How To Stop Negative Self Talk | Inner Child Work | Wu Wei Wisdom

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☯️ EPISODE # 24 of our Life Lessons teaching series
In this episode, we discuss how to stop negative self talk and manage your critical inner voice by understanding what REALLY drives it.
You’ll discover:
~ How your core beliefs and Inner Child impact your self talk
~ The perceived ‘pay off’ (benefit) for your negative self talk
~ How your negative self talk powerfully affects your Law of Attraction
~ How you can take back control of your self talk and use it as a force for good in your life!
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Did you enjoy this video ❓ Post your comments, questions & suggestions for future videos below - we’d LOVE to hear from you! ☯️ Want to work one-to-one with David? 👉 www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies-for-body-mind/ ✅ OTHER VIDEOS YOU MAY ENJOY • Break the Habit of Overthinking - Stop Overthinking ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/q2GalpV3ib2tg9E • The Law of Attraction + Energy Flow: Taoist Monk Advice ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/maDOk6eOjbepf9k • Anxiety Therapy | Powerful Anxiety Help & Treatment ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/a3-apHZnrqyNhZY • Affirmations Success - Create Powerful Affirmations That Work! ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/oovQm2iKq5mbm9E • How to Stop Caring What Others Think of You ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/gae1Yp-Ml7ZkgZI • You Are the Creator of Your Emotions NOT a Victim of Them ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/jZutmKaJaJt2rqM • How to Overcome Struggles in Life - This Too Shall Pass ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/g4G2naNoh9J1fZI • The Highly Sensitive Person Explained: How to Survive and Thrive as an HSP ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/rnrFoYuqpKlpqpI OUR TOP INNER CHILD VIDEOS • The Inner Child Explained: How to Love, Guide + Heal Your Inner Child ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/eH6TnaCcd9F4aKc • Inner Child Healing Explained - Why Heal the Inner Child? ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZXGd6ZpprSqo9k • Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 1) ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZ_HiKeYobuZaLc • Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 2) ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/eIq4qXSHjtWmgck • Inner Child Healing for Love Addiction, Codependency & Codependent Relationships ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/gGLSnYaQZtyssJI GUIDED MEDITATIONS TO USE TO CALM YOUR BUSY MIND • ‘Being the Observer’ Meditation - Guided Meditation for Deep Relaxation ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/q2KspWqkf7KBe6M • Inner Child Meditation - with Full Body Relaxation ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/aJ3Ln3ijbbt2r68 • ‘This Too Will Pass’ Meditation - Guided Meditation for Anxiety ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKPWe5WrmbeJirs • The Highly Sensitive Person Meditation - HSP Guided Meditation ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/g5e8cplvgpJkj5I

[@WuWeiWisdom]

@@lfields9773 Thank you for your question. We have lots of information about our 1-2-1 sessions on our website: www.wuweiwisdom.com Please email us any questions after reading the information: [e-mail] David

[@jcepri]

I wish your provide more specific examples of walking through the why, why, why, why. It makes sense on the surface, but when it comes to me, I can't seem to follow the golden thread.

[@ishbelnicolson8093]

Yes, very helpful

[@vieras7061]

David's way of saying ,,STOP IT,, has resonated with me since the first video I saw for couple of moths ago. I hear it, think of it and say to myself that ,,STOP IT, whenever my mind starts to play me. I STOP IT right away and redirect myself to think of any good advises or thoughts David or Alex said. Although it is constant work in progress. Thank you David and Alex for your videos. They are real, useful explanations, guidelines, thoughts for everyday people in everyday life. They provide me with valuable ,,me time,, educate me and help to connect with myself as I go through life. Don't stop saying STOP IT. That's my favorite part :D

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Viera thanks for your feedback... we appreciate your support. We're glad you like 'STOP IT!' as much as we do :) If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

[@Matty72UK]

Im struggling so much with a constant, vicious negative inner voice. It's so well embedded, I'm exhausted, had it for years and don't know what to do. I will absorb the content of this video. It's there immediately as I wake, in my dreams and anything I don't do 'perfectly' berats me that I'm useless, its ruined my life. I have been subjected to emotional abuse for years. Apologies for unloading..

