STOP CARING What Others Think of You! - WATCH THIS | Wu Wei Wisdom

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[@joannagleeson]

This is great. very helpful. After listening several times I changed my mind about a situation where I was critically feeling - three is a crowd. I get it! What freedom. It seems like my former thinking was absurd. Thank you.

[@lizafield9002]

@@joannagleeson ha, this is a great comment! I just found this channel & cannot believe this treasure trove has come into my life. Thank you Taoist kindred for the beautiful humor, frankness & THE wisdom i needed exactly today & this autumn 2019.

[@rusty_rockets]

No I didn’t enjoy the video because neither of you are capable of listening to each other. Consistently interrupting and talking over one another.

[@nonameyet5404]

No

[@helenm3133]

@@rusty_rockets I am new to this channel and I'm sorry to say that I agree that it's very distracting when Dr. David is interrupted. I feel he has so much information to share (and I want to hear him), and it's obvious she cannot wait to speak. Even with her saying "a-huh" or "yeah" is distracting. I am hoping as I listen to more current videos, that will taper off. If it doesn't I don't know if I can watch their videos.

[@stoutie18]

I’ve seen almost all of your videos and have never seen David so animated . It’s so funny and cute! My fav is when he says “stop it”. I need to hear that in a rap song 😂 we love you!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Kelly Hutcheson, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. Alex + David x

[@sujathabalaswami7861]

I am motivated so much by your videos Thank you

[@jonhohensee3258]

It cracks me up when he says "STOP IT".

[@guidedbybreath2702]

"Slow down, drop your shoulders! This is a meditation!" Brilliant. Because it really is....

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Guided by Breath, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. Alex + David x

[@bugsea54]

At 55 years old and suffering from deep depression last year I watched a video about not caring about what others think. What a light bulb moment. I immediately felt better. Boy what a different life I have now. I make different choices. Right now I am trying to catch up from a life time of being a door mat. My mother was extremely critical and OCD which compounded the issue. I was in abusive relationships all my life. My therapist believed because my mother had a disabled child, my brother it may have affected her emotional health, feeling responsible for causing the disability. I can totally see my parents shame and guilt over it while I was growing up. On top of that I felt tossed aside so they could care for him. I was 4 years younger. This would start a life time of me trying to get people to like me, because I didn't feel any love and affection from my mother. My mother is 89 and she has morphed into a very abuse person partly because my brother died a tragic death which made her even worse. I have forgave her and visit her regularly to help with care giving. While I am there I try to boost her self esteem and make her feel good about herself as that is the root of her madness. I no longer feel the brunt of her abuse. I feel sorry for her life which was a rough one with very little family support, education and love. I like this video and I really hope others get that light bulb moment. It is life changing and very important. Once you really pin point why you are the way you are, you still have to get over the hump of a life time of dysfunction, but you can live a good life with the knowledge. We must remember our parents had their own issues, pain and fear while they were raising us. Break the chain. It is never to late to show your adult children love and support.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Connie, We are really pleased our videos are giving you food for thought 🙂 Thank you for this and other comments you have made on our videos - sending positive Qi your way! A+D x.

[@sll110]

me too, you said what I want to say. I am super beautiful and talented, but destroyed by jealous men and jealous women

[@claymacdonald1037]

Yeah absolutely beautiful Connie. You’ve done some absolutely incredible work to get to where you’re at. I don’t know you personally but I am inspired by you and mega proud of you and most of all I am sooooooo bloody happy for you!!! I would love to add that I am also kicking goals at the moment - hours and hours of amazing positive vids on KZbin have been one of the catalysts (Wu Wei included!). My light bulb moment came to me recently in the form of KNOWING (realising/remembering) that I created everything around me, I very much chose this existence and I very much chose all the key points in it before I was born and I am merely wearing a suit (a human body) so that I can have a human experience - and now that I know (that I have remembered) that I created everything around me, what do I want to create next? How liberating!! 😀

[@user-nu3rg8uq1e]

Exactly the same situation for me except she's 83 and was living with me and now lives with my brother, but in doing this move, it was done in a manipulative way and very hurtful 💔 from my mother and two brothers, trying to not care what is being said about me but very hard 💔

[@joc982]

I have all but stopped watching other motivational videos and other coaches because I have spent a disproportional amount of time watching them without much improvement in the frequency of my red light feelings. Your videos have helped me to understand that I can't change my behaviour for good without addressing my beliefs. I'm so grateful we all have access to your wisdom without having to pay a fortune for it.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi, thank you for sharing your experience! It’s wonderful to hear that the videos have helped you make that crucial connection between beliefs and behavior. Real, lasting change starts within, and by addressing and transforming your beliefs, you're laying the foundation for a more balanced life. We're so glad you’ve found value in the teachings and are grateful to have you as part of our community. Kind Regards, David

[@DoctorRo116]

Your teachings resonate with me.

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Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@dawnpham8394]

I agree with David on the mantra: what people say or think of me is not my business. I strongly believe in this and it helps me getting through the harshest criticism in my life. Thank you for the video.

