Wow I Relate So Much! Mike + The Mechanics - The Living Years REACTION/REVIEW

[@wingnut2893]

I've lost my father 43 years ago. My brother took his life 22 years ago. My best brother in law died in 2004, and my best friend died in 2005. I'm happily married, but I need to listen to this song every now and then, just to keep myself awake or aware........

[@janmazzone2090]

WOW!!! GOD BLESS YOU MY DEAR FRIEND ❤

[@wingnut2893]

@@janmazzone2090 Thank you.

[@marlenemauro2765]

God Bless you.

[@celestelittek7360]

Bless you 😢❤

[@CrystalClearskies-cb9ji]

One of the best songs ever written

[@crazexskater]

Can't listen to this song since I lost my father... That wound will never heal. I miss you Dad.

[@hawaiiguy1]

music composer/singer Burt Bacharach said in 1996 that the song's lyrics were one of the best he has heard in the past ten years..

[@davidrussell3890]

1988 AND STILL ONE OF MY FAVOURITES

[@nmikloiche]

This song is more relevant in 2022 than it was when it was released in late 1988. It has a timelessness about it, it’s beautifully orchestrated and the vocals are quiet and clean, allowing the listener to deal with the deep themes expressed in the lyric. Many thanks with this reaction video

[@daniellesedore2359]

It’s about not letting minor disagreements get in the way…. Tell people how much you love them. It came out in 1989.

[@toukie]

I lost my father 20 years ago this Feb. We were very close when I was little but some things happened later in life that had be rebel and we had a falling out. I was going through some really tough stuff but he wasn't there for me. One day he called me at work , needed my assistance with something. I knew how hard it must have been for him to ask so I said I would look into it but since I was at work it was going to be hard to do it at that moment. Took a while so when I called him back, he had gone on an errand. I told my mother I would call him back as soon as I got home. When I got home around 4h30, I thought about calling him right away but I decided to get dinner started first, put it in the over and then I would call him. Wouldn't take me more than an hour at most. I was putting the finishing touches when my phone rang. I looked at the clock, it was 5h10. I knew it was him calling me. I was wrong. It was my uncle. My father had had a major heart attack and the paramedics were trying to revive him. I dropped everything and I went to my parents' house but the paramedics were never able to revive him. I never talked to him again. I still haven't forgiven myself for not calling him right as I came home, just so I could've heard his voice one last time. This song kills me every time I hear it.

[@watchbizmatik]

Sorry for your loss

[@evanirvana500]

The song hits home. I was raised by an alcoholic father, it was also raised by an alcoholic father, who is I understand it after looking at my ancestry was also raised by an alcoholic father. My mother struggle with mental illness with a couple stints in the psych ward for trying to kill herself. Her mother also had mental illness as I believe her grandfather did as well. It took me years to make peace with my dad. I had to get older to gain a New perspective. I had went home to take care of him when my mother passed because his health was bad and it was either that or putting him in a home, and growing up I swore that I wouldn't have nothing to do with him once I turned 18, in the end of the day I couldn't just stick him in a home so I went home to take care of him because that's I believe something children should do. And it was during that time that we made peace. I came to understand how horrible human being my grandfather was and that he made my Dad's life a hell growing up as well but actually much worse than my dad did to me. And I came to understand that in my dad's head that he was a better dad than his dad and that much is true. So he felt he was okay as a dad even though he wasn't. It's been more difficult to make peace with my mother because she's been gone longer longer, and growing up I adored my mother. So each time she tried to kill herself I felt abandoned. Because of the child you only see your own perspective and how everything affects you. And that's fine that is the way children are and that is the way you grow up and learn different perspectives. But I can only see that she was trying to abandon me and make me live with a man who really shouldn't have even been in charge of a dog much less a child. In time I did understand that she went directly from her childhood home to marry my dad and living with him cuz that's just something you did in the 50s. And then heard that you stuck in that marriage even if you were being abused. That's the way it was. Times are a little different now and it's harder for people to understand. I think the best term is generational sin. I'm an atheist however I do believe that there are a lot of good lessons out of the Bible and one of them is generational sin. "The inequities of the father are visited upon the sons & daughters unto the 3rd and 4th generation". So unresolved issues will get handed down from generation to generation until somebody stands up and stops it or tries to change it. So if you're from that kind of a long cycle of family abuse or substance abuse, be the first one in your family to break it. Mental illness is a little harder because that's more of a biological issues and that's not something that people have control over. However in my mom's case she thought the answer to all our problems just continuing to up her anti depressants. Rather than deal with the real problem which was my dad. So there is some choice as well there there. Don't perpetuate generational sin be the one to stop it. And forgiveness isn't just about the person you're forgiving, it's about forgiving for your own self because that will give you peace in your own heart. So that's not something that you will pass down to your children. Generational sin stopped.

