxo371]

There’s alot of missing puzzles pieces here like, why did they break up? I’m not understanding the full context here because we didn’t get the main question. Hopefully they can remain good friends tho

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We are good friends indeed!

[@Sul516]

Yeah can someone explain

[@CharlisaKarehn]

@@Sul516 we’re doing a q&a

[@julieh7432]

im in this exact situation now, hoping we can come back from the healing stronger together.

[@smome7773]

Pls move on

[@smome7773]

Its giving death by a 1000 cuts...........thats when you can really say "God said no"......bc the flesh may be weak but whewwwww is the soul weary 😩😭 Healing to both but especially to Charlie for the level of magnanimous GRACE . In the video and in this comment section as well.

[@morg.3572]

Bruh

[@nimo4335]

Great video!!❤❤

[@anony16]

Lightskin really tugging on her heart strings

[@CharlisaKarehn]

She was tugging on me 🤧

[@Eva_H]

Sort it out ladies, there’s obviously still love there, is love enough though? On a personal note, I’m wondering if these wonderful people are still sleeping together without the label. However, everything shakes out for these two people I hope it all works out in the end.

[@kegomoditswemahura2136]

love is not enough. I think, history will repeat itself if they get back together. another wants the relationship back because they really love this person, and the other because they realize what they have lost, regret basically.

[@Eva_H]

@@kegomoditswemahura2136 that’s fair

[@ajiawillis7447]

​@@kegomoditswemahura2136 the girl with the orange scaf on loves so deeply. The other girl is not in love like that. She just feels regret that she hadn't found better.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

No, we aren’t sleeping together or doing anything like that.

[@ItzsimpleLindi]

​@@kegomoditswemahura2136it can still happen if both are willing to & work really hard on their love akere they say we learn from our mistakes if they put their most effort they can live happily ever they can go for therapy and start all over again my personal opinion thou they're so cute

[@webleach]

and after four years I just could no longer .. this was a much needed watch .. wishing you two the best

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Thank you!

[@kissy0k8]

“When God says no, no buts.” I heard that.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@morg.3572]

I'll never have this conversation w ol girl. Damn thanks for the honest talk, cuz shoot. Love shawty tho. 💯

[@KpTheG]

They are both so beautiful.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Thank you! 🫶🏾

[@devlynnikole1067]

No losses Just Lessons I hope moving foward they continue heal and remember the lessons they learn and apply what they've learned moving foward in future relationships..

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We have!

[@jalenseward7315]

I wouldn’t even wanna be friends with Simone fr. Something about her just comes off as disingenuous/ not sincere. Charlie seems like such a well put together person with morals & etc. The best part about watching this video is knowing that Charlie dodged a bullet. 🫶🏿

[@kholekilemotloi]

Is this the only way they'd be able to have a conversation? Because this conversation wasn't progressive. They seem to know what went wrong. Why they can't be together. One party is still very angry. Apologetic part is willing. Do they know why they had this conversation?

[@theemonique]

That’s tough

[@femmefataleracer]

wish i could hav this convo with any/everyone of my exes…including ex friends….ex cousins etc…

[@nevaehwilkins9330]

- I hate when you could go so good with someone and things just don’t go the way yall would like it to go I feel like everyone doesn’t know what love is but you find it between eachother even when it’s not perfect nobody should settle … and if two people are working to make it work it’s worth it but think of your sanity at all times fr …. I wish I knew if my person 4L when she was here

[@behoney00]

Teeth and Skin 💫💫

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We appreciate you!

[@dreamqueen317]

NO. Unless you’re Nelly and Ashanti. Lol

[@HENCHMARV]

Give them time 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@HalfWayUp]

I wonder if they already knew what each other was gonna say

[@mahoganysoul1798]

They don't know what the questions are going to be

[@HalfWayUp]

@@mahoganysoul1798 I mean like after the question was asked I wonder if they already knew what they would say !

[@mahoganysoul1798]

@@HalfWayUp oh !

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We didn’t honestly

[@crissyrichy]

Whewww 🥲

[@belovedone8207]

Empress! Fine mi! Cause mi tiyad a dem ooman yah.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Empresssss wah gwan?