[@davidheard709]

I love your humor, David, “STOP. IT!”…..Keep our spirits pepped up.

[@deborahmason7240]

After listening, I realize that the contempt I have for people not taking responsibility for themselves is because I have contempt for myself for not doing it❤

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello Dedorah, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@deborahmason7240]

@@WuWeiWisdom I just joined the group :) Thank you!

[@user-yw1tj6qt6m]

I’m so glad I checked in with you guys tonight because My ic needed to hear that she was ok. That people will criticize and that’s not my problem. I believe the speeding car almost ran me over but I jumped out of the way! I am good enough! I love myself even if some dumb person doesn’t love me. I am the creator of my emotions not the victim. I created guilt because I believe that I am not good enough because I made some mistakes in my past because I was abused by my siblings. So I stop it. ❤

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi there! It's wonderful to hear that you found reassurance and strength in our message. Acknowledging that criticisms from others don't define your worth is a huge step forward. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, but they don't determine your value or your future. You're embracing a powerful mindset by recognising that you're the creator of your emotions and not a victim. Continue to nurture your self-love and belief in your own worth. You're on a positive path, and we're here to support you. If you ever want to connect with others who are on similar journeys, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is always open to you at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards,

[@arunagreen8119]

This is great. I've had a hard time recently. I've cut out seeing some friends and feel better validating myself and keeping my own counsel. Loving these videos.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @arunagreen8119, I'm glad to hear that you're finding solace and strength in self-validation and these videos. It's important to prioritize your well-being and surround yourself with supportive influences. Keep trusting in your own wisdom and continue nurturing your inner peace. Kind Regards, David P.S. Feel free to join our supportive community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/

[@fredrikaxling7706]

I really appreciate your work and I finally got it! That I am not a victim to my emotions! I know the reason why I am afraid of what people think of me. As children both mine and my sister ALLWAYS related to our mother’s temperament. If she was angry, we cleaned our rooms. I remember particularly one time when our parent were fighting, as so often. Our mother shouted that she will die because of how our father was treating her. I believed every word: I thought she was dying. Having that said, I know that I am very sensitive to what other people think of me, friends, colleagues etc. I fell into that trap just today. And now that I know this, I am longing to find that little scared boy and help him. Can I book a session with you David?

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.

[@kimkaitell2273]

I've never understood that people pleasing was a way for me to not take responsibility for myself. I need to take that in. Also "what does self love mean to me"? This is a whole new journey. I feel scared! (I know....why do I feel scared.....). Thank you for these videos. I just found you recently.

[@susans9014]

Doing the Golden Thread I remember being told “what would others think” so often and also the fear that how I acted was the reason nobody would like me. If I seemed confident, I felt criticism so therefore I stopped trying. I’ve allowed my life to be dictated by anyone’s approval because I wanted to be liked but now I’m alone, don’t trust people and it feels safer. Self fulfilling? Lots to unravel and work on.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @susans9014, Thank you for sharing your experience. Recognising these patterns is a powerful first step toward resolving these issues. Remember, you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim. Embrace your intrinsic worth and trust in your Shen spirit. You might find our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community helpful for connecting with like-minded people: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David

[@jessicamaden707]

💚❤ Why would anyone go to a therapist after watching this methodical approach? I have a former friend who went to a therapist for over 20 years. And nothing has changed, their dysfunctional behavior just carries on. If they only took responsibility! Thing is, they are so comfortable being a victim. So comfortable with the familiar. Its a choice. ❤💚

[@mawusivivor5546]

If you do what everyone says, then do what David says “stop it” I like that. I like that a lot . Having been a people pleaser, I’m going to do what you say and I believe I wouldn’t regret it. Thank you David &Alex. Way to go Wu Wei 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👍🏽

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Mawusi Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

[@fayharding5257]

My dad thought he was making us the best we could possibly be by saying 'that's nice, but it could have been so much better if......' Once my brothers and I realised where our daft feelings of inferiority came from, we all managed to pull ourselves up. Dad didn't mean it, but all three of us were held back by his 'help'. Great video. Thank you x

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Fay, thanks for watching the video - we're glad you enjoyed it! Thanks also for sharing your personal experience - there is a wonderful lesson there and it's great to hear that you and your siblings are no longer held back by this. Alex & David x

[@wilgr2103]

You guys are amazing!!!!🙏👏👍🏻❤️

[@rainbowcoloursfly]

Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!! X

[@exhil_rate2796]

I'm already for at least 5 years on my journey to healing and self love and I listened to so many videos and much research. Your videos really help bring clarity to the core of the problem. I have childhood trauma, been beaten and incarcerated and ever since I locked my personalty far away. I try so much to understand the views of everyone around me to kind of fit in there. When I'm around people my inner voice is completely silenced, my head is empty and all I try to do is adapt to the situation like a chameleon. Even though I practice self empowering thoughts and self care I still fail to really speak my mind. Maybe because my opinions are so very different from what most people think. I believe I have very strong opinions and quite a big personality, but none of that ever came to life. It's only when I am alone that I'm able to uncover some of it. Now to the video. This is exactly my problem, I'm having a really strong opinion but sometimes I don't know who I really am because I'm also trying to adapt to what people think is okay and normal for them.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Exhill_rate Thanks for sharing your story. I’m pleased that our video has helped you realise and understanding you thoughts and beliefs more. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David