[@Smootman1]

Mike Rutherford is in Genesis. This song brings a tear to my eye...😎

[@richmorlang1854]

This song doesn't get enough credit, I have had this song in my head since I was a kid in the 80's

[@deborahdennehy9937]

My dad & I did have plenty arguments, but laughter too. During the last 6 months of his death from cancer he was such a mild mannered man & adored him, knowing he had cancer too. RIP dad 💝

[@eschdaddy]

Sorry for your loss. My dad’s going through that now.

[@daveloboda1769]

Great reaction to a deeply moving song. Paul Carrack's voice is perfect for it.

[@stevepollard2571]

Love that song. RIP to your father. Take it easy mate. All the best

[@watchbizmatik]

Thanks

[@nateberridge7650]

Sorry for your loss Biz. And thanks for sharing your story. Regardless of the situation losing a parent is rough. I was on good terms when my father passed but there was still much more I wanted to say. Damn this song gets me everytime! Peace and much love.

[@Timoeltejano]

That's a powerful story. I lost my dad 3 years (almost 4) ago and I really miss him. We did not see eye to eye on many things, however, we agreed on the really important things. But, I let distance come between us due to vanity of youth and stupidity. We got good the last few years of his life but I still miss that wasted time. I try to tell my girls about that but they're still young and time is infinite... Only it's not. Peace Tim in Texas

[@BlowinFree]

Bless you and yours Tim. I’m kinda the same as you. Just remember to say it loud and clear to your girls 🙏🏻❤

[@rhondaharmon724]

One of the greatest songs ever.

[@porkchoptula]

Paul Carrack on lead vocals was also the lead vocals on Squeeze's hit "Tempted" then left the band. He has a great voice.

[@toddstevens13]

Don't Forget "How Long" by Ace, anotherof Carrack's classics, his Solo Top 10 "Don't Shed A Tear", and as Roger Water's Lead Vocalist for The Wall Live in Berlin. The dude is money.

[@BlowinFree]

@@toddstevens13 well, well, well, this is Paul carrick singing? I always thought it was Mike Rutherford! How Long and Tempted are two of my faves 🎶🙏🏻❤

[@BlowinFree]

I bloody love Paul carrick

[@user-ve5ln5le9y]

SILENT RUNNING. Enough said.

[@tonydelapa1911]

As someone who has had an uncurable (but treatable) type of cancer for a little over 4 years, I have had both the occasion and opportunity to think about relationships and other serious matters. Among many, here are two things I have either learned or come to believe. They may help other people with their thinking and handling of things: First, everybody wants to go to Heaven but nobody wants to die. Secondly, while we often hear about someone who dies without any regrets as a life well lived, you can’t always control that. Instead, I think my life will have been better lived if I do as much as possible to make sure others do not die with regrets in terms of my relationship with them. There are a couple tough cases on my list. I’m not sure I will get to everyone, but it is on my mind nearly everyday and I am either trying, or thinking about how changing my approach might make it easier. My 2 cents, YMMV.

[@kohl2080]

This song is about not letting a day go by without letting your loved ones know how much you love them. Race is only a component in that all races experience ups and downs with parents.

[@vickieray]

This song brings me to tears every single time 🥹🥹

[@davepfizer]

My dad died in the kitchen where I am sitting here typing this, some 30 years ago, he stood up, said he shouldn't have eaten the cheese sandwich he had the night before but was dead before he hit the floor. I can't say I really had any conversations with him but I make a point of just keep talking so that my sons have an idea who I am and not invisible like my dad was. My dad never said anything, never discussed anything, never talked at least not to me. Now I am 65 I would loved to have had conversations with him. My dad was very much old school. I remember the one sentence he ever said to me when I was about 10 years old and it remains with me and is a mark of the frustrations of his life. This song tells me that I am not the only one who feels something of a missed opportunity that we all may regret but can do nothing to fix.