[@JamieSativa]

LOVE TO SEE IT! 👸🏾 +👸🏾

[@colettezyambo5065]

🔥

[@kinsler18]

Should of, could of, would of.

[@khf729]

I thought I had skipped to the middle or something because I was missing context. Alas we will never know what led them to break up...

[@stephaniebee30]

❤❤❤

[@divasamai2251]

They miss each other.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We did back then

[@FeliFELIxx]

Still I can feel definitely from both of them slight blame and victimising in the Air, especially first lady, who started with first question with that orange scarf...definitely a lot of resentment and blame ..which is okay... i just admire the other lady IS so calm with it, I would be annoyed and for sure I dont know their story and what happened, I just feel it is difficult to deal with blame coming towards you

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Yeah definitely no resentment or blame honestly. Our story runs deep there’s a lot to this. I just refuse to talk down on her or make her feel like trash in front of anyone.

[@saturnteatree]

The one on the left crying for nothing the one on the right dont care… trust me

[@NapTimeMusical]

What is teaaaaa

[@CharlisaKarehn]

You got time? 🤧 our story is deep and loooong

[@MaseratiHolly]

😂😂😂😂 no fr

[@GoogleAccount00]

@@CharlisaKarehn We got time, lol.

[@Ren-yz6mb]

@@CharlisaKarehngirl we got timeee😭😭 how long were yall together?

[@CharlisaKarehn]

@@Ren-yz6mb lmao yall are wiiiiild! We were together for a year and a half. I was intentional from the beginning as well as ready to love her fully. She never experienced a me, so she didn’t know how to embrace me and what i come with. I know now i should’ve walked away then, but i continue to invest and tried to get her to see that she’s deserving of a love like mine but she couldn’t receive it. She also wasn’t done with her old life and i was. It’s a loooot 😅

[@kslucki]

The girl on the right says many words without saying anything at all. No substance behind those words. When God says 'no', there's a reason. To the girl on the left - you dodged a bullet. Have a happy life, as you deserve it sis.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Thank you

[@nicolem5626]

I didn’t watch the whole video but it sounds like growing pains. That’s about it. It’s hard to listen to 20 something year olds talk.

[@aielianna]

This is funny because i'm 20 and I get what you're saying. A lot of it is just being unsure about life, who you are and what's next. I also feel like in gay relationships we feel like things are more intense than they really are. It does sound kinda crazy when you're looking from the outside in but thats life I guess lol.

[@nicolem5626]

@@aielianna Their relationship only functions to feel good. They haven’t mentioned anything that they were planning to do together. Without goals, day to day drama seems more important than it is. Yes, a huge factor is not knowing anything about yourself as an individual and not understanding the people in your life . They’re not experienced enough to compare and contrast data.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

I understand why you’d say what you did. I don’t agree, there’s more that you all weren’t able to witness

[@nicolem5626]

@@CharlisaKarehn “More” doesn’t mean substance.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

@@nicolem5626 you’re entitled to that opinion, i respect it.

[@jessicaT12345]

ummm. they still like eachother. lol.

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We did back then. Imagine pouring your all into someone and HAVING to let them go with no other option. I still liked her, still wanted her, but i knew that wasn’t best for me at the time.

[@BMarie-hr2md]

Don't get back together. Metaphor: Don't go back to the trash you put out the trash outside. I also feel the woman on the right is a manipulator.

[@Meera436]

What is the girl with the orange IG @ ? Asking for myself ;)

[@CharlisaKarehn]

Lol @iamkarehn

[@reeislovely]

@@CharlisaKarehnlol do you have snap chat?? Where are you from? You’re freaking gorgeous 🤍🫶🏽

[@CharlisaKarehn]

@@reeislovely Lol thank yooou! ☺️ I’m from OH/NY! And i have a snap, i don’t use it though lol charmingch4rlie , you not on other socials?

[@CharlisaKarehn]

We thinking about doing a q&a for yall! If you want to ask us questions, i dropped my insta name in the comments