[@exhil_rate2796]

@@WuWeiWisdom Hello David, yes there is a topic that I would be very interested in hearing your thoughts on. It is being myself around others and just feeling free to be myself even when around people. I think there's a general lack of trust inside of me to really stretch my personality out in the open. If you could make a video on this or already have one, I'd love to see it ! Thanks for all your help and support. My neorologist recommended a book on tapping techniques, do you think this might help? Much love from a german dreamer

[@1ajtg]

I'm so glad that I found you both. Alex is there on my behalf and David explains what's really going on and Oh you made me laugh. I'd been previously researching why I stayed with a Covert Narcissist. I've ended up staring straight at my inner child and finding intense, unheard emotions. Thank you...

[@junecoombs4566]

David, I believe I do love myself and family is very important to me. My daughter-in-law has stopped visiting my husband and I and hasn’t come over in a full year even though they live minutes away. I find this very hurtful. I know I can’t control her and here is that word “ but” I sense she has changed, her feelings of love for me have diminished. She doesn’t deny it. I’m troubled as I want her to love me as a family member! She doesn’t have to accept everything I say or do as we are each our own person. She’s married to my son and I’d like her to love me like she used to. Just have us over once in awhile or tell me right out what I have done to offend her.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello June, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

[@arjaloggers4509]

Thankyou Alex and David so much for your very helpful videos! I thought I had an 'inner child 'issue' but now I know its a 'core-belief issue'. I am one of that happyfriendlypeacefulworldtypes but I made the decision tot do, at least, one brave new step every day😊

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @arjaloggers4509, Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your insights! It's wonderful to hear that our videos have contributed to your understanding of core belief issues. Your commitment to taking one brave step each day is truly inspiring. Embracing this approach can significantly impact your journey to resolving these issues and enhancing your Shen spirit. Remember, every step, no matter how small, is a leap towards greater self-understanding and alignment. If you ever feel the need to share your experiences or seek support from like-minded individuals, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community might be the perfect place for you. Check it out at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ for additional inspiration and camaraderie. Keep embracing your journey with courage and positivity! Kind Regards, David

[@janicemccarthy398]

Could you PLEASE, David, put up a video on self soothing the inner child whho was severely traumatised since the Cot from family, PLEASE! I idolise your teachings, however this is a crucial step for me to overcome as I am suffering from a lethal illness I am fighting wirh my intellect in every which way to survive. If I can learn to SOOTHE myself, no one else can, I therefore can sleep, become in control and prevent disease frome overcoming my efforts to live! Thank you so much for your Compassiobate heart.😊❤

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @janicemccarthy398, Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for your kind words about our teachings. It's wonderful to hear that you find value in them. Your resilience and proactive approach to resolving issues with your Shen spirit are truly inspiring. Creating a video on self-soothing the inner child, especially after experiencing significant trauma, is a wonderful suggestion and one that we will seriously consider for our future content. Remember, you're not alone in your journey, and it's empowering to hear how you're using your intellect to navigate this challenging time. In the meantime, if you feel it might be beneficial, consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. It's a space where like-minded individuals share their experiences, knowledge, and support each other in overcoming similar challenges. Stay strong and continue to believe in your capacity to guide yourself toward peace and control. Your determination is a powerful force in your journey. Kind Regards, David

[@janicemccarthy398]

Thank you. I have joined the f.b. looking forward to see if I am allowed to join and participate. Bless you all for your Compassionate hearts!❤

[@janicemccarthy398]

This video is excellent. The content has enabled me to work on the premise I am Awesome, strong and a motivated women who is as worthy as everyone living! . I adore your humanity and am higlymotivated to kearn and interact with all! Much love!❤❤❤❤

[@SuperDrumsforever]

You two rock! I am grateful for your videos.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hey, thanks Drummer - we really appreciate your support! Have you joined our Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook group yet? facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ If you have any questions on any of our teachings please post them and we'll be happy to help. Alex & David x

[@andreasvobodova2103]

So when tu student is ready, the teacher will appear. You just answered my biggest question, which I have been asking for the past 20 years! THANK YOU!❤️

[@WuWeiWisdom]

That's great to hear! Thank you for sharing Andrea 🙏

[@EStradli]

I’ve realised how much I’m living in a bubble, trying to be perfect and get everyone to like me. If they don’t or I am criticised I am scared of them leaving me so I always try and please them. This means that I end up letting everyone else control me and decide my life’s directions. I class myself as sensitive and therefore I try and protect myself by arguing back ! It’s a vicious circle and I’m tired. I guess I don’t believe in myself because I was taught I was a burden. If I am to take this route then I must love myself and think I’m not a burden. This frightens me because my opinions always seem to contradict others which is why it feels safer to stick to what I know I.e. letting others take control and get upset when they criticise me or take whatever they say as truth