[@KellyPirtle-ko5vl]

So happy this song resonates with you! ❤ it's one of my best go to for good vibes!

[@ellenshore4189]

Craziest name for a great band Hootie and the Blowfish. Their best song, Only Wanna Be With You

[@LetItBeSummer-1]

“ you can listen as loud as you hear“. I guess he had a lot to say to his dad that he didn’t get a chance. Some tough things, too. I felt the same way about my dad when he passed away. I never got a chance to air my grievances with him and they were pretty huge. Very touching song 💗thank you.

[@antonywadey8930]

Same when my dad passed, it was about a month after he passed away I cried and it was this song that triggered it driving into work. I've learnt to say how you feel to your loved ones

[@PR7-82]

I thought that it's you can listen as well as you hear. Sounds better than as loud which you claim

[@nancyberry1039]

@@PR7-82 You are correct. The lyrics are "Say it loud. Say it clear. You can listen as well as you hear."

[@royrocker9004]

Tell those you Love today that you Love them as tomorrow will be too late for some as no one is promised tomorrow. don't fight over petty things. Do not let disagreements damage relationships. Sometimes you just need to agree that you disagree and leave that topic alone so it doesn't damage the relationship. Life is too short people. If anyone reading this is currently estranged from a family member for whatever reason, try to reach out to them today, tell them you love them. Don't be afraid of how they will react to your call and words because even if they reject you, what matters is you will not be left wondering.... what if.

[@KellyPirtle-ko5vl]

Love your perspective on this Beautiful song! Love seeing your reaction brother! ❤

[@beeseewill2407]

This song is so deep and meaningful.They really make you feel it.

[@sharonannrees2824]

The year was 1988. Beautiful, meaningful song!

[@irreverendian5581]

The video is so carefully thought out, the children's choir in church surplus indicating purity or innocence - perhaps the youthful who blame the older generation for problems they didn't deal with. The other choir are older, grandparent age, dressed in smart secular clothing of the middle classes - they were young and had dreams once too... The location on the North Somerset coast (UK), Porlock Weir and west into Exmoor National Park is as beautiful today as then, I go there often. A favorite of mine since it was released.

[@leedavies4589]

my father passed 2013 new years eve still miss the bugger

[@whoneedssantawhenthereisgr1724]

It’s the first time I heard this song very beautiful. I was by my Dads side when he passed so we’re my children . I was with my Mom when she passed also. Thank you Biz for the review .

[@theambitlady]

Thank you for this beautiful review. Subscribed. Keep doing what you are doing. Stay blessed ❤

[@watchbizmatik]

And thank you for the Sub 🙏🏿

[@cainealexander-mccord2805]

This song came out in 1985. You know, when your parents were in high school. (I'm old.) Liked the song. Liked your story better. Your dad loved you.

[@sadeaton]

Old school is still the best school, thank you for sharing man👍

[@ronparsons8786]

Beautiful and timeless

[@paulschmidt1247]

Love this song, fun fact Mike and the mechanics with Phil Collins is Genesis.

[@michaelpaino4110]

wow

[@thegroovetube3247]

Not really such a fun fact - you'd need to take away four members of Mike and the Mechanics and add Tony Banks as well as Phil Collins to make Genesis.

[@paulschmidt1247]

@@thegroovetube3247, LOL.

[@Tune-O-matic]

The distant relationship between a father and son and not understanding each other seems to be a phenomenon..

[@johntremmel3949]

Mike of mike and the mechanics is Mike Rutherford lead guitar player of genisis , he wrote this track, the lead singer is Paul carrack I believe he passed away a couple of years ago, he sang for the band squeeze before this they have an interesting track called “tempted by the fruit of another”

[@josemexicano1910]

Paul Carrack´s still alive and kicking at his 71 years old.

[@BlowinFree]

@@josemexicano1910 haha bloody hell! Just had to google that one. He’s very much still with us 😅

[@josemexicano1910]

@@BlowinFree of course he´s still with us! I don´t know why John Tremmel "killed" him, lol!