[@Kyma33]

I've experienced immense changes in my life from what you teach here. What I've found is that literally the only thing my inner child has ever wanted is for the adult me to listen to everything it has to say... while remaining loving, calm and genuinely curious while doing so. I feel like this is implicitly teaching him 'even if this apparently bad thing does happen, i will still be loved and accepted.' There is then essentially nothing to fear and after consistently doing this, it gets to the point that the anxiety doesn't even arise in the first place. Thanks again.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @Kyma33, Thank you for sharing your journey! You’ve beautifully captured the essence of the inner child work we often discuss. By listening with calmness and curiosity, you're showing that there is truly nothing to fear-only understanding and acceptance. When we communicate with our inner child in this way, we’re teaching it that we are here with compassion, regardless of what arises. Your experience is a testament to the profound shift that happens when we approach ourselves with love and acceptance. As you’ve seen, this creates a foundation of trust, allowing anxiety to naturally dissolve over time. Keep up the wonderful work! Kind Regards, David P.S. You’re welcome to join our Wu Wei Wisdom Community for further insights and support: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/

[@rinlashea1414]

Thank y’all for giving away this life changing information for FREE THANK YOU❤️

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Our pleasure! Kind regards, David.

[@laurayates4033]

SUCH an AHA video for me. I can't thank you two enough for sharing your wisdom. And doing it in such a clear and empathic manner. HUGE sincere thank you!!!!!!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Our pleasure Laura! Follow this link to learn more about how we can support you (including our LIVE online teaching and meditation classes + our free Facebook support group) : www.wuweiwisdom.com/welcome/ 💜 Alex + David x

[@kathhallworth3182]

Hi I have been doing Inner child work for the past year and half , I thought it would be a quick fix when started , year and half later still working on it , but this video was spot on don't ignore your inner child, talk to her .reasure her love her x

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thanks for watching Kath! It's sounds like you are making wonderful progress :) Alex + David x

[@rondanatan6198]

David and Alex you’re teachings are revolutionizing psychotherapy. It’s absolutely awesomely life changing.

[@elliepascoe5954]

That was again a very kind and loving life lesson, thank you. Lots of food for thought!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad you enjoyed the teaching Ellie! We really appreciate your support :) Alex + David x

[@svlsv8834]

There is wisdom and insight and modern solution in today's time

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thanks for your comment, Kind regards, David.

[@Rayasunshine10]

Your videos aren’t just life changing, but they are life saving. I am suicidal , more so certain times than others. At times, I think it’s crap, but I always reserve to it at the end of the day because it seems like I have no upper guidance that stops me from believing all my beliefs. I don’t have people around me who understand this who I can talk to. It’s just me and myself. And maybe 1 friend that gets it. But your videos show me the truth and even though I have to keep watching them, it helps every single time!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Nora, Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are very pleased that our videos are helping with your personal journey and emotional education. Alex + David x

[@VisualMind]

I'm pleased to report that I have a 3am mind that tells me positive things. 😂 It tells me that I'm awesome and that I'm doing great and that everything is super exciting. It still keeps me awake though when I should actually sleep. 🙈

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Wonderful!! Thanks for sharing ~Alex + David x

[@svlsv8834]

It's like you are giving one to one life coaching it's like having session

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@karenrandall6059]

It never goes away because it’s your child. If you have a physical child, they will always be with you too- even when they live far away. Always in the heart and mind. I just had the biggest ah-ha moment of my freaking life! I was never treated by my parents like they were on my side and I did not know I should treat myself like a child I love and cherish. Lol. So how can I teach my grandchildren how to do this? They are 3 and I can see them sometimes having the sense that they are not enough or want to be a people pleaser. Sometimes- not too often yet. My other grandchild is 10, lives with her mom, sees her dad frequently but is entering an age well known for losing the mind and any sense one may have had. I am hoping that I can help them see their worth and not have the inner turmoil that lasts for years and years. Love your videos. They have been so helpful for my own inner child. Keep up your great, great work! And thank you!