[@timjoseph4170]

Good Morning........im off work with anxiety/depression. Ive started to work on Inner Child and stumbled across your videos. Im finding them very informative and really like the discussions between yourself.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Tim, we're glad you've found our videos helpful 🙂 If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@moniquezmuda3924]

I am excited I found Wu Wei because it is right on point with what I'm going through now. Thank you for your videos.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thanks for watching and commenting Monique - we appreciate it and we're glad you found us too! We hope you can join our Facebook Community and you'll meet many people there going through a similar journey : facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@freetofly9752]

YOUR THE BEST... your best for everybody make you two the best . Thank you so much!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you too! Kind regards, David.

[@cassandrakutner8005]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️

[@WuWeiWisdom]

you're welcome Cassandra - thank you for your support. x

[@scottba]

I really appreciate you two. And I make myself feel anxious by judging that you are often interrupting and talking over each other. Please do a video on how to be a better listener and communicator, how to not talk over each other, how to not interrupt each other. I’d sincerely like to hear how you would give advice on this. And it is also me wanting to manipulate you both into taking a breath, slowing down, and listening to understand, rather than listening to respond. Thank you. Please.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you for your comments. We will certainly put your suggestions on our video 'To-Do' list. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.

[@helenm3133]

@@WuWeiWisdom Dr. David, I am new to your channel and I have listened to a couple of your videos in the last couple of days, and I appreciate what you have to say, you make a lot of sense. I want to continue listening but the interruptions even the small ones are so distracting that I find myself feeling frustrated and not wanting to listen anymore. We are supposed to listen to hear not listen to find reasons to speak and I feel like the latter is what is going on...I hope this tapers off in more current videos. I feel badly saying this, I don't want to hurt feelings, but I do want to get the message.

[@mirelladlima5278]

This is so important bcoz we never question ourselves and never get to the root "vow".🙏

[@rosiemac2538]

Great video❤ Great Teaching ❤ Thank you

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

[@cocobdijen2329]

Thank you guys

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Chloe Hi Chloe, thanks for your kind feedback! You may also find our latest video helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5CVc3-Hp9KVY6s If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ kzbin.info We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@ladydior-oo3gi]

Can you talk about social anxiety , what is the core beliefs !? Is it about what people thinks about me and me caring about it

[@saveUyghurs]

Feeling of acceptance is what everyone needs and craves

[@dr.sampadakhair6596]

Very true about criticism ✌️✌️✌️love ur videos cheers . U doing great job .this has helped me a lot

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@aaronvarela8941]

You guys are great real quality 💯

[@mildredmartinez8843]

I think you guys are awesome! Such great advice I will watch this helpful video several times because it has so many kernels of good thinking. David's way of explaining our faulty thinking, he is so unjudgemental as if we had a flashlight finding our way out of a cave. Wonderful! Keep up the good works.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Mildred - it's good to hear you enjoyed the video and thanks for oyur ongiong support! I'm interested to know what are the most powerful messages in this video for you? Alex x

[@elizabethjohnson7183]

My mother and my last living brother both died in the past few months and I lost my job due to Coronavirus. I'll be 64 in a couple weeks and I feel so depressed. In fact, I've always been a depressed person since around 11 or 12 yrs. old. My parents and entire family structure was negative and critical as I was growing up. Now that they're all gone and I'm the only one left, I'm starting to see how my parents constant put downs and expressions of disapproval toward myself and my younger brother, was trickled down from them and into my two oldest brothers who took on the same critical negative nature toward we two younger siblings. My parents appeared to promote this poor treatment from our older siblings. I know I suffer from very low self-esteem and I know my younger brother did as well. Unfortunately, he died 27 years ago from the AIDS Virus at the age of 34. I think he sought love wherever he could find it and became quite promiscuous, causing his early death. As for myself, I've been divorced for 40 years and seem to feel I'm not good enough for anyone.

[@malwinajaniak3025]

How are you now Elisabeth?

[@devallaved]

I’m not sure how yet, everyday the videos are right on time ❤️

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi WhyMe WhoBetter, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. Alex + David x

[@Malitubee]

They always hit every single point!! I love this channel so much

[@onemorething123]

I love when they touched on self help books and how they don't work. SO right!!! A self help book is like just taking an aspirin to treat an infection. Yeah, for a minute, the pain goes away but the infection is still there! Brilliant how they break all of this down.