[@J_Gamble]

Thanks for this one, Biz. It made me teary. I admit I just pray that the values I consciously tried to teach my kid are enough to even partially counteract the unconscious ones I must have passed on too. All the ish from my family line...trying to make it end with me.

[@watchbizmatik]

Yeah its not an easy thibg raising a family.. thats why I dont judge too much

[@davemeers37]

The year this song became a hit in the states my best friend passed away I was 21 he was 24 that was 35 years ago and it still stings as it did that day

[@tammiec4937]

This is such an incredible song’ Paul Carrack is such an incredible songwriter,vocalist, and musician. Check out Squeeze the band he was in and his solo stuff. It has Mike Rutherford and Tony Banks from Genesis.

[@jayeell1253]

One of the all time great song

[@jha6783]

I have the feeling that you are a very smart person. I guess you are pretty educated because you understand that stuff.

[@denisemay6807]

This is such a great song!

[@lancerx1759]

Great song Great Reaction !!!

[@watchbizmatik]

Thanks fam

[@verapena9465]

Timeless masterpiece ❤

[@mikemiller3069]

For possible band names, I like, "Vicious Fishes" for it tongue-twisting nature or "Ingrown Cell Phone" just for the rhyme and the image it evokes of people who are on their phones ALL THE TIME. 😂

[@ednurge3848]

The one you’re thinking about is ‘Johnny Hates Jazz’, lol😊

[@karenj3611]

Love this song

[@stevenparker4684]

Mike and mechanics (Mike Rutherford) ex of Genesis

[@tonyhoughton6857]

There was a group in England in 1980s called Bow wow wow

[@Saqua2289]

My father was never in my life. My mom did him really dirty & he never forgave her for it. I remember when he told her I reminded him of her & he wanted nothing to do with either of us. My mom's choices directly affected our relationship. I have no idea if he's alive. I tried reaching out to him he never responded. I forgave him & my mom & left it with G-d.

[@blanebienvenu7280]

Mike was the lead guitarist for Genesis with Phil and Peter Gabriel

[@blanebienvenu7280]

Lost my Daddy 6 months ago but the last time I said I love him and Kissed him I’m thankful for that … he was t even sick died of a massive Heart Attack

[@NG-Lespaul]

Great song!!!! #YEAHBIZ

[@bwana-ma-coo-bah425]

at 2.15 roughly, suddenly the video is irrelevant and it becomes about the lyrics in the song and then at 6.35, the message is nailed.

[@Boodieman72]

"You can listen as well as you hear"

[@MoMoMyPup10]

"We talk a different language" is the real hook here IMO. Parents and kids all too often can't get on the same page. Society itself isn't helping either.

[@anditcametopass5924]

There was a band in the 80-90's called The Butthole Surfers, hard to top that one lol

[@goobermcgilicuty3754]

Its not about generational curses, its about being so full of yourself, you refuse to hear others that gap your own thoughts. Much like a time gap between parents and their children. You are supposed to see yourself as the deaf one...listen to others, if you have the courage!!

[@JeannieMitchellMyers]

This song is amazing, I even did my own take on it in my video on my KZbin channel. Very touching and powerful!😢

[@mrichards2211]

Great song! ❤️🔥

[@johntremmel3949]

Silent running” is a very good track by them

[@MattMangels]

There's a band called "The The" :)

[@onsesejoo2605]

I don't want to be a nitpick, but there is some vague information in the comments. Mike & The Mechanics was and is a loose group of musicians, however Mike Rutherford's bandmates from Genesis Phil Collins and Tony Banks have never been in the line-up. The singers have been Paul Carrack, Paul Young (NOT the one with "Where Ever I Lay My Hat) and Andrew Roachford who is the current singer.

[@larrybrown1597]

Great Band Names: Phil Opian and the Tubes, and lets us not forget: Jewish Space Lasers.

[@beeseewill2407]

Want a wierd name for a band. Sam the Sham and the Pharoahs, song "Little Red Riding Hood".

[@Matt..G]

Crazy band name.. Toad The Wet Sprocket

[@watchbizmatik]

Oh thas the worst on i heard yet 🤣

[@kevth5090]

Sorry for your loss.