[@runwiththewind3281]

Thank you for helping me understand me

[@WuWeiWisdom]

As always, thank you! Wishing you a peaceful Sunday ~ Alex + David x

[@ursulavangulik2205]

Came accross your channel yesterday. Thank you for the great videos and the tips for practical exercises. Very much resonates with my approach and teachings thus far. This will help and inspire me to continue my path and hope to inspire as many great spirits I cross paths with. Thank you❣️🫶

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Ursula, It's wonderful to hear that you've connected with our channel and find the videos and exercises valuable! Your enthusiasm for inspiring others is truly heartening. Keep embracing your journey and sharing your positive energy with the world. If you ever wish to connect with more like-minded individuals, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community would love to have you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David

[@Stratospheria]

I love your work guys! This video is so pertinent and easily understood. It’s crazy to think how many of us adults are walking around with an upset 7 year old running our lives! I find this work so challenging, fascinating and self loving. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge freely to help humanity as a whole! So much respect and gratitude x

[@Michael-ln7us]

Your videos, have helped me immensely. Realigning my thoughts and feelings about myself. I use your meditation videos at least once a week 😊

[@WuWeiWisdom]

I'm glad! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@Roxies2ndmum]

I have discovered, after starting to be the observer of my self-talk, that I see myself through different filters with different people. When I am by myself I am carefree and happy but as soon as someone else is in the room, I see myself through the filter that includes my experience with them or fears of things that might happen. For example, with a friend who boasts knowledge, I see myself as not worthy to talk when they are chatting for fear I will say something stupid. If I’m with someone who is younger/prettier/thinner I see myself as a frump...it’s so strange to me that I don’t have those thoughts when I am alone; of course unless I think of them.

[@Alexalex-cf1iq]

How much I am thankful for this video!! Thank you so much!😊 I've looked at what I know about myself from a new perspective.

[@Aaron-xy8gg]

Theese lessons are so powerful for me thank you David and Alex

[@papolivre1948]

Wow! What an amazing video! I’m new here and I’m really grateful that I found this video. Thank you so much for your help!

[@vickiesjams]

I wish I would have been taught this at 16 instead of 53!

[@hawareness]

Only started to follow life lessons recently. I learn so much about my inner child. Thank you

[@WuWeiWisdom]

You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.

[@deecook9638]

I have to say David and Amanda 100% correct, my life has changed for the better. Thankyou. I'm not perfect but it feels good not to be.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @deecook9638, We're thrilled to hear about the positive changes in your life and appreciate your kind words. Embracing imperfection is a powerful step towards self-acceptance and growth. Remember, it's about being your authentic self and continuing to evolve. If you ever want to share your journey or gain further insights, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community welcomes you: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Keep celebrating your progress and the unique individual you are! Kind Regards, David

[@deecook9638]

Thank you David for replying. The inner child work has been amazing for me. I have changed completely, I am still working on some issues but enjoy doing it now, instead of feeling fearful I look forward to changing and improving my life. I work on myself everyday and feel happy, something I have never fully felt. I have had some heavy issues ,but I am thankful everyday for my life and finding you both. 🙏

[@Innateworth]

That was an immensely helpful video, thank you both so much.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Glad it was helpful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

[@littlelizzie5092]

Brilliant video, as always. Soo helpful. I can stop most of the negative self talk, and know I am improving all the time. After my holiday, I had strong red light feelings. I couldn’t understand why, as I had the most amazing time on holiday. So, as I cried, and cried. I wrote down everything that was going through my mind, what I was thinking. Arguing with myself. I have re-read this many times. What I have noticed in my page and a half of my conversation, is , it looks to me there is 3 people talking. As I believe to be, I find it soo confusing, because I’ve been trying to work out, who is who.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Gald you enjoyed the video Liz! Often the Inner Child, when it swings between the two extremes (Yin & Yang), can seem like two different voices speaking - eg. 'angry' vs. 'scared'. The third may by your 'Shen' voice (authentic spirit/higher self etc.) Alex + David x

[@littlelizzie5092]

Thank you for replying. Yes, after re-reading, and following the golden thread, Inner child is angry and hurt X

[@sharonkinch4952]

Good morning to both of you. Everything you say makes total sense. No one says that this work is easy and can be achieved. One question to you both, have you ever in your childhood been abused, ridiculed, beaten etc.? !!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Sharon, Thanks for your question. I believe that everyone's personal journey and childhood experiences are unique to the individual. Nothing can be gained by CCJ (criticising, comparing and being judgemental). We have talked about this subject in many videos. This is why we called this current series of videos 'Life Lessons'. We all have childhood experiences to address and learn from. This is why the analogy of the Inner Child is helpful (NOT perfect). Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David

[@sharonkinch4952]

@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you..I do understand.