[@tshwanedaynightrides173]

Once again, thank you for the great video and greetings from South Africa. Ever since I started listening to you guys, I have cultivated a culture of talking to myself - my inner child. I usually just write it down. And the lessons that I have been receiving from my Shen have been mind blowing. I'm hoping to one day write a book and entitle it, Conversations with myself. People usually say that when one starts to talk to themselves its a sign that they are going insane - but in the same vein I believe that if you stop talking to yourself you will go crazier! Before I found out about the inner child, it would sabotage all my relationships by over reacting and blowing things out of proportion. I had so many emotional triggers such that my partners felt as though they had to 'walk on egg shells' - or so they would say. But since I started listening to these teachings I have been more aware of myself and thus more in control. This is because I realize that I am not the victim of my emotions but the creator. I'm not totally out of the woods yet, but at least this time when I have an outburst, I can go to the root of the emotion and deal with it. So that when it happens next time, I'm prepared for it and don't have to go around the carousel again. Thanks again! Keep it up.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you for sharing your story! We appreciate your support. x

[@thembisaodendaal]

That is so amazing imagine what the universe will be if all of us committed to doing some work starting with the inner child

[@pfitz5628]

I seek approval and it gives me acceptance and worth.

[@karenkaye6087]

Jesus was perfect in his Fathers eyes and yet Jesus was very critiqued, criticized and lied about by many, and even abandoned by his close friends. Since that happened to him as a human, we should expect that will happen to imperfect humans. I'm trying to drill this in. I'll be happier. Thx for this wonderful video! I have watched this a few times already. Love you both.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Karen, We are pleased you found our video helpful and thought provoking. Thank you for your continued support. Alex + David x

[@sanaishaque25]

Thank you both

[@WuWeiWisdom]

You are welcome Sana - glad you enjoyed this video!

[@zoeyzo5001]

This is very helpful thank you!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

[@yvonnelesleybrigenshaw950]

For me, it isn't a matter of not wanting to be bothered, or simply wanting others to love me, but in theatrical school I was trained never to be satisfied with any of my achievements and to realise that I can always do better, which in a way is ok if it means having a drive, but for years I had felt no right to love myself as I needed others approval first as my own opinion didn't count. Life's different now though, Thank you so much both of you. Yvonne xx

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello Yvonne, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. You seemed to have made an jump in your beliefs based on your emotions. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@tanyaa9692]

Inner child thinks that caring about others protects me from pain, but this thinking is making me a hostage to other people's thoughts, actions and behavior, which makes me feel helpless. @16:23

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @tanyaa9692, Thank you for sharing your insights. It's important to recognise how our inner child can influence our actions and feelings. Shifting this perspective can free us from being hostages to others' behaviors and empower us to find strength within ourselves. Kind Regards, David

[@marymurray1602]

Lisening to these talks is really making me look in the mirror of my emotions, thankyou

[@melanietempleton2605]

Thank you. I fell asleep watching your videos yesterday! I’ve been watching them for a few days it’s starting to really make sense thank you❤the why questions of the golden thread are bringing me more self care, self respect and self love❤ sincerely!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support we appreciate it. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/.

[@KT-yi6gn]

I have always been interested in Taoist philosophy but I never understood how to apply them in life. Your videos are extremely helpful. While just listening to your video I was able to go back to a childhood memory which really helped me understand the origin of my belief systems.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@bradhenry6383]

You guys helped me trimendously dealing with insecurities, I can't thank you enough

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Brad, really glad to help you - thanks for watching! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@sll110]

me too

[@c_joshua07]

The best vid ever on stop validating others

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.

[@joannehenton4610]

Another gem 💎 thank you dear Alex and David xx

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thanks for listening. Kind regards, David.

[@wanjirugichigi8435]

Thank you David and Alex...you are both so amazing..the yin and yang of our lives. I can’t stop listening to your videos. I actually close my eyes in meditation, because at last I am learning to trust. I lost my trust, belief in my self when I was two and a half years. You mention often the ages of 6 to 9 years but my significant event happened a lot earlier. Through your teachings iam learning that that beautiful little girl shut down her feeling to protect herself from further emotional harm...what a clever girl she was...she became fearful and made a vow that she is not okay as she is....That has been running my life . I knew for a long time that that experience caused me a lot of emotional trauma but I have been trying to get rid of these feelings of insecurity over and over again. I am 62 and a half now. And you know what David and Alex, I was on the verge of giving up, but my beautiful little girl wouldn’t let me and I believe led me to you because I Was now ready to face myself and learn to take responsibility for all my decisions, thoughts and emotions. I am so grateful for you, it unbelievable. You give me hope for the whole world, and yes am an empath...I was a sensitive child and the only way I knew to deal with the happpening was to shutdown. I love you both for your work.

[@FullMoonNewMoon]

This is great. Ive listened to it a couple times l think. Helped things click if l missed it the first time. One of the problems l have is taking peoples critisism or comments personally. I like that you brought this up in your talk. Instead of feeling defensive and shutting down l now have a way to move forward and ask why they feel that instead of jumping to a worse case senario in my head. Thank you.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Elizabeth, thanks for your comments, it sounds like you are doing a great job. Now continue with the Golden Thread Process work and ask "WHY....?" So, why do you choose to take other people's comments so personally? Would you teach that technique to your child? Remember this is a choice you are making, no one else. Thank you for taking the time and trouble in watching our video and commenting. You may also enjoy our latest video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/r3O8n32JqK2ld9k If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ kzbin.info We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@jameedavis125]

💗💗💗thank you

[@farshadmasoomi3942]

Fantastic analogy. The car at the top of the hill. Very illuminating. :-)

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad you liked it! Kind regards, David.