[@watchbizmatik]

Thanks fam

[@kevth5090]

@@watchbizmatik the song is relatable to me too. Loss my dad and I wasn’t there when he died. Thx for posting. 👍💪☝️🤟

[@daleigou943]

My mom died last week and I asked her for a sign. She died and my galaxy phone died too. I tried to get it fixed and the experts couldn't fix it. Hi Mom!

[@crazexskater]

MOTT THE HOOPLE... all the young dudes... carry the news.

[@familychromebook7180]

Crap! This made me cry, dammit.

[@alrivers2297]

Johnny & My Mother's Last Child were the shit!

[@trentcrick]

The most ridiculous band name for me is “Peter and the Test Tube Babies”. My favourite song by them, ‘Oral Annie”

[@julien.4617]

Hooty and the Blowfish makes me laugh.

[@SweetJennyFan]

The only bad thing about this song is the fade at the end.

[@52montoya]

I thought the "Beatles" was ridiculous, but they made good music.

[@RaymondSutherland-q9y]

Lost my dad in jan.17 1992

[@AnthonyL0401]

The band names CRASH TEST DUMMIES and THEY MIGHT BE GIANTS Good music for TMBG, but funny name

[@RobRager]

There was The Electric Prunes….

[@watchbizmatik]

🤣🤣

[@alrivers2297]

They actually had a good trippy psychedelic song called I Had too Much to Dream Last night

[@badrigravesande6952]

They were part of Genesis

[@kv4320]

Strong reaction

[@watchbizmatik]

Thanks

[@bethking7348]

Every generation is from their past generation and everything they were subjected to. I think that is kind of called evolution but I'm not sure we are evolving much now ethically, just technologically

[@julien.4617]

You can say "are you benefitting from that" (what your ancestors did). Then you must apply that to all things in life. If your father was a thief, do his children owe his victims' for their father's profit and the ictims' children loss? That is a slippery slope. Including the near slave status of women in the past. Everyone is responsible for themselves and their own actions.

[@BardOfAndromeda]

Plenty of far more ridiculous band names my friend! The early 90s seemed to have a glut of them. Ned's Atomic Dustbin, The New Fast Automatic Daffodils, The Mock Turtles ...

[@markstevenson1646]

This song is only equaled by Gilbert o sullivans alone again, imo

[@changchang8690]

Super group

[@estacadarocks3446]

The " Butthole Surfers " win craziest band name in my humble opinion.

[@watchbizmatik]

😂😂🤣🤣😂

[@kestrelle5345]

Fathers are complicated.

[@terriertz5134]

I'm sorry the last words to your father weren't good. Space Hog and Cage the Elephant are two bands I can think of with the craziest names.

[@alrivers2297]

How about Hootie & the Blowfish or Hoobastank

[@terriertz5134]

@@alrivers2297 Those are good ones too.

[@michelledunstan9952]

Do one one a song called I just don't no what to do with my self black lady sings it it's unreal her last name is hinds

[@timhitchcock7554]

Half Man Half Biscuit (how's that for band name .And it's a real name

[@SwazersC]

We must forgive our parents & also repent for our own sins to Christ. Then receive the grace of God. Peace & love to all. Amen.

[@keano7800]

Dumpy's Rusty Nuts 🤣

[@alrivers2297]

I thought for sure you made that up. But i just Googled it 😆

[@101qberty]

The Beetles? 😁😁

[@lostasadorespr]

I believe in generational curses.. Me too my brother, may all these curses be cut in Jesus name. Amen

[@Nikkyeshiva83]

I don't know why this is getting to me. I love the song but this guy reminds me so much of Patrice O'Neal. Maybe that's it. He is missed.

[@PR7-82]

That guy was a fat nasty misogynist and he wasn't even funny 😐 so I don't think that's a compliment to this guy

[@shawnj1843]

How do you take a song like this, about a man not saying I love you and not talking and spending time with his father before he passed away. And you bring up Slavery? Really?

[@kenhall5551]

Whenever you hear the lyrics of this song, you'll see how inappropriate your starting comments were.

[@seanomeirs8362]

Toad the wet sprocket.