[@redladyrose7208]

Hi David and Alex .What an informative video.. Really answers alot of questions ..Amazing role play Alex ..I'm still coming to terms Accepting that it's me creating my own thoughts..Thanks to you both for the support ,Truly greatful .see you soon.Denise xx ♥️

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you as always for your support Denise :) x

[@EliMangini84]

Thanks for this video and your always kind and comprehensive words. It's useful to have a reminder of the work I have to keep doing... My best wishes to you and all.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

We're glad you enjoyed the video Elisa... and for your great postings in our Facebook community too! Wishing you a lovely evening :) Alex + David x

[@Feelgracegivegrace]

I so love and appreciate your videos! Thank you for putting these truths so eloquently in words! The beautiful ancient wisdom flows out of you so gracefully and it goes straight to the heart! Thankful you have decided to create this channel, and to make this info available online. Also thankful to be able to witness the two of you together, co-creating, such an awesome example of harmonious co-creating. 🙏🏻🤗✨✨✨

[@Jesboogiedn]

"I criticize myself 1st and worse so no one can say worse" 😂. I have done that exact insane thing 😂

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @Jesboogie121, It’s something many of us can relate to! Criticising ourselves first can feel like a way to protect ourselves from others’ judgments, but it often does more harm than good. Remember, you deserve compassion and understanding from yourself first and foremost. Consider being kinder with your inner dialogue-treat yourself like you would a dear friend. Thank you for sharing your insight! Kind Regards, David

[@Jesboogiedn]

@WuWeiWisdom I've gotten much better in recent years but I was my worst enemy instead of my best friend for over 4 decades.

[@ursulavangulik2205]

Thank you!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Ursula, Thank you so much for your support and donation! I'm glad you found our content helpful. If you have any questions or want to dive deeper, don't hesitate to reach out. Kind Regards, David

[@vonstar1]

Powerful 🙏🏻

[@iamchannelll]

That’s really funny as when you was saying the inner child believes negative motivation works , I had a thought saying yes it does , and I feel like that was my inner child saying yes it does

[@onaraider2007]

Life saver I love you both

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you Ahmed! x

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Great lesson I am doin the best I can its ok.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Yes! Thanks for watching and commenting Andreas - wishing you a peaceful weekend :) Alex + David x

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

The same 2 you congratz on your quality content and I think your channel Will continue to grow at least ten Times bigger.

[@rickh9852]

It just occurred to me today that the inner child mind must be trainable (re-trainable) and malleable because otherwise how did it get to its present state? By the training and shaping from everyday life conditioning I suppose. Thank you for your great videos. I feel like I'm getting unstuck in this confusing mess.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Rick, yes, the Inner Child just need emotional education and guidance from the adult you. It is stuck on a childhood life lesson that you need to help it with. If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

[@marcus7287]

AWESOME!

[@baynardrustin97]

Every time I get myself together my negative thoughts come back..... I'm trying to better...

[@petyaanguelova7048]

Other than my previous comment, I thought the video was great, quite explanative and I related to the lady with the devil description. As a cult victim, I actually believed for many years that I actually had a demon inside me who wanted to destroy me because I was not obeying Jesus Christ. After leaving the cult this incessant self-talk started and sabotaged my every attempt to have happiness and feel content with myself. I was heavily programmed back then. And even though I left I went through all this, the negative self-talk kinda remained, much stronger than in my childhood. So I had this experience when I was in my early twenties and it was very traumatic. It changed my life in a way I could not recognise myself from before. So the other question that bothers me is when to deal with that part of your mind. Yes, it is heaviest when you are tired and I put it ina box. I saw that technique on a program about anorexia. But when is the good time to deal with it, coz it is never a good time for me to deal with that. Oh yeah, Im the master of procrastination. Or if I deal with it once and I feel better then I'm off doing more fun things and I'm not consistent. Which on the other makes me feel I'm not good enough and it is a cycle.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Petya, We are pleased that our videos are helping on your journey. It is difficult for me to make personal comments without a full history and background. I would suggest that you consider some professional help to address these challenging issues. From the Wu Wei Wisdom teaching perspective, it seems as though you would have to do a little work on your core beliefs, such as, "makes me feel I'm not good enough..." David

[@melissawardley3957]

Do you ever have workshops in Atlanta Georgia?

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Melissa, only currently run workshops in the UK - but hopefully, we'll come to the US soon! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZbin Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzbin.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x

[@sunshine-qk8qe]

My negative terrifying self talk is not from my parents but from therapist who used Gestalt therapy and TA brainwashing techniques on me while in therapy . I can not rid myself of their suggestions of who i am , it is ruining my life .

