The Best Boundaries for In-Laws | Jimmy Evans

[@Alina-xo5nm]

Amen. Protect your spouse from your parents and other inlaws (sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, etc.)

[@apekshith1]

Jimmy, I’m a Hindu but these 22 mins brought tears to my eyes. Your words described every thing that has happened in my married life. It gave me strength to apologize to my wife. It gave me strength to draw the boundaries. I raised my hand and let Jesus take my problems. Thank you jimmy!

[@blitzkrieg6872]

Of course I agree that it's up to the married adult children to put up boundaries with their parents in order to protect their marriage. I also think that it's the duty of married son's mother (his wife's mother in law) to take a step back and "release" her son to his wife with full trust. To "pass the baton" to his wife, so to speak. Because so many mothers of sons refuse to do this. It happens all over the world and it has been going on for centuries. This causes untold conflict between wife and mother. If mother will not "step back" on her own, husband MUST set that boundary in order to protect his marriage and he must do it very early on. Before the "power dynamics" set in and become contentious. Because if left alone, this situation can grow and become irreversable and ending in divorce. Happens all the time.

[@bryanglass5818]

This video should be shown at every church during their pre-marital counseling.

[@SonyBaite-fm5pe]

Paise the Lord, many broken family will be united again, such a meaningful messages❤

[@prateeksharma2751]

This video can save generations from damage! Great stuff!❤

[@phoebehindanmpama]

Great insights from the very first sentence. God bless you always Sir.

[@annad5130]

“Do not use your parents as marriage counselors. Long after you’ve forgotten, they’ll still remember.” I literally I just my husband this today with slightly different wording some time after he read my argumentative text message to them.

[@suriyawetzler9836]

Wow! This is great!!… if don’t let anyone to hurt you, you close your heart…!!!… i deeply appreciate sharing all these wisdoms🙏🙏🙏🙏🌺🌺🌺🌺 Also, Wish you talk about dishonoring your spouse with your kids no matter or friends. No matter those kids are both if them kids or one of them!

[@JesusIScalling777]

My mother inlaw has been so hart to me and behind my back. She has come a long way, but still says things about me that I dont like. I believe God is helping me with this in a great way. I set a limit to seeing them only once a month. Husband is working with me now on making that hapoen.

[@gracee6172]

Principles of parents in law 1) principles of honor - were to honor them, not obey them except we're children at home. 2) Principle of separation - you have to leave your father and mother to cleave, you have to separate enough to bond. Your parents in law need to understand the need for emotional distance, and they need to honor separation

[@zeenadsouza8746]

I have my mother in law living with us for the past 20 years. I cry out to God "till when and how much more do I have to deal with it "

[@TheSent_One]

This was powerful 🔥, I learned so much about the inner vow and the prayers at the end 🙌🏾 thank you powerful man of God🙏🏾

[@judydyck4707]

THANK YOU JIMMY , so so good !! 💖🙏

[@valindacrosby4716]

Amen!!!❤

[@lupevazquez7204]

Don’t ever dishonor your spouse in front of your pa😮

[@seqouiastafford931]

Pretty good and interesting video. I finally just stopped to read the coments at 17 minutes. So far he is a very wise and smart.

[@blackbird1119]

Wow wow wow! Powerful and Amen!

[@calebgibson55]

This is a great, great, great advice

[@carrienorthrup9311]

What is a couple to do with parents that refuse to have a relationship with your spouse and step child? My husband and his son are not welcomed at there house. I cut off all communications with them. I still love my parents but this seemed to be the only way to protect my husband and step son

[@jessicasalcido1267]

Amen

[@arianaalvarez6579]

So true. When I was young I found out my father was physically violent with my mom. I promised myself I wouldn't be caught with a man like that. I was 15 going through domestic violence. I also said I would not be with a married man. When I was 18 he lied he said he was getting divorced. He was 10 years older. For a decade I have been with a man. Not married, but his mom don't like me. If I was younger I would of told myself not to be with a cheater. I have given that man many chances. As I grow older I have learned to be set boundaries. Though I love my mom I don't like it when she throws away my cutlery or old pans. I don't go to her house and do that. I'm learning still

[@kevinlaksana817]

If me and my spouse came from a broken family and we promised ourselves that whatever it takes we will not repeat our parents mistake and we will fight to have a whole marriage for our future children... Is that considered an inner vow?

[@Simply-Sonja-Sings]

There can be a tendency to overlook or put up with simply because we don't want to repeat and not out of pure love.

[@lupevazquez7204]

Parents ❤

[@gracee6172]

Don't dishonor your spouse in front of your parents

[@gracee6172]

- They're few problem in laws that are getting their needs met, if they are they won't be dishonoring separation - they lack significance in other areas of their lives. Because they're not bonded with their spouse and are seeking significance, they gain excessive identity through their children.

[@sonomadream6717]

My Mother in Law encouraged my husband to cheat on me and was even willing to move a woman into her condo to encourage a relationship with my husband. I found out only after she came up to me and told me I was 9 months pregnant with our 3rd child. She also did the same with 2 of her brothers. Destroyed their familes, one of her brothers had 5 small children , youngest was 2. The other brother had 3 children youngest was 8 months. They both with encouragment Left left their family and had several affairs which SHE was best friends with each of girlfriends while completely cutting off the sisters in law and the nieces and nephews. Same mother in Law canceled our wedding, we had to get married in court as a result. She gotten wasted while babysitting our infant. And a so many other stories similar. And you are saying she needs to honored and taken care of with grace?

[@prateeksharma2751]

In Indian culture, parents are very deeply involved in the lives of their children-a lot more after their marriage. They even decide when & how many children the couple should have. They live with them for weeks on end & decide everything; what the children should eat, wear…a lot of time, these cause friction & things go bad.

[@whomeverwherever]

I need to know how to handle the fact that I do not like or approve of my brother’s wife. He chose a very worldly woman who is controlling, selfish, and incredibly immature. I feel like I lost a brother because of her. He’s completely different, and needs a wake up and deliverance. I pray for them both always, but how things are now makes tolerating much very difficult.

[@lindafoster4951]

Not by mine nor by power, but by my spirit says the Lord. Pray for his deliverance and be available in a loving way. People are drawn by love, not by judgment. Even though you're judgment is probably true, he may not have an ear to hear that at the moment. It may take time before he realizes that he needs to change his situation, maybe he needs to pray for her. You should pray for her. Also, if she is able to motivate him in the negative, she may be able to motivate him in the positive

[@gracee6172]

The worst abusers in marriage are the people that have inner vows in their lives, because the inner vows makes them go to the extreme.

[@paisley1134]

At 7 mins..but not as title says

[@sagelady2015]

What about protect your parents from your wife? We received a scathing text message for our DIL. He is a totally different person.m, and we were so close. She only wants her parents involved in every aspect and with the grandchild. I continue to Ligt her up in prayer. We are the sweetest people, so I don’t understand it

[@tahneekabibe]

Are you the sweetest people because you've done what your adult DIL asked of you or are you the sweetest because you've done what you consider to be sweet to your DIL regardless of what she's wanted? My MIL has said very similar words to me...after repeatedly being disrespectful.

[@arthurbalcita4851]

How about a husband whose family is his PRIORITY and the wife is his OPTION? It is a marriage that ca NEVER SURVIVE. By Amelia

[@amysharber6904]

Honoring your parents? Say you have tried to take care of your mother and she won't or refuses to accept you to help her bc she has always had resentment for you??

[@paisley1134]

Near 5 mins and nothing to do with toxic in-laws yet.hmmmm