[@stoutie18]

I had a emotionally healthy childhood where we were affirmed as kids for who we were and not what we did. Our parents were very affirming and positive and loving. . I ran into trouble as an adult bc I expected everyone to love me and affirm me in that way and when they didn’t then it meant that something was wrong with me. Untangling the 2 in my mind as I went into emotional adulthood from emotional childhood was true freedom! Thank you for your wisdom!! You both explain things so clearly!

[@fahad-cy5zk]

You guys are golden

[@leeann4u1]

Thank you for your powerful guidance.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

You're welcome Leeann! Thanks for watching... If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we regularly add new videos!) ➜ kzbin.info We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@steelsorceress1984]

This is spot on!

[@elska17]

There's so much truth in what is said here from A till Z. As soon as I realise that it comes from "I feel not safe "(related to the pyramid of Maslow), I know there is work to be done in calming my inner child.

[@johnkrotec3960]

Thank You.

[@veronixawardwell8802]

You know the answers. My heart feels lighter, better! God bless you.

[@LisaMarieMJ]

Great video! Thanks so much! 💜

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Your welcome Keli! x

[@mariapenkova9298]

I found the channel and the fb community a week ago and I just can't stop watching this videos. This is what my devine part was looking for and I want to know more and more. Thank you so much!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Welcome aboard Maria! x

[@carmenmitchell1529]

David, I agree that it's my responsibility to take care of myself and to love myself and not expect others to validate me. I also agree that by wanting others to keep me emotionally safe, I am wanting to create an emotionally safe world for myself where others are responsible for keeping me feeling ok. (God, I just read that sentence and I realise how unrealistic my expectations of others are!). You mentioned that the inner child gets emotionally frozen in childhood and doesn't know what to do - that sums me up to a tee. I feel stuck and unsure of how to reverse nearly 62 years of continually criticising, comparing and judging myself. As you say, I am at the bottom of the cliff getting smashed by the car rolling down the hill. I now feel like I'm trying to heave the 'car' off my shattered body and I don't quite have the strength to do it. Can you provide some advice on how I develop the strength to do this and how I thaw out my frozen inner child, or am I making it more complicated than necessary?

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello Carmen, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@carmenmitchell1529]

@@WuWeiWisdom thank you David for your response. I have already joined the private FB group. I have been bingeing on the Wu Wei Wisdom KZbin’s and Podcasts and have finally begun to see how trapped and frozen my inner child is, and how much she is choosing to be a ‘victim’ of my own thoughts and beliefs. She is scared of growing up and taking responsibility. I’m starting to get to know her. I’m finding it hard to parent her as this doesn’t come naturally to me as my parents weren’t that skilled at it. I have treated my IC as the enemy for so long, it’s now time to bring her into the fold of my spiritual being. Thank you

[@peterpiper5300]

Im not good enough is real. When you don't get the job you want. when better projects are given to others.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Peter, Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's natural to experience doubts, especially in challenging situations. However, it's important to remember that your worth isn't defined by external achievements. Each experience, even setbacks, offers valuable lessons and opportunities for growth. Believe in your abilities and continue to strive for your goals. Embrace each moment as a chance to learn and evolve. If you need more support, consider joining our community: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Kind Regards, David

[@zenadail6777]

Thanks for sharing this vital information, I appreciate and value your dedication while offering your help to anyone who loves themselves. My core belief is to value everyone who hears the truth about themselves and become proactive. These are keys to freedom. God Bless you

[@Bloody_alchemy]

Thank you for you videos. Recently found this and feel like it will help me 🙏

[@veronicagrecian8985]

Priceless information and advice!! Thank you!!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Veronica Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment! You may also enjoy our latest video 'FINDING THE REAL YOU | Self-Identity Crisis Support' : kzbin.info/www/bejne/j3fIanmEmN18Z7s If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@karenkaye6087]

Thank you so much for these reminders. I've been thru a lot of therapy and self help but I still at times go down the rabbit hole. It usually happens when I have Complex PTSD flashbacks or memories from triggers or a major issue with someone. Your reminders to believe who I am not believe what others believe or think is very helpful. I am going to keep working on this and not worry what others think but know my own truths. Thank you!!!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Karen, We are so pleased that our video are helping on your journey. Why don't you consider joining our free Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. David

[@user-jz4vs2ee4u]