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello Sunshine 92, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@ravenstroke9115]

Great video great and as you know I watch the video several times until it makes sense to myself I'm answering the negative self-talk I accept it I said to myself stop it🙆 it's not true when you've been living with the negative self-talk for so long it's a little bit stronger constant then normal so I'm working on a technique my passive aggressive behavior I take everything and make it about me for 💁example if someone at the job says their family member just died I take it and make it and make it about me sometimes I have to catch myself why 🙆🙈are you making this about you👈 excuse the typos didn't know how to fix it

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Raven we're glad you enjoyed the video and thanks for sharing your own experience. Your new awareness of your behaviours/self-talk is a great first step! Alex + David x

[@adrogozonepellensegei586]

30:10 if you already believe it why would you need affirmations?If not how would you believe it?

[@adrogozonepellensegei586]

7:55 they also critisize themselves.

[@mildredmartinez8843]

I love your videos. I have done some golden thread work and have gotten to the point where i believe i was not loved as a child and i hunger for that. I believe that if i was not loved that somehow it was my fault. Now my inner child berates me and gives me negative talk. Im confused. Could you Help me navigate between me and my inner child so it understands that it wasn't her fault, and release all all that negativity? I find it difficult to untangle this.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Mildred, have you watched out Inner Child reparenting videos yet? • Inner Child Healing Explained - Why Heal the Inner Child? ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZXGd6ZpprSqo9k • Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 1) ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZ_HiKeYobuZaLc • Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 2) ➜ kzbin.info/www/bejne/eIq4qXSHjtWmgck Alex + David x

[@JuliettLA]

I'm having hard time understanding how to work with beliefs. Let's say my belief is that I am unlovable and I during my life it was proven to me over and over that that's true. What kind of conversation with my inner child should I have? What possibly could I say?

[@holdingstrong8686]

I spend a lot of energy imagining possible future scenarios (always negative) that get me so emotionally charged that one would think it is actually happening (it is like I'm preparing for it actually happening). They are very obsessive. Would these also qualify as negative self-talk, like if I were calling myself names?

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Yes, that would definatly be discribed as negative self-talk. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@debragarrett9477]

My issues feel too big. I look back at my old journals, and I'm still have the same complaints and problems with myself 20 years ago. I have thousands of books, and every one of them are self help. Well, they must not be working. Why do I self sabotage and give in to thoughts of why bother, it won't work anyway. I'm too weak, no will power. Just not good enough. Here I am in the winter of my life, and still haven't figured it out. Shame and guilt have managed my life forever.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

[@margaretpennings3378]

so what is the work at the level of belief once you uncover the belief doing the golden thread?

[@GurvinderKhehra-lu6pr]

Hi, sometimes when i do golden thread process. I find core beliefs and i even find the reason behind the core beliefs. The reason is basically i think tahf i didn't get love from my father and i think it was important for me to impress him. Then, i tell my inner child that she is the creator of her emotions. She can create love further for her. She doesn't need to earn love but she do not accept it and continue to believe the same lies. What question should i need to ask her further.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @GurvinderKhehra-lu6pr, It's insightful that you've identified core beliefs and their origins. When your inner child is resistant, it's important to cultivate patience and understanding. Instead of directly challenging the beliefs, try nurturing a compassionate dialogue. Ask what your inner child needs to feel safe and loved. Encourage exploration of what love and acceptance mean to her and how she might envision receiving these without conditions. Reassure her that her feelings are valid and that it's okay to evolve her understanding of love and self-worth at her own pace. For further guidance and support, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community could be a valuable resource: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind Regards, David

[@Cellottia]

36:00 I used to say that my preparation for marriage consisted of reading too much Jane Austen... (Yes, we divorced!)

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

[@mutyabajoseph756]

Great 🎉

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @mutyabajoseph756, Thank you! 🎉 I'm so glad you enjoyed it. Your enthusiasm is truly appreciated. If you're interested in further exploration or sharing your experiences, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is always here, offering a space for connection and discussion. We're grateful for your support and hope to continue providing content that resonates with you. Kind Regards, David

[@fadwahabrahams6161]

Once you get to the belief? For example "I am not enough", how do we change that belief .

[@iamchannelll]

Eft = emotional freedom technique can help to release these , but you also must reprogram after reprogramming ,

[@susanwwalling1]

I am very angry that my brother-in-laws sold a family business (55 years) to a stranger when I had asked they consider selling it me. I’m 61 years old and I know that it’s best that I find some things to do now that I have the freedom and money to do them. My inner child doesn’t think that I will have friends if I don’t work. Also I won’t be important enough for my inner child to only have a hobby instead of a profession. I don’t need to work I’m financially and physically blessed and now would be a great time to go and pursue some dreams of my own. I have a tendency to self sabotage and derail my dreams for people pleasing motives. I have thought that my sons might want the business someday even though they haven’t expressed any interest in it. Do you see the confusion? Help me compartmentalize the red light and green light feelings.

[@taylor01g7]

Impossible to listen to. 3 ads in the first 4 minutes!!

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi @taylor01g7, I'm sorry to hear that the ads have negatively impacted your experience with our video. We strive to make our content as accessible and enjoyable as possible, and hearing your feedback is important to us. You could try our Podcasts which are Ad-free. We'll look into how we can better balance the need for ads with ensuring a smooth and enriching viewing experience for our audience. Your patience and understanding are greatly appreciated. If you're looking for uninterrupted discussions and a space to delve deeper into topics without distractions, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community at facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ might be a great place. Thank you for bringing this to our attention, and we hope to improve your future experiences with our content. Kind Regards, David

[@iamchannelll]

Words are spells .

[@petyaanguelova7048]

I wouldn't make an analogy with the inner child in this particular video. Children don't criticise! And they don't look down on themselves, unless they have been thought to. In other words - by their parents or other adults. So, here I'd assume that these are the internalized parents here and not the inner child. I have always been criticized by my parents and this is the model I have learned. For me the inner critic are the internalized parents and the inner child is the victim, making you feel frustrated after that, but the self critic is not the inner child, I'm sorry, but it doesn't make a sense. I support Freud on this one with - Parent, Adult, Child. But the child is the sufferer here, not the culprit.

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hi Petya, Thanks for watching the video and for your thoughtful comments. As I have said on many videos, analogies are not perfect, although I do think they can be used as a good example. The example I was using is that as a child if you were criticised, compared and judged, then often the same dialogue, what we call 'CCJ ', will appear as your Inner Child's negative self-talk as an adult. I did NOT say the Inner Child was the culprit. Our teaching is that the Inner Child needs emotional education to learn the Life Lessons (the title of the series) and that this will enable you to return to your Wu Wei authentic balance and harmony. David

[@kufudokungfu]

Notice she warring black he's wearing white and blue

[@iamchannelll]

She’s demonising her inner child

[@anitagiacone4789]

david@18minutesinthevideoyoumentionedifwedontlikesomethingthathusbandingreen.us we can change it and I act you also said before that people want to know how they could change it. That puts us with no real answer from what you just said. If we knew how to change it we would at least I would how do we change it? I don't necessarily believe the new stopped after I've done the golden thread I don't even believe it myself hear it I know intellectually could be true but I don't really believe it because I haven't seen any proof. Such as what I've been taught ever since I was young that girls are nothing but sexual Begings for the convenience of men. How can my adult and child really believe that men do respect women for everything else other than a sexual thing When it's been proven to me that most men and plenty of them on media besides even my father believe That

[@anitagiacone4789]

Ps its also what their behavior, actions and words end up saying when push comes to shove. Even those who seem to show no signs of that and when ur most vulnerable and youve finally trusted them, it shows its face...probably bc theyve learned it too.

[@anitagiacone4789]

Alex's comment at minute 31 is very hitting the nails if you aren't even aware that you have this ability and you don't even know what this thing is responsibility I for example I didn't even have a clue when I was younger it's a quite 20 years of therapy to realize I had my own emotional self if you don't even know that something exists how do you have responsibility for it and even if you know it exists how do you take responsibility for it what does that mean what do you do? If Someone told you you are responsible for cleaning a house and yet you've never watched any one clean a house or Eve never noticed the difference between it being clean or dirty because it's always been done for you how do you even know what that means or what the impact is or anything you can't take any action because you just have no clue

[@LoveLeigh313]

I used to not like you because you were too blunt and seemingly didn’t care about my sensitive feelings. After a year of deep work on myself, it totally makes sense and I appreciate being held accountable rather than coddled 🩵🦋

[@WuWeiWisdom]

Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.