Hi guys! First of all I absolutely ADORE your videos and I am so grateful there are people like you who help others so much! I have this question: David said that on a subconscious level we believe we SHOULD care what other people think (otherwise, we wouldn't care) and if we do, we should be honest about it and say "yes, I do care". I am saying this now and I will tell you why. I think it is important what people think of you because if people see you in a good way that brings a lot of opportunities to you - a lot of jobs (even if you are not perfectly qualified, your confidence might get you the job you want), a lot of friends, a lot of dates etc etc. And now you will say "this was attracted in your life because of the law of attraction, you had a good vibration and this came to you, so therefore this was what YOU thought of yourself''. However, if I go confidently to an interview because I internally know that other interviews have gone well before and I already have what it takes, therefore I validate myself and don't expect the new job to give me validation and I let go of the outcome - this is again the opinion of OTHER people. It is again coming from the external - I know PREVIOUS employers liked me so therefore I can be confident with the new ones. How can you possibly have an opinion about yourself which is NOT AT ALL related to feedback from others and how much they liked you? (for example how can you think that you are a good brother/sister if you don't reflect on how your brother/sister feels about you? Or how would you visualise a successful interview if you don't know AT ALL how it feels like to have people to like you? I've been wondering where the line is about how much we care/listen to from others for a while now. Thanks a lot and keep up the great work

[@tannertucker22]

Thank you for the video. You both have the gifts of insight and communication. My question is about the answers to the final why question. I would think for most the final answers are: fears of abandonment, worthlessness, rejection, incompetence etc. learned as a child or perhaps innately-founded. Do you agree?

[@mimosaamk1954]

I'm learning so much through your videos. Wish I had discovered them long ago.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Happy to hear that! x

[@emmacowles50]

Your videos are so helpful. Thank you!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad you like them! Kind regards, David.

[@retroreceptionist7571]

Thank you for all your work it’s helping me keep on track better than ever

[@terasauszacki2587]

Thank you. This info is transformational!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

We're glad you enjoyed the video Terasa! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@leila85timpson89]

I found this really helpful, thank you so much xxx

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Leila Thanks for your kind feedback... We have lots more videos on emotional health and inner balance on our channel - here are some to begin with: kzbin.info/aero/PL9NQ_PWX4zIAsS_wgdRN7QGBKIk54sbyD If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

[@christinemcroberts5711]

Another very very helpful video thank you xxxx

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you Christine - your positive feedback is appreciated 💜 A+Dx

[@mikeandrews3315]

YES ! THat was fantastic a huge boost for me who has been watching these last few days . I Believe this and ... I intend to continue

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello Mike, glad to hear it is helping you. Kind regards, David.

[@bugsea54]

ok the words which helped me was it is ok if they don't like me, I'm ok with that and its ok if I don't like them. Its all ok .. Everyone does not have to like me. In fact many people may not like me and I am ok with it, Hooray Be ok with it and your life will be better. Now you can't start to advocate for you rights and your self. As they said in a previous video no one is exempt from tragedy or a terrible child hood, it happens to the best of us, get over it!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Connie, Thanks for your comments we are pleased that our videos are helping with your journey. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@Fenekucci]

Fantastic

[@jamiepaich]

This video's from three years ago, but in case comments are still being read, I find that alot of traits brought up in the videos touch on watch I've come to know as codependency. I only realized about a 28 months ago that I have codependency. Since then I've been working towards overcoming that codependency. And, because I've taken huge strides in overcoming my codependency, I then find it possible to implement your counsel and advise on working through inner child concerns, not caring what others think/feel/say/ behave towards me, etc. But, I know that if I hadn't done self-work and therapy specific to overcoming codependency (and anxiety/depression) that it would be near impossible for me to implement your advice and counsel. What can the person(s) listening to your videos practically do in order to get to a point of having "rewired" their brains, etc. and then be able to take hold of and do/implement/use your advice and counsel? Thank you, you guys are great!

[@nancyheinz464]

I just came across your video this week and they have been very helpful. I love the follow done method - it really makes so much sense. Looking forward to viewing many more. Thank you

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Nancy We're glad you've found us! You may also find this video helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5DZnmSLar-fgrs If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@TheInimitableMissP]

Thank you for this valuable video. I hope through some one-to-one sessions next year I can start reversing all my negative beliefs and self doubts. In the meantime though, I wondered if you could point me in the right direction with golden thread work? I never fully believed I was unlovable - on the contrary, I thought I was warm, caring and compassionate. But recently, I’ve come to realise there’s something inherently wrong with me because very few people seem to really warm to me. I’m very sensitive and easily offended, always expecting people mean the worst. In the process of questioning why this is, I’ve been trying to do golden thread work and can only get this far: Q - why don’t you think people warm to you? A - because they seem to respond more positively to others by comparison Q - what facts do you have to support that perception? A - they don’t invite me to things, laugh at my jokes or show an interest in me as I do with them, and always seem to say something negative, derogatory or critical of me. It’s like they can see something unpleasant in me that I can’t see myself - or am possibly aware if but in denial about! And that’s as far as I can get with it, which just leaves me looking for further evidence that I must be a dreadful person not worthy of warmth. Where should I go next with my questioning?

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Lara, Thanks! You make lots of points here, so let’s start the ‘Golden Thread Process’ at your first statement. You are saying that when someone does not warm to you that means there is something inherently wrong with you. So, there are plenty of people that do not warm to me, find me too direct etc. etc. ...In your belief and world-view model, what do you think is inherently wrong with me? Should I also start creating ‘red-light’ feelings? :) David

[@TheInimitableMissP]

Wu Wei Wisdom Thanks David, I knew you’d say something like that! :-) No, there’s definitely nothing wrong with you - and I appreciate directness! But I can’t imagine other people experiencing the kind of perceived indifference I seem to get... I’m just far too sensitive aren’t I? Hence booking a session! :-)

[@jeffba99]

Thank you for the wonderful advice.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you Jeff - your support is sincerely appreciated! Alex + David x

[@VisualMind]

Can you please make a separate video on how to change your core beliefs? Or do you talk about that somewhere in more detail? :) thank you in advance.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

We use the Golden Thread process to help people find, own and change their core beliefs - we demonstrate key elements of this process on our next videos about anxiety... We're also hoping to develop an online course to teach the Golden Thread process... watch this space! Alex + David x

[@vincpinkus1713]

Favourite KZbin-Channel

[@darrelllarks4958]

Thank you. Thank you both. I am contemplating “intention” and would love to hear you both speak and expound on this concept.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Great suggestion! Kind regards, David.

[@Manal_aka]

Love love love thank you for this treasure! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Ry-iz9bc]

I like how clear you explain these topics. I’ve been in counseling for a while and seen a few therapists but none have helped me as much as your videos. Keep up the great work!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Janetbelldon]

I don’t have self love because when my loving and adoring Dad died on my 9th birthday, my critical mom had full control of my emotions since then. She daily told me how wrong/ bad I was for saying or acting certain ways, she claimed to know what I was thinking by the “look” on my face, and as young as 9-10 she told me that I look like satan. She assumed I was being critical even as a child, she never believed me when I told her how I really felt, and what I was thinking, and the way I was feeling was fear- I was terrified of everything, afraid if someone was out if my sight, they would disappear forever, like my Dad did. My mom always made my brother the “right one”, and I was considered very bad. I honestly do hate myself, I don’t know how to pull up thoughts of kindness to myself, where would I start? When have I ever heard anything good? I do look for external validation because I see nothing good in myself. I’ve lost friends because if I don’t feel “good” about the interactions each day with them, my automatic thoughts are that they don’t like me anymore, and I don’t blame them, I don’t like me! I do want love from other people, I feel I have the capacity to love others and I have had some great love in my life. I hear so often that therapists and psychiatrists say that you can’t love others if you don’t love yourself, but that’s not true, I have loved deeply, just not myself. As a child, every time I had a good thought or good feeling about myself, whether I verbalized it or not, my mom would verbally attack me, telling me how it’s a sin to feel good about yourself, etc. She was verbally lethal. When I was 14, she sent me away to boarding school, where I knew no one, and I was re-terrorized. I was frozen in my dorm room, not going to the cafeteria to eat and not going to classes. The school nurse brought me food from the cafeteria, and I could hardly eat it. It’s like I couldn’t swallow. I don’t remember even being able to talk. I’m 55 now, and I still have nightmares about that situation, it was more than one boarding school- total of 7 schools in 4 years, she constantly pulled me from one and dropped me in another, each time leaving me there. I didn’t feel of any value, and I still don’t. About 10 years ago, I almost succeeded in ending my life, and even up to 5 years after that experience, my first thoughts when I would wake up was anger that my attempt to end my life was not successful. I have seen therapists and psychiatrists since the 90’s, and I feel that it’s only postponing the inevitable. I would like to be happy, to be satisfied with myself and my life, but after my attempt- I lost everything, my job, my apartment, I had been divorced about 3 years prior, the IRS emptied my bank account, I had nothing. I moved across the country, moved in with my mom and stepdad, and it took me about a year before I was emotionally ready to work, and I’ve held down a good job now for 8 years, and I take care of my parents, my mom should be in a nursing home, she is complete care, my stepdad needs help too. Sometimes I feel crazy for putting myself back under their roof, and it doesn’t help my feelings of being hated, both externally and internally. My mom will tell me she loves me now, but I have a block there, and I don’t believe her. There has been too much damage done. I’ve wanted to move away from this area, start my own life again, I have tremendous fear if not being able to live on my own, financially. I have fear if being alone, but in honesty, I am alone here too- i do not share any ideas or opinions at home, because my mom always attack’s and tells me how wrong I am. I enjoyed this video especially, and I will need to listen to it over and over, and also need to learn how to love and accept myself, that’s my big problem. Thank you for all you are doing, I’m listening!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Sheri, Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I know that you can take control and changed those false beliefs and poor emotional education your Mother demonstrated. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David

[@judyfranklin-yo7gc]

Thank you for this messages amen

[@WuWeiWisdom]

You are so welcome Judy, Kind regards, David.

[@malihezakarya8678]

Thanks for sharing the solution.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

You're welcome Malihe - we're glad you enjoyed the teaching. 😊 You may also enjoy this video - kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5DZnmSLar-fgrs Alex + David x